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I Lived Through a Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 60 People

    So Now What?

      What’s next for me?  I have been separated for a long time..I need to get closure and move on with my life. I try to tell myself “One thing at a time.”  It’s difficult to say that when I feel my world is falling apart. There are so many...
    SweetAlice SweetAlice
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2008

    Seeking Advice

    Hi All, I haven't left my SM yet but I have an exit strategy in place which 'should' be ready by the end of the year. I think I have thought of most things but I was wondering if any of you have any advice? I am looking for advice and/or tips as to what to expect as I am...
    Minxii Minxii
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 5, 2013

    Not As Bad As Some, But Still Sexless

    After a while I stopped trying, then I wondered how long it would go sexless. Found that out when it passed 365 days, but by that point I was done and planning my exit. Then when I tipped my hat and told her I was done and eventually leaving her and filing for divorce. Then the...
    loopnscc loopnscc
    46-50, M
    Sep 14, 2011

    Unhappy Too

    I have been living through a sexless marriage too.  Sometimes I feel my role with him is more like a mother than a wife.  I have wanted to leave for a long time.  But I have been making up little bargains with myself...  when Christmas is over then I'll...
    WannaBeWiser WannaBeWiser
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

    My Journal of a Sexless Marriage

    I kept a journal of my years of hell. I'll post them periodically. I hope it helps you feel that you're not the only one who lived through this. You can be happy I am! It was never about me, it was him.  Good luck to anyone struggling with this issue. It's more common than...
    SweetAlice SweetAlice
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 3, 2008

    ******' Perfect

    Tonight is one of those nights that leaves me wondering where I am heading. After too many years of disregard, I want to feel cherished and respected. I yearn for the attentions of a well-intentioned man. BUT...the thought of a relationship, well frankly...gives me the hives :) I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Sep 8, 2012

    I Don't Regret Leaving My Sexless Marriage

    I remember going to our (my ex-husband and mine) mutual physician.I finally told him about our sexless marriage.He knew that my husband was screwed up.He looked at me and said, "LG, six weeks: maybe for after the birth of a child, six months: maybe after a severe illness, but not...
    ladygodiva110 ladygodiva110
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jun 28, 2011

    I Lived Through a Sexless Marriage

    Hi, The man I was married too left me after 16 years of marriage. We were in a sexless marriage. I don't know what happened. I can only remember a few conversations that we had about it. I don't think now- after a lot of emotions have passed ..that either one of us knew how to...
    1425boo 1425boo
    61-65
    Jan 2, 2009

    True Love

    It has been about a year since I shared my last story. When I wrote my last story, almost a year ago, I was seriously considering divorce. My husband of eight years was emotionally and sexually distant. He could also be a crazy making, passive agressive and selfish man. He...
    willloveagain willloveagain
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 30, 2011

    5 Years Gone - The Long Story of How I Left My Sexless Marriage

    I got married at 23 after knowing my husband only about a year and a half. Our relationship really didn't have any glaring red flags, not any that a naive 23 year old would recognize, anyway. There were some emotional intimacy issues on his end, but he told me he wanted to work...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Feb 2, 2013

    The Feeling Man. Yes, Men Feel.

    Yes, men feel. A feeling man needs to first know it is completely safe for him to feel with you. My STBX with Aspergers Syndrome simply didn't understand the impact his lack of nurturing, lack of caring and other inconsiderate behaviors had on me. He didn't make the connection...
    Backlite Backlite
    46-50, F
    Oct 31, 2011

    How it all ended We were in the kitchen,

    buttering croissants, and making coffee. The girls were sitting munching on toast watching children’s breakfast tv. I look at my wife and quizzically notice something. “Can I ask you a question?” “Yus” “Are we… are we falling in love?” “Yes,” she smiles, and...
    DangerCat DangerCat
    41-45, M
    Jan 29, 2014

    Three Years Ago

    Wow, I can't believe the turn my life has taken. Three years ago I was in a low point. I wrote the following paragraph after a few glasses of wine. I own up to my part in the break up. We were too different. It's nobody's fault. How we act NOW  is up to us. 10:15...
    SweetAlice SweetAlice
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 18, 2008

    I Lived Through a Sexless Marriage

    I lived through a sexless marriage I managed to live through a sexless marriage and came out ok.  It’s still hard to explain it to people. How do you tell them I’m not married anymore because he wouldn’t have sex with me? For me, it was humiliating and...
    SweetAlice SweetAlice
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Jan 3, 2008

    I Made It Through ...I Survived

    Yes....I lived through a long sexless marriage...but..I don't know that you could really say I LIVED. A more honest expression..is.,I made it through it, I survived.. and just barely,and now finally, I am to the other side...I am out of it..The sexless marriage is now just a part...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    10 Responses Nov 5, 2011

    Passed Up Many Offers

    This evening I watched my son and his future wife at their wedding rehearsal and thought about my hopes for their future happiness. They are a great match and tomorrow I will attend their wedding. I teared up a bit when the minister went through the vows with them.  I...
    dartist dartist
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Aug 1, 2009

    The Proverbial Light Bulb Went Off.

    The proverbial light bulb went off. I get it, I really do. I AM THE TROPHY WIFE.  I swear to God, you pay more attention and give me more affection when people are around to see it.  You love to kiss me in front of you patients and gloat…”Don’t worry...
    SweetAlice SweetAlice
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2008
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