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I Living With An Alcoholic

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    What Should I Do?

    I have a stepson and daughter-in-law who've been living with me since January. They were homeless and living in the woods. Of course alcoholism is the cause. My husband is in very poor health and requires constant care. I told "the kids" they could live in our camper on our...
    sistermae sistermae 70+ May 17, 2012

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    My Wife Is Always Angry

    ever since i have known my wife she has an emotional problem,she grew up withan alcoholic mother who was constantly brow beating her,i have been married for seventeen years she is constantly looking at the negative side of things we lost our house a job mome took us out west were...
    prenton prenton 46-50 1 Response Oct 27, 2010

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    How To Cope With My 'alcoholic Husband'

    My husband of 15 years drinks every day (at least 2 bottles of wine - and quite often more). I've tried calmly telling him that he needs help and also screaming at him - both of which don't work. He onced promised me that he would cut down (never quit) which lasted less than...
    Scubadiva Scubadiva 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 10, 2009

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    You Can'T Help Someone Who Won'T Help Themselves.

    We had no choice. We cared for him. We tried so hard. Every day, go to work. Every night, have a drink. Have another, and another. Maybe one more until I lose count, then I won't feel so bad. It was the same story everyday for years on end. We had no choice. We told him how much...
    Kaliey Kaliey 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2013

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    Dr, Jekyl And Mr. Hyde. Where Are You???

    I got some details about his condition while listening in on his phone call to a friend. It seems that the doctor did tell him to stop drinking. I am pissed that I wasn't even told. Anyhew, I know that this is a bald face lie that he's telling to himself. When he goes back this...
    QueenV63 QueenV63 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2012

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    I Need Some Legal Advice!!!!

    As you know we live together. All the bills are in my name and and so we both are under a lease. If I leave will I be under any contract to buy out my part of the lease? Right now I can't afford to even begin to pay it off working a part-time job making under 10 bucks an hour. I...
    QueenV63 QueenV63 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 4, 2012

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    How Can Your Soulmate Be An Alcoholic?

    Hi to anyone who happens to read this, if you're here, then you're in the same boat that I am. I was married when I met Andy. My marriage was not in good shape, I was with him (my now ex-husband) for 13 years all together, and by the time I met Andy we hadn't had sex in 2 years...
    kmlafond kmlafond 36-40 2 Responses Nov 18, 2010

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    I Willingly Married An Alcoholic.

    Hi all. I am a 24 year old mother of 2. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and have been together since we concieved our 4 year old son. I was always aware that he had a drinking problem, however I feel like its gotten more severe. He dosnt beat me...
    mcbreman mcbreman 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 15, 2013

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    Not Once, But Twice

    I am living with an alcoholic husband for the second time.  I was married to my first husband for twenty one years and was ready to call it quits quite early because of over drinking and verbal abuse.  We have two children who are now 31 and 33.  Years of drinking...
    unhappyinlove unhappyinlove 56-60, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2009

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    When Is Enough, Enough?

    My husband and I have been together for 6 years. I always knew he was a drinker but it has escalated in the last few years. I have an 8 year old son and he has two daughters 15, and 19. He was sober for 3 months in January of this year. He was a whole different person.....the...
    tlmcduffie tlmcduffie 26-30 3 Responses Oct 7, 2010

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    Can't Believe I Did It Again...

    I picked ANOTHER bad person to date...guhh how am I so good at this?? I seriously need to be on a gameshow called "How to Destroy Your Life." I've been dating my partner for 6 months now, going on 7. I moved in a month ago to help her out since her roommate left. Since I moved...
    brokenheaart brokenheaart 22-25, F Jan 4, 2013

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    Living With An Alcoholic Mother

    I'm 18, and all my life me and my sister have put up and looked after our alcoholic mother. The drinking started after I was born as my mother no longer loved my father but hated the thought of breaking his heart. After many arguments, physical and verbal they split up when I was...
    sarahvmx sarahvmx 18-21 2 Responses Jun 5, 2013

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    Repeat Wife Of Alcoholic

    OK. I married two different alcoholics. I was married 20 years to the first and divorced when I couldn't handle the cruelty and cold distancing he did to me. I married the second alcoholic 17 years ago. I guess I was in denial about him. I just didn't think he was an...
    PrayingAlways PrayingAlways 56-60 1 Response Sep 15, 2012

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    Confused

    Okay here goes! This is the very first time I am reaching out like this, so bare with me. I am so confused and don't know what to do. I figured if I write about it and get it off my chest, I would feel better. Well my husband is an alcoholic. We have been together for 23 years...
    want2bmerry want2bmerry 36-40 4 Responses Jun 21, 2013

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    Living With A Alcholic For 5 Years

    ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and hes a alcholic for 5 years and its just getting harder every day ive been threw hell i dont feel like a girlfriend i feel like a mother all i do is worry all the time it has me so stressed out if he gose fishing i wonder omg hope he...
    kimh0044 kimh0044 41-45, F Jun 22, 2013

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    I'm living with what they call a functioning

    alcoholic. He will go to work everyday. As soon as he comes home, he opens a beer and smokes pot. I can't remember the last time I came home and he was still sober. If he is sober, he's grumpy. He was not this bad when I moved in with him. It's hard for me to leave because...
    Ali7814 Ali7814 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 15

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    Lies Part Of The Disease!!!!!!

    Disease or excuse? personally I think its an excuse.Why are you angry? I didn't do that to you!!!! Wait I don't remember so I didn't do it...does this sound like your life?Alcoholic / drug addict one then the other. I can't breath any more, I want out but  I know ,the only...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 15 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    No Nagging, No Stress On Me!

    Well, I don't know how many people are reading this so let me just update you. Well about 2 weeks go, my alkie bf went back to the doctor and the doc wanted some more tests to be done. I took him but he is still waiting for results. He has humbled alot. Still after he gave some...
    QueenV63 QueenV63 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2012

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    How To Cope With My 'alcoholic Husband'

    My husband of 15 years drinks every day (at least 2 bottles of wine - and quite often more). I've tried calmly telling him that he needs help and also screaming at him - both of which don't work. He onced promised me that he would cut down (never quit) which lasted less than...
    Scubadiva Scubadiva 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 10, 2009

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    Alcoholic Husband

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 1 year. We have 2 kids together. Our son is 5 and our daughter is 1. When I met my husband I knew he drank. I was 17 and he was 21. We used to drink and party together a lot. I didnt think it was a problem until we moved in...
    jadeadams jadeadams 22-25, F 11 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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    My Step-dad Is An Alcoholic And I'm Sick Of Him

    My real dad died when I was 10 but my mum kept the fact that he was with a prostitue at the time. A few years later my mum met a new man who seemed a very kind understanding man(my step-dad). We werent planning on moving the 150 miles to be with him they were just friends but...
    kateengl00und kateengl00und 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 8, 2011

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    Oh, No Not Again But Here It Is Again

    and this time strangely coping. would not be possible if i did not trust the Lord more than ever before. my husband of 33 years just started again after being sober for 20 years. at first i was unbelieving, then very angry and now what else to do but give it to the Lord and keep...
    ingleyjudith ingleyjudith 66-70, F Nov 29, 2013

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    How Do I Walk Away?

    I grew up with an alcoholic mother.  I have no memories of her sober.  Her alcoholism took over her health, work, and family.  Along with her alcoholism she abused perscription drugs.  I stopped speaking to her in 2006.  She burried a litter of kittens...
    mygirlsmyworld mygirlsmyworld 26-30 1 Response Dec 7, 2010

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    He's Killing Himself And Its Killing Me!

    My partner had a heart attack due to drink 16days before I gave birth to our son,he was discharged from hospital just hours before he was born so I had to go thru 3 days of labour alone! To then only be more concerned about his health than the fact I was minutes away from giving...
    Alwaysataloss Alwaysataloss 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    Merry Go Round..Help Me Get Off

    Been with my husband for 14 years it is a never ending cycle of verbal and emotional abuse. Last straw was when I broke my ankle & leg at the end of the summer and he asked if he could take my pain pills. I have not allowed him back in as I am so angry. I love him and hate him...
    georgiadoe georgiadoe 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 28, 2013

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    How Do I Know If My Husband Has Fallen Off The Wagon?

    My husband tells me that he is going to his meetings and is abstaining. However, his behavior has changed over the last couple of weeks...and, last night, his anger was simply out of control. If I ask him if he is drinking, he will lie. So, how do I know if he has fallen off...
    abbjd abbjd 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 4, 2011

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    My Husband Is A Drunk

    I have been with my husband for almost 25 years now.  We have 4 kids.  3 are still at home.Beginning:We used to both drink on the weekends.  Have friends over and several drinks:  We lived away from our families and friends for 7 years.  We had two kids and decided we wanted...
    haganeedle06 haganeedle06 41-45 3 Responses Jan 1, 2011

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    I Don'T Know What To Do Anymore.

    Most of my life my mom has been heavily drinking and would always choice drinking and her boyfriends over me and my two younger brothers..her first husband was an alcoholic and treated us poorly, they always taught and yelled and threw stuff...one time he pushed me and my mom...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2013

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    How Did Your Ultimatum Go?

    I have been thinking about giving my boyfriend and ultimatum. We have a child together, one that orginally I wanted to abort because I didnt want to be in this deep with an alcoholic. I came to my senses and decided to have the baby. On New Year's year my baby's dad almost...
    AJackieO AJackieO 31-35, F Mar 8, 2011

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    Day By Day

    Her Name Is Peppermint Patti..aka, Peppermint Schnapps. By: Me Written on September 13th, 2012 When some one you try to care about is drinking, it's just like their cheating on you. Disappearing, spending money that it affects your way of trying to have a normal life. My...
    QueenV63 QueenV63 46-50, F Sep 13, 2012

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    Wife Drinks Too Much

    HI to all,, long story ,, short version is wife of 1 year drinks every chance she gets. will lie to the death that she didnt though. I find empty bud cans, wine bottles,vodka bottles stashed around the house and in her car. empty water bottles that smell like Vodka . she works...
    needhelp62 needhelp62 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    When Will I Learn....?

    I am living with an alcoholic.  Almost 8 years now; longer than my first 2 marriages lasted.  Maybe because living with an alcoholic is so familiar, as I am the child of an alcoholic also.  Although my mother has been sober for over 10 years now and I am very proud...
    justlisa justlisa 46-50, F 6 Responses Oct 28, 2009

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    When Will It Getany Better ??

    Been with my husband now for about 13 years and just feel like i cant take any more . He has always liked a beer but now he drinks 7 days a week and drinks as soon as he gets in from work until he goes to bed drunk , he has been put on anti depressants as he has taken two...
    morolfe morolfe 41-45 1 Response Nov 23, 2010

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    The Results....

    Finally. He told me and he's ok, except he has a lot of blood in his urine. Don't know exactly what that means but the doc wants more tests done. Soo...hmmm.Well my birthday is a few months away and he wants to fly my family down, I said no. After he trashed my loved ones, I don...
    QueenV63 QueenV63 46-50, F Oct 19, 2012

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    Is My Husband An Alcoholic?

    I have never had to deal with anything like this before. In short, my husband drinks 3 -5 days out of the week, at least 4-6 each of these days and at least once a week he drinks up to an entire 24 pack or more on his own! He gets mean, makes no sence at all, passes out...
    eemorris eemorris 22-25 5 Responses Jul 6, 2009

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    Living With An Alcoholic Boyfriend

    This is my 1st time checking out sites re: Living w/Alcoholics! A friend told me 2 check out some forums so I wouldnt feel so alone):  Im sure we all r reading each others stories & crying because we can all relate 2 the destruction this addictive behavior brings on...Here is a...
    needaprayer needaprayer 36-40 2 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Binge Drinking Nightmare

    I hope this story is not too long :( My wife and I are social drinkers. When we are alone or with another couple on a low-key date, we drink in moderation. These are fun events that we both cherish. The problem is that when we are around heavy drinkers, my wife has trouble...
    PlinyTheModern PlinyTheModern 46-50, M Dec 3, 2013

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    I Live With An Alcoholic.

    I knew he drank when I married him.  I was a lonely widow and he was very entertaining.  He was a life long bachelor.  There were occaisional outbursts that should have warned me but I attributed them to something else...immaturity.   We are both middle...
    Deanna410 Deanna410 51-55, F Oct 28, 2010

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    Don't Know What To Do

    I have been with my partner for 4 years now and surprise surprise we met at a party when he was extremely drunk. 99% of the time he is the most loving, caring, thoughtful and loyal boyfriend in the world and everyone tells me how lucky i am to have him and he does genuinely treat...
    Clare882 Clare882 22-25 3 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    Until now, I have felt completely lost when it comes to understanding certain aspects of my significant other. We are in a committed, long-term relationship, and I love and care...
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