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I Lose Myself When I Am In a Relationship

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    For me, it's like when I'm in a relationship, I slowly change into what they want me to be instead of what I am or what I want to be. In my last relationship I ended up hating myself and felt suffocated. Even though I told myself I wouldnt change into what he wanted me to be, I...
    xinthescene xinthescene 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    Come to Mommy!!

    its like when im in a realtionship..(which i am in one as i write) i put my partners feelings before my own...my needs go out the window..i have a problem with spoiling her in such a way that i treat her like a baby..like she cant do anything for herself...its sick!
    piggy843 piggy843 26-30 1 Response Jan 2, 2009

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