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I Lost My Children to Parental Alienation

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    A Poem For All The Victims In This Group And Beyond, It'S Called....I Am

                                                                             Written By: dadleftdevastated            This poem is dedicated to my 2 children whom I            haven't...
    Dadleftdevastated Dadleftdevastated 46-50 4 Responses May 12, 2013

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    I left my wife and home on Aug 5th 2013.

    I have yet to physically see my daughters ever since. My youngest is 12 and oldest is now 18. The 12 yr old is my biological and the 18yr old , I have been with since she was 6 mos old and she is blood to me!!!!! My wife mourned daily in front of my children from day 1 and...
    jrstone55 jrstone55 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 6

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    Worst Mother's Day Ever

    Yesterday was an all time low. I've been dealing with the effects of PAS for years, but yesterday, Mother's Day, it reached a breaking point. My 17 and 14 year old daughters refused to come with me for the special day I had planned. Like so many others in this situation, I tried...
    draebear draebear 46-50, F 15 Responses May 14, 2012

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    Watching It Happen

    What to do when you're the gf watching it happen? The mother if the child has custody so a lot of power. The child is so defiant and nasty and for 10 quite immature. He admits he doesn't act this way for mom. My bf told him and ex that he is not welcome in our house because if...
    Urskow Urskow 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2013

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    Broken Shattered Life

    3 years time doesn't heal everything my kids my world my ex a naraccistic animal my life ruined and I would give it to hear my kids fighting calling out mum, dobbing on each other or for even a 5 second hug..
    Hurtslikehellinoz Hurtslikehellinoz 41-45 6 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    From Divorce To Parental Alienation

    After 27 years of marriage my wife wanted her "freedom" from me. I didn't see it coming. I can think of a few things I could've handled better over the years, and I have flaws, but what happened in the wake of her divorcing me I couldn't have imagined. It seems that...
    FrancisCS FrancisCS 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 18, 2013

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    call it what you want .

    .but have lost her the guilt is indescribable ......i tried with her dad for years sat there covering up for him ....in his darkest hour cleaning up his vomit when he was drunk and incapable ....and all for them to deny me even an hour with her sure have made mistakes ..am only...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 1 Response Apr 7

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    Siblings Of Parental Alienation

    I lost my (half) siblings to parental alienation, after suffering it myself. Can anyone sympathize? Is there an EP page for people like me? I've searched the web and can't find much about siblings of parental alienation. It sucks and i feel all alone.
    ijustneedafriend ijustneedafriend 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2013

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    Looking For William

    This is William George Albert Carr born In London, Ontario , my son.  This picture dated Feb. 2006 is the last time we had any contact with each other.Since that time I have tried every means possible in reaching him but he was lost into the deep depths of Sever Parent...
    lookingforwill lookingforwill 51-55, M 4 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Holding On To Hope

    As I watch my children walk away, to spend the weeks apart from me, I ask myself, how can this be… These are the children that once clung to me. Oh Lord, how long must this go on; my heart is fighting each day to stay strong… This is not the place my heart belongs. Their...
    fav5 fav5 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Extreme Parental Alienation

    My name is Joe and I am having a huge problem that consumes me and I don’t know what to do. I have two daughters, Kelly and Leanne whom I have not seen in 5 years. The last time that I saw them was in a therapist office, where they told me that they did not want to see me...
    nayshune nayshune 46-50, M 7 Responses Sep 1, 2013

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    My ex used to say things like "you're lucky I

    put up with you, no one else would want you" & "I don't want to be anywhere YOU are." He'd refuse to participate with the family for holidays, but if he wasn't treated like a king for Father's Day, there'd be hell to pay. For Mother's Day or my b'day, he'd do nothing at all...
    Chanrhu Chanrhu 51-55, F Dec 6, 2013

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    Losing My Will To Live

    I am a mom who stayed at home to raise the children while my ex husband was always travelling first class to amazing places- sure it was work. But I was on the clock 24 7 and expected to allow him to decompress when he would return. Meaning - keep the kids away from him. I loved...
    GeorgiaNotonmymind GeorgiaNotonmymind 46-50 5 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    I Miss Them A Little.. A Little Too Much, A Little Too Often, A Little More Everyday...

    Two beautiful girls, age 14 & 16 just up and one day decided they didn't need a mother anymore. They didn't need rules, they didn't need a ride to their ballgames, someone to cook for them and their house full of friends, or someone to take them skating and have to prop my eye...
    srealtor srealtor 36-40 7 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    I divorced him when my daughter was 3 & my son

    was 18 mo. I couldn't let them grow up like that. When he was 5, the courts sent him to the ***, & the conditioning started....he had a disability, & they wanted to try a different alternative. The horror stories I heard. He came home @ 13, & we had a nice 5 years....the...
    wamw wamw 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My 12 year old daughter has been living with

    her dad for 3 years. She moved in with him a few months after my partner moved in. She did not like it because it had just been me and her for 7 years. Her father convinced her it would be better for her to live with him and to get her away from 'the horrible man' that mummy had...
    MrsBubble MrsBubble 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    Today Is My Daughter's Birthday...

    Today is my daughter's birthday.I can remember, almost as if it were yesterday, this day, nearly two decades ago, when I was blessed to witness the miracle of her birth. I even got to see her before her mother, and I remember her taking her very first breath on this earth. Maybe...
    lookin4ward lookin4ward 51-55, M 5 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    My Daughters Birthday

    It was my youngest daughters birthday yesterday. She turned 11. Last year I sent her a present, balloons, chocolates and flowers which were delivered by courier. The courier delivered them a day later because they weren't home on her birthday. Her mother told her I didn't know...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    I Want To Murder Parental Alienation

    I created a group called I Want to Murder Parental Alienation. I encourage all in this group to join. In my profession, day after day, I watch people divorce and fight bloody wars over child custody. Essentially, it ALL comes down to the almighty DOLLAR. Yup, people place price...
    Jennifurby Jennifurby 41-45 10 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Change

    Fclu.org is an organization actively pursuing change in the court system for custody battles in high conflict divorce.
    Sundaysara Sundaysara 31-35 1 Response Jan 22, 2013

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    This is my situation.

    I had my son when I was 20 (I already had a baby 1 year prior from a rape) I met my son's father who was physically abusive and I was coerced into going out with him one time. Things did not turn out well. I believe something was put into my drink. 9 months later, I had my son...
    lizhogin lizhogin 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    I got the divorce to save myself.

    I could not live with the endless verbal emotional abuse that went on for 20 years. I stopped breathing at home and I knew it was only a matter of time until it was the end of me. I had a huge panic attack one day that literally took all of the air away from me. I never went...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 2 Responses Feb 17

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    The New Wife Of My X Has Turned My Kids Against Me.

    For the last 8 years my ex has done all he can to turn my kids against me. he's been working with his new wife who he cheated with her while we were still married. I've contacted her ex's and they refuses to help me go against her as they have said that they will not mess with...
    4crumbs 4crumbs 31-35 2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    I Will Never Forgive Or Forget.

    When I divorced my first wife after 12 years of mostly unhappy marriage I made the mistake of underestimating what a psychotic vengeful ***** she was. We had discussed divorce and I told her that I needed to not be married to her. She had cheated, lied, stolen, and even...
    tomt88101 tomt88101 56-60, M 4 Responses Dec 3, 2009

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    I have 14 teen years son

    and he doesn't want to see me. He tells me nasty things that I heard from his mother before. She blocked me from his phone. She told me in front of him that I'm a trash, nothing and when I told her I love my son she said in front of him he hates me.
    chris0202 chris0202 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 8

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    To Love And Lost Is Better Than To Never Loved At All , A Mothers Story

    I am a Mum who loves her 2 Daughters with all my heart but one person ( my ex partner of 22 years ) has destroyed what ever kind of bond as a mother i ever had with the 2 most precious things in my life . You see my ex put me through years of domestic abuse not just physical but...
    suewilson1 suewilson1 36-40 6 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    9 Years After Divorce

    Nine years after my divorce, my ex husband and his new girlfriend started the process of alienation.  At the time my children were 10 and 13.  I had missed about 10 events in 9 years.  My ex and I had an awsome relationship.  We would sit with each other at...
    esgypsy esgypsy 41-45 20 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    My two daughters have died in the last 13

    months. one daughter at age 52 and my last born child at age 40 on February 7, 2014. Both daughters died with a history of alcohol and drug abuse. The first death was stated as"' she used street drugs and over dozed after a ten day bender" This information was delivered by my...
    wise4no1 wise4no1 66-70 1 Response Mar 14

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    Missing My Son

    It has been over 2 yrs since I have had contact with my son. He is 19 now. I missed high school graduation and prom but mostly the everyday things. His mother who suffers from borderline personality disorder filed a frivolous restraining order during the divorce in 2008 and...
    liedaboutanddemonized liedaboutanddemonized 46-50 Jun 23, 2013

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    My ex used to say things like "you're lucky I

    put up with you, no one else would want you" & "I don't want to be anywhere YOU are." He'd refuse to participate with the family for holidays, but if he wasn't treated like a king for Father's Day, there'd be hell to pay. For Mother's Day or my b'day, he'd do nothing at all...
    Chanrhu Chanrhu 51-55, F Dec 6, 2013

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    my children have not spoken to me

    or any one in my family for almost 18 years. It is beyond heartbreaking.
    ruthrking ruthrking 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    I extend my hands to reach out to my lovely

    children, but my ex-husband continues to cut off my fingers. Every day, I grieve the loss of motherhood. I am a good mommy and I am sorry I am not there for you D. and C! I had to fall to lose it all, and when I was at my weakest, he pounced and "took me down" as he promised. I...
    Helper96 Helper96 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    My Son

    His mom started off small in alienating me and I did not see it until it was to late.  She started with saying negative things about me to him and saying she was scared of me and my temper.(which I do not really have one).  She then started taking time away from me in...
    ImOver00 ImOver00 36-40, M 11 Responses Dec 6, 2008

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    My ex used to say things like "you're lucky I

    put up with you, no one else would want you" & "I don't want to be anywhere YOU are." He'd refuse to participate with the family for holidays, but if he wasn't treated like a king for Father's Day, there'd be hell to pay. For Mother's Day or my b'day, he'd do nothing at all...
    Chanrhu Chanrhu 51-55, F Dec 6, 2013

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    My Girl!

    shes gone ! i came to this town eight years ago after being in my home town for thirty years, my daughter was then 2.5 years old , it got really hard i could not cope she went to live with dad and grandparents they all live close to each other, slowly but surely they stopped me...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 6 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Dear All Of You In Pain

    Dear friends that I have never met, I shall share with you my true experience. It has been 23 years since I divorced the mother of our four children. I had the top family law specialist in a large Southern California city. I had documented proof of how my wife attempted suicide...
    IUSEDTOBEDAD IUSEDTOBEDAD 46-50 4 Responses May 7, 2013

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    How To Let Go..

    After a solution-focused evaluation back in February where the alienation and remedies were discussed and agreed upon, I was finally able to see my 11-year-old son play baseball. I was so hopeful that I would have a relationship with my son once again...and then it happened. In...
    J396 J396 31-35 3 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I Haven't Seen My Son Or Daughter In A Year

    I always had a great relationship with my kids.  Growing up, I wanted to be a father.  One who took the kids camping, fishing, to movies, went too all their recitals, games, you know, really involved. My ex and I divorced 10 years ago, but I remained extremely close to...
    Ianand Ianand 46-50, M 23 Responses Nov 5, 2010

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    I have been out of my house

    for almost a year because of my abusive wife and living with the fighting and arguments was all I could take and it wasn't healthy for my children. I went to court for the temporary order hearing and the Judge made her Custodial parent since she was homeschooling the children...
    DesperateFather1591 DesperateFather1591 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Unfinished

    My daughter, fawn-frail bright eyes beseeching My son, runaway-train a smile like God's own blessing Each night I see them standing at my knee Forever tender two and still just three Soft mouths speak phantom words of love, then fade Into this bitter comfort dreams...
    hettieh hettieh 46-50 1 Response Jul 31, 2012

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    Shattered Heart Empty Life

    I held them in my arms the moment they entered this world after months of feeling them grow and thrive in my body but now my arms are empty because of you. I warned and begged you for years to stop your drinking and hurting me, emotionally, physically and mentally, but you...
    hmngbrd67 hmngbrd67 41-45, F Oct 14, 2013

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    they have turned their back on me.

    my son and daughter. they say they hate me. they say they wished i would die. they say if i died they wouldnt come to the funeral. i have raised my kids up until 2012. they have not seen me since July 2013 and since today i just heard from a guardian ad litam that my daughter...
    brokeninmilllionpeices brokeninmilllionpeices 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    A Plea For Help (Devante Charles) ~Ongoing Situation~

    Hello, my name is Devante Charles and I am fourteen years old. I was born on February 4th, 1999 in Hoboken, New Jersey. I’m a victim of child abuse and I’m speaking up against it. On December 11, 2011 a disagreement between my mother and I occurred but this is just the...
    RJCDSC RJCDSC 13-15, M 3 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    10 Years Without My Babies!

    After a long drawn out game filled divorce,on both of our parts my children were slowy alienated from me.  The children at ages 10 and 12 said they didn't want to visit with me so supervised visits were agreed.  The visits started out 3 times a week.  They never wanted to...
    Lostwithoutthem Lostwithoutthem 41-45 14 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    Broken Angels

    Is it not so sad that if you search for Parental Alienation you come across so many sites dedicated to those who lost their children during divorce. Why does the legal system still have loop holes which " concerned" parents that only have "the best interest" of the children at...
    Skulpie Skulpie 31-35, F Jun 16, 2010

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    My Life As An Alienated Mom.

    I can remember as a kid all I ever wanted to be was a mom. I remember crying the night i married because i knew deeply I had married the wrong person. It took me five years to stand up and say no to the abusive alcoholic i married and I am still paying for it through my adult...
    vincaflowersss vincaflowersss 41-45 2 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    My girlfriend suffers from severe depression

    and I feel completely helpless. I have known her for 19 months now and we have been dating the last 6 months. I love her with all of my heart and will do anything humanly possible to see her smile again and burst with joy. There are various key contributors to her depression...
    ACaringPartner ACaringPartner 22-25, M Jan 28

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    Please help me fight my appeal with a PAS

    attorney, I cant lose my little girl make a donation forward it to friends. Also sign the petition that will pass the bill that children must be returned to parental care giver with or without custody within 24 hours of return date```http://www.change.org/petitions/jullian...
    LenaCastronova LenaCastronova 41-45 Mar 3

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    Getting Stronger Slowly

    Each day is different. Some days I'm fine others I'm not. When I step back and look at it as months I'm getting better each month. I cut all contact and blocked any emails from the ex. I changed my mobile number and moved, even changed cars. My ex was driving by, was emailing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 6, 2013

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    My Daughter Died A Second Time

    After sixteen years of a hellish marriages, I left in 2005.  We have four children, currently ages 18, 16, 8, and 6.  For the first 30 days after I left, my ex-husband refused to let me see the children and used this time to brain wash them.  When I was reunited...
    minustwo minustwo 41-45 7 Responses Apr 24, 2010

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    It Is What It Is...A Legal Kidnapping

    "It Is What It Is"--- printed on a wooden sign in my barn---used to refer to the "cowboy way"...horses, acceptance of our limitations, and human imperfections. It's been there for years. One of my clients got it for me at a craft show because she said I say it all the time. I...
    momtana momtana 41-45 1 Response Sep 20, 2013

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    Easter In Pain

    Again, another holiday and my ex again took my kids . He took them on my Christmas, my Labor Day weekend, and has for as long as we have been divorced. Manipulation just twists its ugly head when hes around & you have to be on your toes Im really so weary of the whole thing but...
    IFoundYourDiary IFoundYourDiary 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 29, 2013

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    My girlfriend suffers from severe depression

    and I feel completely helpless. I have known her for 19 months now and we have been dating the last 6 months. I love her with all of my heart and will do anything humanly possible to see her smile again and burst with joy. There are various key contributors to her depression...
    ACaringPartner ACaringPartner 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 28

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    I have not seen or spoken to my daughter

    since December 15 2012. I miss her everyday. I just hope that one day she knows how much I love her and how hard I'm fighting to keep her in my life.
    pumkin4 pumkin4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    ODoubleNegative ODoubleNegative 41-45, F Mar 30

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    My whole life I've had a close, tight-knit relationship with my parents. Family is really important to me, including both of my sisters. A lot of the views and beliefs I have today...
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