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I Lost My Children to Parental Alienation

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    they have turned their back on me.

    my son and daughter. they say they hate me. they say they wished i would die. they say if i died they wouldnt come to the funeral. i have raised my kids up until 2012. they have not seen me since July 2013 and since today i just heard from a guardian ad litam that my daughter...
    brokeninmilllionpeices brokeninmilllionpeices 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 7, 2014

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    Here I sit nearly 10 years post divorce

    and no closer to my dear children that I was when my Ex's smear campaign began. I wonder if they will ever be back in my life and what I can do to increase the chances that they will be curious about the father they consider to be dirt. I am grasping and challenged. What do I...
    Dad9407 Dad9407 51-55, M 4 Responses Mar 1

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    This is my situation.

    I had my son when I was 20 (I already had a baby 1 year prior from a rape) I met my son's father who was physically abusive and I was coerced into going out with him one time. Things did not turn out well. I believe something was put into my drink. 9 months later, I had my son...
    lizhogin lizhogin 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 2, 2014

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    I Want To Murder Parental Alienation

    I created a group called I Want to Murder Parental Alienation. I encourage all in this group to join. In my profession, day after day, I watch people divorce and fight bloody wars over child custody. Essentially, it ALL comes down to the almighty DOLLAR. Yup, people place price...
    Jennifurby Jennifurby 41-45 12 Responses May 1, 2012

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    call it what you want .

    .but have lost her the guilt is indescribable ......i tried with her dad for years sat there covering up for him ....in his darkest hour cleaning up his vomit when he was drunk and incapable ....and all for them to deny me even an hour with her sure have made mistakes ..am only...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 2 Responses Apr 7, 2014

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    Getting Stronger Slowly

    Each day is different. Some days I'm fine others I'm not. When I step back and look at it as months I'm getting better each month. I cut all contact and blocked any emails from the ex. I changed my mobile number and moved, even changed cars. My ex was driving by, was emailing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 6, 2013

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    Over the course of a 23 yr controlling,

    emotionally and at times physically abusive marriage, I had 4 beautiful children. I was the virtual epitome of the "Martha Stewart" mom. I couldn't have been more involved with my children and their lives than I was. I was "that" mom that everyone knew and loved....the school...
    Chrissy342004 Chrissy342004 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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    Today Is My Daughter's Birthday...

    Today is my daughter's birthday.I can remember, almost as if it were yesterday, this day, nearly two decades ago, when I was blessed to witness the miracle of her birth. I even got to see her before her mother, and I remember her taking her very first breath on this earth. Maybe...
    lookin4ward lookin4ward 51-55, M 5 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    I have not seen or spoken to my daughter

    since December 15 2012. I miss her everyday. I just hope that one day she knows how much I love her and how hard I'm fighting to keep her in my life.
    pumkin4 pumkin4 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 14, 2014

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    My Daughter Died A Second Time

    After sixteen years of a hellish marriages, I left in 2005.  We have four children, currently ages 18, 16, 8, and 6.  For the first 30 days after I left, my ex-husband refused to let me see the children and used this time to brain wash them.  When I was reunited...
    minustwo minustwo 41-45 7 Responses Apr 24, 2010

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    Easter In Pain

    Again, another holiday and my ex again took my kids . He took them on my Christmas, my Labor Day weekend, and has for as long as we have been divorced. Manipulation just twists its ugly head when hes around & you have to be on your toes Im really so weary of the whole thing but...
    IFoundYourDiary IFoundYourDiary 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 29, 2013

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    My girlfriend suffers from severe depression

    and I feel completely helpless. I have known her for 19 months now and we have been dating the last 6 months. I love her with all of my heart and will do anything humanly possible to see her smile again and burst with joy. There are various key contributors to her depression...
    ACaringPartner ACaringPartner 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    I extend my hands to reach out to my lovely

    children, but my ex-husband continues to cut off my fingers. Everyday, I grieve the loss of motherhood. I am a good mommy and I am sorry I am not there for you D. and C! I had to fall to lose it all, and when I was at my weakest, I was diagnosed with Severe Depressive Disorder...
    Helper96 Helper96 46-50, F 4 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    My ex used to say things like "you're lucky I

    put up with you, no one else would want you" & "I don't want to be anywhere YOU are." He'd refuse to participate with the family for holidays, but if he wasn't treated like a king for Father's Day, there'd be hell to pay. For Mother's Day or my b'day, he'd do nothing at all...
    Chanrhu Chanrhu 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2013

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    my children have not spoken to me

    or any one in my family for almost 18 years. It is beyond heartbreaking.
    ruthrking ruthrking 56-60, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    Please.. I need someone to talk to

    who understands this level of pain.. I can't take any more. . I'm ready to give up.. i don't think I have a choice anymore... I need a support person.. I can offer the same. I am a mother experiencing extreme alienation from my 8 year old daughter for the past 18 months.
    alienmom82 alienmom82 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I divorced him when my daughter was 3 & my son

    was 18 mo. I couldn't let them grow up like that. When he was 5, the courts sent him to the ***, & the conditioning started....he had a disability, & they wanted to try a different alternative. The horror stories I heard. He came home @ 13, & we had a nice 5 years....the...
    wamw wamw 41-45, F Apr 14, 2014

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    A Poem For All The Victims In This Group And Beyond, It'S Called....I Am

                                                                             Written By: dadleftdevastated            This poem is dedicated to my 2 children whom I            haven't...
    Dadleftdevastated Dadleftdevastated 46-50 4 Responses May 12, 2013

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    Hello everyone. My name is jack.

    My story starts six years ago when I met my fiancée. She has full legal and phayical custody through the divorce of her daughters. The father is a paranoid scitsophrenic with ptsd. Who only cares about the $1200 he is ordered to at each month. He has made his children make 31...
    Aconcernedparent Aconcernedparent 36-40, M Feb 18

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    It's been 3 months since I've seen my 12 year

    old and 4 months without my 17 year old. My heart is empty. I don't know how to do this without them. Each day feels like I'm just putting in time....desperately just trying to get through the day. They don't reply to texts. They won't answer my calls. Gifts I've sent...
    my2boyz my2boyz 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 22, 2014

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    Looking For William

    This is William George Albert Carr born In London, Ontario , my son.  This picture dated Feb. 2006 is the last time we had any contact with each other.Since that time I have tried every means possible in reaching him but he was lost into the deep depths of Sever Parent...
    lookingforwill lookingforwill 51-55, M 4 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    I have some growing issues with parental

    alienation but have much more exposure to true horror stories through close friends. I am sensitive to the format of this forum but want to provide the following link because I feel we all can actually help change the world for the better. The courts do not understand parental...
    parrotworks parrotworks 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

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    I Miss Them A Little.. A Little Too Much, A Little Too Often, A Little More Everyday...

    Two beautiful girls, age 14 & 16 just up and one day decided they didn't need a mother anymore. They didn't need rules, they didn't need a ride to their ballgames, someone to cook for them and their house full of friends, or someone to take them skating and have to prop my eye...
    srealtor srealtor 36-40 7 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    In 2001 I had a fling with a "badboy".

    I thought he just needed someone to believe in him but his issues went much deeper. Three months in I kicked him out of my house. But then I found out I was pregnant. I tried for the next nine months to work it out somehow. When my daughter was 4 weeks old, her father hit...
    secondchancemama secondchancemama 36-40 May 23, 2014

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    I am an anomaly. I am a mother

    who has lost her children through parental alienation. The pain is excruciatingly horrific and beyond words. I was a stay at home mom who also helped my now exhusband build a very successful and lucrative corporation. He planned quite well for divorce and was hiding assets...
    WiltedTulip WiltedTulip 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 16

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    Child's D.O.B: July 1994 Date stolen: April

    1998 Location: Killeen,Texas Abductor: disgruntled biological father aided and abetted by paternal grandmother Destination: Busan,South Korea Last Known Residence: Fukuoka, Japan Last Contact: February 1999 Access Formally Denied: May 2000
    FineAsWine45 FineAsWine45 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 16

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    My Girl!

    shes gone ! i came to this town eight years ago after being in my home town for thirty years, my daughter was then 2.5 years old , it got really hard i could not cope she went to live with dad and grandparents they all live close to each other, slowly but surely they stopped me...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    No matter how much time goes by,

    I cannot stop the pain and blame that I put on myself. Where did I go wrong? Is there more I could have done? How can I ever live with myself after this? How can I ever forgive myself? How can I explain to my daughter how I lost custody?
    Nmm12212 Nmm12212 61-65, F 2 days ago

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    My Life As An Alienated Mom.

    I can remember as a kid all I ever wanted to be was a mom. I remember crying the night i married because i knew deeply I had married the wrong person. It took me five years to stand up and say no to the abusive alcoholic i married and I am still paying for it through my adult...
    vincaflowersss vincaflowersss 46-50 3 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    I've just spent my 2nd christmas without my

    daughter ... feeling low ??
    angelicdisguise74 angelicdisguise74 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2014

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    Missing My Son

    It has been over 2 yrs since I have had contact with my son. He is 19 now. I missed high school graduation and prom but mostly the everyday things. His mother who suffers from borderline personality disorder filed a frivolous restraining order during the divorce in 2008 and...
    liedaboutanddemonized liedaboutanddemonized 46-50 Jun 23, 2013

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    Change

    Fclu.org is an organization actively pursuing change in the court system for custody battles in high conflict divorce.
    Sundaysara Sundaysara 31-35 1 Response Jan 22, 2013

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    Parental Alienation Is Real

    I'm telling my story to raise awareness and to let other targeted parents know they are not alone. My wife had all the traits of borderline personality, some of which are demonstrated on this video I created: www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRPPlAq-kF8 The verbal abuse you hear in my...
    dave32165 dave32165 36-40 1 Response Apr 15, 2013

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    My Daughters Birthday

    It was my youngest daughters birthday yesterday. She turned 11. Last year I sent her a present, balloons, chocolates and flowers which were delivered by courier. The courier delivered them a day later because they weren't home on her birthday. Her mother told her I didn't know...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Lost My Teen - A Dramatization

    Time spent with youngest daughter = One hour in 3 years. The ugly emails from my daughter are heart wrenching...she really believes that I am the enemy. As a form of self therapy, I created a fictional dialog between my ex and my daughter in a little you- tube movie. You can...
    sofiek sofiek 41-45 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    My 12 year old daughter has been living with

    her dad for 3 years. She moved in with him a few months after my partner moved in. She did not like it because it had just been me and her for 7 years. Her father convinced her it would be better for her to live with him and to get her away from 'the horrible man' that mummy had...
    MrsBubble MrsBubble 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2014

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    Dear All Of You In Pain

    Dear friends that I have never met, I shall share with you my true experience. It has been 23 years since I divorced the mother of our four children. I had the top family law specialist in a large Southern California city. I had documented proof of how my wife attempted suicide...
    IUSEDTOBEDAD IUSEDTOBEDAD 46-50 4 Responses May 7, 2013

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    Holding On To Hope

    As I watch my children walk away, to spend the weeks apart from me, I ask myself, how can this be… These are the children that once clung to me. Oh Lord, how long must this go on; my heart is fighting each day to stay strong… This is not the place my heart belongs. Their...
    fav5 fav5 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    WARNING! WARNING! I am not certain how this

    despicable, cunning, apathetic group of using takers found me. WATCH OUT!!! for a phone call or someone contacting you to answer your prayers, take away your pain that makes you howl like a bear and promise you the miracle of having your child or children back with their mom or...
    Helper96 Helper96 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2014

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    I got the divorce to save myself.

    I could not live with the endless verbal emotional abuse that went on for 20 years. I stopped breathing at home and I knew it was only a matter of time until it was the end of me. I had a huge panic attack one day that literally took all of the air away from me. I never went...
    NoDavid NoDavid 46-50 3 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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    Unfinished

    My daughter, fawn-frail bright eyes beseeching My son, runaway-train a smile like God's own blessing Each night I see them standing at my knee Forever tender two and still just three Soft mouths speak phantom words of love, then fade Into this bitter comfort dreams...
    hettieh hettieh 46-50 1 Response Jul 31, 2012

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    I am from London, England.

    I was married for 13 years to my best friend. But it all went wrong when I had problems with depression. Things got worse when I had emotional problems, anxiety, paranoia and worried that my wife was having an affair. At Christmas in 2009 she told me she wanted a divorce. My son...
    Anenglishman Anenglishman 51-55, M 17 hrs ago

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    I Haven't Seen My Son Or Daughter In A Year

    I always had a great relationship with my kids.  Growing up, I wanted to be a father.  One who took the kids camping, fishing, to movies, went too all their recitals, games, you know, really involved. My ex and I divorced 10 years ago, but I remained extremely close to...
    Ianand Ianand 46-50, M 26 Responses Nov 5, 2010

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    A Vindictive Ex and Corrupt Foreign

    Courts- [Early 2003]"Stop calling!" My then 8 year old daughter snapped. "Leave us alone!" then she hung up in my face as had happened the last several times I called back to Azerbaijan or Russia from the United States(my native country). My son would usually talk to me but ever...
    Cherokeebelle Cherokeebelle 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    My two daughters have died in the last 13

    months. one daughter at age 52 and my last born child at age 40 on February 7, 2014. Both daughters died with a history of alcohol and drug abuse. The first death was stated as"' she used street drugs and over dozed after a ten day bender" This information was delivered by my...
    wise4no1 wise4no1 70+ 3 Responses Mar 14, 2014

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    Worst Mother's Day Ever

    Yesterday was an all time low. I've been dealing with the effects of PAS for years, but yesterday, Mother's Day, it reached a breaking point. My 17 and 14 year old daughters refused to come with me for the special day I had planned. Like so many others in this situation, I tried...
    draebear draebear 46-50, F 17 Responses May 14, 2012

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