I Lost My Children to Parental Alienation

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 496 People

    I extend my hands to reach out to my lovely

    children, but my ex-husband continues to cut off my fingers. Everyday, I grieve the loss of motherhood. I am a good mommy and I am sorry I am not there for you D. and C! I had to fall to lose it all, and when I was at my weakest, I was diagnosed with Severe Depressive Disorder...
    Helper96 Helper96
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Feb 7, 2014

    My girlfriend suffers from severe depression

    and I feel completely helpless. I have known her for 19 months now and we have been dating the last 6 months. I love her with all of my heart and will do anything humanly possible to see her smile again and burst with joy. There are various key contributors to her depression...
    ACaringPartner ACaringPartner
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Jan 28, 2014

    It's been 3 months since I've seen my 12 year

    old and 4 months without my 17 year old. My heart is empty. I don't know how to do this without them. Each day feels like I'm just putting in time....desperately just trying to get through the day. They don't reply to texts. They won't answer my calls. Gifts I've sent...
    my2boyz my2boyz
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Jul 22, 2014

    A Poem For All The Victims In This Group And Beyond, It'S Called....I Am

                                                                             Written By: dadleftdevastated            This poem is dedicated to my 2 children whom I            haven't...
    Dadleftdevastated Dadleftdevastated
    46-50
    4 Responses May 12, 2013

    I lost my children to Parental Alienation,

    I am the Target Parent. It has been a 25 years loss of my daughter who is now 40 with 2 children and a 32 loss of my son who is now 45 with 3 children. I have met all my grandchildren once with the exception of my daughters youngest who I have never met. I had hoped that once...
    jagoodwin1 jagoodwin1
    66-70, F
    2 Responses Jan 10

    A Vindictive Ex and Corrupt Foreign

    Courts- [Early 2003]"Stop calling!" My then 8 year old daughter snapped. "Leave us alone!" then she hung up in my face as had happened the last several times I called back to Azerbaijan or Russia from the United States(my native country). My son would usually talk to me but ever...
    Cherokeebelle Cherokeebelle
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Apr 12, 2015

    I was married to a high-functioning BPD

    who corrupted my two sons now aged 17 and 22 into hating me (just before, during, and after the divorce). As a result, I have not seen them for more than 5 years, despite numerous efforts to reach out to them. Even the one who is out of her house is not responding to my...
    AlexDad9306 AlexDad9306
    56-60, M
    1 Response Dec 13, 2015

    Im about to talk it out.

    . i need to dump all of this off my shoulders.. im sorry if its rambling at long.. I don't actually expect anyone to read.. but i need a place to put these thoughts. . I was hit by a boyfriend.. two years after separation from my husband.. Told the truth at the hospital. Hoped...
    alienmom82 alienmom82
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2015

    Worst Mother's Day Ever

    Yesterday was an all time low. I've been dealing with the effects of PAS for years, but yesterday, Mother's Day, it reached a breaking point. My 17 and 14 year old daughters refused to come with me for the special day I had planned. Like so many others in this situation, I tried...
    draebear draebear
    46-50, F
    18 Responses May 14, 2012

    I Haven't Seen My Son For 2 Years... Apparently He Doesn't Want To See Me... Is Only 9!!

    I've not seen my son in 2 years. The UK legal system is a joke. He lives with his dad and paternal grandparents over 3 hours away, and they have been allowed to poison his mind. Apparently he has been telling his father that he doesn't want to see me (yet there was no evidence of...
    AlienatedMother AlienatedMother
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 8, 2013

    I Miss Them A Little.. A Little Too Much, A Little Too Often, A Little More Everyday...

    Two beautiful girls, age 14 & 16 just up and one day decided they didn't need a mother anymore. They didn't need rules, they didn't need a ride to their ballgames, someone to cook for them and their house full of friends, or someone to take them skating and have to prop my eye...
    srealtor srealtor
    36-40
    8 Responses Nov 13, 2011

    To Love And Lost Is Better Than To Never Loved At All , A Mothers Story

    I am a Mum who loves her 2 Daughters with all my heart but one person ( my ex partner of 22 years ) has destroyed what ever kind of bond as a mother i ever had with the 2 most precious things in my life . You see my ex put me through years of domestic abuse not just physical but...
    suewilson1 suewilson1
    36-40
    6 Responses Dec 28, 2010

    what the hell is that?

    new disorder or something?
    BaReFooTSexy BaReFooTSexy
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2015

    I Want To Murder Parental Alienation

    I created a group called I Want to Murder Parental Alienation. I encourage all in this group to join. In my profession, day after day, I watch people divorce and fight bloody wars over child custody. Essentially, it ALL comes down to the almighty DOLLAR. Yup, people place price...
    Jennifurby Jennifurby
    41-45
    13 Responses May 1, 2012

    My brother isn't talking to me

    and alienated my son and my friends.
    CerealMom CerealMom
    61-65, F
    Jan 20

    Its has been almost 5 years

    since separation. I am falling apart. I cannot take the losses and living in fear waiting for the next one. I've lost my oldest and youngest daughter but still see my middle daughter half time. I can see changes in her though, I know they are working on her now. I feel...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 4

    Today Is My Daughter's Birthday...

    Today is my daughter's birthday.I can remember, almost as if it were yesterday, this day, nearly two decades ago, when I was blessed to witness the miracle of her birth. I even got to see her before her mother, and I remember her taking her very first breath on this earth. Maybe...
    lookin4ward lookin4ward
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Sep 18, 2011

    Ob lost my eldest daughter,

    age 14, to parental alienation and I see the signs of losing my 9 year old daughter to the same. They see a therapist who doesn't understand the issues- he refuses to. Through bad advice from a lawyer I did not fight for joint custody and lost a lot of rights. The pain is...
    repairs repairs
    41-45, M
    2 Responses May 27, 2015

    I lost my daughter last year to parental

    alienation, her dad and I divorvced and he remarried when she was a baby. The attempts at alienation went on for over ten years until finally my daughter disowned me and insisted on moving in with her dad full time. I rarely see her, she doesn't talk to me on the phone. My heart...
    peanutbutterfly peanutbutterfly
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 13

    Unfinished

    My daughter, fawn-frail bright eyes beseeching My son, runaway-train a smile like God's own blessing Each night I see them standing at my knee Forever tender two and still just three Soft mouths speak phantom words of love, then fade Into this bitter comfort dreams...
    hettieh hettieh
    46-50
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2012

    Over the course of a 23 yr controlling,

    emotionally and at times physically abusive marriage, I had 4 beautiful children. I was the virtual epitome of the "Martha Stewart" mom. I couldn't have been more involved with my children and their lives than I was. I was "that" mom that everyone knew and loved....the school...
    Chrissy342004 Chrissy342004
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Feb 27, 2015

    No matter how much time goes by,

    I cannot stop the pain and blame that I put on myself. Where did I go wrong? Is there more I could have done? How can I ever live with myself after this? How can I ever forgive myself? How can I explain to my daughter how I lost custody?
    Nmm12212 Nmm12212
    61-65, F
    4 Responses May 19, 2015

    My brother lost his three oldest children to

    parental alienation. They were 18, 16 and 11 at the time. They did not like their step mother. They gave him a choice of her or them. He chose them but his 4th child he had had with their step mom needed a mother and he took her back. The kids left him. A lot of kids don't like...
    dawnmill dawnmill
    36-40
    Sep 22, 2015

    Here I sit nearly 10 years post divorce

    and no closer to my dear children that I was when my Ex's smear campaign began. I wonder if they will ever be back in my life and what I can do to increase the chances that they will be curious about the father they consider to be dirt. I am grasping and challenged. What do I...
    Dad9407 Dad9407
    56-60, M
    3 Responses Mar 1, 2015

    How To Let Go..

    After a solution-focused evaluation back in February where the alienation and remedies were discussed and agreed upon, I was finally able to see my 11-year-old son play baseball. I was so hopeful that I would have a relationship with my son once again...and then it happened. In...
    J396 J396
    31-35
    5 Responses Oct 24, 2013

    My 12 year old daughter has been living with

    her dad for 3 years. She moved in with him a few months after my partner moved in. She did not like it because it had just been me and her for 7 years. Her father convinced her it would be better for her to live with him and to get her away from 'the horrible man' that mummy had...
    MrsBubble MrsBubble
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 26, 2014

    Parental Alienation Is Real

    I'm telling my story to raise awareness and to let other targeted parents know they are not alone. My wife had all the traits of borderline personality, some of which are demonstrated on this video I created: www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRPPlAq-kF8 The verbal abuse you hear in my...
    dave32165 dave32165
    36-40
    1 Response Apr 15, 2013

    Hello everyone. My name is jack.

    My story starts six years ago when I met my fiancée. She has full legal and phayical custody through the divorce of her daughters. The father is a paranoid scitsophrenic with ptsd. Who only cares about the $1200 he is ordered to at each month. He has made his children make 31...
    Aconcernedparent Aconcernedparent
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Feb 18, 2015

    Please.. I need someone to talk to

    who understands this level of pain.. I can't take any more. . I'm ready to give up.. i don't think I have a choice anymore... I need a support person.. I can offer the same. I am a mother experiencing extreme alienation from my 8 year old daughter for the past 18 months.
    alienmom82 alienmom82
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Mar 25, 2015

    Losing My Will To Live

    I am a mom who stayed at home to raise the children while my ex husband was always travelling first class to amazing places- sure it was work. But I was on the clock 24 7 and expected to allow him to decompress when he would return. Meaning - keep the kids away from him. I loved...
    GeorgiaNotonmymind GeorgiaNotonmymind
    46-50
    5 Responses Jun 23, 2013

    The narcissistic sociopath x wife

    that I used to be married to had been ignoring my texts for quite a while over the past few weeks/month. Kids 20 and 17 wouldn't even return a Merry Christmas text to me or my extended family. So I finally put it to her today that since she doesn't even have the curtesy to...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    Please visit: http://www.

    fclu.org/reform/
    NJReform NJReform
    31-35, F
    Jul 19, 2015

    Outdated Concept Without Merit-This is a FAKE

    ILLNESS that does NOT exist and has been repeatedly disproven. I removed my child born to a American mother in the United States to Argentina after being informed the mother was abusing. I took the 6 year old child from her school and used a Argentine Passport with a Argentine...
    HappyinHague HappyinHague
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Mar 30, 2015

    Yes and I blame The Watchtower Society 100%.

    The relationship with my children's mother,doing well despite minor issues(culture,race,and religion difference mostly) for 11 years previously, abruptly ended shortly after she had involvement with this strange sect. An argument occurred after I came to know that these people...
    Balkanbred Balkanbred
    41-45, M
    1 Response Oct 17, 2015

    My Girl!

    shes gone ! i came to this town eight years ago after being in my home town for thirty years, my daughter was then 2.5 years old , it got really hard i could not cope she went to live with dad and grandparents they all live close to each other, slowly but surely they stopped me...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer
    36-40
    6 Responses Apr 12, 2012

    I've just spent my 2nd christmas without my

    daughter ... feeling low ??
    angelicdisguise74 angelicdisguise74
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

    I have not seen my children in over 4 years.

    I have no hope left of things ever changing. They are 22 and 19. Feels like no one understands the pain
    michellespr michellespr
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    I Haven't Seen My Son Or Daughter In A Year

    I always had a great relationship with my kids.  Growing up, I wanted to be a father.  One who took the kids camping, fishing, to movies, went too all their recitals, games, you know, really involved. My ex and I divorced 10 years ago, but I remained extremely close to...
    Ianand Ianand
    46-50, M
    26 Responses Nov 5, 2010

    I have not seen or spoken to my daughter

    since December 15 2012. I miss her everyday. I just hope that one day she knows how much I love her and how hard I'm fighting to keep her in my life.
    pumkin4 pumkin4
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 14, 2014

    Lost My Teen - A Dramatization

    Time spent with youngest daughter = One hour in 3 years. The ugly emails from my daughter are heart wrenching...she really believes that I am the enemy. As a form of self therapy, I created a fictional dialog between my ex and my daughter in a little you- tube movie. You can...
    sofiek sofiek
    41-45
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

    No Mother of Mine- There is nothing quite

    as devastating as to hear something you labored to bring in to this world say,"You're nothing to me. You're just a vessel. I'd rather be a orphan than claim you!" No man can hurt you quite as bad no matter how hard he hits. No legal action done by a vindictive self serving ex...
    NobodysMother NobodysMother
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 20, 2015

    My Life As An Alienated Mom.

    I can remember as a kid all I ever wanted to be was a mom. I remember crying the night i married because i knew deeply I had married the wrong person. It took me five years to stand up and say no to the abusive alcoholic i married and I am still paying for it through my adult...
    vincaflowersss vincaflowersss
    46-50
    4 Responses Apr 1, 2013

    Missing My Son

    It has been over 2 yrs since I have had contact with my son. He is 19 now. I missed high school graduation and prom but mostly the everyday things. His mother who suffers from borderline personality disorder filed a frivolous restraining order during the divorce in 2008 and...
    liedaboutanddemonized liedaboutanddemonized
    46-50
    1 Response Jun 23, 2013

    Sorry, just had to vent a little.

    Sent a simple Merry Christmas and Happy New Year text to both of my estranged daughters 20 and 17. I can see from the phone that they both received and read the texts. No response. I sent one to the ex-wife too with the same message. Not even a response to let me know that...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 24, 2015

    I am an anomaly. I am a mother

    who has lost her children through parental alienation. The pain is excruciatingly horrific and beyond words. I was a stay at home mom who also helped my now exhusband build a very successful and lucrative corporation. He planned quite well for divorce and was hiding assets...
    WiltedTulip WiltedTulip
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    Give Me Back My Daughter Already!

    -Today I finally received some up to date pictures of my eldest child,who turned 9 in March and whom I have not seen since she was 9 months and my stepfather exasperatedly kicked me out of the house. The older of my two younger brothers,now 23,sent them to me in an email. After...
    BeingOracleSince90 BeingOracleSince90
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2015

    Dear All Of You In Pain

    Dear friends that I have never met, I shall share with you my true experience. It has been 23 years since I divorced the mother of our four children. I had the top family law specialist in a large Southern California city. I had documented proof of how my wife attempted suicide...
    IUSEDTOBEDAD IUSEDTOBEDAD
    51-55
    4 Responses May 7, 2013

    my children have not spoken to me

    or any one in my family for almost 18 years. It is beyond heartbreaking.
    ruthrking ruthrking
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Mar 10, 2014

    Child's D.O.B: July 1994 Date stolen: April

    1998 Location: Killeen,Texas Abductor: disgruntled biological father aided and abetted by paternal grandmother Destination: Busan,South Korea Last Known Residence: Fukuoka, Japan Last Contact: February 1999 Access Formally Denied: May 2000
    FineAsWine45 FineAsWine45
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    I am from London, England.

    I was married for 13 years to my best friend. But it all went wrong when I had problems with depression. Things got worse when I had emotional problems, anxiety, paranoia and worried that my wife was having an affair. At Christmas in 2009 she told me she wanted a divorce. My son...
    Anenglishman Anenglishman
    51-55, M
    3 Responses May 21, 2015

    WARNING! WARNING! I am not certain how this

    despicable, cunning, apathetic group of using takers found me. WATCH OUT!!! for a phone call or someone contacting you to answer your prayers, take away your pain that makes you howl like a bear and promise you the miracle of having your child or children back with their mom or...
    Helper96 Helper96
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 24, 2014

    https://www.change.org/p/nj-legislature-nj-judiciary-reform-family-court-and-stop-parental-alienation
    NJReform NJReform
    31-35, F
    Jul 11, 2015

    Easter In Pain

    Again, another holiday and my ex again took my kids . He took them on my Christmas, my Labor Day weekend, and has for as long as we have been divorced. Manipulation just twists its ugly head when hes around & you have to be on your toes Im really so weary of the whole thing but...
    IFoundYourDiary IFoundYourDiary
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2013

    My Daughter Died A Second Time

    After sixteen years of a hellish marriages, I left in 2005.  We have four children, currently ages 18, 16, 8, and 6.  For the first 30 days after I left, my ex-husband refused to let me see the children and used this time to brain wash them.  When I was reunited...
    minustwo minustwo
    41-45
    7 Responses Apr 24, 2010
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