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I Lost My Virginity to Someone I Didn't Love

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 139 People

    I Was 9 Years Old

    and my step-brother held a knife to my throat and took my virginity... Oh well...it had to happen sooner or later..
    deleted66 deleted66 41-45, F 1 Response May 24, 2010

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    Of Course, I'm A Child Abuse Survivor

    but the fun part was getting it back!
    warmwhisper warmwhisper 46-50, F 5 Responses May 30, 2010

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    We Couldn'T Stand Each Other

    The girl I lost my virginity to wasn't really someone who I was in love with, or really even friends with. At times we could barely stand each other. But I guess I was good enough the first time that she kept wanting more, and I was happy to be getting some.
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Mar 18, 2013

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    Drunk Sex

    He lives in my dorm building we have been hooking up for the past month and studying it the study and hanging out so much and getting to know eachother. Last week I told that I needed everything in my life to be figured out and so we had to be just friends or hook up and it lead...
    ithurts18 ithurts18 18-21 Mar 6, 2012

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    Disgrace ...

    It was neither lust nor love ... It was neither curiosity nor sexuality ... It was disgrace ... I was raped by the guy I didn't love ... The wound still remains ... No matter how long it has been ... Can never erase ...  
    DollyDiva DollyDiva 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 8, 2010

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    Horny Housewife

    lost my virginity when I' was16 with my best friend mom. one day I showed up at his house and no one was home except his sexy mama. she's probably a 36DD which gave me a hard-on right away. she knew I want to f... her as much as she wants me. It was a very hot summer day, and she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 23, 2011

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    But What Can You Do?!

    Of course I would have loved for it to be with someone special.. that i was with for a long time... or even had a relationship with.. but it didn't happen that way. I actually lost my virginity to someone I had just met.. and cried afterward.. because I had a moment where I wasn...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 5, 2009

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    Just Cannot Change The Past.

    When I was seven I was molested, I grew up watching my mother jump from one man to the next, so during my teenage years I was very promiscuous.  Thinking that it was the only way for the opposite sex to like me.  As I grew up and married my husband, I realized that men...
    yeaandso yeaandso 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2010

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    Going Back In Time

    I was a senior in college when I lost my virginity. And it actually wasn't planned. I had been dating someone for about a year and a half and mutually had no plans to have intercourse. I was immature and emotionally not prepared to handle what I believed was such a serious matter...
    Miles14 Miles14 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    And I'm Not That Bothered By It.

    I was at my best friends house. We talk about men and sex all the time. We are 15. I had given head and fooled around with my cousin before, but that was it. Being the crazy girls we usually are at night, we used my ipod as a webcam and started chatting with people. Thats when...
    Evermorejess96 Evermorejess96 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2011

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    Yesterday

    I lost my virginity yesterday. Hes an alright guy i guess. Im 17 and hes 21, i met him through my ex when we were over drinking at his house a few months ago. I dont know what happened. we started hanging out a few days ago, and yesterday he asked me to go over to his house. I...
    Chagrins Chagrins 18-21, T Jul 14, 2012

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    I Feel So Vulnerable...

    Me, a man. I got seduced by a girl and lost my virginity which I wanted to keep. Women always have to worry about a guy taking them when they aren't prepared to resist, but a man getting taken by a woman? It seems so backward. Perhaps that's why I wasn't ready to defend myself...
    thereaverofdarkness thereaverofdarkness 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2010

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    ..... Yeah.it Shaped My Life For Years....

    I had planned on it being special.... I did  not have sex in high school I knew that  there is not a way to  be sure no babies come 100% and I did not feel ready to deal with the oops if it should be... well  I was dating this guy...   we had a little...
    MeltedFlowers MeltedFlowers 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    I Was In Lust!

    I remember it like it was yesterday....sort of. Well you see, I happened to be drunk at the time. But no worries, I had planned this out before this night. You see, I was to lose my virginity on my 15th birthday...at a block party...with this guy I was in LUST with. No, not love...
    MissInformed69 MissInformed69 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2010

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    At 17 In A Japanese Love Hotel

    I'm 17 and I've been living in Tokyo, Japan for about 1 year. And about 6 months ago, I found 2 Japanese cell-phone texting pen pals to help improve my Japanese skills. But this just developed into sexting with both of them. I've beeng ************ since about age 14, and have...
    GaijinGirl GaijinGirl 16-17, F 6 Responses May 24, 2010

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    Whoops

    I made a huge mistake, now ill never know the true and proper way to make love...
    Jacob1080David Jacob1080David 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

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    I See It As Somebody Elses Life.

    10 days after my fifteenth birthday. Hallowe'en. Yes. I heard f**king trick-or-treaters whilst I did something I've learnt to forget. I knew of this guy. We didn't know each other well, and I was introduced through a friend (she had given oral sex to over 5 boys and she was only...
    misstiqueblue misstiqueblue 16-17, F Jul 14, 2012

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    And It Doesn't Affect Me At All?

    I was sober. It was a one night stand with a guy i had only met twice. You hear about people being traumatized by  **** like that. Ya know, being really sad because it wasn't with a person that they loved. But it doesn't bother me at all. I mean sure I'd like to talk...
    DreamLivEscape DreamLivEscape 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    Depends On Your Definition Of Virginity.

    My first sexual experience was with a woman I was very much in love with and now hate with a passion ( Although that has nothing to do with the breakup, it was a later betrayal as a friend). This helped a lot with my first experience with a man as we'd played with toys...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses May 8, 2010

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    Lucky Number 7

    .. That's how many beers i drank earlier that night not that it matters i would say i was pretty sober when it happened.  I drank, smoked, then went out to the ***** club with a random group of friends.  And no nothing exciting happened there besides some naked girls shaking...
    kaypea kaypea 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    My Best Friends Older Brother

    Me and my friend Dan would like to fool around in his tree house when we experimented when we were like 11. Until then all we used to do was look at Dan's **** magazines together when we were in his tree house. At first our curiosity or mine I should say lol took us from me...
    SweetKate8 SweetKate8 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2011

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    There was this girl, we'll call Nikkie. Girl faked me out for over a year. We hung out quite a bit, texted everyday and really helped each other out. We've always been there for...
    goofysk8 goofysk8 22-25 4 Responses Oct 18

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    Worst mistake I made was telling him how I felt, he just said it back so he didn't upset me but now that it's over I see how much he didn't want to be with me but I can't consider...
    Datenshi Datenshi 16-17, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Honestly, I don't believe it was "love" I just had a really deep like for him. Something that was slowly turning into love but didn't fully get there on account of the fact that he...
    MickxLove MickxLove 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    This was actually so heartbreaking, I didn't know what to think and still don't know what to think.. what did I do to deserve this?
    mattys1 mattys1 18-21, M Oct 6

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    Met you on those dating sites. Didn't think much of u at first. But slowly you wrapped me closer and closer to your heart. Our endless night owl conversations grasped my soul and...
    ucvel2488 ucvel2488 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 7

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    My heart hurts so much when I see them both together. Why did it gave to be a couple? I just.. I have to fall for the most perfect couple ever, didn't I? One of them just rarely...
    SleepyGamers SleepyGamers 13-15, T Oct 19

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    i have more experience in that than I care to think about. the first when i was a stupid kid and thought that love stories came true...that being loyal and the best friend I could...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    He may of said he loved me back but now I feel he never did love me... I feel as though it was a lie and because of him I can't love again cause I will not do this again and have...
    Datenshi Datenshi 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 4

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    I know ,I'm addicted to sex. But you know ,when I'm with her or when I'm texting with her .I don't get the feeling of sex I just feel special . I don't know i deserve her or not...
    ssg9 ssg9 18-21, M Oct 14

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    So i contact my demon lover but i dont love him .. And i loved that guy who didnt love me and its like the one who loves the other the other doesn't love him .. So i started...
    nonorawi nonorawi 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 21

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    it’s been exactly one year since i wrote that first poem about you. i sat in bed and started thinking about what happened at sandy hook, and how fragile life is, and how much i...
    maddisonn maddisonn 16-17, F Oct 2

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    When I was 15 I feel in love with my best friend Katie. She was the love of my life for 3 years and I had to hid it for so long that I lost who I really was and got extremely...
    ZoeAlexis ZoeAlexis 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    Hi just to tell u I loved this boy so much I was lost in my mind when I look at him. I felt I was with him. and we were best buddy's and he would huge me and say this nice things...
    juliesaldierna juliesaldierna 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    I've been battling with the dilemma of telling my straight friend that I've got feelings for him. However, he has made it perfectly clear before that we're just friends and that's...
    nickrif nickrif 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 12

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    I am so in love with my friend that I've known for several years now. We're such good friends too, one of the few people I can trust. When we first met many years ago, she "liked...
    cowboyspikespeigal cowboyspikespeigal 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 5

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    We are texting right now. It's 6 am here. I told him I heard sirens, I wanted to make sure he's ok. He's a cop and that's one of my regular fears. That something will happen to him...
    Livvy2 Livvy2 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    Not 'in love' love. But a friend I loved as a friend. Really loved her. Used me. Never thought anymore of me than someone to 'pass the time with' and let her parents take advantage...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45, T 1 Response Oct 7

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    loving someone without expecting anything is good thing but loving someone who dont even love you back is a **** thing for me
    naraleon naraleon 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    You have taught me one of the hardest lessons I've had to learn in this life: how to live without someone I love. It's also one of the most painful- my chest still tights when I...
    wildf1ower wildf1ower 22-25 8 Responses Oct 11

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    This situation is a rather horrible one to be in and I'm sorry to anyone who is feeling this way. But with this experience comes beauty, and that is you loved someone. You sent out...
    damnflanders damnflanders 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 19

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    Never had love...Forever maybe.. Nobody loves me... I always try love someone ,I think I can have love back to me..But this is actually usually opposite to my thoughts .. I should...
    Farmerwork Farmerwork 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    He never did and he never will. I wonder how could he live normally while leaving someone heartbroken and hurt behind! Someone like him doesn't deserve to breath.
    unknown159231 unknown159231 18-21, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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