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I Lost My Virginity to Someone I Didn't Love

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    I Was 9 Years Old

    and my step-brother held a knife to my throat and took my virginity... Oh well...it had to happen sooner or later..
    deleted66 deleted66 41-45, F 1 Response May 24, 2010

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    Depends On Your Definition Of Virginity.

    My first sexual experience was with a woman I was very much in love with and now hate with a passion ( Although that has nothing to do with the breakup, it was a later betrayal as a friend). This helped a lot with my first experience with a man as we'd played with toys...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses May 8, 2010

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    And It Doesn't Affect Me At All?

    I was sober. It was a one night stand with a guy i had only met twice. You hear about people being traumatized by  **** like that. Ya know, being really sad because it wasn't with a person that they loved. But it doesn't bother me at all. I mean sure I'd like to talk...
    DreamLivEscape DreamLivEscape 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    My Best Friends Older Brother

    Me and my friend Dan would like to fool around in his tree house when we experimented when we were like 11. Until then all we used to do was look at Dan's **** magazines together when we were in his tree house. At first our curiosity or mine I should say lol took us from me...
    SweetKate8 SweetKate8 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2011

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    And I'm Not That Bothered By It.

    I was at my best friends house. We talk about men and sex all the time. We are 15. I had given head and fooled around with my cousin before, but that was it. Being the crazy girls we usually are at night, we used my ipod as a webcam and started chatting with people. Thats when...
    Evermorejess96 Evermorejess96 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2011

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    Horny Housewife

    lost my virginity when I' was16 with my best friend mom. one day I showed up at his house and no one was home except his sexy mama. she's probably a 36DD which gave me a hard-on right away. she knew I want to f... her as much as she wants me. It was a very hot summer day, and she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 23, 2011

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    I Was In Lust!

    I remember it like it was yesterday....sort of. Well you see, I happened to be drunk at the time. But no worries, I had planned this out before this night. You see, I was to lose my virginity on my 15th birthday...at a block party...with this guy I was in LUST with. No, not love...
    MissInformed69 MissInformed69 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2010

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    I Feel So Vulnerable...

    Me, a man. I got seduced by a girl and lost my virginity which I wanted to keep. Women always have to worry about a guy taking them when they aren't prepared to resist, but a man getting taken by a woman? It seems so backward. Perhaps that's why I wasn't ready to defend myself...
    thereaverofdarkness thereaverofdarkness 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2010

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    I See It As Somebody Elses Life.

    10 days after my fifteenth birthday. Hallowe'en. Yes. I heard f**king trick-or-treaters whilst I did something I've learnt to forget. I knew of this guy. We didn't know each other well, and I was introduced through a friend (she had given oral sex to over 5 boys and she was only...
    misstiqueblue misstiqueblue 16-17, F Jul 14, 2012

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    Yesterday

    I lost my virginity yesterday. Hes an alright guy i guess. Im 17 and hes 21, i met him through my ex when we were over drinking at his house a few months ago. I dont know what happened. we started hanging out a few days ago, and yesterday he asked me to go over to his house. I...
    Chagrins Chagrins 18-21, T Jul 14, 2012

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    Drunk Sex

    He lives in my dorm building we have been hooking up for the past month and studying it the study and hanging out so much and getting to know eachother. Last week I told that I needed everything in my life to be figured out and so we had to be just friends or hook up and it lead...
    ithurts18 ithurts18 18-21 Mar 6, 2012

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    Just Cannot Change The Past.

    When I was seven I was molested, I grew up watching my mother jump from one man to the next, so during my teenage years I was very promiscuous.  Thinking that it was the only way for the opposite sex to like me.  As I grew up and married my husband, I realized that men...
    yeaandso yeaandso 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2010

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    At 17 In A Japanese Love Hotel

    I'm 17 and I've been living in Tokyo, Japan for about 1 year. And about 6 months ago, I found 2 Japanese cell-phone texting pen pals to help improve my Japanese skills. But this just developed into sexting with both of them. I've beeng ************ since about age 14, and have...
    GaijinGirl GaijinGirl 16-17, F 6 Responses May 24, 2010

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    Lucky Number 7

    .. That's how many beers i drank earlier that night not that it matters i would say i was pretty sober when it happened.  I drank, smoked, then went out to the ***** club with a random group of friends.  And no nothing exciting happened there besides some naked girls shaking...
    kaypea kaypea 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    We Couldn'T Stand Each Other

    The girl I lost my virginity to wasn't really someone who I was in love with, or really even friends with. At times we could barely stand each other. But I guess I was good enough the first time that she kept wanting more, and I was happy to be getting some.
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Mar 18, 2013

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    ..... Yeah.it Shaped My Life For Years....

    I had planned on it being special.... I did  not have sex in high school I knew that  there is not a way to  be sure no babies come 100% and I did not feel ready to deal with the oops if it should be... well  I was dating this guy...   we had a little...
    MeltedFlowers MeltedFlowers 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    Whoops

    I made a huge mistake, now ill never know the true and proper way to make love...
    Jacob1080David Jacob1080David 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

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    But What Can You Do?!

    Of course I would have loved for it to be with someone special.. that i was with for a long time... or even had a relationship with.. but it didn't happen that way. I actually lost my virginity to someone I had just met.. and cried afterward.. because I had a moment where I wasn...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 5, 2009

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    Disgrace ...

    It was neither lust nor love ... It was neither curiosity nor sexuality ... It was disgrace ... I was raped by the guy I didn't love ... The wound still remains ... No matter how long it has been ... Can never erase ...  
    DollyDiva DollyDiva 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 8, 2010

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    Going Back In Time

    I was a senior in college when I lost my virginity. And it actually wasn't planned. I had been dating someone for about a year and a half and mutually had no plans to have intercourse. I was immature and emotionally not prepared to handle what I believed was such a serious matter...
    Miles14 Miles14 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    Of Course, I'm A Child Abuse Survivor

    but the fun part was getting it back!
    warmwhisper warmwhisper 46-50, F 5 Responses May 30, 2010

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    and it's a good thing it didn't work out because then I never would've met my wonderful husband and had three wonderful children. And as for the guy I loved who didn't love me? He...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    This guy, i think i fell in love with him over the course of 2 years 'cause we've been through so much together... he just didn't love me the same. I never thought i would cry over...
    eAngeliqueXX eAngeliqueXX 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Hmmmm... Truth hurts sometimes kill me . I know she's don't love me again. She even not remember me either. Wake up Taqi! Urgh
    red4x red4x 26-30, M 1 Response 7 mins ago

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    The silence is deafening Echoing in the deepest recesses of my mind Pounding percussion of a mad congoist upon the drums of my ears Forfeit, let go,give up, cede, two decades of...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M Aug 27

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    Sooo you were like my dream boy first year, and you let your friends **** with your head because they don't like interracial relationships, and you let your stupid "girl friends...
    xRockGlossPrincessx xRockGlossPrincessx 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I loved someone who wasn't ready to be in love. We were young and I totally understand it now. At the time I felt so empty and I let it all take over my life. I dislike how I dealt...
    InfiniteSunshine InfiniteSunshine 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    Ah this is the worse experience in my life to be honest. A while a go my best friend went to Ibiza to work for a few months and in that time I became really good friends with his...
    jaymes14 jaymes14 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    He was kind of my childhood love, but I always thought more of us than he did. He led me on but I should have known, with the fact that he never wanted to be exclusive with me. But...
    staytrue123 staytrue123 18-21, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Didn't know I existed more like. I would sit in class, in high school, and just find my self wanting to look at him, he is so handsome. I blush every time I have to speak in front...
    InMybubble InMybubble 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    So last night I was trying to get to sleep, but I just couldn't. I was thinking of him...He was the one that got away. He and I had crushes on each other in high school, which we...
    SpeakUpNow SpeakUpNow 26-30, F Aug 24

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    August 31, 2014 Sunday I've realized that in our 10years of being together maybe I give too much, there wasn't anything else for him to take and he got tired of me making him my...
    justwannabeliked justwannabeliked 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    I dated someone for a few years. I call it dating but I was really just the girl on the side. I think deep down he knew how I felt but didn't care. I tried to be there for him...
    NewGuernica NewGuernica 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    There was a guy I really liked, or should I say loved. I guess you can say that I was truly, madly, deeply in love with him. I'd do anything for him. But he didn't like me back. He...
    RosemaryIdaho RosemaryIdaho 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 8

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    Up to this point, my life has been all about loving/caring about people that don't love or care about me. I started out as a hopeless romantic, waiting for prince charming to...
    angelique422 angelique422 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    One more so my cheating gf left me on a Friday and told me a bunch of bs saying she will always be here for me and she wants to be my best friend we'll come to find out I got her...
    Chris0707 Chris0707 31-35, M 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I love someone who don't love me. I fell in love when I am 14. I love her madly. She was my classmate who cheeled up with frnds an also popular in the school. At first I hate her...
    paulsneha paulsneha 18-21, F Aug 25

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    When does it stop? I fell in love with a guy when I was 14. Fourteen! We never went out, we were hardly even friends. I'm pretty sure he had feelings for me back then. A part of...
    LipstickShield LipstickShield 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    It's funny how your heart will yearn for that which it can't have. Funnier still how people will take advantage of that. I loved him. He knew it. I told him so. He said it back...
    Thekidsmom Thekidsmom 36-40, F 9 Responses Sep 1

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    I guess I didn't mean as much to him as I thought I did . /: I'm such a fool to think anyone could love a mess like me . 😔😔
    Haii6130 Haii6130 18-21, F 11 Responses Sep 9

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    I love a man I have never met. We have been good friends/pen pals for almost ten years and we will meet in a few months. I recently tested the waters by admitting I had a crush. I...
    femketje femketje 22-25 a week ago

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    A few years back, I fell in love with a friend of mine, another guy. I didn't understand the feeling I had, and I confessed to him, not to get with him or anything, but to expose...
    thecr00cible thecr00cible 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    How awful to love someone who doesn't love you back, at least not in the way you want her to. You are best friends, and you're always there for her her, but she has told you that...
    logic93 logic93 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 27

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    He was my bestfriend... We were such good friends,inseparable ...i tried so hard to keep my feelings but i am too damn transparent...at first he knew that i have feelings for and i...
    kiel19 kiel19 22-25, M Aug 30

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    No one has ever love me:( i feel unloved by my friends they beome friends with my emenies and i feel unsafe need someone to be loved by:(
    frankcarter500 frankcarter500 16-17, M 4 Responses Sep 10

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    To me she was perfect although they told me she wasn't. Her smile her laugh made them laugh at her but I smiled and laughed with her but no matter what I did she just didn't feel...
    Gian422 Gian422 18-21, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Why do we put people that don't love us before ourselves?...
    sammimel sammimel 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I am in love with someone who's in love with someone else, who is in love with someone else. Can't you see I am in the same boat? I'd be there for you but I get it. They're the...
    LoverOfAllSouls LoverOfAllSouls 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    Unrequited love sucks. I know so much about it because it literally is the story of my life. Right now, it just feels like I'm drowning. Drowning in sad emotions, painful thoughts...
    Dreamer32 Dreamer32 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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