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I Lost My Virginity to Someone I Didn't Love

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    I Was 9 Years Old

    and my step-brother held a knife to my throat and took my virginity... Oh well...it had to happen sooner or later..
    deleted66 deleted66 41-45, F 1 Response May 24, 2010

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    Whoops

    I made a huge mistake, now ill never know the true and proper way to make love...
    Jacob1080David Jacob1080David 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

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    Horny Housewife

    lost my virginity when I' was16 with my best friend mom. one day I showed up at his house and no one was home except his sexy mama. she's probably a 36DD which gave me a hard-on right away. she knew I want to f... her as much as she wants me. It was a very hot summer day, and she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 23, 2011

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    My Best Friends Older Brother

    Me and my friend Dan would like to fool around in his tree house when we experimented when we were like 11. Until then all we used to do was look at Dan's **** magazines together when we were in his tree house. At first our curiosity or mine I should say lol took us from me...
    SweetKate8 SweetKate8 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2011

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    But What Can You Do?!

    Of course I would have loved for it to be with someone special.. that i was with for a long time... or even had a relationship with.. but it didn't happen that way. I actually lost my virginity to someone I had just met.. and cried afterward.. because I had a moment where I wasn...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 5, 2009

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    I Feel So Vulnerable...

    Me, a man. I got seduced by a girl and lost my virginity which I wanted to keep. Women always have to worry about a guy taking them when they aren't prepared to resist, but a man getting taken by a woman? It seems so backward. Perhaps that's why I wasn't ready to defend myself...
    thereaverofdarkness thereaverofdarkness 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2010

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    And It Doesn't Affect Me At All?

    I was sober. It was a one night stand with a guy i had only met twice. You hear about people being traumatized by  **** like that. Ya know, being really sad because it wasn't with a person that they loved. But it doesn't bother me at all. I mean sure I'd like to talk...
    DreamLivEscape DreamLivEscape 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    I Was In Lust!

    I remember it like it was yesterday....sort of. Well you see, I happened to be drunk at the time. But no worries, I had planned this out before this night. You see, I was to lose my virginity on my 15th birthday...at a block party...with this guy I was in LUST with. No, not love...
    MissInformed69 MissInformed69 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2010

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    Going Back In Time

    I was a senior in college when I lost my virginity. And it actually wasn't planned. I had been dating someone for about a year and a half and mutually had no plans to have intercourse. I was immature and emotionally not prepared to handle what I believed was such a serious matter...
    Miles14 Miles14 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    Drunk Sex

    He lives in my dorm building we have been hooking up for the past month and studying it the study and hanging out so much and getting to know eachother. Last week I told that I needed everything in my life to be figured out and so we had to be just friends or hook up and it lead...
    ithurts18 ithurts18 18-21 Mar 6, 2012

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    Depends On Your Definition Of Virginity.

    My first sexual experience was with a woman I was very much in love with and now hate with a passion ( Although that has nothing to do with the breakup, it was a later betrayal as a friend). This helped a lot with my first experience with a man as we'd played with toys...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses May 8, 2010

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    And I'm Not That Bothered By It.

    I was at my best friends house. We talk about men and sex all the time. We are 15. I had given head and fooled around with my cousin before, but that was it. Being the crazy girls we usually are at night, we used my ipod as a webcam and started chatting with people. Thats when...
    Evermorejess96 Evermorejess96 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2011

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    Yesterday

    I lost my virginity yesterday. Hes an alright guy i guess. Im 17 and hes 21, i met him through my ex when we were over drinking at his house a few months ago. I dont know what happened. we started hanging out a few days ago, and yesterday he asked me to go over to his house. I...
    Chagrins Chagrins 18-21, T Jul 14, 2012

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    Of Course, I'm A Child Abuse Survivor

    but the fun part was getting it back!
    warmwhisper warmwhisper 46-50, F 5 Responses May 30, 2010

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    Just Cannot Change The Past.

    When I was seven I was molested, I grew up watching my mother jump from one man to the next, so during my teenage years I was very promiscuous.  Thinking that it was the only way for the opposite sex to like me.  As I grew up and married my husband, I realized that men...
    yeaandso yeaandso 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2010

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    At 17 In A Japanese Love Hotel

    I'm 17 and I've been living in Tokyo, Japan for about 1 year. And about 6 months ago, I found 2 Japanese cell-phone texting pen pals to help improve my Japanese skills. But this just developed into sexting with both of them. I've beeng ************ since about age 14, and have...
    GaijinGirl GaijinGirl 16-17, F 6 Responses May 24, 2010

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    Lucky Number 7

    .. That's how many beers i drank earlier that night not that it matters i would say i was pretty sober when it happened.  I drank, smoked, then went out to the ***** club with a random group of friends.  And no nothing exciting happened there besides some naked girls shaking...
    kaypea kaypea 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    Disgrace ...

    It was neither lust nor love ... It was neither curiosity nor sexuality ... It was disgrace ... I was raped by the guy I didn't love ... The wound still remains ... No matter how long it has been ... Can never erase ...  
    DollyDiva DollyDiva 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 8, 2010

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    I See It As Somebody Elses Life.

    10 days after my fifteenth birthday. Hallowe'en. Yes. I heard f**king trick-or-treaters whilst I did something I've learnt to forget. I knew of this guy. We didn't know each other well, and I was introduced through a friend (she had given oral sex to over 5 boys and she was only...
    misstiqueblue misstiqueblue 16-17, F Jul 14, 2012

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    We Couldn'T Stand Each Other

    The girl I lost my virginity to wasn't really someone who I was in love with, or really even friends with. At times we could barely stand each other. But I guess I was good enough the first time that she kept wanting more, and I was happy to be getting some.
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Mar 18, 2013

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    ..... Yeah.it Shaped My Life For Years....

    I had planned on it being special.... I did  not have sex in high school I knew that  there is not a way to  be sure no babies come 100% and I did not feel ready to deal with the oops if it should be... well  I was dating this guy...   we had a little...
    MeltedFlowers MeltedFlowers 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I was am 14 at the moment and a few months ago I was at a stage with a girl I loved dearly and still love where we had been "talking dirty" for a while and exchanging pictures with...
    Teyh606 Teyh606 13-15, M 1 day ago

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    I remember the exact moment that I knew i loved him. It was when I discovered he was moving away for six years to another country I couldn't possibly visit. Must when I was about...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Haven't we all....I mean seriously....haven't we all at some point gave our hearts and souls to someone who just didn't deserve them..... Loving them...Caring for them....giving...
    ladyamelia ladyamelia 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 11

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    I loved someone that didn't loved me I still do, can find no chance to vacuum love out of the heart To love Someone that will not love me Nothing can do, is there no chance...
    laughingsoul laughingsoul 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    He didn't love me like I loved him ...but he still calls me every morning , he didn't love me like I loved him but he's like a kid winning in tears ...he didn't love me like I...
    imparadise imparadise 18-21, F Jul 3

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    I recently turned 15 I was in the 10th grade I was cool with this guy somehow me and his 17 year old cousin began texting & talking on the phone. Within 2 months he said "I love...
    young090613 young090613 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    At the time, I had feelings for a boy. I knew he would never like me back, and I didn't mind, I didn't want him to. I couldn't get over him, and something weird happened.. I can't...
    enchanthorizon enchanthorizon 13-15, F Jun 28

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    She was a close friend. I knew her for a year and she seemed perfect. Really feminine, intelligent, soft-spoken and stunningly beautiful (at least in my eyes). I mustered my...
    JourneyOfLife JourneyOfLife 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 13

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    my best friend... i loved him more than i loved myself... and that's going to forever be the biggest regret of my life. he left. never came back, let me go without a fight. and i'm...
    meowshelbs meowshelbs 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I love him so much I almost lost it to him months past I was hear thing like he have a girl friend I didn't want to believe it because I though he love me and felt the way I felt...
    magolly magolly 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    I always loves or liked someone that didnt love me or they lost interest in me after a while maybe its the way i treat them or the way I act I show my interest and they think I'm...
    realye realye 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    3 years of being with a man I was besotted with. We went everywhere together I didn't do anything without him. He always kept me where he wanted me, and alienated me from my...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I ran across this quote/poem the other day: "I’m not the girl your mother warns you about. I won’t kiss your best friend or break your heart. I won’t make you choose between...
    laurisilva laurisilva 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    My sister and I haven't spoken for months and one night we ended up at the same bar. The guy she was with (her boyfriends friend) was there reason we spoke that night. I have met...
    Celinejean Celinejean 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    I'd loved you. Though our time was short I felt that you understood me better. You did everything right, you texted me sweetly, you held my hand. I remember our first date and...
    isodole isodole 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I'm so happy to be able to say (well, type) and MEAN it, when I say: I am FINALLY over my ex-girlfriend. I really am. I feel so good about finally being able to move on. I am...
    milehighHeartbreak milehighHeartbreak 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    He was a year younger than me. We didn't know each other. I'm very shy so I never talked to him. I got his number and talked to him but he said he didn't like me back. He liked...
    adrianacecilia14 adrianacecilia14 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Every time we talk, I fall back in love with you, and the glowy feeling stays for the longest time. Except..BAM you're in my life again. And I fall harder every time. You're my...
    BeautifulHurts BeautifulHurts 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    She did love me for a while. Then she said she didn't. Then she did, but as friends. Then, slowly she drifted away. One intimacy, one level of connection at a time. Shut off. Given...
    anyoldrobert anyoldrobert 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 28

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    It's not a past tense thing for me though. It is happening right now in my relationship. We've been together for about 8 months and he is my first boyfriend (I'm 22). I told him...
    jlhhlj123 jlhhlj123 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3

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    I was deeply in love with someone I would have done anything for They only pretended to love me until it didn't work out to there advantage any more and then she disappeared...
    dfries63 dfries63 46-50, M 5 Responses Jul 3

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    It's not necessarily love but I like to think of it that way. So I dated this girl a month or two back, and she said yes so I was happy. Little did I know she regretted every...
    Mjm01235 Mjm01235 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I loved someone who didn't care about me. He was too selfish to give a damn about any of my feelings.
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    And finally, it's over. Two years of lies. Two years wasted. I saw it coming. I felt us drifting apart. I could feel your absence. I just never thought it'd come to this, that you...
    mitted mitted 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 7

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    One of those unrequited love situations, i had a crush on the typical kind polite funny popular girl at school who everyone liked. I genuinely liked her but also so did my mate and...
    DatRandomGinger DatRandomGinger 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    The beginning of last year in like September maybe my best friend was talking to this cute boy she met at a friend's party and she was snapchatting and kiking him like NON-STOP...
    laurenharris1 laurenharris1 13-15, F Jul 14

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    The person I whom I trusted blindly other than my family was my best friend. We met one and a half years ago. We are in the same college. I didn't know when I fell in love with him...
    Bella2911 Bella2911 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    Why is now in days that we (people in general), always have to find a way to prove our undying love for one another? What happen to " I LOVE YOU", or "YOU MEAN SO MUCH TO ME? I...
    natashaxxs natashaxxs 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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