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I Lost My Virginity to Someone I Didn't Love

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    At 17 In A Japanese Love Hotel

    I'm 17 and I've been living in Tokyo, Japan for about 1 year. And about 6 months ago, I found 2 Japanese cell-phone texting pen pals to help improve my Japanese skills. But this just developed into sexting with both of them. I've beeng ************ since about age 14, and have...
    GaijinGirl GaijinGirl 16-17, F 6 Responses May 24, 2010

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    Yesterday

    I lost my virginity yesterday. Hes an alright guy i guess. Im 17 and hes 21, i met him through my ex when we were over drinking at his house a few months ago. I dont know what happened. we started hanging out a few days ago, and yesterday he asked me to go over to his house. I...
    Chagrins Chagrins 18-21, T Jul 14, 2012

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    Of Course, I'm A Child Abuse Survivor

    but the fun part was getting it back!
    warmwhisper warmwhisper 46-50, F 5 Responses May 30, 2010

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    I Was 9 Years Old

    and my step-brother held a knife to my throat and took my virginity... Oh well...it had to happen sooner or later..
    deleted66 deleted66 41-45, F 1 Response May 24, 2010

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    Drunk Sex

    He lives in my dorm building we have been hooking up for the past month and studying it the study and hanging out so much and getting to know eachother. Last week I told that I needed everything in my life to be figured out and so we had to be just friends or hook up and it lead...
    ithurts18 ithurts18 18-21 Mar 6, 2012

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    Whoops

    I made a huge mistake, now ill never know the true and proper way to make love...
    Jacob1080David Jacob1080David 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 9, 2009

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    Disgrace ...

    It was neither lust nor love ... It was neither curiosity nor sexuality ... It was disgrace ... I was raped by the guy I didn't love ... The wound still remains ... No matter how long it has been ... Can never erase ...  
    DollyDiva DollyDiva 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 8, 2010

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    Just Cannot Change The Past.

    When I was seven I was molested, I grew up watching my mother jump from one man to the next, so during my teenage years I was very promiscuous.  Thinking that it was the only way for the opposite sex to like me.  As I grew up and married my husband, I realized that men...
    yeaandso yeaandso 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2010

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    We Couldn'T Stand Each Other

    The girl I lost my virginity to wasn't really someone who I was in love with, or really even friends with. At times we could barely stand each other. But I guess I was good enough the first time that she kept wanting more, and I was happy to be getting some.
    bro4luvin bro4luvin 31-35, M Mar 18, 2013

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    I Was In Lust!

    I remember it like it was yesterday....sort of. Well you see, I happened to be drunk at the time. But no worries, I had planned this out before this night. You see, I was to lose my virginity on my 15th birthday...at a block party...with this guy I was in LUST with. No, not love...
    MissInformed69 MissInformed69 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2010

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    But What Can You Do?!

    Of course I would have loved for it to be with someone special.. that i was with for a long time... or even had a relationship with.. but it didn't happen that way. I actually lost my virginity to someone I had just met.. and cried afterward.. because I had a moment where I wasn...
    QueenOfHearts QueenOfHearts 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 5, 2009

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    Depends On Your Definition Of Virginity.

    My first sexual experience was with a woman I was very much in love with and now hate with a passion ( Although that has nothing to do with the breakup, it was a later betrayal as a friend). This helped a lot with my first experience with a man as we'd played with toys...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses May 8, 2010

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    ..... Yeah.it Shaped My Life For Years....

    I had planned on it being special.... I did  not have sex in high school I knew that  there is not a way to  be sure no babies come 100% and I did not feel ready to deal with the oops if it should be... well  I was dating this guy...   we had a little...
    MeltedFlowers MeltedFlowers 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    Horny Housewife

    lost my virginity when I' was16 with my best friend mom. one day I showed up at his house and no one was home except his sexy mama. she's probably a 36DD which gave me a hard-on right away. she knew I want to f... her as much as she wants me. It was a very hot summer day, and she...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 23, 2011

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    And It Doesn't Affect Me At All?

    I was sober. It was a one night stand with a guy i had only met twice. You hear about people being traumatized by  **** like that. Ya know, being really sad because it wasn't with a person that they loved. But it doesn't bother me at all. I mean sure I'd like to talk...
    DreamLivEscape DreamLivEscape 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    I Feel So Vulnerable...

    Me, a man. I got seduced by a girl and lost my virginity which I wanted to keep. Women always have to worry about a guy taking them when they aren't prepared to resist, but a man getting taken by a woman? It seems so backward. Perhaps that's why I wasn't ready to defend myself...
    thereaverofdarkness thereaverofdarkness 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 22, 2010

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    Going Back In Time

    I was a senior in college when I lost my virginity. And it actually wasn't planned. I had been dating someone for about a year and a half and mutually had no plans to have intercourse. I was immature and emotionally not prepared to handle what I believed was such a serious matter...
    Miles14 Miles14 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 9, 2011

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    Lucky Number 7

    .. That's how many beers i drank earlier that night not that it matters i would say i was pretty sober when it happened.  I drank, smoked, then went out to the ***** club with a random group of friends.  And no nothing exciting happened there besides some naked girls shaking...
    kaypea kaypea 18-21, F Feb 20, 2011

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    My Best Friends Older Brother

    Me and my friend Dan would like to fool around in his tree house when we experimented when we were like 11. Until then all we used to do was look at Dan's **** magazines together when we were in his tree house. At first our curiosity or mine I should say lol took us from me...
    SweetKate8 SweetKate8 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2011

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    And I'm Not That Bothered By It.

    I was at my best friends house. We talk about men and sex all the time. We are 15. I had given head and fooled around with my cousin before, but that was it. Being the crazy girls we usually are at night, we used my ipod as a webcam and started chatting with people. Thats when...
    Evermorejess96 Evermorejess96 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2011

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    I See It As Somebody Elses Life.

    10 days after my fifteenth birthday. Hallowe'en. Yes. I heard f**king trick-or-treaters whilst I did something I've learnt to forget. I knew of this guy. We didn't know each other well, and I was introduced through a friend (she had given oral sex to over 5 boys and she was only...
    misstiqueblue misstiqueblue 16-17, F Jul 14, 2012

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    Okay so I was in love with my best friend problem is he is also the (best friend of my ex),which is probably the worst thing ever but my ex didn't love me anyway so I guess that...
    maryamtssn24 maryamtssn24 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    My ex broke up with me because he realised he didn't love me, after we had been flirting for months and months. It is still as painful as the day he chose to end it and i still...
    Lilys3 Lilys3 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 15

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    This guy, i think i fell in love with him over the course of 2 years 'cause we've been through so much together... he just didn't love me the same. I never thought i would cry over...
    eAngeliqueXX eAngeliqueXX 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Time to vent or whatever. Enjoy. January 28th, 2014... I met him. Where? Tumblr! Of course. I was typically following back some blogs and answering messages. Well, gosh, I...
    captivateyourlife captivateyourlife 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 6

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    The silence is deafening Echoing in the deepest recesses of my mind Pounding percussion of a mad congoist upon the drums of my ears Forfeit, let go,give up, cede, two decades of...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 5 days ago

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    I've kept a secret from you. You thought that I was perfect, but I'm far from it. I know I'm young and human, but that's no excuse. You my not understand. I don't know if this was...
    natashaxxs natashaxxs 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I loved someone who wasn't ready to be in love. We were young and I totally understand it now. At the time I felt so empty and I let it all take over my life. I dislike how I dealt...
    InfiniteSunshine InfiniteSunshine 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    It kind of sucks. You don't realize how crappy it is because you've put so much effort in-so clearly anyone would love that, right? Wrong. Loving him was so hard. I might not have...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F Aug 7

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    I loved this girl, I'll call her K. I liked this girl from the beginning of 8th grade and I kinda still have feelings for her. Me and K was in jazz band together and it was 2...
    brownzugar brownzugar 16-17, M 5 Responses Aug 10

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    Didn't know I existed more like. I would sit in class, in high school, and just find my self wanting to look at him, he is so handsome. I blush every time I have to speak in front...
    InMybubble InMybubble 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    So last night I was trying to get to sleep, but I just couldn't. I was thinking of him...He was the one that got away. He and I had crushes on each other in high school, which we...
    SpeakUpNow SpeakUpNow 26-30, F Aug 24

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    He was older. He was my friends brother. And oh every girl in school must of wanted him. And gosh I thought I could never impress him. He made me want to like cars and motorcycles...
    Cozie Cozie 13-15, F 9 Responses Aug 5

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    I've liked a few girls down the years that didn't like me, one or two I even thought I loved at the time. But looking back, I realise there was only one girl I really did love, I...
    bd693 bd693 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 8

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    I'm still in love with that boy that doesn't love me :( sometimes it would be easier if I didn't but I don't want the easy option. The pain that I feel is the only thing that makes...
    angelskyanderson angelskyanderson 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    I love someone who don't love me. I fell in love when I am 14. I love her madly. She was my classmate who cheeled up with frnds an also popular in the school. At first I hate her...
    paulsneha paulsneha 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    When does it stop? I fell in love with a guy when I was 14. Fourteen! We never went out, we were hardly even friends. I'm pretty sure he had feelings for me back then. A part of...
    LipstickShield LipstickShield 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    August 31, 2014 Sunday I've realized that in our 10years of being together maybe I give too much, there wasn't anything else for him to take and he got tired of me making him my...
    justwannabeliked justwannabeliked 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's my birthday today, everyone wished me happy birthday except for it. This is the first time I didn't feel so happy during my birthday..
    greenflapper greenflapper 18-21, F 9 Responses Aug 9

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    How awful to love someone who doesn't love you back, at least not in the way you want her to. You are best friends, and you're always there for her her, but she has told you that...
    logic93 logic93 18-21, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    He was my bestfriend... We were such good friends,inseparable ...i tried so hard to keep my feelings but i am too damn transparent...at first he knew that i have feelings for and i...
    kiel19 kiel19 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I have been in a relationship for about he'll I don't know cause its been off and on but we have a 14 year old son and I love her but I feel as though she doesn't love me
    insaneknight insaneknight 31-35, M Aug 4

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    I'm listening to a love song normally listen to Rap and just because I love someone that done't know it Anyone can relate
    MilesMathers MilesMathers 13-15, M 16 hrs ago

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    Well it sucks!! having an infatuation feeling with someone else it feels good. great actually, but I really don't understand, why?! is when you confess your feelings to the"person...
    jayperez89 jayperez89 22-25, M 10 hrs ago

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    So there's this girl.... I love her... A lot... Ever since I met... I'm not sure if she actually loves me back or not.... Some days I think she does, others not so much... I dunno...
    NoxEstelle NoxEstelle 13-15, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    But after being rejected harshly I kinda hated her. Now it's just neutral. I haven't seen her in years and I want to keep it that way
    YLIhououin YLIhououin 18-21, M 1 hr ago

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    Title:Song For You By:GingerSlim (Chorus) I just can't get passed the fact that I lost you Knowing how d*** hard that I tried I would have been there for you baby I blew it and...
    GingerSlimSTL GingerSlimSTL 18-21, M Aug 4

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    I had a first love when I was 14 with a boy. But then I had my first love with a girl. I thought she loved me. I should have known she would never choose me when she would get mad...
    brejack07 brejack07 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 6

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