I Love a Married Man Forum & Chat Board | Anyone's married man tell their adult children about affair.

My MM told his 23yr old son about our affair.  He told him he loved me&told him about the affair.  Do you think he will tell his mother?Has anyone ever had this happen.

 

Hi lumutou,

I can't speak as a MM, but I can tell you what my former MM (now fiance) did. My fiance walked out on his marriage (he told her he was leaving), and at the time, his youngest daughter was living away from home in university; whilst his eldest has her own home. It was their mother that told them what was happening in an attempt to stick the knife into her future ex husband. The following day, he spoke to both and on the following weekend, he met with them to tell them what was happening i.e that he will be divorcing their mother to free him so that he can be with me. The youngest reacted OK, the eldest did not and she basically didn't speak to him for a year. Of course, they were upset, that was only natural but eventually, things did calm with his youngest, not with the eldest.

18 months on and I get on really well with his two daughters now, but for a while it was very rough with the eldest. In terms of his youngest, we were close before the divorce and now, even closer. I love them both to bits ;)

Hope that helps - and good luck with your situation.

Ally.
xxx

 

Thanks for the luck celtically!! He told his son 2 weeks ago.  His son told him to bury his feelings&forget it ever happened.  Well, this past weekend his son got in some trouble&blamed it on MM for what he's been doing.  This boy gets in trouble all the time so this is nothing new.  He's just got a new excuse to use to blame. So, now mm thought we should end it because he doesn't want to lose love of his children.  They are 23, 20, & 10.  I agree with him, but yet I don't.  It is so hard.  We ended it on Sun.  I just don't know why he told the son¬ the wife?

 

Its always "convenient" to try and apportion blame to the major events in a persons life as the reason for informing their actions. This can sometimes be understood if, in your case, the son in question is 10 years old. The turmoil does affect young children, I certainly wouldn't argue against that.
But, as an adult, its a different ball game. I am guessing that the son with the problems is one of the adult children? In which case, he needs to grow the hell up and stop making excuses for his behaviour - what, he got in trouble because his father has had an affair? Oh please - I think you and I both know that that's complete bullshit. I think your MM needs to also grow a pair and stop allowing his son to apportion the blame at his doorstep and take responsibility for his own actions. Life can be tough and some people need to seriously wake up and realise that fact, I think your MM needs to do that too. I suspect you agree...

xxxxxx