I am thinking of the term "homewrecker". I don't comsider myself as such because the man I love is in a loveless marriage. His home was wrecked before he even met me. He has been married for 25 years and his children are grown.
Often the wife is considered the victim. He has been ignored and neglected emotionally, spiritually, and physically for years and she is the victim?
When I met my guy, falling in love was the last thing on our minds. We both he and I) are church going people (she refuses to go with him, we go separatly of course), he is decent, hardworking and a really wonderful person. Ours started as an emotional affair when we met 2 years ago. We became very close friends. We still are not sexually involved. He often feels guilty because of all the religious stuff that gets into people's head. We talk about God, how to be a better person, etc. We encourage each other. We are not devils but kind, warm, individuals who just happened to fall in love.
I no longer feel it is wrong to love him. It has happened for a reason. I see it as a gift. It is so wonderful to see him happy, truly happy after so many years of feeling depressed because a system tells him he took "vows" and can't ever break them. I do believe in commitment but sometimes we save our sanity by getting out and finding love with someone. Real love. His wife says she "has him" and does not need a fix.
I do believe that I would not allow myself to get sexual with him until he is divorced. I believe a separated man is a married man and more often than not he does end up back with the wife. If we are in a relationship and it sours and we want to explore something with some one else, we get out. We free ourself so we can explore a new relationship. This is what he and I are trying to do. How is this cheating?