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I Love Him But Im Not Attracted

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    I Love Him But Im Not Attracted

    I love my man a lot and I truly want him to be happy. Im not sexually attracted to him though and when he touches me it feels like a foreign man so i always move away.I love him and i feel stuck. What should i do?
    MClaire MClaire 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    The chemistry we used to have was amazing!

    Even after the kid was born and I was exhausted, just a look or touch would make me ready, almost anytime. Some stuff happened- a long story in which we both essentially committed .the "dealbreaker" (I almost cheated, he got a little angry and violent during a drunken argument...
    wanderingwacky wanderingwacky 41-45 1 day ago

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    We'Re Like A Couple But I Just Don'T Think I'M Attracted To Him!

    I'm 20 and at university, last year I lived in student accommodation with this guy who really isn't the kind of guy I would normal consider dating. He was one of the first friends i made at uni so we're pretty close. We'd lived together 3 months when he told me he thought he was...
    RazzleDazzle123 RazzleDazzle123 18-21 1 Response Apr 11, 2013

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    Not Attracted To Her

    It's just when she smokes hate the smell hate the taste hate everything about it when she smokes all the attraction I have for her leaves me when she isn't smoking as in "quit" I'm very attracted to her and enjoy kissing her when she hasn't been smoking
    Kangaboy91 Kangaboy91 18-21, M Dec 23, 2012

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    Man Of My Dreams!...but I'm Not Attracted To Him:

    Hello, I've never been married but I am 40yrs old...so I am fairly experienced in life ...I've recently reunited with someone that I've never dated, but who's ALWAYS been extremely attracted to me since we were about 16yrs old...let me add that I used to be a very shallow person...
    NaniDiamond NaniDiamond 36-40, F 30 Responses Nov 16, 2009

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    We're A New Couple . . . Is It Doomed?

    We've been together for almost four months, and dating a few months before that. We've spent nearly every day together for the past few months. We know what the other is thinking. I'm not attracted to him. I blame it on our first kiss. But its been so long now I worry...
    AnitaReason AnitaReason 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    Pregnant With My Best Friend

    Amazing guy! Never been treated so well. I cannot imagine a better dad, but like many of you, im not attracted. Kissing is the hardest part actually. The sex is great and we love each other. I am so grateful for so much in my life and try to stay positive, but still I just cannot...
    Caseopea Caseopea 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    We finally moved past it last night. I'm just happy he doesn't have to worry about me anymore and that sex isn't a big deal anymore ^_^ Now I can keep him happy and make him feel...
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    Believe it or not, i've only seen snow once in real life and that was last spring. I LOVED IT, but i hated how cold the weather was because i get allergies really fast when its...
    Dhikrayat Dhikrayat 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Have you ever loved someone so much, it made you sick? I have, its a blessing as well as a curse. You see, I fell in love with a boy who could never be mine. Distance is a pain in...
    fwxo fwxo 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Last night was a bad night. I tossed and turned, couldn't sleep. When he is not near I kind of loose my mind. And just like the cars song, when he is I do too. My whole body...
    Stickwithmebabe Stickwithmebabe 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    I can say this with all my heart. He is the best thing that has every happened to me after my kids of course. He's smart and so funny. I love his smile and his walk I just love...
    miakajones2001 miakajones2001 36-40, F Feb 26

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    This is my ******* idol for life he has been my favorite for 3 years now i started liking him since i was 16 and that year was really tough for me but through his music he has...
    Dezitorsmilez Dezitorsmilez 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I don't know how long it is going to take from me to recover. Its been more than five months now since he left me. It really hurts how I'm feeling inside my heart because of him. I...
    unknown159231 unknown159231 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    That moment when you see the person you love and everything fits when you're with them is the best feeling in the world. Even though every night ends in tears because he's not here...
    delusi0nal delusi0nal 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    We went to a really cool restaurant that looked REALLY PRETTY INSIDE ^_^ it was nice eating out with him like we used to and nate always knows what to say to make me laugh xD Of...
    ChildOfHarmony ChildOfHarmony 16-17, F Feb 7

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and we love each other. There is however an inbalance in our relation as he feels a lot stronger for me than I feel for him...
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    HerTrapQueen HerTrapQueen 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    My bf just got home from work, texted me he missed me. I missed him so much. It was crazy. LOL It's nice to know i'm not the only one that misses. :D
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 26-30, F Feb 21

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    AH!!! What do I do! I really like him. I've never felt this way before. I have no idea what to do. Should I tell him how I feel? Or shoud I wait for him to tell me? I'm so...
    Sparkles4Ever Sparkles4Ever 13-15, T 6 days ago

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    Can I plzzzzzz have him ooooooommmmmgggg sexy <3333
    Dezitorsmilez Dezitorsmilez 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    He is soooooo fwken cute it's my dream to go to his concert and to meet him omg
    Dezitorsmilez Dezitorsmilez 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I've never loved anyone more.
    ofmiceandme ofmiceandme 16-17, F Feb 26

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    The hardest part of life is having to let go of the one you truly love. Its not fair at all....especially since he has my heart.
    goodwitch011070 goodwitch011070 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    I love the guy I know I can't have
    MariaKot MariaKot 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I get it now. This whole vacation was so we could hang out all weekend before he leaves with the band out of town for the WHOLE WEEK >< He should have told me... But I know he...
    ChildOfHarmony ChildOfHarmony 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    I don't know how to explain it, all I know is that he does things to me. I have never felt this way about anyone before- cheesy I know but thats the only to describe this feeling...
    moonstar47 moonstar47 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    He told me he liked me, maybe even loved me. I said he would get sick of me. Never, he said. But all I heard was lies. A month later and where are you? You said you're getting...
    marieflorence109 marieflorence109 22-25, F Feb 22

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    With my previous relationships, when I would be looking ahead...the future would also show a wedding as a bright spot. This guy, he doesn't even know I feel this way, makes me...
    BlueMoonLuck BlueMoonLuck 22-25, F a week ago

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    I really like this guy but I am so worried that he is starting to lose interest in me..
    sammimel sammimel 18-21, F Feb 22

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    Akasha334 Akasha334 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    In my head it's crystal clear, but actually putting the words on paper when I'm not inspired is almost impossible. I love to write, I have a binder full of every story, poem, ect...
    Holmesdown Holmesdown 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 10

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