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I Love Him But Im Not Attracted

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    I Love Him But Im Not Attracted

    I love my man a lot and I truly want him to be happy. Im not sexually attracted to him though and when he touches me it feels like a foreign man so i always move away.I love him and i feel stuck. What should i do?
    MClaire MClaire 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    Pregnant With My Best Friend

    Amazing guy! Never been treated so well. I cannot imagine a better dad, but like many of you, im not attracted. Kissing is the hardest part actually. The sex is great and we love each other. I am so grateful for so much in my life and try to stay positive, but still I just cannot...
    Caseopea Caseopea 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    The chemistry we used to have was amazing!

    Even after the kid was born and I was exhausted, just a look or touch would make me ready, almost anytime. Some stuff happened- a long story in which we both essentially committed .the "dealbreaker" (I almost cheated, he got a little angry and violent during a drunken argument...
    wanderingwacky wanderingwacky 41-45, F Mar 5

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    Man Of My Dreams!...but I'm Not Attracted To Him:

    Hello, I've never been married but I am 40yrs old...so I am fairly experienced in life ...I've recently reunited with someone that I've never dated, but who's ALWAYS been extremely attracted to me since we were about 16yrs old...let me add that I used to be a very shallow person...
    NaniDiamond NaniDiamond 36-40, F 30 Responses Nov 16, 2009

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    We're A New Couple . . . Is It Doomed?

    We've been together for almost four months, and dating a few months before that. We've spent nearly every day together for the past few months. We know what the other is thinking. I'm not attracted to him. I blame it on our first kiss. But its been so long now I worry...
    AnitaReason AnitaReason 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    Not Attracted To Her

    It's just when she smokes hate the smell hate the taste hate everything about it when she smokes all the attraction I have for her leaves me when she isn't smoking as in "quit" I'm very attracted to her and enjoy kissing her when she hasn't been smoking
    Kangaboy91 Kangaboy91 18-21, M Dec 23, 2012

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    We'Re Like A Couple But I Just Don'T Think I'M Attracted To Him!

    I'm 20 and at university, last year I lived in student accommodation with this guy who really isn't the kind of guy I would normal consider dating. He was one of the first friends i made at uni so we're pretty close. We'd lived together 3 months when he told me he thought he was...
    RazzleDazzle123 RazzleDazzle123 18-21 1 Response Apr 11, 2013

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    I love him for those rare occasions he has blown me off my feet for being there for me, i hate him because those occasions are so freaking rare. It has now been a couple weeks...
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    He came to drop something off for my mom. He asked how I was doing and I lied and said I was alright. Then he apologized for slapping me and I said sorry for being rude to his...
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    Part of me wants to leave you alone Apart of me wants for you to stay home.... Apart of me says I'm living a Lie and I'm better off without you . Apart of me says to think it...
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    My parents say I don't know what love is, yet I show more affection to him than my parents show to each other. He is funny, smart, and I can be my complete self around him. I wish...
    NoOrdinaryDork NoOrdinaryDork 13-15, F 4 Responses Mar 30

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    Hi everyone, I was hoping somebody could please give me some insight on a dilemma I am in. I have been friends with a guy for 3 years now. We crossed the line of friendship many...
    mzgirl mzgirl 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    March 25, 2015, the first time four big words came out of my mouth. I may I have thought it before, but never managed to actually say. But on the 25th, after prayer, and thought, I...
    RavenS45 RavenS45 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    How do we escape this labyrinth of suffering? This labyrinth being whatever inflicts suffering on you whether itโ€™s this life in general or some other matter that never fails to...
    capitalbreeze capitalbreeze 18-21, F Mar 27

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    ok so I really need help with this. my boyfriend and I have been together about a year now and everything was perfect until a few months ago. I am a very ambitious person and I...
    Autumnrw97 Autumnrw97 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    i want my bf here with me. To just lay beside him, hold his hand as we sleep side by side. To wake up seeing his handsome face and giving him a big kiss before we start our day. To...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 26-30, F Mar 30

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    I know you loved him, a long time ago Even now in my arms, you still want him I know But darling this time, your memories die When you hold me tonight, don't close your eyes Don't...
    atomblu atomblu 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I absolutely don't mind being friends with anyone, but please respect the fact that someone owns my heart. I respect my him very much. I love him and only him.
    EyeDontGiveAHoot EyeDontGiveAHoot 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    There is one person I love. I love him so much. Even though we cannot be together, I'll love him forever. I love you. I love you my precious hunnie bun.
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I just broke up (last sunday) after 6 month of being together. i know it's not a long time but it hurts really bad we both have decide from the beginning that it's something for...
    killingmeslowly84 killingmeslowly84 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    There's not much to say other than I really do love him. It's funny, we found that spark unexpectedly, stronger than we thought it would be. We're an odd couple, not conventional...
    TrappedInAWonderland TrappedInAWonderland 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I have been in a LDR with my big for 18 mos. I love him so much and we have only seen each other maybe one complete month all together. Our lives are on separate paths. He's 13...
    JaymeeB JaymeeB 31-35, F Apr 17

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    we haven't been together long .. but we've known one another for about a year. the first time our lips met I could tell I was gonna fall fast.. the first real time we hung out we...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 days ago

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    Well yeah I thought to write it in here cause I don't think I will ever work up the nerve to ever tell him. But yeah so I've known him for a year and a half now. Different...
    limitedless limitedless 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    He is so amazing and I love him!  <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
    shortfry3 shortfry3 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    All of the parasites really bother me. I love mud, but the worst parasites (helminths) live in there. I love being in the outside air, but the mosquitos are unrelenting. I only go...
    ResidentGoddessAstraea ResidentGoddessAstraea 18-21 1 Response Apr 18

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    I love belly buttons and use little rhinestones and stuff like that to pretend I have piercings. Sometimes I were short shirts and stretch so other people can see my belly. One...
    heyheynatalie heyheynatalie 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    anyone in the wisconsin area that loves belly buttons:)
    Bellybuttonlover12 Bellybuttonlover12 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 10

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    two weeks ago, he stopped answering my calls and responding to my FB chat though he's online, he just posted something that he meant for both of us...i chatted him to say to...
    hannagrace hannagrace 31-35, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Seems that my love story is going more complicated with time.... More tears, more sadness and more problems, however, it has more passion and stronger feelings than before...
    unknown159231 unknown159231 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    I can't stop thinking about him. About how this is destinied to end. After all these three years, and nothing has happened. We hav'nt even hung out! It's pointless. I've crushed...
    heardherwhispering heardherwhispering 16-17, F a week ago

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    He is my lover, my friend, my world .. He saved me from myself .. he showed me love that I never had ... the type of love that is normally just dreamed about .. Never in my life...
    imperfectbeauty imperfectbeauty 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    At first I thought it was just butterflies, the fluttering I got when I talked to him, the way I melted when he touched me, the sudden faint feeling when he kissed me. But then it...
    awkwardcutie awkwardcutie 16-17, F Apr 5

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    I never realised my love for him was soo deep. Hes such a wonderful man. Such a peaceful soul ,theres so much love in him and i am so glad that i got to experience it even if it...
    solongago2 solongago2 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    He loves me past my looks, education, and worth. he loves my soul- opening my eyes to true passion. when he kisses me my hair stands on edge reacting to the shock. When this...
    leylarenee leylarenee 31-35, F Mar 26

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    I love my boyfriend so much. He's brilliant, giving, caring, kind and everything I ever wanted. He's also a lot older than me. I'm 29, he's 56. We do have affection...kisses, hugs...
    eekimateacher eekimateacher 26-30, F Mar 28

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    So confuse ๐Ÿ˜” I should hate him for all this **** yet my heart can't hate him
    yalzaga yalzaga 18-21, F Apr 14

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    A long time ago, I unfriended one of my best friends, just because I started to like him and my other long time friend liked him before me and I didn't want to mess things up...
    Jhoselyn Jhoselyn 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Baby I love you and I know I can't talk to you everyday like I did but that is all cause my dad is a douche. I need you babe please please don't leave me I gave you everything you...
    adamsbaby adamsbaby 13-15, F Apr 14

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    He made me cry yesterday. They were not tears of sadness but tears of joy. He told me I was his precious gem. I have always felt that way about him. He is a gem so rare I must...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 5 days ago

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    if been in a relationship with the man of my dreams.... for 2years and l lost him. nothing hurts as bad as not beeing in his arms. I would do anything to get him back
    suzels suzels 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago