I Love My Army Soldier - Forum & Chat Board | have any of you girls been afraid about this?

have any of you ladys been afraid that your soldier will come back from AIT or from being deployed and say he doesnt love you anymore? i think that is my biggest fear about this whole thing.

LOL I have a list of fears and yes that one is included. You cant "what if" yourself to death though. Im afraid I wont be good enough. Im afraid he wont adjust to civilian life again. Im afraid he will go back to his ex wife (this one is ridiculous cuz she is getting married next month). Im afraid we wont have anything to talk about. Im afraid he only loves me like he does because he is deployed and he wants to know Im here waiting. Im afraid he will get bored with the day to day. I could go one forever but in my heart of hearts I know I love him and he is the man I plan on spending the rest of life with. If I break up with him what would that fix? Nothing Id feel even worse so its a chance you have to be willing to take. A leap of faith.

YES - that was my biggest fear. Not to scare you but my soldier did come back from AIT and was all confused saying he felt as if he didnt want a girlfriend and he wanted to move on (as in from me) but he didnt wanna leave me like he loved me too much to let me go. This happened the day after he got back after 4+ months of me waiting. I was devastated beyond belief.

But..I gave him space and after 3 or so days he called me saying how much he loved me and missed me and how he still wanted to be with me. I think he just needed a taste of freedom (not like going around with other girls or anything) but we're still together and in love.

I hope I didnt worry you but IF your soldier does come back and have confused feelings it doesnt mean he doesnt love you; he just has to get used to being free again or something. Odds are you two will end up being perfectly fine though so dont stress about it too much :)

You can talk to me though if you get really worried or something :)

omg yes...i even talked to brian about it but ofcourse hes like im the one he wants to be with forever...i wanna believe him but i hear that the army changes ppl and i hope to god that it doent change his feelings for me.

I had a HUGEEE fear about that. My boyfriend just got out of AIT about two months ago, and it didn't seem likely that it would happen, but I just couldnt stop thinking about it. But honestly, with my boyfriend and i, seeing eachother again after being apart made us realize how much we really do love eachother. So i hope this helps, i'm sure plenty of other people think about that too.

yup... i cried the nite b4 he went off to bct.  he just held me so tite... asked me why i was so upset n i told him i was so afraid that he would go to bct, and things would change.  12 weeks is a long time away from someone...  he reassured me that nothin was gonna change... i get my letters in the mail now, and phone calls when he gets to call... n he seems more romantic now then b4 he left.  i love my man wit all my heart. he is my forever... (  on the top of my first letter he even wrote

" im shootin for the stars with u baby". 

i am so glad to have found these boards to talk to all u girls... i honestly thought that i was the only one that was feelin the trainwreck of emotions. 

ARMY STRONG LADIES!!!