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I Love "Secretary"

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    Funny How Uncomfortable This Movie Makes Some People

    My sister, Kinky Queen of Sex Over-Share, who I was so sure would love this movie, was put off and thought me a total loon for liking it so much. Not only was she put off, but it upset her. I've also heard certain guys say they didn't like it, and there's always this look on...
    mmmcookies mmmcookies 26-30 13 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Who Woulda Thought

    That I would see that here-funny and strange movie-but erotic in many ways...
    satinlion satinlion 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2007

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    That Spanking Scene Is So Hot.

    I've seen it on Youtube. He tells his secretary to bend over the desk. She says "I don't understand", and he replies "there's nothing to understand". He spanks her while she reads a letter that he dictated on the subject of animal captivity. I would like to see the whole movie...
    will999 will999 61-65, M 2 Responses Jun 30, 2012

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    Damn Its Sexy!

    Oh.everytime i see dis movie,i get turnd on like hell..damn it!lol.both the leading actors r like so hot(together n otherwise)..i got hots 4 both of em..and the story so awsome.saw it 8 years ago...stil its efect is as alive..yea.and da thng i crave n love most in it.is the hard...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 15, 2010

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    Great Film

    Cutting, S & M, Sub/Dom....what's not to like?...Spader and Gyllenhal are just perfect in their roles too. Still amazed it got made and they didn't make any cuts. It's a bit of a deal-breaker on friendship for me too, if people don't like it I kind of know they wouldn't like...
    mikemcneil mikemcneil 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 13, 2007

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    Favorite Scene

    I love the scene where the camera is looking down the hallway at the closed office door as he's spanking her and you can hear her  grunts each time she's smacked.
    midlifechaos midlifechaos 41-45, M Apr 24, 2008

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    I Watched It In High School

    It put into perspective exactly what I wanted in a man. The ending, I hate to say, had me in tears.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 25, 2009

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    He began spanking me

    as I said “referring.” The funny thing was, I wasn’t even surprised. I actually kept reading, although my understanding of it was not very clear. I began crying on it, which blurred the ink. The word “humiliation” came into my mind with such force that it effectively...
    CascadingCoquette CascadingCoquette 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 11

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    Spader

    love this movie. strange yes but somehow motivational. If you want something get it. If you have a illness- make it work for what you want in life.
    blessedmovers blessedmovers 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 12, 2007

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    One Scoop of Creamed Potatoes...

    "One scoop of creamed potatoes, a slice of butter, four peas, and as much ice cream as you'd like to eat."  I love that scene. "Just one scoop... of creamed potatoes... a slice of butter... oh... and... four peas... Oh!  Oh!" Fabulous.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

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    Surprise!

    One of my closest friends, Gary, wants to be a sex therapist when he's finished college, and has used me as a guinea pig since high school.  I had been dating a fairly normal guy for about 2 years, but being shy and not really having the language to explain myself...
    hAnih hAnih 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2007

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    I Loved

    James Spader in this movie. Maggie is wonderful as well. I remember watching this movie on IFC years ago and I say it's one of my favorite romance movies. Haha yes, it is a romance story in my eyes. I love when Lee is sitting on Mr. Gray's chair, palms down on desk for days...
    fortysixandtwo fortysixandtwo 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2012

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    It's Just Sooo Good!

    I just rewatched this movie after years. It is a favorite of mine and very powerful. I relate to Lee's character as a recovered cutter. Besides that, this movie is unique and amazing. It's just sooo good!
    astrick8 astrick8 36-40, F Oct 17, 2012

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    Hmmm

    I first saw it a few years ago, and the opening sequence, where Maggie Gyllenhaal walks around the office collects the typing and the coffee and takes them to the back room with bondage thing around her neck just hooked me. I just thought it was brilliant. (^_^)
    Ravengambitx Ravengambitx 26-30, M Dec 26, 2010

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    Yes, Mr. Grey!!

    E. Edward Grey...Oh My God..... I am a dominant lady for the most part but Mr. Grey makes me want to please him so much. I am very much like Lee at times and was a self-harmer. She's a lucky character. I also learned to modulate and control my voice in Pro Domme work because of...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 25, 2009

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    Top Motivational Film

    Yes, yes, yes!!!  Watched it three times.
    aftermath aftermath 61-65, F 5 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    Top 5

    Great film...definitely in my top 5 everyone should see it...whether they understand it or not
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 29, 2007

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    It Made Me Realize...

    When I saw this movie for the first time, I fell in love with it. It introduced me to massochism. When I married my husband, I made him watch it for the first time. He loved it so much!!! We decided to try this relationship... We realized that he was a sadist and I was a...
    abilene8907 abilene8907 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    Memories.

    I remember renting this film and watching it at my seventeenth birthday party with a bunch of girls from school. I was immediately charmed by all the characters. Found that I could, indeed, related to Lee in a lot of ways. Especially how she ended up turning her need for ...
    lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30 1 Response Dec 11, 2008

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    this is the dumbest site I have have had the

    displeasure of wasting five minutes.
    signup8877 signup8877 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2014

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    I See Us In "secretary"

    6 years ago..I worked with a young man, he had a few more months in the job than me, so he systematically had a bit more presence than me. Little did he know at that time I was a cutter.. Many years passed I continued to cut. I had another relationship that went nowhere, why...
    CorruptedAngel CorruptedAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2011

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    Most People Don't Get This Movie

    I've discovered that most people don't get this movie... And I don't think it has anything to with the fact that it is risque, but just how abject or pathetic seeming the main character seems. I think these people completely missing the point.  The movie's about...
    keepingwarm keepingwarm 31-35 3 Responses Dec 12, 2007

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    Yay!

    I'm so glad I found this group! Secretary is one of my favourite movies ever. The first time I saw it, I was staying in the same hotel room as my mother and she was sleeping - she told me she kept waking up while he was spanking her, and had no idea what the hell I was watching...
    esclave esclave 16-17, F Dec 29, 2007

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    LOVE It !

    I absolutely love this movie! It's one of my favorites! It is what started me down the path of realizing that I was into really kinky sex.  I owe this movie a lot..hehe
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

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