Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Love "Secretary"

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 276 People

    Top 5

    Great film...definitely in my top 5 everyone should see it...whether they understand it or not
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 29, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It's Just Sooo Good!

    I just rewatched this movie after years. It is a favorite of mine and very powerful. I relate to Lee's character as a recovered cutter. Besides that, this movie is unique and amazing. It's just sooo good!
    astrick8 astrick8 36-40, F Oct 17, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Watched It In High School

    It put into perspective exactly what I wanted in a man. The ending, I hate to say, had me in tears.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 25, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Favorite Scene

    I love the scene where the camera is looking down the hallway at the closed office door as he's spanking her and you can hear her  grunts each time she's smacked.
    midlifechaos midlifechaos 41-45, M Apr 24, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Great Film

    Cutting, S & M, Sub/Dom....what's not to like?...Spader and Gyllenhal are just perfect in their roles too. Still amazed it got made and they didn't make any cuts. It's a bit of a deal-breaker on friendship for me too, if people don't like it I kind of know they wouldn't like...
    mikemcneil mikemcneil 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 13, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    LOVE It !

    I absolutely love this movie! It's one of my favorites! It is what started me down the path of realizing that I was into really kinky sex.  I owe this movie a lot..hehe
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 4, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Loved

    James Spader in this movie. Maggie is wonderful as well. I remember watching this movie on IFC years ago and I say it's one of my favorite romance movies. Haha yes, it is a romance story in my eyes. I love when Lee is sitting on Mr. Gray's chair, palms down on desk for days...
    fortysixandtwo fortysixandtwo 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 20, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Most People Don't Get This Movie

    I've discovered that most people don't get this movie... And I don't think it has anything to with the fact that it is risque, but just how abject or pathetic seeming the main character seems. I think these people completely missing the point.  The movie's about...
    keepingwarm keepingwarm 31-35 3 Responses Dec 12, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hmmm

    I first saw it a few years ago, and the opening sequence, where Maggie Gyllenhaal walks around the office collects the typing and the coffee and takes them to the back room with bondage thing around her neck just hooked me. I just thought it was brilliant. (^_^)
    Ravengambitx Ravengambitx 26-30, M Dec 26, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Funny How Uncomfortable This Movie Makes Some People

    My sister, Kinky Queen of Sex Over-Share, who I was so sure would love this movie, was put off and thought me a total loon for liking it so much. Not only was she put off, but it upset her. I've also heard certain guys say they didn't like it, and there's always this look on...
    mmmcookies mmmcookies 26-30 13 Responses Sep 5, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    That Spanking Scene Is So Hot.

    I've seen it on Youtube. He tells his secretary to bend over the desk. She says "I don't understand", and he replies "there's nothing to understand". He spanks her while she reads a letter that he dictated on the subject of animal captivity. I would like to see the whole movie...
    will999 will999 61-65, M 2 Responses Jun 30, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He began spanking me

    as I said “referring.” The funny thing was, I wasn’t even surprised. I actually kept reading, although my understanding of it was not very clear. I began crying on it, which blurred the ink. The word “humiliation” came into my mind with such force that it effectively...
    CascadingCoquette CascadingCoquette 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 11

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Surprise!

    One of my closest friends, Gary, wants to be a sex therapist when he's finished college, and has used me as a guinea pig since high school.  I had been dating a fairly normal guy for about 2 years, but being shy and not really having the language to explain myself...
    hAnih hAnih 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    One Scoop of Creamed Potatoes...

    "One scoop of creamed potatoes, a slice of butter, four peas, and as much ice cream as you'd like to eat."  I love that scene. "Just one scoop... of creamed potatoes... a slice of butter... oh... and... four peas... Oh!  Oh!" Fabulous.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jul 4, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Top Motivational Film

    Yes, yes, yes!!!  Watched it three times.
    aftermath aftermath 61-65, F 5 Responses Jul 18, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    this is the dumbest site I have have had the

    displeasure of wasting five minutes.
    signup8877 signup8877 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I See Us In "secretary"

    6 years ago..I worked with a young man, he had a few more months in the job than me, so he systematically had a bit more presence than me. Little did he know at that time I was a cutter.. Many years passed I continued to cut. I had another relationship that went nowhere, why...
    CorruptedAngel CorruptedAngel 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Damn Its Sexy!

    Oh.everytime i see dis movie,i get turnd on like hell..damn it!lol.both the leading actors r like so hot(together n otherwise)..i got hots 4 both of em..and the story so awsome.saw it 8 years ago...stil its efect is as alive..yea.and da thng i crave n love most in it.is the hard...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 15, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yes, Mr. Grey!!

    E. Edward Grey...Oh My God..... I am a dominant lady for the most part but Mr. Grey makes me want to please him so much. I am very much like Lee at times and was a self-harmer. She's a lucky character. I also learned to modulate and control my voice in Pro Domme work because of...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 25, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yay!

    I'm so glad I found this group! Secretary is one of my favourite movies ever. The first time I saw it, I was staying in the same hotel room as my mother and she was sleeping - she told me she kept waking up while he was spanking her, and had no idea what the hell I was watching...
    esclave esclave 16-18, F Dec 29, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Spader

    love this movie. strange yes but somehow motivational. If you want something get it. If you have a illness- make it work for what you want in life.
    blessedmovers blessedmovers 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 12, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Who Woulda Thought

    That I would see that here-funny and strange movie-but erotic in many ways...
    satinlion satinlion 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2007

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Memories.

    I remember renting this film and watching it at my seventeenth birthday party with a bunch of girls from school. I was immediately charmed by all the characters. Found that I could, indeed, related to Lee in a lot of ways. Especially how she ended up turning her need for ...
    lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30 1 Response Dec 11, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It Made Me Realize...

    When I saw this movie for the first time, I fell in love with it. It introduced me to massochism. When I married my husband, I made him watch it for the first time. He loved it so much!!! We decided to try this relationship... We realized that he was a sadist and I was a...
    abilene8907 abilene8907 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    I started liking dresses when I think the 2nd grade. I was friends with two girls that would always wear fancy party dresses that looked like something for square dancing. I don't...
    Melissa11520 Melissa11520 41-45 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    A boss said to his secretary I want to have .sex with you I will make it very fast. I'll throw $1000 on the floor, by the time you bend down to pick it I'll be done. She thought...
    NicoleHere NicoleHere 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My husband is just so sweet. He had a prior commitment on Valentine's and it was something we expected for the last six months, so no big deal. I hate actually going out on...
    TheNerdYouLove TheNerdYouLove 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 13

    Your Response

    Cancel
    No I really mean it ! Isn't this a strange thing that the more human being is looking for real love the more he is getting alone with time ? Can real love be only found in movies...
    Fatima12 Fatima12 22-25, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    There's a commercial that many of you probably have seen. It has been shown for many years, usually at Christmas time. A young couple walking down a path in a snow covered park...
    bcvegas4u2 bcvegas4u2 66-70, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm 16 years old and a tenth grader. I'm in love with my teacher of the same gender. She is in her late 30's and married with a single child. She was my class teacher in grade six...
    simz1209 simz1209 13-15, F 10 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i am deeply in love with my science teacher. He is so funny and very very sweet. I love to see him smile all the time because he has a really beautiful smile that just makes my...
    glowingdiamond glowingdiamond 13-15, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm a single father now after suffering through a loveless marriage. I'm so much happier and it's been almost four years since we divorced. I would love to be loved and live again...
    bayareachef bayareachef 31-35, F 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm a gay guy in my sophomore year of high school. At the beginning of my freshman year in high school I saw a boy named Josh in my multi-media design class. I kinda liked him at...
    smellyfeetguy20 smellyfeetguy20 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    "50 most positive one liners 1. Have a firm handshake. 2. Look people in the eye. 3. Sing in the shower. 4. Own a great stereo system. 5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard...
    bigboy4chat42 bigboy4chat42 41-45 1 Response 16 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Heart By Heart By Demi Lovato When your soul finds the soul it was waiting for When someone walks into your heart through an open door When your hand finds the hand it was meant...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F 15 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Daddy's hands soft and gentle when I'd been crying. Daddy's hard as steel when I done wrong. Daddy's hands weren't always gentle but I finally seem to understand there's always...
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15 13-15, F 13 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It's Your Blood that cleanses me It's Your Blood that gives me life It's Your Blood that took my place In redeeming sacrifice, Washes me, Whiter than the snow, than the snow My...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I used to work at a utility co for many years And most of the time I wore stockings panties and a garter belt some times a bra too I have love silky things from a young age in...
    Silklylover Silklylover 51-55, M 9 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Hi I am Jan I am 17 and I am a heavy smoker and love it. I smoke 4 packs of Newport 100's a day and love that I am so addicted to smoking. I am a chainsmoker as soon as I put one...
    janwantstobeateenagemom janwantstobeateenagemom 18-21, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    something happened feel like cr.pgave me a shockshattered mebut i hate people around me getting sadso back on trackhahacurrently enjoying this      0:18 but...
    Devilangle Devilangle 18-21, M 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    what is love? is it physical, emotional, or a combination of both? can love be achieved without communication? how can you constantly fight with the person that you claim you love...
    jarae jarae 26-30, M 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I sure love Kangaroo Island. I have been looking at properties for sale over there. Seen one I really love. Well I have seen lots I love but one in particular.
    0zzy1 0zzy1 70+ 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    "I told you. You don't love someone because of their looks or their clothes or their car. You love them because they sing a song only your heart can understand." - L.J smith...
    h4n5dj22 h4n5dj22 26-30, M 1 Response 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Loving another person or being "In Love" with someone is not easy. It can be very painful! I wish This thing called "LOVE" was like a light switch ... And we could just turn it...
    chantally100 chantally100 31-35, F 4 Responses 16 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I love rough hard sex! I love to be forced in to having sex! It's so hot!
    somegirl15 somegirl15 18-21, F 15 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    LOVE is when you shed a tear, but still want him/her. It's when he/she ignores you and you still think the world of him/her. It's when he/she loves someone else, but you still...
    Shimmerz479 Shimmerz479 13-15, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It is not my best subject but I love it. It broadens your horizons and deepen your perception of everything. It helps you visualise from angles you've never thought of. It helps...
    timeisvaluable timeisvaluable 16-17, F 11 hrs ago