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on 04:05PM at Jan 28th, 2011
I wish I could help, my wife goes through mood swings where she will let me have sex but then gets completely disinterested at other times. She seems to enjoy sex but I have to initiate and lead all the time.. I share your pain. Good luck
on 02:47AM at Jan 29th, 2011
I am not married, but I thought I might help, me being a woman and all. If its not psychological or trauma based reluctance then find out what she likes.
A brain is sooooooooo very sexy. If there is anything she likes when you do make love, concentrate on that. After sex ask her something like, "what was your favorite part". I like to think women don't let men have sex with them and think women give themselves to men especially a husband.
Attend to other needs in the house sometimes. Its most moist making to see men do some laundry, cook your *** off, whatever she is too tired to do.. you do it.
I think clothes are overrated. Ask her to take of a piece of clothes, then kiss or caress that for 5-10 min. During the day ask her to take of a piece at a time. Ask her to show you some stuff outside of the bedroom. Another day ask her to undress you and then don't have sex. Both of you talk in the nude about things she likes or wants or dreams of. Let her know this time, this day, this weekend is hers, you are hers. Remind her you are there for her. I think marriage is a license to have sex, make love, become one being engulfed in the idea of pleasing the other. Use your imagination and transform the qualities that you love or like about her into something sexual. Expand that appreciation into a sexual feeling. Tell her it makes you hot when she balances the checkbook... whatever. Sex is quite mental and concentration on an idea is half of the process...in my opinion.
Anyway that is what my boyfriend and I do. I love that my boyfriend can fix almost anything DIY like no one else. I told him I love it and thats all it took that night.
I think you might succeed if you find out what sex means to her when you want to give yourself to her.
on 10:25PM at Sep 29th, 2012
I guess this is also i am suffering from since we as couple at times dont have the same fusion while on bed.
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