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I Love Somebody I Shouldn't

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    No Longer...

    At least for one of my obsessions. In October of this year, a man i have loved since i was 15 years old broke the last straw. I've written about him many times, in fact i actually created this group to help my cope for the conflicting emotions i was dealing with. I cannot...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 13, 2011

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    My Marine

    For some reason, today i just cant stop thinking about him.  especially his voice- talking to me on the phone pestering me until i laughed and I'd get that goofy *** grin on my face. Or his smell... goodness.. sometimes i could go days just wishing to smell his scent...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2007

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    He's Getting Married

    I only met him a couple of weeks ago and we clicked right from the beginning. A few days later I met his fiance. I did everything I could to put him out of my mind, told myself he was unavailable. Still I fell for him. I have never felt so connected to or fallen so hard or so...
    MisadventoursOfLove MisadventoursOfLove 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2010

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    Irrationaly Bound... Forever?

    I talk about my Sadist a lot i know, some good some bad.... like i don't really know how to feel about him.  The problem is I love him in away that our time apart doesn't make me ache less but more. I can forget, for minutes, hours and even days sometimes but then when i...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2010

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    I Wish He Would Understand

    Sometimes, when i talk to him everything is great, we talk about movies, and drinking and sometimes even philosophy. These times make it worth while to continue to talk to him, at least on-line like we do.... but other times- like last night for example- he gets depressed and...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Dec 19, 2007

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    Dear Mv

    I'm tired of trying to figure out what the magic words are that will make you be nice to me when we do talk.  It's always a dice roll between the best friend i used to k now and t he angry bitter man you act like those other times. There's a chance I guess that you are...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Feb 4, 2009

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    Some Kind of Closure

    I've poured a lot of myself into this particular group.  Many people would think that it is counter-productive the way i write about all these intense feelings i have for him.  That i will always have for him. But it has really helped me.  It's given me a place to...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Mar 13, 2008

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    A Titanic Moment Over & Over Again!

    THeres this guy who attends the same gym i attend and I have noticed when im there he is always looking at me and he makes it known so that i return his gaze. He looks at me in a way as if im the only female in the gym! The way he looks at me reminds me of when Jack first set...
    Jaydedgirl Jaydedgirl 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 26, 2010

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    A Titanic Moment Over And Over Again.....

    THeres this guy who attends the same gym i attend and I have noticed when im there he is always looking at me and he makes it known so that i return his gaze. He looks at me in a way as if im the only female in the gym! I have now developed a huge crush on him as he gives me...
    Jaydedgirl Jaydedgirl 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2010

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    Why Can't I Make This Feeling Go Away?

    I'm falling for a client.  He lives in a different state, is single, and would not be slightly interested in me...even though my marriage is essentially over.  I started feeling something when I saw him in April.  We email each other several times a day...just a...
    snugglebunny156 snugglebunny156 31-35, F 3 Responses May 14, 2008

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    I Had Three

    My first was someone that I lived with but couldn't be legally married to him.  He needed something more than I could give him other than sex, meals and housecleaning. My second was someone that I found who had just lost a spouse.  We became close but knew that it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 1, 2008

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    Obsessing

    I so don't even know what is wrong with me today.  I miss him so bad today i ache... literally it feels like he's reached into my chest and is squeezing my heart for his own entertainment. It's sad and pathetic- first of i have no right to even want him anymore.  I...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2007

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    I Miss Him.

    It doesn't make me bleed when i think of him anymore,  but it aches just the same.  I can close my eyes and see all my girlhood fantasies of him,  beckoning me to come home. Frequently i think  is shouldn't have crossed that line- from best friend to lover...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses May 16, 2008

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    A Tricky Thing

    It's not so much that i shouldn't love him as i should be very very careful about it.  I don't want to break his heart, and i don't want to be dishonorable.  You have to understand that i love my husband and i respect him very much.  I don't even hide this from...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Sep 13, 2008

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    Resisting Temptation

    I so badly wanted to e-mail or something today. To wish him to have a good day, and maybe even hear about some plans to see a girl or something. But i know it wouldn't have gone that way- all i would have gotten was bitterness for decisions that i wouldn't change and mistakes...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 14, 2008

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    I Love Somebody I Should

    Many will disagree, but we should be together. I was criminally charged, I went to jail, I lost my job, but I found the greatest friend and love I have ever had. I plan to beat the charges because they are untrue and I am fighting for my job, but regardless we have each other...
    BittenDog BittenDog 46-50, M Dec 28, 2010

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    Dear Marine,

    I dreamed about you again last night.  It was chaotic, and unlike the other dreams we weren't the only 2 people in the world. There's a lot of things i wish i could say to you right now.  Like the fact that i will never stop missing my best friend.  About how...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 19, 2008

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    I Loved The Wrong Person... Few Weeks He Will Be Married Guy :)

    a year a go i v met an older guy(man) hes 34 divorced has a 12 year old child. he acts like teen irresponsible, likes young girl, alcoholic, smoker, addicted to hash ,... and yet i felt crazy in love with him. he made me feel like i was his ticket to maturity, i was the savior of...
    lebanongirl lebanongirl 22-25 5 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    Yes Indeed.

    But if I haven't already told you who it is, or you haven't already worked it out, then I'm afraid I won't be telling you about them :)
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M Nov 14, 2009

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    O My Goodness

    I went out drinking the other night with a good friend of mine.  We've been close since High school, and for a brief period of College, we were "Something more" not really friends with benefits, or dating... we were lovers, but... idk in a unique less defined sort...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 21, 2009

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    It's not that I love you anymore. It's not cuz I want you back. It's just that I miss you and it makes me crazy because you cheated on me. And I just couldn't believe the times you...
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    I can't help feeling like I let true love slip away. I have a boyfriend, but about a year ago someone else come into my life and he turned it upside down. He started working with...
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    I haven't dated anyone in almost two years. I made a conscious decision at 15 that I'm not ready for a relationship. I have a few mental illnesses that make it hard to hold...
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    It's a terrible habit. I remember in school if my class was in trouble the teacher would be giving us sh*t and I'd just be sitting there trying not to laugh. I laugh when my...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F Jun 27

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    I miss him. I shouldn't. I am married. He's married. We were playing with fire and unfortunately he got burned. I wish I could just talk to him one more time. I worry about him...
    Timetobeme Timetobeme 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    This is what I would like to ask God: Why can't I, just ONE damn time in my life, have the man I want? Not the nice guy that I date for awhile because he's the best of a bad lot...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    This is what I would like to ask God: Why can't I, just ONE damn time in my life, have the man I want? Not the nice guy that I date for awhile because he's the best of a bad lot...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    I just cannot believe I did this to myself. I am in love, absolute 100% madly in love with my boyfriends of years now. BUT recently I started a new job, and I am falling for my co...
    NaiYoMie3 NaiYoMie3 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    He goes through phases - I've seen it before - where he doesn't talk much to *anybody*. It's like a cycle. And right now we might be in the quiet part of the cycle.I know he...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Had a great day!!! sometimes I feel like I should be with the guy I just hung out with. We are so alike. But I'm in love with his best friend. :-/
    Lucietabell124 Lucietabell124 18-21, F Jul 1

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    We're both in sexless marriages. Today my H said something that really hurt me. I'm not happy. My H isn't happy. The man I want isn't happy. I bet his W isn't happy, either. How...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 6

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    I was mad at him. I thought he was behaving like a jackass. And I spoke plainly to him. I'm not mad any more; and I'm still interested. But I'm going to call him on his bullshit...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    If it's meant to be, then we will not always please each other. People are like that. We'll get irritated, annoyed, get hurt feelings, get outright angry. But grown-up people with...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 10 hrs ago

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    I was totally in love with this one guy thinking we would last forever. He was very religious and turns out I guess god told him to stop. So then our relationship ended and he...
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    I'm probably one of them with my track record. I'm great with other peoples kids and other peoples life's but I can always give the kids back etc but the accolades go on and on...
    jadedover101 jadedover101 22-25 1 Response Jul 3

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    You confuse me, why didn't you tell me this before? huh, why tell me now when its late?
    annieannana annieannana 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I have a slight crush on my best girl friend. I told her, and she didn't really care. She said she wasn't a judgmental person and she doesn't have anything against other...
    EmmaTheQuiet EmmaTheQuiet 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I have had a major crush on my best friend's cousin since I met him when I was in highschool. He's everything I want in a man. I feel like he also had a thing for me to. I'm 20 and...
    bribri590 bribri590 18-21, F Jul 7

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    Have you seen the young Mum in the shop trying to get her young daughter who doesn't want to leave without this toy, that packet of sweets, behave and frustrated she starts...
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    Seriously, some people are just not fit to be parents. A particular 4 year old's mother for instance. It's my boyfriend's son's mother. She can't hold a job, lives at home with...
    xXFemmeFataleXx xXFemmeFataleXx 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    my therapist.....she's about to get married and I don't know how to deal with it.......
    crazycat012 crazycat012 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    If you can't take care of yourself how are you suppose to take care of a newborn? Or a toddler? If you can't sustain yourself then how could you feed your hungry children? I'm not...
    HappyHart5 HappyHart5 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I think my best friend's dad is really cute! She and him fight all the time but when He and I hang out we just have the most random, fun, and interesting conversations! He's...
    HeadWest HeadWest 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I have reason to believe he has a real, recurring problem - the way he goes trough periods of depression and seems to shrink away from life. If only I could hold him close IRL! I...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I still want him. Incredibly - after all this time. After he has been through a pattern of encouraging me, then disappearing, at least 3 times in the past year. After two failed...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 7

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