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I Love Someone With Compulsive Hoarding Syndrome

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 65 People

    How To Approach It

     Wow!  What a loaded title.  That is appropriate on so many levels for the task at hand.  See, the thing is this.  My mom is a hoarder.  While some people watch the A&E show 'Hoarders' in awe, wonder and disgust, I don't wonder at how it happens...
    nrrvous nrrvous 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    My Mom

    My mom used to hoard animals and things. It was a strange way to grow up surrounded by the filth from the animals and the garbage she collected. I used to get angry with her because I didn't understand why she forced all of us to live in those conditions....I still don't...
    Powderblue Powderblue 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 27, 2010

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    Family Hoarding

    My husband's parents are hoarders and they have passed this on the their 4 children.  The first time I went to visit, I was appauled that anyone would have a seperate building that was full of stuff.  The house is also a cluttered mess.  The extra building was probably 1500...
    GRAMMYKAREN51 GRAMMYKAREN51 56-60 1 Response Apr 18, 2011

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    Your Clutter Stresses Me Out!

      My mom is a compulsive hoarder. She has become a woman that I know; the woman that took over my mom’s body. It is really sad how my mom lives. I cannot help her. I have tried. I cannot get help for her because I do not have POA and she won’t consent to getting...
    smartchick1 smartchick1 41-45 5 Responses Jun 12, 2009

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    What Is Compulsive Hoarding?

    "But I might need that one day..."     What is compulsive hoarding? Compulsive hoarding is the accumulation of and inability to discard items that (to others) appear to have no value, such as plastic water bottles, slips of paper, unread mail, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jun 11, 2009

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    My Mother

    Hello. Yes, my mother is a compulsive hoarder. It was only in recent years that my brother and I learned that this is an actual psychiatric condition. This evening, it was gone 9.00pm and I was unwinding in the "tv room" of the family house after having pulled an 8...
    AndrewPenney AndrewPenney 41-45 25 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    Too Many Hoarders In My Family

    I have just recently had my eyes opened. I knew my mother liked to hold on to things, but over the last several years this has begun to take on a new life. My mother was raised during the depression and I know that this has had an effect on they way she likes to hang on...
    valkrie5 valkrie5 61-65, M 4 Responses Jan 10, 2010

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    Feeling Helpless

    Hi, my name is john. My wife and I have been married for 20 years. When we first got married she was living at home and had accumulated a good amount of clothes which she was able to give to charity with the plan in mind that she didn't want the stuff moving out. It was alot in...
    tjohn093 tjohn093 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    A Work In Progress (would love some advise)

    I am the youngest of 3 children I am 15. This is the first time I have posted something like this, so here goes. All my life I have grown up in an old home. In my family my father is the main hoarder. I was only recently made aware of what this life eating monster that is my...
    suffocatedathome suffocatedathome 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2010

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    OMG I Had No Idea!!

    I googled "compulsive hoarding disorder" after seeing this group on EP and it seemed like a million things clicked at once. My dear friend and neighbor has piles and piles and piles of random, useless junk in his house. Some of the piles in his house are my height or...
    justAmemory2u justAmemory2u 18-21, F Sep 17, 2009

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    I Love My Mother

     Upon discovering the A&E show "Hoarders", the Children of Hoarders website and this group I have finally decided to muster up some courage to tell my story.  My mother is a compulsive hoarder. Or at least I think she is. Based on my experience of...
    IronJawedTat IronJawedTat 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2009

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    Tlc's Hoarding: Buried Alive Looking For New Partipants

    Discovery Studios is currently looking for participants for TLC’s Hoarding: Buried Alive, an hour-long documentary series on compulsive hoarding. We’re seeking people who are willing to open up their lives and homes to share their stories. If you struggle with hoarding and...
    tlchoarding tlchoarding 26-30, F May 31, 2011

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    Ultimate Hoarding Mess

        My name is josh and i wanted to post the story of the mess my gandparents left behind for me and my parents to clean up its pretty crazy.  My grandparents both passed away within about a year of each other and nobody realized what they had left for us lol...
    king533kc king533kc 26-30 1 Response Sep 12, 2010

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    Spouses/romantic Partners

    Looking for spouses/romantic partners to do this study on relationships. To complete a study for relatives of those with OCD go to: http://psychology.case.edu/research/fear_lab/participate.html
    amyp100 amyp100 31-35, F Oct 30, 2012

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    Myself

    I have OCD. What'cha expect? I can't help it, & people try to verbally chastize me all the time.
    otad12 otad12 31-35, F Sep 17, 2009

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    My Hoarding story

    I cannot remember when my mother first started hoarding.  I have been told that she has not always been like this, but to be honest my memories of home now are so crowded with those based around it, that i cannot remember a time before this.  I first really remember...
    littlest littlest 18-21 1 Response Aug 23, 2010

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    Recent Visit To My Hoarding Parents

    Here is my account of the the week I recently spent with my parents who are hoarders"My father doesn't recognize me"I arrived unannounced. I didn't know how capable they would be to pick me up at the airport, so I didn't want to put them out of their way. I just called the house...
    sleepless9212 sleepless9212 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 28, 2013

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    Know A Hoarder In Southern California?

    New tasteful docu-series on a major cable network is looking for people who hoard, and have "inherited" it from their parents. We have a top-notch, licensed therapist who will be helping the family embrace a happy future. You will be compensated for your time, and also receive...
    janesmith12 janesmith12 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2013

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    Dude You Don't Even Know

    I don't even know where to start my boyfriend is a hoarder. He has things everywhere. I have packed everything up in plastic containers. His stuff is in closets and takes up most of our home. I have gotten rid of things here and there. They are not useful and take up space for...
    Shaneking Shaneking 31-35 Aug 21, 2012

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    A Shorty Story On Hoarding -- Development

    We are called the sandwich generation -- caught between caring for our parents and our children. But I have no children; nothing to turn my attention from Mom. I just get open-faced absurdity. My thumb is doing calisthenics lifting corners of fashion magazines. The rest of me...
    rockylewis rockylewis 36-40 1 Response Nov 21, 2011

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    Living With An Insane Pack Rat

    I think my boyfriend is a hoarder? Or he is absolutly out of control messy. He works outside the home and I run an online business or trying to! He wants the house perfectly neat and orderly when he gets home, but there is much junk of his that I can't keep up anymore, I've...
    eclecticboho eclecticboho 26-30 4 Responses Jun 1, 2011

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    Feeling Helpless

    Hi, my name is john. My wife and I have been married for 20 years. When we first got married she was living at home and had accumulated a good amount of clothes which she was able to give to charity with the plan in mind that she didn't want the stuff moving out. It was alot in...
    tjohn093 tjohn093 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    Hoarding To Get Over Someone's Death

    Someone very close to my boyfriend passed away about a year ago. It was unexpected, and he was not prepared to deal with the consequences of organizing the personal belongings, papers, and property that were left behind. Instead of keeping the items that were of most importance...
    flipgirl6886 flipgirl6886 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2011

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    Studies On Relationships And Hoarding

    Researchers at Case Western Reserve University are conducting two online studies about the relationships of individuals with OCD or hoarding. Each study involves completing questionnaires online about relationships, emotions, OCD, and hoarding. You must be at least 18 to...
    amyp100 amyp100 31-35, F Aug 16, 2012

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    Hoarding Help

    I am a producer for NBC and we are currently working on a show about hoarding. I you or anybody you know would be interested in getting help for this problem, please ontact me at 203.564.8464. Thanks Alyson
    TVALY TVALY 31-35 3 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Mom Is A Hoarder :(

    I just realized today after waking up and seeing so much junk all over our house that my mother is a hoarder, I feel like a bandage was ripped from my eyes. Worst part is i don't know how i let it get so bad to the point where everything in this house disgusts me. Now i...
    ToxicBrownies ToxicBrownies 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 7, 2013

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    This is particularly interesting, when I was of 17 I loved someone. That someone dumped me. Again when I was 21 I loved another one, that another one also dumped me :p, I fought...
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    if you truly love someone well then the distance will not matter what counts is where your heart is at true love will over look any distance and make it work
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    WWW is a media to interact ..people control the machines which help them interact so how can human emotions be hidden or false if the intent is correct..we meet wrong people in...
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    I wish my face was good enough for you.... Pretty enough. I wish my body was good enough for you.... Perfect enough. I wish my personality was good enough for you...
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    I say I'm over you but my heart knows that's complete bull. No one really knows how much I still love you. I can still feel the warmth of that night, the grass on our feet while...
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    6 dates. 6 dates was all it took. I could tell from the start I loved her. She was the most fantastic girl I'd ever met. We had undeniable chemistry. So why couldn't I get her to...
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    This is exactly what I've been doing with my girlfriend. She knows she's always been sexy, and I think she's so over-confident in her body she doesn't even realize how much we've...
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    I have such a strong desire to grow for someone. I'm so addicted to food that I often find myself raiding my fridge and cabinets every few minutes. I used to feel guilty for being...
    AspiringSSBHM AspiringSSBHM 18-21, M a week ago

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    Movie time with this girl:D love our bonding times and wish we could have more:D
    CrazyJessy CrazyJessy 16-17, F 1 hr ago

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    It's probably the most frustrating thing in the world to have feeling for someone, to subconsciously put all this effort to make them happy, and to realize that "I... I think I...
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 16-17, M 4 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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