I Love the Female Body - Forum & Chat Board | A question for the ladies...

Mongoose is right; sometimes it doesn't just depend on the day, but even the minute. I have to admit to hot and cold behavior sometimes, but we all get turned on (and off) by a lot of the same things.

For me it's breath and volume. Really loud guys turn me off (just so happens my husband is one of those guys) as does bad breath. We're not talking about love here, just attraction, right?

Actually, now that I think of it, I have a big criteria list, but most of it is behavior stuff. Physical magnetism is not everything. I probably don't think of it as important because I myself am not overly attractive, so I rely on my personality to get me by. So that's what I would look for in a guy; a personality that I can relate to. Phyllis Diller said, "Good looks will get you by for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better have something intelligent to say." If you're a really, really lucky person, sex might take up an hour in total of your day. Once that's done, you've got to have something else in common.

Instead of the wolf whistle or the long, lecherous stare, how about making ordinary small talk to start with? You can tell a lot about where it's going just by casual chatting. I will talk to anyone who talks to me, or I will strike up a conversation just to see where it goes. I'm a bit of a flirt myself and there is usually no mistaking my intent. But I appreciate right-upfront honesty; I'd rather not make a fool of myself by getting carried away.

I believe that everyone is deserving of affection, and sex is the most fun you can have with a good friend. So be patient and get to know someone a little before you start looking down her shirt.

 

I certainly don't mind an appreciative look.  Like Mongoose and Jack said have it all depends on how it's done.  I don't usually dress sexy so when I do, I want to be noticed.  Once instance I can think of was while I was at the mall over the summer.  I wasn't wearing anything particularly revealing, but a shortish skirt and high wedgie shoes.  As I was browsing, I remember looking up and there was a man very obviously looking at me.  I smiled, he smiled back and that was OK.  Then I kept seeing him in the mall.  I don't know if it was just coincidence or planned, but that made me uncomfortable.  The smile and a hello would have been alright, but the feeling of being followed was creepy.  Maybe he just couldn't get up the nerve to approach me.