I Loved Someone That Didn't Love Me - Forum & Chat Board | How do you forget someone who broke your heart?

cherryred i totally understand... its reaching obsessive now and it scares me...

I have gotten over every single crush I'v had but getting over this guy is starting to feel impossible coz i cant help loving him as much as i do.

so any help in forgetting will be appreciated by me too. drugs and alcohol dont work. i know

i know exctly where you are comming from. my ex dumped me 6 months ago, and i still am having problems. it got more intense over time, but i know it seems like im not helping, but heres the catch. I think, i could be wrong, but im in the same boat you are, i think its going to get worse before it gets better, and once it gets better it will be a LOT better. and think of it this way, if you did everything you could do to make things work with your ex and it didnt, and you felt like it was perfect and wonderful, imagine how wonderful the RIGHT guy is going to be! you just gotta hold on, and try to distract yourself, go out with friends, get a job that takes up a lot of time, do wahtever it takes. its about replacing the pain with something better, something more constructive than sadness.

im here for you, and if you need someone to vent to, im here. im not the best person to give good help to people, but i listen and try..X_X

HANG IN THERE! it will get better!

You will never forget... That's just how life is.

We can move on, but it will always be there, and for that, you have my sympathy, because I know the feeling myself.

You need to get back into the driver's seat.... What I mean is take back control of your emotions.    Lots of self talk.   "I deserve more, I deserve a man who LOVES me 100%,  why should I settle for less, Mr. Right is out there", you get the idea....Make post its and read them every day.  put them on your mirror.....

Tell yourself that you don't really LOVE him.... your in LOVE with being IN LOVE.  

Then talk to yourself about being READY and OPEN for Mr. Right to come along.   What if Mr. Right is already in your life and your too busy being sad about Mr. Gone.  Are you OPEN?  No.... Are you READY to start new with Mr. Right?   NO....  

Work towards.....being the best you can be for NEW LOVE.   Make baby steps to get there.  

I don't mean to over simplify this.   I know it's really painful.  Be sad, cry, kick-box.... get it all out... then MOVE ON.   Allow yourself a set period of time to morn the loss of that relationship.   Then on that date....WAKE UP and say....fresh start today.

You must be OPEN to new love.   You need to emit positive vibes to draw positive people to you.   Think health relationship and seek health guys that share your positive outlook.   Focus on friends.... find him when your not really looking.  JUST BE OPEN.

Are you what you would be attracted to if you were single and seeking love now?   What I mean.... Would a guy look at you now and say WOW... I'd like to get to know her?  She seems open, confident, caring...

Seek to be those things and "he" will come....

Try not to focus on what was lost...but ....WHAT CAN BE... What will be around a new corner.   Take your power back.  Nothing new and great can start if your morning a dead relationship.   Focus on healing quickly for your own sake.   Best of luck....Hug yourself....ask others close to you to hug you also.... be well

Thankyou,thankyou, thankyou.  I still wake up every day and think of my best friend, and think of him last thing at night. I remember all the good things, like how nice it felt to be held in his big strong arms, and how it was to have someone to cry with and to hold me when i was sad, and someone who protected me from my family and their meanness, and the kiss that always made me feel better. And I remember how special he made me feel, because he just wanted me to spend time with him. There was no sex and never would have been because that wasnt the kind of relationship we had. And that didn't matter. What did matter was the betrayal if felt when he told me he'd been talking to my son about me and his girlfriend had been giving him advice on how to deal with me. He's drifted away and now has other people who he talks to and i don't trust him anymore. He still has my loyalty, and part of my heart and i wonder if he always will.

Im in the process of trying to forget. I definitely agree with those who said that its gonna be better and soon it'll be over but during these days when i still feel the pain, nothing and no words could really make me feel better. I have to go thru this alone and move on alone. Im trying to help myself pick up the pieces coz there's no other way but forward.