I Loved Someone That Didn't Love Me - Forum & Chat Board | No More Chances

I have been married four times and this is my last one.  I have always trusted the wrong men way too much.  The one I am married to right now has broken my heart.  I met him 4 years ago after being single for 5 years.  He was in a desperate financial situation because of ex-wives and his own bad judgement.  I loved him way more than I should have and helped him out of his financial mess because I was stupid and thought he loved me too.  Now I find out he has been having affairs with other women on facebook.  I think it is only through email and phone calls, but I am not sure because every time I catch him he lies about it until confronted with the evidence.  I know I should probably cut my losses and walk away, but that is not so easy when you are 45 and have been married 4 times.  If I do this I am basically looking at 40-50 years of being alone.  What man in his right mind would ever give me chance after 4 failed marriages?  I am starting to think that maybe being alone is better than living with someone who I can't trust and who obviously doesn't love me.

Hi,

You dont know you will ever find anyone.You have to keep trying.Dont EVER GIVE UP ON YOUR SELF!!!.

People are more forgiving than you think. You can find love and someone who can accept you for who you are. And I know it's scary to think that you might be alone forever... and I know when you look at my profile you'll think that my opinion doesn't really count since I'm only 21 and am having difficulties with my own love life but honestly I think the chance of finding that person that can understand you and accept you with all of your flaws is worth the risk of being alone. It may not seem like that from my inability to let go of my ex... but that's because he did understand me and did accept me for my flaws. And having that is the most amazing thing in the world. Unfortunately I messed up. I made some stupid mistakes. But everyone does. Don't give up. And don't settle for less than you deserve. Which is everything. :D

I have been their I caught him and even set up email accounts he still lied to me.  No matter our age, or our past we deserve happiness life is to short not to be.  so return the favor get yourself fixed up put up a new profile on face-book and find someone who is ready to deserve your love; or at least have a little fun letting him know how it feels.  The easiest way to get over a lover is to find a new; or so Ive been told!!! 

I totally understand.  It seems so unfair that as women get older the chances of finding someone we can love, respect, trust and believe in get slimmer and slimmer. I put up with my husband's abuse and adultry for 23 years because he had me convinced that no one else would ever want me. Since we divorced 5 years ago I have had 4 relationships that I enjoyed immensely, none of them became the one I was looking for, but I was not ready and I have decided that I would rather spend the rest of my life alone and looking, than being miserable with someone wishing I was alone and looking!

I totally agree.  He is not worth the time and effort if he is cheating.  Move on, and at least be open to the chance of someone new in your life.  Sometimes it is better to live alone, than to live with someone unfaithful.  Best Wishes.