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    Here is the deal. I Married my Wife on the 29th day of may last year. I love her dearly then, she than cheated on me emotionally with at least 3 other guys. I slowly started...
    anton88 anton88 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I am dealing with the same thing. let me start by saying i have been with my husband for 21 years married for 9. We have 4 kids age 20-13. There has always been something more...
    doglover1977 doglover1977 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 27

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    is a very sad feeling when u feel awkward around your husband, when there nothing 2 say & there no connection anymore it feels like 2 strangers :( my daughter left on a school...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    It really is amazing how hard you can focus and how much effort you can put forth, when working on something that's important to you, that you truly care about. It also makes it...
    princessmaryjane4200 princessmaryjane4200 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    My life is a sham. I am a 37 year old female and have been married to my husband for 2 years and together for 4. He has never been interested in sex with me but we did long...
    Pattycakey Pattycakey 36-40, F 13 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I always see advice from people on this board that one should seek legal counsel before they begin the journey towards ending their....well I guess legally it's termed a marriage...
    demisis demisis 36-40, M 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    It's getting old. Trying getting rejected. I try to kiss her on the lips and it ends up a peck on my cheek. Im on the edge of love and loveless. I'm desperate. Sick of feeling...
    ugho ugho 46-50, M 8 Responses Mar 27

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    my husband left to US and he will be taking me in another 2 months....and his parents are forcing me ...taking me to all their relatives house..whom I dont even know and all these...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 18 hrs ago

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    I have read many posts now, and I cannot claim to know what is the best route for others. I love my wife and I have amazing young kids, but our problem with sex goes back from...
    travelight travelight 41-45, M 16 hrs ago

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    I'm not married but I was engaged and I had to break it off it did hurt because I really loved him but I'm a sex addict and I thought I could change that and he wanted me to...
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 13 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    People keep asking me whether i'm married. Why? 1, do i look like i should be married? Or,,look like im married? With kids maybe? 😕 2, Why would my status concerns u anyway? It...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I have started living a selfless life. My son only has me and my husband (as a father figure) with whome I have a sexless marriage. The rest of his immediate family hv passed away...
    Mamta123 Mamta123 41-45, F 10 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I'm coming up on 29 years of marriage. I thought things were odd when she refused me on our wedding night, but it really was an omen of things to come. Suffice it to say it has...
    TranquilBeaches TranquilBeaches 56-60, M 21 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I don't believe in gay marriage. I believe in marriage. And I think that's between any two people that love each other. Man and man. Woman and man. Woman and woman. Or whatever you...
    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am married for only a few months now and my husband is drinking everyday and smokes weed. I knew he had this habit but never knew it was this bad. He spends a lot of money on his...
    ilhasol ilhasol 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 14 Responses Apr 10

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 6 days ago

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    So I first came to EP years ago to discuss my sexless marriage. It has not been easy, a marriage with dwindling sex and now we are close to four years since we last tried. However...
    VanillaLife VanillaLife 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I am curious, if a person is not Christian then where do the guidelines for what to do in marriage come from? This isn't meant to be antagonistic at all, it is a question I have...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 16 Responses Mar 20

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    I've been in a marriage for quite some time, but fell away from sex within my marriage about one year ago. I had been the one attempting to encourage my wife to have relations with...
    AVisionary AVisionary 36-40, M 11 Responses Mar 20

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    Another thing missing from this sexless marriage, besides intimacy, love and respect is fun and laughter. (Jeez, what exactly do I get from this marriage) I thought that I had...
    Gingersnapped Gingersnapped 51-55, F 13 Responses Mar 25

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    There are 2 whys in the sexless marriage. The first is: why does my spouse not want sex? This leads to a huge cycle of reason-chasing, smokescreening from the refuser, magical...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses Mar 26

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    Overview: Male 47 ; Australia; Dated (celibate) a young Catholic lady for seven years; Married for seven more years (sexless after honeymoon); no children (guess why); We have had...
    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    So yesterday we saw a marriage councillor. We haddn't been for a few years since before the kids came along. I was really hoping that she was going to be able to help my husband...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Almost the entire time I was in my dysfunctional marriage I kept quiet about it. I made excuses. I glossed over things. My husband drank (was an alcoholic) and no one ever knew...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 15 Responses Apr 8

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    Why does the act of making a legal contract between a man and a woman make us such deceivers in our relationships beforehand? Is it because we think no one will marry us if we are...
    Phat4Ever Phat4Ever 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Well where do I start? It didn't used to be a bad marriage when we got married 13 years ago in 2001, I was 25 and she was 24. In fact it was a very good marriage, I loved her and...
    HPeterson HPeterson 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    This is a little scary, posting about such private matters to people I've never met, but here goes. I googled sexless marriage for the first time today. What triggered it was the...
    TCKat TCKat 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 10

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    I'm 28 single and sick and tired of men who take love for granted who think marriage is a game. I want a marriage that lasts, even without love I just want a friend and his...
    monetclawed monetclawed 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    Every time I barely hear the word wedding or marriage I feel sick, disgusted, scared, uncomfortable, annoyed and aggressive. I wish I could know what it is... why does the idea...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses a week ago

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    I am a married man who is married to a wonderful woman. However she has recently told me that she wants nothing to do with sex ever again. It has been over 15 months since we have...
    Hingeman Hingeman 26-30, M 24 Responses 6 days ago

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    In case you think that Opposite Land is perfect, it isn't. No tax refund for me this year. Instead, a $6,500 tax bill due to how things worked out for me in the divorce settlement...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses 5 days ago

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...