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I Loveless Marriage

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    Love, Is It Real?

    I think about love. I wish I had true love. I think I was in love before. Love to !e is like the wind. It is there, it is real. We can not see it, but we know it is there. We can even measure it. We can see its effects. Much like the recent tornadoes where I live, it can cause...
    bobolink1 bobolink1 66-70, M 4 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Married but lonely

      I am married since 3 years and have a beautiful 18 month old baby. My husband is a nice man. He is very helpful - doing chores, taking care of baby when needed. He does not abuse me or anything like that. The problem is that we are very distant in personalities. And we are...
    nova15 nova15 31-35 Jun 25, 2012

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    This year has been one hell of a year already. After 7 years of being married, I decided that I just couldn't handle anymore of it. For the last 5 years, I have overanalyzed every...
    AloneandWantingOut AloneandWantingOut 26-30, F Sep 11

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 6 Responses Sep 15

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    Something inside of me has snapped. I can't take living in false hope, I can't take feeling pathetic in anticipation of crumbs of affection or intimacy. I'm tired waiting /hoping...
    piscean1965 piscean1965 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 21

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    Hi all, sexless marriage alumni here checking in with this amazing group of souls with an update. For 11 years I stayed in my sexless, loveless, affectionless, conversationless...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    Do marriages out of convenience actually work? I'm just curious. I can't imagine being married to someone just to make life easy or because it'll be convenient for most "people...
    lonelydinosaur lonelydinosaur 26-30, F 11 hrs ago

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    I have been married for 34 years. We stopped having sex around 5 years ago. I am the husband. My wife tells me she just isn't interested in sex anymore. She knows I am not the kind...
    Leo502K Leo502K 61-65 19 Responses 2 days ago

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    While sexless it is not loveless. I often am ashamed because I don't always "get past" my own physical needs. Here's a little background. My wife, while not "touchy feely" is a...
    expromiscuous expromiscuous 41-45 5 Responses Sep 17

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    Anniversary came and went with me sleeping alone. Why am I surprised? She stayed on a conference call half the night and barely said a word to me. I know it is sexless but is it...
    philosdaddy philosdaddy 41-45, M 14 Responses Sep 18

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    Hello , I'm 27yo. And looking for lesbian/asexual North Indian girl (Hindu) with age 22-28. It's for MOC only . I'm well educated and living in California for now. Parents in...
    amda5 amda5 26-30, M 11 hrs ago

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    Push, Push, Push … That is the main instruction for childbirth according to the Starfleet manual (see TNG episode “Disaster”, when Worf helps Keiko give birth). It is also...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 13 Responses Sep 15

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    I have failed my my wife. It took an entire year for me to be able to admit that or even see it. For the last year it's been "my wife is selfish" or "my wife is unreasonable." But...
    TonyM323 TonyM323 36-40, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses 3 days ago

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 15

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 19

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses Sep 15

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses Sep 14

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 19

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 21

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    I feel like this experience us turning me into an emotional Jekyll and Hide... In the morning, when domestic life goes on as it must, I feel inclined to be patient, more forgiving...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am so exhausted from the roller coaster. Not enough sex, talk to my husband about it. Fights and tries to blame me so make whatever changes but ultimately promises it will get...
    newdaynewway newdaynewway 46-50, F 7 Responses Aug 30

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    I believe that it takes a lot of patience to continue to feel ignored, feel less then a equal partner, and not have our sexual desires fulfilled. I believe that marriage is a...
    kay0122 kay0122 41-45, F 7 Responses Sep 2

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    I've finally very courageously laid all our problems out and asked him for separation. I let him know there's something wrong when you and I have not been intimate in over 4 years...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 3

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    I feel I can not carry this burden of sadness any longer,my marriage has been lonely for so long.My husband and I had not been intimate for years he did not approach me avoided and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 5

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    I did not write the following but it is a great take on what an open marriage is like and what it should be like. I found this article at Salon.com. What I learned from dating...
    sosexyincolo sosexyincolo 36-40 2 Responses Sep 11

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    As part of my core belief of continuous improvement and growth, I want to improve my marriage and relationship with my wife. Like most marriages I assume, we have our ups and...
    spiritnow spiritnow 41-45, M Sep 16

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    Hi, I'm new here and thought I would reach out and share my story. I found EP from an article on the website when I was looking up sexless marriage. I signed up to read the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 16 Responses Sep 19

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    Coercion. Years ago I read about husbands forcing their wives to perform a certain sex act (named at the end of this story for those curious) under the threat of divorce. It was...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 17 Responses 4 days ago

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    I’ve been reading sexless marriage posts for a while now (being in one myself). In a way the experience of reading these posts is like beginning to recognize it as a hydra - the...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I can't stand it any longer. Last night I had a date night with my wife after dropping my oldest boy off for homecoming. We took a bunch of pictures. At dinner, I realized I...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 17 Responses 2 days ago

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    As a guy it is difficult to wait because we have a biological predisposition to mate often, but society says that's bad. Before the concept of marriage, our species did what it...
    LifeDispenser LifeDispenser 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 30

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    Neglect - One of the most important things I've learned from my decision to end my sexless marriage is that I will never again tolerate being neglected by my partner. We all...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Aug 30

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    Not really an experience, more of a question. If the marriage has gone so far that you are or have separated / divorced, what was the reason listed? I'm struggling with listing...
    brian29715 brian29715 36-40, M 8 Responses Sep 1

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    I don't just live in a sexless so-called marriage. I live in a dead and humiliating marriage. It's never been any more than what it is now. I need to learn to see my spouse as he...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 10 Responses Sep 1

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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