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I Loveless Marriage

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    Married but lonely

      I am married since 3 years and have a beautiful 18 month old baby. My husband is a nice man. He is very helpful - doing chores, taking care of baby when needed. He does not abuse me or anything like that. The problem is that we are very distant in personalities. And we are...
    nova15 nova15 31-35 Jun 25, 2012

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    Love, Is It Real?

    I think about love. I wish I had true love. I think I was in love before. Love to !e is like the wind. It is there, it is real. We can not see it, but we know it is there. We can even measure it. We can see its effects. Much like the recent tornadoes where I live, it can cause...
    bobolink1 bobolink1 66-70, M 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    I have been living in a sexless marriage now for about 2 years, but a loveless marriage for 14 years..I'm attractive to everyone but my husband, and I couldn't feel More lonely...
    Lonelygirl75 Lonelygirl75 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22

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    Be married for 20+ yrs and for 10 of them it has be loveless.
    Bettyjb Bettyjb 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    For about a year I've been considering divorcing my wife of nearly 8 years. Our relationship has never been great. We are great friends, but horrible lovers/spouses. We do things...
    randomtiger45 randomtiger45 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I've been married for 7 years to an ACOA and recovering alcoholic. The issues were hidden for a long time, even his alcoholism was only truly realized about 3 years ago. As soon as...
    tejpreet9 tejpreet9 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    I am not only against gay marriage, but against all kinds of civil marriage. I think only religious marriage should exist. What happens to kids then? When a couple has a child...
    gio36 gio36 36-40, M 9 hrs ago

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    I had sex with my boyfriend after almost two years together I knew it was right because it just happened out of no where and that's the best when things happen and are unexpected I...
    Personaljournal14 Personaljournal14 18-21, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    Interesting article on obesity and its effect on people's sex lives. "Readers first encounter Englehardt at her heaviest, 265 pounds, strapped to a CPAP machine for sleep apnea...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Marriage is a huge leap of faith! If more people took their vows seriously than there would be less cases of divorce. Anyone who's married know that it's not easy & a lot of work...
    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    ive been married for 13 years , the last 3 years have been totally loveless in everyway , my wife wont even look at me , i excercise everyday and take care of my body , try and...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 14 Responses Jun 25

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    I am in a loveless, sexless marriage with a woman I love very much - she will not return the favor...
    Artcoo Artcoo 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 25

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    If my (soon to be) marriage changes, do I remove myself from this group? Anyways, we have been weed free for 7 days. He has been genuinely putting in effort to have sex with me and...
    wantingtobehappy84 wantingtobehappy84 22-25, F 9 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I am a South East Asian Indian. There are a lot of things that I like about my country but this is not one of them. In villages girls often get married between the age 12 and 18...
    ash3426 ash3426 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 22

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    After reading some posts here about renowned marriage/relationship researcher John Gottman (the one who says the "Four Horsemen -- contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling and...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jun 23

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    I had a arrange marriage…the very next day mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    To me, marriage is TOO binding. Honestly, how many people can actually be happy together forever? The answer is 50%. half of marriages end in divorce. I believe that being in an...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 13 Responses Jul 14

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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    When I first came here about a year ago, I was so naive. I was living for many years in a sexless marriage, and wanted to find out what I could do to change and make our marriage...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jun 22

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    The Next Bit Starts With You. Here you are, having joined this group. You've already attempted "scented candles" strategies, "counselling" strategies, "REALLY talking to them...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24

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    Final Meeting with the Marriage Counselor - I went to my last marriage counseling session today. My H and the therapist don't know I'm not coming back again because they're not...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Jun 25

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    A funny story. The day after our D-Day (when I confronted my husband about his affair, and he ended it), my husband and I met with our priest. We told him we wanted to stay...
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    I have no idea how to balance anything in this marriage anymore. There is zero intimacy in our marriage and every time I bring it up it is always, "we have no intimacy in our...
    glammjunkie glammjunkie 22-25, F Jun 27

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    I never understood why people are against gay marriage. What happened to separation of church and state? Religion should have nothing to do with whether or not two consenting and...
    lak27 lak27 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
    marcz7 marcz7 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 4

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
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    FR3DR1CKA FR3DR1CKA 16-17, F Jun 24

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    I think the hardest thing for me, looking back on how I got into a sexless marriage, was that it was a long slow process (a death by a thousand cuts). In some ways it would have...
    runninginthedark70 runninginthedark70 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 25

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    Every time someone hears that i am in a DD marriage all they focus on is i am spanked . Well that is just one part of it .Yes i am spanked but thats not the only punishment i am...
    isubmittohim79 isubmittohim79 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    What does a normal, happy marriage look like? I've been comparing and contrasting my relationship with my husband vs my relationship with my AP. Husband: Separate rooms for 7...
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      I feel I have mentally checked out of this marriage months ago. I keep trying to deny my feelings and think everything is okay and not that bad. I am tired of being...
    Goddess65 Goddess65 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    A Bucket Filled With Tools And Getting Closer Again The crisis between my wife and myself started around Christmas and came to a terrible high at New Years eve. I left the family...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 29

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