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I Loveless Marriage

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    Love, Is It Real?

    I think about love. I wish I had true love. I think I was in love before. Love to !e is like the wind. It is there, it is real. We can not see it, but we know it is there. We can even measure it. We can see its effects. Much like the recent tornadoes where I live, it can cause...
    bobolink1 bobolink1 66-70, M 4 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Married but lonely

      I am married since 3 years and have a beautiful 18 month old baby. My husband is a nice man. He is very helpful - doing chores, taking care of baby when needed. He does not abuse me or anything like that. The problem is that we are very distant in personalities. And we are...
    nova15 nova15 31-35 Jun 25, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    My husband and I are in a loveless marriage. He actually doesn't even like me. I want him to leave, and I have even encouraged him to move on. Here lies the problem. We have a 7...
    Rainbowdash1276 Rainbowdash1276 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Okay, so after several arfairs on both our parts, and me getting on some meds for mental health, me and my wife decided to give it a serious try and save our 10 yr mariage. Foor...
    Rednkfireftr Rednkfireftr 31-35, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    Why Did We Get Married? - My STBX continues to struggle with my decision to divorce him, yet my conviction to break free grows stronger everyday since I triggered our divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Aug 17

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    You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is...
    Brandnue Brandnue 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Marriage is not always easy. Nothing is always easy. However, when you say those marriage vows, you are making a promise to God and to the one you are marrying that you will be...
    chellekaye chellekaye 46-50 Aug 10

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 14

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses 4 days ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 17

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    I got married at 16 and my husband was 26, and there were a lot of people that said it would never last. Although most of my family were supportive I know behind my back there...
    Redneckmom1992 Redneckmom1992 22-25, F Aug 18

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    Broken Home - I'm intrigued by a recent post from LaoTzu about the definition of a "broken home". Many of us have stayed in our dysfunctional marriages and opted not to divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 18

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    I just came to EP, looking for solace as a OW. I found myself looking at "I live in a sexless marriage" stories. Made me think, 49k people have something to say. Maybe, just maybe...
    greeneyes41 greeneyes41 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    Some thoughts on forgiveness. When I first posted here 3 years ago, I was struggling with forgiveness. My situation is very unusual for this place, in being a "success" story...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 10 Responses Aug 13

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have been married for 15 years. The crossdressing came out about 8 years ago. I was really supportive and loving about it. Felt sorry for Husband that he had had to hide it all...
    LadyLana39 LadyLana39 51-55, F 6 Responses Aug 1

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    My Story Part 2 About a year I could not face the reality... I thought it all was happening to somebody else and I was just watching... at the same time my country collapsed in...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F Aug 1

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    Hi Pretty bold of me to do this huh? Well I know what I want and I know what I'm ready for... and perhaps you are in the same boat? I'm 35 I've spent several years in long term...
    lakewood45 lakewood45 31-35 Aug 3

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    I'm Letting Go: I'm choosing to let go of the resentment, bitterness, anger, hurt, and everything else that is toxic to the successful transformation of my marriage. In just one...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 18 Responses Aug 4

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    I've been married for almost one year and we've fought before the marriage and after marriage countless times. We've spent 8 years together and the last 5 years was amazing and now...
    qoep qoep 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    Hello...I just joined and I'm in a sexless marriage...UGH...I'm not really happy being in this marriage..this is not what I want in a marriage..there is no closeness with my...
    kimmmmmy kimmmmmy 41-45, F 31 Responses Aug 5

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    Swingers. Bi in open marriage. Crapperheads. Am bi. But respect marriage. Disgusted by them that dont. Marriage is lifelong. Not some tax or housing perk...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 6

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    Hello everyone. I've not been here in over a year. If you read my other two post then I can tell you that nothing has changed. Same S different day as they say. It is now my...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 6

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    I am in a sexless marriage that leaves that part of me completely unsatisfied, yet i cannot leave my husband because i love and respect him in every other way... I have a very high...
    AphroditeComplex AphroditeComplex 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 9

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    It's not really about the sex. It's more about the lack of emotional intimacy. Sex can be found easily enough, but if you are lacking the emotional connection, there is no good way...
    LonelyRiss LonelyRiss 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 11

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    I'm a woman age 40 in a sexless marriage. Married almost four years and I bet we haven't even had sex two dozen times; sleep in separate beds, but I love him still. Well, I've...
    blondi73 blondi73 36-40, F 9 Responses Aug 14

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    Here goes...I found EP doing a search about sexless marriages so here I am, my first story. I've been married 15 years to a man who in the beginning had me believing he could not...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 14 Responses Aug 15

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    Through my failed marriage, I've concluded that, despite the already recognized different classification of personalities, humans fall into two main person types: Selfless and...
    lovegentle lovegentle 36-40, M 8 Responses Aug 17

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    The Finish Line … I left my marriage of 13 years a year ago this month. Legally, I am separated and in the process of finalizing the divorce. Emotionally, the last 12 months...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 18

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    Life after ILIASM I used to be a regular here. I found this group was very supportive and it really helped me regain some perspective and find the courage to leave my relationship...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 19

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    Used to think i was going to meet a perfect girl, someone i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Used to think i'd get married and everything will be just fine, but that...
    jafetgx jafetgx 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 12 Responses Aug 22

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    These are just random thoughts of mine recently as I have gone about my journey. Probably not very clear, so apologies if its a rough read:) My divorce was absolutely the hardest...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 23

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    I just recently found out that my husband is talking to several women online....in a very sexual way. He apologized and regrets it.... We talked it out and want to grow from that...
    Brownie27 Brownie27 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 23

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    I met my husband in the 7th grade but we didn't connect until high school. I became pregnant in our Senior year and we were married while still in school (a week to the day after...
    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead 51-55, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    For those of you who have been following my SM, you know that I've been struggling with depression and low self esteem. For the past few years I've been struggling with ADHD...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm new here. I've been reading stories and honestly felt better that I wasn't alone. I'm angry about my marriage. I feel like I could write a book called 101 reasons why I don't...
    silvermoonflower silvermoonflower 31-35, F 15 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have been denied sex by my wife for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 5 days ago

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    I am so exhausted from the roller coaster. Not enough sex, talk to my husband about it. Fights and tries to blame me so make whatever changes but ultimately promises it will get...
    newdaynewway newdaynewway 46-50, F 7 Responses 1 day ago