I 'm Afraid to Let People Get Close to Me

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    Every time I get comfortable with someone,

    they always leave. Even when they save they're not going to leave, they do. I'm afraid to get close with anyone because they always end up leaving me and I'm always alone.
    thatlonelygirl69 thatlonelygirl69
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    Me too i can only toleraite playing the fool

    role so many times before i say why do i even go there knowing the outcome but know i go there anyway thinking maybe not this time then bam ive lost the game 1 too many times
    mbbeck67 mbbeck67
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Apr 5

    I am a hopeless romantic.

    i watch tons of romantic movies. valentine day is my special day. i like to do handmade stuff for my lover and cook (simple food only) for him too. I am sweet person. However, i can be really selfish and terrible. when my boyfriends could not tolerate me anymore, we ended up...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 16

    Its just a fact for me I have trust issues

    people and society. Ive been lied too, Cheated on and ripped off too many times in life. So its hard for me to trust. I try but it takes time and yes its a slow and steady pace. Once trust is built and I let you become close, im the most loyal guy youll ever meet.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    I've been betrayed and hurt by almost every

    person I cared about and who I thought cared about me. It's sad that the person who stabs you in the back, was the one who was supposed to be protecting it.
    Kittygirl17 Kittygirl17
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Sep 10, 2015

    I am actually a firm believe

    that most people are selfish by nature. I say this as someone who has had so many people come and go in my life who have shown me that unless I'm there to pick them up and be their emotional dumping ground, they have no other use for me in their lives. If I called them out on it...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 7, 2015

    I'm so afraid to find

    that love that everyone dreams about, for someone to light a fire in me that changes be entirely. Im afraid that's once we marry, every thing he loved about me becomes everything he hates. I'm afraid he will eventually despise me. I don't want to be married but not in love...
    Booklover143 Booklover143
    16-17
    1 Response Apr 7

    I'm of afraid of getting hurt

    so I shut people out if I feel I'm getting too attached. If I can prevent a broken heart then I will.
    foreveralone22 foreveralone22
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    I have previously let people get close to me,

    Ive opened up my heart and mind to them and then in return they just eventually leave. I cannot pin point what I am doing wrong to make them all turn their backs on me when I need them most. This has now allowed me to build a wall, to push people away before I open my mind to...
    SeekingHappiness93 SeekingHappiness93
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Oct 7, 2015

    because I'm always the one

    that gets back stabbed or hurt..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 17, 2015

    the closer they r to u.

    ..the closer for them to hurt u.with that,I started losing my trust to people around me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    I am afraid to let people get close to me

    because I'm so afraid that they only want something from me or the friendship is a joke. I've been in a relationship that the only reason they dated me was because it was a joke. I know that there are a lot of caring and genuine people in the world but I've been hurt so much...
    ShawnaMae123 ShawnaMae123
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 12

    ANTONELLA IS GONE FOR GOOD .

    ... I believe I have already written about Antonella and how we became very good friends and even went on holidays together. I became her shoulder to cry on, he confidant, her counsillor and she came to know me as her MOST loyal, trusting, safe friend to spend time with. She...
    LozzyFromRome LozzyFromRome
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Mar 1
    angelina33 angelina33
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 5

    every girl i liked i would always **** her off

    when she would start to notice how ****** up i am, and i cant let people close to me coz i feel i will make somebody sad..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 5

    We all have been hurt one time

    or another, i myself keep distance from everyone. A broken ๐Ÿ’” is not my cup of tea. So if i seem uninterested you now know why. But i have lived and learned like everyone else. Pick myself up and scooched along๐Ÿ˜Ž
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 12

    The reason I don't share about my life with

    people, especially friends and family, is because everything I confessed has been used against me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    true. I mean I'm 21 now

    and the only person basically I'm friends with is my boyfriend literally don't **** with other people.
    L0nerSt0ner L0nerSt0ner
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 24

    Over the last few weeks I can feel my heart

    getting harder and colder. Guilt tries to break through and make me feel like it's wrong but I can't let it. I need to do this. Every insult, every lie, mixes the concrete hardening my arteries and veins. Yes, I guess it's like drinking poison and waiting for the other person...
    js246 js246
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 16

    I don't have much family

    or friends left. Out of 6 other siblings of mine, only my brother, my sister and I are left. I don't have my biological parents around, but I do have the honor of being a part of two lovely people's lives and I'm grateful they adopted me.
    QueenxChance QueenxChance
    18-21, F
    Feb 12

    I don't like to get close

    because I don't like to let go.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 6, 2014

    We are all searching

    for someone, who's demons play well with ours.
    alexxvaunlennon101 alexxvaunlennon101
    22-25, F
    Dec 29, 2014

    because growing up time

    after time ive lost people who get close to me and find it hard to recover and trust again each time
    Sbabyface Sbabyface
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2015

    If this was a few years ago then sure,

    but now I don't even let people I've know most my life know anything about me or my problems, it makes me feel weak and there's no way I'm going back that way. I pretty much will push everyone away either at the start or after a while. The reason I tell people online really deep...
    MrBugsyMalone MrBugsyMalone
    16-17, M
    1 Response Feb 13

    My mom threw me out of the house four years ago

    for not cleaning enough when I was suffering from depression, going to school and working part-time. I spent time with her for the first time today, and although she regrets our broken relationship she says she has nothing to be sorry for. I thought I could stop being broken...
    TodayINeedACoffee TodayINeedACoffee
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    I should have trusted my instinct never to let

    anyone get close to me again. I already told you I dont want you near Coz when I fall in love and you break my heart, I got no shoulder to cry on to Now, I am in pain and I am completely alone
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 26, 2015

    because I feel like I told me story

    and my real problems too much and people that I'm close to think I should get over it but how can I do that if I can all of sudden I'm depression and want to hurt myself and they just tired of the excuses and I'm wouldn't be mad at them, I'm kinda sick of telling the same thing...
    tangie00 tangie00
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 14, 2015
    freespiritgal2777 freespiritgal2777
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 10, 2015

    I used to chase boys,

    I used to beg them to stay when I wasn't enough for them, but those boys changed me. I don't chase anybody anymore. I don't chase the ones I like, I just watch them from a distant, and let this moment last awhile before I walk away because if I were to chase him, eventually, he...
    vf702 vf702
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 14, 2015

    every time I do it bites me in the ***,

    but I ignored my instinct with this and got destroyed. let them in, teach them how to demolish your heart, and watch it happen.
    kk1874 kk1874
    31-35, F
    Mar 21

    I hate it when people get close to me.

    Because I always think they'll judge me
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 24, 2015

    you know why? because the moment you finally

    let them in, they destroy you.
    mystiere13 mystiere13
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Oct 26, 2015

    I don't know why. I'm fine with knowing someone

    on a superficial, surface level, but as soon as they try to start getting to know me personally, I get really uncomfortable, and I usually clam up and be quiet. I've had three people now tell me that this makes me look like I'm overly dismissive and that I don't care. I don't...
    JeffreyDallas JeffreyDallas
    18-21, M
    Dec 16, 2015

    not gonna right a lot on this one,

    but yes I have a bf but no I don't feel anything for him. I am a bad person. I cheat and use him cos I'm selfish. and I don't open up to him or anyone. I have good close friends but nobody gets me really. I am a victim of childhood rape and maybe it's that but I find it...
    CheatingTracy CheatingTracy
    22-25, F
    11 Responses Mar 2, 2015

    I hate getting close to someone

    and they turn. I'm always watching my back...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 29

    I really like this guy.

    . there is a part of me that wants to hop on a bus and meet him at his doorstep. There is another piece of me that is scared for my life. I am afraid things will go too fast and we will hate each other or that he'll find someone better. All of these thoughts make me paranoid.
    RebekahWriter13 RebekahWriter13
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 4

    I met this girl online

    and she's absolutely ******* amazing I love everything about her. We've been hanging out almost every day for the last 2 months and this is the happiest I've been in years. We started off as just smoke buddies but then one day we were just chilling watching Dr Who and out of the...
    DeathByPandemic DeathByPandemic
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Jul 1, 2015

    when I let people in it feels like I'm just

    going to be another disappointment to them and I usually am 99.9% of the time
    sadmistak3 sadmistak3
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    People leave me. All the f**king time.

    My family members did. My friends did. Everyone. There hasn't been a single person who's stuck by me long enough. And so I learnt through all the hurt, betrayals, backstabbing, etc., to never trust people. I do have a best friend, but to be honest, she's only my good-weather...
    smotheredlungs smotheredlungs
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Sep 9, 2015

    I want so badly to be carefree

    and just be able to let myself love him and show effection. But i just can't. i tried.. but nothing works. I am afraid it will end the same as my last one. I am very friendly yet i wont let you in. Im afriad that you will leave and hurt me Yet i know logically it wouldn't...
    learellie learellie
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 29, 2015

    After months of isolation,

    I feel like I've lost my ability to interact with people. I feel like I wouldn't know what to say when I meet new people and that they're always going to be judging my every move. My past experiences have also made me fearful of even trying to make friends in real life. Afraid...
    Silh0uettes Silh0uettes
    16-17, M
    1 Response Mar 4

    And I don't mean with love.

    I "make friends easy" according to my mom, but I'm just friendly. To really be my friend, you've got to prove yourself. My best friend I've known since i was 4 we even have the same name i don't tell her all my secrets.
    Countrybae Countrybae
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2015

    I've been damaged mentally by

    so many people in my life that when I go thru pain or disappointment I grieve in private but act like I'm OK. This terrible mindset I developed made me hide all my pain cause I was afraid that they will use it against me. I met a guy and he he always ask me about my life and I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    I have been talking a lot lately about how I

    want someone to talk to who relates to me and what not, but I've realized that I don't really try to reach out. I think on some level I'm actually really afraid of finding someone who relates to me and actually communicates with me in a comfortable way. I'm afraid because I don...
    Zbeara Zbeara
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    The one thing about being an addict is the way

    people respond to you when you tell them. Before I got this addiction i was pretty much a loner. I found happiness watching my grandchild grow up and being involved in her life. A young military couple moved next door to me and we became good friends other than that no one.After...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 4

    I've always acted dismissive

    and like I don't care for no reason and I've realised that I do actually care what people think of me an extent where I'm afraid of opening up and showing them the real me.
    11kuvirasha 11kuvirasha
    16-17, F
    Feb 18

    I also push the closest people to me away

    because I'm always so afraid to get hurt anymore. like I would consider myself at this point in my life I'm a very open person but there are just certain things and sometimes everything I just shut away because I don't want people to care because in my experience the more I let...
    ShawnaMae123 ShawnaMae123
    18-21, F
    Mar 11

    Don't you dare get close to me ,

    I won't let you in , I get attached too easily and I hate it. How many friendships have I had !??they all let me down and left me when I needed them the most and what happened to the one person I LOVED , he's gone and out of my life so easily almost like we never met. Don't you...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 26, 2015

    I am still in dream..

    . I like to I expecting Everyday I wanna have coffee and cigarettes in my dream....
    skyglad skyglad
    22-25, M
    Apr 15
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 9, 2015

    Because then they seem to disappear.

    Why get close to someone when all they ever do is leave. Leaving you behind to pick up the pieces.
    jrf9782 jrf9782
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Oct 6, 2015

    Every person I have allowed in my has hurt me.

    I started to think it was them, but then I realized I allowed them to do the things they did. Now I am at a point to where I wont get to close. Just when it starts to look like the person is showing genuine interest in me I pull away slowly. Feeling as if they will hurt me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    I have too many instances

    where I let someone close to me just to see them walk away from me when it was something that was out of my control. my mom is a insensitive person that never thinks about her actions before she does them and oppressed me for so many years. there so many things I wasn't allowed...
    marckengenie1 marckengenie1
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 21

    every time I let people get close,

    they find someone new and forget that I even exist...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 9, 2015

    Sometimes I'm more afraid

    that I'd end up hurting the other person more than they hurt me..
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 17, 2015

    Because I afraid they will disappear someday.

    Like I've lost the one who was trying to get closer to me then left with many lies..
    kimlys kimlys
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 8

    I never like the idea of friends come to my home

    nor know my address. I avoid topic about family, relationship and about myself. I've always have anxiety everytime my friends tell i'm their bff or behaving like i would be there for them when their down. I'm good listener, the one who make a gag and never judge anyone, maybe...
    sunflaw sunflaw
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 13

    I am so desperately scared of getting close to

    someone. My father molested me as a child. My mother beat me. The first guy I "fell in love with" abused me. Now I isolate myself from any real relationships. Sometimes the loneliness becomes suffocating, but I don't even know how to come about being a normal person with friends...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 16

    People who mean the world to you,

    just have to leave from your life. You watch your closest friends leave at a distance. One by one. They walk down to another path by themselves. They don't even have the urge look back. They disappear. You, on the other hand, try to painstakingly walk away with steps that barely...
    Violetblossoms Violetblossoms
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 24, 2015
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