I 'm Always Trying to Understand Why

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    Why I am expected to do everything

    for everyone and nothing for myself
    NoUsernameInserted NoUsernameInserted
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 1, 2015

    Especially things I don't understand.

    I think the biggest thing is people getting turned on by things. I suppose it's because I'm an asexual, but I'm always asking my boyfriend, why do you like this, and why is this a turn on? I hope it's not too annoying.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 18, 2014

    Things have gotten weird.

    I'm dating a 55yo. I'm happy. I like him. Today my mum comes in saying a woman with such complicated issues with their dad has no business dating a man old enough to be her father. Saying I'm messing up my life. That I will regret being with him. Sayin that if he knew my...
    thebeautifulprincess thebeautifulprincess
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 23, 2015

    I do try to understand why

    but I go by and this quote is a true as can be "things happen for a reason". Makes me feel so much better that what ever life throws at me it happened to either give me a lesson to experience different situations so I can learn and grow as a person.
    AliChan25 AliChan25
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 13

    I've been doing "clinical hours" at an

    elementary school for the past 3 weeks. The other day as the kindergarten kids came out for recess I noticed a few were already either very overweight, or possible even obese. I may not like kids, especially little kids.. but when I see little kids that are already very...
    Brody1530 Brody1530
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 10, 2014
    Pariah1984 Pariah1984
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 24

    Sometimes you hold so tight it slips right

    through your hands... I can't sleep. It's 3 am and I can't stop thinking about what I have no control over . How come we run into familiar faces all the time we don't care to run into , yet the one person we would like to cross paths with exists in the same town like a stranger...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 17, 2015

    I am usually a person

    who always wants to understand why things happen and until I understand I feel bad. And even sometimes after. I keep feeling like I can't handle when I make mistakes. I've had one friend who treated me like a stupid kid and I hadn't had many people respect me keep thinking it's...
    Blueberrybliss Blueberrybliss
    22-25, F
    Aug 29, 2015


    I always look at people and try work out why they do certain things and why behave that way as this is the biggest question especially in psychology! Not what,when,who,how, where but WHY Everyone is trying to find the answer to everything, looking for reasons with explanations...
    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2013

    Why once you understand something you have to

    realize you'll understand it differently in 5 years.
    ksbobmst ksbobmst
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jul 29, 2015

    I am always trying to understand why.

    If I don't understand it then i'd rather not know it.
    Louisaxxx Louisaxxx
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 31, 2014

    It's definitely a curse of mine,

    or at least it used to be. Sometimes there is no explanation for why things happen, sometimes they just DO. The one thing I understand with complete clarity is myself and i know that I am hard to grasp for other people, I am somewhere between states. I dont fit the parameters...
    MidnightKissesOnYourClosedEyes MidnightKissesOnYourClosedEyes
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 10, 2014

    Trying to understand

    why things have ended up the way they are. When I was made this way and what the plan is for me. Some days can be really confusing trying to figure out ones self. Everyday seems like I need to be self reflective to keep my emotions and mental state in check. Why does it have...
    beenhereb4 beenhereb4
    26-30, F
    Feb 16, 2015

    We can accept just about any deformity at all.

    They are visible to the eye. The mind can conceive the limp as having an origin. The one deformity, even though physical, that a mind cannot accept is behaviour. We continue to separate 'mind' from the physical even though the neurotransmitters, neurons and all chemical action...
    jeresey jeresey
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2014

    When people say something,

    they usually do that for a reason, even when they often say "Nevermind" or something similar afterwards. I am a curious person and often would like to know the reason for it.
    Evened Evened
    41-45, M
    Aug 2, 2014

    Silencing To Comfort

    I have always tried to be silent when others do not know what is going on in the world around them or if it makes them uncomfortable. About a year ago I stopped doing this. I just couldnt keep being quiet about things that genuinely mattered to me. This is when I started doing...
    Canadianwithirish Canadianwithirish
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 27, 2013

    PLEASE TELL ME WHY i should find a profile pic

    of your pr..i..ck attractive?
    indigowitch indigowitch
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2014

    My friends always scold me

    for asking to much. But sometimes I just need to know whyyyyyy
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 15, 2015
    louris louris
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 16, 2015

    Why haven't we had an alien invasion yet?

    LOL. Are humans not good enough to conquer?
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 30, 2015

    I would like to ask you a certain things about

    how cheating works, Im an extremely monogamous person, which means even when was in a relationship the first time, I couldn't cheat on my girlfriend(21, i was very young when i first had an emotional bond with a girl, never had an emotional bond before). And sexually there is...
    mackysidhu mackysidhu
    26-30, M
    Jun 9, 2015

    I'm always wondering what people think about me.

    I wish I could relate to all the readers and get their opinion, but I don't know how to approach it.
    mermaids312 mermaids312
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 9, 2015

    I've just come to admit

    that I know why. I am why.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits
    22-25, M
    Jan 15, 2015

    This is my most asked question,

    I love learning facts, understanding why something is the way it is and just getting details
    ElissaAcosta ElissaAcosta
    18-21, F
    Jan 15, 2015

    It makes me a disturbingly silent person at

    times because there's so much activity going on behind my eyelids.
    RainbowLoveFire RainbowLoveFire
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2014

    What's with the can you rate me thing?

    Just saw a girl whose age is between 15-17, or something like that, and she's asking to be rated..to each His own...but when men in their 30's-50's are getting in on the rating and saying disgusting things it makes me wonder. A pretty young lady and these old farts are saying...
    MeLBear133 MeLBear133
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2015

    β€œHe who has a why to live

    for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 4, 2014

    There are various things in my life

    that confuse me. Why can I no longer do 100 pushups at a time? Why does it seem like there's more unrest nowadays then there was in the past? Why do people make fun of people just for having odd interests? Sometimes, thinking about this stuff gets me really mad and I have to...
    nightpatroller78 nightpatroller78
    26-30, M
    1 Response Sep 1, 2014

    And I've come to the conclusion

    that ( bro-sith ) chill..... lol.
    deleted deleted
    Dec 15, 2015

    why doesn't my **** work?

    aaaaaaaaahh! !!!!!
    jenna3 jenna3
    22-25, T
    7 Responses Dec 30, 2015


    In the constant search for knowledge and wisdom and trying to learn everything, there is no reason not to ask why. You can only learn more, be prepared for more, be interested and passionate for more things. With so much in the world that cannot be answered, questioning is the...
    SweetbriarPoet SweetbriarPoet
    26-30, F
    Jun 30, 2008

    You're the one that's not suppose to make me

    cry, I'm getting way too attached and I feel like I like you way more idk I don't wanna be left behind if that makes sense. I just want to know why...
    LiesGreedMisery LiesGreedMisery
    22-25, F
    Jan 15, 2015

    Sometimes I look at my ep profile pic to make

    sure I don't have the words "message me I'm horny" on my forehead. Or "perverts only"..smh...I realize what some people are here for, and that's cool, I respect that...but please tell me why you would message me telling me you're horny or that you want to know if I wear...
    MeLBear133 MeLBear133
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2014

    I try to reason why someone would act in a

    certain why, rather than judging their actions. I believe theres deeper roots to why we act in anyway, sometimes its sensivity, insecurity, anger, revenge, even when you are too happy you might tend to accept or ignore everything because you dont want to ruin your mood. These...
    deleted deleted
    May 4, 2015

    When someone says something random not like

    super random but actually feels like they are going somewhere with it then I wonder why they would bring it up....Are they trying to hurt me? Do they even know how I would feel about bringing that up right infront of me? I would love to understand.
    Raptax231 Raptax231
    22-25, M
    1 Response Oct 20, 2014

    It's like everything

    that is said is sugar coated which it makes it hurt that much more when the truth comes out.
    chris1225 chris1225
    18-21, M
    Jan 19, 2015
    MeLBear133 MeLBear133
    36-40, F
    Feb 24, 2015

    I believe in a scientific explanation

    for everything - for every reaction there's a corresponding and equal counter reaction. So I ponder a lot and try to fathom reason.
    PeterSp8 PeterSp8
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jun 6, 2015

    I don't understand why the things are really

    happening to me only.. Eventually I can't understand and obviously it makes me feel confused.
    borntolive19 borntolive19
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 31, 2015

    I need advice; guy dropped bombshell

    after over a year of hunting me constantly that he was only trying to have sex with me. Would a guy really pursue a girl and tell her he loves her all in over a year, if he didn't mean it? Why would he pursue me for OVER a year, tell me he loves me, and then say for the entire...
    mermaids312 mermaids312
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 1, 2015

    don't read into things.

    ..i do try. but its my nature to want to understand all that happens around me. the people who are important to me are ones I am desperate to understand. the woman i fell in love with..some days its so hard to know where i stand. yeah you have stated, you love me. I dont want...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    Apr 10

    I always try to understand

    why someone that loves someone can hit them and call them names and put bad memories into my head at the same time
    miamousley miamousley
    13-15, F
    1 Response May 17, 2015

    Who would like to hear an unbelievable story of

    bad luck? Here we go, I am a caregiver to my elderly grandma. I am the one who takes her to her Dr appt. Due to my recent divorce I am without transportation so I had to borrow a car from a family member. (Can you imagine a hoopdy, jalopy, crapster car? Yes, that is me and my...
    Becface112 Becface112
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 11

    Now that the pink cloud is wearing thin

    once again, I'm left with a looming question in my mind, why? Why does life give us a taste of things we cannot have, or present goals that appear to hold the keys to our happiness- yet seem almost unattainable? Futile to pursue. Why are we so often blind to simple solutions...
    Anonymouself Anonymouself
    41-45, M
    Feb 5, 2014
    deleted deleted
    Aug 31, 2015

    Why do we hurt the ones

    that love us the most? But love the ones who hurt us?
    unknown413 unknown413
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 22, 2015

    Finding the cause is better

    than treating the symptoms.
    LunaInvicta LunaInvicta
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2014

    I don't understand why at 16 I should be

    worried about were I'm going to live, how in going to get to school, and how to pay the bills. I shouldn't be worried about being homeless, it's constantly in my mind at every moment I'm awake. It's not okay 😞 I want out..
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 31, 2015
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