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I M Learning Not to Be a Victim Anymore

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 87 People

    Time to Take Control

    Most of my life I have been victimized, mostly by men and I have let it happen. Of course I have also bben a victim of life too so to speak because I always thought things just happened to me. Well I am standing up and taking charge more of my life now. I am...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Responsibility For My Self

    Ive finally quit  trying to blame everyone else for my own downfalls and unhappiness ...Like my  husband ... Granted he didnt support my wellness ..  but i could have left any time i wanted but i just wasnt strong enough  yet ...  but ive since learned so...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2007

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    Oh Yes

    Too many years I walked around head down shoulders slumped blaming everything on my abusive childhood. But then it was like at what point did the crossover happen and when did I become responsible for not wallowing in my own misery like a pig in the cool mud on a hot day anymore...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Victimhood And Depression

    I have struggled with depression on and off my entire life. I've noticed that when I'm feeling depressed many times I can trace it back to feeling like a victim. Or better said, I can trace it back to allowing myself to believe and live out the lie that I am a victim. I believe I...
    ConstantBattle ConstantBattle 36-40 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    Phoenix

    I could tell a sob story here, but I won't.  Enough to say I lived through an insanely abusive child-and-young-adulthood that left me with a crippled right hand and a massive case of PTSD. That's okay.  I'm away from my father; he's never gonna be able to touch me again.  I...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    So Trying

    I have an awsome coach who's guiding the way. If all works out I should be able to win the fight very soon.... or at least put a good dent in it. Too bad they just don't sell "X B Gone" spray.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    I'm so angry and upset and tired and mad and furious and lonely and pathetic and horny and ashamed and sick and terrified and I know some of those words mean the same thing and I...
    gybe gybe 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    Police in the UK really are some of the worst. I'm not saying police in the States or anywhere else are much better but in Europe I'd say we have one of the worst police forces...
    vickytee vickytee 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Well this is true!!! But then in some parts I am. I turned 16 at the beginning of summer and I really feel like this has been such a huge summer for me. So much stuff happened to...
    KenzieluvsRupert KenzieluvsRupert 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 9

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    I feel like I have a sign on my head that says "hurt me". hurt my feelings, hurt my heart ,do whatever you want to me because it doesn't matter.I wish I could stand up for myself...
    ALEYXI ALEYXI 13-15, F Sep 14

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    One my my earliest memories and most vivid is from when I was 4. It was a year or 2 after my parents divorced and my mother was in a downward spiral. Her boyfriend moved in with us...
    ausofbounds ausofbounds 41-45, M 4 Responses Sep 1

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    I was raped in a public place, I froze during my assault, I often have terrible dreams about it. I feel so dirty, learning how to deal with it isn't easy but I've got amazing...
    gettingstronger1111 gettingstronger1111 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I wonder, how it would have been if I was raised in a normal family. My mother is a narcissistic person (NPD) and my dad was and is her enabler. I was raised with the burden of...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 16

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    Nobody is powerless. “Be not the slave of your own past - plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep, and swim far, so you shall come back with new self-respect, with new power...
    PurpleGlassPalace PurpleGlassPalace 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 5

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    If you are reading this story then i assume that you are also the victim of this matter (more victims compared to the victims of politician's promises :)). I accept "LOVE is great...
    Dhanasri94 Dhanasri94 18-21, F Sep 22

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    So I'm losing my full respect for my family. My dad and brother are extremely verbally abusive towards me. My sister and mother are always on their side. Look, I really am...
    damjenny damjenny 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    Everyday is a balancing act. I try as hard as I can to not drown in my own bitterness. I begin and end each day with the same thought, how can I get away from this man. I've been...
    tianatlc tianatlc 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 17

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    I have a boyfriend I have been with for nearly 4 years. At the start of our relationship he made me feel so loved and was so caring. But then he started being shady he'd lie to me...
    lon12 lon12 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    So today I did the most hardest thing in my life.. I left my abusive boyfriend. I sat there going back and forth in my mind, questioning whether I am doing the right thing. For...
    lon12 lon12 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Some of you know that my mother and I have problems, if not feel free to read my other stories. I'm sharing this one because I want people to know what's really going on. My mom...
    Madis9957 Madis9957 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am an abuse victim survivor. And I think people need know that an abuser can be anybody. They can be black or white, male or female, mother or father. And anybody can be a victim...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 11

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    I am a victim of child abuse, both physically and verbally. I've been a victim for as long ago as I can possibly remember. I've been slapped in the face, thrown across my room once...
    lonewolf2323 lonewolf2323 18-21, M a week ago

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    In each day I like to learning new thing . Life is about learning . We can achieve our knowledge from everywhere . We also can learn from small child and elder. Knowledge is the...
    SUMIA2108 SUMIA2108 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I really like learning whatever I can about the world. I take extra college classes all the time not because I need them but it won't hurt me and I like trying to learn new things...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    It's funny... There are certain groups or people that make me feel so important (big in a sense/confident and proud of who I am)... And then there are certain groups or people that...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 22

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    I have been a victim of domestic violence 2 times, I feel so depressed, no friends to talk to. My life feels stuck and I don't know what to do, where to go, I don't even know me...
    Grace8grace Grace8grace 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 22

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    I have a mild learning disability. I was put in a special classes. From Gr. 8 to Gr. 12. I was teased and my English was not good either.After I graduated from high school. I took...
    DiscoNight1970s DiscoNight1970s 46-50, F a week ago

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    As a male victim of an emotionally & verbally abusive marriage, I had a hard time finding people who would listen and help, especially in the Christian church world. As the...
    bwDVOWRD bwDVOWRD 26-30, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    As a victim myself, and as somebody who has studied emotional abuse very closely, I know it when I see it. And I definitely see an abuser in both my brother and in his wife. They...
    d0vahkiin d0vahkiin 16-17, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Recopied from my love-The love of my life, Sayed.He will always be my dearest, truest most adored man of my life. He is the most romantic and loving man I know and can express...
    Spicedpecan0617 Spicedpecan0617 61-65, F Sep 2

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    i'm learning to speak German.I like it, and i think its fun to learn coz i like how the word are pronounced,, but its also kinda hard. Wünscht mir viel Glück. ^_^
    CNNMelissa CNNMelissa 13-15, F Sep 2

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    I like learning new things reason coz education is the process of development the body physically mentally and morally,but I wander.
    slimslim6 slimslim6 22-25, M 3 Responses Sep 4

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    At least id like to think I'm trying. I can't really change certain peoples opinions about me if they think I'm out of the norm or weird or think something. or that im different...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    I am quite a timid person sometimes, but I'm learning to be more confident within myself and to be more assertive! Because you can't get what you want if you don't make the move to...
    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F Sep 6

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    I've been learning Spanish my whole life. I can sing it, write it, but my pronunciation is atrocious
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F Sep 6

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    I can speak english almost fluently and now im learning german and dutch altogether 😋 Ich spreche etwas Deutsch en ik spreek een beetje nederlands 😋😆
    iambacknow iambacknow 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    Just started learning Romanian. It's quite nice sounding and I have always wanted to learn a second language thoroughly:) wish me luck
    bigbrownbastard bigbrownbastard 18-21, M Sep 10

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    Everyday I'm in the process of learning and I'm eager to learn.
    OdeSlinger OdeSlinger 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 12

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    Life is about learning and you learn something NEW every day!
    Thesoutherner Thesoutherner 66-70, M Sep 16

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    My new baby. I've started learning to play. All I can say is it can be a bit painful on the fingers when you have very weak skin. lol Plus I was pressing the strings to hard. to...
    SadisticBitch SadisticBitch 31-35, F a week ago

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    I don't know what I would be doing if I wasn't learning something new often...
    khewster khewster 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I love learning something new each day. Even just how to conquer a level on a video game is often enlightening.
    Titan222 Titan222 18-21, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I fine learning new things is fun but not all things are fun. I prefer somethings in science
    turki2550 turki2550 16-17, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My problem is that now im not speaking anymore with my bestfriend, I am only 20 and we used to be best friend's since I was 2,which means we have been friends for 18 years, we both...
    Caroline128 Caroline128 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I have had the most difficult year of my life. What was supposed to be a fresh start turned into a nightmare, one that I can't get out of. Moving overseas is not easy, you kinda...
    cursedswan cursedswan 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    I found the card in his car, I went to you his sister, his allegedly doting sister for advice, forgetting you lie, you are selfish, you destroy everyone in your path, you MUST be...
    sheloveshim57 sheloveshim57 22-25, F Sep 4

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    I'm sleepy, sad, and upset I just don't want to feel like this anymore I'm tired of crying to sleep I'm tired of getting the urge to cut myself I'm tired of the suicidal...
    Hellokitty1313 Hellokitty1313 13-15, F Sep 8

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