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I M Learning Not to Be a Victim Anymore

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 88 People

    Phoenix

    I could tell a sob story here, but I won't.  Enough to say I lived through an insanely abusive child-and-young-adulthood that left me with a crippled right hand and a massive case of PTSD. That's okay.  I'm away from my father; he's never gonna be able to touch me again.  I...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Oh Yes

    Too many years I walked around head down shoulders slumped blaming everything on my abusive childhood. But then it was like at what point did the crossover happen and when did I become responsible for not wallowing in my own misery like a pig in the cool mud on a hot day anymore...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    So Trying

    I have an awsome coach who's guiding the way. If all works out I should be able to win the fight very soon.... or at least put a good dent in it. Too bad they just don't sell "X B Gone" spray.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Time to Take Control

    Most of my life I have been victimized, mostly by men and I have let it happen. Of course I have also bben a victim of life too so to speak because I always thought things just happened to me. Well I am standing up and taking charge more of my life now. I am...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Responsibility For My Self

    Ive finally quit  trying to blame everyone else for my own downfalls and unhappiness ...Like my  husband ... Granted he didnt support my wellness ..  but i could have left any time i wanted but i just wasnt strong enough  yet ...  but ive since learned so...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2007

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    Victimhood And Depression

    I have struggled with depression on and off my entire life. I've noticed that when I'm feeling depressed many times I can trace it back to feeling like a victim. Or better said, I can trace it back to allowing myself to believe and live out the lie that I am a victim. I believe I...
    ConstantBattle ConstantBattle 36-40 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    It took me 6 years to realize that I am a victim of emotional abuse. As a teenager I also said that I would never be "one of those girls" and be in a relationship that destroyed...
    Laniemae45 Laniemae45 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm done trying to be happy for people who (don't) even care about me! I just want to End it all I have been Cutting my Arms,Legs,Hips and not only that I have been drinking wine...
    KristinaChero KristinaChero 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    This is a good article for whatever kind of abusive relationship you may be in. Mine currently just happens to be verbal and emotional. And for those of you who want to whine...
    trayomis trayomis 31-35, F Dec 15

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    I left my invalid mother for four days with caregivers that Fremont Rideout Hospice recommended to me. While I was gone they got her to sign all her medical rights away while...
    Webgypsy Webgypsy 56-60, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    First I gotta say, you can't be to careful when it comes to your kids, no matter how trusting a person might be. Yes I was abused as a child. My story is nowhere near as bad as...
    trayomis trayomis 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 13

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    Okay, please bare with me, as this is the first time I'm publicly sharing my story, and I really need to get this out of me, because it's becoming too overwhelming and I'm not sure...
    fuckitol fuckitol 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 25

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    ok sorry people. Im still struggling. I left the guy but... why do I feel I need to go back? I need to not care. But I feel like Iwas owned or something. I am afraid of him...
    amtired amtired 22-25 6 Responses Nov 30

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    I'm glad i had enough strength to realize that there are too many men in the world to allow this ONE to belittle me..No more why didn't I call or pick up the phone..no more soon as...
    learningLessons14 learningLessons14 18-21, F Dec 7

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    When i was little i remember my mom always trying to "protect me" from different kind of things. she would never let me do things that i liked, for example cheer leading claiming...
    hxnnaah hxnnaah 16-17, F Dec 14

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    It's almost 1 AM and I can't sleep. I began scrolling through Instagram. Clicking on profiles of those I used to know. I found my rapist. I went to his profile. After scrolling...
    Jeradactyl Jeradactyl 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 17

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    I mean really, a long history of victimization has left me so strong in so many aspects but there is still the residual leftovers deep inside. I tell myself I am worthless, that I...
    SameOldLoneliness SameOldLoneliness 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    I joined this experience, not because I am a victim of emotional abuse by somebody else, but because I am emotional abuse's victim. in other words, I am the emotional abuser. I...
    WeArePilots WeArePilots 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    For quite some time now I have seemed to be deeply unhappy with myself. I can't tell you how many days I woke up and just felt like I was nothing. I still don't love myself as much...
    RubyRayne RubyRayne 26-30, F Dec 9

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    I don't even know why I started learning German…but if anyone wants to talk to me with it please do! I've been learning for five months, but my grammar is pretty bad…Still...
    Kysandragon Kysandragon 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Don't see much people learning arabic tho its beautiful:3 to I'm learning turkish soon .. Any of you willing to learn arabic? Im arab myself and i find arabic class kinda hard for...
    nonorawi nonorawi 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 28

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    MOST OF MY LIFE i HAVE BEEN ALONE AND SINGLE. NOT BY CHOICE, BUT GODS CHOICE OR THE DEVILS WORK: I did not learn about se-x until my mid 30s. I know very little right now. Less...
    Niko864 Niko864 41-45, M Dec 7

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    Here is a part of an article excerpted from “The Secret of Letting Go” by GUY FINLEY. Self-Correction is Self-Elevation We are a peculiar race of beings. On one hand, each...
    lightislove lightislove 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 7

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    I know the victim(s), and I know the killer.
    Colourfi Colourfi 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    Knew*, I knew a murder victim.
    BON3S BON3S 18-21, M Dec 10

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    My, now ex, just came clean about being with another women while we were together. He was emotionally abusive, called ever name in the book (sl$t, troll, family hates me for a...
    funluvz funluvz 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 11

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    Don't be a victim, be a target.. Targets can move!
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody 31-35, F Dec 15

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    So im gonna finally get this off my chest. Its been a dark cloud over my head for months. I want to change something that i cannot change. I am a victim of domestic violence. Its...
    Heyababe Heyababe 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 17

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    I don't like playing the victim card, sure life can be hard at times, deal with it!
    LilChickadee LilChickadee 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    So the other day on a bit of a whim I went out an bought myself a keyboard. I love music and can already play guitar, but piano is something I've always wanted to try, after all...
    Supermassive93 Supermassive93 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am learning Chinese Mandarin to help me find an Asian wife. I love how polite, pretty, fashionable and always well presented Asian ladies are. Any help from EP please.
    mike4321a mike4321a 51-55, M 3 Responses Nov 27

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    Today after Thanksgiving dinner and in the hen house with my mother, aunts, and cousins; my mom asked if I had decided on a new outlet yet. This is part of our family dynamic...
    Theonlyexception4me Theonlyexception4me 46-50 6 Responses Nov 27

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    i am learning German and Im loving it :D
    marounkh marounkh 18-21, M 4 Responses Nov 28

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    I love Japanese people, cultur, manga, anime and drama. so I'm learning Japanese by my self... it so difficult, sometimes I just want to give up. I'm using the "Learn Japanese form...
    JN96 JN96 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 28

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    I really love it (: I find them so interesting and its definitely one of my big strengths! I can speak English and Slovak fluently, and I can speak Russian but not really fluently...
    thefluffyclouds thefluffyclouds 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 28

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    Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
    gandyr gandyr 56-60, M Nov 29

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    I am a empath by nature, I can feel, see and attach to peoples emotions, it is a amazing gift, but one thing I did not take into account was that I can actually learn in peoples...
    Auricor Auricor 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 1

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    I just love learning. I want to go into a research job so I can always learn.
    Donchueven Donchueven 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I am working on learning when enough is enough. There is a time to write and there is a time to rest. This is the time to rest. I have - not a busy day tomorrow - but a day that...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M Dec 4

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    Even though I am never going to Spain or in any way related to the Spaniard, I am learning it. It is quite tough but a good exercise for the brain.
    Toomuchlittle Toomuchlittle 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 5

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    But british isn't a language... It's just an term for people from the Uk... It's a tad like me saying I'm learning to speak American O_O yes I understand that there is different...
    Daisy26599 Daisy26599 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 11

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    I'm living and learning. Never, never, ignore my gut feelings about a person or situation. Never, never, give everyone all of my heart if I don't feel like I have theirs.
    SpanishRose10 SpanishRose10 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 15

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    I've realized that as I journey through life and have learned to love myself in a healthy, compassionate, and nourishing way that I gain this light and this joy inside that spills...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    I have a toxic relationship with my mother whom I love dearly. But after 43 years I am learning to set boundaries and to say no when in my heart I really mean no. For example I don...
    Bela21 Bela21 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    There is just something amazing about it, especially learning things that are really profound to me. You know, the kind of things that make you just sit back in amazement. There...
    Aldmeri Aldmeri 26-30, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    i always wanted to be a professional guitarist..i'm learning guitar on my own since i dont have time to go to a master..i have manages to learn all the basic chords and i can shift...
    ucbenetton ucbenetton 22-25, M 4 days ago

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