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I M Learning Not to Be a Victim Anymore

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    Responsibility For My Self

    Ive finally quit  trying to blame everyone else for my own downfalls and unhappiness ...Like my  husband ... Granted he didnt support my wellness ..  but i could have left any time i wanted but i just wasnt strong enough  yet ...  but ive since learned so...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2007

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    Phoenix

    I could tell a sob story here, but I won't.  Enough to say I lived through an insanely abusive child-and-young-adulthood that left me with a crippled right hand and a massive case of PTSD. That's okay.  I'm away from my father; he's never gonna be able to touch me again.  I...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Time to Take Control

    Most of my life I have been victimized, mostly by men and I have let it happen. Of course I have also bben a victim of life too so to speak because I always thought things just happened to me. Well I am standing up and taking charge more of my life now. I am...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Victimhood And Depression

    I have struggled with depression on and off my entire life. I've noticed that when I'm feeling depressed many times I can trace it back to feeling like a victim. Or better said, I can trace it back to allowing myself to believe and live out the lie that I am a victim. I believe I...
    ConstantBattle ConstantBattle 36-40 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    So Trying

    I have an awsome coach who's guiding the way. If all works out I should be able to win the fight very soon.... or at least put a good dent in it. Too bad they just don't sell "X B Gone" spray.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Oh Yes

    Too many years I walked around head down shoulders slumped blaming everything on my abusive childhood. But then it was like at what point did the crossover happen and when did I become responsible for not wallowing in my own misery like a pig in the cool mud on a hot day anymore...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    I was a victim when I was 10 and it lasted for about a year.. I trusted my uncle more than most people at the time. Was always there for me (he moved in with my family). He knew...
    ZashaChase ZashaChase 26-30, T 1 Response 1 day ago

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    am i the romantic poet or the deluded fool. Galahad or Don Quixote. the gentleman or the joke. i used to know. i thought i did. to at least one i was special but in such a short...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer 46-50, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    MariahLoveDough MariahLoveDough 13-15, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    dvirmani dvirmani 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I literally just realized that I don't love me husband anymore. We have two children and have been married 2 years but together for 10, he was 27and i was 19. Our relationship...
    idhaun idhaun 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    kuroijukai kuroijukai 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Hey everyone, it's my first time posting, so I will keep it short. It's also 3:45 am. I wanted to talk about my sociopathic, violent brother. This guy lied and told us in great...
    LiftedCurse LiftedCurse 31-35, M 6 days ago

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    Yes. This needs to be addressed immediately. It's true that I am a youngish woman. However, I am not a youngish American woman. It has occurred to myself and others that the U...
    MegBrady MegBrady 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm learning to be myself again. It'll take a lot of patience...Lord knows I need that, but it will be a beautiful journey.
    GeniseGreen GeniseGreen 18-21, F a week ago

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    I was very hopeful to find someone special online but it seems that the people I met are here for games only. I do get involved emotionally and I think its just a waste of time and...
    Ellabella9003 Ellabella9003 36-40, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Quite often abusers flip on you when you wont be their victim and you fight back...kick and uncaged lion *************...I dare you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 a week ago

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    I don't trust my husband anymore, after a lot of "little lies" I found that he has a sex lover on line, then months later I saw his profile on a dating site, and his sister...
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    not to make too much of it...i have a long way to go. talking has finally started to put things together. pieces of the past that provided the vital "why"? why do i do what i do...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 4

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    NightshadesSnowflake NightshadesSnowflake 13-15, F 4 Responses Feb 4

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    i'm not good in english, i'm still learning english so i'm sorry if my english really bad ??
    Deluxury Deluxury 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    To figure out who I am and I truly want not passively accepting what others want for me. I am gradually searching to fulfill my long term life aspirations and be my authentic self...
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    I feel so suffocated here and there's not much I can do about it. He yells at me to the point where I'm crying every fricken' morning, won't let me take naps anymore, takes my...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    To be fair though, I hate it when people act like a victim in general.
    IntenseCookie IntenseCookie 16-17, F Feb 2

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    yes im learning disbled i struggle at some things im not the best reader, i cant write very good but can type, im not good at math, i do my best
    autism1011 autism1011 22-25, M 8 Responses Feb 1

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    This you may see in a different light. But this is the first time that I believe I have been sexually harrassed. Before you judge, hear me out. I was sitting on a bus home from...
    Teaganwhitney Teaganwhitney 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    I'm not really sure that I am a victim of emotional abuse. I've lived with my parents in the same house for twenty years, aside from the three semesters I spent in college, which...
    krcb krcb 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Learning > Doing lol for me. Love to learn more so then to do.
    Sensor3 Sensor3 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 30

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