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I M Learning Not to Be a Victim Anymore

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    Responsibility For My Self

    Ive finally quit  trying to blame everyone else for my own downfalls and unhappiness ...Like my  husband ... Granted he didnt support my wellness ..  but i could have left any time i wanted but i just wasnt strong enough  yet ...  but ive since learned so...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2007

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    Oh Yes

    Too many years I walked around head down shoulders slumped blaming everything on my abusive childhood. But then it was like at what point did the crossover happen and when did I become responsible for not wallowing in my own misery like a pig in the cool mud on a hot day anymore...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Victimhood And Depression

    I have struggled with depression on and off my entire life. I've noticed that when I'm feeling depressed many times I can trace it back to feeling like a victim. Or better said, I can trace it back to allowing myself to believe and live out the lie that I am a victim. I believe I...
    ConstantBattle ConstantBattle 36-40 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    Time to Take Control

    Most of my life I have been victimized, mostly by men and I have let it happen. Of course I have also bben a victim of life too so to speak because I always thought things just happened to me. Well I am standing up and taking charge more of my life now. I am...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Phoenix

    I could tell a sob story here, but I won't.  Enough to say I lived through an insanely abusive child-and-young-adulthood that left me with a crippled right hand and a massive case of PTSD. That's okay.  I'm away from my father; he's never gonna be able to touch me again.  I...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    So Trying

    I have an awsome coach who's guiding the way. If all works out I should be able to win the fight very soon.... or at least put a good dent in it. Too bad they just don't sell "X B Gone" spray.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Intelligence is something that you have when appearance is ******** away. I love learning and improving.
    hellerpeople hellerpeople 13-15, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Part 2: Well it's now been 6 years. I am the crazy one and he is mr perfect to his friends and family! A few times we went out with friends and he was mr chatty to everyone but me...
    snw1980 snw1980 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    Im now 9 years using the internet. I was trying to put my feelings on EP, other forums online, but i met rarelly any victims of abuse.Either they have shame to come out and talk...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I am learning. I am learning to love myself more and more every day. I am learning that no one is perfect and I have finally accepted that I am not nor will I ever be. I love my...
    sunniedays89 sunniedays89 22-25, F Jun 30

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    I can't get over it. He said he never loved me and it was all a lie.2 years I spent devoting my time energy and effort. He told me he doesn't want me. He wants to have fun be...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 6 Responses Jun 22

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    Not in school stuff but valued traits like leadership & loyalty. I love learning about how too connect with people and how to be an amazing gf or just to get guys easily. I love...
    jketdancer jketdancer 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    So ive decided i need help understanding if i am in a relationship that is worth it... I met my boyfriend when i was 15 we dated for maybe 2 months then i started having problems...
    paola04414 paola04414 18-21, F Jul 8

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    People often make the words Education and Learning as synonyms but I feel that there is a huge difference among them. The society teaches us that once you have a degree in your...
    Tien101 Tien101 18-21 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am new to this and it's very hard for me to open up. My wife is verbally abusive toward me. I can't take it anymore I just don't know who to talk to about it so I thought I'd...
    315tatfan 315tatfan 26-30, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I work for the family business. My dad is the owner. Every since I started working there I've been constantly gossiped about. I actually accepted this as a compliment at first but...
    Phoenix5233 Phoenix5233 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am sooooo stupid!!!! I can't believe I thought I was smart all those kids who have called me stupid,dumb ect...are right I am.I will never pass any dumb mandatory test but oh...
    wassup305 wassup305 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am a victim of 2 sexual assault I have never had help with it ever. I have kept it in yes I have talked about it but I had never talked to a professional. Once it was a a girl...
    mrstheusch mrstheusch 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    I am learning how to love. There are a few people in my life that I really, REALLY don't get along with. They have crossed some lines and really ticked me off, and all their...
    Anticloud Anticloud 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 5

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    I was a victim of domestic abuse I was abused by my boyfriend would love to talk to some of you guys to ease the pain
    Prettybirds Prettybirds 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    Never in my life would I have imagined myself being a victim of domestic violence. My boyfriend & I were perfect once upon a time, & things went so wrong so fast. I loved him, & a...
    HeartbrokenHeroine HeartbrokenHeroine 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I am self-learning Spanish and Korean now. I'm looking forward to learning Latin and Esperanto in the future:) I currently speak 4 languages-English, Mandarin Chinese, Thai and...
    suthidabear suthidabear 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Keep on learning. Keep enriching yourself. There was a movie about a class of kids that would not learn and study. Across from their class room there was a class filled with...
    Alicehath Alicehath 56-60, F 2 days ago

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    I am Dyscalculic and I also have Cerebral Palsy. There is a definite correlation between LDs and CP because of the brain damage caused at birth. I hated being different physically...
    sweetstar1 sweetstar1 22-25, F Jun 24

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    as we move forward in our lives facing different experiences of our lives ,we keep on learning new things but i wish to learn some new form of arts,some new courses of designing...
    happyhuman1 happyhuman1 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    I love to learn. I have simple advice. Never stop learning new things. your brain is your best muscle. Get tend most from your education, even after you have been away from...
    Silfverberg Silfverberg 26-30, F 9 Responses Jun 27

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    Growing up with abuse and manipulation left me feeling like "I don't want to" or "I don't feel comfortable doing that" were not good enough excuses. I was taught that you can't say...
    Madnificent Madnificent 22-25 1 Response Jun 27

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    I'm learning to write with my left hand, so far I can only print. But it's getting better everyday. I now can use my left hand, to eat, cut papers with scissors, and stir fry. I'm...
    zorba04 zorba04 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 2

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    Is anyone here lgbt and how do they think it makes it harder to meet people? I feel like being lesbian AND having a learning disability make it harder then like even having a ld...
    thewolfinme thewolfinme 18-21, F Jul 5

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    I have Pimsleur and Rosetta Stone for Korean. I also have Pimsleur for Japanese, but I'm not going to start that until I am fluent in Korean. My father was multi-lingual, speaking...
    Kryzta Kryzta 26-30, F Jul 8

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    I have been trying to teach myself how to play for the past 7 years and still have a long way to go before I can fulfill one of my life's goals to become part of a band. Would like...
    kchondo90 kchondo90 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    I'm young and learning. Anyone got any advice?
    shaunrain shaunrain 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    I'd rather call it "learning differently". Because that's what is really is. I think visually while some think in other ways.
    smcmahan smcmahan 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    Last summer I had something to do every day and it was so fun and I was with at least four of my other friends every day and we all had so much fun.. Then towards the end of the...
    sophieeeeeeee123 sophieeeeeeee123 13-15, F Jun 30

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    I started changing in my mind when I was 17. I witnessed a car accident and tried to help the girl that got hit. I ripped her door off and pulled her out. She died in my arms...
    FamilyMan79 FamilyMan79 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    I need to rant I don't care anymore, i don't give a ****. I don't care about some so called friends (you know who you are you sick MoFos .!.) i don't care if you "care" for me...
    MayaMoonShadow MayaMoonShadow 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I can't take it anymore I feel like I am going to lose my girlfriend and that I can't take it anymore! I feel like I am being force to give up by everyone I feel like I can't love...
    ECrierie ECrierie 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    If I wasn't pregnant with my boyfriends child I wouldn't be with him anymore. I already have one kid & i want to do it right and be a family this time but i'm starting o not care...
    djohnson91 djohnson91 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Who cares? I'm going to stand by my beliefs. I just don't see the point in lying anymore. The tendency is that a lie would eventually lead to even more lies until you can't handle...
    starbuddy starbuddy 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Nothing seems to get better... My life is falling apart. I'm falling apart and no matter what I do nothing seems to help. I can't take it anymore!!! My friends tell me to be...
    CuteMonster CuteMonster 16-17, F 6 Responses Jun 25

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    I lost my mind completely. I have no idea what am i doing nor where am i going. I'm all alone in the center of town and i have huge anxiety and i don't know why and oh god i just...
    alicegoneinsane alicegoneinsane 18-21, F Jun 26

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    This is absolutely 100% true. Nothing made up. A little long but I'd love to hear your opinion. I don't speak to my parents anymore. My mom and dad are broke, they did not manage...
    Hallowes27 Hallowes27 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    my depression has got to the point where I jut don't care anymore, I don't care about school, I don't care about eating or showering or going out in the world. I just want to sleep...
    silentgirl1234 silentgirl1234 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    People on this site (excuse me) some people on this site just have no dang respect for anyone. It's disheartening. Before I met some absolutely amazing people and all it seems...
    AmazinglyAmazing AmazinglyAmazing 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I think I just failed my first chemistry exam. I am starting to hate school. I don't want to go to school anymore. I don't know how to study. I don't care if I don't end up being...
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo 18-21 1 Response Jul 9

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    I have always been a beanpole, of a girl, and I've never had trouble with my weight. Obviously, girls need to be wise about their looks, but I've never had problems over my weight...
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13

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