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I M Learning Not to Be a Victim Anymore

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    Victimhood And Depression

    I have struggled with depression on and off my entire life. I've noticed that when I'm feeling depressed many times I can trace it back to feeling like a victim. Or better said, I can trace it back to allowing myself to believe and live out the lie that I am a victim. I believe I...
    ConstantBattle ConstantBattle 36-40 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    So Trying

    I have an awsome coach who's guiding the way. If all works out I should be able to win the fight very soon.... or at least put a good dent in it. Too bad they just don't sell "X B Gone" spray.
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Phoenix

    I could tell a sob story here, but I won't.  Enough to say I lived through an insanely abusive child-and-young-adulthood that left me with a crippled right hand and a massive case of PTSD. That's okay.  I'm away from my father; he's never gonna be able to touch me again.  I...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Oh Yes

    Too many years I walked around head down shoulders slumped blaming everything on my abusive childhood. But then it was like at what point did the crossover happen and when did I become responsible for not wallowing in my own misery like a pig in the cool mud on a hot day anymore...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 1, 2011

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    Time to Take Control

    Most of my life I have been victimized, mostly by men and I have let it happen. Of course I have also bben a victim of life too so to speak because I always thought things just happened to me. Well I am standing up and taking charge more of my life now. I am...
    cinfullynn cinfullynn 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Responsibility For My Self

    Ive finally quit  trying to blame everyone else for my own downfalls and unhappiness ...Like my  husband ... Granted he didnt support my wellness ..  but i could have left any time i wanted but i just wasnt strong enough  yet ...  but ive since learned so...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    One is emotionally mature IF: You are able to see each situation as unique and you can adapt your style accordingly. You take responsibility for your own life. You understand...
    BeyondIllusions BeyondIllusions 56-60, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Stalked by a disable person. I was waiting for a friend at uni's library, then went to the bathroom and on my way back, I bumped into a disabled guy. We talked, had the same...
    soulblazing soulblazing 22-25, F Jan 6

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    I will not be a victim of my past relationships.... I will not be a victim of my childhood... I will not allow myself to be a victim of emotional abuse.... I'm trying to overcome...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    ~THE ART OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE~ THE CANVAS How do you become the victim of emotional abuse? Why don’t you just get out? I've been asked “What did he do to you?” BRUSH STROKES...
    Breeziiee Breeziiee 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I am suffering. again. I dont know what to do anymore. He said he loved me but treated me like dirt. I was choked and kicked and slapped.... annd called names. and put down. so How...
    amtired amtired 22-25 6 Responses Jan 6

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    I was molested by my uncle ( on my mom's side of the family ) Twice & i don't tell anyone cuz i was scared i was 14 !! Then when i was in 20 he do it again he's know that i'll...
    Lam111 Lam111 22-25 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse, I am 25 and met him when I was 19. As many people say, they are charming at first and seemed very clever and manipulative with his...
    Brightheart89 Brightheart89 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 16

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    I have read story after story of people violated by transsexuals whom misrepresented themselves and became involved with members of their same actual sex. These victims became...
    PixieCutLover PixieCutLover 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    I'm learning to accept myself no my looks and body ect. To take my mind off my bullying, I've tried learning Japanese! Still learning but slowly getting better😚
    jameschristribe jameschristribe 13-15, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    It's been 3 years since I left him. I am currently in a new wonderful relationship, but my past haunts me every single day. I've never reached out for support, and I worry that...
    Erika88o Erika88o 26-30 Jan 6

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    To put it simply, I'm a 19 year old suffering from anxiety and depression, I have an older brother who has been physically abusive, a younger brother who is autistic and I am a...
    CPJS CPJS 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 9

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    The final state of any discipline is where you forget what you have learned, discard your mind, and accomplish whatever you set out to do without being aware of it yourself. You...
    paleryder paleryder 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    Always the victim, and always turning me around. Glad I managed to get out and make peace, but boy was it tough...the guilt, the tears, the pain was all too much.
    Sophilu Sophilu 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    I was told by my uncle's friend that I should give this guy, I've known since I was 12 and didn't really like, Ilan "Reipie" Shane a chance to be friends. So I contacted him and...
    JessiAimee JessiAimee 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    it's easy to blame the victim. Mainly because we have a tendency to blame ourselves. Also because to think of such an act is too much. Then there is "But we know him/her. they...
    littlesadone littlesadone 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    He hit me again. No he grabbed me by my shirt threw me on the ground kicked me punched me in my head flicked my nose drug me across the floor picked me up about 3 more times threw...
    lis924 lis924 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'M A VICTIM OF DV, AND I JUST REALIZED THAT HISTORY REPEATED ITSELF I'M LIVING MY MOTHER NIGHTMARE, RIP .
    shela61 shela61 46-50, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am a victim of child molestation, I was 11 or 12 years of age. My mother had remarried a nameless s.o.b. when I was 10. I never liked him, I always got a creepy vibe from him. My...
    breakingfree88 breakingfree88 26-30 4 days ago

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    I've been a victim for 3 years and I couldn't let go of him until last month... I've been too scared to bring up the subject of breaking up but I did it last month. I felt proud...
    tristful tristful 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well...over the last few years I have soooo learned to let my daughter go...so to speak. She is 26 and I finally realize that some people really do have to learn things the hard...
    FindingMySpirit788 FindingMySpirit788 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    The day I stop learning will be the day I die, and that won't be by choice (or at least, that's the plan!). If you open your eyes and mind, the world is full of information you...
    jahosijhs jahosijhs 26-30, M Jan 1

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    I was diagnosed with a learning disability when I was in 1st or 2nd grade. I learn things very slowly and work at a slow pace. I'm not very good at doing basic math in my head, and...
    christarose96 christarose96 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    I have been learning Spanish in school since about kindergarten. Me amo la idioma y uso Espanol para mi correo electronico y un poco para sitios de Web. Sometimes I even have...
    PersonManPersonMan PersonManPersonMan 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    The thing about life sometimes is the reality of it (whether it be "good" or "bad" is based on perspective) The reality that not everyone is going to be who you want them to be...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F Jan 14

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    I moved with my fiancé to North Carolina in the fall. I was looking for a job to help us out with money and I started working for a company doing inventory. My hours were not so...
    mgnkl24 mgnkl24 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I want to go to Paris!! Just started learning some phrases. Trying to learn a bit on my own through some websites. If there is anyone out there that would like to send me a...
    sundancesoul sundancesoul 46-50, F 3 days ago

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    I'm on the brink of falling in love but holding back. For good reason too. And it's not uncomfortable at all. Everything seems to make perfect sense. Getting to know him and enjoy...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    Hard when you realize at 34 that you haven't finished growing up . Maybe we never do . It's all practice , messing up , then saying sorry , learning from mistakes , then repeating...
    KittenHasClaws1980 KittenHasClaws1980 31-35, F 17 hrs ago

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    It's different, I don't like it but I do. He's married & I'm practically married? Maybe that's why it feels okay? I know it's not but I like it, I wish i didn't but I do. I never...
    SincerelyJasmineXO SincerelyJasmineXO 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 2

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    I can't do this anymore! I am to overwhelmed! The heartache is to much to bare. I still cry! On top of that I can't even survive. I'm broke. I work so hard everyday at work to have...
    EmilyPouliot EmilyPouliot 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    I'm just so alone... I don't know what to do anymore. The one person I trust more than anything has moved up country and I'm left with hate and sadness and bullies. I have nothing...
    MissArsenal MissArsenal 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    I look like a happy girl, telling jokes, smiling, having a great time, but no one knows that i'm dying inside, i'm hurt, i'm tired, tired of all the drama, tired of not being good...
    Rourou19 Rourou19 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 13

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    There are things that i don't understand anymore why am i so angry all the time why i want to be alone why i don't want to talk about it. Is so confusing now that i don't know what...
    Keilynn Keilynn 18-21, F Jan 16

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    I come home from work after my fiance telling me that he doesn't want his ex and can't stand her...day after day lately...to him talking to her the entire time that I am gone. I...
    Pumpkiin Pumpkiin 22-25, F Jan 19

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    my mom and siblings said before that I was very shy and sensitive and that I was afraid to stand up for myself but after everything I have been through I've become stronger now, I...
    hope02345 hope02345 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    I cant stop crying.i feel lost.its hard to find things to smile about anymore.i cant take it anymore.i felt like this for a while and it wont go away.
    missunique88 missunique88 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Is it so much to ask for you to say morning and night or tell me that you love me? I care for you so much yet it seems that you're just getting distant. When you want to talk...
    moontrain moontrain 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I dont want to live in this ****** up world anymore. So many horrible things are happening right now as we speak. Rape, killing, war, genocide, you name and its happening. Everyday...
    cat1024 cat1024 18-21, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    When your lost , and you truly are alone , you are not who you was anymore .
    LT167 LT167 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    Ever since my grandpa died. I'm just not myself anymore. I question who I am and what I'm doing in life and why I'm here. Im obviously a mistake my mother and father have told me...
    ECESES ECESES 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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