I 'm Not Good At Starting Conversation

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    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 12, 2015

    I have no ******* clue how people meet other

    people, let alone other people who also happen to be likeminded. I'm so tired of being alone.
    paperpeaks paperpeaks
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    im very bad at holding a normal conversation

    with anyone, no matter who i am with , i feel like i have nothing to say and that affects my connections with others ! i don't think its about shyness. im bad in real&virtual world.
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    ..I never know what so say

    and am always afraid that I'll end up saying something wrong ._.
    jellyfishz jellyfishz
    16-17, T
    1 Response Jul 26, 2015

    I'm not good at starting

    or keeping a conversation going. I guess i'm just not good with people. But it seems like i'm better at it than i used to be. I don't think it will ever be easy for me.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 13, 2015

    I don't know what to talk about,

    it's awkward for me.
    Hamza787Aj Hamza787Aj
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2016

    I tend to listen to people

    rather than starting conversations. It does get awkward when the other person is waiting for me to talk about something and I'm staring at their eyeballs waiting for them to start lol.
    CloakedStranger CloakedStranger
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jun 30, 2014

    So here's the story..

    . I been a facebook friends with a girl since 6 months or maybe more. I like her and we've been chatting. Today i ran out of ideas what should i ask her and what should i talk to her about to keep the convo going longer. I always start the convo and mostly ask her things, and she...
    StiflerDiazo StiflerDiazo
    18-21, M
    Sep 12, 2015
    theonewhocantbenamed theonewhocantbenamed
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    Nononono I just can't,

    I am like socially backwards inside out and back to front!
    MixedJayy MixedJayy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 11, 2015

    Jeez I'm so fricken awkward.

    It'll pretty much go, "hey what's up" "nmu" "nm". End of convo XD
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 29, 2015

    Hello ! I would love to talk

    but starting a conversation is really difficult for me. I just wonder what people think when I'm messaging first. If I'm messaging you first that means I would like to talk to you , know you and who knows we might end being good friends or may be fall in love. After all I'm...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 15, 2015

    I am horrible at starting conversations,

    I wait for the right time and imagine all kinds of scenarios and possible reactions of the person i have to talk to and sometimes have the whole conversation run in my head in different possible waysit could go, it can get to bad i get disconected from reality and space out...
    kayoshin kayoshin
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 3, 2016
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel
    18-21, F
    9 Responses May 7, 2014

    I'm actually good at small talk

    but I despise that it's always the same questions so I'd rather not ask anything at all.
    deleted deleted
    Jan 24, 2016

    I have social anxiety

    so I'm to worried about what others think of me to start a conversation
    ndfan97 ndfan97
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    i am really bad at small talk.

    i can be very open and talkative in a meaningful conversation but i just cant talk about the weather. not only am i bad at starting smalltalk i kinda manage to silence other people too.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Feb 4, 2015
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 9, 2015

    "Not good" is probably the understatement of

    the year unless it's with someone I know very well! Then it's fine cos it flows naturally but with people I don't know very well it's a big struggle. I think it's going to sound stupid, that they won't be interested in what I want to say or they'll ignore me completely. So I...
    CaffeineJunky CaffeineJunky
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jul 30, 2015

    Im really not but I get annoyed

    when people just send "Hi" "Hey" "What's up?" You most likely won't get a response back.
    ReadyAimFire ReadyAimFire
    26-30, F
    Jul 13, 2015

    my poor conversation skills keep me from

    connecting with anyone even online
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Oct 15, 2015

    There is always a hesitation.

    There is always a fear of being misjudged and misunderstood. Sometimes I feel it is better if words are left unsaid.........
    hiddentears hiddentears
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 20, 2015

    Oh my gosh, lol the beginning of any

    conversation with me is so awkward. Like you better come at me with something, or we will have nothing to talk about 😂, its so sad. Maybe i need to just find a new or different approach.?
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 6, 2015

    Well...hello again. I know

    that I said that I was leaving for good but Vent isn't working out for me...I'm not accepted as a person because of my personality.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    In person I'm not good at talking

    or starting conversations, but I can do it better if I'm like texting or messaging.
    AliceAlice19 AliceAlice19
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 13, 2015

    sometimes I just want to talk with foreigners

    but I just don't know what to say what I want to My English isn't well at all but I still try I want to know new people for exchange or share our experience and also the good thing that happened but its hard..
    Wichada Wichada
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 1, 2016

    I'm very socially awkward,

    I can't think of anything to say to people most of the time. There are a few people in my life that are exceptions and are very easy to talk to, but making conversation with most people, especially strangers, stresses me out.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    I'm really not good at this,

    but would love to have meaningful or random convs.
    dlaran83 dlaran83
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 25, 2015

    I'm trying to help myself

    and other people in starting and maintaining conversations. Message me a "hi" or "hello" if you're up for it. We can talk about anything and then we'll move on from there. I hope I can get some people talking :)
    Enlil Enlil
    18-21, M
    Jun 11, 2015
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 31, 2015

    Well I don't know how to keep a convo going.

    I need tips and yeah I'm talking to this girl and I think she cute af but I'm kinda nervous so I'm messing up lol
    deleted deleted
    Nov 14, 2015
    MilkyCowCow MilkyCowCow
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 5, 2015

      . . Sup' (o___o) .

    . How's it going? . . (._.)
    PoopieNoodle PoopieNoodle
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 12, 2015

    Typical conversation: Me: Hi!

    Other person: Hi. Me: *attempts to make conversation using school, current events or weather, or by using a compliment* Other person: *does not want to continue conversation* Me: *feels engulfed by feelings of isolation and depression*
    emiveritas emiveritas
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 9, 2015
    sugarplum44 sugarplum44
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2015

    i guess thats why i hang around boys morew then

    with other girls. boys always talk to me first, makes me glad i am a girl.
    SoccerGirl2000 SoccerGirl2000
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Nov 21, 2014

    I'll be honest here- Starting a conversation

    with someone is not easy. I don't know what I'm getting into, and there is always the chance that this person may be rude or too extreme for me. And also, what happens? In their experiences they seem so nice communicating in the comments, then when I try to talk to them...
    NikeWin NikeWin
    16-17, F
    2 Responses May 5, 2015

    It's hard sometimes, like how do you start a

    convo with keep saying the same thing over and over, such as Hi how are you? or hi how you doing? Sometimes I'm able to do it but most time not.
    MissChatBot MissChatBot
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 18, 2015

    Not a good conversation starter

    but would like to have one.
    Dahlia86 Dahlia86
    31-35, F
    Aug 29, 2015

    I'm not good at keeping them either.

    Well sometimes. Some convos are more easy flowing than others
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 25, 2016

    im so not good at starting a conversation,

    even here on EP I suck at it. every time I see my friend the only conversation we have is "hey, how are you" ? "good, u ?" im good" that's good, ok bye" and then that's the end of the conversation. I suck at keeping the conversation going as well. I never know what to say to...
    EnjoyTheSilenceX EnjoyTheSilenceX
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 23, 2014

    my communication skills keep me from remembering

    or keeping a strong online connection.. I guess its tiring after being here for so long first one was in 2008ish I liked it when people would just p.m me with something to talk about instead of just p.ming saying "hi whats up" idk whats up ? because I suck at starting...
    MyraTomPhil MyraTomPhil
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 2, 2015

    I never know how to start a conversation

    without sounding ridiculous or stupid but I just love to have random conversations
    Myself1myself2 Myself1myself2
    18-21, F
    Jul 26, 2015

    or keeping them going,

    for that matter.
    thetitania thetitania
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2015
    Ambermegan94 Ambermegan94
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2015
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