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I 'm Tired of Being the Responsible One

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    I feel everyone's pain on this one.

    I'm 45 years old and I'm with someone who is 10 years younger then me. I have already raised my two boys and I didn't think I'd be raising another one! I have know idea what the hell I've gotten myself into!!
    Krisco1970 Krisco1970 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2015

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    Soooo tired. I work 7 days a week trying to get

    ends to meet and i just want a break. :( at least some different people to talk to if nothing else
    Tiffany303 Tiffany303 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2014

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    So tired of it. I just feel like screaming,

    but that wouldn't help much. My life is going kinda haywire right now and I feel the pull back into depression.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    bills paid, dinner fixed,

    dishes done, laundry washed dried and folded, sidewalks shoveled, garbage taken out, cats fed, cat pans cleaned. yep thats my afternoon after work. now I need to get gas in his truck, make his lunch, get his meds. hmmmm I want to have a day off. ugh
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 5, 2015

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    Tired of being the responsible one

    for sure. It's always so complex, isn't it? For example with myself, I know how to become unstuck from being the one with l the weight on my shoulders but I also feel like if I don't do take on that responsibility then who will? I am firm believer in hard work. I think it's...
    stevesaul stevesaul 22-25, M Jan 26, 2014

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    I walked in on a person

    who attempted suicide, my world crashed!
    closethegap closethegap 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    Breakfast...who prepared it

    after working in a night shift? I came home at 9 am. I did while he was watching TV and he can leave whenever he pleased because his managing his own business. After breakfast who took care of the kids, fixed their things and prepared them for school? I did after he dashed off...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2014

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    I always have to remind him of everything

    and the sad part is it's mostly his OWN responsibilities cuz we do have responsibilities together as a couple but seriously I need to remind him to pay his car insurance, phone bill, and also our bedroom set we are renting to own he was late on the FIRST payment the rent a...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F Jul 1, 2015

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    And Yet...

    when there's no one else... there's little choice.as my mother taught me:If not me, then who?  Apparently no one I can count on for the job in my neck of the woods...not that I'd go party or anything... but I would like to be fancy free once in a blue moon or two... not have to...
    ElvenLady ElvenLady 36-40, F May 11, 2011

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    Sigh. I'm a smoker of cigarettes.

    It's a horrible habit. I'm well aware. I grew up in a home of smokers. And have been smoking myself for twenty years. I keep making plans to quit. But I have yet to follow through. It kills my budget. Not to mention the effect it has on me. Anyway, I live in a smoke free...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    I'm tired! I'm tired of always taking care of

    everybody. I've got 1 younger brother, and my parents are divorced. It's actually frustrating when you have divorced parents, we live with our mom but are dad wants us with him all the time. I began hating him...I hate myself for saying this, but I can't, I don't like being with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 23, 2015

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    I sometimes wonder when it will be my turn.

    ...to have someone take care of me. A moment of anger and resentment born out of weariness. Then I take myself off into my own mind and imagine what that would be like. Could I even accept it freely? Without guilt? Without feeling like I'm not contributing? Would I even...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    I'm tired of being the responsible one,

    the sensible one. I don't want to be the careful one, the cautious one, the reliable one. I want to jump into new experiences, follow my dreams, live a life full of wonderful adventures.....when will I get to be carefree and live those dreams?
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 22, 2014

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    he is so quick to blame everything on me every

    time I'm sick of it. he blames me that all the money from the little settlement he got is gone cuz I wanted stupid things when he is the one that chose to spend money left and right on stupid ****.. smh why's that my fault? I'm not the one who always wants to buy beers and...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul 26-30, F Jul 11, 2015

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    Sometimes I wish I could be selfish

    and irresponsible. I always have to do what has to be done. Always must do the right thing and put my own desires last. Don't get me wrong, I am grateful for having the ability to do what I do and for everything I have. I just dream of taking off on a whim once in a while...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    "I wanna swing from the chandelier.

    .. I wanna feel like tomorrow doesn't exist... Won't look down, won't open my eyes..." Chandelier - Sia She's going on 1 on the 20th, my gorgeous daughter, that is. Enjoying being a mother. A bit emotional at the moment. One of the cons about not living your life before you get...
    LoveOverHatred LoveOverHatred 22-25, F Dec 16, 2014

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    And Yet...

    when there's no one else... there's little choice.as my mother taught me:If not me, then who?  Apparently no one I can count on for the job in my neck of the woods...not that I'd go party or anything... but I would like to be fancy free once in a blue moon or two... not have to...
    ElvenLady ElvenLady 36-40, F 2 Responses May 11, 2011

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    I have been for so damn long.

    .... I just want to get wasted, shoot the lights out, and howl at the f'n moon!!!!!
    Extant1 Extant1 51-55, M 7 Responses Nov 17, 2015

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    The Good Child.

    I have 4 siblings and not to be really mean but my siblings are not the brightest crayons in the box. My younger sister feels the need to sneak around, slack, lie and be all sneaky even when she doesn't have to be. Our parents are really laid back with that sort of stuff and my...
    Didosaurus Didosaurus 18-21, F Jul 24, 2011

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    hey all ! ... this is important

    and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i expected people will help me out from my heart broken stage and yes to maximum extend people helped, thanks a lot... then i began...
    heartless2 heartless2 22-25, M Jul 22, 2014

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    "Here. Watch my luggage.

    " ...I don't even know you. ...fine. I'll watch your stuff, but hurry up because I have a bus to catch. "Here. Have a dog." I can't take care of a dog. I don't even have the energy for myself...Fine! I'll find a good home for it since you seem to be washing your hands of the...
    TheBadgeringWitness TheBadgeringWitness 31-35 Nov 13, 2014

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    Please help...my Bf just got a dui

    and I'm the one that has to say you shouldn't drink. And I'm the bad guy now we are both 21 and I understand the want to drink but after getting arrested a week ago you would think drinking is the last think that he would want to do. I just don't even know what to do anymore. we...
    XRhiXRI XRhiXRI 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2014

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    I'm tired of always being the one in my marriage

    that has to do everything. My husband says because I don't work everything is to be done by me. I wish I could just leave and work. I can't my son is disabled and needs me. So I handle every house hold chore, everything with both my kids. ( my husband had no idea who our...
    Baasa12 Baasa12 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

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    Me Too

    I always have to be the responsible one.  I have several siblings, one older and several younger.  I had to be the one to push my older brother to do simplet things like go to school or these days to spend time with his kids and never to forget to take time out for them...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 13, 2009

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    Out of my trio of friends,

    I am the responsible one; the one who organises days out, get-togethers, parties etc. you name it, I've had to plan it. Don't get me wrong, they're both fun and awesome people, just I wish I could sit back and relax once in a while.
    Seblett Seblett 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2014

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    Wish I Was The One Being Cared For...

    I have always been described as responsible and dependable. Through age, I have come to resent this as people often take advantage of those traits. Lately, I do feel the responsibility is becoming too much. My younger sister is depressed and I am her only support in the family. I...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    People need to start taking care of themselves

    for once. I can't fix everything all of the time.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F Nov 19, 2015

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    So what if I'm the oldest!

    I'm still a person. I can't control others anymore than they can control me. My sibling doesn't listen. Oh well it's not my problem. If the kids at camp don't behave, that's all right they'll deal with the consequences. Just don't make it my problem. I do what I want. And when...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids 16-17, F Apr 13, 2014

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    No More Stress Pls.

    I am the one who makes sure the bills are paid, there's food on the table and work overtime when possible to make sure there's enough money coming in to do all this. I go through much stress in trying to make ends meet where my partner will just walk of a job if he doesn't get...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 23, 2012

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    The "Old Soul"

    I've been told my whole life that i was an "old soul". To this day I don't really understand what exactly that means or if its a compliment. From what i understand it means that your reliable and responsible, you can be counted on to take care of those who can't take...
    firefly21 firefly21 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 18, 2009

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    People like to say love is unconditional,

    but it's not, and even if it was unconditional, it's still never free. There's always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won't be...
    GirlieGirl07 GirlieGirl07 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2015

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    Most people do not really want freedom,

    because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility. Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents
    GirlieGirl07 GirlieGirl07 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 16, 2015

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    Getting Sick Of It

    I'm the oldest of four kids, my dad died when I was 7 or 8, and here I am. I'm 28, my brother is almost 26 and still acts like he's a college freshman or younger, drinking as much as he can as fast as he can and calls it a fun time. He's a major pothead, his gf/fiance isnt any...
    cobrafish cobrafish 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 17, 2013

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