I 'm Tired of Being the Responsible One

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    So what if I'm the oldest!

    I'm still a person. I can't control others anymore than they can control me. My sibling doesn't listen. Oh well it's not my problem. If the kids at camp don't behave, that's all right they'll deal with the consequences. Just don't make it my problem. I do what I want. And when...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids
    16-17, F
    Apr 13, 2014

    I feel everyone's pain on this one.

    I'm 45 years old and I'm with someone who is 10 years younger then me. I have already raised my two boys and I didn't think I'd be raising another one! I have know idea what the hell I've gotten myself into!!
    Krisco1970 Krisco1970
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2015

    I always have to remind him of everything

    and the sad part is it's mostly his OWN responsibilities cuz we do have responsibilities together as a couple but seriously I need to remind him to pay his car insurance, phone bill, and also our bedroom set we are renting to own he was late on the FIRST payment the rent a...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul
    26-30, F
    Jul 1, 2015

    Tired of being the responsible one

    for sure. It's always so complex, isn't it? For example with myself, I know how to become unstuck from being the one with l the weight on my shoulders but I also feel like if I don't do take on that responsibility then who will? I am firm believer in hard work. I think it's...
    stevesaul stevesaul
    22-25, M
    Jan 26, 2014

    Getting Sick Of It

    I'm the oldest of four kids, my dad died when I was 7 or 8, and here I am. I'm 28, my brother is almost 26 and still acts like he's a college freshman or younger, drinking as much as he can as fast as he can and calls it a fun time. He's a major pothead, his gf/fiance isnt any...
    cobrafish cobrafish
    26-30, M
    1 Response Sep 17, 2013

    So tired of it. I just feel like screaming,

    but that wouldn't help much. My life is going kinda haywire right now and I feel the pull back into depression.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 22, 2014

    I'm tired of being the responsible one,

    the sensible one. I don't want to be the careful one, the cautious one, the reliable one. I want to jump into new experiences, follow my dreams, live a life full of wonderful adventures.....when will I get to be carefree and live those dreams?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 22, 2014

    "Here. Watch my luggage.

    " ...I don't even know you. ...fine. I'll watch your stuff, but hurry up because I have a bus to catch. "Here. Have a dog." I can't take care of a dog. I don't even have the energy for myself...Fine! I'll find a good home for it since you seem to be washing your hands of the...
    TheBadgeringWitness TheBadgeringWitness
    31-35
    Nov 13, 2014

    I'm tired! I'm tired of always taking care of

    everybody. I've got 1 younger brother, and my parents are divorced. It's actually frustrating when you have divorced parents, we live with our mom but are dad wants us with him all the time. I began hating him...I hate myself for saying this, but I can't, I don't like being with...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    No More Stress Pls.

    I am the one who makes sure the bills are paid, there's food on the table and work overtime when possible to make sure there's enough money coming in to do all this. I go through much stress in trying to make ends meet where my partner will just walk of a job if he doesn't get...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 23, 2012

    I walked in on a person

    who attempted suicide, my world crashed!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 25

    I sometimes wonder when it will be my turn.

    ...to have someone take care of me. A moment of anger and resentment born out of weariness. Then I take myself off into my own mind and imagine what that would be like. Could I even accept it freely? Without guilt? Without feeling like I'm not contributing? Would I even...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 19, 2015

    The Good Child.

    I have 4 siblings and not to be really mean but my siblings are not the brightest crayons in the box. My younger sister feels the need to sneak around, slack, lie and be all sneaky even when she doesn't have to be. Our parents are really laid back with that sort of stuff and my...
    Didosaurus Didosaurus
    18-21, F
    Jul 24, 2011

    bills paid, dinner fixed,

    dishes done, laundry washed dried and folded, sidewalks shoveled, garbage taken out, cats fed, cat pans cleaned. yep thats my afternoon after work. now I need to get gas in his truck, make his lunch, get his meds. hmmmm I want to have a day off. ugh
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 5, 2015

    Wish I Was The One Being Cared For...

    I have always been described as responsible and dependable. Through age, I have come to resent this as people often take advantage of those traits. Lately, I do feel the responsibility is becoming too much. My younger sister is depressed and I am her only support in the family. I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Sep 14, 2013

    People like to say love is unconditional,

    but it's not, and even if it was unconditional, it's still never free. There's always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won't be...
    GirlieGirl07 GirlieGirl07
    41-45, F
    Jul 16, 2015

    Sigh. I'm a smoker of cigarettes.

    It's a horrible habit. I'm well aware. I grew up in a home of smokers. And have been smoking myself for twenty years. I keep making plans to quit. But I have yet to follow through. It kills my budget. Not to mention the effect it has on me. Anyway, I live in a smoke free...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2015

    People need to start taking care of themselves

    for once. I can't fix everything all of the time.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Nov 19, 2015

    hey all ! ... this is important

    and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i expected people will help me out from my heart broken stage and yes to maximum extend people helped, thanks a lot... then i began...
    heartless2 heartless2
    22-25, M
    Jul 22, 2014

    Out of my trio of friends,

    I am the responsible one; the one who organises days out, get-togethers, parties etc. you name it, I've had to plan it. Don't get me wrong, they're both fun and awesome people, just I wish I could sit back and relax once in a while.
    Seblett Seblett
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2014

    Soooo tired. I work 7 days a week trying to get

    ends to meet and i just want a break. :( at least some different people to talk to if nothing else
    Tiffany303 Tiffany303
    18-21, F
    Jan 13, 2014

    I'm tired of always being the one in my marriage

    that has to do everything. My husband says because I don't work everything is to be done by me. I wish I could just leave and work. I can't my son is disabled and needs me. So I handle every house hold chore, everything with both my kids. ( my husband had no idea who our...
    Baasa12 Baasa12
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    Most people do not really want freedom,

    because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility. Sigmund Freud, Civilization and Its Discontents
    GirlieGirl07 GirlieGirl07
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2015

    "I wanna swing from the chandelier.

    .. I wanna feel like tomorrow doesn't exist... Won't look down, won't open my eyes..." Chandelier - Sia She's going on 1 on the 20th, my gorgeous daughter, that is. Enjoying being a mother. A bit emotional at the moment. One of the cons about not living your life before you get...
    LoveOverHatred LoveOverHatred
    22-25, F
    Dec 16, 2014

    he is so quick to blame everything on me every

    time I'm sick of it. he blames me that all the money from the little settlement he got is gone cuz I wanted stupid things when he is the one that chose to spend money left and right on stupid ****.. smh why's that my fault? I'm not the one who always wants to buy beers and...
    LuvLostSoul LuvLostSoul
    26-30, F
    Jul 11, 2015

    Breakfast...who prepared it

    after working in a night shift? I came home at 9 am. I did while he was watching TV and he can leave whenever he pleased because his managing his own business. After breakfast who took care of the kids, fixed their things and prepared them for school? I did after he dashed off...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2014

    Please help...my Bf just got a dui

    and I'm the one that has to say you shouldn't drink. And I'm the bad guy now we are both 21 and I understand the want to drink but after getting arrested a week ago you would think drinking is the last think that he would want to do. I just don't even know what to do anymore. we...
    XRhiXRI XRhiXRI
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2014

    Me Too

    I always have to be the responsible one.  I have several siblings, one older and several younger.  I had to be the one to push my older brother to do simplet things like go to school or these days to spend time with his kids and never to forget to take time out for them...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 13, 2009

    The "Old Soul"

    I've been told my whole life that i was an "old soul". To this day I don't really understand what exactly that means or if its a compliment. From what i understand it means that your reliable and responsible, you can be counted on to take care of those who can't take...
    firefly21 firefly21
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 18, 2009

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