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I 'm Too Nice

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    This has been an issue in the past.

    When you're nice and you're in high school, more often than not, people say screw being nice back and use you for money or whatever.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 13, 2015

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    Everyone always tells me I'm too nice its a good

    and bad thing but I'm okay with it
    brenda4696 brenda4696 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I don't know why I allow myself to be taken

    advantage off. I tend to be helpfull but when the people I help don't seem to try and improve their situation ( i.e money) I sympathize more than I should.
    WinterSunShine WinterSunShine 18-21, M Feb 15, 2015

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    I need to stop being

    so nice all the time. People are starting to use my kindness and im tired. Im a human being too i have feelings im not a robot to do whatever you say. I hate that im too nice. Now im stuck in a situation i don't want to be in. (My life sucks sometimes :-(
    Chocolategirly09 Chocolategirly09 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 6, 2015

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    Need to learn to set boundaries

    I don't mind helping people. In fact, I enjoy it. The problem is when I put other peoples needs ahead of my own. Or when I don't set boundaries. It's O.K. to help others but I need to take care of myself. I have to really work at being assertive and not letting people take...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 29, 2010

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    I have always been a nice

    and kindhearted person, that goes out of there way to help others in need. I have been taken advantage of in my life for my generosity no doubt, but that does not deter me from being who I truly am and will continue to do random acts of kindness until I pass away :)
    HAMSOLO HAMSOLO 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 22, 2015

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    I Can't Believe I Did That. XD

    A couple days ago I waited patiently for a half an hour while one of my professors made small talk with a student. I had a single sentence of class-related information to mention to the professor. But I just waited for a half an hour in that room because I didn't want to...
    RandomErr RandomErr 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Even when i know they are bad

    for me, i always do what's best for them anyway. Why do i always let myself stand in this position? It's like i allow to be taken advantage of, regret it, and then do it over again.
    ChlaraX ChlaraX 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16, 2015

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    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    I think I'm too nice sometimes

    because I friend people I shouldn't. I never think it's fair to judge. I don't give up trying to be a friend usually they ignore me, try to use me, or do something super rude before I give up. I guess I just expect people to be better than what they are.
    brit1219 brit1219 22-25, F Aug 7, 2015

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    I'm just..., done with people now,

    you literally can't trust anyone.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 25, 2014

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    I'm very sweet and kind to everyone

    and I hate being mean to others, even if they did bad to me. My dad said I need to quit being so nice all the time and I need to be more assertive, especially to perverts that take advantage of women like me. True but I hate cussing and being rude. I like joking but some people...
    missnicegirl missnicegirl 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2015

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    "If you don't have something nice to say,

    don't say it all" I live by this too much! It's actually a bad thing, because when people say or do highly f-Ed up things, I rarely say anything. Example: my friend just found out her son has autism and her reaction was horribly disturbing. "Well he's going to have a rough life...
    Whatsmystory Whatsmystory 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2015

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    It's Too True

    I can't help it! I think it's because I really can't stand it when people dislike me for whatever reason. If someone were to be mean to me, I would just be even nicer to them to make them like me :( I know that's not the best thing to do, but I really can't seem to help it, I...
    PassionIsLove PassionIsLove 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2010

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    I get that a lot. I'm just way to nice

    and I can't help it. Because in my mind you treat people the way you want to be treat it. But the thing is people take advantage of me because of it and I can't stand for myself cause then I feel guilty. I’m careful with words and actions and spend a lot of time thinking...
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F Mar 17, 2015

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    It gets me no where. I guess the more

    appropriate word I'm looking for is friendly. People act like friendliness is such a far fetched gesture.
    niko031 niko031 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2014

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    I think I often get taken advantage of.

    But then, I'd rather get taken advantage of than to not help out (within reason). If someone takes advantage of me, it's on them not me. I have learned to stand up for myself though. When someone has wronged me, I will tell them... nicely, but I will take care of myself now...
    LookingForSoMuchMore LookingForSoMuchMore 51-55, M 2 Responses May 20, 2014

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    Polite

    Ok. So I've stood my ground. Been firm but fair about neighbours playing loud music. They have shown no courtesy or consideration since moving in a couple of months ago. We keep our television down and I do not play music out loud opting for using iPod touch. I would be...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2011

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    I need to stop being

    so nice and just speak my mind with those that are supposed to be close to me. I can not get over the anger if I do not finally have it out with him. He needs to take responsibility and get help for all he has done to our family. Choices will need to be made I am just not...
    smurphette smurphette 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    Enough to Be Critcized For It

    I get told all the time that I seem like a nice person and that i am a nice person. But I've also gotten criticized for it because I've helped people that basically would take advantage:(
    Tummie Tummie 26-30, M 17 Responses Aug 8, 2009

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    Too Damn Nice

    Now. I'm have an invisible  vault wall around me now. 
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 2, 2011

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    It is definitely my weak point.

    If i stay this nice i'll have a hard time in life.
    Offing Offing 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2014

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    I am starting to stand up

    for myself and tell people off when need be, so that is some progress.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2015

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    I'm too nice to people

    if they need money I'll give you because you say it's important but then I see pics of them having fun at like a bar lol. I feel like I get taking advantage way to much and this is not the first time . How do I stop being to nice and enjoy my life lol
    sioma17 sioma17 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2015

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    Toxicity

    I'm passive aggressive and completely awkward which means everytime I go threw some BS I sort of brush it off without confrontation. This is manifesting into a toxic anger inside me, I feel like my heart is full of hate and anger. I've been getting tons of headaches..troubles...
    LostEbonyGirl LostEbonyGirl 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    So I once opened this door open

    for a girl I liked and she looked disgusted!!! She glared at me and told me that I was "too nice" and shouldn't revert to old sexist gestures. Really?? "Too nice"?? I don't care what she says, I'm going to continue to be "too nice" and be chivalrous because women deserve to be...
    jonbz17 jonbz17 22-25, M 4 Responses Jan 17, 2014

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    I've never understood

    why some nice people get loads of friends and some just get shut out for the funnier, better-looking, more outgoing friends. Which elixir are these guys drinking from?
    emiveritas emiveritas 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2014

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    I feel like I have this image of "nice person"

    to live up to sometimes. Sometimes I'm genuinely being nice, but sometimes it's just because I'm a firm believer of the phrase "you catch more flies with honey, than with vinegar." (Random pondering: why would you want to catch flies though?) However, being nice can be a trap...
    sophiebelle27 sophiebelle27 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    I am nice to everyone I meet,

    ever since I could remember. My friends can take advantage of me, as well as people I first meet. I do anything for anyone and I don't know why. I am a complete pleaser. I truly like to make people smile and happy- but some people shut me out. I never understand why, I just tell...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2014

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    On Friday, my Home Economics teacher got really

    upset at about half of our class because they didn't clear up their mess and they didn't wash their dishes properly, so she said that the whole class wasn't allowed to cook at all anymore. I wasn't even one of the people who upset her but I customised and sent her an apology...
    laurabaillie16 laurabaillie16 13-15, F Mar 14, 2015

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    I feel like I'm too nice,

    like.. I can't stand up for myself because I'm scared I'll hurt someone's feelings,
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    FotTrox FotTrox 13-15, M Nov 1, 2015

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    I realized about 2 months ago

    that no one cares about what I have to say. And that's alright. Sometimes I'll be talking on the phone and they're like let me call you back, while I'm in mid sentence. And for that reason I decided to cut down on my speaking. It's funny that no one even noticed that I don't...
    asdfghjkljacque asdfghjkljacque 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20, 2014

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    Why Am I Too Nice?

    I have a tendancy to be too nice. I always feel the need to try and help everyone. I dont know why. I have helped many of friends and family with money and just about everything. I have been asking myself why lately. Is it a need of acceptance or what? Wish I knew why I always...
    dprince8302 dprince8302 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    Honestly, I think I will never attempt to

    commit a crime because I'd probably feel to guilty afterwards and turn myself in...
    AndyL567 AndyL567 13-15, M 2 Responses Oct 16, 2014

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    Being too nice has caused me to get hurt time

    after time, but it's a big part of who I am, I wouldn't be me if I tried to change it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 1, 2014

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    when I do something very kind to someone,

    who don't deserve that act of kindness because they're hurt me and act mean to me on purpose, I should feel happy about myself because I'm being the better person, instead I feel very very stupid and silly and naive,I mean I don't know if it's a sign of weakness or nativeness to...
    sweeeeeeeeeeetheart sweeeeeeeeeeetheart 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    People say I'm too nice

    for my own good but its just in my nature. I consider myself a very ugly and selfish person and THAT'S WHY I HIDE IT BY BEING NICE. I forgave my stepfathers cruel action, I let him get away with it and leave town, whenever I was bullied in school I always brought snacks to...
    ChildOfHarmony ChildOfHarmony 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2015

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    im so nice i always get taken advantage of.

    I need to tell people to **** off more often.
    MoragaroM MoragaroM 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 8, 2014

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    This can be a problem.

    I'll happily do anything for anybody. Just because there are a lot of people out there who find it really difficult to do simple things. But you can also do things for people who will abuse your good nature.
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 26, 2014

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    Really is that possible,

    I think another person needs to decide for sure.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 22, 2015

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    No. Seriously. I am way too nice.

    I'm nice to every single person I meet. I'm even nice to the people who have wronged me, and they don't even deserve an ounce of niceness. I've gotten better at that though. Maybe I should just be rude to people now since that seems like the only way to get them to understand...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2014

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    I say a WWII movie...

    .the kamikaze pilots wore helmets.....?
    lcbill313 lcbill313 16-17, M Nov 20, 2015

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    I can't stay mad at people.

    Today my friend totally pissed me off saying that I have alway said no to her and put her down. Which is totally untrue. I have never said no in my life and I never put people down. Anyway she started being a little actress and started to cry and my heart literally broke I...
    sixpackbookworm sixpackbookworm 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 17, 2014

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    How come society makes us feel bad

    for thinking out the box when all the time it's made up to control us. Come play at secreterotica . com it's sexy, fun the groups and library are wicked and no BS censorship either.
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M