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I 'm Too Nice

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    I've never understood

    why some nice people get loads of friends and some just get shut out for the funnier, better-looking, more outgoing friends. Which elixir are these guys drinking from?
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    No. Seriously. I am way too nice.

    I'm nice to every single person I meet. I'm even nice to the people who have wronged me, and they don't even deserve an ounce of niceness. I've gotten better at that though. Maybe I should just be rude to people now since that seems like the only way to get them to understand...
    sugarcakes143 sugarcakes143 18-21, F Jul 25

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    It's Too True

    I can't help it! I think it's because I really can't stand it when people dislike me for whatever reason. If someone were to be mean to me, I would just be even nicer to them to make them like me :( I know that's not the best thing to do, but I really can't seem to help it, I...
    PassionIsLove PassionIsLove 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2010

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    I'm just the type of person

    that would and has given the shirt of my back if I thought I could help someone else. I am not rich by any means. the last time I help some out. the girl was pull of the side of the road. I pull over to see if she need help. I can see she been cry. I get over to ask what wrong...
    chat68chat chat68chat 31-35, M Jan 7

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    So I once opened this door open

    for a girl I liked and she looked disgusted!!! She glared at me and told me that I was "too nice" and shouldn't revert to old sexist gestures. Really?? "Too nice"?? I don't care what she says, I'm going to continue to be "too nice" and be chivalrous because women deserve to be...
    jonbz17 jonbz17 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 17

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    I find it really hard to say no!

    Sometimes I think it's a good thing, it has however made it easy for people to use me
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 14

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    Too Damn Nice

    Now. I'm have an invisible  vault wall around me now. 
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 2, 2011

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    I'm Getting Sick Of It...

    So recently I've started trying to "push back" a bit on people. I think "too nice" is too positive a term for it. It's really letting people walk all over you because you think they are somehow above you and they should call the shots. I think once I realized that I was...
    aislersan aislersan 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 20, 2010

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    I'm too nice, sometimes I'd like to be a rude

    person to the people that are rude to me, but I just keep myself calm, ignore them, then just forget about them when I get somewhere else and they aren't there.
    Fred363 Fred363 16-17, M 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    "TOO NICE ?"' You’re much “too

    nice” That’s what I hear “Just like a brother” “You’re such a dear” You’re just “too nice” An adjective I hear a lot Now don’t get me wrong And think that I’m not I’m just so damn tired Of being just like a brother I don't need another sister Or even...
    nivanvc nivanvc 36-40, M Jan 5

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    A Walk Over It Seems

    I have been told that at times I'm 'too nice' and I don't feel that's a compliment. Its important to be nice but I feel as if people see me as a walk over. I really enjoy helping people and get satisfaction from it but its not always reciprocated. People tell me I need to...
    Lilacpearl Lilacpearl 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2013

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    This can be a problem.

    I'll happily do anything for anybody. Just because there are a lot of people out there who find it really difficult to do simple things. But you can also do things for people who will abuse your good nature.
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 26

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    hey all ! ... this is important

    and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i expected people will help me out from my heart broken stage and yes to maximum extend people helped, thanks a lot... then i began...
    heartless2 heartless2 22-25, M Jul 22

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    Way To Nice

    I am to frekin nice !! Seriously !! I'm even nice to people who have hurt me and stuff... I help people with their problems...i mean i don't mind at all... I'm just so kind to every one...*sigh* this suckS .-.
    itsbiersack itsbiersack 13-15 2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    Why Am I Too Nice?

    I have a tendancy to be too nice. I always feel the need to try and help everyone. I dont know why. I have helped many of friends and family with money and just about everything. I have been asking myself why lately. Is it a need of acceptance or what? Wish I knew why I always...
    dprince8302 dprince8302 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    It's a curse. I can never be mean to people -

    it just makes me feel like ****. I trust people way too much as well, but every time I do it always comes crashing down on me. Being too nice isn't great
    emjagrace emjagrace 13-15, F Jul 21

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    ... I just hate it. Every time I joke with

    someone, like say, "I'll slap you" or something, I always say RIGHT after, "NO I'M KIDDING I'M SORRY" or something. It's not that I don't like being nice, it's that I'm TOO nice. If I were in a situation where some guy was trying to trick me through sympathy, dang... that trick...
    evie2001 evie2001 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    Polite

    Ok. So I've stood my ground. Been firm but fair about neighbours playing loud music. They have shown no courtesy or consideration since moving in a couple of months ago. We keep our television down and I do not play music out loud opting for using iPod touch. I would be...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2011

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    Need to learn to set boundaries

    I don't mind helping people. In fact, I enjoy it. The problem is when I put other peoples needs ahead of my own. Or when I don't set boundaries. It's O.K. to help others but I need to take care of myself. I have to really work at being assertive and not letting people take...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 29, 2010

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    It gets me no where. I guess the more

    appropriate word I'm looking for is friendly. People act like friendliness is such a far fetched gesture.
    niko031 niko031 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    People tell me this all the time &

    that is probably why people take advantage of me because I allow it. I will continue to be nice.
    toots01 toots01 56-60, F Jan 12

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    You know.. I try to be nice to everyone

    or at lest the people who haven't done anything wrong or deserve it. But it ways gets thrown in my face. You know what? My dear, go **** yourself. 🔔🔚
    CallMeChelsea CallMeChelsea 16-17, F May 27

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    Today I realized that I'm too nice.

    Like I knew that I was a super nice person, but now I see that it is a true weakness. This makes me really, really sad and angry. I didn't know it was so detrimental to me! My eyes are beginning to open. I am truly disgusted with myself. Now don't get me wrong - I love me and...
    RoyalTeee RoyalTeee 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Two year I got told I'm too nice,

    by my senior female supervisor... I was shock at first, but now I've had time to think about it... I am too nice! I hate being so nice, I feel like I have another side to me! Not in a bad way geez!!! Like tonight and every night I work lates. I wrote about my male 20some...
    Budmouth Budmouth 26-30, F May 9

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    Being too nice has caused me to get hurt time

    after time, but it's a big part of who I am, I wouldn't be me if I tried to change it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 1

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    I let people walk over me.

    People take advantage of my sweetness and I keep getting hurt :(
    kpweant1 kpweant1 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    People are always telling me I'm "Too Nice.

    " I don't understand how that's possible. I don't think there is such a thing as too nice. We are all human beings. And to me, if there is a way I can make someone else happier, I am going to do it. I don't care what that way is. To me it is worth. Especially the reward when the...
    21cookielover21 21cookielover21 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    I like this person I've meet

    but her family and extended family are a mess. Should I expect the same of them if we started a relationship?
    danielstar danielstar 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 6

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    I think I often get taken advantage of.

    But then, I'd rather get taken advantage of than to not help out (within reason). If someone takes advantage of me, it's on them not me. I have learned to stand up for myself though. When someone has wronged me, I will tell them... nicely, but I will take care of myself now...
    LookingForSoMuchMore LookingForSoMuchMore 51-55, M 2 Responses May 20

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    Helping

    I always help people who've wronged me when they ask even if they don't deserve it I just can' say no >.<
    Jason255 Jason255 13-15, M Nov 28, 2013

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    I am nice to everyone I meet,

    ever since I could remember. My friends can take advantage of me, as well as people I first meet. I do anything for anyone and I don't know why. I am a complete pleaser. I truly like to make people smile and happy- but some people shut me out. I never understand why, I just tell...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 18

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    Enough to Be Critcized For It

    I get told all the time that I seem like a nice person and that i am a nice person. But I've also gotten criticized for it because I've helped people that basically would take advantage:(
    Tummie Tummie 26-30, M 17 Responses Aug 8, 2009

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    I always do for everyone else.

    But f*** everyone else it's time for me to focus on myself. I'm done with carrying everyone's baggage and making sure that everyone else is okay while I take all the s*** and end up drowning.
    Xander8905 Xander8905 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 18

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    Anyone else ever get tiered of be the only nice

    person? I am tiered of livening in a world were competition drives all things making us unpleasant, non cooperative, and un nice.
    serhaw serhaw 26-30, M Apr 13

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    I reach for the phone with tears in my eyes he

    still hasn't called I cry My friend just sighs and sais oh your way too nice and so naive. I stop to think for a second is that so bad? Does it make me look like a fool?
    Blueberrybliss Blueberrybliss 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I pretty much do anything anyone tells me

    unless I feel it's over the edge.
    cotygal123 cotygal123 13-15, F 4 Responses May 9

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    I can't say no. I always say yes

    whenever my friends want me to do something, and I feel like I need to learn to say no more.
    EmoSakurachan EmoSakurachan 16-17 Feb 12

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    My biggest problem is I care too much about

    people. I care for them when they don't even care for themselves. I have got to find a way to not care so much. :'(
    1EPMinnie 1EPMinnie 70+, F 10 Responses May 16

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    Toxicity

    I'm passive aggressive and completely awkward which means everytime I go threw some BS I sort of brush it off without confrontation. This is manifesting into a toxic anger inside me, I feel like my heart is full of hate and anger. I've been getting tons of headaches..troubles...
    LostEbonyGirl LostEbonyGirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    Im Too Nice!!

    i really am too nice, and I'm not going to make any apologies for being this way!! and anyway, what's wrong with being nice, even if I'm too nice?? i mean,this is the way i am, its ground in to my personality,so how can that be wrong??? how can, just trying to be myself be wrong...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 20, 2010

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    I feel like I'm way too nice to people

    even though I shouldn't but that's just how I am I can never be mean
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I Can't Believe I Did That. XD

    A couple days ago I waited patiently for a half an hour while one of my professors made small talk with a student. I had a single sentence of class-related information to mention to the professor. But I just waited for a half an hour in that room because I didn't want to...
    RandomErr RandomErr 18-21, M 5 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    I'm too nice to the people that make me mad, and that don't like me, and are very rude to me, I help them anyway with what they need, I'd like to be rude to them but I won't unless...
    Fred363 Fred363 16-17, M 8 hrs ago

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    Exactly as the title says. I'm too nice to people sometimes and they just walk all over me. But when I flip everything around I'm suddenly an *******. The hell? I'm sorry I can be...
    emptyskyform emptyskyform 18-21, M Jul 21

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    I feel like people push me over sometimes and are only there when they need me and I try to please everyone and finally my mom and my boyfriend were like "the reason you keep...
    annieannana annieannana 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    I'm way too nice I think.... Until I get set off by the littlest thing then all hell breaks loose xD
    DreadlockJesus DreadlockJesus 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    I am too nice that is why I always get hurt!
    scarlet35holloway scarlet35holloway 16-17, F Aug 10

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    I always let people walk over me or I give people way too many chances. Most of the time I don't tell people how I feel because I don't want to hurt their feelings or make them sad...
    Starkillera Starkillera 22-25, F Jul 22

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    "World is full of nice people. If you can't find one, be one." - Unknown
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M Jul 22

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    Generous, Ungenerous In Return I'm generous to everyone, but I think I'm too generous because I always get ****** over or something goes wrong.
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    If I can help, I will, and because I rarely say no to people, they take more and more. I know people take advantage but if I can help, I struggle to say no.
    kirsty2004uk kirsty2004uk 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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