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I 'm Too Nice

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    Two year I got told I'm too nice,

    by my senior female supervisor... I was shock at first, but now I've had time to think about it... I am too nice! I hate being so nice, I feel like I have another side to me! Not in a bad way geez!!! Like tonight and every night I work lates. I wrote about my male 20some...
    Budmouth Budmouth 26-30, F May 9

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    Today I realized that I'm too nice.

    Like I knew that I was a super nice person, but now I see that it is a true weakness. This makes me really, really sad and angry. I didn't know it was so detrimental to me! My eyes are beginning to open. I am truly disgusted with myself. Now don't get me wrong - I love me and...
    RoyalTeee RoyalTeee 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 14

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    It gets me no where. I guess the more

    appropriate word I'm looking for is friendly. People act like friendliness is such a far fetched gesture.
    niko031 niko031 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 16

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    Too Damn Nice

    Now. I'm have an invisible  vault wall around me now. 
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 2, 2011

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    It's a curse. I can never be mean to people -

    it just makes me feel like ****. I trust people way too much as well, but every time I do it always comes crashing down on me. Being too nice isn't great
    emjagrace emjagrace 13-15, F Jul 21

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    No. Seriously. I am way too nice.

    I'm nice to every single person I meet. I'm even nice to the people who have wronged me, and they don't even deserve an ounce of niceness. I've gotten better at that though. Maybe I should just be rude to people now since that seems like the only way to get them to understand...
    sugarcakes143 sugarcakes143 18-21, F Jul 25

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    I need to stop being

    so nice and just speak my mind with those that are supposed to be close to me. I can not get over the anger if I do not finally have it out with him. He needs to take responsibility and get help for all he has done to our family. Choices will need to be made I am just not...
    smurphette smurphette 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 7

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    I pretty much do anything anyone tells me

    unless I feel it's over the edge.
    cotygal123 cotygal123 13-15, F 4 Responses May 9

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    This can be a problem.

    I'll happily do anything for anybody. Just because there are a lot of people out there who find it really difficult to do simple things. But you can also do things for people who will abuse your good nature.
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 26

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    I can't stay mad at people.

    Today my friend totally pissed me off saying that I have alway said no to her and put her down. Which is totally untrue. I have never said no in my life and I never put people down. Anyway she started being a little actress and started to cry and my heart literally broke I...
    dambookworm17 dambookworm17 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Being too nice has caused me to get hurt time

    after time, but it's a big part of who I am, I wouldn't be me if I tried to change it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 1

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    I like this person I've meet

    but her family and extended family are a mess. Should I expect the same of them if we started a relationship?
    danielstar danielstar 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 6

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    I am nice to everyone I meet,

    ever since I could remember. My friends can take advantage of me, as well as people I first meet. I do anything for anyone and I don't know why. I am a complete pleaser. I truly like to make people smile and happy- but some people shut me out. I never understand why, I just tell...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 18

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    I think I often get taken advantage of.

    But then, I'd rather get taken advantage of than to not help out (within reason). If someone takes advantage of me, it's on them not me. I have learned to stand up for myself though. When someone has wronged me, I will tell them... nicely, but I will take care of myself now...
    LookingForSoMuchMore LookingForSoMuchMore 51-55, M 2 Responses May 20

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    I'm too nice, sometimes I'd like to be a rude

    person to the people that are rude to me, but I just keep myself calm, ignore them, then just forget about them when I get somewhere else and they aren't there.
    Fred363 Fred363 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    Way To Nice

    I am to frekin nice !! Seriously !! I'm even nice to people who have hurt me and stuff... I help people with their problems...i mean i don't mind at all... I'm just so kind to every one...*sigh* this suckS .-.
    itsbiersack itsbiersack 13-15 2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Honestly, I think I will never attempt to

    commit a crime because I'd probably feel to guilty afterwards and turn myself in...
    AndyL567 AndyL567 13-15, M 2 Responses Oct 16

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    Why Am I Too Nice?

    I have a tendancy to be too nice. I always feel the need to try and help everyone. I dont know why. I have helped many of friends and family with money and just about everything. I have been asking myself why lately. Is it a need of acceptance or what? Wish I knew why I always...
    dprince8302 dprince8302 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    I have come to realize

    that I am too nice which is not a bad thing. But, when people hurt you and not have enough respect for you because you are too nice then it starts to work against you. I hate feeling like there are no nice people left in the world and that everyone only cares about themselves...
    ConfidentSpeaker ConfidentSpeaker 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    Is there ever such a thing

    as "too nice"? If there is then I am probably the epitome of that sentence. I like everyone and I never judge, I take people as I meet them. I genuinely care about all people from all walks of life. I always try my utmost to help the people I meet that cross my path. I just...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M Oct 10

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    I feel like I'm way too nice to people

    even though I shouldn't but that's just how I am I can never be mean
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 19

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    Need to learn to set boundaries

    I don't mind helping people. In fact, I enjoy it. The problem is when I put other peoples needs ahead of my own. Or when I don't set boundaries. It's O.K. to help others but I need to take care of myself. I have to really work at being assertive and not letting people take...
    lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 29, 2010

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    hey all ! ... this is important

    and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i expected people will help me out from my heart broken stage and yes to maximum extend people helped, thanks a lot... then i began...
    heartless2 heartless2 22-25, M Jul 22

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    Enough to Be Critcized For It

    I get told all the time that I seem like a nice person and that i am a nice person. But I've also gotten criticized for it because I've helped people that basically would take advantage:(
    Tummie Tummie 26-30, M 17 Responses Aug 8, 2009

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    I always do for everyone else.

    But f*** everyone else it's time for me to focus on myself. I'm done with carrying everyone's baggage and making sure that everyone else is okay while I take all the s*** and end up drowning.
    Xander8905 Xander8905 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 18

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    Polite

    Ok. So I've stood my ground. Been firm but fair about neighbours playing loud music. They have shown no courtesy or consideration since moving in a couple of months ago. We keep our television down and I do not play music out loud opting for using iPod touch. I would be...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2011

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    So I once opened this door open

    for a girl I liked and she looked disgusted!!! She glared at me and told me that I was "too nice" and shouldn't revert to old sexist gestures. Really?? "Too nice"?? I don't care what she says, I'm going to continue to be "too nice" and be chivalrous because women deserve to be...
    jonbz17 jonbz17 22-25, M 5 Responses Jan 17

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    Anyone else ever get tiered of be the only nice

    person? I am tiered of livening in a world were competition drives all things making us unpleasant, non cooperative, and un nice.
    serhaw serhaw 26-30, M Apr 13

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    Im Too Nice!!

    i really am too nice, and I'm not going to make any apologies for being this way!! and anyway, what's wrong with being nice, even if I'm too nice?? i mean,this is the way i am, its ground in to my personality,so how can that be wrong??? how can, just trying to be myself be wrong...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 20, 2010

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    My biggest problem is I care too much about

    people. I care for them when they don't even care for themselves. I have got to find a way to not care so much. :'(
    1EPMinnie 1EPMinnie 70+, F 10 Responses May 16

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    You know.. I try to be nice to everyone

    or at lest the people who haven't done anything wrong or deserve it. But it ways gets thrown in my face. You know what? My dear, go **** yourself. 🔔🔚
    CallMeChelsea CallMeChelsea 16-17, F May 27

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    I Can't Believe I Did That. XD

    A couple days ago I waited patiently for a half an hour while one of my professors made small talk with a student. I had a single sentence of class-related information to mention to the professor. But I just waited for a half an hour in that room because I didn't want to...
    RandomErr RandomErr 18-21, M 5 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Toxicity

    I'm passive aggressive and completely awkward which means everytime I go threw some BS I sort of brush it off without confrontation. This is manifesting into a toxic anger inside me, I feel like my heart is full of hate and anger. I've been getting tons of headaches..troubles...
    LostEbonyGirl LostEbonyGirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    I realized about 2 months ago

    that no one cares about what I have to say. And that's alright. Sometimes I'll be talking on the phone and they're like let me call you back, while I'm in mid sentence. And for that reason I decided to cut down on my speaking. It's funny that no one even noticed that I don't...
    asdfghjkljacque asdfghjkljacque 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I hate to admit it but I am

    but I'm not going to change me to get a girlfriend or be cool I'm not like that other people can just deal with it. I think it's the worst feeling ever but I don't think I'm too nice. I can be nasty when I want to be and you won't like it you **** me off
    JonnyBurrows10 JonnyBurrows10 18-21, M Sep 1

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    I let people walk over me.

    People take advantage of my sweetness and I keep getting hurt :(
    kpweant1 kpweant1 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 24

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    Or so i say. Lol But my critics here agree.

    Here in the real world. Not ep critics. Ep critics are deluded and ignorant. Lmao.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    A Walk Over It Seems

    I have been told that at times I'm 'too nice' and I don't feel that's a compliment. Its important to be nice but I feel as if people see me as a walk over. I really enjoy helping people and get satisfaction from it but its not always reciprocated. People tell me I need to...
    Lilacpearl Lilacpearl 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2013

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    im so nice i always get taken advantage of.

    I need to tell people to **** off more often.
    MoragaroM MoragaroM 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 8

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    It's Too True

    I can't help it! I think it's because I really can't stand it when people dislike me for whatever reason. If someone were to be mean to me, I would just be even nicer to them to make them like me :( I know that's not the best thing to do, but I really can't seem to help it, I...
    PassionIsLove PassionIsLove 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2010

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    I've never understood

    why some nice people get loads of friends and some just get shut out for the funnier, better-looking, more outgoing friends. Which elixir are these guys drinking from?
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I feel like I'm too nice,

    like.. I can't stand up for myself because I'm scared I'll hurt someone's feelings,
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 10 Responses Oct 14

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    I'm just the type of person

    that would and has given the shirt of my back if I thought I could help someone else. I am not rich by any means. the last time I help some out. the girl was pull of the side of the road. I pull over to see if she need help. I can see she been cry. I get over to ask what wrong...
    chat68chat chat68chat 31-35, M Jan 7

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    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I find it really hard to say no!

    Sometimes I think it's a good thing, it has however made it easy for people to use me
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 14

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