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I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man

Anybody else out there living under such duress?? 99 People

    13 Years Too Long

    I am with the coldest person on earth who separated me from my family and friends, withheld affection and makes sure I am too broke to leave. I'm done here but I am also 50 and want to know human affection again, It's hard because I have been like this so long I feel like a robot...
    latoni latoni 46-50 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    Another One Of Those Days

    As I sit at my desk at work I reflect over my life. I'm not happy with the things I have accepted. I'm not ok with the fact that I let someone rob me of my happiness. I wanna get it back, I have to. I feel empowered like I can start over and make some much needed changes to get...
    Valq Valq 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2012

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    I'm Starting To Think I Belong Here.

    I've had a difficult time coming to terms with this. I think I'm still a little skeptical, but it's growing on me. My husband ("Max") is not particularly jealous that I'm aware of. He's usually not aggressive, though he can get pretty nasty in an argument (of which there are many...
    whisperingthunder whisperingthunder 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 26, 2012

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    I Am Abusive Man

    i am a abusive man and i dont what to do it no more im am sorry to all you pealpe who have been abused im dying but im still going to get help so i can dye nowing i done somethig about it sorry to all you ladys out there
    brianmac1863 brianmac1863 46-50 Sep 10, 2012

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    It All Feels So Hopeless

    It's all too typical........He is an extrememly respected man in the comunity.  Everyone loves him...thinks I am so lucky to have him..... And yet living with him has broken my self esteem.....which was so strong.........I am depressed....... I have isolated myself into...
    Tatter Tatter 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    How Creepy Is This ?

      I have been reading the horrific news about the man who dressed up as Santa and stormed a Christmas party killing his wife and eight of her relatives. It is simply monstrous. What made this news look even creepier to me was what I read yesterday. The killer had abandoned...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    I Dont Know How Much Longer I Can Stay....

    I don't think the last shred of self esteem I have left will allow me to. I have been married for 13 years with two children ages 12 and 6. For a long time i didn't characterize his outburst as abuse but now looking back after reading up on verbal and metal abuse I realize that...
    arret arret 31-35 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    Why Won't He Leave Me?

     I have been with a man for 13 years now and we have 2 children. Both girls 11 and 7 years old.  This man is verbally abusive, physically abusive, emotionally abusive to me.  We are not legally married and when I try to have him removed from the home I'm told that I cannot...
    benaka benaka 31-35 7 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Stuck For Now

    I am married to a hateful abusive man who flys off the handle in the blink of an eye. I have a plan to leave him however it is going to take a couple of years. I am in financial ruin because he started a failing business which only adds to the stress. I have no family to rely on...
    Clea1970 Clea1970 36-40 2 Responses Jan 20, 2011

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    I'm Getting A Divorce

    I married a controlling, emotionally abusive man.  A half hour ago I ended the 7 year marriage and we are now simply roomates.  I have lived all this time with a man who's a "crazymaker".  He manipulates, changes the truth and history to serve his present needs...
    Gabriell Gabriell 56-60 7 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    Idiots Unite

    I'm divorced for many years now but you'd never know it. He's never been far and kept his leash tight. He knows my weaknesses and never seems to forget how to hit below the belt when throwing out his verbal abuse. I know I need to leave the area to get away from it, I know that...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 11 Responses Feb 14, 2008

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    Not Me, But My Sister...help!

    My whole family agrees, my sister's boyfriend is an a**hole. We don't know what to do anymore.  We have all voiced our concerns about him but it is like talking to a brick wall. He is not only an alcoholic, but he mentally and PHYSICALLY abuses her.  he is 10 years...
    tarenava tarenava 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11, 2009

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    How Do You Bounce Back With All the Pain and Damage That Comes From Being In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

    I was married for 15 years to a man who never even took the time to get to know me. He didn't want to know me, I guess it was just not worth his time. I got to the point where I just couldn't take how bad it made me feel about myself and really zapped my self-esteem. I took my...
    frenzygirl frenzygirl 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 15, 2008

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    Verbal And Emotional Abuse From Husband

    Married almost 11 years. He has proven to be emotionally abusive but even though I recognized something was wrong from the start I couldn't put a name to it. He can be romantic and loving sometimes, but usually everything always comes back to him...what he wants....etc. my...
    Rosemund Rosemund 46-50 1 Response Jun 21, 2013

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    Still in love with a man who hurts me

    Can't believe it's already 4 1/2 years of this. He can be so mean and so sweet. I'm no dummy, I know about the cycle. I believe in separation with the hope of reconciliation but com' on, he's not gonna go to counseling for abuse on his own. Why would he, nothing is ever his fault...
    catmode catmode 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    Control Freak I Married

    He takes the energy out of me,he is not my baby daddy,I know I could be alone,how do I leave somebody that knows my bank card numbers and everything about me,I will have to get the strength to leave,and that time has come,I want to leave and am ready not to turn back again,turned...
    rebeccaacosta rebeccaacosta 31-35 2 Responses Mar 15, 2012

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    17 Years Being Blind

    I have been with this man for 16 years. only my kids getting older were able to open my eyes. Mind you this is their father whom i had three boys and stayed for them now they are screwed up and I am so mad that i didn't no what the hell was going on Its like a fog i remember bits...
    ahgreek ahgreek 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2009

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    How Do You Leave?

    i cant step out that door, i dont know why i just find myself unable...im not strong enough i guess. Just please any advice would help. 
    serenity94 serenity94 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 17, 2012

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    THE MARRIAGE NAZI

    I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man. I dealt with a control freak who was also verbally and mentally abusive. Living with this man was a nightmare. My self esteem went down the drain, I became an emotional mess. I was stupid enough to believe everything he said...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 25 Responses Feb 14, 2008

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    He Doesn't Even Know He Sucks the Life Energy From Us!

    My children know they will never be able to make him happy.  My friends call him the "funsucker".  I am emotionally sucked dry from being around him.  His need to always be in control, makes me feel I have no say in our marriage.  He keeps telling me...
    searching4answer searching4answer 41-45, F 17 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Living In A World Of Pain

    I've known my husband since 10th grade. When we first started talking he was very self-centered, emotionally unavailable and promiscuous. I figured it was just because of his age and eventually the relationship went nowhere. 3 years later, I ran into him again on campus. He gave...
    Valq Valq 26-30, F Dec 2, 2012

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    There were signs right before that I should run! I ignored them because I thought it was too close to the wedding date and we already have a child together so he was going to be in...
    kawaibel kawaibel 31-35, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I'm coming up on a date that was life changing...the date when I got married. It was a perfect day and every little thing I could have ever wanted from a wedding....very very small...
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    I met him almost 18 months ago, it was lightening.. incredible chemistry immediately. I had never experienced anything like it in my life... I remember the day, I remember...
    Scorpionchild Scorpionchild 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    Married and had an affair with a married man at work. We've been trying to keep the friend thing going, talking occasionally, but when I think I'm over it those feeling come...
    artist7 artist7 31-35, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17. I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    Last night my mom kept calling me fat, and saying that if I didn't become nicer and more submissive that I'll never get married. Way to go, mom. I feel super great about myself...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F Jul 15

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    What I learned: Be your own hero. Reflect and apply what you’ve learned to your life, today. Work at forgiving yourself and others for being flawed human beings who must learn...
    AppleJacks10 AppleJacks10 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    I'm married for 11 years and have 2 beautiful young children. My husband and I have grown apart. after a long career, I became a stay at home mom at least until my youngest is in...
    Llynne12 Llynne12 41-45, F Jul 1

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    To long I was in the trap of a abusive marriage. Everyday waking up trying to convince myself it was the "right" thing to do by staying. To keep my family together. Everyday his...
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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    I am not married, however I view my partnership with as much weight as a typical marriage and resources on the topic are limited, so here I am. While I at least have the benefit...
    opheliasodyssey opheliasodyssey 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    I have found that there is some misunderstanding about what married and lonely seems to mean. There are different ways a person can feel lonely in a marriage. It can be emotionally...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 2

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    Well ladies and gentleman it blew up in my face. We get here and we had a nice afternoon of me giving him exactly what he wanted. We had fun and played. It was nice just the way he...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 4

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    He is making it very difficult for me as he refuses to give me my rights and he tries to increase his controlling behaviour over the children 20 and 12y/old.
    rita617 rita617 51-55, F Jul 5

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    I met this person a year ago in May. We met at a coffee shop and I took interest in him because he seemed so introverted but had a magnificent soul. We became friends quickly. I...
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 16

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    I am not married, not yet, but hope to be in the near future. My boyfriend is a retired infantry soldier who served two tours in Iraq. I have only known him since he was retired...
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    Naggi12 Naggi12 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    ginahunt3 ginahunt3 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    2nd marriage. I am a REAL christian. I am alone in my marriage. Always being rejected. It has been almost 6 years. I tried to commit suicide 2 months ago. I took 50+ percocet. I...
    winterbutterfly winterbutterfly 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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