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I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man

Anybody else out there living under such duress?? 106 People

    13 Years Too Long

    I am with the coldest person on earth who separated me from my family and friends, withheld affection and makes sure I am too broke to leave. I'm done here but I am also 50 and want to know human affection again, It's hard because I have been like this so long I feel like a robot...
    latoni latoni 46-50 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    Another One Of Those Days

    As I sit at my desk at work I reflect over my life. I'm not happy with the things I have accepted. I'm not ok with the fact that I let someone rob me of my happiness. I wanna get it back, I have to. I feel empowered like I can start over and make some much needed changes to get...
    Valq Valq 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2012

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    He Doesn't Even Know He Sucks the Life Energy From Us!

    My children know they will never be able to make him happy.  My friends call him the "funsucker".  I am emotionally sucked dry from being around him.  His need to always be in control, makes me feel I have no say in our marriage.  He keeps telling me...
    searching4answer searching4answer 41-45, F 17 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Verbal And Emotional Abuse From Husband

    Married almost 11 years. He has proven to be emotionally abusive but even though I recognized something was wrong from the start I couldn't put a name to it. He can be romantic and loving sometimes, but usually everything always comes back to him...what he wants....etc. my...
    Rosemund Rosemund 46-50 1 Response Jun 21, 2013

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    THE MARRIAGE NAZI

    I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man. I dealt with a control freak who was also verbally and mentally abusive. Living with this man was a nightmare. My self esteem went down the drain, I became an emotional mess. I was stupid enough to believe everything he said...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 25 Responses Feb 14, 2008

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    I Dont Know How Much Longer I Can Stay....

    I don't think the last shred of self esteem I have left will allow me to. I have been married for 13 years with two children ages 12 and 6. For a long time i didn't characterize his outburst as abuse but now looking back after reading up on verbal and metal abuse I realize that...
    arret arret 31-35 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    17 Years Being Blind

    I have been with this man for 16 years. only my kids getting older were able to open my eyes. Mind you this is their father whom i had three boys and stayed for them now they are screwed up and I am so mad that i didn't no what the hell was going on Its like a fog i remember bits...
    ahgreek ahgreek 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2009

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    I Am Abusive Man

    i am a abusive man and i dont what to do it no more im am sorry to all you pealpe who have been abused im dying but im still going to get help so i can dye nowing i done somethig about it sorry to all you ladys out there
    brianmac1863 brianmac1863 46-50 1 Response Sep 10, 2012

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    It All Feels So Hopeless

    It's all too typical........He is an extrememly respected man in the comunity.  Everyone loves him...thinks I am so lucky to have him..... And yet living with him has broken my self esteem.....which was so strong.........I am depressed....... I have isolated myself into...
    Tatter Tatter 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    Living In A World Of Pain

    I've known my husband since 10th grade. When we first started talking he was very self-centered, emotionally unavailable and promiscuous. I figured it was just because of his age and eventually the relationship went nowhere. 3 years later, I ran into him again on campus. He gave...
    Valq Valq 26-30, F Dec 2, 2012

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    Not Me, But My Sister...help!

    My whole family agrees, my sister's boyfriend is an a**hole. We don't know what to do anymore.  We have all voiced our concerns about him but it is like talking to a brick wall. He is not only an alcoholic, but he mentally and PHYSICALLY abuses her.  he is 10 years...
    tarenava tarenava 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11, 2009

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    Stuck For Now

    I am married to a hateful abusive man who flys off the handle in the blink of an eye. I have a plan to leave him however it is going to take a couple of years. I am in financial ruin because he started a failing business which only adds to the stress. I have no family to rely on...
    Clea1970 Clea1970 36-40 2 Responses Jan 20, 2011

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    Why Won't He Leave Me?

     I have been with a man for 13 years now and we have 2 children. Both girls 11 and 7 years old.  This man is verbally abusive, physically abusive, emotionally abusive to me.  We are not legally married and when I try to have him removed from the home I'm told that I cannot...
    benaka benaka 31-35 7 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Idiots Unite

    I'm divorced for many years now but you'd never know it. He's never been far and kept his leash tight. He knows my weaknesses and never seems to forget how to hit below the belt when throwing out his verbal abuse. I know I need to leave the area to get away from it, I know that...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 11 Responses Feb 14, 2008

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    How Creepy Is This ?

      I have been reading the horrific news about the man who dressed up as Santa and stormed a Christmas party killing his wife and eight of her relatives. It is simply monstrous. What made this news look even creepier to me was what I read yesterday. The killer had abandoned...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    Still in love with a man who hurts me

    Can't believe it's already 4 1/2 years of this. He can be so mean and so sweet. I'm no dummy, I know about the cycle. I believe in separation with the hope of reconciliation but com' on, he's not gonna go to counseling for abuse on his own. Why would he, nothing is ever his fault...
    catmode catmode 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    I'm Getting A Divorce

    I married a controlling, emotionally abusive man.  A half hour ago I ended the 7 year marriage and we are now simply roomates.  I have lived all this time with a man who's a "crazymaker".  He manipulates, changes the truth and history to serve his present needs...
    Gabriell Gabriell 56-60 7 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    Control Freak I Married

    He takes the energy out of me,he is not my baby daddy,I know I could be alone,how do I leave somebody that knows my bank card numbers and everything about me,I will have to get the strength to leave,and that time has come,I want to leave and am ready not to turn back again,turned...
    rebeccaacosta rebeccaacosta 31-35 2 Responses Mar 15, 2012

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    Where do I start, how do I not blame myself,

    how did I let things get like this. We've been together for 8 years (not legally married) and have a six and seven year old. Things were awesome when we started, we were happy. I had my kids back to back and dedicated myself to my home, my kids, to him and to my schooling. I...
    1forever 1forever 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    "Hope you are ready to fight in court to get

    anything" "You're crazy, I will make sure you never see the kids again" " You are such a loser" "Tell them (the kids) you don't want their mommy and daddy to be together anymore" "I'm not agreeing to any custody , the kids are mine" All of these hurtful words from the person I...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    How Do You Leave?

    i cant step out that door, i dont know why i just find myself unable...im not strong enough i guess. Just please any advice would help. 
    serenity94 serenity94 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 17, 2012

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    How Do You Bounce Back With All the Pain and Damage That Comes From Being In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

    I was married for 15 years to a man who never even took the time to get to know me. He didn't want to know me, I guess it was just not worth his time. I got to the point where I just couldn't take how bad it made me feel about myself and really zapped my self-esteem. I took my...
    frenzygirl frenzygirl 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 15, 2008

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    I'm Starting To Think I Belong Here.

    I've had a difficult time coming to terms with this. I think I'm still a little skeptical, but it's growing on me. My husband ("Max") is not particularly jealous that I'm aware of. He's usually not aggressive, though he can get pretty nasty in an argument (of which there are many...
    whisperingthunder whisperingthunder 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 26, 2012

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    I will miss him when he is gone.... It's been 2 years since I wrote my first post. My husband and I are still together, still making our way through life. I'm now 38 and he is 8...
    mssjeb2000 mssjeb2000 36-40, F Aug 30

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    I am going to be married to my love.But this is not happening grandly as I always wised for as we both belong to different caste(Its still a big issue in India) . Still I owe my...
    TrueLoverN TrueLoverN 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I recently got a divorce. My ex was emotionally abusive and nothing I did made him happy. He actually wanted the divorce but for some reason still finds it necessary to be cruel...
    ktc1575 ktc1575 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I was wondering if anyone can give me advice for the situation I am in. I have been with my husband for 12 years, married 8 with 2 sons. 4 years ago my husband had a mental...
    Cindermoon Cindermoon 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I'm 18, and my mom has always controlled my life. Every time I was relaxing at home, she would always urge me to do my homework. But instead of nagging, she made it seem like it...
    graduallyventuring graduallyventuring 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    I have been married for 33 years. This man was full of love, fun and joy. Though he never wanted me to work, I have. He says" you treat your money like your money Andy money like...
    islonely islonely 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 31

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    I am new member and I am female. I just want to say . This is my second marriage . My first husband was a controlling , macho, abusive, drunken, jerk. I had the worse now I have...
    himher1952 himher1952 61-65, F 4 Responses Aug 16

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    I rushed into a relationship almost 10 years ago with blinders on and the only thought was I am thirty time to find the one and settle down. I met a man who was the son of my...
    Change75 Change75 36-40, F a week ago

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    I have thought about posting my story but often chicken out maybe out if fear and selfishness, but if anything I say could help another woman that is what I need and want to do...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    So my mother has officially stated she doesn't like me. And that I'm to have nothing to do with my siblings. Yet she's still managing to ruin my life. My plans, my emotions, my...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I can't shake it, I can't fix it. My mother's taunting, manipulative and overly critical abuse throughout the years has caused a hindrance in healthy female friendships and...
    billabonggirl27 billabonggirl27 22-25, F Sep 1

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    I am 58, my sister was 54.  She drove her porsche out in the desert on June 8.  Without shutting off the motor, she put a recently purchased gun to her head and blew her...
    whywasshelikethis whywasshelikethis 56-60, F Sep 2

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    This is the hardest thing that I have ever had to admit... I haven't told anyone. Even as I write this I contemplate hitting the backspace and erasing it. I'm terrified that my...
    ParaKlio ParaKlio 41-45, F Aug 17

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    I was married for 10 years, my ex was verbally and physically abusive. He stopped working for the last two years,and I was the main support of the house. He would always accused me...
    liza0324 liza0324 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Married 25 years. So I am trying to recognize that what he really wants is for me to "go away" and all I really want is to connect. Our ongoing battle has really been about my...
    Sueg323 Sueg323 51-55, F 5 days ago

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    Well this is not something I shout off the mtn tops by any means but I guess I am here now and I have a lot of people in my circle and that I ma talking to more and more now so...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    I am currently married and unsure if I am in an abusive relationship or if I am just difficult to deal with. My husband has never hit me, but the things that he says to me and...
    Gonzales96 Gonzales96 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 16

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    For seven months, I was in a controlling relationship. I thought I had met the man I wanted to be with always. There were red flags from the beginning, but I was so attracted to...
    flpatty flpatty 51-55, F Aug 21

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    Im 18 and feel like my parents are controlling every part of my life. No friends and no private life. And I dont have the freedom of anything. But if I stay a bit more, Im afraid...
    Aurora10 Aurora10 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I had an affair with a married man who I believed loved me for 11 months. He was my best friend. He came to my Mothers grave with me, met my children, openly showed affection in...
    Faerylak Faerylak 31-35, F Aug 31

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    I currently live with the father of my child. At first, we seemed perfect.. like we were the same person but he became very controlling and jealous quickly. He comments on how I...
    jagaringenting jagaringenting 22-25 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I need to fix myself but idon't know how. I am attracted to mean people, violent people, controlling people;especially men. I see this pattern in my friendships too. I let people...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm 25 years old and I live in south america, I still live with my parents only because I'm scared of leaving and them having heart attacks or something and blaming it on me, I...
    TheGuiltTripGirl TheGuiltTripGirl 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    My fiancé is 25 & I am 28, It was really hard on me at the beginning as well. I was going to go visit my fiancé at his family house so I can finally meet his family & the night...
    sweetpea71986 sweetpea71986 26-30, F Aug 30

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    For over the last year I have been involved with an old friend who is married. We are having an affair, at least we were. A month ago his wife discovered his affair and he decided...
    michaelsotherwoman michaelsotherwoman 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    Not everyone is - not all women or men are controlling, conning, or manipulative. There are only a number of them who are, and they seem to be drawn to certain personalities. If...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 Sep 5

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