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I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man

Anybody else out there living under such duress?? 95 People

    It All Feels So Hopeless - It's all too typical........He is an extrememly respected man in the comunity.  Everyone loves him...thinks I am so lucky to have him..... And yet...
    Tatter Tatter 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    How Do You Leave? - i cant step out that door, i dont know why i just find myself unable...im not strong enough i guess. Just please any advice would help. 
    serenity94 serenity94 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 17, 2012

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    I Am Abusive Man - i am a abusive man and i dont what to do it no more im am sorry to all you pealpe who have been abused im dying but im still going to get help so i can dye...
    brianmac1863 brianmac1863 46-50 Sep 10, 2012

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    13 Years Too Long - I am with the coldest person on earth who separated me from my family and friends, withheld affection and makes sure I am too broke to leave. I'm done here but...
    latoni latoni 46-50 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    Another One Of Those Days - As I sit at my desk at work I reflect over my life. I'm not happy with the things I have accepted. I'm not ok with the fact that I let someone rob me of...
    Valq Valq 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2012

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    He Doesn't Even Know He Sucks the Life Energy From Us! - My children know they will never be able to make him happy.  My friends call him the "funsucker".  I am...
    searching4answer searching4answer 41-45, F 17 Responses Feb 13, 2008

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    Living In A World Of Pain - I've known my husband since 10th grade. When we first started talking he was very self-centered, emotionally unavailable and promiscuous. I figured it...
    Valq Valq 26-30, F Dec 2, 2012

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    17 Years Being Blind - I have been with this man for 16 years. only my kids getting older were able to open my eyes. Mind you this is their father whom i had three boys and stayed...
    ahgreek ahgreek 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2009

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    How Creepy Is This ? -   I have been reading the horrific news about the man who dressed up as Santa and stormed a Christmas party killing his wife and eight of her relatives...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    Still in love with a man who hurts me - Can't believe it's already 4 1/2 years of this. He can be so mean and so sweet. I'm no dummy, I know about the cycle. I believe in...
    catmode catmode 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    Verbal And Emotional Abuse From Husband - Married almost 11 years. He has proven to be emotionally abusive but even though I recognized something was wrong from the start I couldn...
    Rosemund Rosemund 46-50 1 Response Jun 21, 2013

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    How Do You Bounce Back With All the Pain and Damage That Comes From Being In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship? - I was married for 15 years to a man who never even took the time...
    frenzygirl frenzygirl 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 15, 2008

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    I'm Starting To Think I Belong Here. - I've had a difficult time coming to terms with this. I think I'm still a little skeptical, but it's growing on me. My husband ("Max") is not...
    whisperingthunder whisperingthunder 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 26, 2012

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    THE MARRIAGE NAZI - I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man. I dealt with a control freak who was also verbally and mentally abusive. Living with this man was a...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 25 Responses Feb 14, 2008

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    Why Won't He Leave Me? -  I have been with a man for 13 years now and we have 2 children. Both girls 11 and 7 years old.  This man is verbally abusive, physically abusive...
    benaka benaka 31-35 7 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    I Dont Know How Much Longer I Can Stay.... - I don't think the last shred of self esteem I have left will allow me to. I have been married for 13 years with two children ages 12...
    arret arret 31-35 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    I'm Getting A Divorce - I married a controlling, emotionally abusive man.  A half hour ago I ended the 7 year marriage and we are now simply roomates.  I have lived all...
    Gabriell Gabriell 56-60 7 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    Idiots Unite - I'm divorced for many years now but you'd never know it. He's never been far and kept his leash tight. He knows my weaknesses and never seems to forget how to hit...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 11 Responses Feb 14, 2008

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    Stuck For Now - I am married to a hateful abusive man who flys off the handle in the blink of an eye. I have a plan to leave him however it is going to take a couple of years. I am...
    Clea1970 Clea1970 36-40 2 Responses Jan 20, 2011

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    Not Me, But My Sister...help! - My whole family agrees, my sister's boyfriend is an a**hole. We don't know what to do anymore.  We have all voiced our concerns about him but...
    tarenava tarenava 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11, 2009

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    Control Freak I Married - He takes the energy out of me,he is not my baby daddy,I know I could be alone,how do I leave somebody that knows my bank card numbers and everything about...
    rebeccaacosta rebeccaacosta 31-35 2 Responses Mar 15, 2012

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    Hey to whoever took the time to read :) So I met my boyfriend online over a year ago. He's 19 years older then me. The first couple of months where amazing, then things got a bit...
    lovelyle0 lovelyle0 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    I'm not even sure how to put into words how I'm feeling at the moment. I have been with Ryan for 6 years and have been friends with him for 10 years. He injects meth multiple times...
    AudieM13 AudieM13 22-25, F Mar 21

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    Hi all, apologies for my bad English, it's been a while. So my story is a bit different than most love affairs with married men here. I am now 30 years old. About 6 months ago I...
    highnlow highnlow 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    It it interesting to see the reactions of others to my situation. My family, friends, strangers, everyone has an opinion and a strong one at that. I married my hubby for the wrong...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    We fell in love during the summer, she was pregnant by the end of July. We both knew we had something special, even though I was 17 and she was 16. We married one week after my...
    SamanthaLei SamanthaLei 46-50, M 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I went through a year and a half long abusive relationship. It wasn't physical which I understand is way worst than whatever I went through, but it also doesn't make it any easier...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. We got together at a young age, and I have always wanted to be more financially stable, and have majority, if not all of my...
    cheetachicklet cheetachicklet 26-30 Apr 8

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    My dad is a controlling narcissist. He's only ever hit me once, and that was when he found out I went to a school counsellor to tell them about him abusing my mom when i was in...
    Dimples411 Dimples411 18-21, F Mar 22

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    Been married for almost 16 years, together for 22. 2 children together 10, and 14. And a step son who lives with my mom who is 21...they couldn't get along...feeling stuck and don...
    chevymom chevymom 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 25

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    I am freaking out right now. I can't take it anymore. I asked him to seriously leave. I think he finally sees how much pain I am in. But is this really what I want? I have been...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 26 Responses Apr 3

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    Hello, EP. How are you? I know I haven't posted since my arrival earlier this week. But I'll tell you why. You see, even as I try to pretend that everything is normal and status...
    ArchSeven327 ArchSeven327 18-21, M Mar 22

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    Its one thing to always demand respect in the household,but its also based on a give and take type of thing...I live with my mother and her boyfriend who acts as if this house is...
    Natashachetty Natashachetty 22-25 Mar 24

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    THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 13 2014- INTERNATIONAL MISTRESS DAY. Am I correct? On this day, his wife, or She, asked him in a rhetorical manner, if he saw me today, because it was the...
    PictureNoelle PictureNoelle 18-21 3 Responses Mar 21

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    First let me say that I am the Man that is married to a wonderful woman and I was just recently initially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Reason I am on this post...
    Piercer7132 Piercer7132 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 19

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    I was married once and my marriage failed... quite miserably.. I have always thought that I am just one of those people who were never meant to be married; even from a very young...
    prettyredhead2650 prettyredhead2650 26-30, F Apr 4

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    CRAZY, OBSESSIVE, PSYCHOTIC. I'm all of those and more. I love my boyfriend with all my heart, I want him with me through all that I go through. I truly love him. Being in a...
    PictureNoelle PictureNoelle 18-21 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I was raised in a"christian" abusive home, I won't get into major details, but it was really bad, I married young had two children of my own, never once even considered abusing I...
    4myfuturehappiness 4myfuturehappiness 46-50, F Apr 2

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    Married for 22 years....why? That is right, it is two primary reasons...1) Wonderful daughter and it is my responsibility to keep her world as healthy as possible. Her mother and...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    I have a bad relationship with my parents, and still live at home. I'd move out as soon as I could. They say they don't trust me, and can't talk to me. And they can't, as I won't...
    dysfori dysfori 16-17, M 1 Response Mar 26

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    Always felt that my marriage was the lifetime kind of thing but it is very hard to see that happening. I am trying to get my story out there in bite size chunks. Now as I talk...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M Mar 29

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    I am almost to nine years of marriage and 19 years in my relationship with my wife. We have two beautiful and amazing children together (ages 4 and 2). My wife recently expressed...
    Allboutmykids Allboutmykids 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 3

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    Well, more like an extended engagement - for two reasons, saving money for marriage, and his seemingly disinterest in planning for it. We've been together for 10 years (he ignored...
    irritatednutbar irritatednutbar 36-40 7 Responses Mar 31

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    I'm married to a wonderful woman. She cares about me, and I care about her. But I'm gay. She knows it; she's always known. She wants to make it work... I want to make it work too...
    qmaxfield qmaxfield 36-40, M Apr 10

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