I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man

Anybody else out there living under such duress?? 123 People

    Why Won't He Leave Me?

     I have been with a man for 13 years now and we have 2 children. Both girls 11 and 7 years old.  This man is verbally abusive, physically abusive, emotionally abusive to me.  We are not legally married and when I try to have him removed from the home I'm told that I cannot...
    benaka benaka
    6 Responses Jan 12, 2012

    I was in same situation got restraining order

    yesterday. I cant go through it anymore.we deserve better
    dickinsonjewelscents dickinsonjewelscents
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 9, 2015

    Yesterday was my son's birthday.

    .he questioned why I was going to buy him this and that...I remained quiet..got home at night and he has my son helping fix the car on his birthday .he yells at me that I should f"in stop complaining .. He didn't even let my son talk to his father to wish him a happy birthday...
    NotVibrant NotVibrant
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Dec 3, 2014

    How Do You Leave?

    i cant step out that door, i dont know why i just find myself unable...im not strong enough i guess. Just please any advice would help. 
    serenity94 serenity94
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Mar 17, 2012

    I Dont Know How Much Longer I Can Stay....

    I don't think the last shred of self esteem I have left will allow me to. I have been married for 13 years with two children ages 12 and 6. For a long time i didn't characterize his outburst as abuse but now looking back after reading up on verbal and metal abuse I realize that...
    arret arret
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

    I was just thinking this last week has been

    tolerable.. Maybe I could do this .. But then I realized... Yes he's be nice and hasn't been sarcastic or made a joke at my expense..we haven't had a blow up argument since last Saturday when he blew up at me bc I was going to take a left instead of a right when we were driving...
    kathryn30 kathryn30
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2014


    I Married a Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Man. I dealt with a control freak who was also verbally and mentally abusive. Living with this man was a nightmare. My self esteem went down the drain, I became an emotional mess. I was stupid enough to believe everything he said...
    deleted deleted
    14 Responses Feb 14, 2008

    Today is Thanksgiving.

    ..but my husband has locked himself in the room because I got upset that he wouldn't let my kids listen to their father's message on the phone. I asked him to stop controlling me..he looked at me as if I was stupid.... He's verbally abusive with my son- I feel like I can not...
    NotVibrant NotVibrant
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 27, 2014

    17 Years Being Blind

    I have been with this man for 16 years. only my kids getting older were able to open my eyes. Mind you this is their father whom i had three boys and stayed for them now they are screwed up and I am so mad that i didn't no what the hell was going on Its like a fog i remember bits...
    ahgreek ahgreek
    36-40, F
    Aug 28, 2009

    Another One Of Those Days

    As I sit at my desk at work I reflect over my life. I'm not happy with the things I have accepted. I'm not ok with the fact that I let someone rob me of my happiness. I wanna get it back, I have to. I feel empowered like I can start over and make some much needed changes to get...
    Valq Valq
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 3, 2012

    Idiots Unite

    I'm divorced for many years now but you'd never know it. He's never been far and kept his leash tight. He knows my weaknesses and never seems to forget how to hit below the belt when throwing out his verbal abuse. I know I need to leave the area to get away from it, I know that...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Feb 14, 2008

    13 Years Too Long

    I am with the coldest person on earth who separated me from my family and friends, withheld affection and makes sure I am too broke to leave. I'm done here but I am also 50 and want to know human affection again, It's hard because I have been like this so long I feel like a robot...
    latoni latoni
    1 Response Dec 24, 2012

    It All Feels So Hopeless

    It's all too typical........He is an extrememly respected man in the comunity.  Everyone loves him...thinks I am so lucky to have him..... And yet living with him has broken my self esteem.....which was so strong.........I am depressed....... I have isolated myself into...
    Tatter Tatter
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2009

    Verbal And Emotional Abuse From Husband

    Married almost 11 years. He has proven to be emotionally abusive but even though I recognized something was wrong from the start I couldn't put a name to it. He can be romantic and loving sometimes, but usually everything always comes back to him...what he wants....etc. my...
    Rosemund Rosemund
    3 Responses Jun 21, 2013

    I Am Abusive Man

    i am a abusive man and i dont what to do it no more im am sorry to all you pealpe who have been abused im dying but im still going to get help so i can dye nowing i done somethig about it sorry to all you ladys out there
    brianmac1863 brianmac1863
    1 Response Sep 10, 2012

    Living In A World Of Pain

    I've known my husband since 10th grade. When we first started talking he was very self-centered, emotionally unavailable and promiscuous. I figured it was just because of his age and eventually the relationship went nowhere. 3 years later, I ran into him again on campus. He gave...
    Valq Valq
    26-30, F
    Dec 2, 2012

    How Creepy Is This ?

      I have been reading the horrific news about the man who dressed up as Santa and stormed a Christmas party killing his wife and eight of her relatives. It is simply monstrous. What made this news look even creepier to me was what I read yesterday. The killer had abandoned...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Dec 28, 2008

    Control Freak I Married

    He takes the energy out of me,he is not my baby daddy,I know I could be alone,how do I leave somebody that knows my bank card numbers and everything about me,I will have to get the strength to leave,and that time has come,I want to leave and am ready not to turn back again,turned...
    rebeccaacosta rebeccaacosta
    2 Responses Mar 15, 2012

    I wrote a letter to my soon to be ex a

    while back where I was trying to be politically correct. Today I'm going to write my politically incorrect version because if I don't get it out I will combust. It's been a bad day and I just need to vent, sorry! Dear spineless loser, I despise you. You are a sorry excuse...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 19, 2014

    Still in love with a man who hurts me

    Can't believe it's already 4 1/2 years of this. He can be so mean and so sweet. I'm no dummy, I know about the cycle. I believe in separation with the hope of reconciliation but com' on, he's not gonna go to counseling for abuse on his own. Why would he, nothing is ever his fault...
    catmode catmode
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 15, 2011

    He Doesn't Even Know He Sucks the Life Energy From Us!

    My children know they will never be able to make him happy.  My friends call him the "funsucker".  I am emotionally sucked dry from being around him.  His need to always be in control, makes me feel I have no say in our marriage.  He keeps telling me...
    searching4answer searching4answer
    41-45, F
    16 Responses Feb 13, 2008

    "Hope you are ready to fight in court to get

    anything" "You're crazy, I will make sure you never see the kids again" " You are such a loser" "Tell them (the kids) you don't want their mommy and daddy to be together anymore" "I'm not agreeing to any custody , the kids are mine" All of these hurtful words from the person I...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 26, 2014

    I'm Getting A Divorce

    I married a controlling, emotionally abusive man.  A half hour ago I ended the 7 year marriage and we are now simply roomates.  I have lived all this time with a man who's a "crazymaker".  He manipulates, changes the truth and history to serve his present needs...
    Gabriell Gabriell
    5 Responses Jan 6, 2010

    I hate to admit it but I've been in an abusive

    relationship for 20 years. It started out when we were dating we would have an argument I'd try to leave because he'd become so scary and angry but he'd restrain me. He'd then twist everything around acting like he was protecting himself from me hurting him and I was stupid...
    goawaymia goawaymia
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Oct 4, 2014

    Not Me, But My Sister...help!

    My whole family agrees, my sister's boyfriend is an a**hole. We don't know what to do anymore.  We have all voiced our concerns about him but it is like talking to a brick wall. He is not only an alcoholic, but he mentally and PHYSICALLY abuses her.  he is 10 years...
    Marshmellowed Marshmellowed
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 11, 2009

    Doesn't it seem hazy sometimes?

    I just woke up one day and my self esteem was shot, I second guessed my judgements, doubted my memory and I felt strange...strange and like I had lost myself. The independent, self sufficient, confident person I was, vanished into thin air. Left in her place was a shell. I...
    BijouBlue BijouBlue
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 29, 2014

    How Do You Bounce Back With All the Pain and Damage That Comes From Being In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

    I was married for 15 years to a man who never even took the time to get to know me. He didn't want to know me, I guess it was just not worth his time. I got to the point where I just couldn't take how bad it made me feel about myself and really zapped my self-esteem. I took my...
    frenzygirl frenzygirl
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 15, 2008

    i have loved an emotionally abusive

    and controlling man for ten years. Five years ago I married him. He makes me feel lower than dirt. He didn't touch me for two years saying I disgust him. Then after a single night after two years of married celibacy i conceived. We are now parents to a one and a half years old...
    girlnomore girlnomore
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    Where do I start, how do I not blame myself,

    how did I let things get like this. We've been together for 8 years (not legally married) and have a six and seven year old. Things were awesome when we started, we were happy. I had my kids back to back and dedicated myself to my home, my kids, to him and to my schooling. I...
    1forever 1forever
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

    Stuck For Now

    I am married to a hateful abusive man who flys off the handle in the blink of an eye. I have a plan to leave him however it is going to take a couple of years. I am in financial ruin because he started a failing business which only adds to the stress. I have no family to rely on...
    Clea1970 Clea1970
    2 Responses Jan 20, 2011
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