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I Married a Drug Addict

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    Just Want It All To Stop!

    When i met my husband i did not know what i was getting into. I fell in love with his stories... I fell in love with the man he wanted to be! I never in my mind would have thought it would turn out like this? We met in 1999 and it has been a long & painful journey since. In 2...
    eliian12 eliian12 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    I Knew All Along

    I met my husband in January of 2000 when I was a freshman in college. We quickly became close friends and confidantes. I knew that he was into drugs and alcohol, something I'd always promised myself I would steer clear of. He made it very clear that he had feelings for me, but I...
    JadedJ JadedJ 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2008

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    My husband is addicted to opiates.

    He is taking suboxone now. But ran out early. I caught him in yet another lie yesterday. He went and got a temp fix. Although he swears he threw it out the window because he realized how wrong it was. I don't believe a word out of his mouth. So sad
    Mariesosad Mariesosad 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    The Love Of My Life Is An Addict

    I have been married going on two years to the man of my dreams sadly I had no knowledge of his past drug use (because he denied ever having used drugs). He is a great man with great potential. But in the past 3 years he has gone back to using heroin Four times once even...
    Shely81 Shely81 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 31, 2010

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    I Married My Bestfriend But Not This New Man.

    I've known my now husband for almost 7 yrs, we just got married in may. For the last year he's been doing cocaine and I just found out a month ago. I moved out. I really love him but not who he has become in the past few weeks since I've known. I've been trying to hard to control...
    womanofsteele womanofsteele 22-25 4 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    Husband Left Me And Kids For Drugs, Alcohol And To Live With A Prostitute

    my husband left me and my 3 kids for drugs. it's been almost a year and I havent received any financial support of emotionally from him. The few times ive seen him hes always with his prostitute. I can say say that of her because she use to be with our friend. However my husbands...
    ashmaly ashmaly 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    Almost Free Again.

    Im surpriced at how much I can relate to the stories Ive read here from people also married to addicts. For a long time I felt I was alone in this. Im 21 and married for a bit over a year, and its been the most horrible scarring relationship of my life. I wont go into too much...
    befreeagain befreeagain 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2011

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    I Married A Drug Addict

    After nearly a year I am ready to talk about being married for nearly a year to an addicted person. When I met her she said she had stopped drinking and I wanted to believe that. I think she also wanted to believe that but very soon within months she started drinking again. Funny...
    Georgio2 Georgio2 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    The Wife of An Addict: Going In Cirlces

          Last year at this time my husband admitted to many counts of addictive behavior. It was only the course of the year that i discovered exactly what his addictions included. To my surprise his father is a recovering addict and is...
    enraged enraged 26-30 16 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    In Love But So Sad...

    How do you start to tell the story of how and why your life is the way it is? Mine I guess would have to start with the simple fact that I fell in love. I met the love of my life 4 years ago. I had been divorced for about 3 years and he had never been married. We had...
    dmwr dmwr 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 15, 2013

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    He Seemed So Perfect...

    I found this group last night after a stressful evening with my husband. I stayed up way too late reading all the stories. It was strange and amazing at the same time. Each story I read had a little piece of mine in it in one way or another. It is strange to read "my story" as...
    FindingMe11 FindingMe11 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2012

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    "i Am Married To A Heroin Addict"

    Hello! I dont know where to start and I dont even know where to finish because I think this story does not have an end, at least not for now. I am married to a heroin addict for 7 years now. Ive come to the conclusion after all these years married to him and married to an abuser...
    lissette05 lissette05 26-30, F 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    He Maybe Doing Better But I Don't Trust Him Still.

    I was wrong about last time when I thought he had fell off.  He actually had not around the time he got the children, but I still don't trust him.  He has let me down so many times when I have thought he finally may have it this time.  But the bottom falls out and...
    2freeme 2freeme 41-45 7 Responses Nov 3, 2009

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    I Married a Meth Addict

    I wish I could say I didn't know what I was getting into but I did.  I thought if I just loved him enough he would stay clean.  We have a beautiful daughter together but I tonight ended everything.  He has been missing for a couple days but today I found...
    sunraya sunraya 31-35 3 Responses Jun 29, 2009

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    Will This Ever Stop?

    I have been with my husband for 18 years and married for 15. We married when I was 18 and he was 21. We did a lot of partying and lived it up every weekend. I never thought anything of his problem when we were young because I was doing it right along with him and having a...
    Time4chg Time4chg 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2012

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    This Can't Be All There Is To Life...married To An Addict.

    I met, fell in love with, and married an addict. At some point, I thought that I could put up with it. I believed that he would love me enough to stop, or his daughter, or even himself for that matter. But in reality, I am slowly realizing that I do not stand a chance when it...
    OnlyGodKnowsMyPain OnlyGodKnowsMyPain 31-35 2 Responses Nov 1, 2012

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    Time To Focus On Me

    I've been married to a marijuana addict for 12 years. I didn't realize he was an addict until about 4 years into our Marriage. Sure I knew he smoked and I did too. But as we got older and our goals in life and career started to evolve and change, he wasn't able to step back from...
    TiredOfBeingSecond TiredOfBeingSecond 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Sad

      By: Me Written on September 9th, 2012 I've been with my husband for 8 years, married for three of those eight. I came to know about his percocet addication six months after we married. I told him he needed treatment and gave him an ultimatum. He went to treatment and it...
    HappyHappyJoy HappyHappyJoy 26-30 Sep 9, 2012

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    So I Married a Drug Addict:2

    I've decided that it sucks to be an adult. When did people stop helping you make the right decision? When did the weight of the world start to land on our shoulders? My God, I'm 30 something and I'm raising a 36 year old! When did I ever agree to that? When is he finally going to...
    hatethebitch hatethebitch 31-35 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Everybody Shuts The Door In My Face... :(

    My husband's drug problem + puting his mommy before me and the kids have made us drift apart a lot. It has slowly been escalating from verbal abuse to psychological and physical abuse and death threats. Before it got to domestic violence I called his parents and had an...
    CinnamonCake CinnamonCake 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 7, 2013

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    Never Thought I'd Find Myself Here

    How is it possible that there are so many people suffering under the same horrible circumstances? I think I'm a pretty intelligent, kind hearted, value based human being.  I have a great family and great kids and great friends and what I thought to believe was the greatest...
    justamomentintime justamomentintime 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 17, 2009

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    Crack Head, Drug Addict, Man That I Am Married To . . .

    Yep, that about sums it up. I've been with this man for over 30 years, and I've spent the past five years in a living hell. I've taken with me two precious children who have endured suffering that they should have never known. Secret phone calls, finding him locked in the storage...
    tainttellin tainttellin 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Happiness? At What Price?

    I have been married for 28 yrs (in 2 days) and I wonder if I should get out. My husband is a great person and I love him; but he is an addict. He has no self control when it comes to his pain pills. A relative of mine came to visit, (she too on medication) and he stole pills from...
    readytogo12 readytogo12 56-60, F Oct 3, 2012

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    I Married A Drug Addict And Knew

    i meet my husband back in 2000 know he sometimes use drugs but not realize how bad it was. we move right after getting together and things just keep getting worse. when we meet i had just had a bad car wreck and was hurt bad. well after about 5 months of living together i...
    pebbles241 pebbles241 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    I Married A Drug Addict

    I have been married for 14 years to my husband. We are both Christians. He was an addict when I married him, but he was in recovery. He worked off and on during our marriage, but I was the one that paid most of the bills. We have a daughter together and I am the only parent that...
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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    How Many Chances?

    I met my now husband 12 years ago through mutual friends. We clicked immediately. He had the kindest eyes and the sweetest smile. We were both looking for someone to share our lives with and we had found it in each other. He had the sweetest little daughter and I fell in love...
    kml17 kml17 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    He Relapsed...after 3 Months Clean.

    So I have been married to my husband for 5 years and we have two small boys together aged 5 & 3. I found out in April that he was smoking crack, after we had been fighting over his powder coke addiction for the past year, he also smokes pot. After trying for about 3 weeks with no...
    dnbmommy dnbmommy 26-30 2 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    Where To Go From Here

    I had just graduated from College and he was about to graduate in a year. I had know him since Elementary school which seemed like my whole life. We decided we wanted to marry and have a baby. I never picked up on the odd things he'd do, I was so blinded by how much I loved him...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 2, 2013

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    So I Married a Drug Addict: 3

    Writing about my story is so therapeutic. Writing here is nice because I get feedback, but I actually started writing about my experience a few years ago. My husband and I would get into arguements, and somehow I was able to recall the arguements word for word no matter how much...
    hatethebitch hatethebitch 31-35 2 Responses Jun 30, 2008

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    Let Down Again

    So my husband went to get on suboxone.  For 2 1/2 months he was straight.  No drugs, no withdrawl.  I was so happy.  But here we are again...back down the same path.  I didnt realize how much of a physical toll it had on me. For a month I wasnt sick to my...
    his2ndchoice his2ndchoice 26-30 6 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    He Left Again After This Last Relapse.

    It has been two weeks since he left this time and it has just hit me and I am crying.  I have experienced this so many times over the ten years of our marriage, I keep fooling myself that I don't feel anything after all these years.  My husband has a drug problem...
    2freeme 2freeme 41-45 6 Responses May 4, 2009

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    I have been married to my husband

    for 13 years. We were high school sweethearts. We’ve known each other since I was 13 years old; we got married when I was 19 and he was 20. Our daughter was born when I was 21. He went through a lot of medical issues and was diagnosed with lupus and RA that same year. He didn...
    Confusedasever01 Confusedasever01 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    So I Married a Drug Addict

    I've always felt that life has a purpose, that people are brought into our lives for a reason, or maybe that I was brought into their lives for a reason. I guess you could call me eternally hopeful.  Over the last few years I've been trying to figure out just...
    hatethebitch hatethebitch 31-35 15 Responses Jun 18, 2008

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    When Is Enough, Enough???

    I'm amazed at how much I can relate to the stories I have read...the anger, confusion, pain etc... I have been married for 6 months...we have been together 1 1/2 years though. when I first met my husband, he told me that he was addicted to oxys in the past, but he had been sober...
    knlt knlt 22-25 2 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    My Husbands An Addict

    he was in the military and got hurt in afghan and got hurt and the army got him hooked on pain pills. hes been out now for almost a year and we have went threw hell he wont talk to him now hes talkin about going to a methadon clinic we have three kids ive threatened to leave i...
    needingafriendandhelp needingafriendandhelp 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2013

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    Married To A Drug Addict

    I have been with my husband for 23 years then i married him. I realize now that it was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. We have been married for 4 years now and I realize now that this can only end in a divorce. I guess i did what alot of women do....we marry someone...
    gw212 gw212 61-65, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2013

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    $hould I Stay Or Go?

    I met my husband when my son was almost two months. The way he treated my son as his own made me fall fast. We got married after three months and it felt right. He did tell me after I had already fell head over heels for him that he had an addiction but was going to a daily...
    simplyconfused24 simplyconfused24 22-25 1 Response Oct 4, 2012

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    He Saw Me Coming!!!

    The only word I can think of when I think about this HOT MESS I am in is CRAZY! Yes, truly, truly CRAZY! I got married 3 years ago to a person who I thought was a hard working, fun-loving, sweet and sexy man. He had a job, not really anything to brag about, but the man was...
    Hesawmecoming Hesawmecoming 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    It Was All A Lie

    I met my husband 10 yrs ago and weve been married for 7. He was THE party guy in our small towns, if anyone did more drugs/booze then him they died, he was full tilt, no holds bar and i was in love. I was a party girl also but knew my boundaries as my father was an addict, and i...
    laceymick03 laceymick03 26-30 Aug 22, 2011

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    He Called.

    He called late last night after getting up the nerve.  It usually takes longer because in the past I would be so anger I would not answer or I would hang up on him.  But I am so numb to all of it that it does not bother me to give him the satisfaction of...
    2freeme 2freeme 41-45 2 Responses May 10, 2009

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    My Husband Is a Drug Addict

    I have been married for a little over a year now, however my husband and I have been separated for about 3months.  I will start from the beginning, first, I am a Christian however my husband is not, he was raised in church but refuses to live right.  When I met my...
    beanie09 beanie09 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 6, 2009

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    Drugs And Trust

    Im not married but my boyfriend is a drug addict. We have been together for two years and I have found out multiple timea he was lying to me bout taking pills smoking weed and smoking incense. He swears hes sober now but sometimes I just dont know. I want ti trust him but I know...
    Thisthingcalledliving Thisthingcalledliving 22-25 3 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    I Guess God Knew

    I've wanted to be a mother ever since I was dragging around dolls as a young girl. I guess because my mom has always been such an awesome role model for me, I've always dreamed a being just like her. A perfect mother and housewife.     So when I met the man of my...
    audreyo audreyo 21-25, F 10 Responses Dec 15, 2007

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    I Didnt Now He Was An Addict

    I read all the stories and non of them say if there is opportunity. He is the first addict that I had ever meet in my life so I didnt now how does a drug addict life was. He told me he used to be a bad kid but he was already 5 years sober but he wasnt, he was just recently...
    memarried memarried 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    Prego With Drug Addict Husband

    Hello I married the love of my life that I thought was recovered from a long drug habit of heroin, pills, and everything else. He got on a drug called suboxin that i thought helped with his addiction, but obviously not from anti depressants and nerve medication. He is not even...
    PregnantNFedUP PregnantNFedUP 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2012

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    I Should Have Known Better

    I met this guy thru a friend.  She is from the "ghetto", im not.  She said that she thought i should get to know him.  He was in jail on a murder charge.  Of course he claimed he was innocent.  My first instinct was embarassment --i didnt want...
    stronger stronger 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 19, 2008

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    My "better " Husband

    When I met my husband he smoked pot and drank. We were both young. His behavior didn't bother me at that time. It has been 8 years and a lot in-between. He joined the army and deployed missed the birth of our first daughter and came home when she was 6 months old. I changed my...
    wantout123 wantout123 26-30 3 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    The Cold Hard Truth

    Addicts don’t love themselves...how in the world do you think they could love you? Addicts chose drugs vs. sobriety, not drugs vs. "you." A "true drug addict" has already found the love of his/her life - and it's not you. Bullshit. A true addict has found a way...
    ncirishchic1 ncirishchic1 36-40, F Aug 8, 2011

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    I Want Off Of This Roller Coaster!!!

    I have been married for a little over six years now. I have never had any addiction in my life so had no clue what I was getting myself into! I knew when I married my husband that he had a past, but he was sober and clean and in such a good place! The first few years were amazing...
    Ceceslh1 Ceceslh1 31-35 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    What Attracts Us to the Addict?

    When I think back now on my time with my husband, I have a difficult time facing its reality. I chose to be with him.   I chose to marry him.   And, although he wasn't visibly using when I met him ...  I should have read the signs. I wasn't an...
    survivedabuse survivedabuse 56-60 5 Responses Jan 20, 2009

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    I Hate My Husband For His Choices

    my husband is addicted to marijuana, in the four years we've been together i've never seen him more then a day sober. not only does he smoke, he grows, and sells. I feel disgusted with my husband for choosing his addiction over his three children and myself. he smokes 3-6 bowls...
    e123vg e123vg 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 1, 2009

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    Wondring Why

    after 5 years of marriage ....i suddenly woke up discovering that my husband is an abuser .... he used to be addicted to alchole before marriage ( i didn't know about that) after marriage he became addicted to pain  killers , smoke pot , now heroin and sniffing some cooc on the...
    sallyadam sallyadam 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    Snowed

    I am writing my story in the hopes of accomplishing two things. First, if I can help anyone else out there living through this nightmare, it will be worth it. Second, I am hoping I will find it to be therapeutic. I have only known about my husband's addiction for three months...
    2 Responses Jan 8, 2013

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    Sad

    I've been with my husband for 8 years, married for three of those eight. I came to know about his percocet addication six months after we married. I told him he needed treatment and gave him an ultimatum. He went to treatment and it seemed like he got better...slowy went to...
    HappyHappyJoy HappyHappyJoy 26-30 Sep 9, 2012

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    Im cali, im 16 years old, and i am a drug addict, i am addicted to the life style and i dont see myself ever getting out. Im trapped. It makes me feel so good, but at times it...
    Calihoffmanxd Calihoffmanxd 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I apologize in advance for grammar, i typed this on my phone. i have loved a drug addict for 5 years now. his drug of choice? the 30 mg roxycodone painkillers and now heroin.. we...
    tinkerbell1200 tinkerbell1200 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hey! I'm new here at EP and I really need someone to talk to, good advice, experiences and such.. I don't know what to do! My boyfriend did do drugs and tried to take his own life...
    lilcarey lilcarey 22-25, F Mar 27