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    He Is.... - like a small child clinging to a security blanket. He wants it with him always....can't stand to be apart, yet he fails to notice how tattered and torn it's getting...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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    Learning To Maintain And Enforce Boundaries - I have been married to this man for 8 years (my story is below) and I used to think I was crazy with all of his projecting and...
    sunnyrn35 sunnyrn35 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    You Are Worthy Of Love Even If He Makes You Feel Otherwise - How long should we stay? It's like leaving someone you know is sick, but it's hard because you feel like you're...
    JennyKroh JennyKroh 26-30, F 10 Responses Dec 2, 2011

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    Coping With My Borderline - After being married 27 years, rearing two beautiful emotionally healthy daughters despite their fathers strange behavior. We had and at times still...
    dearbea dearbea 51-55, F 52 Responses Nov 3, 2008

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    It's Gotten Worse - Since I last posted, I've experienced a new tragedy. My younger brother committed suicide. It was unexpected, and of course has been difficult to deal with. His...
    JacobsGirl360 JacobsGirl360 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    The 3 Year Roller Coaster Ride To Hell - OK, I am going to have to make this as short as I can. If I were to ever list everything I have been through in the past 3 years, it would...
    melimaye melimaye 41-45 3 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Dealing With The Heart Break From A Bpd - Today I feel depressed. I am struggling with trying to be cordial, the bigger person when it comes to dealing with my daughter father who...
    road2recovery road2recovery 31-35 7 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    He Said, She Said - I say I'm too tired for sex. He hears that I don't want him sexually; I'm not attracted to him. I say, please don't smoke while the kids are in the car. He...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 30, 2013

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    Why Do I Love A Man Who Calls Me "Vile"? - An argument with my husband led to him calling me vile. I have been called many names over the course of our relationship: stupid, fat...
    Isthisquicksand Isthisquicksand 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 27, 2013

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    I Thought He Wanted To Change. Lol! - Married for 4 and a half years, together for over 5. I finally found out through his email accounts why he never wanted me to have his...
    stefanieg stefanieg 41-45 3 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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    Reality Of Bpd - Living with and loving who suffers from borderline personality disorder is the most challenging relationship that I have ever experienced.When my Love has a "good...
    Missalaineyeus Missalaineyeus 46-50, F 5 Responses May 12, 2012

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    Not Exactly. - I do not share in this experience with all of you. However, once upon a time, I was very much in love with a man who I suspect had/has BPD. He never outright...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    Thanksgiving - Not sure about the rest of you, but holidays guarantee a terrible BPD dysregulation for my BPD husband. Usually it happens around halfway through the day, but this...
    JacobsGirl360 JacobsGirl360 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Not Knowing Is The Hardest Part . . Staying Or Leaving My BPD Husband. - It started with me feeling crazy all the time. I thought I was a good person, but the one person in my...
    Isthisquicksand Isthisquicksand 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    My 10 Years With A Bpd Part 3 - After his termination at the hospital, I was a gonner. I felt a mix of sympathy and love for this man.By this point his self-victimization stance...
    beenthere1954 beenthere1954 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 8, 2011

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    Living With A BPD Husband : My Story - I would never have imagined myself married to someone with BPD. I've worked with BPD patients in a hospital for years. However, the majority...
    JacobsGirl360 JacobsGirl360 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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    The Emotional Black Hole - Although I didn't know that 20 years ago. If I knew then what I now now, well...I have read the book stop walking on egg shells, that helped me...
    sludgemuffin sludgemuffin 36-40, F 7 Responses May 5, 2009

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    About a month ago, my husband told me he thought about killing himself almost daily. I was conflicted on how to handle the situation, because I was under the impression he was only...
    lauren50 lauren50 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 24

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    Determined To Survive... - I hate you I can’t breathe without you I wanted to “save” you I struggle now to “save” myself Left with the aftermath of your destruction...
    alleycat969 alleycat969 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    I think I'm losing the battle against BPD. :[
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    "I Don'T Want To Be Your Mother, I Didn'T Carry You In My Womb For Nine Months." - Alanis Morrisette - I had forgotten about an old Alanis Morrisette CD that was in my car's CD...
    Isthisquicksand Isthisquicksand 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    Life Is Too Short - I stayed in a marriage for 20 years with a borderline man for many of the same reasons as others. I was afraid of my children having to have unsupervised time...
    grace001 grace001 46-50 10 Responses Nov 13, 2008

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    My Life With Dr Jekyll And Mr Hyde... - I met the man of my dreams nearly 5 months ago. He was everything I could have ever wanted. So what if he drank alot, small sacrafice for...
    8 Responses Feb 15, 2013

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    I Read All These Stories Here That Seem Hopeless...but There Is Indeed Hope - I only recently decided to "figure out what is wrong with me". One thing that many people dont...
    BPDhubby BPDhubby 26-30 13 Responses Dec 9, 2012

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    Proud Of Myself - I'm very proud of myself in the way I have learned to speak to my BPD husband of little over a year. Yesterday during one of his rage fits over nothing (it wasn't...
    IndigoOne IndigoOne 31-35, F 3 Responses May 18, 2013

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    Where To Begin... - Seriously, where do I begin? I have been on several sites over the years such as this one, read a million stories that are all painful and so identifiable and...
    Lalex66 Lalex66 41-45 2 Responses Jul 16, 2012

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    The Curse Of Borderline Personality Disorder - I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder in 2009, I always said that it's the people who lives with a person suffering...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Aug 31, 2011

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    His Puppet - With the same man 21 years - married 16 years. One son. Gone through everything everyone has written about here. I am now broken down, ill in spirit and body from...
    DancingPuppet DancingPuppet 36-40, F 6 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    First let me say that I am the Man that is married to a wonderful woman and I was just recently initially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Reason I am on this post...
    Piercer7132 Piercer7132 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Rough Patch - Well we have been having a "Rough Patch". Husband decided our family Counsellor was a "Man Hater" surprise surprise! He has not said that he will quit going but it...
    Niimin Niimin 41-45 Aug 20, 2013

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    Want To Understand His Situation - hello ,i realize that this thread is over a year old and i might not get a reply but i still really hope i do.so basically here is my story:i was...
    devilindeed devilindeed 26-30, F Sep 19, 2013

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    Frustrated With His Insecurities! - My BPD Husband has Therapy appointments every week in a neighboring city (about 1 hr away). His insecurities include: -Me cheating while he is...
    Niimin Niimin 41-45 2 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    The Little Prince And The Bully - Our marriage counselor once told me, during a trial separation, that I was only his security blanket, that he did not love me and our three...
    Fujitsulady Fujitsulady 51-55 2 Responses Apr 9, 2013

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    I was married for 24 years to a man, who I thought loved me....shared the same kind of values...but who, while mostly charming and attentive grew increasingly controlling...cruel...
    Damagedfamily Damagedfamily 51-55, F 6 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Found Some Hope &Amp; Growth! - My husband is not open for many different kinds of treatment for his BPD, and gets frustrating for me & our family. He is not at a place that he...
    Niimin Niimin 41-45 2 Responses May 31, 2013

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    Separated After 8 Years Of Marriage And A Broken Finger - Falling in love with my husband was like a dream. He was so sweet, charming, romantic, caring and loyal. Looking back now...
    7 Responses Jan 13, 2013

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    Just A Question! - What do you do when your partner has a fit? Just curious as to how other ladies handle these situations.
    IndigoOne IndigoOne 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    Small Ray Of Hope......... - My husband and his counsellor have made a huge leap! He has acknowledged that his reactions to his emotions are extreme (my words), I found it very...
    Niimin Niimin 41-45 Sep 18, 2013

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    Long-distance Marriage And He Thinks He Can Just Walk Out - Things were going pretty well for us. We were spending some vacation time together, first at my house, then at his...
    TrueBlue135 TrueBlue135 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    Wish Us Luck - Ever since I met my husband, he has had bouts of depression where he talks about killing himself. I always thought this we just depression, but his behavior...
    Maricota Maricota 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2013

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    Destruction Of My Mind - My name is Mario, I am lost. I love a person with BPD, amazing woman who changed my life and gave me two incredible kids. Now after 16 years I run on empty...
    mariocomputers mariocomputers 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 17, 2013

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    BPD, Or Whatever....Does It Really Even Matter? - I have my suspicions but who am I to say? Whatever is "wrong" with him has been obvious almost from the start, I just didn't...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 2, 2013

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    My 10 Year Marriage To A Bpd Husband - My husbands mother was an extremely abusive woman and his father left them. I met my husband in highschool and he was always very socially...
    Mygirl23 Mygirl23 31-35, F 6 Responses Jun 6, 2013

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    I'll Show You - You're Fascinated by the Image you've Created,  But I see Through you and you Hate It.  Know you? You'd rather I Condone you. Your Hate for yourself ain...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 18-21, F 6 Responses May 29, 2013

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    I Am So Lonely - I divorced my first husband because he was emotionally, physically, sexually and verbally abusive. I did not want to because I am a Christian and have 3 awesome...
    dnkwtd3b dnkwtd3b 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    Does This Sound Like Borderline? - I'm recovering from the trauma of rage, manipulation, craziness and verbal/emotional abuse. I was supposed to marry my former fiancé this month...
    MissMay13 MissMay13 31-35, F 12 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    WTF - Will share the rest tomorrow - but for now, I'm pondering what is wrong with me? I identify with so many of the stories here - immediate connection with my husband 13 yrs...
    Dmcdarnell Dmcdarnell 46-50, F Oct 5, 2013

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    Left And Abandoned By My BPD Husband - I have been married for 3 years and been with my husband for 14 years total. At first he placed me on the highest pedestal and made me feel...
    Breeze77 Breeze77 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 6, 2013

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    Dealing With The Insanity Of A Borderline - My ex bpd also daughters father decided he wanted to be cordial because during an argument I said some thing s true facts about himself...
    road2recovery road2recovery 31-35 1 Response Jun 5, 2013

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    Fire & Ice - I am too hurt and angered to write anything positive today. I feel better knowing that I found a place where I can vent and support, but bad because my situation...
    monalisahasbpd monalisahasbpd 26-30, F 88 Responses Jun 2, 2010

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    Trying To Let Go... - My ex bpd has been trying to hoover me back into a relationship with him. Im losing my attraction for him and it's nothing he could say to me that could get...
    road2recovery road2recovery 31-35 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    Before I start, I was on this site as 'sweetlady001' then deleted my profile and regretted it, so I am building up my stories again. My husband was diagnosed with Borderline...
    sweetlady002 sweetlady002 41-45, F 8 Responses