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I Married a Narcissist

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    Godsmacked

    been married a little over a year and i am godsmacked at how my husband has treated me lately. perhaps his mask is wearing thin. everytime i try to talk to him about anything i feel like i've been emotionally raped. he went from being supportive and loving to emotionally cruel...
    kyriblu kyriblu 46-50, F Jul 14, 2012

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    I have been married for 28 years mostly

    miserable years. I stayed for my children not understanding that there father was a narcissist, I thought he was just frugal and made excuses for him because of his upbringing. Now my daughters are suffering because of my ignorance. My oldest is having trouble finding a...
    mltdown mltdown 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    I Care Too Much.

    I have been with my husband for 30 yrs and he is everything you all say about all your partners. My life has been in turmoil for as long as I remember with all the classic feelings you all feel about your Narcissists partners etc. Firstly do you think it could be a learnt...
    mumado mumado 51-55, F Feb 25, 2013

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    Monsterous Creation

    It started with noticing insecurities. General confusion in his life. He didn't know where to go or what to do. So he began taking jobs under people who were abusive. One boss disapproved of him going for two weeks to California for the Marines. He even criticized him after he...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    It Should Have Worked!

    Eleven years ago I married a narcissist.  He was great with my two young boys.  He didn't drink alcohol like my ex.  He wrote me love notes and treated my like a princess.  Sometime after our daughter was born, he started changing.  Quit his job. Took out...
    plantlover plantlover 41-45 7 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    I Married A Narcissist And She Tried To Take Everything I Had

    Hi all, 12 years ago I met a wonderful woman we got together started dating settled down and got married. I thought it was going to be perfect it was Hell on Earth. She came across as very positive, well meaning and supportive. She was a liar controlling, devious and a thief...
    Richard3010 Richard3010 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    Crazy

    He's driving me Crazy. I feeling I need to be In a mental hospital.
    Likeabird Likeabird 36-40, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    "A Narcissist’s Love Letter" Author: John

    Howell When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I love having someone new to tell my...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    I Just Didn't Know!

    My husband fits the classic pattern. He has no ability to empathize. He has no respect for anyone's ideals when they differ from his. He has no ability, no desire to make anybody's life better but his own. He is mean. He is defensive. People have asked me how all this...
    KarynT45 KarynT45 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    Won't Get Fooled Again

    I only just recently discovered that I was formerly married to a narcissist. I only found that out after having dated a narcissist and trying to figure out what went wrong in that relationship. This guy came on hot and heavy and I played the fool until I helped him get a job...
    DizzyDezzi2010 DizzyDezzi2010 41-45, F Jun 13, 2012

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    Married To A Narcissist For 21 Yrs!

    I can't believe that I have been so stupid for the last 21 yrs. I know that if I were not depressed for the last twenty yrs my husband could never have pulled the wool over my eyes the way that he has. My husband has been in the army for the past twenty one yrs, so it has been...
    vanecia vanecia 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    My Narcissist Husband Left Me Destitute

    I started to write my story, but will get back to it.....still quite painful...happy to see there is a forum where I can connect with others who really truly understand and get it. Be back later with my story....
    blarb blarb 51-55, F 4 Responses Apr 4, 2010

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    My narcissist ex is currently refusing a good

    offer on our house. He wants to counter with the full price. Then he says it's my fault that we are going to lose the sale because I refuse to sign the counter offer! So typical. But grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
    rphmom rphmom 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 12

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    I got married at the age of 20.

    My marriage lasted for a mere 7 months, when he decided he was done dealing with all of my issues. I was made to feel like I was worthless and just a terrible person. After two months of confusion, hurt and hatred for myself, I came across an artical on Narcissistic...
    Cay22 Cay22 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    3 Years And Counting Trying To Divorce A Narcissist

    So, I married a narcissist.What is worse than marrying a narcissist.  Trying to divorce one, especially if you have children.My ex husband was confirmed as having 'high narcissistic tendencies'.  He is also highly paranoid, suffers from substance abuse, and has had numerous...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    Third Time Is Not A Charm!

    I've dealt with depression all my life, even as a child. I was very empty and had an overwhelming empty, lonely feeling, which I still do to a degree. I saw my first psychiatrist when I was 15. Now, I am a 29 year-old mom of 10 year-old fraternal twin boys. Married at 18, mother...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    The Monster I Married...

    I married a man with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (A Malignant Narcissist) 26 years ago. three kids and trillions of tears later, I realized my mistake. I cannot help but feel like the owner of some exotic, wild animal. When you're married to a narcissist, you are...
    OnlyOneChiquita OnlyOneChiquita 41-45, F 14 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    14 years!!!!!!!!!! But hey without my complete

    waste if space ex, I wouldn't have finally realised my full potential. I divorced mr loser ,went back to university, graduated and can now after the years of torture this guy inflicted I can now hold my head up high. So cheers my ex narcissist I owe you my happy life now !
    annetteclaire annetteclaire 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    A No Win Situation

    I dated an N for a couple of years and saw the warning signs but chose to ignore them. He would vascillate between being my sweet prince charming and an emotionally abusive psycho. We broke up and got back together more times than I can count. What I thought was the last time...
    comfycovers comfycovers 31-35 5 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    He swooped in, told me everything exactly

    as I wanted agreed with every thought , would sit up all night talking. Poor thing had been so mistreated...if Id only known... From the very first words 10 years ago, until 5 minutes ago, my life has been a fun house of lies, mirrors, turns and twists...it took me years to see...
    50freenflirty 50freenflirty 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    In July, it will be 8 years married.

    Lucky me. First time on anything on this topic. This is new Sight but I have been on Utube and I can see that is not always all my fault!
    Enabler7 Enabler7 41-45, F 3 Responses May 21

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    I Also Married An N.

    He was wonderful at first. He told me wonderful things about myself that I knew were not true and I, for a little while, found a little courage, with him, that I didn't have before. Because of that, I thought I was doing the right thing by being with him and. . . . .ignored...
    farnel farnel 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    Narcissist Tendecies

    Hello I'm not sure how to start bit oh boy here it comes.My cousin met his wife fell in love in 2 weeks they got engaged 2mos 9 mos married..Ever since they were married he always have look like something is going on. His wife makes all the decisions.Ok I'm not diagnosing her but...
    Lisa1471 Lisa1471 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    How Come I Am Obsessed With A Narcisscist? Help!

    I'm single (recently separated) and have obsessive thoughts about a very powerful narcissist. The relationship started online and, for the most part, I'm the one who will not let go. The guy is clearly fulfilling his need for supply online. What's wrong with me!
    amithecrazyone amithecrazyone 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    Wish I'd Had That Protection ...

    Unfortunately, didn't marry - just lived with for a decade so didnt even have that back up! They're dangerous - for a multitude of reasons. Mine obliterated me! Overnight! I no longer suited his purpose. I got too strong. I caught him up - there was probably a ton of reasons. I...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I remember once a "funny" anecdot. I'm French. She's half English half French which means she can speak "some" French. Anyway... Once again, she'd found a new way of humiliating me...
    Apoil Apoil 36-40, M 4 hrs ago

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    That I will make one of my personal missions for the love of human kind, because I wish I knew this! A narcissist is insecure and compensatively arrogant in various ways. They...
    Gingix Gingix 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    Emotional Affair: Was she Narcissistic or Borderline Waif? I am a married man with two beautiful children and a wonderful wife. I have never “physically” cheated on my wife...
    DriveRiggins DriveRiggins 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 9

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    The realisation and relief in knowing there is a disorder a name a explanation for ALL those things that your partner has bestowed on you . The enlightenment is like a weight...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 15

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    Its nearly 4am, it's raining and I'm wide awake. In bed, alone! My husband is snoring his head off in the spare room and I'm afraid he's really going to leave me this time. I've...
    pickledpear pickledpear 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Celebrating my 1 year of going no contact. It is unbelievable what a year i had. I got married and had a baby boy. I went no contact after she refused to attend my wedding cause...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I'm still working through the pain of being emotionally abused for 40 + years. I found information about daughters of narcissistic mothers. It has helped. But the pain is still...
    deeauburn deeauburn 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    Explaining that you will no longer tolerate being spoken to rudely,disrespected , de valued ...... Which is met with the most demeaning attitude /tone/ arm crossed eye rolling...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    I believe I'm currently involved with a man with narcissistic traits. More like it's ending. I say believe because I googled someone incapable of showing love, care, affection. And...
    sassythoughts sassythoughts 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    I've taken a number of psychological tests on the web, and every single one of them said I had narcissistic personality disorder. Additionally, I can clearly see very single one...
    DarksBane DarksBane 13-15, M Jun 24

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    I clashed with that personality trait. I lived in fear to express any opinion I had that differed. Age has changed that fear of opinion and speaking my true mind instead of...
    LienOnYourDreams LienOnYourDreams 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 24

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    I don't know where to start, there's so much to my story. I grew up as an only child living with my mother and her parents. Since 2006, it's just been the two of us. I moved out of...
    ankhgirl ankhgirl 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I have become the scapegoat daughter of a narcissistic mother, and I don't know what to do anymore. She has physically harmed me on multiple occasions, and the next morning denies...
    psychfemme psychfemme 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    Ok, so I have cut contact over a year ago, because she is a narcissitic C**T out to control and ruin my life any chance she gets. Via email, after my wedding, telling her she can...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    I find that a few people on EP are very narcissistic. Now, I don't mind when others talk about themselves or if they just need to talk about their problems in general but a very...
    UltraCerulean UltraCerulean 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I just got the book "Healing Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Will I Ever Be Good Enough?"
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    And here I was thinking the guy was a sociopath. No, he's just a narcissist. Like that's supposed to be comforting or something.. Well, here's the story. When we first met, he fell...
    JourneeBlue JourneeBlue 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My husband and I started dating when we were back in high school as sophomores. He was a jock and I was attracted to that. When we graduated high school we broke up for a few...
    akahlig2 akahlig2 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    I've been with my bf for 6.5 years now and we recently watched a documentary where this guy who filmed all these weddings goes back to the people years and years later and...
    danielle1423 danielle1423 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    On 17th of April I met a guy on the street I was driving my car with my cousin and he was in his car beside me on the traffic stop sign , he asked me to stop and we started...
    sisikuci sisikuci 26-30, F Jul 11

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    Well this guy... Is married and has two children with a wife and everything. His kids are 8 and 2 and he says him and his wife have agreed to divorce in two years when his youngest...
    miracle98 miracle98 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I was posting in the "Married but Lonely" section and have several posts there that give my perspective on my marriage. After being in that group for a while I realized through...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 7

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    I am married and I have this theory. My theory is that the longer two people are married, the more likely they are to have different sex drives, causing a great influx of "I live...
    MarcRider MarcRider 46-50, M 10 Responses Jul 8

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    Marriage is a curse. That's what it seems like now a days. As soon as you get married it seems all this fun and love just dies. You're bound by the law. I have no problem staying...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    I know I'm young, but my mom got married younger than me and I want to engaged now for a few years and get married like 22 or 23. Then have a kid at 28 and one at 30. I know things...
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago