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I Married a Narcissist

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    Third Time Is Not A Charm!

    I've dealt with depression all my life, even as a child. I was very empty and had an overwhelming empty, lonely feeling, which I still do to a degree. I saw my first psychiatrist when I was 15. Now, I am a 29 year-old mom of 10 year-old fraternal twin boys. Married at 18, mother...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    Monsterous Creation

    It started with noticing insecurities. General confusion in his life. He didn't know where to go or what to do. So he began taking jobs under people who were abusive. One boss disapproved of him going for two weeks to California for the Marines. He even criticized him after he...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    Yesterday I went to a pool party with my family

    and my husband checked out every female that was there. Then we get home and he tells me you have gained weight and your thighs are so big. In fact your thighs are so big than when you were pregnant. He hurts my feelings and when he made me cry he says your just too sensitive. I...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 38 Responses Jul 27, 2014

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    I Also Married An N.

    He was wonderful at first. He told me wonderful things about myself that I knew were not true and I, for a little while, found a little courage, with him, that I didn't have before. Because of that, I thought I was doing the right thing by being with him and. . . . .ignored...
    farnel farnel 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    3 Years And Counting Trying To Divorce A Narcissist

    So, I married a narcissist.What is worse than marrying a narcissist.  Trying to divorce one, especially if you have children.My ex husband was confirmed as having 'high narcissistic tendencies'.  He is also highly paranoid, suffers from substance abuse, and has had numerous...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    My Narcissist Husband Left Me Destitute

    I started to write my story, but will get back to it.....still quite painful...happy to see there is a forum where I can connect with others who really truly understand and get it. Be back later with my story....
    blarb blarb 51-55, F 4 Responses Apr 4, 2010

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    UPDATE AFTER GIRLS FIRST VISIT WITH THEIR

    DAD Girls had fun at contact session. He used time to manipulate them and quiz them by pretending he was interested in their lives n didn't no things. He carefully played the visit so the contact worker will write a report with him in best light but he exposed problems with me...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 22

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    Wish I'd Had That Protection ...

    Unfortunately, didn't marry - just lived with for a decade so didnt even have that back up! They're dangerous - for a multitude of reasons. Mine obliterated me! Overnight! I no longer suited his purpose. I got too strong. I caught him up - there was probably a ton of reasons. I...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    Crazy

    He's driving me Crazy. I feeling I need to be In a mental hospital.
    Likeabird Likeabird 36-40, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    This was not written by me -

    but it could have been.. Death of the Imaginary Person: Narcissistic Abuse and the Aftermath I am mourning the loss of someone who never existed. What do you do when the wool has been pulled from over your eyes and your heart is broken, specifically when you miss and love...
    lambchop63 lambchop63 51-55, F 4 Responses Jan 9

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    It Should Have Worked!

    Eleven years ago I married a narcissist.  He was great with my two young boys.  He didn't drink alcohol like my ex.  He wrote me love notes and treated my like a princess.  Sometime after our daughter was born, he started changing.  Quit his job. Took out...
    plantlover plantlover 41-45 7 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    Married To A Narcissist For 21 Yrs!

    I can't believe that I have been so stupid for the last 21 yrs. I know that if I were not depressed for the last twenty yrs my husband could never have pulled the wool over my eyes the way that he has. My husband has been in the army for the past twenty one yrs, so it has been...
    vanecia vanecia 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    In July, it will be 8 years married.

    Lucky me. First time on anything on this topic. This is new Sight but I have been on Utube and I can see that is not always all my fault!
    Enabler7 Enabler7 41-45, F 3 Responses May 21, 2014

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    How Come I Am Obsessed With A Narcisscist? Help!

    I'm single (recently separated) and have obsessive thoughts about a very powerful narcissist. The relationship started online and, for the most part, I'm the one who will not let go. The guy is clearly fulfilling his need for supply online. What's wrong with me!
    amithecrazyone amithecrazyone 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    A No Win Situation

    I dated an N for a couple of years and saw the warning signs but chose to ignore them. He would vascillate between being my sweet prince charming and an emotionally abusive psycho. We broke up and got back together more times than I can count. What I thought was the last time...
    comfycovers comfycovers 31-35 5 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    I Just Didn't Know!

    My husband fits the classic pattern. He has no ability to empathize. He has no respect for anyone's ideals when they differ from his. He has no ability, no desire to make anybody's life better but his own. He is mean. He is defensive. People have asked me how all this...
    KarynT45 KarynT45 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    "A Narcissist’s Love Letter" Author: John

    Howell When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I love having someone new to tell my...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 14, 2014

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    In need of self help book recommendations to

    cope with future contact The funding has been cut to the charity offering me counselling after my marriage was destroyed by domestic abuse. I've learnt that the physiological abuse has destroyed me more and now recognise I married a narcissistic man. I still have to resolve...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    14 years!!!!!!!!!! But hey without my complete

    waste if space ex, I wouldn't have finally realised my full potential. I divorced mr loser ,went back to university, graduated and can now after the years of torture this guy inflicted I can now hold my head up high. So cheers my ex narcissist I owe you my happy life now !
    annetteclaire annetteclaire 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 4, 2014

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    I'm no stranger to life's "hard knocks".

    I've spent most of my adult life getting sucker punched, but I've always been strong, always picked myself up by the bootstraps while telling life "You hit like a *****." In 2012, for the first time in my life, I was truly in a really good place...great job, financially secure...
    lambchop63 lambchop63 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    I have been married for 28 years mostly

    miserable years. I stayed for my children not understanding that there father was a narcissist, I thought he was just frugal and made excuses for him because of his upbringing. Now my daughters are suffering because of my ignorance. My oldest is having trouble finding a...
    mltdown mltdown 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 4, 2014

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    The Monster I Married...

    I married a man with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (A Malignant Narcissist) 26 years ago. three kids and trillions of tears later, I realized my mistake. I cannot help but feel like the owner of some exotic, wild animal. When you're married to a narcissist, you are...
    OnlyOneChiquita OnlyOneChiquita 41-45, F 14 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    pastel29 pastel29 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    Narcissist Tendecies

    Hello I'm not sure how to start bit oh boy here it comes.My cousin met his wife fell in love in 2 weeks they got engaged 2mos 9 mos married..Ever since they were married he always have look like something is going on. His wife makes all the decisions.Ok I'm not diagnosing her but...
    Lisa1471 Lisa1471 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    I Care Too Much.

    I have been with my husband for 30 yrs and he is everything you all say about all your partners. My life has been in turmoil for as long as I remember with all the classic feelings you all feel about your Narcissists partners etc. Firstly do you think it could be a learnt...
    mumado mumado 51-55, F Feb 25, 2013

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    My narcissist ex is currently refusing a good

    offer on our house. He wants to counter with the full price. Then he says it's my fault that we are going to lose the sale because I refuse to sign the counter offer! So typical. But grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
    rphmom rphmom 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2014

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    Moments to remember..

    . I have asked my attorney to file. Although we have been married 26 years almost, he had me sign a prenup I did not understand. She has been researching ways of breaking it. Either way I want to maintain my dignity. Take the higher road. It is getting harder and harder as...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 13 Responses Jan 11

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    I got married at the age of 20.

    My marriage lasted for a mere 7 months, when he decided he was done dealing with all of my issues. I was made to feel like I was worthless and just a terrible person. After two months of confusion, hurt and hatred for myself, I came across an artical on Narcissistic...
    Cay22 Cay22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    Godsmacked

    been married a little over a year and i am godsmacked at how my husband has treated me lately. perhaps his mask is wearing thin. everytime i try to talk to him about anything i feel like i've been emotionally raped. he went from being supportive and loving to emotionally cruel...
    kyriblu kyriblu 46-50, F Jul 14, 2012

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    My ex will see my girls tomorrow

    for the first time in 10 months. First time since his arrest. First time the courts have let him see them. My girls have said they want to see him but understandably they have been anxious the last few days which has come out in a variety of ways. I've been so focused on them...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    He swooped in, told me everything exactly

    as I wanted agreed with every thought , would sit up all night talking. Poor thing had been so mistreated...if Id only known... From the very first words 10 years ago, until 5 minutes ago, my life has been a fun house of lies, mirrors, turns and twists...it took me years to see...
    50freenflirty 50freenflirty 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2014

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    I Married A Narcissist And She Tried To Take Everything I Had

    Hi all, 12 years ago I met a wonderful woman we got together started dating settled down and got married. I thought it was going to be perfect it was Hell on Earth. She came across as very positive, well meaning and supportive. She was a liar controlling, devious and a thief...
    Richard3010 Richard3010 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    Won't Get Fooled Again

    I only just recently discovered that I was formerly married to a narcissist. I only found that out after having dated a narcissist and trying to figure out what went wrong in that relationship. This guy came on hot and heavy and I played the fool until I helped him get a job...
    DizzyDezzi2010 DizzyDezzi2010 41-45, F Jun 13, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    There are daughters of narcissistic mothers who have barely survived psychologically. In the extreme, there are daughters who starved themselves to death by anorexia as the only...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 6 hrs ago

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    When one becomes involved intimately with a narcissist, one becomes isolated. Cluster B personality types DON”T change. Unlike other forms of mental illness such as depression...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Hi there... I need some help from others that have gotten out of a narcissistic marriage, and have kids. Here's the rough sketch of my story: I was in relationship and married to...
    beesknees12 beesknees12 41-45, F 7 Responses Feb 16

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    The Band-aid: Narcissists are professional Band-aids. They will seek out your weaknesses (abandonment issues, self-image issues, etc.) and will morph themselves into your savior...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Well, the title says it all. I am in desperate need of advise. My mother was narcissistic and abusive (and only those who have gone through that as well can know what I'm talking...
    kat1wabash kat1wabash 18-21, F Feb 7

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    I am only 28 but I have been married since 2008 I married at 21 right now right after my now husbands grandma who was his mother figure passed away in 2007 due to sickness and my...
    Justwondering28 Justwondering28 26-30 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I didn't find a right group, so posting here. I am married but I found a woman who struck chords. She is single though! I want to date her or at least be friends. what's the best...
    philophil philophil 31-35, M 4 hrs ago

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    I just started posting here and I do have to say, the negativity on here in this category is mind blowing. I want to share my experience about how I met my husband. When we met, he...
    Lil5 Lil5 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I mean who wants to be alone forever ..but i just love the whole 'i was looking for some special things and i found them in you,but fast forward 10 years and hes just a guy on the...
    amie26 amie26 31-35, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    my doughter got married she found a very nice young man now I have two more teenagers other kids are smaller but these two give my wife much of her own medicine in their behavior...
    sirpercival sirpercival 41-45, M 10 hrs ago

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    http://thenarcissisticlife.com/do-i-have-a-narcissistic-mother-21-signs-of-a-narcissistic-mother/ many but not all of these apply to my mother. Some are slightly different. I am 99...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Feb 8

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