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I Married a Narcissist

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    I Care Too Much.

    I have been with my husband for 30 yrs and he is everything you all say about all your partners. My life has been in turmoil for as long as I remember with all the classic feelings you all feel about your Narcissists partners etc. Firstly do you think it could be a learnt...
    mumado mumado 51-55, F Feb 25, 2013

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    My narcissist ex is currently refusing a good

    offer on our house. He wants to counter with the full price. Then he says it's my fault that we are going to lose the sale because I refuse to sign the counter offer! So typical. But grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
    rphmom rphmom 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2014

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    In July, it will be 8 years married.

    Lucky me. First time on anything on this topic. This is new Sight but I have been on Utube and I can see that is not always all my fault!
    Enabler7 Enabler7 41-45, F 3 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Moments to remember..

    . I have asked my attorney to file. Although we have been married 26 years almost, he had me sign a prenup I did not understand. She has been researching ways of breaking it. Either way I want to maintain my dignity. Take the higher road. It is getting harder and harder as...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 11 Responses Jan 11

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    A No Win Situation

    I dated an N for a couple of years and saw the warning signs but chose to ignore them. He would vascillate between being my sweet prince charming and an emotionally abusive psycho. We broke up and got back together more times than I can count. What I thought was the last time...
    comfycovers comfycovers 31-35 5 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    It Should Have Worked!

    Eleven years ago I married a narcissist.  He was great with my two young boys.  He didn't drink alcohol like my ex.  He wrote me love notes and treated my like a princess.  Sometime after our daughter was born, he started changing.  Quit his job. Took out...
    plantlover plantlover 41-45 7 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    The Monster I Married...

    I married a man with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (A Malignant Narcissist) 26 years ago. three kids and trillions of tears later, I realized my mistake. I cannot help but feel like the owner of some exotic, wild animal. When you're married to a narcissist, you are...
    OnlyOneChiquita OnlyOneChiquita 41-45, F 14 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    I Just Didn't Know!

    My husband fits the classic pattern. He has no ability to empathize. He has no respect for anyone's ideals when they differ from his. He has no ability, no desire to make anybody's life better but his own. He is mean. He is defensive. People have asked me how all this...
    KarynT45 KarynT45 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    I Also Married An N.

    He was wonderful at first. He told me wonderful things about myself that I knew were not true and I, for a little while, found a little courage, with him, that I didn't have before. Because of that, I thought I was doing the right thing by being with him and. . . . .ignored...
    farnel farnel 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    pastel29 pastel29 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    Godsmacked

    been married a little over a year and i am godsmacked at how my husband has treated me lately. perhaps his mask is wearing thin. everytime i try to talk to him about anything i feel like i've been emotionally raped. he went from being supportive and loving to emotionally cruel...
    kyriblu kyriblu 46-50, F Jul 14, 2012

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    Crazy

    He's driving me Crazy. I feeling I need to be In a mental hospital.
    Likeabird Likeabird 36-40, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    He swooped in, told me everything exactly

    as I wanted agreed with every thought , would sit up all night talking. Poor thing had been so mistreated...if Id only known... From the very first words 10 years ago, until 5 minutes ago, my life has been a fun house of lies, mirrors, turns and twists...it took me years to see...
    50freenflirty 50freenflirty 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2014

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    My Narcissist Husband Left Me Destitute

    I started to write my story, but will get back to it.....still quite painful...happy to see there is a forum where I can connect with others who really truly understand and get it. Be back later with my story....
    blarb blarb 51-55, F 4 Responses Apr 4, 2010

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    Yesterday I went to a pool party with my family

    and my husband checked out every female that was there. Then we get home and he tells me you have gained weight and your thighs are so big. In fact your thighs are so big than when you were pregnant. He hurts my feelings and when he made me cry he says your just too sensitive. I...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Jul 27, 2014

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    I have been married for 28 years mostly

    miserable years. I stayed for my children not understanding that there father was a narcissist, I thought he was just frugal and made excuses for him because of his upbringing. Now my daughters are suffering because of my ignorance. My oldest is having trouble finding a...
    mltdown mltdown 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 4, 2014

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    How Come I Am Obsessed With A Narcisscist? Help!

    I'm single (recently separated) and have obsessive thoughts about a very powerful narcissist. The relationship started online and, for the most part, I'm the one who will not let go. The guy is clearly fulfilling his need for supply online. What's wrong with me!
    amithecrazyone amithecrazyone 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    Third Time Is Not A Charm!

    I've dealt with depression all my life, even as a child. I was very empty and had an overwhelming empty, lonely feeling, which I still do to a degree. I saw my first psychiatrist when I was 15. Now, I am a 29 year-old mom of 10 year-old fraternal twin boys. Married at 18, mother...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    "A Narcissist’s Love Letter" Author: John

    Howell When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I love having someone new to tell my...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 14, 2014

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    Won't Get Fooled Again

    I only just recently discovered that I was formerly married to a narcissist. I only found that out after having dated a narcissist and trying to figure out what went wrong in that relationship. This guy came on hot and heavy and I played the fool until I helped him get a job...
    DizzyDezzi2010 DizzyDezzi2010 41-45, F Jun 13, 2012

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    I Married A Narcissist And She Tried To Take Everything I Had

    Hi all, 12 years ago I met a wonderful woman we got together started dating settled down and got married. I thought it was going to be perfect it was Hell on Earth. She came across as very positive, well meaning and supportive. She was a liar controlling, devious and a thief...
    Richard3010 Richard3010 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    In need of self help book recommendations to

    cope with future contact The funding has been cut to the charity offering me counselling after my marriage was destroyed by domestic abuse. I've learnt that the physiological abuse has destroyed me more and now recognise I married a narcissistic man. I still have to resolve...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    14 years!!!!!!!!!! But hey without my complete

    waste if space ex, I wouldn't have finally realised my full potential. I divorced mr loser ,went back to university, graduated and can now after the years of torture this guy inflicted I can now hold my head up high. So cheers my ex narcissist I owe you my happy life now !
    annetteclaire annetteclaire 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 4, 2014

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    Monsterous Creation

    It started with noticing insecurities. General confusion in his life. He didn't know where to go or what to do. So he began taking jobs under people who were abusive. One boss disapproved of him going for two weeks to California for the Marines. He even criticized him after he...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    I'm no stranger to life's "hard knocks".

    I've spent most of my adult life getting sucker punched, but I've always been strong, always picked myself up by the bootstraps while telling life "You hit like a *****." In 2012, for the first time in my life, I was truly in a really good place...great job, financially secure...
    lambchop63 lambchop63 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    3 Years And Counting Trying To Divorce A Narcissist

    So, I married a narcissist.What is worse than marrying a narcissist.  Trying to divorce one, especially if you have children.My ex husband was confirmed as having 'high narcissistic tendencies'.  He is also highly paranoid, suffers from substance abuse, and has had numerous...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    Married To A Narcissist For 21 Yrs!

    I can't believe that I have been so stupid for the last 21 yrs. I know that if I were not depressed for the last twenty yrs my husband could never have pulled the wool over my eyes the way that he has. My husband has been in the army for the past twenty one yrs, so it has been...
    vanecia vanecia 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    Narcissist Tendecies

    Hello I'm not sure how to start bit oh boy here it comes.My cousin met his wife fell in love in 2 weeks they got engaged 2mos 9 mos married..Ever since they were married he always have look like something is going on. His wife makes all the decisions.Ok I'm not diagnosing her but...
    Lisa1471 Lisa1471 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    I got married at the age of 20.

    My marriage lasted for a mere 7 months, when he decided he was done dealing with all of my issues. I was made to feel like I was worthless and just a terrible person. After two months of confusion, hurt and hatred for myself, I came across an artical on Narcissistic...
    Cay22 Cay22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    This was not written by me -

    but it could have been.. Death of the Imaginary Person: Narcissistic Abuse and the Aftermath I am mourning the loss of someone who never existed. What do you do when the wool has been pulled from over your eyes and your heart is broken, specifically when you miss and love...
    lambchop63 lambchop63 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 9

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    Wish I'd Had That Protection ...

    Unfortunately, didn't marry - just lived with for a decade so didnt even have that back up! They're dangerous - for a multitude of reasons. Mine obliterated me! Overnight! I no longer suited his purpose. I got too strong. I caught him up - there was probably a ton of reasons. I...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    God im so emotionally drained. I've been married to a narcissistic man for nearly five years. I just don't know what to do anymore, sometimes I feel like I almost wish I wouldn't...
    ewok1985 ewok1985 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    Malignant narcissism is a psychological syndrome comprising an extreme mix of narcissism, antisocial personality disorder, aggression, and sadism. Often grandiose, and always ready...
    1x1muse1x1 1x1muse1x1 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 1

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    Happy New Years friends! May your 2015 be narcissist free or at least narcissist immune(immune to their crap)!
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Letter 5 Dear Steve it's 2015 and I have survived 2014 despite your best efforts to stop me. I enter 2015 knowing things are far from resolved and there are many battles yet to...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F Jan 1

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    I was raised with a narcissistic father.. The coldness seems to surround us...In fact, I was always hungered for his love... I don't want to seek any longer inside his heart...
    diane1996 diane1996 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    My experience with Narcissistic Abuse by Parents, Husbands, Co-workers. How many of you experienced them creating false realities for you? They give you distorted information, even...
    Simplelady4U Simplelady4U 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    In need of self help book recommendations to cope with future contact The funding has been cut to the charity offering me counselling after my marriage was destroyed by domestic...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    I started reading this book last night and I couldn't put it down. It explained the last 20 years of my life in such detail. I finally understood the dynamics of my marriage and it...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    At least I think I am a narcissist - or maybe I am just very selfish? Alright - confession time. Most of the time I don't care about other peoples feelings. I once got irritated...
    ulalalaura ulalalaura 18-21, F Jan 16

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    Narcissists remain levelheaded until You speak logic, reason and truth. That's when they loudly claim you are unbalanced! Read that today and boy is it the truth!
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 1

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    My ex had posted as his new 2015 profile pic on Facebook -it's my girls school photo. He's basking in comment about how beautiful they are etc. He's responded to the comments. No...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 2

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    "A narcissist doesn't care how you feel as long as they get some kind of emotion out of you, it makes them feel powerful. Then one day you look at him, realize he's a fraud and...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 3

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    https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2014/04/17/neuroscience-maybe-this-explains-why-empaths-are-attarcted-to-narcissistssociopaths/ Interesting!
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 8 Responses Jan 12

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    Chronic invalidation is like spiritual death. Those of you trying to make your way through the labyrinth of the narcissist... If you pay attention you will notice that the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 13 Responses Jan 14

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    Since I am divorcing the sociopathic narcissist, I won't be posting under this for much longer. I won't let it define me anymore, but I have something I need to say to those of...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 21 Responses Jan 16

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    Hello everyone. I never wanted to resort to this, but I feel I am out of other options. Let me start from the beginning. When my mother, Dee, was 9, her father was shot in the head...
    NikkiNINTR NikkiNINTR 18-21, F a week ago

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    twenty five years. two sons. one dog. one cat. several dreams, few realizations. He loves me I know, just not as much as he loves himself. its hard to love a narcissist, but I do...
    littlesadone littlesadone 41-45, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am the only child of a narcissistic mother. I am her only relative and she is in poor health. Where does that leave me?
    AngelSuze AngelSuze 41-45, F Dec 31, 2014

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