I Married a Narcissist

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 189 People

    Possible Xmas present

    for that special someone....
    allycatii allycatii
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 17, 2015

    Won't Get Fooled Again

    I only just recently discovered that I was formerly married to a narcissist. I only found that out after having dated a narcissist and trying to figure out what went wrong in that relationship. This guy came on hot and heavy and I played the fool until I helped him get a job...
    DizzyDezzi2010 DizzyDezzi2010
    41-45, F
    Jun 13, 2012

    Struggling with having ex in my world more

    and more. I've set boundaries of how and when we communicate. But sometimes a situation occurs and then I'm all over the place again. Last night my daughters call from his. It's their first full weekend there and so I know I'm vulnerable. I chat with them and it's fine at the...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    5 Responses May 24, 2015

    Wish I'd Had That Protection ...

    Unfortunately, didn't marry - just lived with for a decade so didnt even have that back up! They're dangerous - for a multitude of reasons. Mine obliterated me! Overnight! I no longer suited his purpose. I got too strong. I caught him up - there was probably a ton of reasons. I...
    liguidgold liguidgold
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Jul 7, 2011

    Great article. Realize it's NOT you.

    http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-the-narcissist-capable-of-loving/?utm_source=New+Life&utm_campaign=ce3d5aef2e-16+days+to+your+new+life&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_005709a593-ce3d5aef2e-407675261
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234
    36-40, F
    Jun 9, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    annacc11 annacc11
    26-30, F
    Sep 18, 2015

    The Monster I Married...

    I married a man with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (A Malignant Narcissist) 26 years ago. three kids and trillions of tears later, I realized my mistake. I cannot help but feel like the owner of some exotic, wild animal. When you're married to a narcissist, you are...
    OnlyOneChiquita OnlyOneChiquita
    41-45, F
    13 Responses Oct 1, 2011

    My daughters met my man

    for a casual ice cream before we went to the theatre. It went well. Then we had a play date with him n his daughter. They got on like a house on fire. It was effortless and easy. They even organised that we should stay for a sleep over. Three little faces pleading and so we...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 7, 2015
    michellegh michellegh
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 20, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 13, 2015

    "A Narcissist’s Love Letter" Author: John

    Howell When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I love having someone new to tell my...
    invisible321 invisible321
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Feb 14, 2014

    It's been an exhausting two weeks.

    We were in court on Monday. All day. He was off the scale ridiculous. Desperate to control me and have as much power as he can through pretending it was about his love for the girls. He agreed a temporary child arrangement order. And made it clear he still seeks custody. He's...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 8, 2015
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Sep 16, 2015

    Got gas lighted yesterday.

    Received a text while at work at 330pm saying "can you be back by 430pm, I've got an interview and need you to set the GPS for me". Left work just slightly over 4pm, picked the kids from day care, got home, set it for her, and she was off by 435pm. Started my usual evening...
    koh72 koh72
    41-45, M
    9 Responses Mar 30, 2015

    The Timing And Motivation Behind Why Most

    Narcissists Discard Their Partners Most of the time, it's a matter of time when you find yourself being discarded when the Narcissist finds a new suitable partner. Meaning, there would be period(s) that you suspect that your partner is seeing someone else, as he/she is looking...
    koh72 koh72
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    He's not coping knowing

    that I'm in a relationship. He's got little power over me to cause trouble so he's coming through any way possible. My new man is having anonymous hits on his work profile which is unusual n indicates his profiles being viewed by someone outside of his field who wants to remain...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Sep 9, 2015

    I've created a group called "I am divorcing a

    narcissist". From articles I've read divorcing a narcissist is a completely different ball game to a standard divorce so I fear I will need all the support I can get. If your in a similar situation join the group n offer you wisdom experience or just to add support Thanks x
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2015

    They such angry cowards !

    !! Really ? Be thankful you wake up ! Imagine waking up angry everyday ??? Stomp stomp , door slamming, grumbling under breadth But it not them Really funny actually No interaction and still the behaviour continues
    fivefoottall fivefoottall
    51-55, F
    1 Response Apr 24, 2015

    Test to see if wife's a narcissist; Pick an

    event and go to the make a t-shirt web site and make a kick *** t shirt. Try not to interpret whatever important activity she's doing. Ask her if she wants one of the t shirts. If she glares at you and and half rolls her eyes and sighs, 'seriously?' Chances are she's a...
    jafblumpkin jafblumpkin
    41-45, M
    Jul 14, 2015

    I was just trying to work out the odds .

    .. how unlucky one needs to be, to be involved with a Narcissist. It is thought to occur in up to 6 percent of the general population. So here are the numbers ... startling figures. Population of China : 1,357,000,000 Number of Narcissists : 81,420,000 Population of USA...
    koh72 koh72
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jul 2, 2015

    Can't wait to serve the papers n be able to say

    I'm divorcing a narcissist. Custody is over n so my divorce application is being prepared. I just want to be free of him as much as possible.
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Sep 18, 2015

    My husband used me since day 1,

    all I wanted to do was help him. I can't believe he went to the extent of having a child with me, how **** up is that. And now my child has to grow up without a father. He's not even the slightest bit remorseful. I started to ignore him about a month ago and he hasn't called me...
    mily24 mily24
    31-35, F
    Mar 5

    Is he a narcissist? One year

    after I published the ebook Naked Narcissist, many women wrote me about the effect it had on their thinking and how it gave them the needed push to make a positive change. Dear Experience Project ladies, just wanted to say thank you once again as that kind of ebook wouldn't be...
    NarcissistTruth NarcissistTruth
    41-45, F
    Aug 13, 2015

    Is there a group called I am divorcing a

    narcissist ? If not how do I make one? I signed the papers yesterday. They go to court today and will be served to him next week Amazing feeling to do this at last 😀
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Sep 25, 2015

    Yesterday I went to a pool party with my family

    and my husband checked out every female that was there. Then we get home and he tells me you have gained weight and your thighs are so big. In fact your thighs are so big than when you were pregnant. He hurts my feelings and when he made me cry he says your just too sensitive. I...
    michellegh michellegh
    36-40, F
    30 Responses Jul 27, 2014

    wife? i love you completely

    and I'm calling you out! not sure what narcism is but you for the bill. I'm crazy for writing this for you to find! we are both imperfectly perfect and bats shite crazy, but we have love. we can never give up, we must forgive and forge forward. I'll always forgive you for...
    ShottyB ShottyB
    36-40, M
    1 Response Feb 19

    I came across this article

    and it really hit home for me. Hope it helps friends on here too. http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-would-it-take-for-a-narcissist-to-heal/
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded
    36-40, M
    Dec 19, 2015

    How to tell if your wife's a narcissist: If

    she can fit it into her schedule, ask her to go on a walk with the dog. If the first 40 minutes are her complaining about work, neighbors and pointing out, by all the big houses you pass, how unsuccessful (professionally, b/c we don't own a $2.5m house) you are. The last 20...
    jafblumpkin jafblumpkin
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    So 4 days ago, my husband was in his separate

    bedroom talking to his Gay Friend Collin with the door closed It was about 10:30 pm, after trying to listen to their conversation I decided to open the door and try to take his locked phone to see what they were talking about Suddenly his eyes glazed over and I became afraid...
    michellegh michellegh
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Mar 17, 2015

    I need help. I'm broken tonight.

    Fourth unsupervised contact. 4 hours each time. Girls come back this evening Youngest says it's boring being with me all the time and she wants to see daddy lots more and sleep over. She wants to live with him. They were talking at swimming pool while my eldest was on slide...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    And she ****** up my life!

    Now I am more broken than she will ever realize she is! Wtf.
    loveisalwaysthecure loveisalwaysthecure
    41-45, M
    Sep 30, 2015

    I was has lighted last night.

    First time I've raging used it as it happened and didn't respond. He said something in the conversation which I picked him back up on. He denied it. I confirmed it had been said. He then went into full on pantomime gas lighting. Hooting with laughter at how crazy I was to be...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jul 18, 2015

    I saw my soon-to-be ex-wife today

    for coffee. I'm getting much better at keeping the conversation from spiraling out of control, though I'm not great at it yet. I don't think she's "a narcissist," but I think she has narcissistic traits. Today I told her some things I've grown up about since our separation, and...
    yetanothermaninCT yetanothermaninCT
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 22, 2015

    You can tell your married to a narcissist,

    when your questioning if you are or aren't, that is the mental state of you being emotionally manipulated by you narcissist, if it wasn't happening than why are you curious?????? .
    loveisalwaysthecure loveisalwaysthecure
    41-45, M
    1 Response Sep 17, 2015

    It's over. 18 months of fighting

    and the final reports recommend my 6 and 8 year old live with me six days and him four days on a rolling ten day pattern. This is regardless of day of week, school or activities. No stability. We all follow his demand and his schedule. My solicitor said that we have no argument...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 25, 2015

    My wife's narcissism is fueled by the

    admiration of our kids. She showers them with gifts, iPad games and relaxed rules. Who said buying affection doesn't work? How can I get my boys (6&8), to see that daddy isn't the rule ogre and competing for their affection is not good. I want them to respect me for bring a...
    jafblumpkin jafblumpkin
    41-45, M
    1 Response Sep 22, 2015

    This was not written by me -

    but it could have been.. Death of the Imaginary Person: Narcissistic Abuse and the Aftermath I am mourning the loss of someone who never existed. What do you do when the wool has been pulled from over your eyes and your heart is broken, specifically when you miss and love...
    lambchop63 lambchop63
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2015

    3 Years And Counting Trying To Divorce A Narcissist

    So, I married a narcissist.What is worse than marrying a narcissist.  Trying to divorce one, especially if you have children.My ex husband was confirmed as having 'high narcissistic tendencies'.  He is also highly paranoid, suffers from substance abuse, and has had numerous...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75
    41-45, F
    Nov 23, 2015

    How did I not see it.

    I studied psychology in college and worked in a mental hospital. Three months into our marriage she said, "My biggest mistake in life was divorcing my first husband." Nothing like "But then I met you and everything was right." When I suggested that she might be able to get...
    BenTharB4 BenTharB4
    66-70, M
    1 Response Jan 14

    This is a great source explaining what it is

    and ways to spot it. For me, these rang the most true. I should have run many years before I did, but I wouldn't have my youngest who right now is the only one who acts like she loves me. Nil ability to have empathy for the victim or for people connected to the victim – such...
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    emilyccaa emilyccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 7, 2015

    Its just sad and disgusting to talk about people

    who have really strong narcissist traits. Ive been living this hell for almost 2 and a half years. Im the only one who works and provides everything for us and Im still not good enough. He always finds a way to put me down and diminish me. Im a professor, work a lot to support...
    julienne22 julienne22
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Mar 22, 2015

    Trying to make the narcissist accountable is

    one of the greatest hooks keeping you attached to the narcissist and handing your power over to them. It is essential that you release yourself from the heightened, painful and panicked charge of "needing to win" – needing the narcissist to wake up, and needing other people...
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 20, 2015

    I accept responsibility

    for marrying him. I just wish that laws were different and that they actually protected kids. Stay away from my state. a 17 year old is considered an adult and should get her own order of protection from her dad. I got a 2 week order for me and my other 2 kids. After...
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2015

    Well girls are home from last supervised

    contact. He's sent letter with girls from court saying I gota go on parents course on Wednesday. They sent it to old address n he's sat on it so now I've got really short notice for work etc. All games. My youngest said she knows My eldest saw him hit me. He told her that he...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 21, 2015
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