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I Married a Narcissist

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    Godsmacked

    been married a little over a year and i am godsmacked at how my husband has treated me lately. perhaps his mask is wearing thin. everytime i try to talk to him about anything i feel like i've been emotionally raped. he went from being supportive and loving to emotionally cruel...
    kyriblu kyriblu 46-50, F Jul 14, 2012

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    It Should Have Worked!

    Eleven years ago I married a narcissist.  He was great with my two young boys.  He didn't drink alcohol like my ex.  He wrote me love notes and treated my like a princess.  Sometime after our daughter was born, he started changing.  Quit his job. Took out...
    plantlover plantlover 41-45 7 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    Monsterous Creation

    It started with noticing insecurities. General confusion in his life. He didn't know where to go or what to do. So he began taking jobs under people who were abusive. One boss disapproved of him going for two weeks to California for the Marines. He even criticized him after he...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    3 Years And Counting Trying To Divorce A Narcissist

    So, I married a narcissist.What is worse than marrying a narcissist.  Trying to divorce one, especially if you have children.My ex husband was confirmed as having 'high narcissistic tendencies'.  He is also highly paranoid, suffers from substance abuse, and has had numerous...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    I Care Too Much.

    I have been with my husband for 30 yrs and he is everything you all say about all your partners. My life has been in turmoil for as long as I remember with all the classic feelings you all feel about your Narcissists partners etc. Firstly do you think it could be a learnt...
    mumado mumado 51-55, F Feb 25, 2013

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    My Narcissist Husband Left Me Destitute

    I started to write my story, but will get back to it.....still quite painful...happy to see there is a forum where I can connect with others who really truly understand and get it. Be back later with my story....
    blarb blarb 51-55, F 4 Responses Apr 4, 2010

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    Third Time Is Not A Charm!

    I've dealt with depression all my life, even as a child. I was very empty and had an overwhelming empty, lonely feeling, which I still do to a degree. I saw my first psychiatrist when I was 15. Now, I am a 29 year-old mom of 10 year-old fraternal twin boys. Married at 18, mother...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    I have been married for 28 years mostly

    miserable years. I stayed for my children not understanding that there father was a narcissist, I thought he was just frugal and made excuses for him because of his upbringing. Now my daughters are suffering because of my ignorance. My oldest is having trouble finding a...
    mltdown mltdown 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    He swooped in, told me everything exactly

    as I wanted agreed with every thought , would sit up all night talking. Poor thing had been so mistreated...if Id only known... From the very first words 10 years ago, until 5 minutes ago, my life has been a fun house of lies, mirrors, turns and twists...it took me years to see...
    50freenflirty 50freenflirty 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    A No Win Situation

    I dated an N for a couple of years and saw the warning signs but chose to ignore them. He would vascillate between being my sweet prince charming and an emotionally abusive psycho. We broke up and got back together more times than I can count. What I thought was the last time...
    comfycovers comfycovers 31-35 5 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    The Monster I Married...

    I married a man with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (A Malignant Narcissist) 26 years ago. three kids and trillions of tears later, I realized my mistake. I cannot help but feel like the owner of some exotic, wild animal. When you're married to a narcissist, you are...
    OnlyOneChiquita OnlyOneChiquita 41-45, F 14 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Narcissist Tendecies

    Hello I'm not sure how to start bit oh boy here it comes.My cousin met his wife fell in love in 2 weeks they got engaged 2mos 9 mos married..Ever since they were married he always have look like something is going on. His wife makes all the decisions.Ok I'm not diagnosing her but...
    Lisa1471 Lisa1471 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    I Just Didn't Know!

    My husband fits the classic pattern. He has no ability to empathize. He has no respect for anyone's ideals when they differ from his. He has no ability, no desire to make anybody's life better but his own. He is mean. He is defensive. People have asked me how all this...
    KarynT45 KarynT45 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    14 years!!!!!!!!!! But hey without my complete

    waste if space ex, I wouldn't have finally realised my full potential. I divorced mr loser ,went back to university, graduated and can now after the years of torture this guy inflicted I can now hold my head up high. So cheers my ex narcissist I owe you my happy life now !
    annetteclaire annetteclaire 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    My narcissist ex is currently refusing a good

    offer on our house. He wants to counter with the full price. Then he says it's my fault that we are going to lose the sale because I refuse to sign the counter offer! So typical. But grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
    rphmom rphmom 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 12

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    How Come I Am Obsessed With A Narcisscist? Help!

    I'm single (recently separated) and have obsessive thoughts about a very powerful narcissist. The relationship started online and, for the most part, I'm the one who will not let go. The guy is clearly fulfilling his need for supply online. What's wrong with me!
    amithecrazyone amithecrazyone 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    "A Narcissist’s Love Letter" Author: John

    Howell When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I love having someone new to tell my...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    Won't Get Fooled Again

    I only just recently discovered that I was formerly married to a narcissist. I only found that out after having dated a narcissist and trying to figure out what went wrong in that relationship. This guy came on hot and heavy and I played the fool until I helped him get a job...
    DizzyDezzi2010 DizzyDezzi2010 41-45, F Jun 13, 2012

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    I Also Married An N.

    He was wonderful at first. He told me wonderful things about myself that I knew were not true and I, for a little while, found a little courage, with him, that I didn't have before. Because of that, I thought I was doing the right thing by being with him and. . . . .ignored...
    farnel farnel 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    Yesterday I went to a pool party with my family

    and my husband checked out every female that was there. Then we get home and he tells me you have gained weight and your thighs are so big. In fact your thighs are so big than when you were pregnant. He hurts my feelings and when he made me cry he says your just too sensitive. I...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 24 Responses Jul 27

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    I Married A Narcissist And She Tried To Take Everything I Had

    Hi all, 12 years ago I met a wonderful woman we got together started dating settled down and got married. I thought it was going to be perfect it was Hell on Earth. She came across as very positive, well meaning and supportive. She was a liar controlling, devious and a thief...
    Richard3010 Richard3010 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    Wish I'd Had That Protection ...

    Unfortunately, didn't marry - just lived with for a decade so didnt even have that back up! They're dangerous - for a multitude of reasons. Mine obliterated me! Overnight! I no longer suited his purpose. I got too strong. I caught him up - there was probably a ton of reasons. I...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    I got married at the age of 20.

    My marriage lasted for a mere 7 months, when he decided he was done dealing with all of my issues. I was made to feel like I was worthless and just a terrible person. After two months of confusion, hurt and hatred for myself, I came across an artical on Narcissistic...
    Cay22 Cay22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    Crazy

    He's driving me Crazy. I feeling I need to be In a mental hospital.
    Likeabird Likeabird 36-40, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    In July, it will be 8 years married.

    Lucky me. First time on anything on this topic. This is new Sight but I have been on Utube and I can see that is not always all my fault!
    Enabler7 Enabler7 41-45, F 3 Responses May 21

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    Married To A Narcissist For 21 Yrs!

    I can't believe that I have been so stupid for the last 21 yrs. I know that if I were not depressed for the last twenty yrs my husband could never have pulled the wool over my eyes the way that he has. My husband has been in the army for the past twenty one yrs, so it has been...
    vanecia vanecia 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    Am I? This could very well be turned into a book, to keep it short or shorter I've known him for 23 years, we've been married 17 years , we have 3 kids and of those 17 years I can...
    huckleberry03 huckleberry03 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 27

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    I feel like my life is a broken record. Not everyday is awful or terrible or even bad. I just dont like being married anymore. There has been way too much that i dont like about it...
    Fitguy84 Fitguy84 26-30, M 2 hrs ago

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    After two years of research, writing and polishing, my first ebook for women on male narcissists is finally finished. Since the book started with the questions I got from you...
    NarcissistTruth NarcissistTruth 36-40, F Aug 9

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    I joined EP upon reading a story about a woman who had a Narcissistic father. Growing up with mum, dad and my younger brother always seemed normal. Mostly, at least. At 6 he...
    amyvsyt amyvsyt 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    Hello everyone. I never wanted to resort to this, but I feel I am out of other options. Let me start from the beginning. When my mother, Dee, was 9, her father was shot in the head...
    NikkiNINTR NikkiNINTR 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    First of all, thank you for sharing; I can't imagine what would I have done without people in the same situation I am posting their stories, knowing I am not the only one, knowing...
    alinie alinie 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself...
    000SadisticBitch000 000SadisticBitch000 26-30, F Jul 29

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    Here's the thing: make sure you all see Psychiatrists/psychologists before believing you have any mental illness or disorders! That being said, I have been dx'd with this and a few...
    euphoricvoyage euphoricvoyage 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    We all know a selfie is a narcissists best friend. What you may not know is that it can take me 5-10 to take the perfect shot. How's the lighting? Is my hair ok? Is that a...
    SocioNarcc SocioNarcc 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 12

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    I'm 27, with no kids.....just a dog. I've been married for almost 2 years, but I've been unhappy the entire time. We were together for 2 years before we got married, and I was...
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 26-30, F Aug 12

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    I think it's really sad that I've seen alot of women get romantically involved with married men. As a single person like myself, I feel like it's not really worth it because you're...
    texaschic35 texaschic35 31-35, F Aug 15

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    If you are married and try to flirt with me or whatever that is inappropriate keep it moving. I will not talk to a married man that made a sacred vowel before God, I feel like its...
    bootsie85 bootsie85 26-30, F Jul 30

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    i have been with my fiance for almost 3 years and we decided to get married this year. the wedding is 8/30. i am 20 and she is 22. we love each other and i want nothing more than...
    thatguyoverthere93 thatguyoverthere93 18-21, M Aug 13

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    This is a long story so please bear with me if you can. I met a man back in 2008 through his sister who was a good friend of mine at the time. I knew he was married from the start...
    plmagnet29 plmagnet29 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    I met my wife through a Christian dating service called "Equally Yoked." I wanted to meet someone who had the same beliefs and values as I did. She and I hit it off from the first...
    ludix ludix 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 31

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    Of course we have self doubt & yes, I share that self doubt about getting married again. I was married for 12 yrs & divorced now for 4. I would love to get married again one day...
    IntomeYousee IntomeYousee 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4

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    My wife and I have been married since 1973. I love her as much as (if not more than) the day I married her. I would never even think of cheating on her! We have an adult married...
    RockinPop60 RockinPop60 56-60, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I am not married. I can't really see it ever happening to be honest. If I did ever get married I would want a very low-key affair. I hate being the centre of attention so the idea...
    Shygirl89 Shygirl89 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Three years ago I caught my husband texting younger women that he worked with. He said he sent some inappropriate text messages but never had a physical affair. He tried to...
    kelly121994 kelly121994 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 27

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    There were signs right before that I should run! I ignored them because I thought it was too close to the wedding date and we already have a child together so he was going to be in...
    kawaibel kawaibel 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 27

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    I'm coming up on a date that was life changing...the date when I got married. It was a perfect day and every little thing I could have ever wanted from a wedding....very very small...
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