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I Married a Narcissist

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    Got gas lighted yesterday.

    Received a text while at work at 330pm saying "can you be back by 430pm, I've got an interview and need you to set the GPS for me". Left work just slightly over 4pm, picked the kids from day care, got home, set it for her, and she was off by 435pm. Started my usual evening...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 10 Responses Mar 30

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    It is taking every strength in my body to not

    let my NARC have it Tell him all the reasons why I have removed myself Why the behaviour is unacceptable Why the abuse will no longer be tolerated I know he would thrive on the factor and label me crazy But it's so god damn hard to sit back
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    I was has lighted last night.

    First time I've raging used it as it happened and didn't respond. He said something in the conversation which I picked him back up on. He denied it. I confirmed it had been said. He then went into full on pantomime gas lighting. Hooting with laughter at how crazy I was to be...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 6 Responses Jul 18

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    So 4 days ago, my husband was in his separate

    bedroom talking to his Gay Friend Collin with the door closed It was about 10:30 pm, after trying to listen to their conversation I decided to open the door and try to take his locked phone to see what they were talking about Suddenly his eyes glazed over and I became afraid...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 17

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    Just received my exs proposal

    for future of custody of our girls. None of it puts them first. It's heart breaking the life he wants to force them to live. I'm so scared he'll convince a judge this is acceptable. I just cried when I read it
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 4 Responses May 1

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    Great article. Realize it's NOT you.

    http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-the-narcissist-capable-of-loving/?utm_source=New+Life&utm_campaign=ce3d5aef2e-16+days+to+your+new+life&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_005709a593-ce3d5aef2e-407675261
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234 36-40, F Jun 9

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    This was not written by me -

    but it could have been.. Death of the Imaginary Person: Narcissistic Abuse and the Aftermath I am mourning the loss of someone who never existed. What do you do when the wool has been pulled from over your eyes and your heart is broken, specifically when you miss and love...
    lambchop63 lambchop63 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 9

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    Struggling with having ex in my world more

    and more. I've set boundaries of how and when we communicate. But sometimes a situation occurs and then I'm all over the place again. Last night my daughters call from his. It's their first full weekend there and so I know I'm vulnerable. I chat with them and it's fine at the...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 5 Responses May 24

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    The Monster I Married...

    I married a man with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (A Malignant Narcissist) 26 years ago. three kids and trillions of tears later, I realized my mistake. I cannot help but feel like the owner of some exotic, wild animal. When you're married to a narcissist, you are...
    OnlyOneChiquita OnlyOneChiquita 41-45, F 14 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Trying to make the narcissist accountable is

    one of the greatest hooks keeping you attached to the narcissist and handing your power over to them. It is essential that you release yourself from the heightened, painful and panicked charge of "needing to win" – needing the narcissist to wake up, and needing other people...
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 20

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    I was just trying to work out the odds .

    .. how unlucky one needs to be, to be involved with a Narcissist. It is thought to occur in up to 6 percent of the general population. So here are the numbers ... startling figures. Population of China : 1,357,000,000 Number of Narcissists : 81,420,000 Population of USA...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    It's over. 18 months of fighting

    and the final reports recommend my 6 and 8 year old live with me six days and him four days on a rolling ten day pattern. This is regardless of day of week, school or activities. No stability. We all follow his demand and his schedule. My solicitor said that we have no argument...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I saw my soon-to-be ex-wife today

    for coffee. I'm getting much better at keeping the conversation from spiraling out of control, though I'm not great at it yet. I don't think she's "a narcissist," but I think she has narcissistic traits. Today I told her some things I've grown up about since our separation, and...
    yetanothermaninCT yetanothermaninCT 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 22

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    They such angry cowards !

    !! Really ? Be thankful you wake up ! Imagine waking up angry everyday ??? Stomp stomp , door slamming, grumbling under breadth But it not them Really funny actually No interaction and still the behaviour continues
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    Moments to remember..

    . I have asked my attorney to file. Although we have been married 26 years almost, he had me sign a prenup I did not understand. She has been researching ways of breaking it. Either way I want to maintain my dignity. Take the higher road. It is getting harder and harder as...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 12 Responses Jan 11

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    "A Narcissist’s Love Letter" Author: John

    Howell When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I love having someone new to tell my...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 14, 2014

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    Won't Get Fooled Again

    I only just recently discovered that I was formerly married to a narcissist. I only found that out after having dated a narcissist and trying to figure out what went wrong in that relationship. This guy came on hot and heavy and I played the fool until I helped him get a job...
    DizzyDezzi2010 DizzyDezzi2010 41-45, F Jun 13, 2012

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    "Just when the caterpillar thought the world

    was over, it became a butterfly" Read the quote the other day n it seemed fitting. I dedicate it to my EP friends Wishing you well in your journey to be butterflies xx
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F Mar 16

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    Last supervised contact today.

    Then we moved into unsupervised contact. The games he'll play through my daughters will increase. I feel like I'm conserving energy for the next battle.
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    How to tell if your wife's a narcissist: If

    she can fit it into her schedule, ask her to go on a walk with the dog. If the first 40 minutes are her complaining about work, neighbors and pointing out, by all the big houses you pass, how unsuccessful (professionally, b/c we don't own a $2.5m house) you are. The last 20...
    jafblumpkin jafblumpkin 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 15

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    My daughters met my man

    for a casual ice cream before we went to the theatre. It went well. Then we had a play date with him n his daughter. They got on like a house on fire. It was effortless and easy. They even organised that we should stay for a sleep over. Three little faces pleading and so we...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 7

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11 26-30, F Aug 13

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    3 Years And Counting Trying To Divorce A Narcissist

    So, I married a narcissist.What is worse than marrying a narcissist.  Trying to divorce one, especially if you have children.My ex husband was confirmed as having 'high narcissistic tendencies'.  He is also highly paranoid, suffers from substance abuse, and has had numerous...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    This is a great source explaining what it is

    and ways to spot it. For me, these rang the most true. I should have run many years before I did, but I wouldn't have my youngest who right now is the only one who acts like she loves me. Nil ability to have empathy for the victim or for people connected to the victim – such...
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 7

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    My Narcissist Husband Left Me Destitute

    I started to write my story, but will get back to it.....still quite painful...happy to see there is a forum where I can connect with others who really truly understand and get it. Be back later with my story....
    blarb blarb 51-55, F 4 Responses Apr 4, 2010

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    I'm no stranger to life's "hard knocks".

    I've spent most of my adult life getting sucker punched, but I've always been strong, always picked myself up by the bootstraps while telling life "You hit like a *****." In 2012, for the first time in my life, I was truly in a really good place...great job, financially secure...
    lambchop63 lambchop63 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Wish I'd Had That Protection ...

    Unfortunately, didn't marry - just lived with for a decade so didnt even have that back up! They're dangerous - for a multitude of reasons. Mine obliterated me! Overnight! I no longer suited his purpose. I got too strong. I caught him up - there was probably a ton of reasons. I...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    Is he a narcissist? One year

    after I published the ebook Naked Narcissist, many women wrote me about the effect it had on their thinking and how it gave them the needed push to make a positive change. Dear Experience Project ladies, just wanted to say thank you once again as that kind of ebook wouldn't be...
    NarcissistTruth NarcissistTruth 41-45, F Aug 13

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    It's been an exhausting two weeks.

    We were in court on Monday. All day. He was off the scale ridiculous. Desperate to control me and have as much power as he can through pretending it was about his love for the girls. He agreed a temporary child arrangement order. And made it clear he still seeks custody. He's...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 8

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    I need help. I'm broken tonight.

    Fourth unsupervised contact. 4 hours each time. Girls come back this evening Youngest says it's boring being with me all the time and she wants to see daddy lots more and sleep over. She wants to live with him. They were talking at swimming pool while my eldest was on slide...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 18

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    caraccaa caraccaa 26-30, F Apr 7

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    Test to see if wife's a narcissist; Pick an

    event and go to the make a t-shirt web site and make a kick *** t shirt. Try not to interpret whatever important activity she's doing. Ask her if she wants one of the t shirts. If she glares at you and and half rolls her eyes and sighs, 'seriously?' Chances are she's a...
    jafblumpkin jafblumpkin 41-45, M Jul 14

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    pastel29 pastel29 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    After 4 days away , he's home !

    Even my adult daughter said the house has a inner feeling of peace when he's not here Funnily enuf HE blames all the chaos on everyone else Latest childish act.....puts Easter eggs given onto the kitchen bench All control control and to cause grief An attempt to un nerve me...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    Well girls are home from last supervised

    contact. He's sent letter with girls from court saying I gota go on parents course on Wednesday. They sent it to old address n he's sat on it so now I've got really short notice for work etc. All games. My youngest said she knows My eldest saw him hit me. He told her that he...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    It's 9.30pm the evening

    before my daughter birthday. I'm at court on Tuesday the day after. My ex had contact yesterday n took her to his house (not supposed to happen on unsupervised visits in community) for a surprise party. With his family. He's just emailed to ask to talk to her tomorrow. He's...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 5 Responses May 3

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    UPDATE AFTER GIRLS FIRST VISIT WITH THEIR

    DAD Girls had fun at contact session. He used time to manipulate them and quiz them by pretending he was interested in their lives n didn't no things. He carefully played the visit so the contact worker will write a report with him in best light but he exposed problems with me...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 22

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    Co-parenting with a narcissist advice needed

    I am moving into the final stages of the court system and will need to work out how to co parent with a narcissist. I'm looking at the parenting plan guide I was given but thought I'd ask for help from those of you who co patent with narcs. Here are the first few questions...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    I Married A Narcissist And She Tried To Take Everything I Had

    Hi all, 12 years ago I met a wonderful woman we got together started dating settled down and got married. I thought it was going to be perfect it was Hell on Earth. She came across as very positive, well meaning and supportive. She was a liar controlling, devious and a thief...
    Richard3010 Richard3010 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    Yesterday I went to a pool party with my family

    and my husband checked out every female that was there. Then we get home and he tells me you have gained weight and your thighs are so big. In fact your thighs are so big than when you were pregnant. He hurts my feelings and when he made me cry he says your just too sensitive. I...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Jul 27, 2014

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    Its just sad and disgusting to talk about people

    who have really strong narcissist traits. Ive been living this hell for almost 2 and a half years. Im the only one who works and provides everything for us and Im still not good enough. He always finds a way to put me down and diminish me. Im a professor, work a lot to support...
    julienne22 julienne22 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 22

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    I Also Married An N.

    He was wonderful at first. He told me wonderful things about myself that I knew were not true and I, for a little while, found a little courage, with him, that I didn't have before. Because of that, I thought I was doing the right thing by being with him and. . . . .ignored...
    farnel farnel 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    Hey. It's been a busy two weeks.

    Separated parents programme was interesting. Nice to spend time in company of people who share your experiences n frustrations. In one sense it was pointless as it didn't teach me Anything but it was reassuring that id already started implementing the advice n strategies. It...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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