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I Married a Narcissist

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    Wish I'd Had That Protection ...

    Unfortunately, didn't marry - just lived with for a decade so didnt even have that back up! They're dangerous - for a multitude of reasons. Mine obliterated me! Overnight! I no longer suited his purpose. I got too strong. I caught him up - there was probably a ton of reasons. I...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    The Wishing WellFor my lovely wife: One

    Spring morning, I was walking along in the park.  As I passed the rose garden, out of the corner of my eye I noticed something that I had not noticed before.  It was a stone structure about 3’ high at the back of the garden. A round cedar shake roof was suspended...
    mistery2me mistery2me 46-50, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    He swooped in, told me everything exactly

    as I wanted agreed with every thought , would sit up all night talking. Poor thing had been so mistreated...if Id only known... From the very first words 10 years ago, until 5 minutes ago, my life has been a fun house of lies, mirrors, turns and twists...it took me years to see...
    50freenflirty 50freenflirty 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    How Come I Am Obsessed With A Narcisscist? Help!

    I'm single (recently separated) and have obsessive thoughts about a very powerful narcissist. The relationship started online and, for the most part, I'm the one who will not let go. The guy is clearly fulfilling his need for supply online. What's wrong with me!
    amithecrazyone amithecrazyone 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    Married To A Narcissist For 21 Yrs!

    I can't believe that I have been so stupid for the last 21 yrs. I know that if I were not depressed for the last twenty yrs my husband could never have pulled the wool over my eyes the way that he has. My husband has been in the army for the past twenty one yrs, so it has been...
    vanecia vanecia 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    Parent Trap I am not an expert,

    but I gather than narcissism can manifest itself in a number of ways.  My assumption would be that different factors are in play as to why that would be the case.  I think that the underlying character of the individual, the particular trauma that may have arrested...
    mistery2me mistery2me 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 12

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    My Narcissist Husband Left Me Destitute

    I started to write my story, but will get back to it.....still quite painful...happy to see there is a forum where I can connect with others who really truly understand and get it. Be back later with my story....
    blarb blarb 51-55, F 4 Responses Apr 4, 2010

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    "A Narcissist’s Love Letter" Author: John

    Howell When I say I’m in love with you, I mean I love the way I feel when I’m with you. I love myself through you. I love seeing myself through your eyes. I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I love having someone new to tell my...
    invisible321 invisible321 51-55, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    My narcissist ex is currently refusing a good

    offer on our house. He wants to counter with the full price. Then he says it's my fault that we are going to lose the sale because I refuse to sign the counter offer! So typical. But grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
    rphmom rphmom 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12

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    I Care Too Much.

    I have been with my husband for 30 yrs and he is everything you all say about all your partners. My life has been in turmoil for as long as I remember with all the classic feelings you all feel about your Narcissists partners etc. Firstly do you think it could be a learnt...
    mumado mumado 51-55, F Feb 25, 2013

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    I Married A Narcissist And She Tried To Take Everything I Had

    Hi all, 12 years ago I met a wonderful woman we got together started dating settled down and got married. I thought it was going to be perfect it was Hell on Earth. She came across as very positive, well meaning and supportive. She was a liar controlling, devious and a thief...
    Richard3010 Richard3010 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    3 Years And Counting Trying To Divorce A Narcissist

    So, I married a narcissist.What is worse than marrying a narcissist.  Trying to divorce one, especially if you have children.My ex husband was confirmed as having 'high narcissistic tendencies'.  He is also highly paranoid, suffers from substance abuse, and has had numerous...
    lifebeginsat33 lifebeginsat33 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    Crazy

    He's driving me Crazy. I feeling I need to be In a mental hospital.
    Likeabird Likeabird 36-40, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    I Also Married An N.

    He was wonderful at first. He told me wonderful things about myself that I knew were not true and I, for a little while, found a little courage, with him, that I didn't have before. Because of that, I thought I was doing the right thing by being with him and. . . . .ignored...
    farnel farnel 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    A No Win Situation

    I dated an N for a couple of years and saw the warning signs but chose to ignore them. He would vascillate between being my sweet prince charming and an emotionally abusive psycho. We broke up and got back together more times than I can count. What I thought was the last time...
    comfycovers comfycovers 31-35 5 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    Narcissist Tendecies

    Hello I'm not sure how to start bit oh boy here it comes.My cousin met his wife fell in love in 2 weeks they got engaged 2mos 9 mos married..Ever since they were married he always have look like something is going on. His wife makes all the decisions.Ok I'm not diagnosing her but...
    Lisa1471 Lisa1471 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    I got married at the age of 20.

    My marriage lasted for a mere 7 months, when he decided he was done dealing with all of my issues. I was made to feel like I was worthless and just a terrible person. After two months of confusion, hurt and hatred for myself, I came across an artical on Narcissistic...
    Cay22 Cay22 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    It Should Have Worked!

    Eleven years ago I married a narcissist.  He was great with my two young boys.  He didn't drink alcohol like my ex.  He wrote me love notes and treated my like a princess.  Sometime after our daughter was born, he started changing.  Quit his job. Took out...
    plantlover plantlover 41-45 7 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    The Monster I Married...

    I married a man with NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (A Malignant Narcissist) 26 years ago. three kids and trillions of tears later, I realized my mistake. I cannot help but feel like the owner of some exotic, wild animal. When you're married to a narcissist, you are...
    OnlyOneChiquita OnlyOneChiquita 41-45, F 14 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    I have been married for 28 years mostly

    miserable years. I stayed for my children not understanding that there father was a narcissist, I thought he was just frugal and made excuses for him because of his upbringing. Now my daughters are suffering because of my ignorance. My oldest is having trouble finding a...
    mltdown mltdown 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    Third Time Is Not A Charm!

    I've dealt with depression all my life, even as a child. I was very empty and had an overwhelming empty, lonely feeling, which I still do to a degree. I saw my first psychiatrist when I was 15. Now, I am a 29 year-old mom of 10 year-old fraternal twin boys. Married at 18, mother...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    pastel29 pastel29 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Won't Get Fooled Again

    I only just recently discovered that I was formerly married to a narcissist. I only found that out after having dated a narcissist and trying to figure out what went wrong in that relationship. This guy came on hot and heavy and I played the fool until I helped him get a job...
    DizzyDezzi2010 DizzyDezzi2010 41-45, F Jun 13, 2012

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    Monsterous Creation

    It started with noticing insecurities. General confusion in his life. He didn't know where to go or what to do. So he began taking jobs under people who were abusive. One boss disapproved of him going for two weeks to California for the Marines. He even criticized him after he...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    Godsmacked

    been married a little over a year and i am godsmacked at how my husband has treated me lately. perhaps his mask is wearing thin. everytime i try to talk to him about anything i feel like i've been emotionally raped. he went from being supportive and loving to emotionally cruel...
    kyriblu kyriblu 46-50, F Jul 14, 2012

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    In July, it will be 8 years married.

    Lucky me. First time on anything on this topic. This is new Sight but I have been on Utube and I can see that is not always all my fault!
    Enabler7 Enabler7 41-45, F 3 Responses May 21

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    Yesterday I went to a pool party with my family

    and my husband checked out every female that was there. Then we get home and he tells me you have gained weight and your thighs are so big. In fact your thighs are so big than when you were pregnant. He hurts my feelings and when he made me cry he says your just too sensitive. I...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 29 Responses Jul 27

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    14 years!!!!!!!!!! But hey without my complete

    waste if space ex, I wouldn't have finally realised my full potential. I divorced mr loser ,went back to university, graduated and can now after the years of torture this guy inflicted I can now hold my head up high. So cheers my ex narcissist I owe you my happy life now !
    annetteclaire annetteclaire 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    I Just Didn't Know!

    My husband fits the classic pattern. He has no ability to empathize. He has no respect for anyone's ideals when they differ from his. He has no ability, no desire to make anybody's life better but his own. He is mean. He is defensive. People have asked me how all this...
    KarynT45 KarynT45 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Oct 28

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    I was married to a narcissist for 6 years who destroyed me, left me for another woman and married her and I am still reeling.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25

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    I thought I was wronged until I read this. I was married to a Narcissist and he swindled me out of 75,000.
    Rie70 Rie70 41-45, F Oct 25

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    NARCISSISM bothers me now. Am I being a narcissist wife? I question myself and do research. I have a narcissist sister (at least I think she is). She is very charming, love by many...
    sunrio sunrio 36-40 1 Response Oct 25

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    I'm sure this is the question everyone asks: How do you maintain to yourself that your mother is narcissistic? And now background (convoluted tldr imminent): I have a mother whose...
    rootlesswind rootlesswind 26-30 2 Responses a week ago

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     I have this friend that I knew since childhood. He seems nice to me, we kiss each other, and greet each other always. His parents   even let me borrow some of their...
    kiendy123 kiendy123 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Hiya, After a stonker of an argument with my mum last night I have discovered that she may be a narcissist and it may not all be me? I'm 33 and sitting here in floods of tears...
    mcctaurina mcctaurina 31-35 3 Responses Oct 30

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    I'm an unrepentant narcissist, I love my looks and my personality. I love everything about myself and I expect to be adored. I intimidate others and love being spoilt. Life is...
    lccraze lccraze 31-35, F Oct 30

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    I didn't notice until I started researching this for a uni paper, I mean people have pointed things out to me in the past. I lie, I have no qualms about cheating to get ahead, I...
    greatness01 greatness01 22-25 Nov 2

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    I'm 26 years old. I've lived with my mother forever minus 4 years where she was living with my sister. I always wondered why she was a little off. Always acting like a child...
    jlmerritt jlmerritt 26-30 Nov 10

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    I never wanted to get married growing up. I talked about it with a couple of friends because that's what girls are "supposed" to do, but I truly wasn't interested. Now that I'm...
    chickiebos chickiebos 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 23

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    One day I would like to be married. I have never experienced marriage before....I always hear that its terrible but I want to give it a go. My partner doesn't want to get married...
    Dreamprojector Dreamprojector 18-21, F Oct 23

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    I'm really surprised I didn't have a story for this one. What most likely happened is that I was busy at the time and forgot to include it. And then I wrote blogs about how much I...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 25

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    My husband and I got married because I was pregnant with our daughter, which was fine, but neither of us really wanted to get married. Our families pressured us into it (both are...
    katinbell katinbell 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 30

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    It's been a long time since I've posted. A lot has happened and so much to say. The divorce finalised over two years ago we lived with each other for the past 2 years, I got to...
    popsydoodle popsydoodle 18-21, F Nov 2