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I Married Someone I Didn't Love

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    I Did The Same...

    It is amazing how many of these stories sound just like mine.  I met a guy when I was 22..he was great and caring.  I got scared and ended it. I thought I was too young.  About a year later, I was having some self esteem issues and met another guy.  He...
    Theresa812 Theresa812 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 5, 2010

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    Since posting my last experience,

    I've done a lot of thinking. I don't want to live my life this way, and I certainly don't want my son to grow up in an unstable environment. Due in part to the encouragement of you all on EP, I've found the courage to leave, and I will be en route to Indiana (where I'm from...
    MrsSmithXO MrsSmithXO 22-25, F 4 Responses May 4

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    I didn't know where else to turn.

    I needed to let this out. My husband and I met on Facebook when he was deployed to Iraq. I was currently in a relationship at the time, but wanted to get to know him despite my current situation. On his two-week leave from Iraq, we went on our first date (Valentine's Day). We...
    MrsSmithXO MrsSmithXO 22-25, F 25 Responses May 4

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    Married Again - For The Wrong Reasons!!

    I'm just SOOO upset with myself. I was married to a man for 7 years who I thought I loved, had 2 wonderful kids, but he turned out to be verbally abusive and I finally divorced him. Was single for about 14 years when I met my current husband. I was not in a good place - both...
    ignoringmygut ignoringmygut 51-55 1 Response Jan 25, 2011

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    A Fool For Experience...

    I was 26. He was 20 when we met. We got married after knowing each other for only a couple months. I've had a lot of experiences in life and the one I never gave a fair chance was the idea of marriage and kids and the whole stereotypical white-picket-fence thing. Well, he said he...
    ororolebeau ororolebeau 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2011

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    Some Things Are Hard to Explain

    The truth of the matter is that there I was, almost 24 years old, getting married to this person... and even as we were in the middle of the ceremony itself, I was thinking "I have no idea why I am here, and why I am agreeing to marry this person." In retrospect, I...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 13 Responses Dec 26, 2007

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    Married For The Wrong Reasons!!

    Hi all, Wow, I feel so relieved to know I am not the only one to marry someone for the wrong reasons!!  I was 18 and just out of high school when I met my husband.  He is 6 years older than me.  We immediately started dating and things moved fast.  I was...
    karatemomx4 karatemomx4 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    What Is My Problem?!

    Everyone around me feel jealous about the life i live. I am going to marry a nice guy who is going to take me to another country where he has planned lot of things for me. Our family know each other well. We talked for few days. And we had trust and love on each other. We...
    appleammu appleammu 22-25, F 2 Responses May 11, 2013

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    Love Is Not Worth Living A Life Of Pain And Humilliations*

    Ive been married for the past 3 months, an amaizing guy who i sometimes look at and tears come to my eyes, because he loves me and treats me the way my ex boyfriend didnt. I tell myself he deserves for me to love him back and leave my past experience behind but sometimes its hard...
    gbautista12 gbautista12 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    I Am Losing My Mind

    I met my soul mate over the internet he was in New York and I was in California. He moved to California to be with me but was never content because he had a very young little boy who he missed. I finally agreed to give New York a try and was there for a year while there, I felt...
    Helplesslygoingincircles Helplesslygoingincircles 36-40 5 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    I Can't Believe It

    I always said i wouldn't settle for someone and I would stay single until i found the right person. But i was 25 years old tired of being single and i had this guy always asking me out showing me all kinds of attention which of course i didn't mind at all. Ended up changing my...
    Unhappy4555 Unhappy4555 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 2, 2010

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    Got Married But Not For Love

    This is a story that I've never shared before. I don't know how to feel sometimes, ashamed or good that at least my son has a father figure around. To cut the story short I got married because I didn't want my son to not know his father like I did. My dad left my mum when I was 8...
    darkvader darkvader 31-35, M 6 Responses Sep 16, 2009

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    Learned To Love?

    So, we´ve heard people who were forced to marry back in the old days and ended up happy. My story is different but same I married my husband at 19 to escape from an abusive father, i didnt love him, i just thought he was a pretty cool guy, i got pregnant and things only went...
    SimplyMe2 SimplyMe2 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 1, 2010

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    I Will Marry For Everything But Love

    I think when you hit a certain age in my culture the alarm bells start ringing...for my parents obviously (as "open-minded") as they are living in 21st Century as British Asians) but it's always a worry. Constantly hearing from my mother how she just has me left to get married...
    SUNNIEbunnie7 SUNNIEbunnie7 22-25 Oct 16, 2011

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    ROAR!!

    I married someone that I hated with a PASSION! lol! He kept pushing me to marry him, and I was CRYING the week before we got married at the court house. He was a guy from india looking for a greencard (which he NEVER got-HAHAHA!) He thought he could cheat on me and I would stay...
    exslut exslut 22-25, F 5 Responses May 10, 2008

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    Why Couldn't I End Things Before They Got So Out Of Hand..

    We started dating when I was 17. It wasn't one of those things that was a long time coming by any means. When he asked me out I said no multiple times until my friend finally got me to agree to going to a movie. I was having a rough time with some of my friends and it was nice to...
    hadleyk hadleyk 22-25 2 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    I Married Someone I Didn't Love

    It was my second marriage. He really loved me and when he asked me to marry him I thought okay. He was responsible and had good health insurance and I was a mom with 3 kids. My friends told me in the beginning they didn't think we had enough of a bond and that I wouldn't be...
    maygirly maygirly 51-55 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    I remember the exact moment that I knew i loved him. It was when I discovered he was moving away for six years to another country I couldn't possibly visit. Must when I was about...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    It's not that he didn't love me, more like he couldn't, was unable to. How can you love someone when your own mother didn't show it to you? I know it's possible but for many they...
    WhereIsTheLogic WhereIsTheLogic 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 23

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    I've been in love 3 times before now. My first love still loves me but he didn't fall in love with me until he broke my heart. I will never trust him with my emotional side ever...
    JuBear424 JuBear424 18-21, F Jun 23

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    Haven't we all....I mean seriously....haven't we all at some point gave our hearts and souls to someone who just didn't deserve them..... Loving them...Caring for them....giving...
    ladyamelia ladyamelia 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 11

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    I loved someone that didn't loved me I still do, can find no chance to vacuum love out of the heart To love Someone that will not love me Nothing can do, is there no chance...
    laughingsoul laughingsoul 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    He didn't love me like I loved him ...but he still calls me every morning , he didn't love me like I loved him but he's like a kid winning in tears ...he didn't love me like I...
    imparadise imparadise 18-21, F Jul 3

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    I ran across this quote/poem the other day: "I’m not the girl your mother warns you about. I won’t kiss your best friend or break your heart. I won’t make you choose between...
    laurisilva laurisilva 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    At the time, I had feelings for a boy. I knew he would never like me back, and I didn't mind, I didn't want him to. I couldn't get over him, and something weird happened.. I can't...
    enchanthorizon enchanthorizon 13-15, F Jun 28

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    My sister and I haven't spoken for months and one night we ended up at the same bar. The guy she was with (her boyfriends friend) was there reason we spoke that night. I have met...
    Celinejean Celinejean 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    I'd loved you. Though our time was short I felt that you understood me better. You did everything right, you texted me sweetly, you held my hand. I remember our first date and...
    isodole isodole 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    She was a close friend. I knew her for a year and she seemed perfect. Really feminine, intelligent, soft-spoken and stunningly beautiful (at least in my eyes). I mustered my...
    JourneyOfLife JourneyOfLife 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 13

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    my best friend... i loved him more than i loved myself... and that's going to forever be the biggest regret of my life. he left. never came back, let me go without a fight. and i'm...
    meowshelbs meowshelbs 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm so happy to be able to say (well, type) and MEAN it, when I say: I am FINALLY over my ex-girlfriend. I really am. I feel so good about finally being able to move on. I am...
    milehighHeartbreak milehighHeartbreak 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    He was a year younger than me. We didn't know each other. I'm very shy so I never talked to him. I got his number and talked to him but he said he didn't like me back. He liked...
    adrianacecilia14 adrianacecilia14 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Every time we talk, I fall back in love with you, and the glowy feeling stays for the longest time. Except..BAM you're in my life again. And I fall harder every time. You're my...
    BeautifulHurts BeautifulHurts 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    She did love me for a while. Then she said she didn't. Then she did, but as friends. Then, slowly she drifted away. One intimacy, one level of connection at a time. Shut off. Given...
    anyoldrobert anyoldrobert 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 28

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    It's not a past tense thing for me though. It is happening right now in my relationship. We've been together for about 8 months and he is my first boyfriend (I'm 22). I told him...
    jlhhlj123 jlhhlj123 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3

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    I was deeply in love with someone I would have done anything for They only pretended to love me until it didn't work out to there advantage any more and then she disappeared...
    dfries63 dfries63 46-50, M 5 Responses Jul 3

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    It's not necessarily love but I like to think of it that way. So I dated this girl a month or two back, and she said yes so I was happy. Little did I know she regretted every...
    Mjm01235 Mjm01235 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I loved someone who didn't care about me. He was too selfish to give a damn about any of my feelings.
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    And finally, it's over. Two years of lies. Two years wasted. I saw it coming. I felt us drifting apart. I could feel your absence. I just never thought it'd come to this, that you...
    mitted mitted 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    One of those unrequited love situations, i had a crush on the typical kind polite funny popular girl at school who everyone liked. I genuinely liked her but also so did my mate and...
    DatRandomGinger DatRandomGinger 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    The beginning of last year in like September maybe my best friend was talking to this cute boy she met at a friend's party and she was snapchatting and kiking him like NON-STOP...
    laurenharris1 laurenharris1 13-15, F a week ago

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    The person I whom I trusted blindly other than my family was my best friend. We met one and a half years ago. We are in the same college. I didn't know when I fell in love with him...
    Bella2911 Bella2911 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Why is now in days that we (people in general), always have to find a way to prove our undying love for one another? What happen to " I LOVE YOU", or "YOU MEAN SO MUCH TO ME? I...
    natashaxxs natashaxxs 31-35, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Seriously the worst feeling ever. The guy I loved, I'd had a crush on since I was 10. It got deeper as I got older. Then, we were hanging out one day. He was really drunk. He kept...
    reneeo11314 reneeo11314 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 23

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    I'm currently dating my boyfriend for about a year and a month. Throughout the first couple of months he was the one who was on top of me and cared if I would get late to a family...
    MileyyV MileyyV 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Whatever happened to us? How did you way of looking at me changed? You were falling in love with me; But I later found out you were too scared to handle everything. I still love...
    Wewerethereinthattime Wewerethereinthattime 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    This guy stayed at my mates house with me I loved him alot I have never loved anyone as much as I love him he kissed me and made out with me turns out he didn't even like me I'm 15...
    freelikeabutterfly freelikeabutterfly 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    I recently turned 15 I was in the 10th grade I was cool with this guy somehow me and his 17 year old cousin began texting & talking on the phone. Within 2 months he said "I love...
    young090613 young090613 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I've never really thought highly of myself. So when I started liking a boy who ended up not liking me back, I was crushed. Before I met this really adorable guy, I was already...
    SeanNation SeanNation 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It always sucks when you're the person giving his heart while your partner is looking for a better deal. But you can't make someone be in love with you. I have a large collection...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 2 Responses Jun 22