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I Married Someone I Didn't Love

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    Got Married But Not For Love

    This is a story that I've never shared before. I don't know how to feel sometimes, ashamed or good that at least my son has a father figure around. To cut the story short I got married because I didn't want my son to not know his father like I did. My dad left my mum when I was 8...
    darkvader darkvader 31-35, M 6 Responses Sep 16, 2009

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    Ok here it is I met my wife at jobcorp,

    while we were there we dated for the 3-4 months we were there she went home first, when I got back home she contacted me (keep in mind I was young and dumb and wasn't thinking with the proper head) so anyway when I went to see her I had no intention of staying (didnt tell her...
    tdavis82 tdavis82 31-35, M Jul 27, 2014

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    Some Things Are Hard to Explain

    The truth of the matter is that there I was, almost 24 years old, getting married to this person... and even as we were in the middle of the ceremony itself, I was thinking "I have no idea why I am here, and why I am agreeing to marry this person." In retrospect, I...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 13 Responses Dec 26, 2007

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    Married Again - For The Wrong Reasons!!

    I'm just SOOO upset with myself. I was married to a man for 7 years who I thought I loved, had 2 wonderful kids, but he turned out to be verbally abusive and I finally divorced him. Was single for about 14 years when I met my current husband. I was not in a good place - both...
    ignoringmygut ignoringmygut 51-55 1 Response Jan 25, 2011

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    I Am Losing My Mind

    I met my soul mate over the internet he was in New York and I was in California. He moved to California to be with me but was never content because he had a very young little boy who he missed. I finally agreed to give New York a try and was there for a year while there, I felt...
    Helplesslygoingincircles Helplesslygoingincircles 36-40 5 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    Why Couldn't I End Things Before They Got So Out Of Hand..

    We started dating when I was 17. It wasn't one of those things that was a long time coming by any means. When he asked me out I said no multiple times until my friend finally got me to agree to going to a movie. I was having a rough time with some of my friends and it was nice to...
    hadleyk hadleyk 22-25 2 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    Learned To Love?

    So, we┬┤ve heard people who were forced to marry back in the old days and ended up happy. My story is different but same I married my husband at 19 to escape from an abusive father, i didnt love him, i just thought he was a pretty cool guy, i got pregnant and things only went...
    SimplyMe2 SimplyMe2 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 1, 2010

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    I Can't Believe It

    I always said i wouldn't settle for someone and I would stay single until i found the right person. But i was 25 years old tired of being single and i had this guy always asking me out showing me all kinds of attention which of course i didn't mind at all. Ended up changing my...
    Unhappy4555 Unhappy4555 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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    I didn't know where else to turn.

    I needed to let this out. My husband and I met on Facebook when he was deployed to Iraq. I was currently in a relationship at the time, but wanted to get to know him despite my current situation. On his two-week leave from Iraq, we went on our first date (Valentine's Day). We...
    MrsSmithXO MrsSmithXO 22-25, F 20 Responses May 4, 2014

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    What Is My Problem?!

    Everyone around me feel jealous about the life i live. I am going to marry a nice guy who is going to take me to another country where he has planned lot of things for me. Our family know each other well. We talked for few days. And we had trust and love on each other. We...
    appleammu appleammu 22-25, F 2 Responses May 11, 2013

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    I Married Someone I Didn't Love

    It was my second marriage. He really loved me and when he asked me to marry him I thought okay. He was responsible and had good health insurance and I was a mom with 3 kids. My friends told me in the beginning they didn't think we had enough of a bond and that I wouldn't be...
    maygirly maygirly 51-55 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    ROAR!!

    I married someone that I hated with a PASSION! lol! He kept pushing me to marry him, and I was CRYING the week before we got married at the court house. He was a guy from india looking for a greencard (which he NEVER got-HAHAHA!) He thought he could cheat on me and I would stay...
    exslut exslut 22-25, F 5 Responses May 10, 2008

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    I Did The Same...

    It is amazing how many of these stories sound just like mine.  I met a guy when I was 22..he was great and caring.  I got scared and ended it. I thought I was too young.  About a year later, I was having some self esteem issues and met another guy.  He...
    Theresa812 Theresa812 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 5, 2010

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    Married For The Wrong Reasons!!

    Hi all, Wow, I feel so relieved to know I am not the only one to marry someone for the wrong reasons!!  I was 18 and just out of high school when I met my husband.  He is 6 years older than me.  We immediately started dating and things moved fast.  I was...
    karatemomx4 karatemomx4 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    A Fool For Experience...

    I was 26. He was 20 when we met. We got married after knowing each other for only a couple months. I've had a lot of experiences in life and the one I never gave a fair chance was the idea of marriage and kids and the whole stereotypical white-picket-fence thing. Well, he said he...
    ororolebeau ororolebeau 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2011

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    Since posting my last experience,

    I've done a lot of thinking. I don't want to live my life this way, and I certainly don't want my son to grow up in an unstable environment. Due in part to the encouragement of you all on EP, I've found the courage to leave, and I will be en route to Indiana (where I'm from...
    MrsSmithXO MrsSmithXO 22-25, F 3 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Love Is Not Worth Living A Life Of Pain And Humilliations*

    Ive been married for the past 3 months, an amaizing guy who i sometimes look at and tears come to my eyes, because he loves me and treats me the way my ex boyfriend didnt. I tell myself he deserves for me to love him back and leave my past experience behind but sometimes its hard...
    gbautista12 gbautista12 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2012

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    Marry a nice guy from a good family.

    Everybody tells you that. It's not enough
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    I Will Marry For Everything But Love

    I think when you hit a certain age in my culture the alarm bells start ringing...for my parents obviously (as "open-minded") as they are living in 21st Century as British Asians) but it's always a worry. Constantly hearing from my mother how she just has me left to get married...
    SUNNIEbunnie7 SUNNIEbunnie7 22-25 Oct 16, 2011

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    I have never felt reciprocated love. I don't mean like the friends and family package deal that everybody gets, I mean romantically. It's not from a lack of trying, but as I look...
    monkey0506 monkey0506 26-30, M 1 Response May 9

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    Years ago, when I was first going to college. I was finally dating a guy I had been interested in for years. It was semi long distance, just an hour n half apart. And I was head...
    Armywifsahm Armywifsahm 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 29

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    When I was married I loved my husband with every fiber of my being. He didn't love me.. But time heals all wounds. To an extent.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 4

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    I need to get this off my chest, and since I can't say this to him I will here... Am I a terrible person? This is what I keep asking myself as the thoughts in my mind twist and...
    LonelySnake LonelySnake 18-21, F 4 Responses May 11

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    He said he loved me but what he really meant was he didn't want to be alone. He didn't love me, because you don't lack compassion for the love of your life. He didn't love me...
    Sunshine9001 Sunshine9001 51-55, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I loved someone who didn't love me... I still love someone who doesn't love me. It's gotten easier though because I accepted the fact that we will never work. He's a great friend...
    kristen1993 kristen1993 22-25, F 3 Responses May 6

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    i loved this girl. I've known her for a while. she didn't love me. i tried everything to convince her she was the world. i still love her. she's with someone else
    drrjr drrjr 22-25, M 4 Responses Apr 29

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    Yes I loved somebody who didn't love me...I knew he didn't but I still fell for him...I feel like a complete idiot and wish I could take back the years...but I can't:/ he left when...
    LerisaEllis LerisaEllis 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I loved someone that didn't love me and I don't regret it at all. While it felt terrible most of the time, short-lived moments of happiness were also one of the best days of my...
    everydayissummerr everydayissummerr 26-30, F May 4

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    I stupidly believed a guy who was visiting the country on holiday that he loved me because he told me he loved me.. Only when he left the country he suddenly didn't love me and was...
    immortellecapture immortellecapture 31-35, F 3 Responses May 5

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    I loved a girl deeply and she didn't love me back, it was the worst pain I have ever felt. Worse than any other physical pain I have ever dealt with.
    Trustorie Trustorie 31-35, M 4 Responses May 13

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    Today I was reading about second chances and of course my mind went back to him... I want to believe that timing was the main issue but a part of me also wants to move on and not...
    blaquetulip blaquetulip 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I fell for a woman who didn't love me, I thought she cared but it turns out she was in love with a ex friend of mine! We had lots of fun and did a lot with each other. Then in...
    bigjjunkman bigjjunkman 46-50, M 6 days ago

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    I don't know how I'm supposed to go on. Knowing that there's always going to be that part of me that is completely, madly in love with someone who didn't even care enough about me...
    antihero98 antihero98 16-17, F 3 Responses May 8

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    Yeah, it's been a while since we were anything other than friends. It's been a long time since you looked at me the way I still look at nothing when I think of you. It's been a...
    MissAutumn MissAutumn 18-21, F May 18

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    My grandmother has a best friend named Grace. Grace's grandkids and great grandkids came to Missouri all the way from the west coast in April 2014. Since my grandmother and Grace...
    shelbyrain20 shelbyrain20 18-21, F 1 Response May 20

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    I was first attracted to you I didn't know why, The smell of your skin of your clothes, They poisoned my mind, They made me go crazy over you. Over your smile, Over the way you...
    Francoise25 Francoise25 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 29

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    5 years ago there's a boy who loved me. He is my childhood. He always protect me, save me, help me, make me laugh and happy, and he never ever make me sad. Then, I should move to...
    ariekaferdiana ariekaferdiana 16-17, F May 19

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    I had fallen in love with my former Spanish II BACT Prep teacher two years ago. My friend had even warned me of it,but I hadn't listened to him thinking that nothing was going to...
    Jada1995 Jada1995 18-21, F May 6

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    I actually think that's my new thing. Infatuations with people who can't love me. A new form of self-destruction, if you will. But he...he was the kicker. It was on and off for...
    borderlineeverything borderlineeverything 16-17, F 1 Response May 12

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    Lost without You Laying in my bed thinking how lost I feel without you. I use to feel near to you, but the distance came between us. Now my heart feels is not able to love anyone...
    Natashxxs Natashxxs 31-35, F 1 Response May 13

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    Loving someone that dosnt love you is just heartache,your hoping for any glimpse of affection even a X after a text.i had an affiar with mine for 2 years.now over not seen him for...
    Pommy8 Pommy8 51-55, F 2 Responses May 12

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    I have a guy who is flirting with me everyday but sometimes he distances himself and other times he is really close to me. Then one day he was really flirting with me and I thought...
    KAG676 KAG676 13-15, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I got over all the crushes I had in the past because I realized they didn't matter and it was just a crush. You can, too.
    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F May 16

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