I Married Someone I Didn't Love

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    Since posting my last experience,

    I've done a lot of thinking. I don't want to live my life this way, and I certainly don't want my son to grow up in an unstable environment. Due in part to the encouragement of you all on EP, I've found the courage to leave, and I will be en route to Indiana (where I'm from...
    MrsSmithXO MrsSmithXO
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 4, 2014

    Love Is Not Worth Living A Life Of Pain And Humilliations*

    Ive been married for the past 3 months, an amaizing guy who i sometimes look at and tears come to my eyes, because he loves me and treats me the way my ex boyfriend didnt. I tell myself he deserves for me to love him back and leave my past experience behind but sometimes its hard...
    gbautista12 gbautista12
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 25, 2012

    Married For The Wrong Reasons!!

    Hi all, Wow, I feel so relieved to know I am not the only one to marry someone for the wrong reasons!!  I was 18 and just out of high school when I met my husband.  He is 6 years older than me.  We immediately started dating and things moved fast.  I was...
    karatemomx4 karatemomx4
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Mar 23, 2010

    I Will Marry For Everything But Love

    I think when you hit a certain age in my culture the alarm bells start ringing...for my parents obviously (as "open-minded") as they are living in 21st Century as British Asians) but it's always a worry. Constantly hearing from my mother how she just has me left to get married...
    SUNNIEbunnie7 SUNNIEbunnie7
    22-25
    Oct 16, 2011

    Married Again - For The Wrong Reasons!!

    I'm just SOOO upset with myself. I was married to a man for 7 years who I thought I loved, had 2 wonderful kids, but he turned out to be verbally abusive and I finally divorced him. Was single for about 14 years when I met my current husband. I was not in a good place - both...
    ignoringmygut ignoringmygut
    51-55
    1 Response Jan 25, 2011

    I Can't Believe It

    I always said i wouldn't settle for someone and I would stay single until i found the right person. But i was 25 years old tired of being single and i had this guy always asking me out showing me all kinds of attention which of course i didn't mind at all. Ended up changing my...
    Unhappy4555 Unhappy4555
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2010

    I Am Losing My Mind

    I met my soul mate over the internet he was in New York and I was in California. He moved to California to be with me but was never content because he had a very young little boy who he missed. I finally agreed to give New York a try and was there for a year while there, I felt...
    Helplesslygoingincircles Helplesslygoingincircles
    36-40
    5 Responses Dec 31, 2011

    I didn't know where else to turn.

    I needed to let this out. My husband and I met on Facebook when he was deployed to Iraq. I was currently in a relationship at the time, but wanted to get to know him despite my current situation. On his two-week leave from Iraq, we went on our first date (Valentine's Day). We...
    MrsSmithXO MrsSmithXO
    22-25, F
    17 Responses May 4, 2014

    Got Married But Not For Love

    This is a story that I've never shared before. I don't know how to feel sometimes, ashamed or good that at least my son has a father figure around. To cut the story short I got married because I didn't want my son to not know his father like I did. My dad left my mum when I was 8...
    darkvader darkvader
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Sep 16, 2009

    Marry a nice guy from a good family.

    Everybody tells you that. It's not enough
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 16, 2015

    Some Things Are Hard to Explain

    The truth of the matter is that there I was, almost 24 years old, getting married to this person... and even as we were in the middle of the ceremony itself, I was thinking "I have no idea why I am here, and why I am agreeing to marry this person." In retrospect, I...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy
    51-55, M
    13 Responses Dec 26, 2007

    I Did The Same...

    It is amazing how many of these stories sound just like mine.  I met a guy when I was 22..he was great and caring.  I got scared and ended it. I thought I was too young.  About a year later, I was having some self esteem issues and met another guy.  He...
    Theresa812 Theresa812
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 5, 2010

    A Fool For Experience...

    I was 26. He was 20 when we met. We got married after knowing each other for only a couple months. I've had a lot of experiences in life and the one I never gave a fair chance was the idea of marriage and kids and the whole stereotypical white-picket-fence thing. Well, he said he...
    ororolebeau ororolebeau
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2011

    ROAR!!

    I married someone that I hated with a PASSION! lol! He kept pushing me to marry him, and I was CRYING the week before we got married at the court house. He was a guy from india looking for a greencard (which he NEVER got-HAHAHA!) He thought he could cheat on me and I would stay...
    exslut exslut
    22-25, F
    5 Responses May 10, 2008

    Why Couldn't I End Things Before They Got So Out Of Hand..

    We started dating when I was 17. It wasn't one of those things that was a long time coming by any means. When he asked me out I said no multiple times until my friend finally got me to agree to going to a movie. I was having a rough time with some of my friends and it was nice to...
    hadleyk hadleyk
    22-25
    2 Responses Mar 31, 2012

    What Is My Problem?!

    Everyone around me feel jealous about the life i live. I am going to marry a nice guy who is going to take me to another country where he has planned lot of things for me. Our family know each other well. We talked for few days. And we had trust and love on each other. We...
    appleammu appleammu
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 11, 2013

    Ok here it is I met my wife at jobcorp,

    while we were there we dated for the 3-4 months we were there she went home first, when I got back home she contacted me (keep in mind I was young and dumb and wasn't thinking with the proper head) so anyway when I went to see her I had no intention of staying (didnt tell her...
    tdavis82 tdavis82
    31-35, M
    Jul 27, 2014

    Learned To Love?

    So, we´ve heard people who were forced to marry back in the old days and ended up happy. My story is different but same I married my husband at 19 to escape from an abusive father, i didnt love him, i just thought he was a pretty cool guy, i got pregnant and things only went...
    SimplyMe2 SimplyMe2
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 1, 2010

    I Married Someone I Didn't Love

    It was my second marriage. He really loved me and when he asked me to marry him I thought okay. He was responsible and had good health insurance and I was a mom with 3 kids. My friends told me in the beginning they didn't think we had enough of a bond and that I wouldn't be...
    maygirly maygirly
    51-55
    2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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