I Must Learn To Keep Toxic People Out Of My Life

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    I thought I had a friend,

    turns out he was just using me for sex... All while he kept saying I wasn't pretty enough, interesting enough for anyone to like me. I hate that I was just a backup... I feel so stupid!
    linnie333 linnie333
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 11, 2015

    I think I have pushover

    or some such saying tattooed on my forehead and it won't wash off :-/
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    As much as i hate toxic people ,

    i think they need a hug and need people around more than ever . I think this simply because the reason they are so toxic is because they may have been let down by those closest to them too often until soon enough they had to build a hard exterior to try to stop their feelings...
    GetJinxed GetJinxed
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 14, 2014

    This story is about a toxic person I met

    through university. An acquaintance of mine has the strange habit of sending me passive-aggressive texts from time to time. I have no idea why. On New Year's Day he sent me a passive-aggressive text hinting that he was pissed off that I hadn't wished him a happy new year that...
    myhy myhy
    26-30, F
    Feb 23, 2015

    Detoxing...

    there comes a point in life when you realize who matters,who never did,who will and who always did..i think i have reached that point in my life.so am deleting all em toxic People who aren't helping me embrace any of my dreams o live life in way that would bring me great...
    Earthangel89 Earthangel89
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 15, 2011
    mabuhayka mabuhayka
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 19, 2015

    Don't Need Them ....

     Toxic people are like emotional sponges which suck the life out of you. I learned they're   controlling and love to hear themselves. Perhaps the worst kind of Toxic People are the educated, intelligent, and semi-self-reflective/self-aware types who still exhibit...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Aug 5, 2010

    So I know this girl because she has been living

    wth my husbands friend for over 3 yrs. I was always polite and made conversation when I was around her, which was not very often! Anyways about 6 months ago I overheard the guy saying that she quit him so I text her and said hey what happened! The next day I talked to jr and I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 15, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 11, 2015

    I must leant to listen to my true friends

    and bin the toxic people. I always see the best in people and I'm blindly loyal, I always get **** on but pick myself up and go back and give them a second chance, makes me feel very foolish when they **** on me again but I have learnt to finally give up after the 2nd time even...
    inboots inboots
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jun 1, 2014

    The Need To Fix Toxic People

    Apparently I am a magnet for this type of person.  Even worse, on occasion I actually go out and find them. I'm not talking about people who are outwardly immoral....I never get involved with those types.  I'm talking about the ones who are needy and don't give back...
    Vessa Vessa
    41-45, F
    28 Responses Apr 19, 2010

    I swear to God, I think I should come with

    batteries and be hidden in a nightstand drawer. Ugh. :-/
    HomelessWind HomelessWind
    46-50, M
    1 Response Oct 7, 2015

    I always try to keep the people

    who surrounds me clean...if someone does wrong I point it out with no mercy.Persist and you are out...sometimes takes a long time to realize.
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 12, 2014

    How do you quit someone,

    cut them out of you're life and be okay with out them? My best friend is probably the most toxic person that has ever been in my life, i give her everything in me and she gives so very little back. Its gotten to the point to where all she does is cause me to feel down, i don't...
    WillowLily WillowLily
    26-30, F
    4 Responses May 30, 2015

    Poison To The Soul

    I tend to be a magnet that attracts toxic people.  You know the type.  The people in your life that if they weren't there, things would run without a glitch.  Well, maybe they would.  I wouldn't really know for sure because I tend to always have at least one toxin in my life...
    wornoutjeans wornoutjeans
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Jan 13, 2012

    Final Note For A Toxic "Friend"

    I haven't sent this note yet....even now I am struggling to salvage any part of this "friendship" that exists.  I realize it is mainly because of my own conscience.  Because I hate to give up on someone that I have loved.   At first I thought I was holding on because I...
    Vessa Vessa
    41-45, F
    17 Responses May 16, 2010

    I hate everyone of my family members.

    I hate my father for he is self centered , dominating, abusive, manipulative and cunning. I hate my mother for she is illiterate, shallow, moronic, invasive and insane. I hate my husband for he is naive, sissy and nerdy. And I hate the fact that I LOVE them emotionally and want...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 18, 2015

    this good for nothing person woke me up to

    prove a point he didn't have. he claim that I was cheating on him. a female messaged him on fb. I told her he was married. this simple minded person with no education got mad cause I typed that to the lady. he had the nerve to bring up a convo I had with a pastor at that I...
    LadyHeyward LadyHeyward
    41-45, F
    Jul 17, 2015

    All my dad's family are toxic.

    I am not sure why but in the end it only makes me sad that they live like this. It's all they know, to be filled with such limited experiences and hate . What an exhausting way to live, and so sad that although I barely know them they choose to try to take things out on me. I...
    wingeyes wingeyes
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 5, 2015

    I feel so heartbroken.

    I wouldn't say my time was wasted because I have a beautiful daughter, but no matter how much I love her and want a good life for her, her father is poisonous. The cheating, the lying, the drinking. I can't even say I wish I knew all of the truth before because I would have left...
    NotFirstNotLast NotFirstNotLast
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 5, 2015

    My Life3

    I thought that I had my life set but little did I know things would change. After 23 years of marriage I was divorced. Now it's 10 years later and I'm still alone. I don't want to be this way. I have more love to give to the right person. But at my age that isn't easy to...
    patfl patfl
    51-55
    1 Response Nov 21, 2012

    Friendship Gone Sour

    It started out the old ex boyfriend accidental meeting.  We're talking of 35 years ago, two people young and very very VERY foolish.  After being on friend acquaintance terms, we talked out the misgivings of our former relationship and found peace with each other.  Or so I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Feb 8, 2011

    The story of my life.

    .. Sade "Pearls"
    UnderStandM3 UnderStandM3
    41-45, F
    Jun 1, 2014

    Too Much Experience Of These People,no More Are Entering Into My Life.

    As I have noted in previous episodes of my lifetime of experiences I have had more than the average exposure to Toxic People.The line of work I was employed in saw to it that most days week in week out I was exposed to many people I would not wish to be associated with in my...
    garvan garvan
    51-55, M
    11 Responses Jul 5, 2010

    My Husband

    It's hard to keep toxic people out of your life when you're married to one. Seriously.
    getmeouttathis getmeouttathis
    46-50
    Jul 8, 2013

    You Can Pick Your Friends,but Not Your Family.

    Yes indeed the title says it all.My only brother who is five years my senior has changed so much since he married his wicked wife.From day one when he brought her home as a girlfriend she stamped her mark with her filthy tongue.We as a family were brought up in a very loving...
    garvan garvan
    51-55, M
    16 Responses Jul 5, 2010

    Sometimes you can't avoid being in a presence

    who's toxic in your life.... but WHEN YOU CAN, STAY as far AWAY as possible from them.
    endlessl0ve endlessl0ve
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    I Let Myself Get Walked On.

    I have a very toxic person in my life right now. I asked my family to help her out because she was going through a hard time and she has done nothing but hurt my family. She is a user. She is doing nothing but cause problems and it is starting to compound and create huge problems...
    justexisting89 justexisting89
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Dec 4, 2011

    Choices - chances - changes.

    .. I must make a choice to take a chance, or else my life will never change.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 20, 2014

    I am in love still with an ex boyfriend.

    We were together for 3 years and broken up for a year. I love him to death but there is one thing that is toxic to me and that is his " ego". I walk away and go back all the time but something about his ego always makes me feel 2 inches tall. What should I do? Also is it really...
    smiles212 smiles212
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 19, 2015

    http://self-love-u.blogspot.

    com/2013/02/100-traits-of-toxic-person.html
    zeeva70 zeeva70
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 19, 2014

    It never fails... As soon

    as I start to back away and move forward, he shows the changes that I needed to see years ago, even months ago it probably could have worked. I start to thinking that he must realize that his words and actions hurt me and he is taking steps, especially now that we are separated...
    TheGoddessB TheGoddessB
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 3, 2015

    After ranting on here about my ex

    and getting other people's opinions and everything. I think I'm finally realizing that its not my ex/best friend that is toxic to me, I'm toxic to myself. I have allthese expectations of her that probably are not even that realistic, i get myself all worked up about it and...
    WillowLily WillowLily
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    you ever decide to spend your life with someone,

    and then realized you made a mistake? Lately I've been feeling I made the wrong choice. It gets very annoying being the only bread winner that everybody in the family depends on! It's also stressful. Me being the only bread winner but you want to claim head of household...
    LadyHeyward LadyHeyward
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 16, 2015

    https://www.youtube.

    com/watch?v=xj2QdtG26-A&list=PLJhIUbVI28W1CQs1uhqyR2aHg0pH8ttqG&index=16
    xkmb xkmb
    56-60
    1 Response Dec 19, 2015

    That is so true. In real life

    and online. I have a very short fuse when it comes to downing me, calling me names, or anything just to make your point. I will block you if you do not respect me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 19, 2015

    How To Get Rid Of A Friend Who Has Become Toxic?

    I attract toxic people like crazy. the older I get, it seems to get worse and I cannot figure out why, although I suspect it might be that I just don't know how to end that. I am trying to remove all the toxic people from my life, one person in particular, but I can't seem to do...
    JavaJenn JavaJenn
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 10, 2012

    you make time for the things

    that are and the people who are important to you.
    gigglebunnie gigglebunnie
    22-25, F
    Sep 9, 2015

    ive distanced myself from my mom.

    idk how to talk to her. she lives with me and my family. ive been giving her money for a living expense and she hasnt been paying it. im really exasperated and upset because financially we do the best we can but now its just hurting the situation worst. ugh.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 29, 2015

    You cannot be nice" or help

    or give to someone in the hopes they'll be nice, helpful or generous to you. Sometimes we're just desperate to be liked and will self-sacrifice and compromise ourselves to achieve this. STOP. They will never like you, help you or be generous/nice to you. Focus your energy on...
    spanishliljon spanishliljon
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    sure. I accept anyone.

    even someone's profile who haves a few experiences about sex. or they can be an @ss or they rob a bank or he's religious or he's racist or she or anything that effects their lives. as long you're not some robot who haves 900 perverted experiences about youself or extremely too...
    ZardaF5 ZardaF5
    26-30, M
    Dec 12, 2015

    I really must.......but its

    when they inSINUATE ( put themselves INTO my life > withOUT any desire on my part that they be there ) that makes it really hard ( I got a HUGE dose of that recently ( I used to think if I had a stalker it would be cool ( its NOT > they can make your life a living hell ( & they...
    cashetty69 cashetty69
    51-55, M
    1 Response May 18, 2015

    Detoxing My Social Life

    now that i am a bit poorer than more than a decade ago...battling cancer that limits my movement.....maturing and wishing for peace....the people i used to spend good times and night outs with look down at my new subdued life. i have successfully psyched myself that this life...
    suz54 suz54
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 4, 2012

    Obviously.

    Toxic people are draining. Nothing you can say will please them. It's like walking on ******* eggshells. **** that. I need one more person making me feel bad about myself like a need a hole in my goddamned head. Trying to walk a fine line to interact with these people for the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 24, 2013

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