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I Must Learn To Keep Toxic People Out Of My Life

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    Friendship Gone Sour

    It started out the old ex boyfriend accidental meeting.  We're talking of 35 years ago, two people young and very very VERY foolish.  After being on friend acquaintance terms, we talked out the misgivings of our former relationship and found peace with each other.  Or so I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 8, 2011

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    My Failure Roommate/friend Is Killing Me

    So I am sitting around this morning, tired from last night. Then I find myself angry for some reason. So I start to babble to myself. When I realize I am yelling at my roommate who his asleep at the time. I now realize that this friend Is the most toxic thing in my life...
    ForgottenMale ForgottenMale 26-30, M 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    Friends With A Sociopath

    One of my best friends met a new group of friends at her church. For the point of the story, we'll call her Sally. Sally wanted me to meet her friend "Steve". She talked about Steve non stop. To me this Steve sounded like a dirtbag. He banged up her car and she always bought...
    hekatemoon hekatemoon 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2010

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    How Do I Cut Em Off?

    i have some friends that i love,,,,but they are bad for me.. any suggestions on how to cut the toxic ppl out of your life? how to still be friends, but Not let them use you? ~thanks
    janejopie janejopie 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2011

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    Toxic Pond

    The people I grew up with were toxic. They still are. You cannot talk any reason or compassion with some because they will always turn it against you. You see have their own agendias. They will not see you or hear you. They look with blinded eyes and their Ears only hear the...
    flyingstone flyingstone 61-65, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    You Can Pick Your Friends,but Not Your Family.

    Yes indeed the title says it all.My only brother who is five years my senior has changed so much since he married his wicked wife.From day one when he brought her home as a girlfriend she stamped her mark with her filthy tongue.We as a family were brought up in a very loving...
    garvan garvan 46-50, M 17 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    As much as i hate toxic people ,

    i think they need a hug and need people around more than ever . I think this simply because the reason they are so toxic is because they may have been let down by those closest to them too often until soon enough they had to build a hard exterior to try to stop their feelings...
    GetJinxed GetJinxed 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 14

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    Way Too Bad Boys

    There have been a lot of bad boy relationships lately... The last one was the worst. I should have gotten out but I didn't want to. He was a car junkie, wannabe racecar driver, mechanic, in the WPP. He insulted my intelligence and lack of a definite plan even though I just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 25, 2011

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    Don't Need Them ....

     Toxic people are like emotional sponges which suck the life out of you. I learned they're   controlling and love to hear themselves. Perhaps the worst kind of Toxic People are the educated, intelligent, and semi-self-reflective/self-aware types who still exhibit...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 10 Responses Aug 5, 2010

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    My Life3

    I thought that I had my life set but little did I know things would change. After 23 years of marriage I was divorced. Now it's 10 years later and I'm still alone. I don't want to be this way. I have more love to give to the right person. But at my age that isn't easy to...
    patfl patfl 51-55 1 Response Nov 21, 2012

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    Am I Being Used?

    My best friend and I have been close for three years he just broke up with his girlfriend but now they have a FWB relationship. He always talks about how he wants to be with me but nothing ever happens. He always complains to me about his ex but I'm getting tired of it, I think...
    BirdUnderneathMySkin BirdUnderneathMySkin 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2011

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    It Helps

    Toxic people are everywhere and weeding through them can be tough. One of my friends has slowly been turning toxic. She used to be happy and kind and helpful. She got into drugs, and now she Is so depressing to talk to. Sometimes I lie and say I'm not in town just to avoid her. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 2, 2012

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    The story of my life.

    .. Sade "Pearls"
    UnderStandM3 UnderStandM3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    Stop! Just Stop!

    Recently I posted a question here, "A friend won't stop talking about her friend's cancer, I can't listen anymore. How would you handle it?" I explained: "I lost my father to multiple types of cancer. It was devastating, watching him succumb. My friend talks constantly about...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 10 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    Only Cure For Toxic People Is Quarantine

    I'm sure all of you have come across people who are so toxic they infect the rest of us in such a way we feel ill ourselves. The only medicine to cure this type of illness is to quarantine those people far from your family,relationships and work. I'm sure you have experienced...
    Haunted5 Haunted5 56-60, F Aug 5, 2010

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    I Let Myself Get Walked On.

    I have a very toxic person in my life right now. I asked my family to help her out because she was going through a hard time and she has done nothing but hurt my family. She is a user. She is doing nothing but cause problems and it is starting to compound and create huge problems...
    justexisting89 justexisting89 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    Happy Days

    i can't eaven say how happy i am to have that manipulative, two faced little dog out my life :D. i thought she was cool and i tryed my best to get on with her only because my friend liked her, in return, she spred rumers about me, lied to me, took everchance to humilate me and...
    lithiumxflower lithiumxflower 16-17, F 1 Response May 14, 2011

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    Idk - I Can't Call It

    Toxic men - seem to somehow become involved in my life. Both of my kids dad's are TOXIC. They lied, they deceived, etc....a whole big mess.So - I need to not allow those type of men in my life, at all if they are going to be so d**n evil!!
    bbwqueenofhearts bbwqueenofhearts 26-30, F Jan 28, 2011

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    How To Get Rid Of A Friend Who Has Become Toxic?

    I attract toxic people like crazy. the older I get, it seems to get worse and I cannot figure out why, although I suspect it might be that I just don't know how to end that. I am trying to remove all the toxic people from my life, one person in particular, but I can't seem to do...
    JavaJenn JavaJenn 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

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    Trying To Get Rid Off Toxic People

    I seem to attract toxic people into my life, I have come to the conclusion it is time to get rid of these people. So I am trying my best too. A couple of them I have already gotten rid of. I do not enjoy drama, or negativity, or being miserable. I have put up with quite a bit of...
    moonbeamwhispers moonbeamwhispers 36-40, F Apr 10, 2012

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    I Disagree!

    If you don't agree with someone or something, leave them alone.  Don't go there, don't add them to your circle.  This is supposed to be a SUPPORT site, not a site for creating strife.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Detoxing...

    there comes a point in life when you realize who matters,who never did,who will and who always did..i think i have reached that point in my life.so am deleting all em toxic People who aren't helping me embrace any of my dreams o live life in way that would bring me great...
    Earthangel89 Earthangel89 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    Danger Toxic Waste

    I had a friend, she was my best friend, we were Always together, if i needed her, she came running and vice versa. I think the fact that she was always there for me "emotionally" that was how she kept me wrapped around her pinky (well one of the reasons). Deep down i always knew...
    MushroomFaerie148 MushroomFaerie148 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 11, 2010

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    Poison To The Soul

    I tend to be a magnet that attracts toxic people.  You know the type.  The people in your life that if they weren't there, things would run without a glitch.  Well, maybe they would.  I wouldn't really know for sure because I tend to always have at least one toxin in my life...
    wornoutjeans wornoutjeans 41-45, M 8 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    Obviously.

    Toxic people are draining. Nothing you can say will please them. It's like walking on ******* eggshells. **** that. I need one more person making me feel bad about myself like a need a hole in my goddamned head. Trying to walk a fine line to interact with these people for the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 24, 2013

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    Final Note For A Toxic "Friend"

    I haven't sent this note yet....even now I am struggling to salvage any part of this "friendship" that exists.  I realize it is mainly because of my own conscience.  Because I hate to give up on someone that I have loved.   At first I thought I was holding on because I...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 22 Responses May 16, 2010

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    I always try to keep the people

    who surrounds me clean...if someone does wrong I point it out with no mercy.Persist and you are out...sometimes takes a long time to realize.
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I must leant to listen to my true friends

    and bin the toxic people. I always see the best in people and I'm blindly loyal, I always get **** on but pick myself up and go back and give them a second chance, makes me feel very foolish when they **** on me again but I have learnt to finally give up after the 2nd time even...
    inboots inboots 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 1

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    Isn't It Ironic?

    We ignore those who adore us, adore those who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love those who hurt us. All my life, my biggest problem has been letting go. Letting go of past experiences, and most of all, past loves. There's no such thing as an easy goodbye, at least as far...
    chelsbels105 chelsbels105 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 3, 2011

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    Too Short

    I got to the point where I realised that life IS too short to be dealing with Toxic People in my life. For the first time in my life, I can honestly say I am content. I am not dealing with people who make life a little harder. I deleted 3/4's of my circle here on EP because...
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 6, 2010

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    Confusion

    At times, I struggle with my definition of 'friend'. I find my heart is too soft, too compassionate, sometimes at the cost of my own happiness and health. I let myself take too much responsibility for the state of other's lives. Everyone has their own road behind them and in...
    Wispen Wispen 31-35, F Apr 10, 2011

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    I think my younger sister is probably one of

    those people.. The way she emotionally manipulates people really bothers me, but I can't get away since I don't have money to move out. I think I'm just going to try ignoring her as much as I can.
    Riley218 Riley218 18-21, M Jul 12

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    A Work-in-progress!

    Over the course of my life, I've met and befriended many individuals who turned out to be toxic. With each passing year and each toxic friendship ended, I slowly learned how to properly deal with and recognize toxic individuals. Now I'm no expert, but I'm getting there. It was...
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    Facilitating A Parent Support Group

    Back in May I was asked by a statewide organization to utilize my experience as a special education advocate to facilitate a parent support group that would teach other parents effective advocacy skills.After speaking to this statewide organization I realized it would be more...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F Sep 25, 2012

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    My Husband

    It's hard to keep toxic people out of your life when you're married to one. Seriously.
    subservientwife subservientwife 46-50 3 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    Behind The Sex, Drugs, And The Reckless Behavior.

    It Has Came To My Attention That My Bestfriend Since Kindergarden, Alison, Thinks That I Live A Reckless On Edge Life. That's Not The End Of It Though. I Went Through A Really Tough Couple Years. It All Started Back In Sixth Grade, I Wanted To Become A Goth. It Wasn't A Suddle...
    forgottenheart forgottenheart 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 21, 2011

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    Too Much Experience Of These People,no More Are Entering Into My Life.

    As I have noted in previous episodes of my lifetime of experiences I have had more than the average exposure to Toxic People.The line of work I was employed in saw to it that most days week in week out I was exposed to many people I would not wish to be associated with in my...
    garvan garvan 46-50, M 11 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    The Need To Fix Toxic People

    Apparently I am a magnet for this type of person.  Even worse, on occasion I actually go out and find them. I'm not talking about people who are outwardly immoral....I never get involved with those types.  I'm talking about the ones who are needy and don't give back...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 28 Responses Apr 19, 2010

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    Like A Body Snatcher

    There are everywhere from your family all the way to cyberspace trying to take you down to their level to infect you with their disease like a body snatcher.    They will try to make you feel miserable and unhappy.  Ignored and degraded until your spirit break and...
    jc2009 jc2009 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 3, 2010

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    Detoxing My Social Life

    now that i am a bit poorer than more than a decade ago...battling cancer that limits my movement.....maturing and wishing for peace....the people i used to spend good times and night outs with look down at my new subdued life. i have successfully psyched myself that this life...
    suz54 suz54 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    Need A Toxic Person Detector

    I agree, I need to remove toxic people from my life, but how do you truly detect them? I believe that no one is perfect and have learned to live with their various faults, as I am sure they have to tolerate mine. Is there a good guideline to determine the difference between a...
    Mirvanna Mirvanna 36-40, F Sep 28, 2011

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    Toxic Target On My Back

    I sometimes feel as if I have a target on my back that attracts toxic darts. I tend to be a 'giver', 'listener' and a 'rescuer' which seems to be akin to advertising in neon lights that I can be 'used'. I've had a lot of toxic relationships, starting with family members who were...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2010

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    Today I'm Getting A New Phone Number

    I have had decades worth of therapies, that included going in & out of the hospitals. This concerned hard core mental illness.from mental, emotional, spiritual, & physical abuse that included torture as a child. I survived it all by using drugs at a young age as a coping...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 7, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    How i wish this was me - completely. I know the that you become those you associate with. We used to call it fitting in with the wrong crowd. I also know u attract those like you...
    LifesCoach LifesCoach 31-35, M 5 Responses Aug 4

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    So I've been part of this site for quite some time and I appreciate being able to share my woes with those who understand from all over the world, but there are those who come here...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    I just wish that there were few toxic people.I know they may have personal issues but then they can seek help and not hurt others.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    Not the easiest thing in the world to do, but most certainly the best decision I have made. The first, my ex. I gave him over a year of my life, miscarried his child, and was to be...
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    A few nights ago I cut all but four people out of my life. It was so hard. I'm just so tired of dealing with people that are pointless to talk to. The hardest part is afterwards...
    Robin1226 Robin1226 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    I cant put some people out of my head whom I loved n cared but didnt love n care me back..
    nixf1 nixf1 22-25, F Jul 25

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    Toxic relationships & friendships are a burden. I remove all negativity from my life and keep the positive. My former best friend and I had a toxic relationship. She was in a...
    PeaceBatman PeaceBatman 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    Once I figure out that someone is toxic, I remove them from my life. I won't be in an emotional upheaval because someone needs it to make themselves feel better.
    shineon09 shineon09 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    Dremavv Dremavv 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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