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I Must Learn To Keep Toxic People Out Of My Life

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    How To Get Rid Of A Friend Who Has Become Toxic?

    I attract toxic people like crazy. the older I get, it seems to get worse and I cannot figure out why, although I suspect it might be that I just don't know how to end that. I am trying to remove all the toxic people from my life, one person in particular, but I can't seem to do...
    JavaJenn JavaJenn 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2012

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    Toxic Target On My Back

    I sometimes feel as if I have a target on my back that attracts toxic darts. I tend to be a 'giver', 'listener' and a 'rescuer' which seems to be akin to advertising in neon lights that I can be 'used'. I've had a lot of toxic relationships, starting with family members who were...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2010

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    I must leant to listen to my true friends

    and bin the toxic people. I always see the best in people and I'm blindly loyal, I always get **** on but pick myself up and go back and give them a second chance, makes me feel very foolish when they **** on me again but I have learnt to finally give up after the 2nd time even...
    inboots inboots 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 1, 2014

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    The Need To Fix Toxic People

    Apparently I am a magnet for this type of person.  Even worse, on occasion I actually go out and find them. I'm not talking about people who are outwardly immoral....I never get involved with those types.  I'm talking about the ones who are needy and don't give back...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 28 Responses Apr 19, 2010

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    I Disagree!

    If you don't agree with someone or something, leave them alone.  Don't go there, don't add them to your circle.  This is supposed to be a SUPPORT site, not a site for creating strife.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Facilitating A Parent Support Group

    Back in May I was asked by a statewide organization to utilize my experience as a special education advocate to facilitate a parent support group that would teach other parents effective advocacy skills.After speaking to this statewide organization I realized it would be more...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F Sep 25, 2012

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    I hate everyone of my family members.

    I hate my father for he is self centered , dominating, abusive, manipulative and cunning. I hate my mother for she is illiterate, shallow, moronic, invasive and insane. I hate my husband for he is naive, sissy and nerdy. And I hate the fact that I LOVE them emotionally and want...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 1 Response May 18

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    You Can Pick Your Friends,but Not Your Family.

    Yes indeed the title says it all.My only brother who is five years my senior has changed so much since he married his wicked wife.From day one when he brought her home as a girlfriend she stamped her mark with her filthy tongue.We as a family were brought up in a very loving...
    garvan garvan 46-50, M 16 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    All my dad's family are toxic.

    I am not sure why but in the end it only makes me sad that they live like this. It's all they know, to be filled with such limited experiences and hate . What an exhausting way to live, and so sad that although I barely know them they choose to try to take things out on me. I...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response May 5

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    Am I Being Used?

    My best friend and I have been close for three years he just broke up with his girlfriend but now they have a FWB relationship. He always talks about how he wants to be with me but nothing ever happens. He always complains to me about his ex but I'm getting tired of it, I think...
    BirdUnderneathMySkin BirdUnderneathMySkin 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2011

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    How Do I Cut Em Off?

    i have some friends that i love,,,,but they are bad for me.. any suggestions on how to cut the toxic ppl out of your life? how to still be friends, but Not let them use you? ~thanks
    janejopie janejopie 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2011

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    The story of my life.

    .. Sade "Pearls"
    UnderStandM3 UnderStandM3 36-40, F Jun 1, 2014

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    Detoxing...

    there comes a point in life when you realize who matters,who never did,who will and who always did..i think i have reached that point in my life.so am deleting all em toxic People who aren't helping me embrace any of my dreams o live life in way that would bring me great...
    Earthangel89 Earthangel89 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    Don't Need Them ....

     Toxic people are like emotional sponges which suck the life out of you. I learned they're   controlling and love to hear themselves. Perhaps the worst kind of Toxic People are the educated, intelligent, and semi-self-reflective/self-aware types who still exhibit...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 10 Responses Aug 5, 2010

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    Asereht Asereht 26-30, F 2 Responses May 19

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    My Husband

    It's hard to keep toxic people out of your life when you're married to one. Seriously.
    finallycthelite finallycthelite 46-50 3 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    I am in love still with an ex boyfriend.

    We were together for 3 years and broken up for a year. I love him to death but there is one thing that is toxic to me and that is his " ego". I walk away and go back all the time but something about his ego always makes me feel 2 inches tall. What should I do? Also is it really...
    smiles212 smiles212 31-35, F 3 Responses May 19

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    I Let Myself Get Walked On.

    I have a very toxic person in my life right now. I asked my family to help her out because she was going through a hard time and she has done nothing but hurt my family. She is a user. She is doing nothing but cause problems and it is starting to compound and create huge problems...
    justexisting89 justexisting89 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    Too Short

    I got to the point where I realised that life IS too short to be dealing with Toxic People in my life. For the first time in my life, I can honestly say I am content. I am not dealing with people who make life a little harder. I deleted 3/4's of my circle here on EP because...
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 6, 2010

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    I always try to keep the people

    who surrounds me clean...if someone does wrong I point it out with no mercy.Persist and you are out...sometimes takes a long time to realize.
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 12, 2014

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    After ranting on here about my ex

    and getting other people's opinions and everything. I think I'm finally realizing that its not my ex/best friend that is toxic to me, I'm toxic to myself. I have allthese expectations of her that probably are not even that realistic, i get myself all worked up about it and...
    WillowLily WillowLily 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've learned my lesson,

    but my only problem is that I see the good in everyone more than the bad side.
    SymphonyChild SymphonyChild 13-15, F 4 Responses May 19

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    My Failure Roommate/friend Is Killing Me

    So I am sitting around this morning, tired from last night. Then I find myself angry for some reason. So I start to babble to myself. When I realize I am yelling at my roommate who his asleep at the time. I now realize that this friend Is the most toxic thing in my life...
    ForgottenMale ForgottenMale 26-30, M 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    It Helps

    Toxic people are everywhere and weeding through them can be tough. One of my friends has slowly been turning toxic. She used to be happy and kind and helpful. She got into drugs, and now she Is so depressing to talk to. Sometimes I lie and say I'm not in town just to avoid her. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 2, 2012

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    Detoxing My Social Life

    now that i am a bit poorer than more than a decade ago...battling cancer that limits my movement.....maturing and wishing for peace....the people i used to spend good times and night outs with look down at my new subdued life. i have successfully psyched myself that this life...
    suz54 suz54 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    Stop! Just Stop!

    Recently I posted a question here, "A friend won't stop talking about her friend's cancer, I can't listen anymore. How would you handle it?" I explained: "I lost my father to multiple types of cancer. It was devastating, watching him succumb. My friend talks constantly about...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 10 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    Final Note For A Toxic "Friend"

    I haven't sent this note yet....even now I am struggling to salvage any part of this "friendship" that exists.  I realize it is mainly because of my own conscience.  Because I hate to give up on someone that I have loved.   At first I thought I was holding on because I...
    Vessa Vessa 41-45, F 22 Responses May 16, 2010

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    This story is about a toxic person I met

    through university. An acquaintance of mine has the strange habit of sending me passive-aggressive texts from time to time. I have no idea why. On New Year's Day he sent me a passive-aggressive text hinting that he was pissed off that I hadn't wished him a happy new year that...
    myhy myhy 26-30, F Feb 23

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    Need A Toxic Person Detector

    I agree, I need to remove toxic people from my life, but how do you truly detect them? I believe that no one is perfect and have learned to live with their various faults, as I am sure they have to tolerate mine. Is there a good guideline to determine the difference between a...
    Mirvanna Mirvanna 36-40, F Sep 28, 2011

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    Poison To The Soul

    I tend to be a magnet that attracts toxic people.  You know the type.  The people in your life that if they weren't there, things would run without a glitch.  Well, maybe they would.  I wouldn't really know for sure because I tend to always have at least one toxin in my life...
    wornoutjeans wornoutjeans 41-45, M 9 Responses Jan 13, 2012

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    Too Much Experience Of These People,no More Are Entering Into My Life.

    As I have noted in previous episodes of my lifetime of experiences I have had more than the average exposure to Toxic People.The line of work I was employed in saw to it that most days week in week out I was exposed to many people I would not wish to be associated with in my...
    garvan garvan 46-50, M 11 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    I really must.......but its

    when they inSINUATE ( put themselves INTO my life > withOUT any desire on my part that they be there ) that makes it really hard ( I got a HUGE dose of that recently ( I used to think if I had a stalker it would be cool ( its NOT > they can make your life a living hell ( & they...
    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M 1 Response May 18

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    Friendship Gone Sour

    It started out the old ex boyfriend accidental meeting.  We're talking of 35 years ago, two people young and very very VERY foolish.  After being on friend acquaintance terms, we talked out the misgivings of our former relationship and found peace with each other.  Or so I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 8, 2011

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    Obviously.

    Toxic people are draining. Nothing you can say will please them. It's like walking on ******* eggshells. **** that. I need one more person making me feel bad about myself like a need a hole in my goddamned head. Trying to walk a fine line to interact with these people for the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 24, 2013

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    Choices - chances - changes.

    .. I must make a choice to take a chance, or else my life will never change.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    That is so true. In real life

    and online. I have a very short fuse when it comes to downing me, calling me names, or anything just to make your point. I will block you if you do not respect me.
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F May 19

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    As much as i hate toxic people ,

    i think they need a hug and need people around more than ever . I think this simply because the reason they are so toxic is because they may have been let down by those closest to them too often until soon enough they had to build a hard exterior to try to stop their feelings...
    GetJinxed GetJinxed 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 14, 2014

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    How do you quit someone,

    cut them out of you're life and be okay with out them? My best friend is probably the most toxic person that has ever been in my life, i give her everything in me and she gives so very little back. Its gotten to the point to where all she does is cause me to feel down, i don't...
    WillowLily WillowLily 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Trying To Get Rid Off Toxic People

    I seem to attract toxic people into my life, I have come to the conclusion it is time to get rid of these people. So I am trying my best too. A couple of them I have already gotten rid of. I do not enjoy drama, or negativity, or being miserable. I have put up with quite a bit of...
    moonbeamwhispers moonbeamwhispers 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2012

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    My Life3

    I thought that I had my life set but little did I know things would change. After 23 years of marriage I was divorced. Now it's 10 years later and I'm still alone. I don't want to be this way. I have more love to give to the right person. But at my age that isn't easy to...
    patfl patfl 51-55 1 Response Nov 21, 2012

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    http://self-love-u.blogspot.

    com/2013/02/100-traits-of-toxic-person.html
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2014

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    These people are seriously not worth your time... The only thing is is that some people can hide the toxic and before you realize what's happened.. It's already killed you.
    K33024W K33024W 13-15 2 days ago

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    Call me a *****, call me evil. But if majority of time talking to you is unpleasant then I will cut you out of my life. Why wouldn't i?
    youaretheonlyexception youaretheonlyexception 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I think the most valuable lesson I've learned thus far is that I do not have to allow toxic people into my life. I have always tried to find good and be supportive of others, but I...
    pinkstarburst pinkstarburst 41-45, F 7 Responses May 12

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    I use to be sad, angry, uptight, but then I realized that toxic people where pulling me down. I can love them from a distance. My job is to save the world one person at a time, and...
    thastonechick thastonechick 36-40, F 1 Response May 7

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    I'm so hurt, my heart aches, all I can do is cry. I have 10 days to leave my apartment because the neighbors keep calling the police... false accusations and it worked. I don't do...
    constancemariefat constancemariefat 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago