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I My Daughter Hates Me

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    19 Year Old Daughter Resents Me

    I'm not to sure where to start. I have one child and she is 19. We had very little money but she always had opportunities - we sacrificed it all for her. She was a bright girl who wanted to be popular. We moved her to an exclusive school when she was in Year 5. She was...
    brookelea brookelea 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    My 40 Year Old Daughter Is Saying Horrible Lies About Me

    MY 40 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER IS GETTING MARRIED IN MAY. SHE IS AN ONLY CHILD, VERY WANTED AND LOVED, HAD AN IDEAL CHILDHOOD WITH ALL THE ATTENTION AND CARING FROM HER FATHER AND ME. Since she went to college, she has been progressively making up stories of childhood abuse and lack of...
    islandwisher islandwisher 56-60, F 31 Responses Apr 1, 2012

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    Sacrifice To Break The Cycle Of Abuse

    I was naieve. I was younger 16yrs than my city extroverted puertorican latin from manhattan husband .. he was married with kid and he was adulterer and he chased me and manipulated and became my boss over me at corporate.. he sexual harrassed me and when i reported him to his bos...
    umninaandtoni umninaandtoni 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 10, 2013

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    My Daughter Hates Me

    I am a 50 year old mother of two older children. Their father and I ended our abusive marriage in 1995. He was the abusive one. It was hell for me breaking it off... I still loved him, but I knew in my heart that it was a very toxic situation for my two children to grow up in, so...
    Kathy747 Kathy747 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2012

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    To "My Daughter Hates Me"

    Your story struck so many chords for me. The main theme is that both of us tried to be too much to too many people, stretched ourselves to the breaking point and beyond, and have a grown daughter who cannot appreciate what we did. I have two daughters--one 25 and the other 30...
    Bwettergreen1 Bwettergreen1 61-65 Nov 16, 2013

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    This Is Killing Me

    My daughter, now age 18, has always been the light of my life. From the moment I held her in my arms seconds after she was delivered, I have done all that I can to show her how much I love her. I have made mistakes along the way, but up until about a year...
    skooz skooz 46-50, M 4 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    My Daughter Is Spoiled And A Liar.

    I lost custody when she was 7. He's very rich and has many political connections. When she came here, of her own accord, at 17, I enrolled her in school immediately. I gave her the best I had. She had the haircut when we could not afford it. I did not. I underwent surgery...
    kbellrichard kbellrichard 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    My Daughter Is Getting Married....& I'm Not Invited..

    My youngest daughter was only 1 when her dad died, so she never knew him. Over the years she became very spoiled both by myself & my parents. She hasn't changed in fact it got worse, and her attitude is of a snobby, un-appreciative individual.We haven't gotten along since she was...
    mlkmrebel mlkmrebel 56-60, F 21 Responses Mar 14, 2011

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    Expecting The Impossible

    For 8 years I have been trying to get my daughter to "let go" of the past and she doesn't. We had a close relationship when she was little,but now she can't stand me and wants nothing to do with me. She blames me for her stuggles with relationships that she's had.(Her Father...
    hurkieandme hurkieandme 61-65, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    I Used To Tell My Mom I Hated Her

    i'm 23 now but when i was about 13-15 i devoloped this deep hatred for my mother for no reason at all. My mother i the best mother anyone could ask for. our family wasn't exactly poor but we werent rich either i guess you could say we were lower middle class. i came from a huge...
    muffinsbaby muffinsbaby 22-25 3 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    Forming A Support Group Here On EP

    Hello everyone: Since I first wrote my story a year ago, I have journeyed through the grief of a daughter who decided she does not want a relationship with me. I have not seen her or talked with her since the summer of 2012. It's been a long road since then and I'm...
    ThisTooShallPass3 ThisTooShallPass3 51-55, F 4 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    Well , so far nothing has changed.

    It only seems to get worse. My daughter, son in law and 7 kids were evicted yet again because they live beyond their means and do not pay their bills. I could not stand to see them homeless so I talked my husband into renting them a house he had purchased to earn retirement...
    sheduntno sheduntno 56-60, F 5 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    My daughter does not hate me,

    but she acts like it. I just found out through facebook that she has a boyfriend, and have always found out about boyfriends and breakups on facebook. I see that her new boyfriend's mom is already following and commenting about her and I talked to my daughter two days ago with...
    lad7466 lad7466 46-50, F Jul 11

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    Daughter Rejecting Parents

    When I was seven months pregnant with my daughter, my first husband died in an airplane crash. I feel that she has had a very good upbringing and education. She is now married with two beautiful sons that we have not seen in almost a year.My husband and I made it possible for her...
    judini judini 61-65, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    I'm absolutely beside myself with anguish over

    the verbal, emotional and legal abuse my own daughter has been putting me through. I divorced her cheating father when she was eleven. He had been very abusive toward me for seventeen years, and was an alcoholic and a drug user. I had been sober many years. Our marriage...
    MamaMusic MamaMusic 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    My 19yr Old Daughter Hates Me

    My daughter wasnt even born when i split from her voilent abusive dad. I managed to obtain an injuction to keep him away from me for life after a particularly savage beating. He ended up serving 13 years in jail for attempted murder( he chopped a guy's arm off with a machete).I...
    planetbassett planetbassett 41-45 1 Response Aug 2, 2011

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    My Daughter Disowned My Family. She Hates Me!

    Well..... My story begins with my daughter and I being best friends and with each other daily for 26 years. I had my daughter at 17 so we were extremely close. I have been through a lot in my life so I don't trust very many people. I trusted my daughter completely. We decided to...
    marykay2677 marykay2677 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    My daughter within the last 3 yrs has been

    going around saying she had a horrible childhood that I was a horrible mother and that I never said I lived her. She is now 27 yrs old. I am speechless I don't understand where this is coming from. She grew up in a home with 2 loving parents grandparents and a close family. She...
    speechless219 speechless219 46-50, F 1 Response May 30

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    I decided to share my story with hopes of

    helping people who have estranged adult children. I'm in no way saying this is why but I'm going to share my experience and why I disassociated myself from my parents. I'm 28 years old with 3 children ages 6, 3 and a newborn. I have 2 older brothers and two sisters. One younger...
    mirandis mirandis 26-30 2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    My daughter is over 40 years old.

    As she defines it we have issues. Issues that go back 30 plus years. When she was in her late teens and 20's, she constantly blamed all of her problems on me. Her dad is the good guy. I have apologies over and over for any and all things I have done to hurt. I am bipolar and...
    insightplease insightplease 66-70, F Jun 22

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    I have a 30 year old daughter

    that I am concerned about. She does not feel I love her unconditionally. I think she has real emotional and alcohol issues and she blames me for all of them. She does not have any relationship with one of her brothers and actually hates him. He did do some bad things to her...
    badmama3 badmama3 61-65, F 2 Responses May 12

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    Grown Daughter Hates Me

    My married daughter imagined herself in love with another guy she knew from her childhood.  He was in prison for 3 years for multiple DUI's and when he got out she scouted him down online and they began an online relationship that she said lasted for 4 months.  A few days after...
    cyung cyung 61-65 1 Response Apr 30, 2012

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    Not Sure Why, But She Hates Me...

    I have 5 children.....well, my husband and I do.  When we met, we each had 2 children.  I had 2 boys.  He had 2 girls.  We have since added another daughter.  His first wife, the two oldest girls' mother died when the girls were 4 years old and 11 months...
    AmbersMom AmbersMom 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 10, 2009

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    My 19 Year Old College Student Daughter Hates Me...Why?

    My 19-year old daughter just finished her freshman year of college and emailed me last week to say that she never ways to see me again because I was a terrible mother who emotionally and physically abused her and never loved her. She went on and on to tell me what a complete...
    MomNoMore2U MomNoMore2U 51-55, F 14 Responses May 7, 2013

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    It seems to be a common theme.

    ..daughters hating their mothers. I have 5 daughters and two sons. The sons are 14 and 21 and are grateful for the love and nurture. The 21 year old recently told me how he "wouldn't be where he is if it weren't for me". How refreshing because one of my daughter's who is 25 this...
    megamomx7 megamomx7 46-50 1 Response Jan 29

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    My 19 Year Old Daughter Acts Like She Hates Me

    She's mad at me because we don't have much food in the house. When she was looking for something to eat I told her to stop slamming things around. She yelled at me that "It's not MY fault you can't afford to buy groceries!" That hurt. I hate for her to go without, so I work 2...
    jodeen jodeen 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 10, 2013

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    Simply Hatred

    My daughter hates me.  It's a simple hatred, if hatred can be simple.  I have been lambasted for caring, accused of "smothering" and shown exactly her feelings on Christmas Day, 2009. My daughter is a former psychology major.  She does not benefit from...
    sampsosm sampsosm 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 27, 2009

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    Counting The Days...........

    Well, here it is, COUNT DOWN TIME. Daughter is getting Married in a few weeks. June 1st at 5:30 pm. I haven't been sleeping all that great.. thought I was coming down with something. Then I realized I wasn't getting sick with the flu I was getting "sick" with heartache. I know...
    hurkieandme hurkieandme 61-65, F 2 Responses May 14, 2013

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    Daughter Also Hates Me... It Hurts But... Thats Life..

    I met him at college, got pregnant and  we left..Her said he would find work. Huh. joke of the century. He' stood by me' in a smothering way...as I would have had an abortion, had I been left alone.  THe disgrace with the family and church etc. was too much to handle and so I...
    AmIreallyAlone AmIreallyAlone 51-55, F 3 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    This is a long post,

    but the issues go way back. I was a single parent to my daughter from the time she was 2-1/2. A few years later I remarried and had a son from that marriage. The marriage lasted 3 years. So she had a stepfather from age 6 - 10 roughly. My son had oppositional defiant...
    Wondering4life Wondering4life 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 7

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    My Daughter Hates Me

    I am a single parent of a 14 year old daughter.  Her father has been entirely out of her life for most of her life.  He does not pay child support.  I do not have any family living nearby.  I have friends, but I am embarrassed to tell them what goes on in my...
    eileens5 eileens5 46-50 5 Responses Sep 19, 2010

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    I Thought I Was Alone!

    My 19 year old daughter hates me too. I googled this and was shocked to see I am not alone. My daughter is not your typical 19 year old. She has some issues, not sure what.. ADD? Depression? Now she is pregnant and moved in with her boyfriend. We got inot an arguement at...
    angvv angvv 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 27, 2009

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    Sharing the Heartache

    Strange this group is here but there are no stories???   On Valentine's day this week,  I was excited to see an email from my one and only daughter, Deanna, 36yrs old and a brilliant, intelligent woman.  But what a shock!  Instead of a valentine, it was a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 21, 2009

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    What to do? I raised her pretty much alone,

    her father refused to get a job and take care of us, got busted for dealing coke and left us when she was 2. I had to track him down, call him in another state, and remind him 3 years later that he had a child. I worked 2 or 3 jobs, sometimes into the night, to provide a home...
    lostmomofone lostmomofone 46-50, F Feb 18

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    I Thought I Was The Only One

    My daughter is 33 years old, she had given me three beautiful grand daughters. I said "had" because I am not allowed to see or talk to them anymore. I recently said hello to the youngest child (8) at a ball game and she yelled at me to "leave". This same grand child cried two...
    BrokenMom1950 BrokenMom1950 61-65, F 5 Responses Jun 22, 2013

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    My Daughter Doesn'T Want Me In Her Life.

    I am 56 and the mother of 2 children. I was in a terrible marriage for 17 years and the only good thing to come of it were my 2 kids. I live them both dearly but I hate their behavior. They are 32 and 27. My ex was a ladies man and the final straw was having a relationship with...
    leeperdeb leeperdeb 56-60, F 4 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    I have been divorced

    for 10 years with two kids my eldest daughter turned on me this week and blamed her psychological issues on me. Since the divorce my ex has denied access on many occasions and now my daughter claims that I don't care and have never wanted to be part of their lives. I'm...
    gnj10k gnj10k 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    My Daughter Hates My Guts

    hi let me start off by saying that I am a 34yrs old newlywed mother of 4.For as long as my daughter can remember I was a single mom. My daughter is 19yrs old,yes I was a teen mom at the age of 14yrs old.In the early years my age played apart in our...
    BABYDOLL101 BABYDOLL101 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 17, 2009

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    My Daughter And I

    Since the age of 13 I wanted to be all grown up. I was rebellious, strong willed and bad ungrateful girl that wanted to burn my own bridges. I was a latch key kid and my mother and stepfather did the best the could to raise me. I struggled in school and failed all the time...
    Jeanette1234 Jeanette1234 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2013

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    Only Seven

    I'm not going to say I'm the best mom. I know I could do things different. Maybe if I stayed home. Maybe if my brother didn't die. Maybe if my husband and I got along better. Maybe if I didn't have a second child. Then I think back and my daughter has always rebelled...
    Patcheloujl Patcheloujl 36-40 1 Response Apr 8, 2013

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    She Would Rather Have Her Dad Alive And Dead...

    My Daughter was five years old when we divorced. I had a two year run of parties and fun. I admitted to not being the best Mom in the world...but surely not the worst. I always had a sitter, they were always fed, clothes washed, house clean and I got up in the morning and walked...
    vznevada vznevada 61-65, F 6 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    No Motherly Connection Now Daughter Hates Me

    As a girl growing up I did not babysit for money like other girls my age. I got a job in a cleaning facility. I never felt comfortable around children, and had no desire to have any of my own. I married young (19) because I was pregnant & we thought that is what we were supposed...
    Whodog Whodog 56-60, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2013

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    Same Situation With Son :(

    Hi! Are people still on? I'm unable to tell if this thread is a few years old or not. I have the same exact situation going on with my 28 year old and could sure use some support. Thanks :-). Tracy
    Tasnbay Tasnbay 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    My Adult Child Has No Love For Me, And Now Seems To Feel Hatred

    We were overjoyed when we were able to adopt our 3 month old darling baby girl. We had just about given up all hope when she came to us.  She was our treasure and we spoiled her and sacrificed gladly to give her all we possibly could.  She is now in her 30s and has 2 beautiful...
    bmd3423 bmd3423 61-65, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    My Adult Daughter Hates Me: My Story

    My only daughter hates me. She is 27. Sometimes when I grieve for her and cry for her, I vivid memory come to me--- a day I was sitting out in the backyard and the school bus dropped her off in front of the house. My little girl with her long brown hair, came running to me...
    ThisTooShallPass3 ThisTooShallPass3 51-55, F 36 Responses Aug 12, 2012

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    My Daughter Wishes I Was Not Her Mom

    I have a 15 yr old beautiful daughter who I love more than anything in the world!..She's bright, funny, sweet and has such a big heart..She also like most teens her age is slobby, mouthy, ungrateful, forgetful, and in general turning into someone I honestly don't like very much...
    kooka69 kooka69 41-45 Jul 19, 2013

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    My Daughter Really Hates Me.

    My daughter has always been very strong willed and defiant. She is now 16 and my life with her has been a series of fights, power struggles, pain and misery. I have always considered myself a good mom. I gave my daughter the best I could afford, we took yearly family vacations, I...
    taylor426 taylor426 46-50 9 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    It's not an old story but I never thought that he'll use the kids against me. I left because I had enough of his philandering while accusing me of having an affair aside from...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 13

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    She has been criticising me ever since I gained weight. I never heard any nice words from me, it's like she hates me for being fat and doing something about it. Now that I've been...
    Jelliii Jelliii 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My Foster Mother hates me... I work at a bank... She demands $550 of rent money from me, yet uses it to pay her boyfriend to drug me... One night, I have her $200 in rent money...
    HUMAN2BME HUMAN2BME 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    What more is there to think...he picks at something all the time. My jokes, my clothes, the fact that I can't party like him and our friends, the things I say, the way the house...
    aceventura21 aceventura21 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I can't do this anymore....I don't hate her but I can't take her behavior and more so the fact nobody will help her/do anything about it. Sometimes it's fine but about fifty per...
    porcellina porcellina 31-35, F Aug 22

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    My Dad keeps on trying to convince me that It's "Just a phase" & all that jazz. My Mum doesn't mind that I'm gay, she's suspected It from the start. He's always been obsessed with...
    KMargatroid KMargatroid 16-17, F 4 days ago