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I My Husband Doesn't Want Me, But Loves Me

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    I Live In A Sexless Marriage

    My husband had colo/rectal cancer 6 years ago and his surgery left him impotent for life. There is nothing we can do other than an implant. He has a colostomy bag which is permanent and I know he doesn't like his body and that's part of the problem but the other part is he says...
    marchandheidi marchandheidi 46-50 2 Responses Feb 8, 2012

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    My Husband Doesnt Want Me Sexually

    My husband and  I have been together for 3 years. 1 year married. And I guess i am the stupid one because its been like this for the whole time. I just thought it would change after we were married. He will talk about sex and what he wants to do to me but it never happens. I...
    precious1066 precious1066 41-45, F 12 Responses Nov 16, 2009

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    I Live In Sexles Marriage

    i don't know what to do my husband doesn't want to touch me. every night its something different and i don't know what to do i try my best to help but i am about to give up. i feel like the only reason he married me was so he would have a free house keeper and cook. that's all i...
    mjmjr12 mjmjr12 22-25 4 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    He Won't Admit There's A Problem...

    I've been married 10 years. We've been together 11.5 years. When we first got together, for the first 2-3 years, I guess, the sex was great. Then, all of a sudden, it stopped. Eventually, things snowballed and got to the point where I left for a long time. Our lack of sex...
    losingit247 losingit247 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    I Did The "good Girl" Thing & This Is My Reward.....

     I met my husband through one of NYs underground communities. We became very close and over time nursed a 3 & 1/2 yr long distance relationship.  By the Winter of 2010, I packed my things and moved (driving over 5,000 miles on my own) to plan our wedding. We decided that we...
    ladysaraphine ladysaraphine 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 23, 2011

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    I Don't Know What To Do

    im 23 and my husband is 25 we have been married for almost 4yrs. but after like a year and 1/2 of beeing married he didn't want nothing to do with me when it came to sex. i had to start all the time and after i had my first kid we would do it maybe once every two months and now...
    idontknow1988 idontknow1988 22-25 Apr 18, 2012

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    Lonely But Present

    I have been married for three years.  I have been with my husband for six.  I thought I had found this new wonderful romance..full of excitement, love and adventure.  My husband and I had many of the same interest and goals.  We loved social activities, lots...
    reachdebra reachdebra 41-45 Dec 17, 2010

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    I Don't Know How To Act......

    I have been married for 6 years and we still don't have any children  because my husband doesn't want to have sex with me.He is very nice to me always hugs me and kisses me ...but that's all.He never do something that shows that he wants me.People around often says that I...
    marijanakostadinoska marijanakostadinoska 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 26, 2010

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    So Tired Of Fighting Over Sex, I Need To Vent..

    So here's my story. We've been together for a little over 4 years, married for 6 months. The problems started a about 1 year and a half ago though. When we first met, I was a virgen. I wasn't necessarily saving my self for marriage, but just for someone whom I truly loved and...
    deniedwife deniedwife 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    Perfect Husband But Not Interested In Sex

    we've bin married for 3 years and jus got a kid. he is a great father, works hard to provide us with everything we need. comes home late due to work. if something makes me unhappy he would try to make it better but over a month now he comes home and goes to bed without want to...
    tears08 tears08 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2012

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    My Couple Doesn'T Want Me Anymore!!!

    We have been together for 6years now and at the beginning of our relationship it was wonderful, we would have sex at least 3 times a week, now I'm lucky if I have any sex every 3 months. I have asked him why this is happening, I've dressed up and done as much as I could and I'm...
    jenasc84 jenasc84 26-30 May 27, 2013

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    Desire

    my husband and i meet in 8th grade and dated all of high school. I loved him more than anything and trusted him completely and totally, never doubted him. I can remember other girls saying "don't ever trust guys you will get hurt, all guys will cheat". I would reply "no not who i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 16, 2010

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    I Dont Understand!

    My husband has not paid any attention to me for years. **** why start now right? It has been over for awhile now, we both know this! It doesnt and wont get any better. I never understood and never will why he doesnt want me but loves me! If you love someone as much as he says he...
    kiki1956 kiki1956 56-60, F 6 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    No Sex

    I have been married for a little less than two years. I am forty my husband is 47 . I could have sex at least once a day . when we were dating  we had sex sometimes a couple times a day . now since we get married he dosent want since . i have to beg for 1 a week. i have been...
    u57287 u57287 36-40 6 Responses Apr 19, 2011

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    After 10 Years

    My husband told me that he loves me,  but he is not connected to me sexually. I dont know if I should let him go or work for our marriage. We have a 2 year old baby girl... help!
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses May 14, 2008

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    Iliasm

    if you are contributinmg here or reading here because you share this experience, may I recommend you join the "I Live in a Sexless Marriage" forum?You will find a lot of people there who are very familiar with your situation, who understand where you are coming from and who can...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 2 Responses Apr 23, 2011

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    What Does It Even Mean?

    My husband said this to me tonight. We were talking about a huge fight we had a few days ago. And by huge I really mean huge. Things were fine after but playing on my mind. I kept quiet for a few days but it all got the better of me tonight. I asked him where our relationship...
    Dahna Dahna 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    Soo Confused

    Hi all...I am a very confused wife... My hubby is amazing, perfect for me in every way but one...He never wants to have sex unless he is horny....I am not saying I am the type that wants it all the time everyday, but two or three times a week would be great...He has fetishes...
    mizztman mizztman 31-35, F Sep 12, 2012

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    I still love him but haven't forgiven him for breaking my heart. Yesterday I was suppose to go on a date. Instead of getting ready for new date, I was browsing his twitter and...
    ShineBrightLikeADiamond112 ShineBrightLikeADiamond112 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I miss him so much. I thought that I would be okay because I'm the one that ended it but I'm not. It's not fair that he can be so happy after everything he did to me and I'm left...
    scar7136 scar7136 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    Can't figure out what happened in our marriage. It was so perfect to the both of us, until a year ago. Since than he has stopped telling me he loves me and tells me he loves me as...
    OneWayHisWay OneWayHisWay 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    I feel like my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore. Hello everyone, me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 2 months now. In the beginning, also before we became a...
    blakexoxo blakexoxo 18-21, F 17 hrs ago

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    She doesn't love me because I remind her too much of my father. I haven't spoken a word to here within the last six months besides a merry Christmas text. I didn't get a "Happy...
    Jessica0906 Jessica0906 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    I wish I could stop missing someone who doesn't miss me. I can almost accept him with someone else, but I lost my best friend too.
    ashez2ashes ashez2ashes 26-30, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    David, Sometimes I wonder what is is I’m supposed to do… what it is that would dull the pain I feel just being alive. It’s hard, going day to day without having the one...
    DancingWithFire DancingWithFire 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    Actually this is not true. What doesn't kill you tends to weaken you and leave you more susceptible to fatal events in the near future. A first heart attack or stroke make not kill...
    ToughEddie ToughEddie 31-35, M Apr 4

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    I thought a lot as a child that it always felt a bit different with me and my mother. I could cry whine etc. until the sun came down and she'd either ignore me or reprimand me and...
    Ananananan12 Ananananan12 22-25 Apr 4

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    I like this friend but I don't know if I'm falling for him. He doesn't feel the same way about me. I know it because I know who he likes :( I accompanied him when he bought...
    missinvisiblegirl missinvisiblegirl 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I first encountered him as a crush. I have always had a crush on him. He is white I'm native so their is a big difference in our popularity scale. Of course I am not as pretty as...
    Inlovewithtecher Inlovewithtecher 16-17, F Mar 23

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    My boyfriend of 7 years has no respect for me. We have a beautiful little girl that's about to be 2 next month. I always catch him spying on his exes and other random girls. I've...
    Ireallycantsay Ireallycantsay 22-25, F 11 Responses Mar 27

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    Forgetting someone that you've loved whom never love you back can be reasonable. But it's hardd!
    Ph24689 Ph24689 16-17, M Mar 29

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    It's been a while since I've posted here, but it I love it when it says "welcome home" when I log in, it feels like it was recent ago when I shared my story and it's really...
    WellisntThisjustPeachy WellisntThisjustPeachy 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 29

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    My mother is awful. I can't even explain how much she's tortured my sisters and I over the years. She makes us think that she will actually be a mother. And when she's gained our...
    agirltoremember agirltoremember 13-15, F Apr 1

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    We always fall for this who don't feel the same Only just realise my other half doesn't love me like a girlfriend he loves me like a friend but sad that he want to me around...
    Lisalocket1225 Lisalocket1225 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    I have wanted this guy for over a year. We would be together all the time. I would sleep over almost every night. He make me happy. He fills that empty hole I feel inside. He even...
    Ravenfairie Ravenfairie 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am in love with someone who doesn't love me back or doesn't show it. I know I shouldn't be but the heart wants what the hearts and I want himmmmm! 😍😍
    toyamanaskieeee toyamanaskieeee 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    It's not Love at First Sigh nor First Love. I suddenly found a boy who looks like my ex on Facebook. After breaking up with my ex, I started to be impressed by him. His name is T.D...
    happytoseeyoueveryday happytoseeyoueveryday 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I believe it doesn't for me, but it does for most people. I just happen to have never really grown up, so I've always been an infant in an "adult" world, and a scared infant of...
    phil3gee phil3gee 70+, M Mar 31

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    I am in love with someone who doesn't know me. Even though he is not appear in front of me everyday but he aura always with me.. I am clueless if he is notice about my existing.
    tzyt tzyt 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    Ooh, I suppose, everybody have felt such type of love "I love, but he/she doesn't love me" Ye, it's painfully. But there's nothing to do. It may be. Love doesn't depend on us. We...
    Korsika Korsika 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    Everything came down to this, her answer.. Her answer to be mine? Was a yes. I was thrilled, so was she. A week or two went by and we already exchanged I love you's. I meant it...
    irespectyou irespectyou 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    I fell for someone last year. He doesn't like me. 😕
    Aidan500 Aidan500 13-15, M Apr 11

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    When I got really big with our son, we completely stopped having sex. For like 3 months straight. Even though I expressed my concerns to him repeatedly nothing changed. Not even...
    karenjposey012213 karenjposey012213 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I'm pregnant and we never have sex. I want to but he doesn't, it makes me feel insecure. He's a sexual person and now suddenly he's not... Also I often please him oraly, but he...
    itsmejocey itsmejocey 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    This was something I thought was a phase, but the more I grow older, the more I realize that I truly would find more peace without being in a marriage. I'm going to turn 23. Today...
    franny21 franny21 22-25, F Apr 9

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    My friend never touched a piano until last week when we got him a keyboard. He doesn't know sheet music and is learning by ear. Within the past week he has already learned 3 songs...
    byssaa byssaa 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    It sucks when you're ignored by the person whose attention is the only thing you want in the world. Ever since this girl first walked into our school, I couldn’t take my eyes...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 1

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    Well I given up on my family, I left my mom, ignore my father for so long, and I always felt so left out from my brothers and sister. I was never close with my father, I was never...
    DaylightAly DaylightAly 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    Coworkers. . . My job as much work as I do getting paid really **** for it has made me realize somethings. I've met some people that have become like family to me. Their opinions...
    TaurasiWade TaurasiWade 18-21, F Apr 6

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    I have had hives for 13 years now. Some of them appear small and some cover half my body. I've tried medicine after medicine and the only thing that controls them is three 180mg of...
    Jordynlab Jordynlab 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 22

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