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I My Husband Doesn't Want Me, But Loves Me

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    I Don't Know What To Do

    im 23 and my husband is 25 we have been married for almost 4yrs. but after like a year and 1/2 of beeing married he didn't want nothing to do with me when it came to sex. i had to start all the time and after i had my first kid we would do it maybe once every two months and now...
    idontknow1988 idontknow1988 22-25 Apr 18, 2012

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    Iliasm

    if you are contributinmg here or reading here because you share this experience, may I recommend you join the "I Live in a Sexless Marriage" forum?You will find a lot of people there who are very familiar with your situation, who understand where you are coming from and who can...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 2 Responses Apr 23, 2011

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    After 10 Years

    My husband told me that he loves me,  but he is not connected to me sexually. I dont know if I should let him go or work for our marriage. We have a 2 year old baby girl... help!
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses May 14, 2008

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    My Couple Doesn'T Want Me Anymore!!!

    We have been together for 6years now and at the beginning of our relationship it was wonderful, we would have sex at least 3 times a week, now I'm lucky if I have any sex every 3 months. I have asked him why this is happening, I've dressed up and done as much as I could and I'm...
    jenasc84 jenasc84 26-30 May 27, 2013

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    He Won't Admit There's A Problem...

    I've been married 10 years. We've been together 11.5 years. When we first got together, for the first 2-3 years, I guess, the sex was great. Then, all of a sudden, it stopped. Eventually, things snowballed and got to the point where I left for a long time. Our lack of sex...
    losingit247 losingit247 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    I Did The "good Girl" Thing & This Is My Reward.....

     I met my husband through one of NYs underground communities. We became very close and over time nursed a 3 & 1/2 yr long distance relationship.  By the Winter of 2010, I packed my things and moved (driving over 5,000 miles on my own) to plan our wedding. We decided that we...
    ladysaraphine ladysaraphine 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 23, 2011

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    I Live In Sexles Marriage

    i don't know what to do my husband doesn't want to touch me. every night its something different and i don't know what to do i try my best to help but i am about to give up. i feel like the only reason he married me was so he would have a free house keeper and cook. that's all i...
    mjmjr12 mjmjr12 22-25 4 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    Soo Confused

    Hi all...I am a very confused wife... My hubby is amazing, perfect for me in every way but one...He never wants to have sex unless he is horny....I am not saying I am the type that wants it all the time everyday, but two or three times a week would be great...He has fetishes...
    mizztman mizztman 31-35, F Sep 12, 2012

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    What Does It Even Mean?

    My husband said this to me tonight. We were talking about a huge fight we had a few days ago. And by huge I really mean huge. Things were fine after but playing on my mind. I kept quiet for a few days but it all got the better of me tonight. I asked him where our relationship...
    Dahna Dahna 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    Perfect Husband But Not Interested In Sex

    we've bin married for 3 years and jus got a kid. he is a great father, works hard to provide us with everything we need. comes home late due to work. if something makes me unhappy he would try to make it better but over a month now he comes home and goes to bed without want to...
    tears08 tears08 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2012

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    Lonely But Present

    I have been married for three years.  I have been with my husband for six.  I thought I had found this new wonderful romance..full of excitement, love and adventure.  My husband and I had many of the same interest and goals.  We loved social activities, lots...
    reachdebra reachdebra 41-45 Dec 17, 2010

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    My Husband Doesnt Want Me Sexually

    My husband and  I have been together for 3 years. 1 year married. And I guess i am the stupid one because its been like this for the whole time. I just thought it would change after we were married. He will talk about sex and what he wants to do to me but it never happens. I...
    precious1066 precious1066 41-45, F 12 Responses Nov 16, 2009

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    Desire

    my husband and i meet in 8th grade and dated all of high school. I loved him more than anything and trusted him completely and totally, never doubted him. I can remember other girls saying "don't ever trust guys you will get hurt, all guys will cheat". I would reply "no not who i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 16, 2010

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    I Dont Understand!

    My husband has not paid any attention to me for years. **** why start now right? It has been over for awhile now, we both know this! It doesnt and wont get any better. I never understood and never will why he doesnt want me but loves me! If you love someone as much as he says he...
    kiki1956 kiki1956 56-60, F 6 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    So Tired Of Fighting Over Sex, I Need To Vent..

    So here's my story. We've been together for a little over 4 years, married for 6 months. The problems started a about 1 year and a half ago though. When we first met, I was a virgen. I wasn't necessarily saving my self for marriage, but just for someone whom I truly loved and...
    deniedwife deniedwife 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    I Live In A Sexless Marriage

    My husband had colo/rectal cancer 6 years ago and his surgery left him impotent for life. There is nothing we can do other than an implant. He has a colostomy bag which is permanent and I know he doesn't like his body and that's part of the problem but the other part is he says...
    marchandheidi marchandheidi 46-50 2 Responses Feb 8, 2012

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    I Don't Know How To Act......

    I have been married for 6 years and we still don't have any children  because my husband doesn't want to have sex with me.He is very nice to me always hugs me and kisses me ...but that's all.He never do something that shows that he wants me.People around often says that I...
    marijanakostadinoska marijanakostadinoska 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 26, 2010

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    No Sex

    I have been married for a little less than two years. I am forty my husband is 47 . I could have sex at least once a day . when we were dating  we had sex sometimes a couple times a day . now since we get married he dosent want since . i have to beg for 1 a week. i have been...
    u57287 u57287 36-40 6 Responses Apr 19, 2011

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