I My Husband Had An Affair

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    14 days since he came clean about the affair.

    Was going great then relapse! There I was trying to dig and search for old conversations the two of them may have had. Why do I torture myself. I have forgiven him. I love him. We are doing good. I still worry there could be contact. Why am I still holding on to seething so...
    kaigeshadowwalker kaigeshadowwalker
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Feb 12, 2014

    I found out a few days ago

    that my husband had an affair last year. It knocked me on my ***. I couldn't breathe, think, eat, sleep.. Nothing at all.. I confronted him a few days after about it and he explained everything to me but now the problem is I can't trust or believe anything he's saying to me...
    Tina2249 Tina2249
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2014

    My Husband Had Affairs.

    Where to start?  We have been married for over 20 years.  In 2003, the day after  Mother's Day, my husband tells me that he has had series of one night stands when he was away on business for the whole time we were married.  It started while we were dating, he...
    tnidiot tnidiot
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Nov 12, 2009

    I was doing good Them bam a trigger Now I feel

    like I am spiraling down hill
    kaigeshadowwalker kaigeshadowwalker
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2014

    The Truth - An Excerpt From My Blog

    He answered the call like any other.  What are you doing?  I told him I had spoken with John and Rachel.  He said, "And..."  I talked to him about what the couple had shared with me.  Rachel knew details.  I rambled on a bit and finally I asked him...
    fromthisdayforward fromthisdayforward
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Dec 9, 2010

    I have been with my husband

    for 30 years. I suspected him of cheating with a co-worker about 5 years ago but just didn't have proof. Two month ago the proof fell in my lap. He got a new cell phone and gave the old one to my 4 year old grandson to play games on. A few days later one of the older kids...
    pam6761 pam6761
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2014

    My 21 year relationship with my husband/high

    school sweetheart/best friend came to a screeching halt on 9/20/13. My husband confessed to having a one year affair with a woman and he was in love with her. My life has been a true roller coaster for the past four months. I found this site because I googled 'want to talk to...
    jerseyladyn609 jerseyladyn609
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Feb 5, 2014

    Trying To Forgive And Rebuild.

     I have been married for almost 2 years. My husband is very affectionate and loving and I took that for granted. I put everything else, kids, work, school, before him and our marriage. He told me many times that this was a big problem. Our sex life sucked because I did not see...
    try2love try2love
    1 Response Mar 21, 2011

    Still Hurting

    After 30 years of marriage I discovered that my husband just ended an affair that had lasted for 7 years.  During that time, he frequently talked about "his friend.  I didn't know her, yet I knew much about her and it wasn't until 4 years into it that I began to...
    Princessofsails Princessofsails
    9 Responses Apr 10, 2009

    I Am Starting To Feel Like Myself Again

    Last week at work I was taken back when someone said to me, "it's nice to see you smile again, you have been so sad." I wonder how many people have noticed. I tried to hide the pain. The first days I wore sunglasses all day. I didn't care when people asked why I had them on. I...
    Teacher3 Teacher3
    3 Responses May 12, 2013

    My Husband Had An Affair &Amp; Again

    My husband had an affair and my entire life came coaching down ! I luv him so much but OMG I hate him ! I wanna stay with him cause I luv him and hav 2 young boys, but I just wanna make him suffer by leaving , but then again easier said than done. We never talk about it and ther...
    Yollie17 Yollie17
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 6, 2013

    My Husband Had An Affair. He Is Now My Ex-husband.

    Yes, my husband had an affair. At first I fought. I fought so hard to get my husband to choose me over her. I hated her. I didn't hate him. I was all screwed up. We had only been married for a year and a half when I found out he had been cheating for six months. I decided to...
    jlb0505 jlb0505
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 26, 2012

    Broken And Untrusting

    I have been married for four years now to my second husband. We have five children all together, yours, mine and ours so to say. My husband was deployed to Iraq early in our marriage and of course this was hard but I thought we were strong and would be ok. We made it through the...
    bustedheart bustedheart
    31-35, F
    Dec 22, 2011

    How Hurt Would You Be?

    I’m curious about how people think of their lover after the affair......... Help me figure out how angry and hurt people are after being hurt by an affair.   Check out the survey........ “What Would You Do With The Pictures Left Over From Your Affair...
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2010

    I Just Learned My Husband Had An Affair 3 Years Ago.

    4 months ago-I learned my husband had an affair...3 years ago. I feel beyond betrayed, deceived & my heart is shattered. It's like the past 3 years were a lie. I feel like the butt of a very bad joke. I am embarrassed humiliated & I hurt so badly. I never thought I could love...
    Juliejkh Juliejkh
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Oct 27, 2013

    Guess this is me back again

    for my good ole therapy. You see after he came clean about the affair I was given a free pass. I get to explore the secret life of an affair. Me being a housewife I don't have much contact with other men. I have gotten on websites, chatted with guys on here, chatted with past...
    kaigeshadowwalker kaigeshadowwalker
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 17, 2014

    I Slso Had Those Dreams

    hey you are not alone i am still married but separated when i was with my husband he went out alot .i had many dreams he was having sex with other women i'd sometimes wake up climaxing but fureous wating for him to come home we would fight for hours on end he smell like someone...
    soniagl61 soniagl61
    Dec 9, 2009

    I Caught Him On Halloween

    I took a red eye home from a work trip mu husband was not home. I confronted him when he came home and he was honest with me about his affair. We have been married just over three years and dated for 8 before we got married. He was my best friend. My life ended the day I caught...
    MandaDBT123 MandaDBT123
    41-45, F
    Sep 17, 2013

    I just found out that my husband of 9 years,

    11 years together has been having an affair. We have no children. I confronted him, he denied and denied, got real loud and got real upset with me. If it wasn't for the screen shot I took of the text message on his cell phone, he would still be denying today. He apologized...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2016

    Empty After My Husband Cheated

    My husband and I have been married for 6 years this past Sept. We have a son who turned 5 this past Aug. Jan 1st. 2012 I had our second child a boy, on Feb. 1st. my husband came come from work and said he wanted to leave, three days later I saw his phone and there were pics of...
    momofgunns momofgunns
    Nov 9, 2012

    I Cannot Get Over It

    My husband and I were best friends starting in 8th grade and then started dating our senior year in high school, November 2008. Everything was perfect. We moved into my dads house a month before graduation and found out we were pregnant a month after graduation. A few months into...
    ThatConfusedGirl ThatConfusedGirl
    26-30, F
    Jun 7, 2012

    Keep An Eye On Your Friends With Your Man.

    My "loving" husband Who everyone thought was an angel along with me, used to worship the ground I walked on. We were so in love, or so I thought. For a while there though we were having a couple of problems, he started working more and I started feeling more and more...
    kate140879 kate140879
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 19, 2009

    My Husband Had An Affair With A Woman That Knew He Was Married

    I have been with my husband since I was 15 years old and I am 37 years old now. We have three kids together that are 19, 17 and 15 years old. I thought we were in a place in our relationship that we were happy and doing things together when BAM!!! I found out that he had been...
    stpetegirl stpetegirl
    1 Response Apr 13, 2012

    How I Got Back My Husband After Divorce

    (HOW I GOT BACK MY HUSBAND AFTER DIVORCE BY SPELL) I am from Canada, after six years in marriage with my husband with 3 kids, he suddenly started going out with other women and coming home late, each time i confronted him it turns out to be a fight and he always treathened to...
    Ihongbe Ihongbe
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

    Am I a Complete Idiot?

    After nearly 25 years of marriage, my husband left me and his home without a word of explanation. Through the year he was gone, I pleaded for an explanation, and when he would communicate with me, he would only say that he was unhappy and leaving was all about him. ...
    k325 k325
    3 Responses Jul 20, 2009

    I Outted The Mistress To Her Friends And Family

    I found out that my husband has had a number of affairs over the last 3 years, while I have been pregnant and raising our children. I was even in hospital with our newborn son while he was having an encounter with one of these women. I find this utterly selfish and hurtful. How...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 9, 2012


    I am stupid, stupid, stupid! Lord give the strength to walk away. Help me get my heart to listen to my mind. I'm intelligent, so why am I acting like a fool?
    Teacher3 Teacher3
    3 Responses May 23, 2013

    My Husband Had An Affair And I Am In So Much Pain

    My husband and I had been having some ups and downs in our relationship for a few years. I was suspicious that he had an emotional affair 5 years ago be he denied it then. Recently the same behaviors returned but more exaggerated. I noticed some strange behaviors, one of which...
    lawstudentrn lawstudentrn
    9 Responses May 26, 2012

    Hey guys it's been a while.

    I've been doing ok keeping busy with work and I started gym. My husband has been trying really hard to make things right. I've been having a very hard time. He took a trip and when he got back on my way to the airport my heart started aching. Out of nowhere I started having...
    Tina2249 Tina2249
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 6, 2015

    I have known my husband

    since we were in the 7th grade, but we didn't get together until after we graduated high school. I was in college and I became pregnant 2 years into our relationship. Fast forward 12 years later to being married and having our 2nd child... My husband is away on a 'business trip...
    chan50 chan50
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2014
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