I My Husband Had An Emotional Affair

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    The Wife Is The Last To Know....

    My husband and I have had a rocky road for quite some time.  I finally got sick of all of it and left him 5 years ago.  During that time I had absolutely no contact with him at all.  He didn't know where I resided and I didn't furnish that information.  I just wanted to be...
    laura2011 laura2011
    56-60, F
    Feb 2, 2011

    Before my husband and I began dating he had an

    affair with a married coworker. He had to quit his job and move away in order to stop it. Well he lost his job and had to move back, in the meantime I became pregnant. He had a hard time finding work so he took contract jobs for his previous employer. He interacted with her but...
    Trying2staypositive Trying2staypositive
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2014

    Emotional Affair With Memory Of First Love

    I have been married for what feels like forever. We had some wonderful times and some very distant times in our marriage. My problem is 35 years ago my husband dated a woman. It was his first relationship and she was married, with a child. He was very insecure and was overwhelmed...
    AnneJohnson AnneJohnson
    51-55
    3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

    About a year ago my husband had an emotional

    affair saw the woman on a few occasions and texted her frequently until he was caught. My daughter and I frequent a store here usually on our walks together. As soon as I walked in and looked up I realized who it was. It was the woman he had spent time with. Had drinks with and...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 19, 2014

    In my case the experience should read " my

    husband IS having an emotional affair " With half a dozen women on line! And doesn't feel that it has and will keep having a negative impact on our marriage. ( past history) my husband has cheated on me and for a lone time we have been living separate lives in the same house...
    Jofree Jofree
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 18, 2014

    Husband Still Having Emotional Affair

    To make a long story short my Husband goes to school with a young (20 year old) woman and began having an emotional affair with her.  We are currently in counseling, but he refused to give up the OW.  It is breaking my heart and I worry even more about how it will...
    saddlyblue saddlyblue
    26-30, F
    11 Responses Nov 25, 2009

    Husbands Emotional Affair Is Haunting Me

    I found out my husband was having an emotional affair last February. When I confronted him about the emails that I read and told him he had to leave, I was blown away by how ready and willing he was to go. The girl he was “involved” with worked with him and had a fianc...
    16mrsx 16mrsx
    41-45, F
    28 Responses Oct 21, 2013

    Why Does My Husband Feels The Need To Validate Other Women?

    I recently found EP and have spent days reading others stories. I have decided to share my own story with the hopes of aiding my self help therapy. My husband and I have recently married, both of us are middle aged and have been in relationships prior. We have been together 4...
    happyisashappydoes happyisashappydoes
    51-55
    Aug 20, 2013

    Three weeks ago I walked into a room

    and saw my husband almost kiss a friend of the family. It broke my heart in a million pieces. We have been together for 20 years, married for 17years. Three years ago I was diagnosed with chronic pain which leaves me unable to do the things I use to do. We were going through a...
    Nancy73 Nancy73
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 7, 2014

    My fiancé and I have been together

    for two years. (I'm not married, so if I'm not suppose to post here, I apologize) .... (We live together) (This is how I found out) I received a text message from our cellular provider that my fiancé had gone over his allowed data usage. I didn't really give it much thought...
    lilbugg lilbugg
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Apr 10, 2014

    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 3, 2014

    New Relationship- Emotional Affair.

    Hi all, I'm new to this site, I came across it when I was doing some research on emotional affairs. My boyfriend is currently having an emotional affair, and I don't know what to do. We have only been together for coming up to 4 months but things between us have moved fairly...
    user5011 user5011
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 1, 2012

    Believe Husband Is Having An Emotional Affair

    me and my husband jus got married in august. I live him very much but I am at a total cross roads. I feel like his co-worker and him has crossed boundaries. Every time we argue about the situation he either shut downs, flat out tells me he's never going to stop being friends, or...
    tia11689 tia11689
    22-25, F
    Oct 15, 2013

    So Sorry I Believed Him Before

    My husband had an emotional affair about 3 years ago;  I forgave him and he promised that he was done with it. We have been doing very good; in fact he constantly tells me how he loves our relationship now! Last Saturday I found out he has been back at for at least a year; I...
    nodoubt456789 nodoubt456789
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Sep 22, 2011

    My husband had an emotional affair with someone

    from his past. Hurt like hell to find out that after everything he and I went through, he would decide to go outside of our marriage for comfort...strange thing is, he was the one pulling away. He had the idea that married people didn't need the cuddling, the alone time, etc...
    purplepas purplepas
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Feb 26, 2014

    My husband had an emotional affair.

    He denies it, will only admit that it was an inappropriate friendship. Perhaps that's how men think? Anyway, this woman was coming on to him...he took me on nights out with this work friend and others. I could clearly see she had designs on him and I told him that. But I was...
    Tara1123 Tara1123
    46-50
    Mar 11

    Don't know where to start.

    I'm in a 15 year relationship with a man who is 12 years younger than me. He knew I couldn't have children when we first met. We had moved to his home town about 10years ago. We now live in the house he was brought up in. Three years ago my youngest son from previous...
    wpereira wpereira
    46-50
    1 Response May 27, 2015

    My husband had a 4 month long emotional affair

    with a woman he knew from HS. I found out 3 weeks ago. They never had any physical contact, but talked sexually to each other and told each other they were in love. I am trying to move forward, but I having a hard time. He has cut off all contact with her, but she continues to...
    nrnr50 nrnr50
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 28, 2014

    How Can You Hurt Someone You Have Loved So Much?

    My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and have definitely had our ups and downs.  We have always been in love and never lacked in our attraction for each other.  For all his faults, I never expected my husband to be unfaithful.  His first wife...
    KimmyH KimmyH
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 22, 2010

    I found out about an emotional affair

    that my husband was involved in on April 1st. He assures me that he has had no contact with her, but I am super paranoid!!! I have become obsessed and need some tips on how to get over it.
    statham18 statham18
    36-40, F
    Jul 24, 2014

    My Husband Has Reconnected With His First Love

    My husband of 19 years (been together for 23 years) has reconnected with his first love that is married, lives in Iran and has a boyfriend for the past 5 years. She FB requested him while we were going through a tough time, now he thinks it's destiny.......he is madly in love...
    lindadso lindadso
    46-50
    2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

    My Husbands Emotional Affair

    My husbands emotional affair happened 1 1/2 years ago, but Iam still trying to deal with it. The pain and hurt is getting better and Iam finding out that Iam starting to gain more trust back with my husband. My husband one morning decided to spring on me we need to divorce or...
    pennsy pennsy
    41-45
    9 Responses Aug 27, 2009

    Emotional Affair Causes Other Women To Be Beaten

    I admit I neglected my husband for many years, I was physically hurt and had many medical problems which led to severe depresstion. I barely got out of bed. He was great the whole time (I thought). we had many talks I thought we were at a understanding about how things in our...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 12, 2013

    Emotional Affairs Are Devastating To A Marriage

    I have been married to this man for 45 years.  We have had 45 years of a good marriage with  no problems with infidelity.  That all changed last year.  My husband had an emotional affair with a married woman that lives in our neighborhood.  She is 41, he...
    donnarjones donnarjones
    61-65, F
    11 Responses Oct 16, 2009

    I've just found out my husband of 4months had

    some sort of affair with another woman he says it was a year ago but I don't believe him,I found msgs saying that he confided in her that he had doubts about getting married,he's been to her house a few times late at night while I thought he was at work!!!! He's swearing to me...
    livob livob
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 5, 2015

    I Don't Know What To Think.

    My husband had an emotional affair toward the end of my pregnancy and for a while after I gave birth. It was our first child, we had money problems, and had only been married for a couple months. He is 22 and I am 21, but I often felt like I was his mom, telling him to clean up...
    silentobserver08 silentobserver08
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2012

    I have been married 47yrs

    and my husband had an emotional affair 8yrs ago with his first girlfriend who he met on the Internet after 3 months apart and two years of repeatedly finding he was still in contact we got back together again but now six years on after a huge amount of outside stress with deaths...
    BussyBoo BussyBoo
    61-65, F
    Feb 11

    My Husband Has Betrayed Me

    My husband and I have been married for just over 2 years, we have been together for 6 years. About a 3 months ago, I found messages on his phone from 3 women. At first he denied the messages were even there, and made out I was seeing things and accusing him unnecessarily and...
    MrsCeCe MrsCeCe
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

    Its been awhile since I've posted in this

    experience. A lot has happend, changed and past over these last couple of months. My husband had an emotional affair with someone he knew years ago. After I found out, we seperated, attended counseling and we are currently building a better marriage.
    purplepas purplepas
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 20, 2014

    My husband had an emotional n physical affair

    with a coworker 20 years younger n still won't let itgo two years later
    jeannienewlife jeannienewlife
    51-55, F
    Jun 18, 2014

    Woke Up One Day and Looked At His Email

    My husband is a big cw buff. Its his hobby and his job.  He was on a civil war chat room for years, and then one day in nov. 07 he comes accross someone wanting info about the park we worked and lived on.  So he gets to chatting with them. pm.s etc.  I don't think...
    lofalt lofalt
    46-50
    2 Responses May 18, 2009

    I have been married for 19 years.

    A few months ago I found out my husband was having what has been called an emotional affair. I found out when I saw a text from her on his phone. I knew things were not great between us. We were arguing a lot but I thought it was because he was tired and stressed it was tax...
    Afraidtoendit Afraidtoendit
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Aug 13, 2015

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    I used to believe that marriage was a sacred vow. Something that two people, with common likes and interests can share through out their life time and way into their golden years...
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