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I My Husband Had An Emotional Affair

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    Husbands Emotional Affair Is Haunting Me

    I found out my husband was having an emotional affair last February. When I confronted him about the emails that I read and told him he had to leave, I was blown away by how ready and willing he was to go. The girl he was “involved” with worked with him and had a fianc...
    16mrsx 16mrsx 41-45, F 9 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    My Husband Has Betrayed Me

    My husband and I have been married for just over 2 years, we have been together for 6 years. About a 3 months ago, I found messages on his phone from 3 women. At first he denied the messages were even there, and made out I was seeing things and accusing him unnecessarily and...
    MrsCeCe MrsCeCe 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I found out about an emotional affair

    that my husband was involved in on April 1st. He assures me that he has had no contact with her, but I am super paranoid!!! I have become obsessed and need some tips on how to get over it.
    statham18 statham18 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    The Wife Is The Last To Know....

    My husband and I have had a rocky road for quite some time.  I finally got sick of all of it and left him 5 years ago.  During that time I had absolutely no contact with him at all.  He didn't know where I resided and I didn't furnish that information.  I just wanted to be...
    laura2011 laura2011 56-60, F Feb 2, 2011

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    Emotional Affair Causes Other Women To Be Beaten

    I admit I neglected my husband for many years, I was physically hurt and had many medical problems which led to severe depresstion. I barely got out of bed. He was great the whole time (I thought). we had many talks I thought we were at a understanding about how things in our...
    1bitten 1bitten 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    My husband had a 4 month long emotional affair

    with a woman he knew from HS. I found out 3 weeks ago. They never had any physical contact, but talked sexually to each other and told each other they were in love. I am trying to move forward, but I having a hard time. He has cut off all contact with her, but she continues to...
    nrnr50 nrnr50 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    My Husband Has Reconnected With His First Love

    My husband of 19 years (been together for 23 years) has reconnected with his first love that is married, lives in Iran and has a boyfriend for the past 5 years. She FB requested him while we were going through a tough time, now he thinks it's destiny.......he is madly in love...
    lindadso lindadso 41-45 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    Husband Still Having Emotional Affair

    To make a long story short my Husband goes to school with a young (20 year old) woman and began having an emotional affair with her.  We are currently in counseling, but he refused to give up the OW.  It is breaking my heart and I worry even more about how it will...
    saddlyblue saddlyblue 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    My Husbands Emotional Affair

    My husbands emotional affair happened 1 1/2 years ago, but Iam still trying to deal with it. The pain and hurt is getting better and Iam finding out that Iam starting to gain more trust back with my husband. My husband one morning decided to spring on me we need to divorce or...
    pennsy pennsy 41-45 9 Responses Aug 27, 2009

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    New Relationship- Emotional Affair.

    Hi all, I'm new to this site, I came across it when I was doing some research on emotional affairs. My boyfriend is currently having an emotional affair, and I don't know what to do. We have only been together for coming up to 4 months but things between us have moved fairly...
    user5011 user5011 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 1, 2012

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    I Don't Know What To Think.

    My husband had an emotional affair toward the end of my pregnancy and for a while after I gave birth. It was our first child, we had money problems, and had only been married for a couple months. He is 22 and I am 21, but I often felt like I was his mom, telling him to clean up...
    silentobserver08 silentobserver08 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    How Can You Hurt Someone You Have Loved So Much?

    My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and have definitely had our ups and downs.  We have always been in love and never lacked in our attraction for each other.  For all his faults, I never expected my husband to be unfaithful.  His first wife...
    KimmyH KimmyH 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2010

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    My husband had an emotional n physical affair

    with a coworker 20 years younger n still won't let itgo two years later
    jeannienewlife jeannienewlife 51-55, F Jun 18

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    Emotional Affair With Memory Of First Love

    I have been married for what feels like forever. We had some wonderful times and some very distant times in our marriage. My problem is 35 years ago my husband dated a woman. It was his first relationship and she was married, with a child. He was very insecure and was overwhelmed...
    AnneJohnson AnneJohnson 51-55 3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    About a year ago my husband had an emotional

    affair saw the woman on a few occasions and texted her frequently until he was caught. My daughter and I frequent a store here usually on our walks together. As soon as I walked in and looked up I realized who it was. It was the woman he had spent time with. Had drinks with and...
    DeadHeartsareEverywhere DeadHeartsareEverywhere 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 19

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    Why Does My Husband Feels The Need To Validate Other Women?

    I recently found EP and have spent days reading others stories. I have decided to share my own story with the hopes of aiding my self help therapy. My husband and I have recently married, both of us are middle aged and have been in relationships prior. We have been together 4...
    happyisashappydoes happyisashappydoes 46-50 Aug 20, 2013

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    Believe Husband Is Having An Emotional Affair

    me and my husband jus got married in august. I live him very much but I am at a total cross roads. I feel like his co-worker and him has crossed boundaries. Every time we argue about the situation he either shut downs, flat out tells me he's never going to stop being friends, or...
    tia11689 tia11689 22-25, F Oct 15, 2013

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    Before my husband and I began dating he had an

    affair with a married coworker. He had to quit his job and move away in order to stop it. Well he lost his job and had to move back, in the meantime I became pregnant. He had a hard time finding work so he took contract jobs for his previous employer. He interacted with her but...
    Trying2staypositive Trying2staypositive 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    So Sorry I Believed Him Before

    My husband had an emotional affair about 3 years ago;  I forgave him and he promised that he was done with it. We have been doing very good; in fact he constantly tells me how he loves our relationship now! Last Saturday I found out he has been back at for at least a year; I...
    nodoubt456789 nodoubt456789 51-55, F 7 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    My husband had an emotional affair with someone

    from his past. Hurt like hell to find out that after everything he and I went through, he would decide to go outside of our marriage for comfort...strange thing is, he was the one pulling away. He had the idea that married people didn't need the cuddling, the alone time, etc...
    purplepas purplepas 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 26

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    Its been awhile since I've posted in this

    experience. A lot has happend, changed and past over these last couple of months. My husband had an emotional affair with someone he knew years ago. After I found out, we seperated, attended counseling and we are currently building a better marriage.
    purplepas purplepas 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    Three weeks ago I walked into a room

    and saw my husband almost kiss a friend of the family. It broke my heart in a million pieces. We have been together for 20 years, married for 17years. Three years ago I was diagnosed with chronic pain which leaves me unable to do the things I use to do. We were going through a...
    Nancy73 Nancy73 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    Emotional Affairs Are Devastating To A Marriage

    I have been married to this man for 45 years.  We have had 45 years of a good marriage with  no problems with infidelity.  That all changed last year.  My husband had an emotional affair with a married woman that lives in our neighborhood.  She is 41, he...
    donnarjones donnarjones 61-65, F 11 Responses Oct 16, 2009

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    Woke Up One Day and Looked At His Email

    My husband is a big cw buff. Its his hobby and his job.  He was on a civil war chat room for years, and then one day in nov. 07 he comes accross someone wanting info about the park we worked and lived on.  So he gets to chatting with them. pm.s etc.  I don't think...
    lofalt lofalt 46-50 2 Responses May 18, 2009

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    My fiancé and I have been together

    for two years. (I'm not married, so if I'm not suppose to post here, I apologize) .... (We live together) (This is how I found out) I received a text message from our cellular provider that my fiancé had gone over his allowed data usage. I didn't really give it much thought...
    lilbugg lilbugg 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 10

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    Related Experiences

    I found out a few days ago that my husband had an affair last year. It knocked me on my ***. I couldn't breathe, think, eat, sleep.. Nothing at all.. I confronted him a few days...
    Tina2249 Tina2249 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    This is a private message I wrote to a fellow EP member, but I wanted to share my thoughts publicly: Thanks again for your insight. I'm not very wordy today, but wanted to...
    Koalaclover Koalaclover 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 21

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    I don't know where to begin. I was friends with a man back in collage. He was very handsome. He influenced me to go into a different major. I adored him. He however was engaged to...
    Oceanoftears Oceanoftears 41-45, F Oct 18

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    So about a year ago I had an affair. I was so miserable before the affair. My husband is a complete ******* for too many reasons to name... And this guy I met online and talked...
    lostinnewengland lostinnewengland 41-45, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I sort of feel like an idiot... I think that exAP and I sort of started having an emotional affair. We've been talking again and we hung out for about 6 hours (completely...
    Koalaclover Koalaclover 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 19

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    It went on for seven months. Its been a year since we saw each other. We were both married. I wanted to make plans or at least know he thought of me on his long term future. He...
    Mystery226 Mystery226 46-50, F 15 Responses Oct 8

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    I'm 28 and had an affair with a former coworker. We had the most amazing hotel sessions. I am married and told him I wasn't leaving my husband ever. Fast forward me and the side...
    themrswhokisses themrswhokisses 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 22

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    I am having emotional affair with married man.We have never had a sex,just kissed. I think I have unintentionally fallen in love with him .As we are both married I have tried so...
    jessy333 jessy333 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 8

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    Affairs I've had two affairs that lasted over a year. The second one just ended.. I've never thought to really sit and compare them both till yesterday. My first affair I...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 11

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    I notice that I have a lot of haters because I had an affair with a married man. I can understand your point of view, in fact, if it had not happened to me, I would have thought...
    Linley242 Linley242 51-55, F 11 Responses Oct 8

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    I have had several affairs with no regrets! Each one has been fun and exciting, but tender and loving at the same time. I am friends with all my lady friends and see each of them...
    formulaoneut formulaoneut 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 12

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    I had an affair with a married man that last for two months. I thought they were already separated but realize they haven't but the marriage is on the rock. His wife was a casino...
    sunrio sunrio 36-40 1 Response Oct 22

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    Many years ago I was in relationship which was mostly happy and then I was very attracted to a guy who was just 18. I decided I would regret not sleeping with him so I did. It was...
    lccraze lccraze 31-35, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    My plan: Now that I am unemployed, I have a lot of time on my hands. I had to quit my job, as a bartender, because my husband was uncomfortable with my job and the fact that it...
    akahi akahi 22-25, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Regarding my previous post- I have received a lot of msg asking about no contact in between meetings. Somehow I believe this is every men's dream?? Lol. I will provide some...
    myheart99 myheart99 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 8

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    What a storm in a teacup affairs really ARE... All contained within the walls of our hearts and minds, never to see the light of day. Haunting in their hidden beauty and their...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 18 Responses Oct 13

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    This is to all the women having affairs with married men right now. I want to share my story of my experience with having a relationship with a married man, in hopes that you...
    Linley242 Linley242 51-55, F 5 Responses Oct 5

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    One day I found out that my wife was flirting with someone online. When I confronted her about it, she told me that it was just innocent flirting. The person she was flirting with...
    kjc101614 kjc101614 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 20

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    I am having problems recovering from this. It was not a long affair, only a few months, but at some point we were both getting too emotionally attached and it was not what we had...
    Natalie012 Natalie012 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 19

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    Another month has passed, the pain and ache do go away, slowly, I find myself waking up in the middle of the night, and just thinking, remembering the beginning, how I felt, the...
    mntmama mntmama 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15

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    Hello. My name is "Koalaclover" and I'm addicted to love... I've been 100% affair-free for one week today. No contact-no texts, phone calls, emails... It really does help to...
    Koalaclover Koalaclover 36-40, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Do I still want him? Love him? Unfortunately... Yes... Do I want to get over him? Of course I do... I need to end our friendship... What is falling in love, but an addiction...
    Koalaclover Koalaclover 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 8

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    Spent the last week going through my own personal hell. Yes I know, it's what I created and what I deserved. Husband asked if it was worth it, I replied no. I never got caught, I...
    akahi akahi 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 20

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    Today I feel like I can't go on like this any more. I want a divorce. How much longer can I be pretending, having meaningless affairs? My husband was rude to me again this...
    HappySecret HappySecret 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 5

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