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I My Husband Had An Emotional Affair

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    I have been married for 19 years.

    A few months ago I found out my husband was having what has been called an emotional affair. I found out when I saw a text from her on his phone. I knew things were not great between us. We were arguing a lot but I thought it was because he was tired and stressed it was tax...
    Afraidtoendit Afraidtoendit 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 13, 2015

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    My husband had an emotional n physical affair

    with a coworker 20 years younger n still won't let itgo two years later
    jeannienewlife jeannienewlife 51-55, F Jun 18, 2014

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    In my case the experience should read " my

    husband IS having an emotional affair " With half a dozen women on line! And doesn't feel that it has and will keep having a negative impact on our marriage. ( past history) my husband has cheated on me and for a lone time we have been living separate lives in the same house...
    Jofree Jofree 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

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    Emotional Affair Causes Other Women To Be Beaten

    I admit I neglected my husband for many years, I was physically hurt and had many medical problems which led to severe depresstion. I barely got out of bed. He was great the whole time (I thought). we had many talks I thought we were at a understanding about how things in our...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    My Husbands Emotional Affair

    My husbands emotional affair happened 1 1/2 years ago, but Iam still trying to deal with it. The pain and hurt is getting better and Iam finding out that Iam starting to gain more trust back with my husband. My husband one morning decided to spring on me we need to divorce or...
    pennsy pennsy 41-45 9 Responses Aug 27, 2009

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    Its been awhile since I've posted in this

    experience. A lot has happend, changed and past over these last couple of months. My husband had an emotional affair with someone he knew years ago. After I found out, we seperated, attended counseling and we are currently building a better marriage.
    purplepas purplepas 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2014

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    Why Does My Husband Feels The Need To Validate Other Women?

    I recently found EP and have spent days reading others stories. I have decided to share my own story with the hopes of aiding my self help therapy. My husband and I have recently married, both of us are middle aged and have been in relationships prior. We have been together 4...
    happyisashappydoes happyisashappydoes 51-55 Aug 20, 2013

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    My husband had an emotional affair with someone

    from his past. Hurt like hell to find out that after everything he and I went through, he would decide to go outside of our marriage for comfort...strange thing is, he was the one pulling away. He had the idea that married people didn't need the cuddling, the alone time, etc...
    purplepas purplepas 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    I've just found out my husband of 4months had

    some sort of affair with another woman he says it was a year ago but I don't believe him,I found msgs saying that he confided in her that he had doubts about getting married,he's been to her house a few times late at night while I thought he was at work!!!! He's swearing to me...
    livob livob 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2015

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    Woke Up One Day and Looked At His Email

    My husband is a big cw buff. Its his hobby and his job.  He was on a civil war chat room for years, and then one day in nov. 07 he comes accross someone wanting info about the park we worked and lived on.  So he gets to chatting with them. pm.s etc.  I don't think...
    lofalt lofalt 46-50 2 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Emotional Affair With Memory Of First Love

    I have been married for what feels like forever. We had some wonderful times and some very distant times in our marriage. My problem is 35 years ago my husband dated a woman. It was his first relationship and she was married, with a child. He was very insecure and was overwhelmed...
    AnneJohnson AnneJohnson 51-55 3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    My Husband Has Betrayed Me

    My husband and I have been married for just over 2 years, we have been together for 6 years. About a 3 months ago, I found messages on his phone from 3 women. At first he denied the messages were even there, and made out I was seeing things and accusing him unnecessarily and...
    MrsCeCe MrsCeCe 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    The Wife Is The Last To Know....

    My husband and I have had a rocky road for quite some time.  I finally got sick of all of it and left him 5 years ago.  During that time I had absolutely no contact with him at all.  He didn't know where I resided and I didn't furnish that information.  I just wanted to be...
    laura2011 laura2011 56-60, F Feb 2, 2011

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    New Relationship- Emotional Affair.

    Hi all, I'm new to this site, I came across it when I was doing some research on emotional affairs. My boyfriend is currently having an emotional affair, and I don't know what to do. We have only been together for coming up to 4 months but things between us have moved fairly...
    user5011 user5011 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 1, 2012

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    About a year ago my husband had an emotional

    affair saw the woman on a few occasions and texted her frequently until he was caught. My daughter and I frequent a store here usually on our walks together. As soon as I walked in and looked up I realized who it was. It was the woman he had spent time with. Had drinks with and...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    Before my husband and I began dating he had an

    affair with a married coworker. He had to quit his job and move away in order to stop it. Well he lost his job and had to move back, in the meantime I became pregnant. He had a hard time finding work so he took contract jobs for his previous employer. He interacted with her but...
    Trying2staypositive Trying2staypositive 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    How Can You Hurt Someone You Have Loved So Much?

    My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and have definitely had our ups and downs.  We have always been in love and never lacked in our attraction for each other.  For all his faults, I never expected my husband to be unfaithful.  His first wife...
    KimmyH KimmyH 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2010

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    My fiancé and I have been together

    for two years. (I'm not married, so if I'm not suppose to post here, I apologize) .... (We live together) (This is how I found out) I received a text message from our cellular provider that my fiancé had gone over his allowed data usage. I didn't really give it much thought...
    lilbugg lilbugg 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 10, 2014

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    Husband Still Having Emotional Affair

    To make a long story short my Husband goes to school with a young (20 year old) woman and began having an emotional affair with her.  We are currently in counseling, but he refused to give up the OW.  It is breaking my heart and I worry even more about how it will...
    saddlyblue saddlyblue 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    My Husband Has Reconnected With His First Love

    My husband of 19 years (been together for 23 years) has reconnected with his first love that is married, lives in Iran and has a boyfriend for the past 5 years. She FB requested him while we were going through a tough time, now he thinks it's destiny.......he is madly in love...
    lindadso lindadso 46-50 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    I found out about an emotional affair

    that my husband was involved in on April 1st. He assures me that he has had no contact with her, but I am super paranoid!!! I have become obsessed and need some tips on how to get over it.
    statham18 statham18 36-40, F Jul 24, 2014

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    I Don't Know What To Think.

    My husband had an emotional affair toward the end of my pregnancy and for a while after I gave birth. It was our first child, we had money problems, and had only been married for a couple months. He is 22 and I am 21, but I often felt like I was his mom, telling him to clean up...
    silentobserver08 silentobserver08 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    Believe Husband Is Having An Emotional Affair

    me and my husband jus got married in august. I live him very much but I am at a total cross roads. I feel like his co-worker and him has crossed boundaries. Every time we argue about the situation he either shut downs, flat out tells me he's never going to stop being friends, or...
    tia11689 tia11689 22-25, F Oct 15, 2013

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    So Sorry I Believed Him Before

    My husband had an emotional affair about 3 years ago;  I forgave him and he promised that he was done with it. We have been doing very good; in fact he constantly tells me how he loves our relationship now! Last Saturday I found out he has been back at for at least a year; I...
    nodoubt456789 nodoubt456789 51-55, F 7 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    My husband had a 4 month long emotional affair

    with a woman he knew from HS. I found out 3 weeks ago. They never had any physical contact, but talked sexually to each other and told each other they were in love. I am trying to move forward, but I having a hard time. He has cut off all contact with her, but she continues to...
    nrnr50 nrnr50 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 28, 2014

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    Husbands Emotional Affair Is Haunting Me

    I found out my husband was having an emotional affair last February. When I confronted him about the emails that I read and told him he had to leave, I was blown away by how ready and willing he was to go. The girl he was “involved” with worked with him and had a fianc...
    16mrsx 16mrsx 41-45, F 23 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Don't know where to start.

    I'm in a 15 year relationship with a man who is 12 years younger than me. He knew I couldn't have children when we first met. We had moved to his home town about 10years ago. We now live in the house he was brought up in. Three years ago my youngest son from previous...
    wpereira wpereira 46-50 1 Response May 27, 2015

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    Emotional Affairs Are Devastating To A Marriage

    I have been married to this man for 45 years.  We have had 45 years of a good marriage with  no problems with infidelity.  That all changed last year.  My husband had an emotional affair with a married woman that lives in our neighborhood.  She is 41, he...
    donnarjones donnarjones 61-65, F 11 Responses Oct 16, 2009

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    Three weeks ago I walked into a room

    and saw my husband almost kiss a friend of the family. It broke my heart in a million pieces. We have been together for 20 years, married for 17years. Three years ago I was diagnosed with chronic pain which leaves me unable to do the things I use to do. We were going through a...
    Nancy73 Nancy73 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    It's been 8 months since I last heard your voice. While it's gotten slightly easier, I am still in distress over the sudden ending of our 4 year long friendship, companionship and...
    bunny2010 bunny2010 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I'm in a fling... I slept with him a few times... He constantly reminds me to keeps my emotions in tact.. Its really annoying me. Every time we're together he detaches himself...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am curious for those of you that are married and have ended your affair...how is your marriage doing? Have you been able to reconnect with your spouse after the affair? If so...
    StartingOver41 StartingOver41 41-45, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am preparing to leave my husband. Not because of the affair, but for me and to spare him pain in the future. I sign my lease this week. I'm excited and scared. Wish me luck!
    Runnergirl2015 Runnergirl2015 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    It's wasn't exactly an affair I'm single he has a girlfriend it's not gone past texting I felt like he was slow fading me out so I just stopped texting so did he has been 2 weeks...
    winterusa winterusa 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    His text, "I know we belong together, and we most certainly will never get the chance. That kills me. But i wouldn't trade the time I had with you for anything. I love you more...
    idgirl84 idgirl84 31-35, F 21 Responses 4 days ago

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    I never thought it would happen to me of all people. The shame, the guilt of being caught and trying to repair the damage. I've been exclusive with Steve for 3 years. about 2...
    LesGirl01 LesGirl01 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    How you make him think that you are a psycho and he ended it with you. The final tomahawk. It is pretty hard on your system to be constantly maintaining a level of detachment...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    Finally it is over! I never had the guts to block him but he is blocked in EVERYTHING! I do not want to go back to this life ever again... and I hope for all of you suffering...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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      I'm back for my advice. Under a different name as for some reason I can't access my old account (old name dolly2016) I have decided to do some counselling and my first...
    Dollygirl2016 Dollygirl2016 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's been over two months since his unexplained NC. The ups and downs I go through are so hard. Funny that I was nearly feet from him, and his wife, on Friday night (I was in a...
    infusedheart infusedheart 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I really miss my ex mm. It's been months since we had any contact. I've had more contact with the W. I hope that some day we will be able to talk again. I miss our conversations...
    Mshine944 Mshine944 41-45, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I feel like ish, I talked to my sancho again and now I'm lonelier than ever. I haven't seen him but I have talked to him and I loved it. I really did. He was like don't...
    XcookiexbakerXx XcookiexbakerXx 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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