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I My Husband Had An Emotional Affair

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    The Wife Is The Last To Know....

    My husband and I have had a rocky road for quite some time.  I finally got sick of all of it and left him 5 years ago.  During that time I had absolutely no contact with him at all.  He didn't know where I resided and I didn't furnish that information.  I just wanted to be...
    laura2011 laura2011 56-60, F Feb 2, 2011

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    Emotional Affairs Are Devastating To A Marriage

    I have been married to this man for 45 years.  We have had 45 years of a good marriage with  no problems with infidelity.  That all changed last year.  My husband had an emotional affair with a married woman that lives in our neighborhood.  She is 41, he...
    donnarjones donnarjones 61-65, F 11 Responses Oct 16, 2009

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    Emotional Affair Causes Other Women To Be Beaten

    I admit I neglected my husband for many years, I was physically hurt and had many medical problems which led to severe depresstion. I barely got out of bed. He was great the whole time (I thought). we had many talks I thought we were at a understanding about how things in our...
    1bitten 1bitten 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2013

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    I found out about an emotional affair

    that my husband was involved in on April 1st. He assures me that he has had no contact with her, but I am super paranoid!!! I have become obsessed and need some tips on how to get over it.
    statham18 statham18 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    Husband Still Having Emotional Affair

    To make a long story short my Husband goes to school with a young (20 year old) woman and began having an emotional affair with her.  We are currently in counseling, but he refused to give up the OW.  It is breaking my heart and I worry even more about how it will...
    saddlyblue saddlyblue 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    Emotional Affair With Memory Of First Love

    I have been married for what feels like forever. We had some wonderful times and some very distant times in our marriage. My problem is 35 years ago my husband dated a woman. It was his first relationship and she was married, with a child. He was very insecure and was overwhelmed...
    AnneJohnson AnneJohnson 51-55 3 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    My husband had a 4 month long emotional affair

    with a woman he knew from HS. I found out 3 weeks ago. They never had any physical contact, but talked sexually to each other and told each other they were in love. I am trying to move forward, but I having a hard time. He has cut off all contact with her, but she continues to...
    nrnr50 nrnr50 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    About a year ago my husband had an emotional

    affair saw the woman on a few occasions and texted her frequently until he was caught. My daughter and I frequent a store here usually on our walks together. As soon as I walked in and looked up I realized who it was. It was the woman he had spent time with. Had drinks with and...
    NothinginmyWAY NothinginmyWAY 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 19

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    Before my husband and I began dating he had an

    affair with a married coworker. He had to quit his job and move away in order to stop it. Well he lost his job and had to move back, in the meantime I became pregnant. He had a hard time finding work so he took contract jobs for his previous employer. He interacted with her but...
    Trying2staypositive Trying2staypositive 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 22

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    How Can You Hurt Someone You Have Loved So Much?

    My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and have definitely had our ups and downs.  We have always been in love and never lacked in our attraction for each other.  For all his faults, I never expected my husband to be unfaithful.  His first wife...
    KimmyH KimmyH 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2010

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    Husbands Emotional Affair Is Haunting Me

    I found out my husband was having an emotional affair last February. When I confronted him about the emails that I read and told him he had to leave, I was blown away by how ready and willing he was to go. The girl he was “involved” with worked with him and had a fianc...
    16mrsx 16mrsx 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    My Husband Has Betrayed Me

    My husband and I have been married for just over 2 years, we have been together for 6 years. About a 3 months ago, I found messages on his phone from 3 women. At first he denied the messages were even there, and made out I was seeing things and accusing him unnecessarily and...
    MrsCeCe MrsCeCe 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    Believe Husband Is Having An Emotional Affair

    me and my husband jus got married in august. I live him very much but I am at a total cross roads. I feel like his co-worker and him has crossed boundaries. Every time we argue about the situation he either shut downs, flat out tells me he's never going to stop being friends, or...
    tia11689 tia11689 22-25, F Oct 15, 2013

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    My fiancé and I have been together

    for two years. (I'm not married, so if I'm not suppose to post here, I apologize) .... (We live together) (This is how I found out) I received a text message from our cellular provider that my fiancé had gone over his allowed data usage. I didn't really give it much thought...
    lilbugg lilbugg 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    My husband had an emotional n physical affair

    with a coworker 20 years younger n still won't let itgo two years later
    jeannienewlife jeannienewlife 51-55, F Jun 18

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    My husband had an emotional affair with someone

    from his past. Hurt like hell to find out that after everything he and I went through, he would decide to go outside of our marriage for comfort...strange thing is, he was the one pulling away. He had the idea that married people didn't need the cuddling, the alone time, etc...
    purplepas purplepas 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 26

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    I Don't Know What To Think.

    My husband had an emotional affair toward the end of my pregnancy and for a while after I gave birth. It was our first child, we had money problems, and had only been married for a couple months. He is 22 and I am 21, but I often felt like I was his mom, telling him to clean up...
    silentobserver08 silentobserver08 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    My Husbands Emotional Affair

    My husbands emotional affair happened 1 1/2 years ago, but Iam still trying to deal with it. The pain and hurt is getting better and Iam finding out that Iam starting to gain more trust back with my husband. My husband one morning decided to spring on me we need to divorce or...
    pennsy pennsy 41-45 9 Responses Aug 27, 2009

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    Why Does My Husband Feels The Need To Validate Other Women?

    I recently found EP and have spent days reading others stories. I have decided to share my own story with the hopes of aiding my self help therapy. My husband and I have recently married, both of us are middle aged and have been in relationships prior. We have been together 4...
    happyisashappydoes happyisashappydoes 46-50 Aug 20, 2013

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    Its been awhile since I've posted in this

    experience. A lot has happend, changed and past over these last couple of months. My husband had an emotional affair with someone he knew years ago. After I found out, we seperated, attended counseling and we are currently building a better marriage.
    purplepas purplepas 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    Woke Up One Day and Looked At His Email

    My husband is a big cw buff. Its his hobby and his job.  He was on a civil war chat room for years, and then one day in nov. 07 he comes accross someone wanting info about the park we worked and lived on.  So he gets to chatting with them. pm.s etc.  I don't think...
    lofalt lofalt 46-50 2 Responses May 18, 2009

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    So Sorry I Believed Him Before

    My husband had an emotional affair about 3 years ago;  I forgave him and he promised that he was done with it. We have been doing very good; in fact he constantly tells me how he loves our relationship now! Last Saturday I found out he has been back at for at least a year; I...
    nodoubt456789 nodoubt456789 51-55, F 7 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    My Husband Has Reconnected With His First Love

    My husband of 19 years (been together for 23 years) has reconnected with his first love that is married, lives in Iran and has a boyfriend for the past 5 years. She FB requested him while we were going through a tough time, now he thinks it's destiny.......he is madly in love...
    lindadso lindadso 41-45 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    New Relationship- Emotional Affair.

    Hi all, I'm new to this site, I came across it when I was doing some research on emotional affairs. My boyfriend is currently having an emotional affair, and I don't know what to do. We have only been together for coming up to 4 months but things between us have moved fairly...
    user5011 user5011 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 1, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Buy he tells me he doesn't know why. I love him so much, and I know he loves me, but there must be some reason for his affair, he even cries, and tells me he doesn't know why he...
    Mylifesover Mylifesover 46-50 6 Responses Aug 8

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I started my affair 6 months ago. Almost 6 months to the day. We are both married. She has two small kids, I have none. I've known her for 4 years and have had a crush on her...
    confusedinpa7 confusedinpa7 36-40, M 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    My friend and her husband got in a fight this last weekend. Her husband knows she had an affair. When he drinks he becomes insane. Last weekend he yelled at all the kids told them...
    Circlesnomore Circlesnomore 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    It's the same old saying, they want you to do good until your doing better than them. I am not sorry your husband loved me. I am not sorry your husband had sex with me. I am not...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 30

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    To those who are having an affair, thinking about it, or to those who did...4 years i had an affair, he ended it all in a pretty messed up way...he doesnt want me he doesnt love me...
    TornLove82 TornLove82 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    I love my husband but I had an affair. I told my husband everything and he wants to forgive me but hes finding it hard. I want to do everything he says because hes a wonderful...
    vuexter vuexter 36-40, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I feel an intense need to get a lot off of my shoulders. I've made a huge mistake. I think it's therapeutic to talk. I am 23 years old. I've been married for 2 years. I married my...
    parahsalin parahsalin 22-25, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    My BF/ fiancé of 12 years had an emotional affair. I'm so hurt and was blind sided by this. He says it's done and he loves me, it was a month of purely texts then one day he said...
    jeslynn26 jeslynn26 31-35, F Aug 15

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    I knew my wifes friend before i met her.when i think about it.i think i fell in love with her a long time ago.we are all friends but recently not so close.my wife feels threatened...
    lomiman lomiman 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    Is it possible to remain as friends after having an emotional affair? I my case is seems that it is not possible as the other party still has strong feelings.
    nicktime nicktime 31-35, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I met my OH when I was 13 and he was 15.... we are pretty much together since than with some on/off phases inbetween. When I was 18 I had an affair with his younger cousin who was...
    anniecherry anniecherry 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    After some of the replies to my post yesterday, I see that plenty of people are on here to attack people that have had an affair, to try to make us feel worse for what we have done...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 19 Responses Aug 14

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    Thanks everyone for the advice about the safest way to meet him .. I asked him yesterday what his thoughts were on where we should go..( for those of you who don't know a cop...
    Differentforever Differentforever 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    Its old news I had an affair. That part of my life is long over but it was such a turning point that it still affects me every day. This little update probably belongs under a...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 5

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    I had an affair that ended in 2010. I used to talk to him on regular basis after it ended. I really try not call him and have done really well it has been a year since we last...
    manyregrets manyregrets 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 13

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    Is it better to have had and affair and the spouse not know of your doings and living with the guilt if there is any.... or be a spouse and you your spouse informs you he has has...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have a difficult decision to make. My marriage went south about 3 years ago and 20 months ago I had my first affair. It's time to stop that behavior. It wears me out...
    CountrySlicker CountrySlicker 51-55, F 6 Responses Aug 6

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    I have been married for four years, together with him for six years. We have two kids. I'm somewhat happy. He is like my best friend, we talk and have fun, but I'm not sexually...
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    LAST AFFAIR – RECENT UPDATE: I had not chatted, or talk by phone, with her since her husband found out. That was several months ago. Last week, I downloaded a mobile app, and...
    Jeffinga2012 Jeffinga2012 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 6

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    I miss my affair. I no longer miss HER because, for all her wonderful traits, she was still quite a narcissistic piece of work. Everything was about her, and I guess that my...
    junkfan junkfan 56-60, M 6 Responses a week ago

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    I was 15 she was 35 my speech teacher. She was very will pretty and always rubbed against me in class. I was a naive kid who did not know what was happening. She told me in class...
    edstarr edstarr 56-60, M 1 Response Jul 30

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    Rereading a friend's experience (Junkfan) about how difficult it is to move on. I really identify with your difficulty. I have moments of anger, hate, sadness..... you name it...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 9 Responses Aug 17

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    So today was a really good day. I have a story to share... Ok my friend was getting her hair done and there were other women there. Anyways my friend over hears this girl talking...
    ventingagain ventingagain 31-35, F 2 Responses 19 hrs ago

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