I My Husband Ignores Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 548 People

    Ok, warning this is going to be long!

    I am at a loss in life. I have been married for almost 10 yrs, with him for almost 15. Things between us were always good,( not perfect of course) until about 7 years ago. I am married to a 38 yr old disabled veteran. We have a total of 4 kids, 2 are his, 1 mine and 1 is ours...
    AuntieShani AuntieShani
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Jul 22, 2014

    Hello....hi im new. But just wana share my

    story. My relationship with my husband is a sad case. We fuss and fight almost everyday and they last for days long. He say I complain too much but I complain about things like the trash not being taking out or him playing the game all night of things of that nature. As for him...
    calhughes91 calhughes91
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jan 1, 2014

    My hair stand ignores me

    and is stubborn. He refuses to go to the doctor He has high bp ( I am a CMA, phlebotomist and a CNA) and have been taking her s bp the lowest it has been recently was 165/126 He is having events where he wakes up gasping for air and being disorientated and just today I have...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 2, 2014

    Just tonight an issue came up with our oldest

    and I wanted to have a serious conversation. Well he stares at his phone the whole time never looks me in the eye. Its always a one way conversation with us and I feel he doesn't take me seriously. He is always on his damn phone. I feel like a single mom with three kids. I do...
    loneheart29 loneheart29
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 13, 2015


    I have been married for over 15 years and have known each other since I was a teenager. My husband is ten years older than me but this has only ever presented minor problems. We have 3 beautiful, healthy children. My husband is a good financial provider and is the 'fun parent' in...
    mcg40 mcg40
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 8, 2013

    and then acts like it's the hardest thing in

    the world to give me a kiss, or a hug, or even talk to me.. :( don't get be started on spending time with the kid, or even taking the garbage out. why oh why do I feel like a single working parent.
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    Abused And Neglected

    I've been wit my husband 4 yrs married for 2 yrs n in the beginning everything was great but den I found out he cheated on me 4 days before n after we got married den left me at 3mths pregnant to be wit her I was devastated cause he was thefirst guy I can honestly say dat I loved...
    khadijah27 khadijah27
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2013

    We were really great friends

    for years. We used to be really close. After less than a year of marriage I have to beg for his attention he's always too busy for me and I'm tired of crying myself to sleep. This feeling hurts like hell.
    IslandChic82 IslandChic82
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

    Ignored By Husband!

    I have been married for a year now.....and I should say that the time I got married I thought I was the luckiest bride ever on earth. My husband was like head over heels in love with me, he would not be away from me even a minute. Then months passed, things changed, our opinions...
    paddie07 paddie07
    3 Responses Apr 6, 2011
    1s93ck 1s93ck
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Feb 15, 2014

    How My Husband Came Back To Me

    i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and suddenly, another woman came into the picture.. he started hating me and he was so abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for...
    Sonia779 Sonia779
    2 Responses Feb 17, 2013

    I Am Here

    As much as he says he loves me, I have felt underappreciated and my needs overlooked. He has a very solitary personality and is very passive. He doesn't like going out or doing things with me that we could both enjoy at home. When we do go out it's mostly with other people and...
    cleargerman cleargerman
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2012

    Was It Always Like This?

    I find myself asking this question to myself everyday. Was it always like this and I just didn't realize it or was to blind to see it. In the beginning sex was nice, meaningless and awesome. Two rabbits mating. we had our children and something happened when we got married...The...
    escapingthecloset escapingthecloset
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Oct 12, 2009

    Can't Believe I'm Even Writing This...

    Some of the things that have happened in my marriage recently are just too creepy and pathetic to mention but...my husband prefers pixelated images to me. I've been reduced to a shadow of my former, confident self and I'm ashamed. I hate that somehow someone outside of me has...
    ImpishToad ImpishToad
    41-45, F
    4 Responses May 20, 2012
    sobiarazzaq sobiarazzaq
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    Don't Feel Comfortable At Home Anymore

    I realized today that I don't want to be in my home anymore. I m sitting here with our 3 kids watching tv and he is in his office watching something else. This is how it goes almost every nght. I would rather be somewhere else. I am only worth talking to when he has a problem...
    krawkath krawkath
    13 Responses Jan 26, 2011

    He's Emotionally Checked Out

    My husband has made rules. One of them is that I can't ever talk about something I may want in front of or to him. So I'm constantly on guard lest I slip and mention an ad I saw for a washing machine. How is it normal for me to never mention wants and material desires to my...
    contraalto contraalto
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 1, 2012

    He's Emotionally Checked Out

    My husband has made rules. One of them is that I can't ever talk about something I may want in front of or to him. So I'm constantly on guard lest I slip and mention an ad I saw for a washing machine. How is it normal for me to never mention wants and material desires to my...
    contraalto contraalto
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 1, 2012

    it hurts when my husband starts a fight with me

    or conversation then bails in the middle of the conversation, i mean the moment he hears something he doesn't like he turns his back on me and pulls the covers over his head then goes to sleep. TO S.L.E.E.P. sleep. i mean it's astonishing to me that things can be so rocky and...
    lemonadestreet lemonadestreet
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 23, 2015

    He's Just Not Nice To Me Anymore

    My husband isn't nice to me. He's not mean either. I just want to be treated nicely. Not ignored and not treated like I don't exist unless he wants to have sex. I don't want to be in a marriage that isn't a real partnership but here I am. Everytime I try to have a conversation...
    catwoman8 catwoman8
    46 Responses Jan 14, 2011

    My husband ignores me lately.

    We been married for 10 yrs and had a kids together. He's son was move in 3 yrs ago but within 3 yrs ago, we don't get along especially his doesn't have any respect of me... Everybody thoughts that he is a good boy and I say he is a good boy and deep inside theirs something...
    zenwahs8 zenwahs8
    36-40, F
    Apr 27, 2015

    My husband and I don't get along,

    we have no physical relationship, we barely talk and if he does talk it's nothing but mind games but he is a person and I care about him none the less A while ago he was having sleeping issues but they stopped and well they've started back up where he sits straight up in bed...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 14, 2015

    I Have the Same Issues

    I have been married for six years this weekend and my husband and I never do anything together.  He got me to quit my job of twelve years to stay home and raise the kids, which I wanted to because I truly thought it would help our marriage.  My job caused alot of stress...
    ratsky19 ratsky19
    8 Responses Aug 28, 2008

    What I Mean By "My Husband Ignores Me"

    Hello, Can anybody relate to this?  My husband and I have been married for MANY years now, and things have just gone from bad to worse.  When I say that my husband ignores me, I mean that..... 1)  He NEVER calls me during the day 2)  He never asks me how my...
    Psalm23 Psalm23
    41-45, F
    275 Responses Mar 27, 2008


    He leaves me at home while he works, and goes to the pub afterward with his mates and doesn't let me come. He comes home and eats dinner then showers, sometimes he'll play video games but usually he just goes to bed. He decides when we get to be intimate, and since I'm gaining...
    poppyjoy poppyjoy
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 18, 2013

    My Husband Has Recently Started to Ignore Me!

    This is somehing that just recently started. My husband and I have been married for ~2 years now. I recently realized that it seems like hes avoiding me. He spends hours with other female friends, with the neice and nephew, and playing MMORPG's. Just last night, I really...
    nekomimi2479 nekomimi2479
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Aug 30, 2009

    I Thought My Husband Was Cheating

    It turns out he is not cheating. I had suspicions because he was going out and staying out late as well as going to the gym really late. He was actually doing what he said he was doing. Now he is calling me to let me know where he is and when he's coming home. He spends more...
    missybaby29 missybaby29
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 20, 2011
    cashetty69 cashetty69
    51-55, M
    Aug 21, 2015

    My Husband Impotent

    and he also not interested in my needs. Its loveless marriage to me. I ask him to help me to pleasure me but he think its disgusting thing to do
    tirowki tirowki
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Mar 20, 2011

    Except when only one part of the equation is

    going all of it while the other sits idly by doing nothing in return...
    TristeMuneca87 TristeMuneca87
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    You guys.. LIsten up.

    I have read your posts and SO understand your frustration!!!... If you can all remember ONE thing.. remember this. Narcissist people are mentally disordered. Their brains are NOT wired like ours -- They do what they do because they can't help it. They have no emotions so...
    DrBlabby DrBlabby
    1 Response Jun 28, 2015

    My Love

    he is extremely successful. he is extremely sexy. i could only say that there is no one else above him except.. he is much too jealous. he is much to secretive. deceptive. i cannot handle this. it is why i have broken away. all can be well...
    scandalouspeach scandalouspeach
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Jun 22, 2012

    I've Been Ignored For 11 Years

    Hi. I'm in my 11th year of marriage and pregnant with my fifth child. My husband has completely ignored me all our married life. He shares absolutley nothing with me and I'm always the last to know everything. He completely dotes on his friends and reletives and gives me the...
    hopelessmom hopelessmom
    7 Responses Feb 6, 2009

    What Goes Round Comes Round...

    My partner stopped speaking to me and just ignores me so I do the same to him - I don't let it bother me too much, in fact, I'll talk to him as long as he starts first... ...but I think many of these women here should start treating their husbands exactly the same way...
    truthseekr truthseekr
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

    I have been married for 24 years.

    I have two children in college. My husband doesn not text, call , email or even talk to me. A little background info, his father died last year and prior to that his dad was sick in the hospital a lot. Well, I have not eaten dinner with my husband, just the two of us in over...
    jobop13 jobop13
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    My husband and I have two kids together

    and he has a son who lives with us (my stepson). Anyways, my husband not only ignores me a lot, he also acts embarrassed by me if he takes me somewhere... We recently went to a wedding and he started acting nervous and fidgety if I ever got into a conversation or spoke to any...
    runnermama88 runnermama88
    26-30, F
    Mar 23, 2014

    My Husband Doesn't Love Me

    I am gonna turn 30 in may have been married for 6 years and i 2 kids. I went out with my husband for 6 years before marrying him. I have given him everything, the best part pf my life i gave him but now i feel like he doesn't care anymore. I feel suffocated in this relationship...
    zarda12 zarda12
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 24, 2012

    Alone When We're Together.

    Last night, like most nights, I come to kiss him good night and tell him I'm going to bed.  He is still watching TV.   I gazed into his eyes, and lovingly stroked his hand, and asked, "are you coming to bed soon"?  He replies "yes".I go to bed and read, waiting for him to join...
    ruqiaraqs ruqiaraqs
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Dec 30, 2010

    I have been withy husband

    for almost 10 years. 6 dating and almost 4 married. I feel that he doesn't desire me sexually or emotionally as much as he use to. Here are some issues that I know have caused obstacles. I have self esteem issues and I have gained a significant amount of weight since we have...
    TA2010 TA2010
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 9, 2014

    My Husband Has Just Had It >>>. I Guess

    recently i lied to my husband about downloading **** and he found out so i told him i did it and i was sorry , and now he wouldn't forgive me , he says i lied to his face and he can never trust me again and that if i can lie to his face like that i might as well cheat on him . i...
    sadhousewife sadhousewife
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jul 17, 2012


    my dh hasn't really spoken to me directly in a while. I came home from work tonight and asked him what is wrong. he asked why does something have to be wrong. I told him that its not normal to be married and never get a hello, goodbye, how was your day or even an I love you...
    greeneyes1977 greeneyes1977
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 7, 2012

    Me, Too!

    I am so happy to know that I am not the only one who is being ignored.  I've been married for almost 20 years...and the last 5 have been hell.  He moved out about 6 months ago, but before that, he ignored me.  He is living with his parents.  He would not talk...
    mama65 mama65
    3 Responses Oct 24, 2009

    I put up the christmas tree alone.

    My husband was home, but was pretending to be busy every time I walked by. I bought and wrapped all of the gifts. I cleaned out the basement again. Cleaned out the garage alone. I shampooed the carpet in the cars. I raked the yard and collected 6 full garbage bag of nuts...
    bellybelle bellybelle
    3 Responses Apr 10, 2014

    Ignored and Undermined

    My husband and I have been married for 14 years. He's an awesome father but a horrible husband. He ignores me. On a daily basis, we're both concerned about the kids, but he is a little overly so. He makes time to do anything they want, anytime. But if I even ask him to watch a...
    twelu twelu
    36-40, F
    33 Responses Sep 23, 2009
    Shannon4280 Shannon4280
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 14, 2014

    Neglectful Husband

    I have five children, have been married to my husband for 18 years and been with him for 20 years. I am miserable, he overlooks me, opens doors for other women and slams them in my face. I dread going out anywhere with him, the thought of it makes me feel sick. He has always...
    mmwoodford mmwoodford
    4 Responses Jun 5, 2011

    My husband does the same done everything to

    change it but nothing I don't know what to do
    Confusedandlonely04 Confusedandlonely04
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

    From A Man

    Ladies, i am sorry that you are being ignored by your man. It is a terribly lonel;y feeling. My wife ignores me so i appreciate how you feel. It is not something exclusive to women. i know I am not the only man being ignored by my wife. please know that the pain is felt on our...
    Deepressed Deepressed
    56-60, M
    12 Responses Apr 11, 2011

    My Boyfriend Ignores Me In Front Of Friends And Family.

    I am 34 and have been with my boyfriend for 8 years now. We are extremely happy and are almost perfect with one another until now, so I feel very blessed having him in my life. He is the type of guy who is happy to come straight home to me from work every day and is with me all...
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2013

    I love my boyfriend very much

    and we have been together for nearly five years. We have a good relationship but he does one thing that offends and infuriates me. EVERY TIME we are with his friends, it's like I cease to exist. He walks ahead of me with them, shoulder to shoulder so there is no room beside...
    iotola iotola
    26-30, M
    Feb 18, 2016
More Stories