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    My husband is an alcoholic.

    I have two teens and we are all emotionally exhausted. the constant lying is wearing on me. and them. I spend most of my time daydreaming about leaving, about a life without him. The man living with me now is not the man I married. Anyone else struggling with this? I would love...
    Kristiwrites Kristiwrites 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 22, 2015

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    I have struggled with my husband's disease

    for at least 25 years of the 36 we've been married. I never realized that I married into this disease, as I was always the kind of person that wanted to make everyone happy, and take care of everyone; whether or not they asked for it. When I realized that my sweet husband...
    Stndingrl Stndingrl 61-65, F Aug 14, 2014

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    I wish not to be under the stress of living

    with an alcoholic every single day!!!! ugh!! So frustrating!!!
    mim1 mim1 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    So this morning the kids

    and I were watching our normal morning cartoons when my husband walked in with his work clothes still on from Saturday morning. He went straight to be and slept tell 2pm. I woke him up asked where he was all night and he replied he had slept outside. That was a lie he was not...
    gallaforth gallaforth 31-35, F May 3, 2015

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    WOW I don't know where to begin I started

    searching binge drinking and so how came across this website and started reading the post, and found myself replying to them. I guess it all started with my childhood I grew up with my dad drinking and yelling. He was very strict and we were afraid of him so to avoid conflict...
    mecova mecova 41-45 2 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    stlguy45 stlguy45 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 30, 2015

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    anyone MISS the alcoholic?

    Mine hasn't had a drink in almost 3 years. we have not had an adult conversation since then. he behaves like a teen, does even LESS around the house. will NOT have a discussion about anything without lashing out about being criticized.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 13, 2015

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    I too am nodding my head

    as I read your stories. My husband and I will celebrate 18 years together this June. Hard to believe that for 7 of those years, he was sober. But he was still a rage-aholic and he refused to go to AA. At first it was, "I only want to have a glass of wine with dinner." Now...
    june7007 june7007 51-55, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2014

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    Hi, well I don't know

    where to star. I have no one to talk to because I am ashame of myself, I feel they don't want to hear me because after all here I still am, taking it all, and I deserve every bit of it. We met when I was 18 he was 22. I am now 30 and he is 34. We have been together since. 12...
    Pekingese Pekingese 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 20, 2015

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 20 years. He didn't start drinking heavily until one of his childhood friends tragically died around 10 years ago. He doesn't still drink because of that, but that definitely started the habit. Before that, he would just have a couple of beers on the weekends and be just...
    Michol84 Michol84 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I'm tired of the depression

    and comfort he seeks in the drink. He's mean and rude when drunk. :( I miss my husband that could be without, and loved me without criticism. I am tired. I am sad. I am stuck.
    IjusttrytoBE IjusttrytoBE 31-35 1 Response Dec 13, 2015

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    Tired Of Being Married To An Alcoholic

    Wow!! I never realized how many women are living my life unitl I found this website. I have been married for 20 years. My husband was the sweetest, funniest, sexiest man alive when we met. We dated for 9 months before we got married and we were either at work or we were...
    triedofallthebs triedofallthebs 36-40 50 Responses Jun 7, 2011

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    I love my husband and

    before we got married he told me he had a problem with drinking. I didn't get but here I sit 3 1/2 years later and I haven't seen him in 3 days this has become the norm instead of the I don't even know the word. At first he apologizes and lies and says he's on his way home and...
    itsjustme333 itsjustme333 41-45, F 1 Response May 27, 2015

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    Tired!!

    I have been been with my alcoholic husband for 20 years, married 10. I have been verbally and emotionally abused. I am now tired and know I need out. All of the broken promised, all the excuses, all the lies have destroyed our relationship. I have focused my life on him and...
    WPeace WPeace 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    My husband is a functioning alcoholic.

    He drinks every single day. When he isn't working he starts drinking as soon as he wakes up, usually around 7am and doesn't stop until the evening. He is highly talented at his job, has incredible work ethic and can be very generous. But, when he is drunk all of that...
    gardenlilly1976 gardenlilly1976 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    I've endured emotional,

    physical and verbal abuse for years from my husband who is an alcoholic. I have come to the conclusion that he will never change. I need a way out with my kids. I need to remove myself and my kids from this abusive home.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 27, 2015

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    The Definition Of Insanity...

    Is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I know this, yet I still participate. Grrrr. My mind tells me this time it's different. My mind tells me if only I do this or that he will quit drinking. If I can just be a ________________________ enough...
    Uvulala Uvulala 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I'm Realizing That It's Not Going To Get Any Better...

    This is hard to write because I'm just now realising all the time I've wasted waiting for things to get better. I've been with my man for about 10 years. We have 2 children together, 10 & 8. It was attraction at first sight, I had to meet him and against my best friends good...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi 46-50, F 7 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    I've been married for about 15 months

    and have kicked my husband out 3 times for excessive drinking. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do: do I refuse to let him come home until he gets help? Or do I just let him come back and just deal with it? He's on the street now and is refusing to take responsibility for his...
    theRealKoala theRealKoala 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31, 2015

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    After a horrible experience with my AH I

    finally gave him the ultimatum to get sober or I'm out. I may have waited to long - or maybe I'm just so wiped out from the horrible experience - but at this very moment I don't even care if he succeeds because I'm so empty and devoid of any feelings for him. It's been a long 8...
    Ranae414 Ranae414 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 17, 2015

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    "I'm not one of those people" - except I am.

    "Those people" are ones that aren't strong, can't take a little adversity in their lives/marriages, don't have the 'stick with it-ness' of older generations. Until today. I'm married to a high functioning alcoholic. Except he hasn't been functioning too well lately. In spring...
    TOmom2015 TOmom2015 41-45, F Dec 5, 2015

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    Still Haning On

    I have been married to an alcoholic for 15 years now. I don't know how many times I said I would leave. Things would get better for awhile. Two years ago I started going to an Alanon group. They helped my learn how to take care of myself. They helped me learn how to stop doing...
    CADAdmin CADAdmin 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    The time is inching closer

    and closer to my due date. At 38 weeks pregnant I am starting to realizing at any time I could go into labor. My husband is drunk again, but would deny it with a heavy slur if you told him he was. We have moved in with my mother as he is unable to support me and the baby, even...
    brokenfence brokenfence 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 11, 2015

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    My husband is an alcoholic.

    He's also, even though he's 52, wants to be intimate every day - twice if I let him! No amount of effort has gotten him to quit drinking so we made a deal that he would not get the nookie on the days he drinks. But - two weeks in now he's mad because I won't do it when he's...
    Ranae414 Ranae414 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2015

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    He's been drunk since Wednesday,

    he'll attack me and verbally abuse me as if he hates me then he'll apologize and try to hug me. we've been finding empty beer cans everywhere. he promises not to throw stuff he asks me to do it, then a couple hours later he'll throw it in my face... hard! I feel dead inside. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 29, 2015

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    Recovering alcoholic

    but still and as he says 'always will be and alcoholic, recovering, yes but still and always will be recovering' 10 years sober. All on his own too...if he won't give up eating Ben & Jerry's by the full pint full in front of me to help support me loosing weight. Then I'm not...
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 1 Response May 7, 2015

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    my husband is totally mental,

    hdhd, paranoid and A. He blames EVERYTHING THAT EVER WENT WRONG in our marriage and we have seen a counselor for two sessions. we just had a hugs fight lastnight and he DOES NOT want to be around me anymore. I feel like a scum bag. He thinks IIIIII am the crazy one and i...
    goldfish28 goldfish28 46-50, F Jun 16, 2015

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    My Husband Drinks Constantly

    When we were first dating I didnt realize just how much he drank until I noticed that every time we spent time together we were either drinking or he had already been drinking, hes actually in jail right now for his 5th DUI. Ive read some of the stories from this group and many...
    bluesteyes12 bluesteyes12 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    I've known my fiancé

    for 5 years. We have a three year old son together. When we met in high school we both drank/smoked. When I got pregnant at 15 I stopped everything, I grew up. My fiancé did not. He continued drinking with his friends. At first is didn't really bother me. Five years later I...
    Unabletotrust Unabletotrust 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2014

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    I've been married for 17 years to my alcoholic

    husband. His drinking is completely destroying our family. Tomorrow he goes to court for driving on a suspended license initially cause by his 2nd DUI and I am left to pick up the pieces yet again. He'll probably go to jail. I wonder why I'm still with him when every day is...
    winterqueen76 winterqueen76 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I Am Giving Up!

    This is not easy for me but I have decided that I can share my story too. Mostly because I have given up and I want the next step to be the one I must take. I have been married for 4 years to an alocholic.  He is abusive, aggressive, argumentative, cheating, lieing...
    jiya79 jiya79 26-30 7 Responses Jun 27, 2009

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    I should say my ex-husband is an alcoholic,

    but there is no group for that and I need to share something. Before I left my husband I went to Al-Anon and it really helped me to understand that the disease of alcoholism has a pattern and that I was not crazy, or going crazy, or even unreasonable. When I left him I stopped...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 14, 2015

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    My husband is an alcoholic

    and has been for the last 10 years. I'm so sick of talking about him being an alcoholic thinking about him being an alcoholic I rarely drink and alcohol consumes my life. I have made the choice to leave and get a divorce . I'm listing our house this week and moving on. I can...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 25, 2015

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    First time ever in a group like this.

    So here is my story. I have been with my husband for 20 yrs. he was in police force for 14 of them. He was medically discharged due to PTSD. The last 4 years in the force he began drinking a lot! I put it down to stress. When he left force we moved to be closer to his family...
    jeasca01 jeasca01 36-40, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I come home from school

    and he is already drinking. He has probably finished a 6 pack at least and it's only the afternoon. He is planning on cooking so I know he will want to buy more beer when he does his cooking. I appreciate that he does things around the house, but only does if he has his beer to...
    WistfulDreaming WistfulDreaming 26-30 1 Response Jun 19, 2015

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    Relative Anonymity Really Brings Out The Brazenness In People

    I've been reading your stories. I see a varied bunch of experiences with common threads. But what I don't understand is how eager people seem to be to condemn you once you've decided you need to walk away from your alcoholic. Sure, sure, there is plenty of commiseration and...
    prettyeffedup prettyeffedup 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 28, 2012

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    The Beginning Of The Very End!!

    I continued to live upstairs, listening to his sarcastic comments as he passed the bedroom. I ignored his comments for i knew if i responded it would have only escalated into something more. It was 5th December, as usual he was out all day and returned home drunk, as soon as he...
    feetdreams feetdreams 46-50, F 9 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    As I'm writing this at 4 am on a Saturday night,

    my husband has been MIA for two days. Binge drinking somewhere...I dont know. He's been binge drinking from Wednesday through Sunday on and off for the past two years. We have a two year old son which he hardley gives any attention to...I feel like a single mother. I feel like...
    Isaiahsmommy17 Isaiahsmommy17 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    I Don't Understand..

    Dear Husband, I don't understand why you feel compelled to drink. You began drinking today before I was awake. How do I know this to be true? Because your hands don't shake whan you've been drinking. I don't understand why you lie to me that you have been drinking. You are...
    amelia714 amelia714 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    I been married to my husband

    for nine years hes been an alcoholic for five to six of those years and still is he cn be such a great person till night falls then the alcohol starts taking over I am so depressed I feel like hes neber gunna get over this I stay hm and raise our three kids hes on the road for...
    tracye456 tracye456 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2015

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    A DWI & a breathalyzer in his car does not

    deter. He has walked home once after drinking and tonight, he took a cab home. He refuses help, of course, & is in denial. I attend Al Anon meetings. I have threatened to leave, but financially, the timing isn't right. Our oldest daughter away at college does not speak to him...
    Jublue Jublue 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2014

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    I was researching alcoholism

    and came across this site. I married to a retired military man and he has severe PTSD and alcoholism. I feel like I'm slowly dying everyday. I kicked him out for 6 months but it's so hard cause we have been together 19 years. It's only been really bad the last five. I feel so...
    stephanie42 stephanie42 41-45, F Feb 11, 2015

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    I'm numb, I've endured years of abuse

    as well as my children. I'm really ready to leave... my children want me to leave him. He's got a hold on me, he won't let me go. I've tried talking to him when he's sober, we've all done counselling but he still chooses beer over us. He's constantly drinking and unleashing his...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Nov 28, 2015

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    Is My Husband An Alcoholic?

    My husband drinks beer every day, without fail.  It is the first thing he does when he gets off work.  When he has too many, I can tell by his quick temper.  He drinks about 7-12 beers a night, on average.  He never goes a night without! I have approached him, and he says...
    soonergalstef soonergalstef 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    Father Offering Son Alcohol

    Okay my husband told my son it's holiday time so if he wanted a drink he was welcome to it! At first i thought they was playing, then hubby got all snippy and defensive, so then i know it was not a joke. He said" It's holiday time and if i want to let my son have a drink i can...
    WPeace WPeace 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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