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I My Husband Is An Alcoholic

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    Unsure what to do. I've been married

    for 5 years and my husband is a functioning alcoholic. He is in the military so I keep it private to prevent him from getting into trouble. He spends Most his weekends drunk morning till night and sometimes doesn't go to work in Mondays. Then week days his drinking is under...
    ProudMommy88 ProudMommy88 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    Reading all these stories has opened my eyes to

    how many of us are struggling with such similar problems. I've been married for 4 years. with no kids as i couldn't possibly bare to bring children into this. I feel so naive and stupid when I look back and see all the warning signs. I met my husband during a really fun time...
    Nutmeg11 Nutmeg11 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    Trying Sobriety

    So after months of fighting, beggin and crying. My husband has finally sat the bottle down. It's been 1 full month so far. His mood has not been perfect but he has been sober. We still have major issues to work out but this gives me a glimmer of hope. I still think he needs...
    Littledreamer83 Littledreamer83 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    We Fall A Little Further But I Climb A Little Higher

    I felt it coming, I saw it coming and knew it was going to happen. Last fall, my husband called and before he got the words out, I knew he had just gotten fired from his amazing job with even better benefits. We had no savings as well he drank it. I hung the phone up, not...
    dreamingkitty dreamingkitty 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Relative Anonymity Really Brings Out The Brazenness In People

    I've been reading your stories. I see a varied bunch of experiences with common threads. But what I don't understand is how eager people seem to be to condemn you once you've decided you need to walk away from your alcoholic. Sure, sure, there is plenty of commiseration and...
    prettyeffedup prettyeffedup 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 28, 2012

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    First time ever in a group like this.

    So here is my story. I have been with my husband for 20 yrs. he was in police force for 14 of them. He was medically discharged due to PTSD. The last 4 years in the force he began drinking a lot! I put it down to stress. When he left force we moved to be closer to his family...
    jeasca01 jeasca01 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 10

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    Alcoholic Husband

    My husband is an alcoholic ive lived with it for 23years i cant do this anymore! My mother to was an alcoholic so have lived with this al my life! Sadly my mum died 2years ago and i dnt think i will ever get over it! Its so sad to watch my loved ones destroy there lives! Now its...
    Annie1949 Annie1949 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2013

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    He's At The Bar

    Two weeks sober. Now he's at the bar. I am gearing up for misery. Maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised but I doubt it. Sometimes I really hate my life. I love my babies. Thank goodness for them but I just don't know what to do about my husband and his drinking. I'm so tired...
    Littledreamer83 Littledreamer83 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2012

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    Tired Of Being Married To An Alcoholic

    Wow!! I never realized how many women are living my life unitl I found this website. I have been married for 20 years. My husband was the sweetest, funniest, sexiest man alive when we met. We dated for 9 months before we got married and we were either at work or we were...
    triedofallthebs triedofallthebs 36-40 35 Responses Jun 7, 2011

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    My Husband Admits He Needs Help

    The other day my mother in law expressed her concern for her son to me. On a recent fishing trip he took with his dad my father in law noticed that my husband was adding alcohol to his coffee at 6am. I didn't know what to think... I didn't feel that it would be a good conversion...
    britt005 britt005 22-25, F Sep 21, 2013

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    Living With An Alcoholic Is Something I Never Thought I Would Do...

    I always thought that at 41 yrs. old I would have my husband, kids, dog, SUV and nice home with a white picket fence...  I have the husband, 2 kids, SUV.....  My husband is an alcoholic.  We live in a 2-bedroom condo with 2 kids.....I had to put my golden retriever down in...
    dlm32 dlm32 41-45, F 12 Responses Feb 6, 2011

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    Still Haning On

    I have been married to an alcoholic for 15 years now. I don't know how many times I said I would leave. Things would get better for awhile. Two years ago I started going to an Alanon group. They helped my learn how to take care of myself. They helped me learn how to stop doing...
    CADAdmin CADAdmin 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 25, 2008

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    Torn

    I met the man of my dreams 2 years ago and got married for the first time at 44.  Then he started his - controlled drinking- thereafter and has been downhill since.  It hurts so much - and I want us to separate.  I can't belive I am in this situation...
    MMM1963 MMM1963 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    I'm Sorry

    I can relate to what so many of you have said. My dad is an alcoholic and now my husband...
    Cc337 Cc337 41-45, F Jul 20, 2013

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    Alcoholic Cell (poem) (Story 25)

    Alcoholic Cell I love you But our relationship's marred I think long almost everyday And i think hard About how to get away You're drinking too much And you say it's my fault You say you'd rather be a junkie Than on my game I bought You say that too casual And I wonder...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    Dr Jekyll And Mr. Hyde

    It really seems like he is two different men. When he's sober he is a loving father, a creative mind, understandingand my best friend. If he were that man all the time I wouldn't have a complaint in the world. When he drinks he can't stop. He drinks things he doesn't even like...
    Littledreamer83 Littledreamer83 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2012

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    Slow Evolution

    Every once in a while I see hope in him, I see humility. But, he doesn't get it. I mean, he really doesn't get it. .I don't like being talked down to. .I don't like being told I said something when I didn't. .I don't like hearing him call me a ***** under his breath. .I don't...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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    After 8 years married I decided to separate.

    Due to the financial problems we have to live in the same house. It has been very difficult, he verbally assaults me, treat me as if I was not worth anything, I need to be strong for a few more months until I can move home. He says I'm guilty for him to drink too much. Of course...
    Ninazduny Ninazduny 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    My Alcoholic Husband

    my husband and i were best friends for 5yrs before i saw an interest in him. With in 3 months i was prego. Thats when i noticed all he wanted to do was drink. Not thinking anything of it, we got married 2 years later. His drinking became worse a month in the marriage. i became...
    Unhappy1025 Unhappy1025 31-35, F Oct 9, 2012

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    Last Year....

    Last year was hell. We had only been married 10 months at this time last year. It was the year from hell... I do not know what brought it on. We got married and we all were drunk at the reception. But everyone was and it was okay. Then things went down hill after I found out I...
    FolsomOrchid FolsomOrchid 26-30, F 5 Responses May 3, 2008

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    Hubby Is Alcoholic Getting Worse!

    Hello! I am so sad that I have to sit here and write this...I have been married for about 10 years to when I married him at the time was my best friend..I became ill after our wedding and he was there for me all the way...We adopted a beautiful little girl about 5 years ago who...
    daisylynn728 daisylynn728 36-40 2 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Finally free From An Alcoholic Spouse After 25 Years+

    I am sure my story is not unique but I wanted to share it if I could help just one person who is going through what I lived for almost my entire adult life. My husband and I married young and enjoyed a lot of great trips and a good financial status. Soon after we were married, I...
    lakesgirl lakesgirl 46-50, F 8 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    Nearing The End Of My Rope

    It's been a long time since i have been on EP. I actually decided I need to do something for myself as sitting around playing the drunken dance game with my husband wasn't doing much for me besides taking my self esteem to a whole new low. So I enrolled myself in school. I must...
    dreamingkitty dreamingkitty 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    Father Offering Son Alcohol

    Okay my husband told my son it's holiday time so if he wanted a drink he was welcome to it! At first i thought they was playing, then hubby got all snippy and defensive, so then i know it was not a joke. He said" It's holiday time and if i want to let my son have a drink i can...
    WPeace WPeace 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    Wife Of A Mexican Alcoholic

    My story is going to be an ongoing one until... I met a mexican man and truth be told we did get married waaaaaay too soon in the relationship. I was lonely he was sweet... well he stills has a sweet persona but it seems to be beibg overtaken or clouded over by cold rock. He is...
    birdofmocking birdofmocking 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2012

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    How Can This Be My Life!?

    When I first started dating my husband, I was going through some hard times. All I wanted to do was get drunk and party to forget. He was an amazing partner for this. He was sweet and affectionate. I was almost overwhelmed by how attentive he was. The first 4 months of our...
    Jmadly Jmadly 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Tired!!

    I have been been with my alcoholic husband for 20 years, married 10. I have been verbally and emotionally abused. I am now tired and know I need out. All of the broken promised, all the excuses, all the lies have destroyed our relationship. I have focused my life on him and...
    WPeace WPeace 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    Lost

    I have no idea where to go from here. My husband is an alcoholic. After several years of struggling, he still isn't ready to accept that fact. He hides bottles & he lies to me about his drinking though he can't even stand up without holding onto something while professing his so...
    Sassycat33 Sassycat33 41-45 4 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    I Did Drink Alot: Call Me To Find Out. How I Stopped Drinking ,totally? 7818611996richy Lexington Mass.

    I ONLY THOUGHT IT WOULD BE HARD TO QUIT DRINKING BUT I FOUNDTHE ONLY THING I LOVED BETTER THIN BOOZE ASK ME WHAT BY CALLING ME 781-861-1996,RICHY 8-5 M-SUNDAY?781-861-1996=RICHY T. NO MESSAGES.
    NEEDURMOUTH NEEDURMOUTH 46-50, M Oct 6, 2013

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    Drunk Or Sober? Not Much Different Now.

    My husband is an alcoholic. He drinks every day, and each day the drinking becomes worse. The drunker he is the harder he hits me and the more I wish he'd just kill me already.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 23, 2013

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    My Husband Drinks Constantly

    When we were first dating I didnt realize just how much he drank until I noticed that every time we spent time together we were either drinking or he had already been drinking, hes actually in jail right now for his 5th DUI. Ive read some of the stories from this group and many...
    bluesteyes12 bluesteyes12 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    I too am nodding my head

    as I read your stories. My husband and I will celebrate 18 years together this June. Hard to believe that for 7 of those years, he was sober. But he was still a rage-aholic and he refused to go to AA. At first it was, "I only want to have a glass of wine with dinner." Now...
    june7007 june7007 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    He's Sober But For How Long?

    It's been awhile since I shared on this board. My husband decided he would stop drinking this past spring when after he confronted me looking for a fight, I told told him straight out I wanted a divorce. I had an appointment the next day with an attorney and had no thought to...
    dreamingkitty dreamingkitty 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Still Here But Planning The Exit Now

    Well here I am again feeling like the biggest idiot. I am just happy I am getting on with my life like planned. My husband had two more run ins with the police. One where they took him to a hotel room to sober up since he was not a threat. The other was an arrest that was done...
    dreamingkitty dreamingkitty 36-40, F Aug 3, 2012

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    I've known my fiancé

    for 5 years. We have a three year old son together. When we met in high school we both drank/smoked. When I got pregnant at 15 I stopped everything, I grew up. My fiancé did not. He continued drinking with his friends. At first is didn't really bother me. Five years later I...
    Unabletotrust Unabletotrust 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    The Definition Of Insanity...

    Is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I know this, yet I still participate. Grrrr. My mind tells me this time it's different. My mind tells me if only I do this or that he will quit drinking. If I can just be a ________________________ enough...
    Uvulala Uvulala 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I Am Giving Up!

    This is not easy for me but I have decided that I can share my story too. Mostly because I have given up and I want the next step to be the one I must take. I have been married for 4 years to an alocholic.  He is abusive, aggressive, argumentative, cheating, lieing...
    jiya79 jiya79 26-30 8 Responses Jun 27, 2009

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    I have been with my husband

    since I was 19 yrs old and I am now 38. We went to high school together, too. I truly feel that he is my soul mate but I am so tired of his drinking, which isn't all the time. I have communicated my feelings to him about how he makes me feel when has been drinking let alone the...
    wcharbs wcharbs 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I Don't Understand..

    Dear Husband, I don't understand why you feel compelled to drink. You began drinking today before I was awake. How do I know this to be true? Because your hands don't shake whan you've been drinking. I don't understand why you lie to me that you have been drinking. You are...
    amelia714 amelia714 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Wife Of An Alcoholic...Feeling Confused...

    I am 31 years old with two children. 14 and 4 years old. married to an Alcoholic. We have been married for 3 years and been together almost 7 years. There have been a ton of struggles. He used to sexually message women, etc. He is currently addicted to **** as well. He did...
    jaxster1 jaxster1 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 23, 2013

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    I Am So Sad That Alcohol Is Ruining Our Lives

    Its been really interesting reading the stories here. Until now I had not understood that the unreasonable rages that alcoholics go in to are so common. I don't know how I missed this, but the first time my husband's drinking got out of control I was so emotionally destroyed...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 17, 2012

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    Is My Husband An Alcoholic?

    My husband drinks beer every day, without fail.  It is the first thing he does when he gets off work.  When he has too many, I can tell by his quick temper.  He drinks about 7-12 beers a night, on average.  He never goes a night without! I have approached him, and he says...
    soonergalstef soonergalstef 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    I'm Realizing That It's Not Going To Get Any Better...

    This is hard to write because I'm just now realising all the time I've wasted waiting for things to get better. I've been with my man for about 10 years. We have 2 children together, 10 & 8. It was attraction at first sight, I had to meet him and against my best friends good...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    The Beginning Of The Very End!!

    I continued to live upstairs, listening to his sarcastic comments as he passed the bedroom. I ignored his comments for i knew if i responded it would have only escalated into something more. It was 5th December, as usual he was out all day and returned home drunk, as soon as he...
    feetdreams feetdreams 46-50, F 9 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    Why Now??????

    Anyone who has been following my situation will know for the past 4 weeks we have been living our lives seperate. My husbands an alcoholic. Not speaking to each other. I have slept upstairs, and him on the sofa. He received a letter from my lawyer yesterday, stating that i want a...
    feetdreams feetdreams 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 14, 2011

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    So I Need Other Opinions

    I had a follow up with my dr. Today. I hadn't seen her since July 2011. Problems with my husband started this past August. She had delivered my last son so I wanted to show her his updated pictures. Then she asked how I had been lately. I said fine but I guess she could tell...
    Littledreamer83 Littledreamer83 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    I have been married to my husband

    for almost four years. He stays sober on the days that he has to work and then binge drinks on the weekends. He is verbally and has been physically abusive when he is drunk. Together we have a 3 year old and a 2 year old, both boys, and I have a 12 year old daughter from a...
    jtaysma jtaysma 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Related Experiences

    I am recently married to the most amazing man. He goes to college and works full time to provide for us. I stay at home. I am a house husband and everyone thinks it is easy care...
    1plus1isUs 1plus1isUs 18-21, T 1 hr ago

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    I have been with my husband for seven years and married for almost six. I'm basically done right now and making a plan to leave. I'll go into his history another time, but the...
    fragmentofthegirl fragmentofthegirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    I am an alcoholic and a cigarrtte smoker, the problem is I seem to always drink too much and get angry at my husband, we are so close to breaking up, I am normally without alcohol...
    4myfuturehappiness 4myfuturehappiness 46-50, F 7 Responses Apr 2

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    Hi, Im 56 Ive had cancer have angina, firbromyalgia, high blood pressure, my partner not husband is a alcoholic, and we've been together 11 years 3 driving bans, but I'm so tired...
    ssorebones ssorebones 56-60, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    My husband has been drinking every single day for the last 17 years. I can count on one hand the number of days he has gone without drinking in the last 10 years. Two months ago I...
    MrsElizabeth MrsElizabeth 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My mother is an alcoholic. She refuses to take responsibility for anything she does and she turns herself into the victim in every situation. I can't have a relationship with her...
    swhickman swhickman 26-30, F Mar 24

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    I am married to a functioning alcoholic. I'm 32 years old and have been married to my husband for 5 years. We have 3 kids (my son, his daughter, and our daughter). He has always...
    Jlk081981 Jlk081981 31-35 Mar 28

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    I'm new to this but decided to go ahead and post my experience. I met my husband when I was 12 years old and at age 15 he took my virginity away. I hung out with him in my early 2...
    Nerilynn Nerilynn 31-35 2 Responses Mar 29

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    It really is amazing how hard you can focus and how much effort you can put forth, when working on something that's important to you, that you truly care about. It also makes it...
    princessmaryjane4200 princessmaryjane4200 31-35, F Apr 12