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I My Spouse Or Partner Has Asperger's Syndrome

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    My husband has Asperger's Syndrome.

    I am having a difficult time with our marriage. We have been married two years. He is a good provider and has good traits, such as being highly focused on a hobby that interests him. He is brilliant, and has an excellent photographic memory. He excels at his career. He is...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2014

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    Help

    I don't even know where to start . . I know I am going to write a book here . . but I have been waiting so long to talk to someone. I have been married to my husband three years now. I am so alone. We dated for four years and I noticed he was different . . but I guess that is...
    jends jends 26-30 9 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    Paths To Peace

    The gift of being married brings it's own challenges without adding any diagnoses into the mixture. However, when one spouse has Aspergers, the dynamic becomes very skewed and often neurotypical spouse feels like a martyr viewing the other as a barnacle. Painful. Difficult...
    Rebecca0071 Rebecca0071 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 7, 2013

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    I NEED HELP! My boyfriend of 7 months has

    aspergers (low on the spectrum i think). I have tried communication, i really have, but i wonder how much of it is his personality, and how much is the aspergers. Let me start from the beginning. Today, I was offered a lift home by a male co-worker who i know well enough to...
    misselenamasen misselenamasen 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 11

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    I think I have reached my breaking point.

    I have tried everything to save my marriage and it never gets any better. I need to get out, but I'm terrified. He's told me that he will ruin my life if I try to leave. Has anyone successfully left their Aspie spouse?
    TiffanyPerkins TiffanyPerkins 36-40, F 2 Responses May 6

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    Does anybody have a GOOD experience with their

    Aspergers partner? For a while I thought I might've been attracted to somebody with the disorder, but everything on here sounds so scary and negative.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 22

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    I've been in a relationship with an auspie

    for over a year. I recently noticed it, while doing a case study for college. I am studying my bachelor's degree in Speech Therapy, Language and Communication. Anyway, he is 39. I am 26. I love him and I am sure he loves me. But... I am so frustrated because arguments go nowhere...
    MaggieVakarina MaggieVakarina 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    Hope: 5 Stages Of Loss

    I am going to start this by explaining that I am a nurse.  I am married to a man I believe has asperger's.  He is not diagnosed, but fits the description perfectly and every quiz he has taken (or I have taken for him) has confirmed my suspicions. Suddenly all the weirdness of...
    jends jends 26-30 62 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    Times, They Are A Changing.

    What the heck is going on here? I mean, I say this on a daily basis while living with a husband who is an aspie. Over the past couple of months I have strictly thought about putting into action my divorce. I recently thought about a question that he asked me sometime ago, about...
    Misspurple Misspurple 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 19, 2012

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    Aspergers And Selfishness

    My resolve to criticise less, hold my tongue and see amazing results didn't last long. Last week Ethan came home with an iPad. A week earlier we'd had a discussion that went something like this: Ethan: Do you think we should get an iPad. Me: Absolutely not. Why do we need one...
    muddlingthroughaspergers muddlingthroughaspergers 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 22, 2013

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    SithLordofCanada97 SithLordofCanada97 18-21, M Mar 18

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    Hello all, My partner of 5 years has Aspergers.

    We have a 14 month old baby girl who we adore and we are both very gentle to. The worry I have is how much my partner I shout at each other and how this must be slowly damaging her. I try so hard to make things peaceful for her and him and while no one else is involved this is...
    jewlie1975 jewlie1975 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    Hi I am wondering if others have experienced

    that their spouse is asexual due to the syndrome ? This is my first time writing here. Thank you
    v636 v636 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    This will be long and rambly,

    mostly because this is the first place I've found where I can vent to others who may be in similar situations that’s not FB related where everyone I know might see it. I've been dating my boyfriend (P) for about 6 months now. He has not been formally diagnosed, but he...
    lisabug75 lisabug75 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    When I read about women in relationships with

    Aspies, I see my own life and relationship reflected so clearly in their stories. But I think my ADHD is making it even worse. My Aspie husband will never accept any role in our disharmony and blames me for everything. He tells me almost daily how he feels unloved...
    TiffanyPerkins TiffanyPerkins 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    I'm learning to deal with Asperger

    since my partner and his son moved with me and my son; his son has asperger and we have just known about it, it helps us to explain things... now I'm thinking my partner also has asperger but has not been diagnosed. He constantly shuts down with "normal" stressing things, he's...
    moniperu moniperu 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2014

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    Why Does He Push Me Away Just When Things Are Getting Good?

    I have been dating a man for the last 1 1/2 years.  To my knowledge, he is not aware that he has Aspergers, but I am 99% certain that he does. There were definitely sparks flying for both of us when we first went out.  I was confused by his blunt, inappropriate...
    es42 es42 41-45 10 Responses Aug 23, 2010

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    So Depressing

    It's so depressing to find out the problem after a year of being with my boyfriend. Yes, he has Asperger's. For so long, I thought I was doing something wrong. I thought the reason he hurt my feelings and neglected me was somehow MY fault. He seemed like such a nice person, I...
    vavaviolet vavaviolet 41-45 12 Responses Apr 3, 2012

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    I wish I could talk to my Aspie husband about

    the issues I have with our relationship, but as soon as I say anything, he gets so defensive and turns it back on me or becomes verbally abusive and punches walls or doors. He rarely admits that he contributes to our problems and on those rare occasions, he follows up with...
    TiffanyPerkins TiffanyPerkins 36-40, F 6 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    New Website For NT Partners!

    Hi - I've posted about this before (when it was just a theory!) and now, today, it's starting to become a reality. This website WILL happen. If you are an NT partner and have been struggling with getting support, advice and resources, it hopes to help you: a) to understand...
    Mercgirl007 Mercgirl007 51-55 Oct 23, 2013

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    I am pretty sure my husband of 11 years has

    aspergers. We have three children, he is a stay at home dad. I love him but I feel like I am the only one making any effort in our relationship. He really doesn't seem to care and I feel like I have to treat him like a child. I sometimes feel like he is is only with me out of...
    eriesisgod eriesisgod 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    I am currently beside myself!

    I think my partner (and father of my 17month old) has Asperger's Syndrome. We are currently separated but "trying to work it out" except he insists that i am the one with the problems and i need to see a psychologist to deal with the way i speak to him. He believes my tone and...
    graciesplayground graciesplayground 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 30

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    Autism is not a mental disorder,

    it's a developmental disorder. There is no cure for Aspergers or Autism at any age. Early Intervention like Speech Therapy, ABA Therapy and Sensory Therapy CAN help a young child to develop speech. But not always, many are nonverbal. Autism is a spectrum disorder.. No two...
    mo9906 mo9906 46-50, F May 7, 2014

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    Pretty Sure My Husband Has Aspergers, Feel So Angry And Disappointed

    Together for about 25 years now, he always seemed different (shy, social anxiety, trouble with change, weird outbursts at times, never able to make bond with my son), but somehow it kind of worked. For many years I felt happy with him. Then we had a child of our own. He...
    LindaTGJ LindaTGJ 56-60, F 5 Responses Aug 1, 2011

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    She just vanished....

    She and I had had a relationship for about a month and a week, when she suddenly started being more and more distant. She stopped communicating on days that we would not meet up at school and always had some excuse to not meet up. Now that school has ended, she never responds to...
    GeorgeRashnikov GeorgeRashnikov 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I am 31 and my husband is 31

    as well?we are a gay couple? for the last 7 years My husband has been aware of his Aspergers Diagnosis and I, Have done a very extensive amount of research on AS. I do what I can to help him but I end up being the villain in every argument?I tell him how the lack of action and...
    KnightOfTheMadHatter KnightOfTheMadHatter 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 22

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    As ive done extensive research on the matter I,

    along with my 3 children ages 5,4,3 all have aspergers. It is a dominant genetic, heredetary trait. It's intelligence based and for some comes with a steep price. My price., the girl i loved. She left. Me after my diagnosis at age 13. Ik wat you're thinking... 13 year old cant...
    turbojc20 turbojc20 22-25, M May 2

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    Living With An Aspergers Spouse, A Daily Struggle!

    I have been married to a dependable, honest and caring man for almost 20 years. He is an undiagnosed case of aspergers and we have a 14 year old son on the Autism spectrum quite high functioning. It is almost enough to drive a spouse crazy dealing with the unpredictability of a...
    rubymonday rubymonday 36-40 18 Responses Mar 19, 2012

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    how is it with someone with aspergers syndrome?

    I have it. I had one serious relationship. I wonder if its very miserable being with me. since she cheated and my other short relationship.
    kittyanthony kittyanthony 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Gah! Sometimes I just want to scream at him!

    !! He doesn't understand why I get upset then acts like I'm the one being a jerk. He knows he needs help but refuses to see a doctor because of his anxiety. But he refuses to let me help him also. He won't talk to me. I love him but it is just so hard.
    eriesisgod eriesisgod 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    I probably have it too,

    based on the info I've studied. But I never got tested.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    A Realization...

    Just now I was reading some older stories to help me feel less lonely, and I came across a response to a story that really resonated with me. This is part of what the response said "He continues to be selfish and I allow him to, even apologizing for being upset when I have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    my husband has no sense of humor,

    im at fault a lot of the time, I prefer to do things w/out him more and more what do I do?
    megsyB megsyB 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    Whole Family of Aspies

    When our son was in 3rd grade, a teacher suggested that he might have Asperger's.  I went immeditely into denial.  My husband went home and got on the internet and read a lot of stuff and self diagnosed three days later. Now, 6 years later, I know that both my sons and...
    SheelaNGig SheelaNGig 46-50, F 9 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    Lonely, Insecure, And In Love With An Aspie (?)

    I have been in a relationship with what I am pretty sure is an Aspie (male) for 2 1/2 years now. It has been an extraordinarily painful, frustrating, ambiguous, maddening, and psychologically damaging (to my ego and emotional sanity) odyssey. I am only still in the relationship...
    pebbles111 pebbles111 41-45 4 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    Feeling sad. As an aspie,

    I'm wondering are we monsters? Because all we ever seem to do is hurt people. Never make them happy or feel loved, we just hurt them. It's not are fault were too logical and have less range of emotions. We were born this way, so are we born monsters or not?
    Amichelseaoramichris Amichelseaoramichris 18-21, T 6 Responses May 2

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    I have been doing a lot

    if research on AS and I am almost 100 percent sure my husband has it. In the beginning I was attracted to him because he was SO different. I had been with a real piece of work for almost four years and when I met my husband I remember just almost feeling like I had stars in my...
    Allaboutaddi Allaboutaddi 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    I am married for 4.5 years,

    i met my husband in the other side of the world... i moved whit my two kids to him (this is my second marriage)... when we started living together i found out some things were not as they were supposed to be, first i tought it was the cultural diference... but whit the time i...
    TikaBuendia TikaBuendia 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    Cassandra Syndrome

    I was an emotional wreck when I met him, I was 25 and divorced with an 18 mo daughter. He represented the security I longed for. He was the strong  silent type, good-looking, the perfect husband. So what if he was a little cold and distant? I figured this was the price of...
    magicbeet magicbeet 36-40, F 33 Responses Jul 14, 2011

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    High Functioning Adult = Low Functioning Spouse

    Ok, so low functioning perhaps not the right words to use, but boy do I feel like that sometimes. This is suppose to be a safe place, so hopefully I won't be judged too much :} My husband of 20 years (I'm 38 he's 45) has been diagnosed recently. As many people here who are...
    perspectives perspectives 36-40, F 13 Responses Feb 25, 2012

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    Just Realized What Is Going On.

    I have been with my husband for seven years plus two dating and cant believe that it has taken me this long to put all the pieces together. The signs/ red flags were all there. many many stories just like the ones I have read about in this blog. I have been in disbelieve for so...
    sameostuff sameostuff 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Top Three Reasons I Love My Aspie

    There are a few posts up here wanting to put a positive spin on loving an Aspie and I think that is what we all need. I have been reading a book called Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome: Understanding and Connecting with your Partner by Cindy Ariel. I highly recommend this...
    gingerxbaybee gingerxbaybee 22-25 8 Responses Oct 6, 2012

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    Should I let it go one more time?

    I've become a pathetic human being, waiting for someone to give me any sort of affection, any sort of recognition. I feel that this relationship I am in is wrong on so many levels but I cannot let go and move on with my life. My bf works long hours. He devotes his life to his...
    misslonelyplanet misslonelyplanet 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    It makes me so sad to write this,

    but I think it's over. I can't continue in a marriage that is so one-sided and hurtful. I want so badly to keep my family together, but trying to make it work with someone who has no regard for anyone but himself is breaking my spirit. I am exhausted. I am no quitter, but after...
    Elasticgirl Elasticgirl 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 5, 2014

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    My Husband Has Aspers

    hi everyone i joined this group as i feel like i need some help or people going through and understand what im going through..i married my husband almost a year ago..he is the love of my life,my world i love him so much..but sometimes he really hurts my feelings by saying things...
    sydney2009 sydney2009 22-25 24 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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