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This is not the right guy for you.  Look for someone else--you would be much better off with someone like yourself.

 

Sounds to me as if this person is content with the way the relationship is.  After nine years I doubt if he will commit and take on the responsibility of a spouse.  Many people are like that, not to say they are bad people, but if they are getting what they need why buy the farm and the responsibilities of the farm.  I am fifty six years old and my father used to tell me they wont buy the cow if they get the milk free.  Much is in those words and if the relationship is not fullfilling to you and is not growing maybe it is time to discuss what your needs are and reevaluate if this is where you want to remain.  I hope you find a resolution, it is frustrating when you feel you are the only one that wants to commit.
I believe you are seeing the writing on the wall that the relationship is going no where and a change needs to take place.
I pray the best for you - communication is the best and being truthful to each other and to yourself is paramount.

 

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I don't think that he is going to marry, especially if you have not ever pushed it. i only say this because my dad and step mom are going on twelve years and he still has not married her. Some men want that married life some don't. If you want to be married and that is something that is going to make you more happy than find someone else, but don't think it will be easy. you will be starting all over again. you will have to date, find a guy that respects you and teach him your ways while he teaches you his ways. is your relationship good and you are just willing to put it in the past cause you want to get married or are there issues and you are using this as an excuse? sorry to so forward but things to think about. My dad and step mom are not married and may never get married but they are happy!

 

Please please just leave. If you dating him about 9 years and he still don't know he wants to marry you, because he don't want to marry you. Simple. There are lots of man out there, who would love you and treat you the way you should be treated.