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    A Failed Relationship Without a Closure

    I had the best parents. They have loved me profoundly but sadly they are both gone.  I had always thought that because of this blessing, I may always be unlucky in love. A love of a parent is of course different but with all my misfortunes in relationships it crossed my...
    annamaria annamaria 46-50, F Mar 15, 2008

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    A Simple Request....

    As I sit here I have a million thoughts running through my mind. So many that I can't sleep anymore. I have too many questions without any answers. Till this day Im not sure what exactly happened. I'm lost. All I know is that you are gone and I'm in pain. I try to make sense of...
    hadyourchance hadyourchance 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    GreenPanda2015 GreenPanda2015 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 27, 2014

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    A Closure

    I could not believe someone that said to be so in love would actually just disappear without explanation, without a closure.I wasted a big chunk of my life trying to find answers.I now understand,that people in fact do that coz they care only about them first. I am not alone...
    BreatheEasyAgain BreatheEasyAgain 36-40, F May 28, 2013

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    I had a dream about you last night.

    ..again. This one made me wake up and miss you even more than I have in the last week. I know that you needed to move for your job, but I wish that you would have talked to me about everything. We are/were (not sure where we stand at the moment) in a relationship. Yes, we moved...
    11scorpio11 11scorpio11 22-25, F May 18

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    When ending a relationship,

    I need closure. Out of all the relationships I've had, the only closure I received was from my last. It was the best thing. We knew there would be no more "us", so we laid everything out into the open. There was no yelling, there was no arguing. I got my answers to the questions...
    anitamigna anitamigna 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 23, 2014

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    Sleep

    With every loss, there is a gain. With every breath, is a moment taken away. Every step, is two steps back. Every spoken word, is two moments of silence. Every birth, is two deaths. Every smile, is two tears. As the string vibrates, a melody occurs,. However, unlike before...
    Fromlosttolucid Fromlosttolucid 18-21, M Apr 17, 2011

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    Just tell me. Anything.

    .. I'm the safety net. You will meet someone else.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 16

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    And So It Is...

    I'll always wonder how it would it have been. But I understand that it couldn't be. I 'll be always thankful for all I learned. When I face trouble, I may think it should have been. I don't love you, I know now, and I never will.  You don't deserve all the things I would...
    Mkarronni Mkarronni 31-35, F Aug 10, 2010

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    Need The Closure!

    I Need This Closure!!!!!! so I did let him go,but he says to me that he can never let me go,but I say let him live in his dream,cause this is overfor good.
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F 2 Responses May 22, 2011

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    Help Meee Plzz?

    I don't know what to do. I'm a mess right now. He broke my heart. I thought he was the one. This is the most cliche' story that one could ever come across but I guess it happens to the most of us. We met at a party when we were drunk. We made out and slowly started finding out...
    KillAishX KillAishX 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    I Still Do

    I asked , and i asked again but no ! nothing ... Its like by them not giving closure that they still have you in some way , my ex refuses to give any sort of closure on our relationship even though its been two years now .. On New Years eve he rang me up the worse for drink...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    I was 15, and he took my home from school

    for the very first time. My parents never let me date prior to that but they had just gotten a divorce and things were pretty hectic. I was starting to feel like an adult who was ready for a relationship. And at 15, we'd hang out in his car till 2 a.m just talking about...
    elm04477 elm04477 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    Potter's Closure

    I realize I do not have closure on two key things in my life. I don't know exactly what "closure" means, but I hear people talk about it like it's a good thing, how it makes you feel good about bad things that have happened. I figure since I feel so lousy about these two certain...
    kristinlately kristinlately 26-30, F Dec 3, 2010

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    DADDY'S Little Girl

    WHEN I WAS 5 MY DAD KILLED HIMSELF OUTSIDE MY ROOM... I HAVE NEVER GOT OVER IT AND NEVER WILL TO THIS DAY IT CAN EAT ME ALIVE KNOWING I WAS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM TO SAY ALIVE... THINKING MAYBE I DID SOMETHING WRONG... THE MOST PART IS NOT THAT HE KILLED HIM SELF IT IS THE WAY...
    AROMAOFDEATH AROMAOFDEATH 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    Little Plans

    In my own strange abnormal fashion, I am doing what feels normal to me. I am having a little marital funeral with a locked up memorial. The keys will be given to my children when they are of age to discover their history, our history. I'm going to enclose letters explaining the...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 6 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    Four Years Ended With A Text.

    Four years..That's how long we were together.. Lived together for about 3 and a half... She was my world, my everything.. The one that I loved more than I loved life. We shared so much together.. Had the joy of getting pregnant, and the horrible pain of learning that she...
    heartbroken79 heartbroken79 31-35, M Dec 2, 2011

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    This story is a bit long,

    so I shall summarize my experience...questions/advice welcome in the comments. December 31, 2013 My boyfriend and financial provider for out family of 3 got laid off from a good paying job January 2014 We are late on January rent ($1075). Our daughter turns 2. Unemployment is...
    ShellyKn1ts ShellyKn1ts 22-25, F Jul 11, 2014

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    Five Incredible Months, No Closure

    I can't seem to find closure in my relationship and I can't figure out why. All signs point to me being able to gain that, but it just isn't there at doesn't seem like it's coming anytime soon. I still dream about what I want to say to her. I still dream about seeing her, on a...
    a97989 a97989 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 9, 2010

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    I've been told he has replaced me.

    Do I believe it or just got to the source??? I'm afraid of the reality hitting... But I need closure.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 19, 2014

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    Closure

    Been spending days upon days trying to understand why, what, and when. It's frustrating because if I ask these questions, I don't believe that I would an honest answer. Unreal!
    courageous8 courageous8 36-40 2 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    Grammy

    this year my grammy died. i new her my whole life! i loved her so much!! i will really miss her..this christmas will be hard. i watch her funeral video all the time. i wish i could go back in time to her funeral. i really want to see her but i know i never will. all i have is a...
    taytay45698 taytay45698 13-15, F Jul 16, 2010

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    How do u get ur closure over a break up?

    ... We always find ourselves in this situation year in, year out, for seven freaking years now.. And we fight a lot everytime over the silliest, unremarkable things, but we always managed to find a way back to each other eventually, even if it takes 6months gap everytime.. But...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 13, 2014

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    Face Of Grace

    I am writing to you tonight with such enthusiasm for the positive perspective I have chosen to keep locked in my mind. I am doing simply fantastic at my evening job. In my first two weeks, I am one of the top sellers in the marketing department for a performing arts center...
    kristinlately kristinlately 26-30, F Jan 7, 2011

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    It's not fair to me that I have to face the fact

    that change is hard. With the people in my life and the people of this world... I don't know where to begin. I need to tell people how I feel, and that I don't care. Let them know this before they leave this earth. What are the odds that I'll never get to become the person I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 10

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    Building Memories...

    "Building Memories...." One eye opens, the other opens. The cool crisp air fills his lungs as he takes his first deep breath of the day. He steps out his door only to be faced with a long, vast empty road. Almost seeming to have no end. He starts to walk down this...
    Fromlosttolucid Fromlosttolucid 18-21, M Aug 25, 2009

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    Just Tell Me Everything So I Can Move On

    My husband had sex with another woman - when confronted - he lied - then said he committed the worst sin - then denied it - then said it was all her fault - then said I am so sorry for everything - but never elaborated on what the everything was.  He has never told me the...
    ltlQne ltlQne 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 16, 2007

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    Even though I hate you,

    it doesn't change that I still desire answers from you. You've called me out for my "self righteousness" on more than one occasion, but how self righteous is the want for clarity? I don't need you, or want you anymore, what I can't forget is the way you handled me like some game...
    shakeandbake760 shakeandbake760 26-30, F Jun 9, 2014

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    EP Is Helping.........

    The more stories I tell, the easier it seems to be to let things go. I feel freer then I have in a long time. I don't know if I'll ever get true closure for a couple of things, but if I can somehow get rid of fear that was born from those experiences, then my life will be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 10, 2009

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    Please Just Give Me Closure!

    I don’t understand why we are no longer talking. I don’t understand why you are not able to talk about feelings like a man. I get that you are supposed to be “Stoic” but trust me when I say that will get you nowhere in life. I spent a long time hoping that we would...
    CalypsoChisisi CalypsoChisisi 18-21, F Nov 1, 2012

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    My Way Of Saying Goodbye!!!!!

    One day you will search for me, look for me everywhere. But, I won’t be there.When sky is all you would have to look over you. When the breeze will touch your skin and you will feel like it’s a dream. You would look for someone to tell you it’s real and you would wake up...
    confusedandloveless confusedandloveless 22-25, M Nov 19, 2012

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    I Can't Move On

    I've never written anything like this before. I suppose it's pride; I like to think of myself as strong and rational. Others seem to. On the whole I find wry humour is pretty effective at keeping things at arm's length. But this is not something I can rationalise my way out of. I...
    omniac22 omniac22 22-25 1 Response Jun 11, 2010

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    How do you say goodbye?

    How do you erase someone from your life? I can't say goodbye but I know I need too because it's not healthy. Ugh. This is ******* hard but unfair! Dam you Greg!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 1, 2014

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