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I Need Closure

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    Little Plans

    In my own strange abnormal fashion, I am doing what feels normal to me. I am having a little marital funeral with a locked up memorial. The keys will be given to my children when they are of age to discover their history, our history. I'm going to enclose letters explaining the...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 7 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    A Simple Request....

    As I sit here I have a million thoughts running through my mind. So many that I can't sleep anymore. I have too many questions without any answers. Till this day Im not sure what exactly happened. I'm lost. All I know is that you are gone and I'm in pain. I try to make sense of...
    hadyourchance hadyourchance 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    EP Is Helping.........

    The more stories I tell, the easier it seems to be to let things go. I feel freer then I have in a long time. I don't know if I'll ever get true closure for a couple of things, but if I can somehow get rid of fear that was born from those experiences, then my life will be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 10, 2009

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    Building Memories...

    "Building Memories...." One eye opens, the other opens. The cool crisp air fills his lungs as he takes his first deep breath of the day. He steps out his door only to be faced with a long, vast empty road. Almost seeming to have no end. He starts to walk down this...
    Fromlosttolucid Fromlosttolucid 18-21, M Aug 25, 2009

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    Grammy

    this year my grammy died. i new her my whole life! i loved her so much!! i will really miss her..this christmas will be hard. i watch her funeral video all the time. i wish i could go back in time to her funeral. i really want to see her but i know i never will. all i have is a...
    taytay45698 taytay45698 13-15, F Jul 16, 2010

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    Sleep

    With every loss, there is a gain. With every breath, is a moment taken away. Every step, is two steps back. Every spoken word, is two moments of silence. Every birth, is two deaths. Every smile, is two tears. As the string vibrates, a melody occurs,. However, unlike before...
    Fromlosttolucid Fromlosttolucid 18-21, M Apr 17, 2011

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    Finally Recieve What I Needed To Let Go Of The Hope

    Today, I finally received the email that I have been waiting for to kill the hope I had for us.  As much as I hated getting this but I am very thankful that I can close that door finally and start my process of living my life instead of waiting for something that could never be...
    llady99 llady99 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 21, 2011

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    Just Tell Me Everything So I Can Move On

    My husband had sex with another woman - when confronted - he lied - then said he committed the worst sin - then denied it - then said it was all her fault - then said I am so sorry for everything - but never elaborated on what the everything was.  He has never told me the...
    ltlQne ltlQne 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 16, 2007

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    I Got Mine In An E-mail

    The love of my life told me how he didn't want to be with me a year after we broke up. I didn't want closure, I just wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. We had been in love since 4th grade, he always told me he would never leave me. In the end it is my fault, as it is...
    hgosch hgosch 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 2, 2011

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    A Failed Relationship Without a Closure

    I had the best parents. They have loved me profoundly but sadly they are both gone.  I had always thought that because of this blessing, I may always be unlucky in love. A love of a parent is of course different but with all my misfortunes in relationships it crossed my...
    annamaria annamaria 46-50, F Mar 15, 2008

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    This story is a bit long,

    so I shall summarize my experience...questions/advice welcome in the comments. December 31, 2013 My boyfriend and financial provider for out family of 3 got laid off from a good paying job January 2014 We are late on January rent ($1075). Our daughter turns 2. Unemployment is...
    ShellyKn1ts ShellyKn1ts 18-21, F Jul 11

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    I've been told he has replaced me.

    Do I believe it or just got to the source??? I'm afraid of the reality hitting... But I need closure.
    ExecutiveAsst ExecutiveAsst 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 19

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    How do u get ur closure over a break up?

    ... We always find ourselves in this situation year in, year out, for seven freaking years now.. And we fight a lot everytime over the silliest, unremarkable things, but we always managed to find a way back to each other eventually, even if it takes 6months gap everytime.. But...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    GreenPanda2015 GreenPanda2015 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    Even though I hate you,

    it doesn't change that I still desire answers from you. You've called me out for my "self righteousness" on more than one occasion, but how self righteous is the want for clarity? I don't need you, or want you anymore, what I can't forget is the way you handled me like some game...
    shakeandbake760 shakeandbake760 26-30, F Jun 9

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    Four Years Ended With A Text.

    Four years..That's how long we were together.. Lived together for about 3 and a half... She was my world, my everything.. The one that I loved more than I loved life. We shared so much together.. Had the joy of getting pregnant, and the horrible pain of learning that she...
    heartbroken79 heartbroken79 31-35, M Dec 2, 2011

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    Please Just Give Me Closure!

    I don’t understand why we are no longer talking. I don’t understand why you are not able to talk about feelings like a man. I get that you are supposed to be “Stoic” but trust me when I say that will get you nowhere in life. I spent a long time hoping that we would...
    CalypsoChisisi CalypsoChisisi 18-21, F Nov 1, 2012

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    Need The Closure!

    I Need This Closure!!!!!! so I did let him go,but he says to me that he can never let me go,but I say let him live in his dream,cause this is overfor good.
    angelwithoutwings angelwithoutwings 26-30, F 2 Responses May 22, 2011

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    Five Incredible Months, No Closure

    I can't seem to find closure in my relationship and I can't figure out why. All signs point to me being able to gain that, but it just isn't there at doesn't seem like it's coming anytime soon. I still dream about what I want to say to her. I still dream about seeing her, on a...
    a97989 a97989 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 9, 2010

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    Face Of Grace

    I am writing to you tonight with such enthusiasm for the positive perspective I have chosen to keep locked in my mind. I am doing simply fantastic at my evening job. In my first two weeks, I am one of the top sellers in the marketing department for a performing arts center...
    kristinlately kristinlately 26-30, F Jan 7, 2011

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    I Can't Move On

    I've never written anything like this before. I suppose it's pride; I like to think of myself as strong and rational. Others seem to. On the whole I find wry humour is pretty effective at keeping things at arm's length. But this is not something I can rationalise my way out of. I...
    omniac22 omniac22 22-25 1 Response Jun 11, 2010

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    DADDY'S Little Girl

    WHEN I WAS 5 MY DAD KILLED HIMSELF OUTSIDE MY ROOM... I HAVE NEVER GOT OVER IT AND NEVER WILL TO THIS DAY IT CAN EAT ME ALIVE KNOWING I WAS NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM TO SAY ALIVE... THINKING MAYBE I DID SOMETHING WRONG... THE MOST PART IS NOT THAT HE KILLED HIM SELF IT IS THE WAY...
    AROMAOFDEATH AROMAOFDEATH 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    My Way Of Saying Goodbye!!!!!

    One day you will search for me, look for me everywhere. But, I won’t be there.When sky is all you would have to look over you. When the breeze will touch your skin and you will feel like it’s a dream. You would look for someone to tell you it’s real and you would wake up...
    confusedandloveless confusedandloveless 22-25, M Nov 19, 2012

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    I Still Do

    I asked , and i asked again but no ! nothing ... Its like by them not giving closure that they still have you in some way , my ex refuses to give any sort of closure on our relationship even though its been two years now .. On New Years eve he rang me up the worse for drink...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    I just hate to leave things hanging.

    . We either remain friends or we decide to stop! We have a real fight and then stop talking to each other.. I hate this silent Cold War .. Say what you feel and why you decided you no longer want me! Give me a chance to defend myself! Don't leave me to my assumptions! Coz I will...
    ThePeach ThePeach 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    How do you say goodbye?

    How do you erase someone from your life? I can't say goodbye but I know I need too because it's not healthy. Ugh. This is ******* hard but unfair! Dam you Greg!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 1

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    Closure

    Been spending days upon days trying to understand why, what, and when. It's frustrating because if I ask these questions, I don't believe that I would an honest answer. Unreal!
    courageous8 courageous8 36-40 2 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    A Closure

    I could not believe someone that said to be so in love would actually just disappear without explanation, without a closure.I wasted a big chunk of my life trying to find answers.I now understand,that people in fact do that coz they care only about them first. I am not alone...
    BreatheEasyAgain BreatheEasyAgain 36-40, F May 28, 2013

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    Help Meee Plzz?

    I don't know what to do. I'm a mess right now. He broke my heart. I thought he was the one. This is the most cliche' story that one could ever come across but I guess it happens to the most of us. We met at a party when we were drunk. We made out and slowly started finding out...
    KillAishX KillAishX 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    Potter's Closure

    I realize I do not have closure on two key things in my life. I don't know exactly what "closure" means, but I hear people talk about it like it's a good thing, how it makes you feel good about bad things that have happened. I figure since I feel so lousy about these two certain...
    kristinlately kristinlately 26-30, F Dec 3, 2010

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    And So It Is...

    I'll always wonder how it would it have been. But I understand that it couldn't be. I 'll be always thankful for all I learned. When I face trouble, I may think it should have been. I don't love you, I know now, and I never will.  You don't deserve all the things I would...
    Mkarronni Mkarronni 31-35, F Aug 10, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    These are some of the reasons why I feel the need to die. Abuse. Bullying. Intrusions. Hatred. Scorn. Rejection. Other people focused on my life exclusively and somehow them...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 14 Responses Jul 1

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    Hi. So I wanna know how to get closure, me and this guy were really close at the end of last year and then we sorta stopped talking and hanging out this year. I reallllly miss...
    merley99 merley99 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I wasted 3 hours to see you, and we never even met! I haven't seen you in 7 months. This was suppose to be a very special moment. You were upset they delayed your flight by hours...
    PixieStixs PixieStixs 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Battling depression and a broken heart. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me through a text while I was hospitalized by the way we lived together and while I was in the...
    Godance22 Godance22 22-25, F 8 Responses Jul 6

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    I need more gay friends the only ones I have that I talk to without getting mad are my 2 lesbian friends but all they do is make out and hang around each other
    GayBoy115 GayBoy115 13-15, M 1 hr ago

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    i'm writing this story for people to read and learn about something that so many ask about and rather then repeatedly writing about the same thing I'm going to put it all here I'm...
    tom67890 tom67890 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Ok, I need to vent here, before I can create… I have been in need of a good therapist for so very long. I don’t know if I’ve ever had a really good one. I keep finding people...
    dragonflEYEfly dragonflEYEfly 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I'm fine. But confused. I think I can graduate this year. I need to do things in my life, I need money, I need to skate, I need to love and I need to travel. I'm scared, but I'm...
    CrookedMat CrookedMat 26-30, M 4 Responses Jun 29

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    I suppose I have spent so much time in the past four years trying to unravel the constant web that my mum surround me with, that I have become a narcissist myself. I guess that...
    createababe createababe 31-35 Jul 9

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    Is it a phase? Part of my age? No. It's not. There's something wrong with me. I'm mentally so ****** up. I need help. I keep telling everyone I need help but they don't listen or...
    juliaek1 juliaek1 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    First, I want to introduce myself, I am Cyril, 22 years old living in the Philippines. I work online as a freelance writer where I earn money just enough to pay monthly bills and...
    CyrilOh CyrilOh 18-21 Jul 15

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    I really need a friend in real life not on EP. I need a friend I can sit next to and talk to. I need a friend that I can tell my secrets to, most not all. I need a friend that...
    Esmahan Esmahan 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 29

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    Is college not going as planned? Are you being held accountable for your actions? Do you spend more time partying then studying Do you procrastinate? Are you having trouble...
    mentorthem mentorthem 26-30 Jun 29

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    We live with or around humans and hardly ever with our own kind and we need to make a place for just therians any kind, we need to live with and around our own kind we need to be...
    MrStein MrStein 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    I'm so over stressed i almost can't stand it. I'm single and dont know how to get relief. I don't want to enter some spanking dating site either. I just need personal attention to...
    1luvchile 1luvchile 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    Just some of my thoughts on the gun debate. It's probably gonna be rambling and jump around, but oh well. 1) What I don't buy into; Guns are for self-defense! How are we supposed...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I'm 16 in England and starting college soon. I need that one person to look forward to at the end of. I found the one she was called Dani(D) and lost her due to a situation where...
    lela201465 lela201465 16-17, F Jul 9

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    I am relatively homebound now due to dystonia. I go out with my husband and rarely with friends, and a walk, swim and shopping is an achievement. I can not perform much physical...
    GroundedButterfly81 GroundedButterfly81 31-35, F Jul 10

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    I mite be independent but I need love too. I mite be shy but I need to be loved too. I mite hate men at times but that's because I've been burnt every single time I've dated...
    Myalee Myalee 41-45, F Jul 11

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    I need someone to lay with me, cuddle, and hold me for no reason. I need someone I feel comfortable with, that I can share all of my problems with. I need someone that will love me...
    QuietChick96 QuietChick96 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15