I Need Constant Validation

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    I Need Validation

    I have always need validation for anything and everything I do or say. About 2 yrs ago I found out it was because I have borderline personality disorder. I learned a lot of reasons why I am the way I am. I honesty never realized that the needing validation thing wasnt a common...
    Ravenfairie Ravenfairie
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 24, 2013


    The first thing I want to do when I think about my problem of having a constant need for validation is start pointing blaming. I want to blame my alcoholic father who used to be an emotionally abusive drunk when I was a young child. I want to blame my first love, who twisted...
    w1n5t0n w1n5t0n
    18-21, F
    May 5, 2010

    that is part of being a borderline,

    once I realized that, I no longer need constant validation, but i still need validation. im not as obsessive as i once was about it, but i still suffer with bouts of uncertainty. i know what it feels like to need constant validation and it can be miserable and confusing. your...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 30, 2015


    One of the cardinal reasons why I so rarely get into relationships is that I need constant validation and I hate that because then I am the vulnerable one. Then I am always a candidate for destruction by someone - anyone who cannot provide that. No, I didn't come from a broken...
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Jan 10, 2010

    It Never Used To Be So

    god knows where it started,i used to be care free+i truely didnt need or seek praisebut now+especially in a relationship,i keep needing to be told im doing things right+make my partner happyi dont know,why,but to just still be alive at this point has been such an introspective...
    geekoftheweek geekoftheweek
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 26, 2011

    I Hate It.

    I do need constant validation.  When people don't tell me I'm pretty, I will ask.  Or I will ask if they think I am losing weight. God, it is so annoying! Why should I care what people think so much? But I do and I fear I always will.
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 7, 2010

    Heres a nice article I found about people

    who need validation and advice on stopping the habit. http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-the-need-for-approval-to-start-thriving/
    Dayzdreamer Dayzdreamer
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 30, 2015

    Odd Quirk

    Outwardly, I'm confident, bordering on arrogant. Aw hell, sometimes, I'm an arrogant ***. If someone decides I'm intolerable, I'm ok with that. But from people who are close to me, I've realized that I require a fair amount of validation. I don't think it's the...
    NoLongerHere NoLongerHere
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Nov 20, 2013
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