I Need Constant Validation

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    The first thing I want to do when I think about my problem of having a constant need for validation is start pointing blaming. I want to blame my alcoholic father who used to be an emotionally abusive drunk when I was a young child. I want to blame my first love, who twisted...
    w1n5t0n w1n5t0n
    18-21, F
    May 5, 2010

    that is part of being a borderline,

    once I realized that, I no longer need constant validation, but i still need validation. im not as obsessive as i once was about it, but i still suffer with bouts of uncertainty. i know what it feels like to need constant validation and it can be miserable and confusing. your...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 30, 2015

    Odd Quirk

    Outwardly, I'm confident, bordering on arrogant. Aw hell, sometimes, I'm an arrogant ***. If someone decides I'm intolerable, I'm ok with that. But from people who are close to me, I've realized that I require a fair amount of validation. I don't think it's the...
    NoLongerHere NoLongerHere
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Nov 20, 2013

    It Never Used To Be So

    god knows where it started,i used to be care free+i truely didnt need or seek praisebut now+especially in a relationship,i keep needing to be told im doing things right+make my partner happyi dont know,why,but to just still be alive at this point has been such an introspective...
    geekoftheweek geekoftheweek
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 26, 2011

    I Hate It.

    I do need constant validation.  When people don't tell me I'm pretty, I will ask.  Or I will ask if they think I am losing weight. God, it is so annoying! Why should I care what people think so much? But I do and I fear I always will.
    patchworkofmistakes patchworkofmistakes
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 7, 2010

    I Need Validation

    I have always need validation for anything and everything I do or say. About 2 yrs ago I found out it was because I have borderline personality disorder. I learned a lot of reasons why I am the way I am. I honesty never realized that the needing validation thing wasnt a common...
    Ravenfairie Ravenfairie
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 24, 2013

    Heres a nice article I found about people

    who need validation and advice on stopping the habit. http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-the-need-for-approval-to-start-thriving/
    Dayzdreamer Dayzdreamer
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 30, 2015


    One of the cardinal reasons why I so rarely get into relationships is that I need constant validation and I hate that because then I am the vulnerable one. Then I am always a candidate for destruction by someone - anyone who cannot provide that. No, I didn't come from a broken...
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    8 Responses Jan 10, 2010
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