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I Need Help Sometimes But Won't Ever Ask For It

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    More Trouble Then It's Worth

    I need help in a lot of areas of my life. I have had offers of help, have even accepted the offers. When the time came that I needed it I was always looked upon like an alien. I refuse to explain myself or justify it and I won't beg. So, forget it. I will struggle and do it...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    That's Me

    There are times when I do need help, but I don't run out and ask for it. I'll sit back and work through it somehow. I don't know why, but somehow I just don't want to be though of as needy. So I muddle through ... some how.
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2008

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    piema1 piema1 26-30 Sep 26, 2014

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    I Hate Asking...

    I can't really ask anyone for help with anything most of the time... even the littlest things. I'm just too embarrassed to. I don't want to  tell someone else all my problems and then have them pity me or feel sorry for me. I don't want that. So most of the time I have...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F Feb 11, 2010

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    i Need Help Sometimes But I...

    i need help sometimes but i won't ask for it because i hate being told what to do. and i always feel like if i ask for help, then whoever i ask will be looking over my shoulder for the rest of the time until i finish whatever i'm supposed to be doing. also, i've always been good...
    thedreamisover thedreamisover 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2009

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    Two Words...

    Baby steps =) Thought it's about time that I finally reached out to someone who can actually help me with my dilemma. It feels awkward talking about it, but it's definitely what I need at this moment. Hope everything will turn out just well ;)
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F Jun 1, 2013

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    Decisions and Doubt

    I recently made a life changing decision effecting myself and my husband. Now I regret that decision and am feeling lonely and depressed. I don't want to ask my husband for help and to tell him because it was my decision and idea. I don't want to stress him or make him feel badly...
    honeybee33 honeybee33 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2009

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    I thought I had the perfect marriage - like a

    fairy tale. Out of the blue, my "wonderful" husband of 16 years told me he was out of love and leaving me. I am severely depressed. Anyone know how I feel?
    Boccia Boccia 46-50, F Aug 21, 2014

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    When It Is Something To Hard For Me To Do I Will Ask You To Help Me

    but if it some that i can do   on my own i do not ask you to help me itwill be silly for me to do that right . 
    susiehouston susiehouston 56-60, F Jun 8, 2011

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    It's not that I don't want to ask,

    it's that I don't know how. Since I've been in elementary school, I've been told to rely on myself, or maybe I've told myself that. My parents get mad if I ask, and they get mad if I don't ask. Basically if I ask them what I should be asking my math teacher, they get mad for not...
    Redmoon383 Redmoon383 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Please See Me

    I want to tell someone that I cut. That I am depressed and suicidal. But I don't want to be alienated, or pushed away or thought to be crazy. I don't want to disappoint everyone. I don't want to hear what hate would fly out of my mom's mouth, or what disappointment my dad would...
    MyCatastrophe MyCatastrophe 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2012

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    Think About It

    There are days where I am lost to the point Im ready to pull the plug without even second guessing the idea. I should probably just take the risk and contact someone, but then again I dont want to be an annoyance, but than again, again, I' m sure they would prefer I talk to them...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 4, 2009

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    I Find It Difficult Because It Seems Intrusive

    Should I or I should not? It is a constant battle, I can never quite resolve this issue, withease. I loathe to appear intrusive and have a deep rooted desireto fathom out my crisis. Asking for assistance is never a facile task, after all the alternatives have...
    jophene jophene 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2010

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    What Should I Do If I Can't Trust My Mate?

    This is my first time EVER asking for help, so here it goes.... My b/f and I have been together for over a year and we have a beautiful little boy together. Since my son was born i've been having issues trusting my boyfriend. I constantly accuse him of cheating, talking to other...
    womaninneed womaninneed 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    No Thank You, I Don't Need Your Help.

    Truth be told I can't always do it on my own, but sometimes my ego gets in the way. That in itself is a major weakness.
    Euonia Euonia 22-25, F Jun 2, 2012

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    Maybe...

    maybe this is why i've had...arguments pretty much for the past two weeks on how i cant go back to the hospital...no. i cant do another psych hold. i know they are concerned, but i have to pretend to be ok. i have my whole life. it isnt good, but...its how ive had to be.
    monsterwithinme monsterwithinme 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2012

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    I Have Always Been a Fiercely Independant Person

    I had to grow up way to fast & I am quite sure that this is something that added to this quality in me. I was on my own & completely self sufficient by the time I was seventeen. If I had a problem, I tackled it, head-on. I was use to physical labor & felt that I could...
    PrettyPixie PrettyPixie 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    Yet it's the thing I need most right now. If someone offers even 1% of a listening ear, I bite it off at the moment. But it's not whinging, or similar. My problems are real in the...
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    Ok here goes nothing, im a twenty-six year old female I have three beautiful kids. I work everyday of my life and dont get to spend nearly as much time as I would like with them. I...
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    You won't get my attention by: 1. Being perverted and asking me if I want to "sit on your lap". Like really? Someone actually asked me that. Gross. 2. Asking me if I want to...
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    I have a sony VAIO netbook from 2004, my boyfriend just gave it to me saying if I can fix it, I can have it. I looked it over and the only thing wrong with it is: the screen won't...
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    1. You won't get my attention by being a disgust pervert. 2. You won't get my attention if all you talk about is your girlfriend and relationship problems. 3. You won't get my...
    OrochimaruSama92 OrochimaruSama92 22-25, F 6 Responses May 5

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    So a friend of mine is asking my opinion of her friends looks. Asking me if she is cute. The two things I hate doing most are lying and making someone feel bad. I feel like she is...
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    I'm going to bed now (or I'm gonna try) I just wanna say quick To all the people who have supported me: thank you so much I need help and can't get a counsellor because I need...
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    I have had trouble with stress incontinence for sometime now. It doesn't always happen but sometimes, I wear pads or depends so that I don't have to get up every 20-30 minutes to...
    catcrazy24 catcrazy24 26-30, F 1 Response May 16

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    Our house is a mess, i admit it but please keep reading.Today my grandma came by and saw our house though it is not really our house because she owns it. But she saw the house and...
    Starsminecart Starsminecart 13-15, F 3 Responses May 15

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    I Really need some help with a personal matter!!! Anyone willing. Someone who won't back out no matter how weird!!!!
    Transgendergirl01 Transgendergirl01 13-15, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    7 days without eating and I'm doing great! I'm hitting my treadmill hard! Been on it for hours every muscle in my body wants me to stop but I won't! My bladder is full as well...
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    I am a very open minded person that won't judge people, so if you ever need someone to talk too but are scared that you'll be laughed at or that you'll be told what a terrible...
    Crazycoral84 Crazycoral84 26-30, M May 8

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    I don't know what to do! My best friend has lost her virginity to my other best friend only it seems he took advantage of her as she was under the influence of alcohol. It doesn't...
    EmoloveAnime EmoloveAnime 16-17, F 3 Responses May 14

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    You do you babe! If you believe in god, great. If you don't, awesome. I don't personally but I'm trying to find myself and my religion. I like you for who you are, your religion is...
    bbybleu bbybleu 16-17, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I come across so many people dealing with suicidal thoughts, self-harm, depression, loneliness, loss... just people going through a hard time and are at their wit's end, pouring...
    astateofdisarray astateofdisarray 18-21, F 1 Response May 12

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    Idk I guess I'll start by saying I need help. Since I was young always been the type that if I couldn't do it on my own then it can't be done. But I can't do this on my own anymore...
    datdudeblack datdudeblack 26-30, M 1 Response May 15

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    I asked for help. I followed the rules. I signed the papers and got them signed. And a couple months. That's what they tell me. Just wait a couple months. So I lied a bit, said I...
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    im a freshman at my highschool but to start when i went to any public school i got all F's so my parents let me go to a charter school and i got all A's and B's life was good then...
    antoinne419w antoinne419w 18-21, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    this might sound a bit trivial but i couldnt figure out what to categorize it under....this has been plaguing me for a few weeks now....has anyone else had eye twitching problems...
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm the one who everyone opens up to but can't open up to anyone. Neat isn't it? Nah seriously. I wish I could ask for help or at least talk about my problems.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 30

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    I'm in a abusive relationship I'm afraid to ask for help because I don't want to lose my kids but I don't know if I can keep living like this.
    antoinette74 antoinette74 31-35 4 Responses May 10

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