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I Need Help Sometimes But Won't Ever Ask For It

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 460 People

    More Trouble Then It's Worth

    I need help in a lot of areas of my life. I have had offers of help, have even accepted the offers. When the time came that I needed it I was always looked upon like an alien. I refuse to explain myself or justify it and I won't beg. So, forget it. I will struggle and do it...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    Decisions and Doubt

    I recently made a life changing decision effecting myself and my husband. Now I regret that decision and am feeling lonely and depressed. I don't want to ask my husband for help and to tell him because it was my decision and idea. I don't want to stress him or make him feel badly...
    honeybee33 honeybee33 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2009

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    It's not that I don't want to ask,

    it's that I don't know how. Since I've been in elementary school, I've been told to rely on myself, or maybe I've told myself that. My parents get mad if I ask, and they get mad if I don't ask. Basically if I ask them what I should be asking my math teacher, they get mad for not...
    Redmoon383 Redmoon383 16-17, M 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I Find It Difficult Because It Seems Intrusive

    Should I or I should not? It is a constant battle, I can never quite resolve this issue, withease. I loathe to appear intrusive and have a deep rooted desireto fathom out my crisis. Asking for assistance is never a facile task, after all the alternatives have...
    jophene jophene 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2010

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    No Thank You, I Don't Need Your Help.

    Truth be told I can't always do it on my own, but sometimes my ego gets in the way. That in itself is a major weakness.
    Euonia Euonia 22-25, F Jun 2, 2012

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    Think About It

    There are days where I am lost to the point Im ready to pull the plug without even second guessing the idea. I should probably just take the risk and contact someone, but then again I dont want to be an annoyance, but than again, again, I' m sure they would prefer I talk to them...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 4, 2009

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    I Have Always Been a Fiercely Independant Person

    I had to grow up way to fast & I am quite sure that this is something that added to this quality in me. I was on my own & completely self sufficient by the time I was seventeen. If I had a problem, I tackled it, head-on. I was use to physical labor & felt that I could...
    PrettyPixie PrettyPixie 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    That's Me

    There are times when I do need help, but I don't run out and ask for it. I'll sit back and work through it somehow. I don't know why, but somehow I just don't want to be though of as needy. So I muddle through ... some how.
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2008

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    I thought I had the perfect marriage - like a

    fairy tale. Out of the blue, my "wonderful" husband of 16 years told me he was out of love and leaving me. I am severely depressed. Anyone know how I feel?
    Boccia Boccia 46-50, F Aug 21, 2014

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    piema1 piema1 26-30 Sep 26, 2014

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    Please See Me

    I want to tell someone that I cut. That I am depressed and suicidal. But I don't want to be alienated, or pushed away or thought to be crazy. I don't want to disappoint everyone. I don't want to hear what hate would fly out of my mom's mouth, or what disappointment my dad would...
    MyCatastrophe MyCatastrophe 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2012

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    i Need Help Sometimes But I...

    i need help sometimes but i won't ask for it because i hate being told what to do. and i always feel like if i ask for help, then whoever i ask will be looking over my shoulder for the rest of the time until i finish whatever i'm supposed to be doing. also, i've always been good...
    thedreamisover thedreamisover 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2009

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    What Should I Do If I Can't Trust My Mate?

    This is my first time EVER asking for help, so here it goes.... My b/f and I have been together for over a year and we have a beautiful little boy together. Since my son was born i've been having issues trusting my boyfriend. I constantly accuse him of cheating, talking to other...
    womaninneed womaninneed 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    When It Is Something To Hard For Me To Do I Will Ask You To Help Me

    but if it some that i can do   on my own i do not ask you to help me itwill be silly for me to do that right . 
    susiehouston susiehouston 56-60, F Jun 8, 2011

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    Two Words...

    Baby steps =) Thought it's about time that I finally reached out to someone who can actually help me with my dilemma. It feels awkward talking about it, but it's definitely what I need at this moment. Hope everything will turn out just well ;)
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F Jun 1, 2013

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    Maybe...

    maybe this is why i've had...arguments pretty much for the past two weeks on how i cant go back to the hospital...no. i cant do another psych hold. i know they are concerned, but i have to pretend to be ok. i have my whole life. it isnt good, but...its how ive had to be.
    monsterwithinme monsterwithinme 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2012

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    I Hate Asking...

    I can't really ask anyone for help with anything most of the time... even the littlest things. I'm just too embarrassed to. I don't want to  tell someone else all my problems and then have them pity me or feel sorry for me. I don't want that. So most of the time I have...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F Feb 11, 2010

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    Exactly, the best intentions are worthless if the person isn't receptive.
    hal48 hal48 26-30, M Jan 1

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    Some people here just want to moap around in their unhappiness without actually wanting to fix anything or be grateful, hopeful, and happy for what they do have and what could be.
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2014

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    People who are in good relationships take each others for granted. They don't know how lucky they are. Love is almost always not mutual. Funny considering how many people there...
    Myalee Myalee 41-45, F Jan 16

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    I won't ever forgive you. For making me fall in love with you, for making me feel like it was you I was meant to be with forever. I hate the way you made me want to get dressed up...
    H3lt3rSk3lt3r H3lt3rSk3lt3r 18-21, F Jan 14

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    I am not saying that I am a great mom or the best in the world but am trying to be. Being a single parent is really hard.My daughter's birthday was last week. She had 2...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 11

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    I don't know what to do. I've been depressed for awhile now. At one point I started to cut. I stopped but tonight I feel so close to doing it. I can't tell my only friend who knows...
    Destroyer2266 Destroyer2266 16-17, M 3 Responses Jan 19

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    It is easy to tell others what they should do when all is going well for you ,,but sometimes we have to practice what we preach.I am not going into many details here but my ex...
    rckt148 rckt148 51-55, M 5 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    What you do, always comes with a consequence. Good or bad. ------------------------------- So here's a 100% true story, that is currently going on in my life. I won't say names...
    HannahMarieX HannahMarieX 18-21 Jan 13

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    This is a true story- Truth be told, I am not in the story, but my family is, and I thought I'd change up my posts a little. So, instead of telling of MY life, I'll tell you about...
    ThisIsJustForFun ThisIsJustForFun 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I have people in my life that I could go to and I know they would listen and do what they could to help, but I don't ask. I don't see needing help as a sign of weakness and I think...
    cowboy004 cowboy004 36-40, M Jan 4

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    hate asking for help ever since I was little if I feel or hot cut my dad would stare and say to go fix myself when I hurt myself badly he just stared and left me to take care of...
    sadmistak3 sadmistak3 18-21, F Jan 4

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    I need your help, I don't want to lose my niece because we don't have enough, I want to give her everything, everything she a growing baby girl needs, she loves kisses,and to eat...
    auntchris auntchris 18-21, F Jan 18

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    I always help people when they need me I'm always there for them, but when I need help nobody is there, so I don't ask for help anymore.
    brownzugar brownzugar 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 3

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    I hate asking for help, it's such a stressful experience. I don't mind helping out other people, but it does take something out of you when you feel you need to depend on others...
    Lifelover38 Lifelover38 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 6

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    I had a girl (A) that i've been loving since i was 17 and today i am 21. We never dated but she know that i loved her. At the 3rd grade of high school i felt tired to chase after...
    thomascalvinn thomascalvinn 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 8

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    I know she is depressed. She doesn't eat. She won't talk to me about anything. We used to be really close, now she won't even talk to me. I don't know what to do and I'm worried...
    Erinn2 Erinn2 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    I need advice. I've been thinking about hurting myself for sometime now. I want to stop and every time I just try to shrug it off it just creeps up again. I want to know if I...
    thiswillmostlikelyformyou thiswillmostlikelyformyou 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Hey everyone! I was wondering if anyone could help me with this situation I am currently in! Here is the deal, after work my coworker and I go across the street to eat before going...
    Nikkyrose7 Nikkyrose7 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 18

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    Hello everyone Aidan here and I am asking for your help once again, you see I am writing another book called The Six Sorcerers and I need 5 names since I already have one. If you...
    waytoonice waytoonice 13-15, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I don't know too much about computers, and I've tried looking this up but I can't find a solution. Does anyone know why my 2ds won't connect to my router? Help would be appreciated...
    DHggmu DHggmu 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have a problem :( And it's a financial problem :(. I REALLY REALLY NEED HELP GUYS. :( Yes some of you might think that "Wow!This girl has the guts to say these words"I'm sorry...
    arlineswift arlineswift 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    Idk what to do. I met this guy called Gino in early 2013 on tumblr, i fell in love with him instantly, we talked for hours everyday on whatsapp for months. I already talked about...
    boyfriendpls boyfriendpls 13-15, M 3 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    God, I hate going for help. My parents never really helped me out, so I guess I got good at problem solving, and now I feel that everyone else doesnt know better than me, even...
    nicias nicias 13-15, M Jan 4

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    God calls sinners to repentance not godly people to agree with sin. I think you are stupid to fight God. You will only damn your soul the more you disagree with the godly and...
    Sezom Sezom 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    There are people who would not talk to you for months at a time but miraculously remembers you when they need to borrow cash or they need help with their homework. You don't need...
    elliechickenface elliechickenface 18-21, F Jan 8

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    Verizon wireless has been my cell carrier for 15 years. Their service is great. I never lose the signal, even when I went out of the country. However lately they've been really...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    i beg for help but then I turned out stupid........... **** I always beg for help but this time I'll never ask for help again............
    laineswift13 laineswift13 18-21, F Jan 15

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    i need a song will some one write it for me??
    nahreh nahreh 13-15 Jan 18

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    I haven't been a happy 15 yr old at all , my life might seem good to others but not to me. My family doesn't talk on my dads side and both parents split and re married . I don't...
    MashaBoo MashaBoo 13-15, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I really believe that everything happens for a reason. Even the worst of times in my life have taught me valuable lessons, and helped me to shape myself into a stronger person...
    ainsley022 ainsley022 22-25, F Dec 31, 2014

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