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I Need Help Sometimes But Won't Ever Ask For It

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    I Hate Asking...

    I can't really ask anyone for help with anything most of the time... even the littlest things. I'm just too embarrassed to. I don't want to  tell someone else all my problems and then have them pity me or feel sorry for me. I don't want that. So most of the time I have...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F Feb 11, 2010

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    When It Is Something To Hard For Me To Do I Will Ask You To Help Me

    but if it some that i can do   on my own i do not ask you to help me itwill be silly for me to do that right . 
    susiehouston susiehouston 56-60, F Jun 8, 2011

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    Decisions and Doubt

    I recently made a life changing decision effecting myself and my husband. Now I regret that decision and am feeling lonely and depressed. I don't want to ask my husband for help and to tell him because it was my decision and idea. I don't want to stress him or make him feel badly...
    honeybee33 honeybee33 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2009

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    Two Words...

    Baby steps =) Thought it's about time that I finally reached out to someone who can actually help me with my dilemma. It feels awkward talking about it, but it's definitely what I need at this moment. Hope everything will turn out just well ;)
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F Jun 1, 2013

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    I Have Always Been a Fiercely Independant Person

    I had to grow up way to fast & I am quite sure that this is something that added to this quality in me. I was on my own & completely self sufficient by the time I was seventeen. If I had a problem, I tackled it, head-on. I was use to physical labor & felt that I could...
    PrettyPixie PrettyPixie 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    Please See Me

    I want to tell someone that I cut. That I am depressed and suicidal. But I don't want to be alienated, or pushed away or thought to be crazy. I don't want to disappoint everyone. I don't want to hear what hate would fly out of my mom's mouth, or what disappointment my dad would...
    MyCatastrophe MyCatastrophe 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2012

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    Think About It

    There are days where I am lost to the point Im ready to pull the plug without even second guessing the idea. I should probably just take the risk and contact someone, but then again I dont want to be an annoyance, but than again, again, I' m sure they would prefer I talk to them...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 4, 2009

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    What Should I Do If I Can't Trust My Mate?

    This is my first time EVER asking for help, so here it goes.... My b/f and I have been together for over a year and we have a beautiful little boy together. Since my son was born i've been having issues trusting my boyfriend. I constantly accuse him of cheating, talking to other...
    womaninneed womaninneed 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    i Need Help Sometimes But I...

    i need help sometimes but i won't ask for it because i hate being told what to do. and i always feel like if i ask for help, then whoever i ask will be looking over my shoulder for the rest of the time until i finish whatever i'm supposed to be doing. also, i've always been good...
    thedreamisover thedreamisover 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2009

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    More Trouble Then It's Worth

    I need help in a lot of areas of my life. I have had offers of help, have even accepted the offers. When the time came that I needed it I was always looked upon like an alien. I refuse to explain myself or justify it and I won't beg. So, forget it. I will struggle and do it...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    Maybe...

    maybe this is why i've had...arguments pretty much for the past two weeks on how i cant go back to the hospital...no. i cant do another psych hold. i know they are concerned, but i have to pretend to be ok. i have my whole life. it isnt good, but...its how ive had to be.
    monsterwithinme monsterwithinme 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2012

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    That's Me

    There are times when I do need help, but I don't run out and ask for it. I'll sit back and work through it somehow. I don't know why, but somehow I just don't want to be though of as needy. So I muddle through ... some how.
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2008

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    No Thank You, I Don't Need Your Help.

    Truth be told I can't always do it on my own, but sometimes my ego gets in the way. That in itself is a major weakness.
    Euonia Euonia 22-25, F Jun 2, 2012

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    I Find It Difficult Because It Seems Intrusive

    Should I or I should not? It is a constant battle, I can never quite resolve this issue, withease. I loathe to appear intrusive and have a deep rooted desireto fathom out my crisis. Asking for assistance is never a facile task, after all the alternatives have...
    jophene jophene 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2010

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    I've been independent for so long and it bothers me to have to ask for help. But people encourage me too I try to ask for help when I need it
    DepressedButWellDressed DepressedButWellDressed 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Well - I really am stuck. I have just accepted that I cannot stay in my current bad relationship any longer or make any further commitments (especially financial ones). But - I...
    Hazel7000 Hazel7000 56-60, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    I Love helping people here on EP And in real life i don't do it for the thanks or the feelings or to boost my ego to think i'm a better person then others or for any sort of...
    ILeo ILeo 18-21, M Jul 14

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    one of the lists is about the traits of ocd I have.These include Making lists So commonly I still make the lists but now I try to make only the needed ones. I remember having made...
    WorthWonder WorthWonder 18-21, M Jun 29

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    Today my father wanted me to help him move a car. Since I am more comfortable with automatic rather than manual I told him I will try. I tried my best and managed to move the car...
    cherryaleks cherryaleks 18-21 1 day ago

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    But now I need it. Just someone to listen I guess, I don't really know. I had a moral dilemma two nights ago. A friends cousin hit on me. I absolutely reveled in the attention...
    thetruthaboutthedollhouse thetruthaboutthedollhouse 26-30, F Jul 2

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    Due to my independent nature it's difficult for me to reach out for help. I found out that you have to depend on yourself, because people with good intentions tend to not want to...
    LillyPad80 LillyPad80 41-45, F Jul 14

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    Ummm. Yes. Rare. But yes. Hopefully more than one. Lol.
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    Among the many lists this will be of the diseases I have. OCD OCPD Hyperthymesia Varicose veins (a mild degree) Monorchidism IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)
    WorthWonder WorthWonder 18-21, M Jun 29

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    If one refuse to listen and won't take advice what is the point of me trying to help? If you won't help yourself and don't change your life for the better then you can't get help...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F Jul 9

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    I could type out something so its sounds like I have a exuse for the way i feel. I feel like i need one. But honestly whats the point, there no point to tell the story of what i...
    Attilane Attilane 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    Will I do it? Probably not....but it doesn't mean I haven't been asked for it!
    Smileeboo Smileeboo 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I met my wife Sarah in 2008. We met through her friend. We started dating and things were progressing fast, we got engaged and got married in October of 2009. Things were not...
    SimpleGuy77 SimpleGuy77 36-40 1 Response Jul 11

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    I've decided to live alone,caring my parents. I'll be going to Canada after my duties here, next year and I'll be living there for the rest of my life. I just love the western...
    BridaPaulo BridaPaulo 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I'm in a dilemma. I've decided to live alone,caring my parents. I'll be going back to Canada after my duties here, next year. There,no one cares if you're living alone or if you...
    BridaPaulo BridaPaulo 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    Well then if you want to help someone who wont let you in then Let Go! Be there if they ask or need you or just listen. Sometimes people have their reasons n just want to be alone...
    Janeysunshine Janeysunshine 36-40, F 18 hrs ago

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    Okay so......I need opinions. me and my boyfriend haven't slept together or anything. We are both 16. The other day I was watching this tv show and someone said "I won't date...
    HappilyGloomy HappilyGloomy 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 4

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    First, I want to introduce myself, I am Cyril, 22 years old living in the Philippines. I work online as a freelance writer where I earn money just enough to pay monthly bills and...
    CyrilOh CyrilOh 18-21 Jul 15

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    Sometimes I forget that it's okay to ask for help, because I'm so used to always doing everything for myself. I don't ask anyone for anything anymore, because the only person I...
    amandaceline18 amandaceline18 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Hi, everyone. Everything started a year ago when I started thinking about death and what there was after life, which frightened me so much I could hardly sleep. I could't tell...
    Racz106 Racz106 16-17, M Jun 29

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    I need help. I'm pregnant of 8 weeks and I'm getting suicidal thoughts. I don't want to do it because I don't want to kill my unborn baby as well, but these thoughts are...
    peachylizzie peachylizzie 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 13

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    I need some help, really badly. First, I apologize if any of this has improper grammar or misspellings, I am writing this in a hurry. When I was a child, I was moved around a bit...
    LilMissStats LilMissStats 13-15, F Jun 28

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    so I know this person. she's helped me through so much and I physically don't know what I'd do without her. she's a maternal figure for me and I need someone that can replace her...
    1younggirl 1younggirl 16-17, F Jul 6

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    When I'm cold I can control my nerves or something like that I can make myself warm, vice versa when I'm hot! I found out recently I can do the same in a room. Someone will say...
    mrmagnium mrmagnium 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    I've ate 5 meals today and 1/2 of a supplement but I feel very weak. I can't stand up without the feeling of falling again, also my hands are shaking. What should I do? The...
    broadwaybabe99 broadwaybabe99 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 5

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    Is it a phase? Part of my age? No. It's not. There's something wrong with me. I'm mentally so ****** up. I need help. I keep telling everyone I need help but they don't listen or...
    juliaek1 juliaek1 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    Well, he can't. I could find a boy one. I'm literally to warn him from being cheated on, lied to or from heartbreak again. He defends her. I find it sad. :( So now, I'm making him...
    HighOnMisery HighOnMisery 13-15, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    rsgpfastgold rsgpfastgold 22-25, M Jul 10

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    I am scared I feel lost in crowded places and lonely no one asks if I'm okay so I don't tell, my secrets are drawn on my arms no words or pictures to show ,but its there to show no...
    angelmistake angelmistake 18-21, F Jul 16

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    Coming on EP and generally contempating the world i think we need help. I think society is broken. Every person i meet has a mental health issue, or an abusive father, or was...
    LucemSpiritus LucemSpiritus 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    Dating a recovering drug addict is not easy, but I am doing just that. We have been through hell and back together battling his addiction and things were absolutely terrible at one...
    secretdestiny secretdestiny 18-21, F Jul 16

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    I'm a sociopath because I neither care nor not care. What amuses me is the pain of others. What makes me sad is happiness. What overall has the effect on me is silence. Because...
    JaysGrief JaysGrief 16-17, M 5 days ago

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    I have had similar problems with my PCOS. We have been ttc for five years. It is so frustrating to see everyone around us get pregnant without even trying or on accident. I have...
    heatheralte heatheralte 22-25 1 day ago

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    I pull back the brown clip and bite off the ends, I just need to zone out just for a little while. I need to punish myself, I am not a good person and I need to be punished. My...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F Jun 30

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