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I Need Help Sometimes But Won't Ever Ask For It

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    That's Me

    There are times when I do need help, but I don't run out and ask for it. I'll sit back and work through it somehow. I don't know why, but somehow I just don't want to be though of as needy. So I muddle through ... some how.
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2008

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    It's not that I don't want to ask,

    it's that I don't know how. Since I've been in elementary school, I've been told to rely on myself, or maybe I've told myself that. My parents get mad if I ask, and they get mad if I don't ask. Basically if I ask them what I should be asking my math teacher, they get mad for not...
    Redmoon383 Redmoon383 18-21, M 5 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Decisions and Doubt

    I recently made a life changing decision effecting myself and my husband. Now I regret that decision and am feeling lonely and depressed. I don't want to ask my husband for help and to tell him because it was my decision and idea. I don't want to stress him or make him feel badly...
    honeybee33 honeybee33 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2009

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    Maybe...

    maybe this is why i've had...arguments pretty much for the past two weeks on how i cant go back to the hospital...no. i cant do another psych hold. i know they are concerned, but i have to pretend to be ok. i have my whole life. it isnt good, but...its how ive had to be.
    monsterwithinme monsterwithinme 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 20, 2012

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    Think About It

    There are days where I am lost to the point Im ready to pull the plug without even second guessing the idea. I should probably just take the risk and contact someone, but then again I dont want to be an annoyance, but than again, again, I' m sure they would prefer I talk to them...
    FastLaneC3 FastLaneC3 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 4, 2009

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    I Find It Difficult Because It Seems Intrusive

    Should I or I should not? It is a constant battle, I can never quite resolve this issue, withease. I loathe to appear intrusive and have a deep rooted desireto fathom out my crisis. Asking for assistance is never a facile task, after all the alternatives have...
    jophene jophene 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 19, 2010

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    i Need Help Sometimes But I...

    i need help sometimes but i won't ask for it because i hate being told what to do. and i always feel like if i ask for help, then whoever i ask will be looking over my shoulder for the rest of the time until i finish whatever i'm supposed to be doing. also, i've always been good...
    thedreamisover thedreamisover 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 9, 2009

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    What Should I Do If I Can't Trust My Mate?

    This is my first time EVER asking for help, so here it goes.... My b/f and I have been together for over a year and we have a beautiful little boy together. Since my son was born i've been having issues trusting my boyfriend. I constantly accuse him of cheating, talking to other...
    womaninneed womaninneed 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2009

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    I Hate Asking...

    I can't really ask anyone for help with anything most of the time... even the littlest things. I'm just too embarrassed to. I don't want to  tell someone else all my problems and then have them pity me or feel sorry for me. I don't want that. So most of the time I have...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F Feb 11, 2010

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    I Have Always Been a Fiercely Independant Person

    I had to grow up way to fast & I am quite sure that this is something that added to this quality in me. I was on my own & completely self sufficient by the time I was seventeen. If I had a problem, I tackled it, head-on. I was use to physical labor & felt that I could...
    PrettyPixie PrettyPixie 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    I'm just too awkward

    and I get kind of anxious and stuff, so I end up not asking for help a lot.
    Bluewry Bluewry 18-21, M Jan 17

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    Two Words...

    Baby steps =) Thought it's about time that I finally reached out to someone who can actually help me with my dilemma. It feels awkward talking about it, but it's definitely what I need at this moment. Hope everything will turn out just well ;)
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F Jun 1, 2013

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    When It Is Something To Hard For Me To Do I Will Ask You To Help Me

    but if it some that i can do   on my own i do not ask you to help me itwill be silly for me to do that right . 
    susiehouston susiehouston 56-60, F Jun 8, 2011

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    I'm terrible at asking others

    for help,there's been a few times I've had to and it is very difficult. I try to help others when I can...
    RocknRollCowboy71 RocknRollCowboy71 41-45, M Jan 17

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    More Trouble Then It's Worth

    I need help in a lot of areas of my life. I have had offers of help, have even accepted the offers. When the time came that I needed it I was always looked upon like an alien. I refuse to explain myself or justify it and I won't beg. So, forget it. I will struggle and do it...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 12, 2008

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    I thought I had the perfect marriage - like a

    fairy tale. Out of the blue, my "wonderful" husband of 16 years told me he was out of love and leaving me. I am severely depressed. Anyone know how I feel?
    Boccia Boccia 46-50, F Aug 21, 2014

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    Please See Me

    I want to tell someone that I cut. That I am depressed and suicidal. But I don't want to be alienated, or pushed away or thought to be crazy. I don't want to disappoint everyone. I don't want to hear what hate would fly out of my mom's mouth, or what disappointment my dad would...
    MyCatastrophe MyCatastrophe 16-17, F Jan 18, 2012

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    piema1 piema1 26-30 Sep 26, 2014

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    No Thank You, I Don't Need Your Help.

    Truth be told I can't always do it on my own, but sometimes my ego gets in the way. That in itself is a major weakness.
    Euonia Euonia 22-25, F Jun 2, 2012

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    Okay well I won't judge u probably! Lol I try not to be a judge mental person by any means but sometimes I can't help it. When people are purposely and knowingly hurting others...
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    belleverano belleverano 22-25, F Jan 20

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