I Need More Self Confidence

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    I don't know if it's really my lack of

    confidence. My girlfriend has universities sending her invites. She's #10 highest in my school. She's the most innocent, beautiful, self respecting girl I've known yet. Then comes me... I'm critical in not graduating. Im not good looking nor the smartest guy. I don't have much...
    wanderingsoul777 wanderingsoul777
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 15, 2013

    I feel like sometimes I don't have enough

    confidence. Some people tell me that I'm to hard on myself. Any advice????
    e77777777 e77777777
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    I was bullied a lot in middle school,

    probably because of the way I dressed and how I acted. It really took a toll on my self esteem. Now I doubt everything I do and I hate that. I'm working on it though.
    katnissmockingjay katnissmockingjay
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Aug 26, 2014

    Help Me

    What do I do when my confidence has hit trick bottom? I literally can't stand people looking at me. I'm conscious of how I look literally 100% of the time. I can't even walk around in public without wanting to cry. I don't know what to do when I hate myself this much
    mystique1 mystique1
    18-21
    1 Response Aug 13, 2013

    I just walked out of my job interview,

    and I feel like it went great. Not because I'm confident ive got the job, but I felt comfortable and relaxed. I was really anxious before hand, but now I feel good.
    DHggmu DHggmu
    22-25, M
    Jun 30, 2015

    Confidence is the secret to all beauty.

    There's no beauty that is attractive without confidence.
    DeathThrone DeathThrone
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 8, 2015

    Ambiguous People

    Why are there people who constantly harp on how you need more self confidence, and then take the opportunity to kick you when you're down and make you feel lower than dirt?  Double messages really suck...especially when they come from someone who is supposed to love you and...
    Samantha103 Samantha103
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 7, 2008

    Confidence

    When i was young i was not pretty or smart an my family always put me down... So over the years i grew up to believe i am ugly an dumb...I have learned though.. that i am not dumb just cause i have the street smart life smart... my sister may have had the book smart but i no she...
    streak74 streak74
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Oct 15, 2010

    I am my own self and I don't need to be like

    anyone else. I have my own style, my own ways, my own mind, MY own creativity. and my greatness will take me so far in life that even the people who told me I couldn't simply graduate middle school are gonna be mad.
    mentallyhigh mentallyhigh
    18-21, F
    Nov 29, 2015

    I am not there yet. After my marriage ended

    and I decided to come out to my family as a lesbian I felt great and 95% of the time I still do. However there are times, this morning was one of them, when I have a complete crisis of confidence and wonder if my life is ever going to work out. I am usually too busy as a mom...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 26, 2014

    I Need More Self Confidence

    Sometimes i need to remind myself that im human and that i do make mistakes. Perfection doesn't exists i know but i do get really hard on myself when im not preforming the way i would like to. Its been proven time and time again that when my confidence is low everything comes...
    LennonLover LennonLover
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2012

    I was a very confident person

    but because of whatever is going on I am loosing my confidence and I don't want to.. I never used to cry on things but now it's like I cry everyday on every little thing. I hate it I want my confidence back and stop my cry baby attitude how???
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 14

    I don't like sharing my thoughts

    because I don't think what I have to say is important enough to be shared. The problem is that I find people saying all kinds of nonsense all the time, but I don't have enough confidence to do the same. Even now I'm hesitating about posting this, but it's anonymous so what the...
    elpsy elpsy
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Aug 29, 2014

    I always doubt myself

    and seem to settle for less than I deserve. I'm finding as I get older that it isn't healthy for you to let yourself get in the mindset of letting what others see you as take over your own Conscious and how your see yourself. Take pride in who you are and never doubt yourself...
    Condemned341 Condemned341
    18-21, F
    Mar 30, 2015

    So I took her to a nba game on Wednesday with

    every intention of telling her that I liked her, but I didn't do it. I was having so much fun with her that I forgot to do it. I paid for the tickets and for dinner. She told me, "Thank you!" So many times. We had an amazing time, but I still didn't tell her. She's the most...
    jonbz17 jonbz17
    22-25, M
    Apr 3, 2015

    I have a hard time with my looks etc,

    I was in a marriage and felt like when I got pregnant I wasn't attractive anymore. We divorced he left me for another woman I still have self esteem issues and worry a lot.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 20, 2014

    I can relate to this group.

    I can relate very much. Still, it is only when I am new to a place or surrounded by people I do not know personally that I fall into a bottom-less pit of despair. At least until that one random friend pulls me out of my comfort zone and introduces me formally. But, even then I...
    shouldntbutgonna shouldntbutgonna
    18-21, M
    Dec 27, 2015
    heathee heathee
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 27, 2015

    I'm pretty sure I've lied

    and put on a facade my entire life and never been "me" because I just don't even have a real me. I don't actually have a personality or really exist
    DragonSkittles DragonSkittles
    18-21, F
    Aug 24, 2014
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jun 6, 2015

    I need more confidence

    but i don't know how to get it. Anyone out there know how i can build my confidence? If so please leave a comment.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2015

    Hi I'm Nicole im a spiritual advisor ,

    psychic empath, life coach and reiki master , I'm hear to help if you need any advice or have any questions , pm for more info thanks and have a blessed day
    psychicnicole psychicnicole
    26-30, F
    Jul 29, 2015

    Self confidence has been a major struggle of

    mine all my life. Fixing it is definitely a work in progress
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25
    31-35, M
    Nov 17, 2014

    I was always a tad awkward in middle school

    and high school. I was riddled with acne and never new what to do with my hair. I always thought I'd feel prettier with my acne gone. Over the years my break outs have diminished to almost nothing. I still get a few bumps here and there but I don't hide myself from the world...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed
    22-25, F
    Jul 27, 2015

    just so ya know, it's official,

    my self confidence has gone down the drain
    izzyyxo izzyyxo
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Nov 8, 2014

    Why is that I feel more confident around men

    rather than women? I feel intimidated whenever I'm near a girl :(
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 15, 2014

    I'm always getting compared to other girls

    who are prettier, thinner, smarter, nicer, and overall better than me. It's caused my self esteem to plummet and my insecurities to sky rocket. Why would you make fun of my insecurities by telling me how horrible I am, make them worse, then yell at me for being insecure? What...
    gummball gummball
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Mar 28, 2015
    Hazel888 Hazel888
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Nov 4, 2014

    Random Compliment .

    Every relationship I've ever been in , my partners always wanted me to change , either they wanted me to dye my hair , lose weight or gain weight , I even had one guy that wanted me to lighten my skin . . . The list goes on . It's like I've never been accepted for who I was , it...
    IronicAppeal IronicAppeal
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2013

    Okay, in the past I told me crush how I feel

    and she didn't exactly feel the same (Note above is her response to me giving her a note confessing my feelings). However, now things seem to have changed. She is now my #1 best friend and she is showing all the signs that girls usually exhibit when they like a guy. Usually this...
    marchdan marchdan
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    So, I think I'm moving with my parents again.

    .. It's really not what I want but my country has been going through a rough economic crisis, got some money in my account but it is practically worthless, I got no job and I've recently ended up my 8 years relationship with my girlfriend of all times. I feel psicologichaly...
    onekrop onekrop
    26-30, M
    Feb 16

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?

    v=ystcJh3HwkI Ignore the quality of my video :) i just want you to watch and think about it...
    ghostdolly ghostdolly
    13-15, F
    Dec 27, 2015

    I hate the fact I need to be high

    or drunk to really be confident and fully speak my mind or pursuer or act out my dreams like seriously if I could think they way I think when I'm high drink or both ugh be sooooo much further in life in my opinion
    reader44 reader44
    26-30, M
    Jul 4, 2015

    lotsa peeps make fun of you

    if you wear glasses and if your shy so i wish i was more confident and have lots more friends that like me like i am
    mandimandi mandimandi
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jun 13, 2015

    Because...

    ... quite honestly, I feel horrible about myself. I'm bitchy, sickly, unattractive, and moody. I'm too intelligent for my own good, and yet nowhere near intelligent enough. I'm too mature for my age, and yet still immature. I know too much, and yet am so naive. I'm lazy. I'm too...
    SheistheLorax SheistheLorax
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Dec 8, 2008

    After my divorce, I dated this guy

    who was very into me at first, but quickly became very critical and berated me all the time. He broke my confidence down to the point that I now feel like I have no hope of anybody liking me in the future. How do I get over this?
    sheepysleepy sheepysleepy
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jun 8, 2015

    I think when I don't talk much in a

    conversation, I make people think I don't like them /:
    GummiBr GummiBr
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 10

    I don't know what it is

    but when I look in the mirror I can see that my right eye is smaller than my left eye does anyone else have that?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 6, 2015

    Dear Future Me, Will I ever look at the mirror

    and not give a **** about how I look? or if Im pretty enough? or compare my self to other girls like if I were in a freaking competition? Someday I hope.
    fatamy16 fatamy16
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Dec 10, 2015

    I keep seeing a boy at the train station

    and I just think he is perfect, he goes to the same college as me and takes the same train. How do I talk to him? I have tried to force myself to talk to him but I just can't. Help me please, I really like the boy. I don't know his name, I have never talked to him before but...
    EqualityinAges EqualityinAges
    18-21, M
    Jan 8, 2015

    Some day... I will put on an outfit.

    The first one I pick. And feel beautiful. Some day I won't have a heap of clothes laying out. Every single one attractive. It's not the clothes. It's ME. Some day I won't need my husband to stop me from changing. I'll be confident enough to feel beautiful just the way I am...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

    I feel like the only way I can accomplish a lot

    of things I aspire to do in life is by gaining confidence and getting rid of my social anxiety. My self-esteem is so ******, I can never function properly around big crowds of people nor strangers because I'm always putting myself down instead of actually believing in me and...
    Realitea Realitea
    18-21, F
    Dec 20, 2014

    I Rarely Have An Opinion On Things That Matter. It Makes Me Look And Feel Dumb And Useless.

    I'm not a democrat or a republican, because there are only a few political points I feel strongly about. I can understand where both sides are coming from so I can't seem to have any real opinion about anything.
    AWholeSlewOfIssues AWholeSlewOfIssues
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

    Somebody Help Me

    i feel so bad about myself all the time. ALL THE TIME. every time i look in the mirror, i think of all the people so much prettier than me and i wonder who would ever look at me. in every social situation, i feel so invisible.. like the quiet odd girl. there's nothing special...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 9, 2012

    its crazy how one person can make u feel

    so bad about urself without doing anything....
    BlueMoonx BlueMoonx
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    I know I need more. Life would be.

    .. better if I had more. But alas, I can't seem to get past my self loathing. Ok, no. I don't loath myself. But... How could anyone see me as more than a cripple? How could anyone see more more than just a pathetic kid? I may have a few good features. But, I can't get past my...
    thehonestgentleman thehonestgentleman
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 26, 2015

    Who els struggles with achieving Self-Confidence

    and not caring a bleep about others opinions??
    CosetteMunoz CosetteMunoz
    13-15, F
    Dec 15, 2015

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