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I Need More Self Confidence

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    I'm always getting compared to other girls

    who are prettier, thinner, smarter, nicer, and overall better than me. It's caused my self esteem to plummet and my insecurities to sky rocket. Why would you make fun of my insecurities by telling me how horrible I am, make them worse, then yell at me for being insecure? What...
    gummball gummball 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 28

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    its crazy how one person can make u feel

    so bad about urself without doing anything....
    xBlossomx xBlossomx 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 1

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    heathee heathee 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    After my divorce, I dated this guy

    who was very into me at first, but quickly became very critical and berated me all the time. He broke my confidence down to the point that I now feel like I have no hope of anybody liking me in the future. How do I get over this?
    sheepysleepy sheepysleepy 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 8

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    I honestly feel really unattractive

    and like no girls will ever like me
    brganger brganger 22-25, M Aug 3, 2014

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    I know I need more. Life would be.

    .. better if I had more. But alas, I can't seem to get past my self loathing. Ok, no. I don't loath myself. But... How could anyone see me as more than a cripple? How could anyone see more more than just a pathetic kid? I may have a few good features. But, I can't get past my...
    thehonestgentleman thehonestgentleman 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 26

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    Confidence

    When i was young i was not pretty or smart an my family always put me down... So over the years i grew up to believe i am ugly an dumb...I have learned though.. that i am not dumb just cause i have the street smart life smart... my sister may have had the book smart but i no she...
    streak74 streak74 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 15, 2010

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    lotsa peeps make fun of you

    if you wear glasses and if your shy so i wish i was more confident and have lots more friends that like me like i am
    mandimandi mandimandi 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    I feel like sometimes I don't have enough

    confidence. Some people tell me that I'm to hard on myself. Any advice????
    e77777777 e77777777 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    just so ya know, it's official,

    my self confidence has gone down the drain
    izzyx15 izzyx15 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Because...

    ... quite honestly, I feel horrible about myself. I'm bitchy, sickly, unattractive, and moody. I'm too intelligent for my own good, and yet nowhere near intelligent enough. I'm too mature for my age, and yet still immature. I know too much, and yet am so naive. I'm lazy. I'm too...
    SheistheLorax SheistheLorax 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    Why is that I feel more confident around men

    rather than women? I feel intimidated whenever I'm near a girl :(
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Somebody Help Me

    i feel so bad about myself all the time. ALL THE TIME. every time i look in the mirror, i think of all the people so much prettier than me and i wonder who would ever look at me. in every social situation, i feel so invisible.. like the quiet odd girl. there's nothing special...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2012

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    I keep seeing a boy at the train station

    and I just think he is perfect, he goes to the same college as me and takes the same train. How do I talk to him? I have tried to force myself to talk to him but I just can't. Help me please, I really like the boy. I don't know his name, I have never talked to him before but...
    EqualityinAges EqualityinAges 16-17, M Jan 8

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    Some day... I will put on an outfit.

    The first one I pick. And feel beautiful. Some day I won't have a heap of clothes laying out. Every single one attractive. It's not the clothes. It's ME. Some day I won't need my husband to stop me from changing. I'll be confident enough to feel beautiful just the way I am...
    mollyhearts mollyhearts 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    Ambiguous People

    Why are there people who constantly harp on how you need more self confidence, and then take the opportunity to kick you when you're down and make you feel lower than dirt?  Double messages really suck...especially when they come from someone who is supposed to love you and...
    Samantha103 Samantha103 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2008

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    ayumipamyurin ayumipamyurin 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2014

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    I don't know if it's really my lack of

    confidence. My girlfriend has universities sending her invites. She's #10 highest in my school. She's the most innocent, beautiful, self respecting girl I've known yet. Then comes me... I'm critical in not graduating. Im not good looking nor the smartest guy. I don't have much...
    wanderingsoul777 wanderingsoul777 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    Help Me

    What do I do when my confidence has hit trick bottom? I literally can't stand people looking at me. I'm conscious of how I look literally 100% of the time. I can't even walk around in public without wanting to cry. I don't know what to do when I hate myself this much
    mystique1 mystique1 18-21 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    I am confident in my body,

    but my face not so much. All my friends have dates to this dance except me, its horrible. I am not terribly ugly, but i am ugly i think. No matter what people tell me i will always feel ugly. Even on pretty days, i am just ugly compared to everyone.
    neverweather neverweather 13-15, F Oct 2, 2014

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    Confidence is the secret to all beauty.

    There's no beauty that is attractive without confidence.
    DeathThrone DeathThrone 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Random Compliment .

    Every relationship I've ever been in , my partners always wanted me to change , either they wanted me to dye my hair , lose weight or gain weight , I even had one guy that wanted me to lighten my skin . . . The list goes on . It's like I've never been accepted for who I was , it...
    IronicAppeal IronicAppeal 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    I have a hard time with my looks etc,

    I was in a marriage and felt like when I got pregnant I wasn't attractive anymore. We divorced he left me for another woman I still have self esteem issues and worry a lot.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 20, 2014

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    I was bullied a lot in middle school,

    probably because of the way I dressed and how I acted. It really took a toll on my self esteem. Now I doubt everything I do and I hate that. I'm working on it though.
    katnissmockingjay katnissmockingjay 18-21, F 16 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    Self confidence has been a major struggle of

    mine all my life. Fixing it is definitely a work in progress
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M Nov 17, 2014

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    I'm pretty sure I've lied

    and put on a facade my entire life and never been "me" because I just don't even have a real me. I don't actually have a personality or really exist
    DragonSkittles DragonSkittles 18-21, F Aug 24, 2014

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    I am not there yet. After my marriage ended

    and I decided to come out to my family as a lesbian I felt great and 95% of the time I still do. However there are times, this morning was one of them, when I have a complete crisis of confidence and wonder if my life is ever going to work out. I am usually too busy as a mom...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 26, 2014

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    Okay, in the past I told me crush how I feel

    and she didn't exactly feel the same (Note above is her response to me giving her a note confessing my feelings). However, now things seem to have changed. She is now my #1 best friend and she is showing all the signs that girls usually exhibit when they like a guy. Usually this...
    marchdan marchdan 16-17, M 4 Responses Jun 23

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    Hazel888 Hazel888 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    I don't know what it is

    but when I look in the mirror I can see that my right eye is smaller than my left eye does anyone else have that?
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 6

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    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 6

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    I just walked out of my job interview,

    and I feel like it went great. Not because I'm confident ive got the job, but I felt comfortable and relaxed. I was really anxious before hand, but now I feel good.
    DHggmu DHggmu 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    I have been called fat

    and unfit for a while now and I didn't think I was for the longest time I didn't believe them but I strongly believe that I need to lose weight and I want to be more able to wear tighter clothing and feel confident with my entire body! I am told I have a nice *** but my stomach...
    BrokenAngel98 BrokenAngel98 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 29, 2014

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    I feel like the only way I can accomplish a lot

    of things I aspire to do in life is by gaining confidence and getting rid of my social anxiety. My self-esteem is so ******, I can never function properly around big crowds of people nor strangers because I'm always putting myself down instead of actually believing in me and...
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F Dec 20, 2014

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    I don't like sharing my thoughts

    because I don't think what I have to say is important enough to be shared. The problem is that I find people saying all kinds of nonsense all the time, but I don't have enough confidence to do the same. Even now I'm hesitating about posting this, but it's anonymous so what the...
    elpsy elpsy 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    I Need More Self Confidence

    Sometimes i need to remind myself that im human and that i do make mistakes. Perfection doesn't exists i know but i do get really hard on myself when im not preforming the way i would like to. Its been proven time and time again that when my confidence is low everything comes...
    LennonLover LennonLover 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    So I took her to a nba game on Wednesday with

    every intention of telling her that I liked her, but I didn't do it. I was having so much fun with her that I forgot to do it. I paid for the tickets and for dinner. She told me, "Thank you!" So many times. We had an amazing time, but I still didn't tell her. She's the most...
    jonbz17 jonbz17 22-25, M Apr 3

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    I always doubt myself

    and seem to settle for less than I deserve. I'm finding as I get older that it isn't healthy for you to let yourself get in the mindset of letting what others see you as take over your own Conscious and how your see yourself. Take pride in who you are and never doubt yourself...
    Condemned341 Condemned341 18-21, F Mar 30

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    I Rarely Have An Opinion On Things That Matter. It Makes Me Look And Feel Dumb And Useless.

    I'm not a democrat or a republican, because there are only a few political points I feel strongly about. I can understand where both sides are coming from so I can't seem to have any real opinion about anything.
    AWholeSlewOfIssues AWholeSlewOfIssues 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    At random times of the day I have flashbacks-memories of really embarrassing things that I have done in the past (whether just an hour ago to 9 years ago) and i just cant help but...
    messedupguy messedupguy 16-17, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I wanna know what people think about me? Please tell me if I'm ugly!
    tessalol52 tessalol52 13-15, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am qualified! I have a wide array of skill sets! I'm a detail-oriented hard worker! Why can't I get that across to employers. I come off like a little sheep. I need to be a lion...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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