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I Need More Self Confidence

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    Whatever you do good

    or bad people will always have something negative to say.
    Moonembracingthesun Moonembracingthesun 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 7

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    Does anyone have any tips

    or advice? What do you do to feel more confident?
    Louder4life Louder4life 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Nice Guys Are Losers

    My parents taught me to be a nice guy. Be polite. Treat women with courtesy. They stayed married for life. If they had sex. I never knew. It was a very unreal world. My other relatives were much the same. , as far as i knew. but I am sure now that there were rows...
    anthony2001 anthony2001 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 15, 2011

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    Why is that I feel more confident around men

    rather than women? I feel intimidated whenever I'm near a girl :(
    sydneymichelle sydneymichelle 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm pretty sure I've lied

    and put on a facade my entire life and never been "me" because I just don't even have a real me. I don't actually have a personality or really exist
    DragonSkittles DragonSkittles 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    Lonely, No Self Confidence: Please Help

    I am 16 years old and I am gay. Recently I’ve been feeling lonely and not confident in myself. I am out to my mum and 2 friends but no one at school. It’s kind of obvious that I’m gay and I’m not worried about people saying mean stuff about me because I’ve put up with...
    EvaSirusho EvaSirusho 18-21, M 2 Responses May 28, 2013

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    I don't know if it's really my lack of

    confidence. My girlfriend has universities sending her invites. She's #10 highest in my school. She's the most innocent, beautiful, self respecting girl I've known yet. Then comes me... I'm critical in not graduating. Im not good looking nor the smartest guy. I don't have much...
    wanderingsoul777 wanderingsoul777 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    Any Would Be Nice

    If only I had more self confidence, I'm sure I wouldn't be in the jams that I am in today. I'm not saying I wouldn't have any troubles, but they sure wouldn't be as stupid as what they are. They are fairly serious in nature, but what makes them stupid is the fact that my lack...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2007

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    I feel like sometimes I don't have enough

    confidence. Some people tell me that I'm to hard on myself. Any advice????
    e77777777 e77777777 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Oh I Need a Lot More Self-conf...

    Oh I need a lot more self-confidence.  I'm very low on self-esteem.  It's a hard thing to gain, unfortunately, but I'm working on it.
    Jaggie Jaggie 22-25 1 Response Aug 25, 2007

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    I have been called fat

    and unfit for a while now and I didn't think I was for the longest time I didn't believe them but I strongly believe that I need to lose weight and I want to be more able to wear tighter clothing and feel confident with my entire body! I am told I have a nice *** but my stomach...
    BrokenAngel98 BrokenAngel98 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    Because...

    ... quite honestly, I feel horrible about myself. I'm bitchy, sickly, unattractive, and moody. I'm too intelligent for my own good, and yet nowhere near intelligent enough. I'm too mature for my age, and yet still immature. I know too much, and yet am so naive. I'm lazy. I'm too...
    SheistheLorax SheistheLorax 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    To Be Sure Of What To Do!

    Now there be some confidence building! eh. But how? My mind continues to swirl in its negative thoughts that brings me back to the circles of self-doubts. How to confidently break this personal self-defeating biz!? I took I was very good in keeping one personal "special secret...
    cyclemania cyclemania 51-55, M Mar 14, 2013

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    Random Compliment .

    Every relationship I've ever been in , my partners always wanted me to change , either they wanted me to dye my hair , lose weight or gain weight , I even had one guy that wanted me to lighten my skin . . . The list goes on . It's like I've never been accepted for who I was , it...
    IronicAppeal IronicAppeal 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    just so ya know, it's official,

    my self confidence has gone down the drain
    meli347 meli347 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    Some day... I will put on an outfit.

    The first one I pick. And feel beautiful. Some day I won't have a heap of clothes laying out. Every single one attractive. It's not the clothes. It's ME. Some day I won't need my husband to stop me from changing. I'll be confident enough to feel beautiful just the way I am...
    Tihtil Tihtil 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 17

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    Hazel888 Hazel888 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 4

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    Confidence

    When i was young i was not pretty or smart an my family always put me down... So over the years i grew up to believe i am ugly an dumb...I have learned though.. that i am not dumb just cause i have the street smart life smart... my sister may have had the book smart but i no she...
    streak74 streak74 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 15, 2010

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    Maybe One Day

    I will actually have confidence in myself cause right now I have none.  when it comes to meeting people, talking to people, friends, relationships, work you name it.  I always worry about what will go wrong or that I am just never good enough and it keeps me from being...
    loneranger loneranger 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    Somebody Help Me

    i feel so bad about myself all the time. ALL THE TIME. every time i look in the mirror, i think of all the people so much prettier than me and i wonder who would ever look at me. in every social situation, i feel so invisible.. like the quiet odd girl. there's nothing special...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2012

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    Last night while i was in the lobby in our

    church this boy came to me and asked me to bend down i was smiling cause he was so cute i think he's 5 or 6 years old. Well anyway i bend down and to my shocked he kissed me in my right chick and told me "i love you" and he smiled like this ^_______^ i am speechless for a while...
    Moonembracingthesun Moonembracingthesun 18-21, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    When Will I

    I have never had very good self esteem, but since having a baby and my body being completely wrecked and fat, it has completely vanished, I know that you are your own worst critic but I have just lost any self esteem that I did have, what little bit it was. How can I over come...
    LipstickandBruises LipstickandBruises 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2008

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    I am confident in my body,

    but my face not so much. All my friends have dates to this dance except me, its horrible. I am not terribly ugly, but i am ugly i think. No matter what people tell me i will always feel ugly. Even on pretty days, i am just ugly compared to everyone.
    neverweather neverweather 13-15, F Oct 2

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    I Really Do

    It's amazing how much I pretend to have self confidence, but when it boils down to it, I'm as fragile as a crunchy autumn leaf. I've never really believed in myself. I always just kind of flew by the seat of my pants, hoped for the best and for a soft landing. I do need to find...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2008

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    Self confidence has been a major struggle of

    mine all my life. Fixing it is definitely a work in progress
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M Nov 17

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    Ambiguous People

    Why are there people who constantly harp on how you need more self confidence, and then take the opportunity to kick you when you're down and make you feel lower than dirt?  Double messages really suck...especially when they come from someone who is supposed to love you and...
    Samantha103 Samantha103 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2008

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    I was bullied a lot in middle school,

    probably because of the way I dressed. It really took a toll on my self esteem. Now I doubt everything I do and I hate that. I'm working on it though.
    lauren1andonly lauren1andonly 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 26

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    Help Me

    What do I do when my confidence has hit trick bottom? I literally can't stand people looking at me. I'm conscious of how I look literally 100% of the time. I can't even walk around in public without wanting to cry. I don't know what to do when I hate myself this much
    mystique1 mystique1 16-17 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    I am not there yet. After my marriage ended

    and I decided to come out to my family as a lesbian I felt great and 95% of the time I still do. However there are times, this morning was one of them, when I have a complete crisis of confidence and wonder if my life is ever going to work out. I am usually too busy as a mom...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Plane Crash

    Well, apparently even my subconscious mind is telling me so...Few nights ago, I dreamt that I was on a plane crash. Strangely, all the passengers were asleep while I witnessed how the pilot maneuvered the plane into safety. Crashing its wing on a cliff, then landing onto the...
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F Sep 3, 2013

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    I Am Trying

    ALOT of things have happened for me to lose all the confidence I used to have. But I notice I get more of it back, every now and then, I don't mind the wait, as long as it comes back :)
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2009

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    I Rarely Have An Opinion On Things That Matter. It Makes Me Look And Feel Dumb And Useless.

    I'm not a democrat or a republican, because there are only a few political points I feel strongly about. I can understand where both sides are coming from so I can't seem to have any real opinion about anything.
    AWholeSlewOfIssues AWholeSlewOfIssues 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    Slowly

    It's been coming and with slight bursts now and again. I still lack it at a significant level. I get discouraged when things don't go well and so hesitate the next time. I hope it will offically come and eventually stay.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Sep 20, 2012

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    How I Got Here.

    So, Before I begin my story. I will state where I am at now in my life. I am a teen mom. 18 years old. I have not stared college yet. My daughter is 3 months old. the father is not around. I live with my parents who are supportive. I graduated High school in three years. I...
    abrooke323 abrooke323 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 14, 2012

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    I Need Confidence

    I need more self confidence because every time i try to talk to my crush i cant i get choked up and it makes me so mad when i get home. I always work up the confidence before i see him but when i do all of my confidence washes away.....
    WolfGirl1 WolfGirl1 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2012

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 1 Response May 6, 2012

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    ayumipamyurin ayumipamyurin 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 17

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    I honestly feel really unattractive

    and like no girls will ever like me
    brganger brganger 22-25, M Aug 3

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    I don't like sharing my thoughts

    because I don't think what I have to say is important enough to be shared. The problem is that I find people saying all kinds of nonsense all the time, but I don't have enough confidence to do the same. Even now I'm hesitating about posting this, but it's anonymous so what the...
    elpsy elpsy 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 29

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    Life Gets Harder As I Get Older.

    It seems to me that the older I get the more I realize I don't know the answer to a given question and the more nervous I am because of that.  Which undoubtedly leads to my being scared of what's going to happen and/or what the right decision would be.  This ultimately results...
    Zarita Zarita 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    Just

    because i have none. none at all. its easy to tell, because i always walk with my head down.
    musicality musicality 18-21, F Jan 30, 2008

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    Appear to Be

    To many, I appear to have all the self confidence in the world. At times I can stand in front of a large crowd and give a presentation without appearing anything but confident, but inside it's as if I'm falling into a dark hole and clawing to get out. Perhaps with time I will...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F Feb 20, 2008

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    Ugly Duckling

    In my family you are not to be lazy or out of shape in anyway so because I had more curves then my sister and wasn't as pretty as her I always had to put up with pretty harsh jokes about how I needed to lose weight and even after I did I still got hell from my family it always...
    Forbiddenfantasies Forbiddenfantasies 22-25, F Nov 7, 2013

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    I Need More Self Confidence

    Sometimes i need to remind myself that im human and that i do make mistakes. Perfection doesn't exists i know but i do get really hard on myself when im not preforming the way i would like to. Its been proven time and time again that when my confidence is low everything comes...
    LennonLover LennonLover 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    Strange143 Strange143 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    I have such low self confidence, and I I honestly have no idea on how yo bring that up. sometimes I feel as if I can't go out of the house because my self confidence is so low..
    Rissaaa17 Rissaaa17 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 24

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    steezyben steezyben 16-17, M 6 Responses Nov 29

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    If only I could read minds. How do you come back from disappointment, betrayal, and just plain stupidity and trust the world. TRUST WORDS. And what happens when actions don't...
    ember23 ember23 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 1

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    I've been hurt by everyone who I've ever been friends with, or dated. I have no self confidence anymore. It got crushed and now I feel depressed.. All the time.
    feelings101 feelings101 18-21, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    Story of my life. I wish I had more self esteem. it's so low and people make things worst.
    danna223 danna223 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago