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I Need More Self Confidence

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    Appear to Be

    To many, I appear to have all the self confidence in the world. At times I can stand in front of a large crowd and give a presentation without appearing anything but confident, but inside it's as if I'm falling into a dark hole and clawing to get out. Perhaps with time I will...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F Feb 20, 2008

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    Help Me

    What do I do when my confidence has hit trick bottom? I literally can't stand people looking at me. I'm conscious of how I look literally 100% of the time. I can't even walk around in public without wanting to cry. I don't know what to do when I hate myself this much
    mystique1 mystique1 16-17 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    I have been called fat

    and unfit for a while now and I didn't think I was for the longest time I didn't believe them but I strongly believe that I need to lose weight and I want to be more able to wear tighter clothing and feel confident with my entire body! I am told I have a nice *** but my stomach...
    BrokenAngel98 BrokenAngel98 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    Ugly Duckling

    In my family you are not to be lazy or out of shape in anyway so because I had more curves then my sister and wasn't as pretty as her I always had to put up with pretty harsh jokes about how I needed to lose weight and even after I did I still got hell from my family it always...
    Forbiddenfantasies Forbiddenfantasies 22-25, F Nov 7, 2013

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    Oh I Need a Lot More Self-conf...

    Oh I need a lot more self-confidence.  I'm very low on self-esteem.  It's a hard thing to gain, unfortunately, but I'm working on it.
    Jaggie Jaggie 22-25 1 Response Aug 25, 2007

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    When Will I

    I have never had very good self esteem, but since having a baby and my body being completely wrecked and fat, it has completely vanished, I know that you are your own worst critic but I have just lost any self esteem that I did have, what little bit it was. How can I over come...
    LipstickandBruises LipstickandBruises 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2008

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    Confidence

    When i was young i was not pretty or smart an my family always put me down... So over the years i grew up to believe i am ugly an dumb...I have learned though.. that i am not dumb just cause i have the street smart life smart... my sister may have had the book smart but i no she...
    streak74 streak74 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 15, 2010

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    I Need Confidence

    I need more self confidence because every time i try to talk to my crush i cant i get choked up and it makes me so mad when i get home. I always work up the confidence before i see him but when i do all of my confidence washes away.....
    WolfGirl1 WolfGirl1 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2012

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    Just

    because i have none. none at all. its easy to tell, because i always walk with my head down.
    musicality musicality 18-21, F Jan 30, 2008

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 1 Response May 6, 2012

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    Somebody Help Me

    i feel so bad about myself all the time. ALL THE TIME. every time i look in the mirror, i think of all the people so much prettier than me and i wonder who would ever look at me. in every social situation, i feel so invisible.. like the quiet odd girl. there's nothing special...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2012

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    Is There A Shop?

    If anyone knows where to find it i would love to know. Willing to pay.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 2, 2011

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    I Really Do

    It's amazing how much I pretend to have self confidence, but when it boils down to it, I'm as fragile as a crunchy autumn leaf. I've never really believed in myself. I always just kind of flew by the seat of my pants, hoped for the best and for a soft landing. I do need to find...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2008

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    I Need More Self Confidence

    Sometimes i need to remind myself that im human and that i do make mistakes. Perfection doesn't exists i know but i do get really hard on myself when im not preforming the way i would like to. Its been proven time and time again that when my confidence is low everything comes...
    LennonLover LennonLover 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    Some day... I will put on an outfit.

    The first one I pick. And feel beautiful. Some day I won't have a heap of clothes laying out. Every single one attractive. It's not the clothes. It's ME. Some day I won't need my husband to stop me from changing. I'll be confident enough to feel beautiful just the way I am...
    Tihtil Tihtil 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 17

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    I Am Gaining.

    Confidence is the key to success when i feel it i think i would b better more confident yes,. some of i have surely but it cuse on me when feel i am just giving up the things just because i had not thought about the coming result. i think i have everything a man should have only...
    ExUser007 ExUser007 18-21 Oct 15, 2011

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    I Am Trying

    ALOT of things have happened for me to lose all the confidence I used to have. But I notice I get more of it back, every now and then, I don't mind the wait, as long as it comes back :)
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2009

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    I was bullied a lot in middle school,

    probably because of the way I dressed. It really took a toll on my self esteem. Now I doubt everything I do and I hate that. I'm working on it though.
    lauren1andonly lauren1andonly 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    Because...

    ... quite honestly, I feel horrible about myself. I'm bitchy, sickly, unattractive, and moody. I'm too intelligent for my own good, and yet nowhere near intelligent enough. I'm too mature for my age, and yet still immature. I know too much, and yet am so naive. I'm lazy. I'm too...
    SheistheLorax SheistheLorax 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    I Need Loads...

    I'm always comparing myself to others. I always think they are better-looking, smarter, funnier, more popular, etc.. I can just never be happy with who or what I am, but I sometimes think, why should I be happy? What is it about my life that I should be so happy and content about...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2009

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    Ambiguous People

    Why are there people who constantly harp on how you need more self confidence, and then take the opportunity to kick you when you're down and make you feel lower than dirt?  Double messages really suck...especially when they come from someone who is supposed to love you and...
    Samantha103 Samantha103 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2008

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    Maybe One Day

    I will actually have confidence in myself cause right now I have none.  when it comes to meeting people, talking to people, friends, relationships, work you name it.  I always worry about what will go wrong or that I am just never good enough and it keeps me from being...
    loneranger loneranger 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    I don't know if it's really my lack of

    confidence. My girlfriend has universities sending her invites. She's #10 highest in my school. She's the most innocent, beautiful, self respecting girl I've known yet. Then comes me... I'm critical in not graduating. Im not good looking nor the smartest guy. I don't have much...
    wanderingsoul777 wanderingsoul777 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    I feel like sometimes I don't have enough

    confidence. Some people tell me that I'm to hard on myself. Any advice????
    e77777777 e77777777 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    I Need Self Confidence....

    I think everyone needs self -confidence, but the question is how do you get it, Is it like with you and you need to find it, or is there, but people need help to see it or maybe both and more other ideas. I do not know. I just wish I woke up a different person and had that drive...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 14, 2011

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    I am not there yet. After my marriage ended

    and I decided to come out to my family as a lesbian I felt great and 95% of the time I still do. However there are times, this morning was one of them, when I have a complete crisis of confidence and wonder if my life is ever going to work out. I am usually too busy as a mom...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Nice Guys Can be Winners Also

    After I wrote about nice guys being loers, , I thought it over and I was only thinking about sex. Apart from sex, I am a winner I have a good family who are grown up now. , a ggod job in a profession, , a good house. etc. This is betterr than many others Sex is not the only thing...
    anthony2001 anthony2001 61-65, M Oct 18, 2011

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    Im Building It..... Slowly.

    I have confidence but not at the level I would like. Its kinda the reason I dont smile in pics and hide behind my dark glasses. Slightly self concious. Actually thats all it is! Im just self concious, Im not unconfident at all. My teeth are crooked and so is my smile and Im not...
    TotallyAmazing TotallyAmazing 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 11, 2009

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    I'm pretty sure I've lied

    and put on a facade my entire life and never been "me" because I just don't even have a real me. I don't actually have a personality or really exist
    DragonSkittles DragonSkittles 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    Plane Crash

    Well, apparently even my subconscious mind is telling me so...Few nights ago, I dreamt that I was on a plane crash. Strangely, all the passengers were asleep while I witnessed how the pilot maneuvered the plane into safety. Crashing its wing on a cliff, then landing onto the...
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F Sep 3, 2013

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    Random Compliment .

    Every relationship I've ever been in , my partners always wanted me to change , either they wanted me to dye my hair , lose weight or gain weight , I even had one guy that wanted me to lighten my skin . . . The list goes on . It's like I've never been accepted for who I was , it...
    IronicAppeal IronicAppeal 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    I don't like sharing my thoughts

    because I don't think what I have to say is important enough to be shared. The problem is that I find people saying all kinds of nonsense all the time, but I don't have enough confidence to do the same. Even now I'm hesitating about posting this, but it's anonymous so what the...
    elpsy elpsy 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 29

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    Lonely, No Self Confidence: Please Help

    I am 16 years old and I am gay. Recently I’ve been feeling lonely and not confident in myself. I am out to my mum and 2 friends but no one at school. It’s kind of obvious that I’m gay and I’m not worried about people saying mean stuff about me because I’ve put up with...
    EvaSirusho EvaSirusho 18-21, M 2 Responses May 28, 2013

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    Any Would Be Nice

    If only I had more self confidence, I'm sure I wouldn't be in the jams that I am in today. I'm not saying I wouldn't have any troubles, but they sure wouldn't be as stupid as what they are. They are fairly serious in nature, but what makes them stupid is the fact that my lack...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2007

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    I Rarely Have An Opinion On Things That Matter. It Makes Me Look And Feel Dumb And Useless.

    I'm not a democrat or a republican, because there are only a few political points I feel strongly about. I can understand where both sides are coming from so I can't seem to have any real opinion about anything.
    AWholeSlewOfIssues AWholeSlewOfIssues 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    To Be Sure Of What To Do!

    Now there be some confidence building! eh. But how? My mind continues to swirl in its negative thoughts that brings me back to the circles of self-doubts. How to confidently break this personal self-defeating biz!? I took I was very good in keeping one personal "special secret...
    cyclemania cyclemania 51-55, M Mar 14, 2013

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    How I Got Here.

    So, Before I begin my story. I will state where I am at now in my life. I am a teen mom. 18 years old. I have not stared college yet. My daughter is 3 months old. the father is not around. I live with my parents who are supportive. I graduated High school in three years. I...
    abrooke323 abrooke323 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 14, 2012

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    I honestly feel really unattractive

    and like no girls will ever like me
    brganger brganger 22-25, M Aug 3

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    If Only I Knew How To Get Some At All.....running On 0..

    I don't understand self confidence. I never had any. Never knew how to develop some. Growing up I was never shown social skills, positive thinking.....anything like that. I grew up in an negative and emotionally/mentally abusive household. I don't remember ever being happy with...
    learningtosmile learningtosmile 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 20, 2011

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    It's Rather Low and I Wish It Wasn't

    i dont have much self confidence, and really wish that it could be a bit better, but i do work on it, cos i know i want to gain confidence i'll do all i can to gain it, even if it's by doing things that i really dont wanna do.
    sezy sezy 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2007

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    Sometimes I get horry in the shower

    and if Iook down at my self I get wet and when I see a girl sometimes. I'm a lesbian I don't like boys asking me out. I don't like school I love flowers.
    jansen11 jansen11 13-15, T 2 Responses Sep 20

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    Life Gets Harder As I Get Older.

    It seems to me that the older I get the more I realize I don't know the answer to a given question and the more nervous I am because of that.  Which undoubtedly leads to my being scared of what's going to happen and/or what the right decision would be.  This ultimately results...
    Zarita Zarita 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    Nice Guys Are Losers

    My parents taught me to be a nice guy. Be polite. Treat women with courtesy. They stayed married for life. If they had sex. I never knew. It was a very unreal world. My other relatives were much the same. , as far as i knew. but I am sure now that there were rows...
    anthony2001 anthony2001 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 15, 2011

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    Slowly

    It's been coming and with slight bursts now and again. I still lack it at a significant level. I get discouraged when things don't go well and so hesitate the next time. I hope it will offically come and eventually stay.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Sep 20, 2012

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    DEFINITELY. ...

    DEFINITELY. I have such low self-esteem that the slightest implication of weakness or mistake makes me doubt myself to the point where I conclude that I'm worthless. Life could have been so much better if I had that extra bit of confidence, never too late to start building up...
    lupin136 lupin136 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    ok ok see sometimes i feel am soo great some times i feel am soo bad lately i feel more bad nd yea wanna more self-confidence
    Outsider92 Outsider92 22-25, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I feel like I would have more self-confidence if people just didn't walk up to me an call me ugly. I've been at my locker at school and guys have come up and said right to my face...
    Igot7starlightarmy Igot7starlightarmy 16-17, F 6 Responses Sep 17

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    Hi, I am a 20 year old male and have a sister who is 42 years old. She has bullied me all my life and has nearly pushed me over the edge a few years ago but after getting a...
    michael14031 michael14031 18-21, M 10 Responses Sep 4

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    Hi I really love music, I want to learn how to speak Korean and I'm a student nurse but I seem to have problems with my self confidence(low self-confidence)
    HwangNeulRin HwangNeulRin 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 6

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    This is for everyone who needs self confidence. I'm not a skinny girl and whenever people message me saying I'm perfect I'm not, I have many flaws, so this is for Yall. Be proud of...
    mayanatasha mayanatasha 16-17, F 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    10 years ago, I had so much self confidence. I was able to manage and tackle anything that came my way. I was a single young mother, owned my own home, had a great career and was...
    Jenn7791 Jenn7791 36-40, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Effective way to gain self-confidence: Every time I lock the door and go to work, no matter how I feel, (anxious of the world outside, fearful of uncertainty), I say a little...
    samemay54 samemay54 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 1

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