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I Need More Self Confidence

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    Because... - ... quite honestly, I feel horrible about myself. I'm bitchy, sickly, unattractive, and moody. I'm too intelligent for my own good, and yet nowhere near intelligent...
    SheistheLorax SheistheLorax 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    I Need Confidence - I need more self confidence because every time i try to talk to my crush i cant i get choked up and it makes me so mad when i get home. I always work up the...
    WolfGirl1 WolfGirl1 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2012

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    Appear to Be - To many, I appear to have all the self confidence in the world. At times I can stand in front of a large crowd and give a presentation without appearing anything but...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F Feb 20, 2008

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    DEFINITELY. ... - DEFINITELY. I have such low self-esteem that the slightest implication of weakness or mistake makes me doubt myself to the point where I conclude that I'm...
    lupin136 lupin136 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2007

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    I Need Loads... - I'm always comparing myself to others. I always think they are better-looking, smarter, funnier, more popular, etc.. I can just never be happy with who or what I...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2009

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    To Be Sure Of What To Do! - Now there be some confidence building! eh. But how? My mind continues to swirl in its negative thoughts that brings me back to the circles of self...
    cyclemania cyclemania 51-55, M Mar 14, 2013

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    My Good & Bad Lists - I have been having a real hard time with how I feel about myself. I had some family issues come up lately that triggered all the negative things I was told...
    asteroseismology asteroseismology 41-45, F Aug 20, 2009

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    Nice Guys Are Losers - My parents taught me to be a nice guy. Be polite. Treat women with courtesy. They stayed married for life. If they had sex. I never knew. It was a very...
    anthony2001 anthony2001 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 15, 2011

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    Random Compliment . - Every relationship I've ever been in , my partners always wanted me to change , either they wanted me to dye my hair , lose weight or gain weight , I even...
    IronicAppeal IronicAppeal 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    I have been called fat and unfit for a while now and I didn't think I was for the longest time I didn't believe them but I strongly believe that I need to lose weight and I want to...
    BrokenAngel98 BrokenAngel98 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    I don't know if it's really my lack of confidence. My girlfriend has universities sending her invites. She's #10 highest in my school. She's the most innocent, beautiful, self...
    wanderingsoul777 wanderingsoul777 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2013

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    Somebody Help Me - i feel so bad about myself all the time. ALL THE TIME. every time i look in the mirror, i think of all the people so much prettier than me and i wonder who would...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2012

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    Plane Crash - Well, apparently even my subconscious mind is telling me so...Few nights ago, I dreamt that I was on a plane crash. Strangely, all the passengers were asleep while I...
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F Sep 3, 2013

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    Just - because i have none. none at all. its easy to tell, because i always walk with my head down.
    musicality musicality 18-21, F Jan 30, 2008

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    Maybe One Day - I will actually have confidence in myself cause right now I have none.  when it comes to meeting people, talking to people, friends, relationships, work you...
    loneranger loneranger 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 12, 2007

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    Any Would Be Nice - If only I had more self confidence, I'm sure I wouldn't be in the jams that I am in today. I'm not saying I wouldn't have any troubles, but they sure wouldn't...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2007

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    Oh I Need a Lot More Self-conf... - Oh I need a lot more self-confidence.  I'm very low on self-esteem.  It's a hard thing to gain, unfortunately, but I'm working on it.
    Jaggie Jaggie 22-25 1 Response Aug 25, 2007

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    I Need Self Confidence.... - I think everyone needs self -confidence, but the question is how do you get it, Is it like with you and you need to find it, or is there, but people...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 14, 2011

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    I Am Gaining. - Confidence is the key to success when i feel it i think i would b better more confident yes,. some of i have surely but it cuse on me when feel i am just giving up...
    ExUser007 ExUser007 18-21 Oct 15, 2011

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    Is There A Shop? - If anyone knows where to find it i would love to know. Willing to pay.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 2, 2011

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    Confidence - When i was young i was not pretty or smart an my family always put me down... So over the years i grew up to believe i am ugly an dumb...I have learned though.. that i...
    streak74 streak74 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 15, 2010

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    I Rarely Have An Opinion On Things That Matter. It Makes Me Look And Feel Dumb And Useless. - I'm not a democrat or a republican, because there are only a few political points I...
    AWholeSlewOfIssues AWholeSlewOfIssues 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I Need More Self Confidence - Sometimes i need to remind myself that im human and that i do make mistakes. Perfection doesn't exists i know but i do get really hard on myself when...
    LennonLover LennonLover 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    Well, Actually... - ...I need SOME confidence at all.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 19, 2010

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    When Will I - I have never had very good self esteem, but since having a baby and my body being completely wrecked and fat, it has completely vanished, I know that you are your own...
    LipstickandBruises LipstickandBruises 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2008

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    Ambiguous People - Why are there people who constantly harp on how you need more self confidence, and then take the opportunity to kick you when you're down and make you feel lower...
    Samantha103 Samantha103 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2008

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    It's Rather Low and I Wish It Wasn't - i dont have much self confidence, and really wish that it could be a bit better, but i do work on it, cos i know i want to gain confidence i...
    sezy sezy 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2007

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    I Really Do - It's amazing how much I pretend to have self confidence, but when it boils down to it, I'm as fragile as a crunchy autumn leaf. I've never really believed in myself...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2008

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    Its In Your Mind. Read This!!!!!!!!! - Like many i struggled with self confidence for a long time all throughout high school and still some into now. Especially with girls. I was...
    SIDEeffect SIDEeffect 18-21, M Nov 4, 2010

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    Im Building It..... Slowly. - I have confidence but not at the level I would like. Its kinda the reason I dont smile in pics and hide behind my dark glasses. Slightly self concious...
    TotallyAmazing TotallyAmazing 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 11, 2009

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    Life Gets Harder As I Get Older. - It seems to me that the older I get the more I realize I don't know the answer to a given question and the more nervous I am because of that...
    Zarita Zarita 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    I feel like sometimes I don't have enough confidence. Some people tell me that I'm to hard on myself. Any advice????
    e77777777 e77777777 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Diminishing To Nothing - I am so scared of what people think that I take away things that make me---me.I cant even look in the mirror without noticing another thing bad about my...
    fanhhrgirl fanhhrgirl 18-21 1 Response Oct 27, 2010

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    Lonely, No Self Confidence: Please Help - I am 16 years old and I am gay. Recently I’ve been feeling lonely and not confident in myself. I am out to my mum and 2 friends but no...
    EvaSirusho EvaSirusho 18-21, M 2 Responses May 28, 2013

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    How I Got Here. - So, Before I begin my story. I will state where I am at now in my life. I am a teen mom. 18 years old. I have not stared college yet. My daughter is 3 months old...
    abrooke323 abrooke323 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 14, 2012

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    Slowly - It's been coming and with slight bursts now and again. I still lack it at a significant level. I get discouraged when things don't go well and so hesitate the next time. I...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Sep 20, 2012

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    One Person Could Give Me It - I never had a scrap of self confidence til I met my last boyfriend and now he's broke up with me I've never felt so ugly or unwanted, he was the...
    FlameRamirez FlameRamirez 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 19, 2009

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    If Only I Knew How To Get Some At All.....running On 0.. - I don't understand self confidence. I never had any. Never knew how to develop some. Growing up I was never shown social...
    learningtosmile learningtosmile 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 20, 2011

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    Help Me - What do I do when my confidence has hit trick bottom? I literally can't stand people looking at me. I'm conscious of how I look literally 100% of the time. I can't even...
    mystique1 mystique1 16-17 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    It Takes Time - If wearing confidence is just like wearing make up on or wearing your perfect outfit for the day...it could have been more easier. But, it's not how we deal with it...
    wanderlustEP wanderlustEP 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Need Confidence!! -  if there is anyone that need a good dose of confidence injected into themselves then its me!! my confidence just now is really low, and it has been for...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 31, 2010

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    Nice Guys Can be Winners Also - After I wrote about nice guys being loers, , I thought it over and I was only thinking about sex. Apart from sex, I am a winner I have a good...
    anthony2001 anthony2001 61-65, M Oct 18, 2011

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    I Need To Change - I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 1 Response May 6, 2012

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    It's Like I Have Confidence and Then I Forget - In some situations I'm fearless, spontaneous, opinionated, willing to take a chance every time. Other times it's like all that...
    humdinger humdinger 46-50, F Aug 26, 2007

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    For Me And My Marine - I'm engaged to a United States Marine, I have no freaking clue how I was lucky enough to get him but I did...he is the one who pretty much single handedly...
    march12008 march12008 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 21, 2010

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    I Am Trying - ALOT of things have happened for me to lose all the confidence I used to have. But I notice I get more of it back, every now and then, I don't mind the wait, as...
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2009

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    YES PLEASE. Someone make it happen for me?
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    I have never had much self confidence cos I been bullyed my hole life but now it that bad that I want go out the house/my room in less am taking my dog out for a walk or going to...
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    When I walk into a restaurant and see an attractive man look at me, I quickly look away because I automatically think he is thinking, "Wow, she's so fat and gross," not, "Wow, she...
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