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I Need to Be Needed

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 336 People

    It's Just A 'want'.

    I crave being needed. I want to help people; it makes me feel so good to be called on for help. Of course I have a family of my own now and there's not a lot of time with them I'm willing to trade, but I've always wanted to be needed. I feel my purpose in life is to help people...
    fascad3 fascad3 36-40, M Nov 1, 2009

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    Because...

    I took it for granted for so long.  I used to have a few people that needed me.  And one by one, either the bond was ripped off like a bandage or the relationships changed and the cold emotional distance just seeped in over time.  I had a realization a few days ago...but I...
    permafrost21 permafrost21 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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    Really Need It

    Over the last few weeks I've been trying to "figure myself out". I have been working on trying to change myself over the last few years but rescently I realized that what I need to keep myself sane is to feel needed. I don't need to be loved or have people that need me for their...
    doritos1254 doritos1254 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 12, 2011

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    I have been dating a woman

    for a year now, she is great in every aspect and I trust our relationship over anything. I have one issue that I constantly arises. In the whole time we have been together she has only came on to me once. I am the one to start all physical activity. This may seem like a silly...
    Kirkjo Kirkjo 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Want To.

    I know that im loved by many but just once id like to feel needed. Id like for someone to tell me that their very heart wouldnt beat without me.  Is that too Narcissistic?
    Muse0001 Muse0001 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 28, 2010

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    Needed

    if my family doesnt need me then i have no more purpose in life. i need to feel needed, w/ out that feeling i have nothing. i rely on them more then they know. i may complain about doing evrything at home, so exhausted most days, i can barely sleep, but i need to do 4 others...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 22, 2010

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    I Need You To Need Me........

    I crave someone to need me To rely on me To me its a sign of trust To know that someone needs me Please will you need me as I need you?
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 26-30, M 4 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    Need

    my whole life i have lived 4 others, done everything 4 friends n family. not caring about my own happiness r selve. know as n adult, i live 4 my children n grandchildren, even am not needed in some way big r small, i feel worthless. i dont care if its just cleaning up after...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 20, 2010

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    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2009

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    Some Things Are Best Kept Secret

    Once upon a time there lived a pixie called twisty. He was very bendy and could climb trees and branches with ease, he hopped from one mushroom to the next always happy and full of energy from the elixir of flower juice made by his mother Flothilda who was a wise herbal medecine...
    elixabelle elixabelle 51-55, F 5 Responses May 24, 2011

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    Needing Someone To Need Me

    Just once I want and need someone to need me.There is so mush distance between my partner and I that I am not sure how to fix it or even if can be fixed. Just want to know that even exist.  
    eyekandy eyekandy 36-40, F Apr 29, 2010

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    Useful to Useless

    Getting up, getting dressed, walking out after breafast, speeding down the crackled street, I search for a friend to meet. She calls me out, gives me a hug, and cries into my shoulder. I hold her close, cheer her up, make her laugh about her tear-filled make-up. Now, she's fine...
    MCJC MCJC 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2008

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    Pisces Giver

    I am undoubtably a giver.  I need a purpose to exist.  I thrive on being supportive to those in need.  I give and regenerate love inside of myself so very quickly that I feel a need to give away in abundance.  Do you need a hug?  Do you need...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 18 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    Ramble

    I have a friend who tries to buy people and it gets a litte awkward. There is one girl that she has a truly soft spot for though. She buys her drinks, lets her stay at her house for days and sometimes weeks, lends her her clothes when she's cold and etc. The thing is, once she...
    temporaryhappiness temporaryhappiness 18-21, F Aug 15, 2009

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    Let Me

    I need to be needed like some people need to be the center of attention. I don't want to be the center of attention I always try to slip in under the radar. All I have EVER wanted is to be wanted and needed. To be the only person who they want to listen when they need to vent...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 13, 2012

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    Make It Alright

    I need somebody to need me. I want to be able to make them better and let them know that it's going to be okay. I want to be the one who can fix a bad day with a smile, or can mend a broken heart with a hug. I want to be the one who will make you laugh when you're feeling down...
    Venus124 Venus124 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2010

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    Happy Birthday Sweetheart

    Tilsy lives with her single mother in Croydon, London and is 16 today. She pulls herself wearily out of bed mouthing the words 'my birthday' She opens her eyes and stumbles towards the bathroom, sleepily turns on the shower and smiles at herself in the mirror. Downstairs Harriet...
    elixabelle elixabelle 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 22, 2011

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    It's Like This...

    Practice desirability in everything you do. Make people want you to be around them, make them want to be around you. Need to be needed!
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 15, 2011

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    I Miss It

    I havent had someone to need me in a long while. I have friends that would need me for advice and help with certain things and such but not the kind of need I crave. I miss having a woman falling in love with me as I fall in love with her that would want and need me as much as I...
    EarthBear2784 EarthBear2784 26-30, M Jun 30, 2012

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