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I Need to Be Told I'm Loved

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 103 People

    So Important To Me....

    I don't like the fact that I need validation by others to make me feel worthwhile. But I do. I feel worthless and pathetic as well as defective so when others say they love me, it makes me feel like there must be some kind of hope that I am a normal person. Someone who has good...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2011

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    I Know..

    I know I'm loved by the people who matter. It's a reassurance thing with me though, constantly. I need to be reassured that I'm still loved quite frequently. I need to hear it.
    lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30 3 Responses Jan 17, 2009

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    Important Words.

    I get so paranoid easily and I do sometimes try and convince myself that nobody loves me. I just sometimes don't know who does love me. People sometimes say one thing.. but then act differently. I don't really get told very often that I am loved... but I guess that's because...
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2009

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    By Someone Specific

    It's not so much that I just need to be told that I am loved. I know my family loves me and I have friends that love me. But there is someone specific in my life that I just need to hear them say that they love me. To mean it when they say it. To look in my...
    WolfSong WolfSong 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2009

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    Love Is.....

    Saying "I love you"  It is as simple as that.  Of course there is more to it.  There are little things like when your loved one asks how your day was and then sitting down to listen to you.  It is a hug and kiss before going to work in the...
    ablmu65 ablmu65 41-45, M 8 Responses Jan 9, 2009

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    Why?

    This has become such an issue for me.....I think I must have got it out of proportion, but to NEVER have heard the words "I Love You" from my husband has certainly taken it's toll.   Does bringing me tea every morning count?
    lostbird lostbird 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 16, 2009

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    Constantly

    Ever since I was a little girl, I've always needed to hear it. I think my mom and dad spoiled me in a way. It was something I heard everyday. I have found that even as an adult, hearing those words has been very important to me. I try to tell my daughter as often as possible, so...
    emptyheart emptyheart 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2009

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    Ditto

    I know that  I'm loved and appreciated by my family, but my family growing up was never the touchy-feeley-express-your-emotions type of family.  I crave being told that I'm loved and cherished.  I want and need it so much.  It's one thing to hear that a...
    SynAnonymous SynAnonymous 41-45, F May 5, 2010

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    Happy Should I Be...

    If I actually got the chance to hear it just once more.
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 9, 2009

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    I Know What You Mean

    I used to think that I didn't need any kind of validation whatsoever, but I guess I haven't been totally honest with myself. I hardly knew my birth parents, and my foster parents were sadists full of **** and vinegar. I always used humor and pranks to cover up my pain of feeling...
    DreadJoker DreadJoker 22-25, M Nov 24, 2011

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    I get told it but I'm just like "nah I'm not xD". What do you think... /).(
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    I'm a junior but I was told I look like a freshman cryin rn
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    I want to tell all you women that are feeling this way right now. You CAN make it on your own. You are stronger than you think. I've been there done it. With 5 children. My kids...
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    I feel like the grinch today. I want to steal Christmas.
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    It was 5 years ago. A kid told me I was ugly and I was trying too hard to be pretty when I'm not. A part of me wanted to punch her right in the face but I remembered she's just a...
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    I personally don't think of myself as an attractive person. I basically grew up thinking that if I didn't have a skinny body or hair on my face, I wasn't attractive. I was about 10...
    adeelakhan101a adeelakhan101a 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    Hello to all of you, I'm new. This is gonna be long so I apologize. I'm a 28 year old doctor. I just finished my medical training. I'm Italian and live in Italy. This is my story...
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