I Need to Decide If I'll Stay In My Marriage

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    I Miss My Wife.

    Most of the time I live with a woman who used to be funny, kind and wonderful. I think about her all the time and wonder where she went. The lady she has been replaced with seems to forget that I even exist. I remain hopeful but am almost at the end of my rope.
    jmc132 jmc132
    41-45, M
    16 Responses Feb 9, 2011

    You Will Be Called Upon To Expand.

    Choosing to stay and work on your marriage when you are deeply unhappy is one of the hardest things you will do in life. I am learning that it is not supposed to be "easy" indefinitely. It is not some concrete thing you "fix". It is a process that never ends. You get out of...
    ModLulu ModLulu
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 14, 2013

    I wonder to myself why am I still in this

    marriage? Why didn't I just let him stay gone when he first left? I find myself so unhappy and always crying myself to bed.
    why35 why35
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 26, 2015

    I wish I could go away

    and be on my own for a while. Think about what is best for me or if this marriage is right for me. I wish I hadn't gotten married.
    Shadowmantle Shadowmantle
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 26, 2015

    Elimination

    For 14 years i have been married to a man whos mouth and off the wall temper has more than once.... ripped my heart out and left me lifeless. I have tried many time to get rid of him, but he refuses to leave.... i am one heck of a good wife....i work, clean, feed and wait on...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze
    56-60, F
    43 Responses Jun 26, 2010

    Some Help: I can relate to Most experiences of

    what is written here. I am not fully out of what people are going through here but folks try to sign up to Mort Fertel on facebook and sign up to his free relationship advice that will be delivered to your email. The next one is tuning in to Sid Roth's Its Supernatural- on the...
    Nachisale Nachisale
    36-40, F
    Jan 11

    I've been married for 6 1/2 years.

    3 months ago my husband had to confess to cheating because he tested positive for chlamydia. I was devastated. I couldn't believe it. Throughout our 13 year relationship I never thought he would hurt me like this. We've had our ups and downs, like any other couple but nothing...
    CiaraBangBang CiaraBangBang
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2015

    I've been married 14 years We have 2 kids (

    10&12) and have basically coexisted for the last 5-10 years. He has always put us on the back burner, I felt like I was chasing him for years, didn't have much of a relationship w the kids, even left to work out of state for a year without so much as questioning if I was ok...
    starr6345 starr6345
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Aug 15, 2015

    My wife and I have been married

    for more than twenty years. Some years ago I felt bored and unloved and fell into an affair with an old flame. Since then I've had several more affairs and numerous sexual encounters with both men and women. Our marital sex life dwindled before I strayed: I don't think I...
    Naughti66 Naughti66
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 15, 2015

    I have a 10 year old daughter

    who is my heart. She has been through the divorce of her mom and I and now I am afraid she is going to experience the divorce of her dad and stepmom and even more her step sisters who she has known since she was 3. Her mom and I had an ugly divorce that really put my daughter...
    DoubleR2015 DoubleR2015
    41-45, M
    May 29, 2015

    Bad Reason To Stay Married #6

    Loneliness. Singledom is a lonely prospect, particularly if you’ve been married for any length of time. Staying with your partner only because you’d be too lonely on your own is one of the weakest reasons out there for staying in a marriage. Focus on the other relationships...
    Sunshinegoneforever Sunshinegoneforever
    51-55, F
    1 Response Feb 15, 2013

    I am contemplating leaving my husband.

    My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married for 12. While the marriage has been "good" with no abuse, or anything bad.. I still feel .. "discontent"? I met my husband on the West Coast while both of us were trying to get our lives together. We had a ton of fun...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back.give him a try +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers
    51-55, F
    Aug 17, 2015

    And then a really bad thing happened to me this

    past weekend and he stood by my side with no judgement. That counts.
    funlecy1 funlecy1
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 10, 2014

    Hi, I just registered

    and this is the first time I am sharing something that is so difficult for me...I came to this forum because I feel I am breaking inside. I am 36, married to what I thought would be the love of my life forever, we are expecting our first baby after 2 years of trying and doing...
    esti1978 esti1978
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 7, 2014

    It's so complicated..

    .... I hate this because I feel as if marriage shouldn't be taken lightly. I also feel that I used to be the one to run far away from commitment. Far away from the hurt that comes with that love. Well guess what? I decided I would take that chance after many times trying to...
    SweetT2 SweetT2
    46-50, F
    Aug 1, 2015
    cashetty69 cashetty69
    51-55, M
    1 Response Aug 30, 2015

    My Husband Wants A Divorce

    I have been married with my husband for only 10 months now and he wants a divorce. I caught him cheating on me a month ago but decided to start anew and continue with our relationship. We agreed to not look back on what happened so we can start fresh. But before we have agreed on...
    Mountainlove Mountainlove
    26-30
    202 Responses Jun 11, 2013

    The Subtle Difference Between Holding A Hand And Chaining A Soul

    After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning And company doesn't mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises, And you begin to...
    aldsjkl aldsjkl
    26-30
    2 Responses May 27, 2013

    My husband and I can't go without fighting

    for more than a couple weeks. We rushed into the relationship and marriage, getting married on the 1 year anniversary of our first date. I'm bipolar, which is a big part of it, but I believe he is also bipolar and doesn't want to get help for it. I got him to go to the doctor...
    kimpossible86 kimpossible86
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 26

    After 20 years of marriage,

    I can honestly say the love is not as strong as it once was. My husband has shown that he is not the person I thought he was. He has lied, cheated, and behaved like an absolute Jack ***! I'm really considering my options since one daughter is almost 19 and the other is 16. I...
    Zeta4ever Zeta4ever
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 23, 2015

    I've only been married six months.

    I'm unhappy and don't know what to do. My husband and I are fundamentally different. I'm social and outgoing and love to chat and meet new people, to sing and dance. I had a catholic upbringing. My husband is a home body. He doesn't like to be social, doesn't like group dates...
    halestorm12 halestorm12
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2015

    I Am Very Curious....

    with the national divorce rate now at 53% the chance that you will get divorced is greater than the chance you will stay married. my parents are divorced. my mom is going through her second as we speak. married men hit on me non stop. i know women and men having affairs...
    LittleLady LittleLady
    18-21, F
    45 Responses Feb 25, 2008

    Caught My Husband Remotely Spying On Me On My Computer

    About 2 months ago I left my husband of almost 8 years and moved across town.  We agreed that we did both still love each other and would continue to be married and spend time together etc.  For almost our entire marriage I have suspected that he was snooping on my personal...
    Shellywieskamp Shellywieskamp
    41-45
    23 Responses Jan 2, 2012

    He just told me tonight

    that basically I want to talk to him to much, I want to be around him to much, I wasn't sex to much and I'm trying to trap him up in the house. wtf? aren't these all things normal people want. I don't see him that much so I grab the chances when I can. I guess I'm wasting my...
    2isbetterthan1 2isbetterthan1
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 17, 2014

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    toriccaa toriccaa
    26-30, F
    Nov 26, 2015

    Marriage (a Must Read)

    (I'm not married and never have been....But I would like to share something with this group and I hope it helps somebody) _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________ MARRIAGE (unknown author) When I got...
    DeenaMonroe DeenaMonroe
    26-30, F
    17 Responses Sep 5, 2010

    Go Why do I stay when I want to go?

    Is it because I have hope? Or maybe it is because I don't want to be alone. I stay and all I do is complain. Complain that I might be going insane. Insane of the thought that it might be my fault. But who is to blame? Is it me or is it him? Neither one of us will go. Although...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    Ok so here it goes I know it's long

    so bear with me. I was married in 2004 at 21. When I met my wife I really wasn't attracted to her. I know that's sounds messed up but hear me out. I was not in church but she was. Once we started dating I slowly began becoming attracted to her because we started to mess around...
    martinezh martinezh
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2015

    At the Crossroads

    ****** THIS IS AN OLD STORY. WE HAVE DIVORCED.********   So - this morninig I asked hubby to leave.  I want a separation while we go through counselling, and I think that the emotional state of our house is in shambles.  I need to step up and...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Nov 23, 2008

    Hello EP! This is my first post.

    I'm a working professional, a dad of two kids, a husband for over ten years. I love pets, we've had many. I love music and art, I read a lot of nonfiction. I'm no good at sports but I get out and do some anyway, I like exercise. My wife and I used to share a lot of this...
    PinnedBalloon PinnedBalloon
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    I got married when I was 17,

    I was expecting my Frist baby, we been together since I'm 25 now :) going on 26, we have 3 beautiful Daughters now. I believe marriage is not like a fairytale you will have ups and downs, I grow up with my mom and dad I saw a lot off this so I believe is normal. When we start...
    Marialz Marialz
    26-30, F
    Jan 30, 2015

    Been Decided :)

    I have come to the conclusion that if you need to "decide" if you are going to stay then you should probably already be gone.
    TKD1 TKD1
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Oct 29, 2013

    I am 30 years old, on my second marriage.

    I entered this relationship shortly after I was divorced from my first husband. I guess you could say I was done with my first marriage before it was legal, and when I met my current/second husband - I was swept off my feet instantly. He complemented me, made me feel smart...
    MarieM13 MarieM13
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 8, 2015

    Really hoping to connect with some people

    who can relate to me trying to sort some things out...If you are here to judge, please don't...I beat myself up plenty... Soo my story is a long one but I'll shorten it a bit. I've been married about 10 years to a really great person. She is sweet, kind, a great mother (we...
    Fillittotherim Fillittotherim
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Mar 8

    Is It a Marriage?

    I am wondering how I got to this point in my life.  My husband and I have not had sex for 15 years.  I have been having affairs for three.  I don't tell anyone about my private life.  I have been lucky, I have found men I can trust who are in similiar...
    Kelki Kelki
    46-50, F
    80 Responses Oct 26, 2008
    cda2331 cda2331
    41-45, M
    1 Response Dec 22, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    alicacc11 alicacc11
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2015

    Okay... Here It Goes

    So I originally posted in the sexless marriage group when I joined EP. I will update on that here. There are actually a few reasons outside of our sex life as to why our marriage is suffering and I'm posting here. My husband has some wonderful qualities. He is very giving and...
    CheshireGrinz CheshireGrinz
    26-30, F
    22 Responses May 5, 2011

    I am married with my husband

    for 6 years now. I didn't know about his temper until i got married. We are an international couple. We met in his country then he flew to my country to marry me and we have been living here ever since. About 4 years of our marriage, at least twice a year he will show his...
    sea135 sea135
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    The Bellydance Analogy

    This story explains how I came to understand and embrace differentiation in my marriage. After I understood this, I no longer felt conflicted about whether to stay or go. I have been a bellydancer for nearly 8 years. It is a huge part of my life, and it brings me an immense...
    ModLulu ModLulu
    36-40, F
    25 Responses Jun 13, 2011

    There's just been a disconnect

    that I'm not very confident we can fix.... Not sure how to handle anything!
    laurenb229 laurenb229
    26-30, F
    Aug 18, 2015

    I've Been Paralyzed In Indecision For Almost Two Years, And Have To Do Something.

    I’m twisted up in knots inside. I have been going through hell for more than a year, and I’ve been putting my wife through hell for that time too. I’ve told her that I am not sure I want to stay married. We’ve been living together in a state of limbo. It’s been a...
    shellofmyself shellofmyself
    51-55
    11 Responses May 27, 2011
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 18, 2015

    I'm struggling with guilt

    and grief as I question my relationship with my husband. He is a great person but we never really opened up our souls to each other, and now the erotic/romantic part of the relationship is lost, too. We have been getting along well, because we are both civilized people and we've...
    beweirdess beweirdess
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    i go back and forth with this bc he's still him.

    he's not going to change. I'm torn about what to do. he's against counseling. i know he loves me, but.... (sigh)
    Platana2100 Platana2100
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 3, 2015

    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back. +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers
    51-55, F
    Aug 21, 2015

    When I talked to him about getting a divorce,

    he pleaded with me to reconsider. So I've found myself thinking of reasons not to end our marriage and it is really hard. And his attitude and actions pushes me further away. Hell, if he's not willing to try then why should I? We're just prolonging the inevitable.
    KhallMiAutumn KhallMiAutumn
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 17, 2015

    When I met my husband,

    I was 28, and had reached a point in my life when I was sure I wasn't going to meet the right guy. I'd been in an out of relationships with total jerks or people I just wasn't that in to. When we met, I had pretty low self esteem, and here was this nice guy that was...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    Never imagined myself posting in this section

    but here goes. So I've been married over 12 years now and to be honest after reading all the stories here, I wouldn't say I have a bad or an abusive marriage, it's just there's no marriage. Living with my husband is like sharing a house with any other friend. I live my life...
    destiny2015 destiny2015
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2015

    After 30+ yrs in a productive marriage,

    I did decide to not stay in my marriage. Passion flew it the window sometime before" I do" and bedtime. It never returned to that relationship.
    C01literacy C01literacy
    70+, M
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    I'm going through so much right

    now in my life I feel like I'm in hell. I'm 29 years old I've been married to the man I believed to be sent from God for almost 4 years now. We have a 2 year old little boy together and I have another boy from a pervious relationship. Here's the story of the nightmare I'm going...
    Jessicasuebirkley Jessicasuebirkley
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 13

    What To Do...

    I love my husband but I'm not in love with him. We have known each other for 12 years and been married for 8. I'm feeling like he married me just to have someone wait on him. He can't do anything for himself. When I bring something up, he gets really mad. I think he has...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jun 20, 2011
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