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I Need to Decide If I'll Stay In My Marriage

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    Starting Divorce Process

    We were just about to talk about division of things when my 25 year old son came in. Those talks are postponed, but I expect them today to continue. I've been moving toward this for four years. In many ways I have been preparing her for it too so that is not this huge...
    justbeit justbeit 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    I wish I could go away

    and be on my own for a while. Think about what is best for me or if this marriage is right for me. I wish I hadn't gotten married.
    Shadowmantle Shadowmantle 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    It's so complicated..

    .... I hate this because I feel as if marriage shouldn't be taken lightly. I also feel that I used to be the one to run far away from commitment. Far away from the hurt that comes with that love. Well guess what? I decided I would take that chance after many times trying to...
    SweetT2 SweetT2 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 1, 2015

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    Marriage (a Must Read)

    (I'm not married and never have been....But I would like to share something with this group and I hope it helps somebody) _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________ MARRIAGE (unknown author) When I got...
    DeenaMonroe DeenaMonroe 26-30, F 18 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    I'm going through so much right

    now in my life I feel like I'm in hell. I'm 29 years old I've been married to the man I believed to be sent from God for almost 4 years now. We have a 2 year old little boy together and I have another boy from a pervious relationship. Here's the story of the nightmare I'm going...
    Jessicasuebirkley Jessicasuebirkley 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    Never imagined myself posting in this section

    but here goes. So I've been married over 12 years now and to be honest after reading all the stories here, I wouldn't say I have a bad or an abusive marriage, it's just there's no marriage. Living with my husband is like sharing a house with any other friend. I live my life...
    destiny2015 destiny2015 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 22, 2015

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    Go Why do I stay when I want to go?

    Is it because I have hope? Or maybe it is because I don't want to be alone. I stay and all I do is complain. Complain that I might be going insane. Insane of the thought that it might be my fault. But who is to blame? Is it me or is it him? Neither one of us will go. Although...
    Beautifulnlost22 Beautifulnlost22 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 28, 2015

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    He just told me tonight

    that basically I want to talk to him to much, I want to be around him to much, I wasn't sex to much and I'm trying to trap him up in the house. wtf? aren't these all things normal people want. I don't see him that much so I grab the chances when I can. I guess I'm wasting my...
    2isbetterthan1 2isbetterthan1 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    I look at pictures of us from happier times

    and it makes me sad. But there haven't been happy pictures in several years. It's been over two years since I enjoyed spending time with him.
    Lann2015 Lann2015 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    Been Decided :)

    I have come to the conclusion that if you need to "decide" if you are going to stay then you should probably already be gone.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    You Will Be Called Upon To Expand.

    Choosing to stay and work on your marriage when you are deeply unhappy is one of the hardest things you will do in life. I am learning that it is not supposed to be "easy" indefinitely. It is not some concrete thing you "fix". It is a process that never ends. You get out of...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    I guess I should enjoy this Christmas.

    If I decide to divorce H, next year will be a lonely year with basically just my mom.
    Lann2015 Lann2015 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 24, 2015

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    What To Do...

    I love my husband but I'm not in love with him. We have known each other for 12 years and been married for 8. I'm feeling like he married me just to have someone wait on him. He can't do anything for himself. When I bring something up, he gets really mad. I think he has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 20, 2011

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    Hello EP! This is my first post.

    I'm a working professional, a dad of two kids, a husband for over ten years. I love pets, we've had many. I love music and art, I read a lot of nonfiction. I'm no good at sports but I get out and do some anyway, I like exercise. My wife and I used to share a lot of this...
    PinnedBalloon PinnedBalloon 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 16, 2015

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    How do you know whether to leave your marriage

    or not? I think I know the answer. I just have to do it. I can't stand to be around him. Can't stand him touching me. Can't stand him even talking to me. But I'll be all alone. But honestly I'm all alone now. I don't wanna go out places with him, I barely talk to him.
    Lann2015 Lann2015 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 10

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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 18, 2015

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    Caught My Husband Remotely Spying On Me On My Computer

    About 2 months ago I left my husband of almost 8 years and moved across town.  We agreed that we did both still love each other and would continue to be married and spend time together etc.  For almost our entire marriage I have suspected that he was snooping on my personal...
    Shellywieskamp Shellywieskamp 41-45 23 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    There's just been a disconnect

    that I'm not very confident we can fix.... Not sure how to handle anything!
    laurenb229 laurenb229 26-30, F Aug 18, 2015

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    My Husband Wants A Divorce

    I have been married with my husband for only 10 months now and he wants a divorce. I caught him cheating on me a month ago but decided to start anew and continue with our relationship. We agreed to not look back on what happened so we can start fresh. But before we have agreed on...
    Mountainlove Mountainlove 26-30 204 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    I'm struggling with guilt

    and grief as I question my relationship with my husband. He is a great person but we never really opened up our souls to each other, and now the erotic/romantic part of the relationship is lost, too. We have been getting along well, because we are both civilized people and we've...
    beweirdess beweirdess 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    The Subtle Difference Between Holding A Hand And Chaining A Soul

    After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning And company doesn't mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises, And you begin to...
    aldsjkl aldsjkl 26-30 3 Responses May 27, 2013

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    When I talked to him about getting a divorce,

    he pleaded with me to reconsider. So I've found myself thinking of reasons not to end our marriage and it is really hard. And his attitude and actions pushes me further away. Hell, if he's not willing to try then why should I? We're just prolonging the inevitable.
    KhallMiAutumn KhallMiAutumn 31-35, F 3 Responses May 17, 2015

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    H left for two weeks.

    He was crying when he left saying he does not want this. I feel bad but I am confused. I don't think I would have fallen in love with someone else if I was happy in the marriage. I can't even contact ex AP to let him know. He isn't doing well in the hospital. Advice from...
    Lann2015 Lann2015 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    And then a really bad thing happened to me this

    past weekend and he stood by my side with no judgement. That counts.
    funlecy1 funlecy1 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2014

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    Most of marriages are going up n down

    so far I don't see much up... the solution my come naturally but when..?
    dgddi1 dgddi1 51-55, M 2 Responses Feb 3

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    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 30, 2015

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    I got married when I was 17,

    I was expecting my Frist baby, we been together since I'm 25 now :) going on 26, we have 3 beautiful Daughters now. I believe marriage is not like a fairytale you will have ups and downs, I grow up with my mom and dad I saw a lot off this so I believe is normal. When we start...
    Marialz Marialz 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2015

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    At the Crossroads

    ****** THIS IS AN OLD STORY. WE HAVE DIVORCED.********   So - this morninig I asked hubby to leave.  I want a separation while we go through counselling, and I think that the emotional state of our house is in shambles.  I need to step up and...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 17 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back.give him a try +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers 51-55, F Aug 17, 2015

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    H came home. He has agreed to move to his

    friend's apartment (which his name is on the lease anyway) for a couple weeks. I guess he assumed I would become content again. He said I'm his everything, he doesn't want us to get divorced, doesn't understand what I want, that there isn't anything else out there. No he...
    Lann2015 Lann2015 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Okay... Here It Goes

    So I originally posted in the sexless marriage group when I joined EP. I will update on that here. There are actually a few reasons outside of our sex life as to why our marriage is suffering and I'm posting here. My husband has some wonderful qualities. He is very giving and...
    CheshireGrinz CheshireGrinz 26-30, F 26 Responses May 5, 2011

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    I've been married for 6 1/2 years.

    3 months ago my husband had to confess to cheating because he tested positive for chlamydia. I was devastated. I couldn't believe it. Throughout our 13 year relationship I never thought he would hurt me like this. We've had our ups and downs, like any other couple but nothing...
    CiaraBangBang CiaraBangBang 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 22, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    alicacc11 alicacc11 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2015

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    The Bellydance Analogy

    This story explains how I came to understand and embrace differentiation in my marriage. After I understood this, I no longer felt conflicted about whether to stay or go. I have been a bellydancer for nearly 8 years. It is a huge part of my life, and it brings me an immense...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 25 Responses Jun 13, 2011

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    I just told my H I can't do this anymore.

    We have had several talks but I guess I misunderstood him a couple weeks ago when I suggested he move in with a friend. He said he will do that in August when her lease is up! I can barely handle a day more in this stifling house but I wanted him to move out so I could be on my...
    Lann2015 Lann2015 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I miss how things used to be.

    We used to go out a lot and have fun. But I haven't had fun in years. No interest in going out with him, no interest in intimacy.
    Lann2015 Lann2015 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back. +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers 51-55, F Aug 21, 2015

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    My husband and I can't go without fighting

    for more than a couple weeks. We rushed into the relationship and marriage, getting married on the 1 year anniversary of our first date. I'm bipolar, which is a big part of it, but I believe he is also bipolar and doesn't want to get help for it. I got him to go to the doctor...
    kimpossible86 kimpossible86 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Bad Reason To Stay Married #6

    Loneliness. Singledom is a lonely prospect, particularly if you’ve been married for any length of time. Staying with your partner only because you’d be too lonely on your own is one of the weakest reasons out there for staying in a marriage. Focus on the other relationships...
    Sunshinegoneforever Sunshinegoneforever 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 15, 2013

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    Some Help: I can relate to Most experiences of

    what is written here. I am not fully out of what people are going through here but folks try to sign up to Mort Fertel on facebook and sign up to his free relationship advice that will be delivered to your email. The next one is tuning in to Sid Roth's Its Supernatural- on the...
    Nachisale Nachisale 36-40, F Jan 11

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    cda2331 cda2331 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2015

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    I am married with my husband

    for 6 years now. I didn't know about his temper until i got married. We are an international couple. We met in his country then he flew to my country to marry me and we have been living here ever since. About 4 years of our marriage, at least twice a year he will show his...
    sea135 sea135 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 22, 2015

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    I wonder to myself why am I still in this

    marriage? Why didn't I just let him stay gone when he first left? I find myself so unhappy and always crying myself to bed.
    why35 why35 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    Elimination

    For 14 years i have been married to a man whos mouth and off the wall temper has more than once.... ripped my heart out and left me lifeless. I have tried many time to get rid of him, but he refuses to leave.... i am one heck of a good wife....i work, clean, feed and wait on...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 48 Responses Jun 26, 2010

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    I Miss My Wife.

    Most of the time I live with a woman who used to be funny, kind and wonderful. I think about her all the time and wonder where she went. The lady she has been replaced with seems to forget that I even exist. I remain hopeful but am almost at the end of my rope.
    jmc132 jmc132 41-45, M 17 Responses Feb 9, 2011

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