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I Need to Decide If I'll Stay In My Marriage

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    I hate being married to my husband.

    We have been together for 12 years and married for 2 years.His a cheater a liar and I just found out I was pregant everything is horrible.
    prest03 prest03 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2014

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    I Am Very Curious....

    with the national divorce rate now at 53% the chance that you will get divorced is greater than the chance you will stay married. my parents are divorced. my mom is going through her second as we speak. married men hit on me non stop. i know women and men having affairs...
    LittleLady LittleLady 18-21, F 41 Responses Feb 25, 2008

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    What To Do...

    I love my husband but I'm not in love with him. We have known each other for 12 years and been married for 8. I'm feeling like he married me just to have someone wait on him. He can't do anything for himself. When I bring something up, he gets really mad. I think he has...
    LookingforLove63 LookingforLove63 51-55, F 6 Responses Jun 20, 2011

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    stealthcat stealthcat 61-65, M 1 Response Jul 14, 2014

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    My Husband Wants A Divorce

    I have been married with my husband for only 10 months now and he wants a divorce. I caught him cheating on me a month ago but decided to start anew and continue with our relationship. We agreed to not look back on what happened so we can start fresh. But before we have agreed on...
    Mountainlove Mountainlove 26-30 205 Responses Jun 11, 2013

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    11 Days Of Hellish Self-learning

    It has been 11 days since I've really eaten. I've had a few meals since then, perhaps a small meal once every day or two. It has been very emotionally traumatic for me. During those 11 days I have made several hard realizations about myself. These are not aspects of myself I am...
    accomplice accomplice 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 19, 2011

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    I am getting a divorce.

    The reason I know it's the right thing to do is that it feels right. I don't feel guilty, or indecisive, or wonder if there is anything left for me to do that I haven't done. I can see why it worked and why it failed. I have read ten books, been to two years of relationship...
    aldsjkl aldsjkl 26-30 Jun 30, 2014

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    My husband doesn't respect my family ,

    he hates going out on family dinners , at first it would hurt me so much but now it just ****** me off and I just ignore him , we can't go out anywhere he doesn't like because he'll ruin it by being in a bad mood and staying away from us ,I thought it was just in the beggining...
    cantrix cantrix 22-25, F Mar 17

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    Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

    I have 4 children.. 12, 10, 7 and a 39 year old husband who refuses to grow up! He is an outdoor type of person with numerous hobbies. Camping, fishing, mountain-bike riding, bushwalking, 4 wheel driving, kayaking, playing with his remote controlled cars, making things with his...
    earthboundangel earthboundangel 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 7, 2011

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    Okay... Here It Goes

    So I originally posted in the sexless marriage group when I joined EP. I will update on that here. There are actually a few reasons outside of our sex life as to why our marriage is suffering and I'm posting here. My husband has some wonderful qualities. He is very giving and...
    CheshireGrinz CheshireGrinz 26-30, F 26 Responses May 5, 2011

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    why do I blame my self

    for all the marriage complcations I know Im not easy introverted etc but shes extreme extroverted and you do not consider her violence not giving a sane moment runing around allways in different directions a lot of male friends some to intemate does not give a man a good...
    sirpercival sirpercival 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Caught My Husband Remotely Spying On Me On My Computer

    About 2 months ago I left my husband of almost 8 years and moved across town.  We agreed that we did both still love each other and would continue to be married and spend time together etc.  For almost our entire marriage I have suspected that he was snooping on my personal...
    shellhopp shellhopp 41-45 23 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    Had that gut feeling something was off,

    so I became the CIA and FBI even when I was not at home. Just as I thought my husband was spending a lot of time talking to or about someone and it was not me. After a month of doing this and I had the verbal smoking gun, I sent him a few selected clips of what I had heard...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    oh everything is so painful im

    so ****** up so is she
    sirpercival sirpercival 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Marriage (a Must Read)

    (I'm not married and never have been....But I would like to share something with this group and I hope it helps somebody) _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________ MARRIAGE (unknown author) When I got...
    DeenaMonroe DeenaMonroe 26-30, F 18 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    she said you took you space

    for the weekend now you can stay away im not gonne carry on the same way well I have to remind my self I wasnt kicked out of paradise
    sirpercival sirpercival 46-50, M Apr 11

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    i go back and forth with this bc he's still him.

    he's not going to change. I'm torn about what to do. he's against counseling. i know he loves me, but.... (sigh)
    Platana2100 Platana2100 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    Is It a Marriage?

    I am wondering how I got to this point in my life.  My husband and I have not had sex for 15 years.  I have been having affairs for three.  I don't tell anyone about my private life.  I have been lucky, I have found men I can trust who are in similiar...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 84 Responses Oct 26, 2008

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    I'm 25 and I joined this group 3 years ago.

    I made a post about being unhappy in my marriage over 2 years ago and guess what? I'm STILL miserable! I hate the thought of having to stay with him forever but I'm still so concerned about my son. He is a very sensitive 6-year-old and he will be destroyed if we split. My...
    Lovely0521 Lovely0521 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    I've been married for 6 1/2 years.

    3 months ago my husband had to confess to cheating because he tested positive for chlamydia. I was devastated. I couldn't believe it. Throughout our 13 year relationship I never thought he would hurt me like this. We've had our ups and downs, like any other couple but nothing...
    CiaraBangBang CiaraBangBang 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    Reasons Why I'm Staying

    I wrote a post almost close to a year ago about why I want to leave my marriage. I went on and on and I recieved comments telling me to leave now while I'm still young. Since then, I have deleted the story because I felt a little exposed (I gave too many details haha.) But I'm...
    Lovely0521 Lovely0521 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    The Subtle Difference Between Holding A Hand And Chaining A Soul

    After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning And company doesn't mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises, And you begin to...
    aldsjkl aldsjkl 26-30 3 Responses May 27, 2013

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    At the Crossroads

    ****** THIS IS AN OLD STORY. WE HAVE DIVORCED.********   So - this morninig I asked hubby to leave.  I want a separation while we go through counselling, and I think that the emotional state of our house is in shambles.  I need to step up and...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 17 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    Hi, I just registered

    and this is the first time I am sharing something that is so difficult for me...I came to this forum because I feel I am breaking inside. I am 36, married to what I thought would be the love of my life forever, we are expecting our first baby after 2 years of trying and doing...
    esti1978 esti1978 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    Since I moved out, Hubs has found the strength

    and motivation to do things he "couldn't" do while we were together. I feel so hurt - he wouldn't work a job for ME... Wouldn't take down his mother's awful artwork in our home for ME... Wouldn't be polite or social for ME... Wouldn't let ME stay in our home. Now that I'm...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    When I talked to him about getting a divorce,

    he pleaded with me to reconsider. So I've found myself thinking of reasons not to end our marriage and it is really hard. And his attitude and actions pushes me further away. Hell, if he's not willing to try then why should I? We're just prolonging the inevitable.
    KhallMiAutumn KhallMiAutumn 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My wife and I have been married

    for more than twenty years. Some years ago I felt bored and unloved and fell into an affair with an old flame. Since then I've had several more affairs and numerous sexual encounters with both men and women. Our marital sex life dwindled before I strayed: I don't think I...
    Naughti66 Naughti66 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 15

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    My husband and I split up today,

    we've been together since we were 16, and married for 4.5 years. He's a wonderful man, honest, hard working, and more then caring and thoughtful. He's my best friend. I don't know a life without him. Over the last year or so, I've experienced some things, felt things I never...
    TheLittleDreamer TheLittleDreamer 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    Feeling Guilty Over The Idea Of Leaving

    I have been struggling with the notion of divorcing my wife of 24 yrs for a couple of years now. After some counseling and long talks with the most trusted people in my life, I realize that I will never be happy in this marriage. Although she hates the idea of me leaving, I think...
    Alecberg Alecberg 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    im just going to flow nothing is in my control

    and thers nothing to think about because I cant anf if I do I dont aply
    sirpercival sirpercival 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    All it seems I do lately is think.

    I think mostly of what I want to say to my wife. I run through hours of conversation, what to start with, which points are best to touch on at which points during. I become absolutely confident that I can start the talk, and that I'm ready to hash out "the big ones...
    gator613 gator613 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 22, 2014

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    I've Been Paralyzed In Indecision For Almost Two Years, And Have To Do Something.

    I’m twisted up in knots inside. I have been going through hell for more than a year, and I’ve been putting my wife through hell for that time too. I’ve told her that I am not sure I want to stay married. We’ve been living together in a state of limbo. It’s been a...
    shellofmyself shellofmyself 51-55 11 Responses May 27, 2011

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    You Will Be Called Upon To Expand.

    Choosing to stay and work on your marriage when you are deeply unhappy is one of the hardest things you will do in life. I am learning that it is not supposed to be "easy" indefinitely. It is not some concrete thing you "fix". It is a process that never ends. You get out of...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    When love knocked my door

    and I wasn't ready yet ' For long time ago I promise to my self not gonna fall Inlove with somebody .. Because I know that it will just destroyed me for some reason .. One time come in my life while I am all in the battle of being confused who I am and who I want to be...
    marianlee marianlee 22-25, F Jul 7, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    sarahccaa sarahccaa 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Elimination

    For 14 years i have been married to a man whos mouth and off the wall temper has more than once.... ripped my heart out and left me lifeless. I have tried many time to get rid of him, but he refuses to leave.... i am one heck of a good wife....i work, clean, feed and wait on...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 50 Responses Jun 26, 2010

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    The Bellydance Analogy

    This story explains how I came to understand and embrace differentiation in my marriage. After I understood this, I no longer felt conflicted about whether to stay or go. I have been a bellydancer for nearly 8 years. It is a huge part of my life, and it brings me an immense...
    ModLulu ModLulu 36-40, F 25 Responses Jun 13, 2011

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    So I said to you "What

    if I said I move out and file soon?" And your reply was "the current sign is for me to date others". I said I agreed and I mentally do and I said the logical statements at that time during our chat yesterday afternoon. I was understanding when you said you've been on a few...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M Mar 19

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    I got married when I was 17,

    I was expecting my Frist baby, we been together since I'm 25 now :) going on 26, we have 3 beautiful Daughters now. I believe marriage is not like a fairytale you will have ups and downs, I grow up with my mom and dad I saw a lot off this so I believe is normal. When we start...
    Marialz Marialz 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    He just told me tonight

    that basically I want to talk to him to much, I want to be around him to much, I wasn't sex to much and I'm trying to trap him up in the house. wtf? aren't these all things normal people want. I don't see him that much so I grab the chances when I can. I guess I'm wasting my...
    2isbetterthan1 2isbetterthan1 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    Being Able To Even Consider It Made All The Difference

    For me, for years, I could never contemplate divorce. It simply wasn't an option. I felt that I would be miserable and regret my failed marriage for the rest of my days. Then things changed. I could start to imagine myself happy with someone else. I could actually hope that...
    accomplice accomplice 46-50, M 11 Responses Nov 2, 2010

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    Been Decided :)

    I have come to the conclusion that if you need to "decide" if you are going to stay then you should probably already be gone.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    Bad Reason To Stay Married #6

    Loneliness. Singledom is a lonely prospect, particularly if you’ve been married for any length of time. Staying with your partner only because you’d be too lonely on your own is one of the weakest reasons out there for staying in a marriage. Focus on the other relationships...
    Sunshinegoneforever Sunshinegoneforever 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 15, 2013

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    Never imagined myself posting in this section

    but here goes. So I've been married over 12 years now and to be honest after reading all the stories here, I wouldn't say I have a bad or an abusive marriage, it's just there's no marriage. Living with my husband is like sharing a house with any other friend. I live my life...
    destiny2015 destiny2015 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 22

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    And then a really bad thing happened to me this

    past weekend and he stood by my side with no judgement. That counts.
    funlecy1 funlecy1 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I am 30 years old, on my second marriage.

    I entered this relationship shortly after I was divorced from my first husband. I guess you could say I was done with my first marriage before it was legal, and when I met my current/second husband - I was swept off my feet instantly. He complemented me, made me feel smart...
    MarieM13 MarieM13 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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