I Need to Decide If I'll Stay In My Marriage - Forum & Chat Board | In-laws coming to visit

So my marriage has been in a bad state for a while now, but most people, including his parents, have no idea.  They are wonderful people and I hate the idea of losing them too.  We are really struggling, and according to my sister, it is obvious.  I would love some advice on how to manage through the next five days while they are here, because the last thing I want is for them to see it too.  They visit once a year and I just want to get through it without any issues.  I'm normally very good at this, but I'm obviously not doing as well this time.  I'm so anxious about this stupid visit, which I never am since I really do love my in-laws, because my H and I just ignore each other at this point.  How do you fake it when you resent the other person so much?  When it hurts just to pretend, making you think more about what it all should be like?  I don't know - I'm sure it will be fine, I just haven't had to deal with this before, and I'm not looking forward to it.

I would suggest acting normal and natural. If your inlaws are intuitive they will pick up on the vibe, no matter what.

Keep your chin up

They may just surprise you with being supportive.

There is no point faking it for the sake of their visit, though trying to make light of it and staying calm and pleasant might be helpful. (I only said try!!) You may even get a chance for a little girly heart to heart with M-I-L if you get on well. You could even be honest and confess you are not getting on too well at the moment with their son but would hate it to come between you, and that you value their love and support.

Good luck!