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I Need to Learn to Forgive

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    My Deadbeat Dad

    So my father bailed on my mother when I was two years old and never made an attempt to reconnect with me until I was 10. I went to visit him in London the summer after my 10th birthday and I had a wonderful time. Then he introduced me to some woman and said she was his wife and...
    hisworstnightmare hisworstnightmare 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    Hold Grudges For Way Too Long

    I Hold Grudges Way Too Long And I Hate Doing It Sometimes. I Keep Anger Or Hurt Held Against A Person Even Though I Know That It Is Just Hurting Me. The Ppl I Get Upset At Aren't Wasting Their Time On Me. They Probably Don't Give Me A Second Thought, Here I Am Taking Time Out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 5, 2012

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    Impossible?

    How do you every forgive anything that was so obviously so hurtful...  A time in my life when i was 6yrs old, my father was murdered. How do I forgive the murder? He has shown No remorse what so ever, never ever come clean about what happened, it is such anger...
    redflame redflame 31-35, F Mar 5, 2010

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    Funny Quote

    When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bicycle. Then I realised that the Lord doesn't work that way so I stole one and asked Him to forgive me.Emo Philips
    NeopolitanSkye NeopolitanSkye 36-40, F Feb 29, 2012

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    Can I?

    I am the ultimate grudge holder. I'm not exactly proud of it, but it is true. If someone really hurts me I have a hard time forgiving. Even if they aren't aware of it, it is there, between us. I have learned that how much I love someone is directly related to how long I can...
    autimom autimom 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 18, 2008

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    To Forgive Or Not to Forgive My Mother

    Before I write anything further, I just want to say that I'm sharing this not because I don't know how to forgive. I just don't know if I should. It's so hard to accept that the person you love the most would cause you so much hurt and suffering. I haven't talked to my mother...
    Axo Axo 22-25 1 Response Aug 18, 2008

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    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    My sister and i doesnt like each other, i like to fix our relationship but she doesnt have any respect to me, her big sister. That makes me want to strangle her.... I dont think...
    kaitlinpeige kaitlinpeige 13-15, F Mar 31

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    I've learned forgiveness is possible and makes way for growth and love. Before I go any further I am going to make a disclaimer: this story will be a short novel about my life...
    RedHotCrazyPerson RedHotCrazyPerson 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 6

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    I have had people question me about forgiveness when I say that one major aspect to healing from being hurt is to forgive those who have hurt you. So I hope this will clarify and...
    letscelebratelife letscelebratelife 51-55, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    People make mistakes. Even the best person can mess up. It's okay to be upset, but sometimes losing a friend isn't worth staying angry. Know when to forgive, even when it's hard...
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    I don't believe in forgiveness...at least I don't anymore. I used to be able to forgive people for small or big things, but now there's no such will inside me to forgive anyone...
    WithoutHope00 WithoutHope00 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    We were married almost nine years, I was pregnant with our third child and he cheated. Everything was a lie! Here we are two years later and the scars are still so very real and...
    undecided423 undecided423 31-35, F Mar 29

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    Forgiveness I have done many things in the dark, things I'm not proud of, things that I need to ask forgiveness. But I haven't. I have not looked for forgiveness for my sins, and...
    OneHowlToTheMoon OneHowlToTheMoon 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 11

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    I think lessons are really learned and understood better when you make a mistake and feel its full consequences. If you get away with bad things you learn nothing. If you feel and...
    xSCARx xSCARx 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I don't think I can forgive my husband for the way that he acted when my father got sick and passed away from prostate cancer after a 10 year battle against it. My dad was pretty...
    idk8 idk8 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    Our most fundamental needs are for love,connection,understanding ,support and being valued and appreciated.Ultimately ,we can only get these need filled from within ourselves ,from...
    mishakapoor mishakapoor 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    after me and my boyfriend broke up he still text me via Facebook, asking me to forgive him, but he didn't mention about relationship or something. I already forgot everything he...
    d143girl d143girl 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    I make mistakes and learn from it. I am not perfect. No matter how well you are doing without me, holding a grudge is only going to hold you back from being fully happy. I may not...
    TearfulNights22 TearfulNights22 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Life is a long journey...we meet so many people when we are traveling that...we cannot stop in front of one person and hate him as we have to go far in our journey...you don't need...
    chethaki chethaki 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I believe that ultimately God will judge/forgive sins, but at the same time that there is great value in confessing whatever you have done to another person, not exclusively sins...
    esmeraldream esmeraldream 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    "Since when is forgiveness a better quality than loyalty" I've always been a stubborn individual just like my father and one of the biggest vices I have is being too prideful...
    Cantbelieveit20 Cantbelieveit20 22-25, M Apr 7

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    The choice to forgive is not only the right thing to do, but the strongest thing you can do for yourself. To forgive is to put your own pride aside and be the bigger person... To...
    autumnslove autumnslove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It...
    serachii serachii 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    i always forgive people that hurt me,my mom has this same habit even she forgives people who hurt her i dont know why i have such a soft heart i dont like to take revenge,even if i...
    Roadguy Roadguy 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 15

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    I feel like crying, screaming, swearing, punching, thrashing, sprinting to the other side of the world and back again, I feel hot, I feel desperate.... I feel like I don't know...
    jeweldoggy jeweldoggy 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    if you don't forgive, there's more weight to your shoulders. why carry more trouble than u already have? grudges drain your energy, i don't bother. forgive and move on
    basedgodschild basedgodschild 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    How can I after the days months weeks he hasn't talked to me for or not cared about me... Since I was about 4 I used To see him some weekends he kept saying we are going to do...
    Daisyellenrose Daisyellenrose 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    It is easy for me to forgive others, why is it so hard to forgive myself?
    memyselfandi27 memyselfandi27 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Let me just start off with some background. I have been a Christian girl all my life, my dad left when i was 11 this rlly took a toll on me, i needed my father's love. i needed him...
    Porcelian Porcelian 16-17, F 20 Responses Mar 29

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    My mind is racing with all the things I need to do. There's always something that needs to be done; from school to work, and the worrying about how the bills are going to get paid...
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    If u anyone needs 2 talk about the pain in their life I am here 2 help I've been in pain most of my life but that is what keeps me going u can't let others rule u & take the...
    charlymyrt charlymyrt 56-60, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    If u anyone needs 2 talk about the pain in their life I am here 2 help I've been in pain most of my life but that is what keeps me going u can't let others rule u & take the...
    charlymyrt charlymyrt 56-60, F Apr 4

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    Dear Lord, Family and i are going through hard times. We are so scared. Its so dark tonight. Are expecting the worse. The weather is horrible, so humid. I saw my sisters hugging...
    Donotletmego Donotletmego 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    I need roommate advice. Basically one of my roommates, who was one of my better friends, completely chewed me out and made me feel absolutely horrible for something that isn't even...
    dreamoftomorrow dreamoftomorrow 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    I loved a girl who used to be my colleague. After around one year of time, I secretly married that girl. Just three months passed, I came to know a fact about that girl. She has...
    divykant divykant 26-30, M Mar 26

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    Hey guys... I figured out how to feel better about myself, and be happier and I'd like to share it with you all. (I am aware this might all sound very hippie like...but I'm just...
    xxersabooxx xxersabooxx 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 29

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    Honestly, I think the most learning I could get right now would not come from any kind of book, nor any school or teacher. I've had more than enough advice on how I *should* live...
    shannonymous shannonymous 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    My son's umbilical cord is wrapped around his neck and the only thing that can save him is a lot of s*x to shake him loose but it might not work. I need to do this soon, make love...
    iap1202 iap1202 18-21, F Apr 14

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    I caught my boyfriend on his online profile 3 days after we had a fight. He swears he only reactivated it that day and again the day I confronted him. Also, that he didn't contact...
    lovelanvin lovelanvin 31-35, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I don't think I will ever grow tired of learning or being a student. Of course, eventually I want to receive my university degree and pursue the career I am working towards, but...
    Sapphire14 Sapphire14 22-25, F Mar 25

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    Hi all, thanks for reading i hope you can offer some words of wisdom to a girl who is stuck! I can't tell you where all the time has gone - but in 2007, now 7 years ago a boy I...
    sulkypuss101 sulkypuss101 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I was not always like this. I loved him, I can't ever see him upset and I could never be angry over him, but right now I am. I though he was my best friend and I had fallen for...
    Alveira04 Alveira04 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I feel like the biggest piece of scum on the planet. I was celebrating my friends 20th birthday and made the decision to drive around town drunk. I've driven buzzed before and felt...
    browniesnoops browniesnoops 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    In high school I had bad depression. I had no idea what to do with myself or how i really felt. There were 2 guys. Guy 1: i ended up dating for a couple weeks and i knew it...
    emmysauraus emmysauraus 16-17, F Apr 3

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    All i have to say is if God and Jesus can forgive us all, why can't I when I'm made in their image?
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    No. It does not work like that. You do not forgive because you want people to walk right over you...even though sometimes it could be interpreted that way and they call you a...
    Psychologica Psychologica 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I forgive them for they know not what they do.
    TeKKeeVee TeKKeeVee 61-65, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I forgive easily, but I never forget. I can't hold grudges. I just push everything far away into the back of my mind. Some say it's unhealthy, but I'm happier that way.
    teejayy23 teejayy23 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    If something is left upon someone having significant consequences, then it is likely to stay. About two years ago, an old bully I knew from middle school contacted me on Facebook...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 4 days ago

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    One day I got in a huge fight with my best friend. And ever since the fight, we don't talk anymore. It's sad because I loved her to pieces because she was my best friend; I told...
    HappyMarie7 HappyMarie7 16-17, F 2 days ago

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