I Need to Make Changes and Don't Know Where Or How to Start

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 426 People

    Start Without a Coat

    Its raining outside and I have to go out. I don’t own a coat so I take a chance and go knowing I will get wet. Its only rain, how bad can it be? Stepping outside, I think this is a bad idea, then just as I do the door closes behind me clicking shut and locks. The rain is...
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    2 Responses Jun 6, 2008
    Babypuncher454 Babypuncher454
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 31, 2015

    So my boyfriend is moving out today

    after a rocky year. He's taking back the watch he got me for Christmas. I don't know for sure if i have been emotionally abused but then I must know j have I just feel hurt and confused. We had a rocky relationship from the get go and I should have seen the signs I suppose. On a...
    Melilola Melilola
    26-30, F
    Jan 3

    I Dont Know...

    I feel so disjointed at the moment. I need, seriously need, to get my A into G, to get my resume sorted and get focused on job hunting.  I want a job - honestly, I need something real to fill my days, I need the self-esteem boost that comes with being good at a job, I want...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2009
    ForYouIWillWait ForYouIWillWait
    22-25, F
    Jun 4, 2015

    yeah Sure, I Think Most Peo...

    yeah sure, I think most people are like that.   For example I knew that I needed to change my hair... but I didn't know what color or what style or which hairdresser... another more significant event would have being when I knew that I had to change my attitude to life...
    deleted deleted
    Jun 21, 2008

    Everything Hurts

    How can you change when everything you touch turns to shyt. How can you change when you love someone and you just don't know what to do cause they are not happy anymore. How can you want to be happy when everything around you and everyone around you is like a filter. How can you...
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Apr 10, 2008

    I Think Everyone Has Someth...

    I think everyone has something they want change or know they need to change but like in my case there are things holding me back that I do not know how to get around and in the rest of it do not know where to start. 
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 21, 2008

    For the past year I have needed to make changes

    and haven't done a damn thing. I don't even know where to start. Or maybe I am afraid? I don't know. But something has to give soon. I can't continue this path much longer.
    bethany444 bethany444
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    Key word in my search

    for a group was CHANGE. There were so many choices and all sounded just as good as the other but then right in the middle was this one, which just seems dead on. I not only need to change myself, but my life, and everything in it, well almost everything .. Of course there are...
    starzbound2fall starzbound2fall
    26-30, F
    Apr 25, 2015

    Make Changes......

    Well I must start with me.  If I change my heart(the way I feel), and my mind(the way I think) then my soul will soon follow the changes in time. Change is not painless nor is it pleasant but it is necessary for a more fulfilling life.
    LateNightGuy LateNightGuy
    41-45, M
    17 Responses Jun 21, 2008

    This might be my last job to live my life,

    I've worked for 5 different jobs in 5years, after graduating college. Now I am 27, I've dated 4 different wonderful man in a serious relationship, and i've lost my lover again. He has supported me and forgiven me no matter how immature or annoying I was. Now that I 've lost my...
    27girl 27girl
    26-30, F
    Mar 31, 2015

    how do i get away from a man

    that i love with every ounce of my soul. a man that doesn't deserve any part of me. a man who beats me and cheats and lies and tells me every day he hopes i die. i wasn't raised to put up with this but he has robbed me of all my strength and self worth. i feel so heart broken...
    mfox3579 mfox3579
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Nov 26, 2014

    it's Mostly Emotional, ...

    it's mostly emotional, so it is even harder to know where to start...
    thedreamisover thedreamisover
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 22, 2008

    Reality Vs Unrealistic Expectations

    Once upon a time when I was a bratty little girl I used to sit on my windowseal thinking how when I grow up everything would be amazing and oh so awesomely easy and I'd be able to have everything I ever wanted, A perfect life, a perfect marriage and nothing would ever go wrong...
    xxmeandonlymexx xxmeandonlymexx
    26-30, F
    Nov 18, 2013


    Changes,I need 'em,Trouble is,Don't know where to start,I need so many,It's not funny!
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Nov 16, 2011
    Geegreek11 Geegreek11
    18-21, F
    Jun 19, 2015

    *sigh*....ain't It the Truth.

    I've been rather conflicted about writing here or not, though I feel this way often. Last November  I moved from Kentucky to Pennsylvania to be with my boyfriend of 3+ years. I gave up the best job I ever had and all my loved ones to come be with him. Since moving here, I...
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    2 Responses Apr 7, 2009


     There are so many things I dislike about who I am. I tell myself I'm going to change them and that I'll be much happier when I do. But I have no idea how to go about making these changes. 
    kleisse kleisse
    22-25, F
    Aug 8, 2008

    I divorced the father of my children 4 years

    ago. I've been in a new relationship for the last 10 months and am now becoming aware of how messed up I am. My ex husband was abusive in every way. I thought the rape was the worst thing and would be the hardest to get over but today I realized it is the emotional abuse and...
    RosieAD RosieAD
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 12, 2015

    Changes. I want them.

    Sometimes I feel like I need them. But I don't know where to even start. I can talk myself into it and prepare myself... it's just taking that first step. I hesitate and then just put it off until "tomorrow". Definitely something I need to work on and follow through with.
    NotMyselfHere NotMyselfHere
    18-21, F
    Oct 19, 2015

    Recently Moved to London.&n...

    Recently moved to London.  Find myself far away from my friends, family and support group.  I have always been the type of person who makes new friends very easily, but now I find myself surrounded by people on a daily basis, of such different cultures, that, although...
    McCleo McCleo
    Jun 22, 2008

    How did you find great husband?

    I'm lost, I don't know how to live anymore. I hate myself.
    27girl 27girl
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 31, 2015

    Changes and Decisions, So M...

    Changes and decisions, so many..... i need to change my attitude, direct it towards healing more, taking care of myself, putting myself first, stuff like that. i think i need to grow up too, i need to ring my landlord and doctors but im too scared to do either. im terrified of...
    Tesse Tesse
    18-21, F
    Jun 21, 2008

    Who Cares

    it´s too late to change. I give up.
    Dragonette Dragonette
    41-45, T
    2 Responses Aug 19, 2008

    I've been with my partner now

    for over 15 years, married for 5 years. I do love my wife, but over the years she has become so controlling and has over-ruled my decisions too many times. Not just as a father, but a person also. At first I would back down and agree with her to avoid confrontation, but over the...
    PaulSm68 PaulSm68
    46-50, M
    1 Response Aug 1, 2014
    Sicarium Sicarium
    36-40, M
    Nov 12, 2014

    There are so many things

    that I could change about my life but actually pointing out where the change needs to begin is beyond me. I think at times that I am only 23 and I don't have to have the world figured out or anything. It's just that I wish I knew more about a lot of topics and then maybe I would...
    koldRain koldRain
    22-25, F
    Feb 5
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