I Need to Set Better Boundaries With People

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 103 People

    Whoa Yeah

    I have always been a people-pleaser and a doormat, but you know what? I'm sick of that. I want to start setting better boundaries with people, and letting them see sides of me I've always been afraid to show people- the sides that let them know that I won't put up with bullshit...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2011

    Confessions Of A Boundary-Less Heart

    It is lovely to give someone else space to be themselves when you can see they struggle with that issue but if in doing so you aren't being true to yourself that is a boundary issue. Ugh! I hate relationships - I want him - yes I do. And that is not to say I have to possess or...
    jenvice jenvice
    46-50, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2013

    I Have Learnt The Hard Way

    that I have to be more up front about what I will put up with and what I won't put up with from people... I have tolerated a lot of non-sense from people...out of compassion and confusion but as I am getting older I will stand up to people now and say what I want and don't want...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    Jul 25, 2011

    To Thin

    one of the biggest boundaries i need to learn to set is not spreading myself to thin. I have a habbit of taking care of others before I take care of my self and not only do I suffer but the ones I want to help don't get 100% from me. I know I need to cut back sometime but it is...
    Grits4life Grits4life
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2008

    Some People

    Some people,Go too far,From now on,I'm tightening my boundaries,Had enough,Taking no more crap!
    startinover1 startinover1
    Jun 9, 2012

    Mother In Law And Grandmother In Law

    It seems that my mother in law and gradmother in law just walk all over me. I always do things for them out of the kindness of my husband, but its a never ending thing with them. And then on top of everything else they get mad at me when i say no, so i always change my mind. My...
    MissingYou4527 MissingYou4527
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2010

    Tired of Being a Door Mat For My Son

    I have a grown son who believes he is still attached to me like before he was born.  I have abuse issues from childhood and I don't have a clue what I am supposed to do with him.  He doesn't live with me anymore.  But he 'visits' all the time.  He never asks...
    queenbleu queenbleu
    Aug 20, 2009

    I Finally Said No More

    With a history of childhood abuse, I am an adultĀ  learning to say "no" to crappy relationships. I hadn't had a boyfriend for over twenty years, fromĀ late twenties to late forties, and after two long term relationships in the past nine years, I know why. It's because of the men...
    TotallyMiffed TotallyMiffed
    Oct 3, 2011


    I really need to stand up and set boundaries for people in my life.  Otherwise they will keep taking and taking.  I have to learn to say no and not allow them to run all over me.  A weakness I have to work on.
    tatteredwings tatteredwings
    8 Responses Apr 28, 2009

    Slow Burn... Big Boom!

    Well I can honestly say that I have had enough. I have just come to ground zero I must tell you that this is nothing new... I am often at this point but I rarely stay there).My problem is that I let people in too deep. I don't set boundaries with them soon enough to do much good...
    btrflysfound btrflysfound
    1 Response Aug 25, 2008
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