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I Need to Work On My Self Esteem

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    My self esteem is divided into 2 catagories.  Emotional and Rational.  My emotional side is the one that says, your no good, your not pretty, sexy, smart, good enough.  It is that side I need to tame.  My Logical, rational side will say hold up don't be so...
    mytime mytime 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 6, 2008

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    My low self esteem affects my relationship with

    my bf in a negative way. I try not to show the fact that I have low confidence but he still gets upset at me for it. It also affects my work preformance, I just started a new job and unless I find it in me to be confident I probably won't have much success. It affects every...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    One of the biggest things I need to work on.

    ..smh I just feel like I am never good enough...
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F Aug 5

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    How I Learned To Love Me

    "When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer." Psalm 94:19I am writing this today for everyone reading this who deep down feels less than, who feels like they might not be somehow "eligible" for healing and blessings, who feel like God is there for...
    girl4god girl4god 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2012

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    I Am a Great Person.

    It's always been low since I was bullied at school,but it seems to take more of a dive when I form personal relationships with men or am on my monthly cycle. I view myself in such a negative light and it stops me from enjoying my life like I should do because...
    orangeblossom89 orangeblossom89 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    Or do i.??? Egomaniac ?

    ?? Narcissist??? Or victim??? Or broken??? Egomaniac with an inferiority complex??? Hmmm??? Foid for thought.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    It's a Catch 22

    kind of like I know I am a good person, and I know I am beautiful but I keep playing that tape over and over in my head of all my failure and inadequacies and mistakes.  Then I remember that I am beautiful and strong and resilient and I FORGIVE...
    molecules molecules 26-30 3 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    My self esteem is divided into 2 catagories.  Emotional and Rational.  My emotional side is the one that says, your no good, your not pretty, sexy, smart, good enough.  It is that side I need to tame.  My Logical, rational side will say hold up don't be so...
    mytime mytime 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 6, 2008

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    I've been having some thoughts about this for a few days now, which I might have partly reflected in comments I've made here and there, can't remember... What I've been thinking...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    My self-esteem is like a rock. The higher you bring it up, the harder it comes down .-.
    ButtersTheMerciful ButtersTheMerciful 13-15, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Everyone who is a little bit closer to me knows how low self esteem i have. It is unbelievable actually. There's no part on me that I'm satisfied with. I mean physically. And...
    anrim654 anrim654 18-21, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Lack of confidence and low self esteem...I've had low self esteem and confidence as long as i can remember... I think i was born with it...I've never believed in myself and don't...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    This all started when I was in middle school because I had and still struggle with my weight because back in middle school I was pretty much overweight my entire life. In middle...
    Jordanbeautiful Jordanbeautiful 18-21, F Aug 18

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    I have discovered that this is my biggest flaw and challenge in life. Low self-esteem truly affects me and causes me both physical and mental distress that is unbearable much of...
    misscoffee misscoffee 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've been invited to apply for a very prestigious position at work and it would be a huge opportunity personally and professionally. The fact that my name is on an incredibly short...
    thelasttoknow thelasttoknow 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I have been thinking about receiving psychotherapy for months now regarding my emotional instability and attitudes toward myself and my environment. I constantly feel disconnected...
    pflz91 pflz91 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    My self esteem is non-existent. I feel so horrible about myself almost all the time. (I'm bipolar and I sometimes have an inflated self esteem during manic episodes) but other than...
    becxboo becxboo 16-17, F Aug 6

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    I was bullied a lot in middle school, probably because of the way I dressed. It really took a toll on my self esteem. Now I doubt everything I do and I hate that. I'm working on it...
    lauren1ofakind lauren1ofakind 18-21, F 21 hrs ago

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by...
    JohnBobMac JohnBobMac 16-17, T 1 Response Aug 12

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    Ive been battling self-conscious and low self esteem for sometime now.. Hav u ever experienced asking ur seatmate or friends for answers for exams or seatwork? And soon finds out...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I always feel like I have to compare myself to other people. It gets under my skin all the time. It eats away at me everyday. It kills me and I have no remedy to get rid of it or...
    thesorrybumblebee thesorrybumblebee 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    every time I trust someone it blows up in my face. I trust fairly easily tho. plus I have such low self esteem I think I'm fat.... ugly.... a mistake..... hurt everyone I meet
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    All my life I’ve been harboring the thought “I’m not good enough.” At school, if I didn’t score the maximum grade, I wasn’t good enough. If I didn’t pick up each and...
    TryingToGetIt TryingToGetIt 26-30 1 Response Aug 9

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    All my life, I've felt like I'm second-rate, that the people around me (friends, family) are more interesting, more intelligent, more attractive, funnier, stronger, kinder, and I'm...
    JHeit JHeit 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 16

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    I don't need to live my life waiting or trying to be "good enough" because I am already "good enough" right now, right now I am perfect and I will always be perfect for me. -self...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    With all the people that have hurt me in my life i don't trust anyone. I don't need to feel any worse than what already do and i don't need to be falsely happy again.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M 5 days ago

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    I'm working towards it very, very slowly. x_x
    KA4689 KA4689 22-25, M Aug 11

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    I've been bullied since I was 11, kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have...
    neliza neliza 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    I've been married for 5 years now and I need out because I feel BORED and I have lost attraction for my husband... He is always broke and never has money to help out..always asking...
    voguetouch voguetouch 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I view myself as having low worth so I automatically think people are judging me as low in worth, weird, freakish, complex,?so much stuff. I wish I had more self confidence.
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have had them since I was very young and I been hurt so many times. It's hard for me to trust almost anyone. So don't take it personal it's just the way that I am. The low self...
    wolfy14 wolfy14 16-17, F 18 hrs ago

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    Some day... I will put on an outfit. The first one I pick. And feel beautiful. Some day I won't have a heap of clothes laying out. Every single one attractive. It's not the...
    Tihtil Tihtil 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 17

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing. I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to...
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3

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    :( I try to talk to girls but I'm afraid to
    Djcovance Djcovance 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    I've been bullied ever since I've started school. I've either been too different, too fat or too ugly. Not only was I teased in school, I was also teased at home. I know now that...
    MacabreCannibal MacabreCannibal 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I wish I was confident and outgoing. Probably never gonna happen.
    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    How can someone ever love me if I don't like myself sometimes. I have my good days and my bad days. Honestly today feels like one of those bad days. Sometimes though I come to the...
    Savone52798 Savone52798 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    And why rarely changes. EP Link
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 3

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    I try to pretend like I don't hate myself 90% of the time, but then I remember something I did...and then I remember, I do.
    purposebuilt purposebuilt 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 5

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    I hate being skinny. I wish I was thicker. It's much more attractive. I hate having fast metabolism I want I gain weight. I don't think I will ever love myself.
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    I think it was a combination of everything being picked on, marginalized, bullied relentlessly, sexual harassment,not saying anything for so long. feeling like no one accepted me...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I really have no worth in this world. All motivation has been completely destroyed. I am the laziest piece of garbage anyone will ever meet. I think I would be doing the world a...
    DifferentOutsider DifferentOutsider 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 9

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    I am 27. A month ago I left a five year relationship due to the treatment I received. The first year was okay, then the lying started. He lied about talking to other women, he lied...
    tippbrown198623 tippbrown198623 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Yep. Wish. Often. No codependancy. More independent. Less caring. Less worry. Less analyzing. More sleep. More good luck. But wishing rarely produces...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 11

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    When people tell me I'm pretty and I don't agree with them its not because I like the attention or because I don't believe them, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some...
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    It's so hard to feel good about yourself when you spend over an hour trying to convince someone that they are beautiful then the second you send a pic they leave. I guess I...
    makaiajane makaiajane 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Unfortunately this is something I am still having to process, and it's taking a long, long time, no-matter how much I struggle to keep the past in the past. Ah well. I'll keep at...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I feel like no one will ever like me.
    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 17