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I Needed A Dad Growing Up

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    I always felt unloved

    and unimportant to my father. Maybe if he was around I wouldn't be gay. He could have taught me different. I really feel like I missed out on all of the dad and son stuff. Like baseball and fishing and all of that. I used to hug big bundles of pillows and pretend it was my dad.
    algorythm algorythm 16-17, M Apr 11

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